Break Away From Negative Thoughts & Experience Life | Kip Hollister

Break Away From Negative Thoughts & Experience Life | Kip Hollister | TEDxBeaconStreet

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7 жыл бұрын

CEO and Mindfulness Expert Kip Hollister spoke at TEDxBeaconStreet on how to be more focused, fulfilled, and successful in both work and life by bringing your vision to fruition. Using her over 30 year history in the staffing industry and her passion for mindfulness in achieving one’s full potential, Kip leads listeners on a journey to remove negative thoughts and find happiness. She discusses the roadblock in her life that led her to start the Hollister Institute and start living a more mindful life.
Kip Hollister began Hollister Staffing in 1988 because she realized that helping the right people and the right companies come together was not about transactions - it was about relationships. Since then, as the leader of a prominent women-owned, full service recruiting firm in New England, Kip has fulfilled the promise she made when opening the company’s doors, continuing to strive to create successful relationships between great companies and the people who anchor their work. Kip serves on the Workforce Investment Board and the Workforce Development Committee of Massachusetts. She sits on the Board of The Alliance for Business Leadership and on City Year’s, Seventh Generation Board.
In her time leading Hollister, Kip has won numerous awards, including the 2012 Ernst & Young Entrepreneur of the Year Award as a National Finalist, the YMCA Training Inc. award as Employer of the Year, and one of the Small Business of the Year Award winners by the Greater Boston Chamber of Commerce.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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@kimberlyhoward4032 3 жыл бұрын

Loving yourself is happiness, nothing on the outside will change that. That's why it doesnt matter what you have or how successful you are, people will always feel who they truly are on the inside. Self reflection is the true path to happiness. I want to travel feel retired and enjoy life without tons of money in the bank. What will make me happy is knowing that I alone made that happen. What I dont want is to work my life away, so money can sit in my bank account while I'm tired, overworked and have a false sense of happiness or success. ❤❤❤

@ravikabra2800 3 жыл бұрын

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@ravikabra2800 3 жыл бұрын

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@ravikabra2800 3 жыл бұрын

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@ravikabra2800 3 жыл бұрын

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@Kenny-wz1dj 2 жыл бұрын

I like your comment

@tamara3782 Жыл бұрын

One of my students told me that when he discussed his anxieties with someone close to him, like his wife or a close friend, then he found that the moment he started opening up to them, the anxiety decreased-even before he received any advice or support. Togetherness definitely decreases anxiety. There is a saying in the wisdom of Kabbalah that “a sorrow shared is a sorrow halved,” i.e. when we share a sensation, we divide it up, and in turn it becomes more manageable. Since it is quite easy to see how sharing our experiences lessens our negative feelings, the question is why do we not use this ability more? Why is it so hard for us to share our fears and anxieties with others? We are indeed afraid of opening our hearts, letting everyone see that we have certain fears and anxieties. That is, in addition to whatever fears and anxieties we hold within, we usually have additional anxieties about sharing them with others, that it might cause others to perceive us as weak. Since society in general values stronger, smarter, wealthier and fitter individuals, opening up our anxieties to such a society makes us vulnerable to exploitation. We thus need to seek a social environment that would not exploit us for opening up, but would rather give us a sense of faith and confidence that it can help us cope with any negative feelings. A social setting that can guarantee faith and confidence in its members is one that actively draws itself to the upper good and benevolent force-the force of love, bestowal and connection. It is this very same force that awakens negative feelings in us, whether they be fears, anxieties or several other painful sensations, in order for us to draw closer to that force, and we do so by drawing closer to each other. If we wish to connect with the upper force and let its perfect quality of love, bestowal and connection fill our lives with a sensation of faith and confidence, then we need to emulate such a quality toward other people-giving them a sense of faith and confidence, and for them to do the same toward us. By wanting to positively connect with others, we then start awakening the positive force dwelling in nature into the connections we create, and we then feel a new sense of faith and confidence wash away any anxieties that we might be holding within.

