When mental illness enters the family | Dr. Lloyd Sederer | TEDxAlbany

  Рет қаралды 180,438

TEDx Talks

TEDx Talks

9 жыл бұрын

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. What must families know if they have a loved one with a mental illness? In his talk, Dr. Lloyd Sederer discusses the four things we all must know to help those who may be struggling around us.
Lloyd I. Sederer, M.D., is Medical Director of the New York State Office of Mental Health (OMH), the nation’s largest state mental health system. He provides medical leadership for a $3.6 billion/year mental health system which annually serves over 700,000 people and includes 24 hospitals, 90 clinics, two research institutes, and community services throughout a state of ~ 19 million people.
Dr. Sederer is an Adjunct Professor at the Columbia/Mailman School of Public Health.
Previously, Dr. Sederer served as the Executive Deputy Commissioner for Mental Hygiene Services in NYC, the City’s “chief psychiatrist.” He also has been Medical Director and Executive Vice President of McLean Hospital in Belmont, MA, a Harvard teaching hospital, and Director of the Division of Clinical Services for the American Psychiatric Association.
In 2013, Dr. Sederer was given the Irma Bland Award for Excellence in Teaching Residents by the American Psychiatric Association, which in 2009 recognized him as the Psychiatric Administrator of the Year. He also has been awarded a Scholar-in-Residence grant by the Rockefeller Foundation and an Exemplary Psychiatrist award from the National Alliance on Mental Illness. He has published seven books for professional audiences and two books for lay audiences, as well as over 400 articles in medical journals and non-medical publications including TheAtlantic.com, The New York Times/The International Herald Tribune, The Wall Street Journal, WashingtonPost.com, Commonweal Magazine, and Psychology Today. He is Medical Editor for Mental Health for the Huffington Post where ~ 200 his posts and videos have appeared.
In 2013, Dr. Sederer published The Family Guide to Mental Health Care (Foreword by Glenn Close), for families of people with mental illness. He also