@igorshekhtman7720 6 жыл бұрын

i am grateful that people like she exist. They help us to understand that we are not alone

@donnawoodford6641 5 жыл бұрын

Igor Shekhtman Like her, there are several others that let us know we are insecure humans. Most of them communicate that concept nicely.

@Roblox_Lover_12345 3 жыл бұрын

@@donnawoodford6641 But how do you quiet and disprove the negative thoughts? Identify what you are passionate about. I agree. I know about the insecurities, but there’s no real proof the beliefs aren’t true, and no roadmap to improve.

@danielmoore4024 3 жыл бұрын

@@Roblox_Lover_12345 "Thoughts become perception, perception becomes reality." I've witnessed myself people believe their thoughts they perceive and deny their physical senses. Here's what someone said to me; "Sorry Daniel Moore that your morals don't line up with the morals of (academy) anymore." The man had the perception he has a moral academy that he believes his academy opposing obedience to laws, rules and regulations is a moral academy. He believes his thought, "I have a good academy" over seeing his students break laws, rules and regulations. Some people believe their thoughts over what their physical senses are saying, so if someone's physical senses are telling them they can succeed but their thoughts are saying they can't, most people will believe their thoughts instead of reality.

@Roblox_Lover_12345 2 жыл бұрын

@@danielmoore4024 so how does one correct the thoughts? Especially if you so strongly believe you’ll fail (like my issue with fitness)?

@danielmoore4024 2 жыл бұрын

@@Roblox_Lover_12345 You correct your thoughts by believing reality more than your thoughts, it all starts as observance. I actually believe it's possible what people see is actually an outward projection of their own thought, they see what they think they see and not what actually is there. Just think about it, how can someone see the moment if they're not even in the moment?

@marialov3s 3 жыл бұрын

Self reflect, realign with passion, and focus on goal (remove distractions). Thank you for sharing your experience. 🙏🏽

@ganbatte1260 Жыл бұрын

I did all you said now. But i have pessimistic behavior. I feel sad about myself. I quit too much in my life. Now i got emplyoed by a new company, and i want to quit very soon because i feel incapable. :(

@marialov3s Жыл бұрын

@@ganbatte1260 I'm sorry you feel negatively about yourself. That sounds really tough. I don't know who you are or the things you've gone through but I do wish you find better ways to cope with your current thought processes. Because I know every human being is different, in the way we interpret things, the way we react, and/or the decisions we choose to make, I don't have the perfect words for you. What I can do is suggest things that have the potential to help you. You could try seeing a therapist for long term treatment to help you with your negative self view. You could try journaling about your negative and positive feelings/thoughts. Try talking to yourself in the mirror as if the person talking to you (reflection) loves you and has only kind words to say. And lastly, remember why you choose to apply for the job you have and the fact that you did get it. You are new to your job, it's okay to ask questions, you are still learning. Remember that everyone learns at different speeds and by distinct methods (visually, auditory, reading, etc .) I've learned that in order to change a negative mindset, one has to train the brain to think positive. For every negative thought, reply to yourself with a positive one even if you don't believe. Keep practicing days, weeks, months, years, and you'll find that the mind is a powerful thing and you can train it to change. Keep working at it even if it's one moment at a time... sometimes that's all one can give. I hope something within my suggestions helps and I wish you a better life moving forward 🙂

@ganbatte1260 Жыл бұрын

@@marialov3s thanks for your info. Others also have told me to list my negative & positive emotion. Seems like its the only way to have better understanding and counter my pessimistic. I hve fear phobia. I fear being mocked by my boss, even my boss is a super humble gentle kind heart man. Its just my negative thinkinng, im surrounded by it. I will try to do my best. Its like im having 23 hour if negative thoughts, and inly 1 hour of positive thoughts, its been like that everyday

@marialov3s Жыл бұрын

@@ganbatte1260 i highly recommend you work with a therapist.

@donnawoodford6641 5 жыл бұрын

I am always interested in the struggles and how someone overcame them. Sometimes people have to endure naysayers, so the trick is to honor yourself. How many worksites provide a meditation room for their employees, and why not, when timeout would be so useful for business, health, and relationships. We need more innovative thought leaders like this. I'm with her on this one.

@Filip_eF 3 жыл бұрын

you can see that some of audience is suffering inside with the problems she is talking about. Hope we'll all go through it and we'll start loving ourselves

@karmenjane1257 3 жыл бұрын

This was exactly what I needed. I am going through this in my life now.

@sandhyadesulu7980 2 жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤ All the best

@pesthlm 5 жыл бұрын

2019 now and wherever I go, I see people in the street staring into their phones. In cars, on the subway, on cafes, I even see couples who are out together and have their headphones on. It's sad, actually very sad - it's not so strange that the world looks as it does today. Soon we do not even have to think for ourselves.

@ronaldcaliva5004 3 жыл бұрын

They should limit their time on their gadgets and take time for thelmselves.

@kiptomkin8549 3 жыл бұрын

Truly, it does make the "WORLD OF DIFFERENCE". So well put & so VERY APPRECIATED.

@mariamkinen8036 5 жыл бұрын

I would not be the humble perfection of a person . Unless I had shaken or taken a negative look at life. I was by exception blessed with plenty in rebounds after my unconventional birth history. I thank God. In quiet. I am blessed. N in great gratitude . I return that to you.

@adventurecoalition3690 Жыл бұрын

Great story, very relatable. That “Negative chatter” can be strong at times. That “passion & purpose” is what keeps one going and continues to change. Wish more employers were like you 👍 Thx for sharing your story

@StephanOnisick 5 жыл бұрын

I too had problems with video synchronization--but she is worth the phase variance. Good Talk! Motivating!

@user-oo8jz3pd3b Жыл бұрын

Kip, thank you for sharing your story. I cannot tell you how incredibly helpful your words are to me.

@cherryRedStilettos 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I needed this right now :)

@NadiaNasir 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Ms. Kip Hollister for sharing ur story and advice.. I wish u happiness and wonderful life with many blessing 🙏💙 thank you

@automationsolution 6 жыл бұрын

This is real. This is great!

@owentomos2306 4 жыл бұрын

The moral to this great talk and others like it is not to believe every thought which enters your mind.

@natalisha_lisha 5 жыл бұрын

I like this woman . She really has inner beautiful world 🙏🏼

@DarkMelodies-hv9wf 4 жыл бұрын

Наталья Мазур so true. She mastered it

@clhunt15 5 жыл бұрын

It's amazing to see how many people are so focused on a quick fix answer that they completely missed the insight of this woman's story. She didn't talk about herself, folks. She told her story. And she told it in a way so others can understand what she did and exactly how it helped her. Her advice on how to let go of negative thoughts and live life is obvious to me. What is in your ears that is blocking the message from getting to you?

@spottydog4477 5 жыл бұрын

A cheap instant fix story that's been spun a hundred different ways for money

@80sObsess 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you @clhunt15 I find it so disheartening that people are somehow turning her story into something negative.

@Roblox_Lover_12345 3 жыл бұрын

I didn’t see how her story is applicable to others. Meditate and find your passion . . . How? Most are well down a career path with dependents. Not so easy to identify and follow a passion.

@MrsValSyharath 3 ай бұрын

Love This message. The insight, optimism and evidence makes me hopeful that we can be a part of the solution.

@karenmills8999 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you this was powerful ❤️

@humanearthling4661 5 жыл бұрын

When one feels good about oneself, one will trust their emotional and intellectual capacities to know and understand how the world works to render them effective in their communications and relatedness with others. . .A real mouthful. But a little explanation is required here. As it turns out, most people base their good feelings about their faculties on how popular their opinions are. And, as it turns out, popular opinions are conditioned in us through 24/7 Major media efforts. Anyone who has an original ieea or thought or opinion, is more likely to be viewed as someone who has unorthodox ideas that are labeled somewhere on the range of ' trouble maker' for bringing up the issue in the first place and sheer idiocy in broaching the question..... I know, because when ever I asked a question of any of my teachers, what I got was "don't start _ _ _ _ _ _" even though I was sincere and truly interested in issues like Foundations, politics, and the many contradictions in the narrative I had caught; and other issues I raised throughout my school years beginning with third grade. My parents had to yank me out of mid third grade because I could not stop crying when the nun told her class to bow their heads in prayer for my soul, for simply asking a question about a contradiction I'd noticed in the catechism from the prior day to this lesson today. In my youthful naievet'e I thought God would smite me dead for questioning the WORD. I thank God still today, for providing me parents who believed I had a right to ask questions. I thank God today for having a mind that has always been used to learn things I did not know before my questions. I thank God for having the strength to veer from the crowd when I discerned that the direction of the crowd was not going where I wished to go no matter that the path was marked "to success".

@doctorjodi 5 жыл бұрын

I love how you love the world and want to give it to others! It made me commit to what I am committed to: daily quiet time to keep limiting beliefs in check.

@Enrico_Fusai_Counselor 5 жыл бұрын

At 8:30 put your phone down/look somewhere else and just enjoy her speaking. Sync problem solved 😉

@RashidKhan-fi8nk 4 жыл бұрын

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@brendanfinnie8233 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. Your message is simple but beautiful. Please continue to share experiences with us Kip!

@pesthlm 5 жыл бұрын

Often the simple IS the most genial and most beautiful :-)

@sanju2181 4 жыл бұрын

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@tatiamardaleishvili8151 Жыл бұрын

It's so enriching experience listening to her ☺️♥️

@candykandy 3 жыл бұрын

I gave up a good paying job that was toxic just to do something unpredictable and low pay and I’ve never been more at peace. I still have my anxiety but now I’m able to process and heal, rather than continue to hurt myself. Meditation is amazing but it’s not just enough to be mindful and I think that’s what she emphasized here - you have to turn inward, process your emotions and experiences AND make the changes to heal yourself.

@kadelu1137 2 жыл бұрын

She seems like a genuinely lovely person

@kiptomkin8549 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely BRILLIANT! Thank you. XXX

@scottjohnsonproductions5338 5 жыл бұрын

Planning on sharing this with my drug and alcohol class that I lead.

@yookhuahin 6 жыл бұрын

At first I thought I did something wrong or KZfaq glitched because the sound didn’t match so I checked the comments to see if anyone else had this problem

@Rusya-P 4 жыл бұрын

missed some words a few times I think

@aidenfaherty8996 4 жыл бұрын

Honestly very impactful

@alnoorosman6136 5 жыл бұрын

So great video I mean it is more inspiring for all

@lila-yw2gn 5 жыл бұрын

We'll fix soon the things that were broken when the right time comes. Im just trying to prepare myself for you and for that.

@lila-yw2gn 5 жыл бұрын

What i meant by preparing myself is about knowing you better

@quraysha1 6 жыл бұрын

What an amazing talk why is there only 2 comments.

@rudraom9 5 жыл бұрын

God bless u take care

@GoCanucks2011 Жыл бұрын

The brain possesses plasticity, but it is not plastic. Rather, plasticity refers to the brain's malleability, which is defined as being "easily influenced, trained, or controlled." Neuro refers to neurons, the nerve cells that are the building blocks of the brain and nervous system. Thus, neuroplasticity allows nerve cells to change or adjust. Neuroplasticity (also known as brain plasticity) is the brain's ability to change and adapt as a result of experience.

@globalcat 2 жыл бұрын

Maybe an issue with recording but this is the first Ted Talk I've ever seen that's been edited part way in.

@samiasalim8322 4 жыл бұрын

Agrophobia i had was worse to me even i dont want to remember my pass i cry if i remember my fear

@monithhegde5605 4 жыл бұрын

Did anyone notice the lag between the video and audio (ex: 11:00 min to 11:30 min)

@digitalteachersuganda Жыл бұрын

i love to hear this

@samiasalim8322 4 жыл бұрын

I cant concentrate in anything fear fear fearbut hamdullilah when i went to hospital n gave me medication i excersise by going out alone am afraid unless i accompanied by someone whom i choose not anyone

@simplybuyer1 4 жыл бұрын

What was your fear?

@ronaldcaliva5004 3 жыл бұрын

Its normal for a person to have negative thoughts,and i think it depends on people's economic status. If you havent got money or running out of it that could lead to depression.

@muhammadlatif1389 3 жыл бұрын

mind blowing. meditation always work. unfortunately we dont do it.

@jazreelangulo3796 2 жыл бұрын

Anh hát bằng cả trái tim bảo sao mà cứ ngọt lịm như vậy. Bài nào cũng cảm xúc luôn

@berylartan4894 5 жыл бұрын

I like the talk😀

@nanditakumari7530 4 жыл бұрын

Wow bahut masttt hai I really like it so much 💓💓💓🤗

@EmmaMarch 5 жыл бұрын

People are so rude. She's alright. -_- found her helpful ! Near the end she sums it all up

@danahicks9226 3 жыл бұрын

Good stuff I ll share with my mental health clients

@simplyredislandgirl 4 жыл бұрын

Interesting talk!

@juliarhodes4590 5 жыл бұрын

I found this talk very helpful to me in my current situation.

@sandhyadesulu7980 2 жыл бұрын

That's so good❤❤❤❤❤

@remonhossny7067 6 жыл бұрын

GREAT

@coachrenee6835 4 жыл бұрын

You are such a beautiful person. Thanks for sharing.

@UsmanYousafOfficial 6 жыл бұрын

audio level is really low ... :S

@baharehghobadi9235 4 жыл бұрын

I dont feel good with myself too.☹

@sofi15 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing video

@peteradaev7481 5 жыл бұрын

I wish I could meditate.

@jjsunshine 5 жыл бұрын

Better title: A woman meditates regularly and her life is better; YMMV

@chiraagshah269 4 жыл бұрын

Lol. You've saved me 11mins. PS I meditate, but just don't fancy watching another video about it atm 😄

@xiwei-huang 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe it's not just about meditation. She mentioned the need to fix yourself somehow through meditation. You can fix yourself and let yourself focus through other ways as well, like writing, working out, calligraphy.. Meditation is just one of the many ways to fix yourself.

@jeylful 3 жыл бұрын

@@chiraagshah269 There are people worth listening to, and some that don't. Your choice if you rather give your 11min to someone else than this meaningful message.

@guelo757 3 жыл бұрын

@@jeylful whaaat?! Nooooo LOL... I rather give my time to someone else, but we didn't. Now, I get to comment for having taken up my time. How else is she going to know she is a quack if anyone who disagreed stayed quiet? Where did you get that reasoning from any how? That's quacky too.🙂

@danielmoore4024 3 жыл бұрын

@@guelo757 Thoughts become perception, perception becomes reality. The majority of people believe their thoughts over their physical senses. You're thoughts can tell you the opposite to your physical senses, then you believe either your thoughts, or your physical senses.

@roiss.sanjaya4031 3 жыл бұрын

I like this channel..

@whostolehonno 7 жыл бұрын

Audio mismatches video around 830ish

@anie887 4 жыл бұрын

All I see are SOLO cups about to fall apart

@georgeikejiri9475 3 жыл бұрын

Bravo

@dishathakur7605 6 жыл бұрын

Wow! This is my story!!

@jibbbanamana4729 5 жыл бұрын

This video is faulty and the audio jumps out after half way. Just incase there is something you can do about it because it's really helpful. Have a good day. 🤗

@elbenji 3 жыл бұрын

Anyone have a good video recommendation as an intro to meditation?

@jerryoram136 2 жыл бұрын

I had a female police officer show interest in me she could have anyone but chose me .I didn't follow through as I'm known for. I took a job offer in Bermuda so much for the relationship. I don't know why I do things. Negativity was the reason. I hate myself for not making a good relationship for having confidence for not speaking up.

@littlethings8973 6 жыл бұрын

You are really nice 😊😊

@09070605uty 2 жыл бұрын

It is hard NOT to complain, but I will try.

@katnorris6258 4 жыл бұрын

I want to hear but the sound is so low compared to the other videos.

@nidac9420 4 жыл бұрын

I will try but right now my son is a pain in my a...

@learnandgrowrich1899 2 жыл бұрын

How to self reflect first? i am meditating for so many years but still I couldn't find some peace or remove negativities, sometime I meditate for an hour per day, but still I couldn't make it, I am distracted by my own mind so much, if anyone have an answer, please reply me

@g4nked 4 жыл бұрын

So this is where Lewis Litt gets LIT UP from

@acharya-karthikeya 4 жыл бұрын

After a while the sync between the voice and video is missing.

@muddadasiva6696 Жыл бұрын

Super

@wellbodisalone Жыл бұрын

One way to cultivate happy thoughts is by engaging in activities that bring you joy. Find something that makes you feel happy and fulfilled. Some activities you can try are painting, playing a sport, or dancing.

@milessuco2917 4 жыл бұрын

😍

@UAX619 3 жыл бұрын

This is one of the best TEDx but the editing was so off! Man..

@groovyhoovy613 3 жыл бұрын

Towards the end her voice is not in sync with the video!

@SaraheffinQ 4 жыл бұрын

You have to fail your way to success. If you are not ok with failing, then you can't succeed

@simonnikodemus6986 2 жыл бұрын

Accuracy 💯

@eddylopez76133 5 жыл бұрын

Someone link or name a meditation video. I wanna find my confidence too

@Changeworld408 5 жыл бұрын

Marisa peer "i am enough", it can do wonders if you let it in

@calroach1 4 жыл бұрын

10% Happier by Dan Harris. Great introduction to meditation that changed my life.

@stellafeldst2089 6 жыл бұрын

Try stuck in a never ending desert sand tempest

@vibeverse15 3 жыл бұрын

Hey! I noticed one thing in the video look at her lips she's not talking. It's a background voice. Observe her expression

@xxrs2009 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's not in sync, however upload it did something wrong. Great content though

@Alexis_005 2 жыл бұрын

My negative thoughts started the minute I got sick, and they all involved dying

@wesleyterry6662 6 жыл бұрын

Video quality 1/10. Video content 10/10.

@donnawoodford6641 5 жыл бұрын

Wesley Terry I wasn't looking at the video, but the score I give to content is 9/10. Not bad.

@yesyes-bc9ul 4 жыл бұрын

I had to checked the comments the sound didn't much so

@Hellohello-vp5jk 5 жыл бұрын

Sorry didn’t get it what she was talking about!!!?

@K4R3N 4 жыл бұрын

Mediation, block out negative thoughts/energy

@mariadelourdesaniessanchez9731 Жыл бұрын

Iam be crying

@skylin737 4 жыл бұрын

please help me to get out of this negative thoughts.

@DarkMelodies-hv9wf 4 жыл бұрын

akash premnathv only u can!!

@ronaldcaliva5004 3 жыл бұрын

Just keep in mind what's going on right now will soon pass everything in this world is temporary nothing permanent so why bother urself chin up live ur life to the fullest.

@1patiwack6 Жыл бұрын

Kip Hollister said "Lit" first.

@albertochavez4494 5 жыл бұрын

Meditation and self reflection it's not the same thing, tho. She missed the HOW. This Ted talk is more of a subtle advertisement to look up for her company? LOL. At least motivated me to meditate again.

@JKVow 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah I had the same, I was immediately thinking, OEH a company with a meditation room, that sounds cool! :')

@wellbeing7607 5 жыл бұрын

Meditating to be more productive in someone else's business is not really the road to personal fulfilment..we have to appreciate ourselves first,rather than basing happiness on pie charts,graphs.

@lorinalucas5323 4 жыл бұрын

Her idea to introduce meditation in her company is a wonderful idea. At least she took the initiative to do it, Meditation is always diving deep into yourself not into the company's pie chart. I appreciate her idea and bringing awareness to the people. Every company should have this idea imposed too since some companies do have rest room with TV or exercise equipment for their employees but having a mediation room would be absolutely wonderful gift to the employees.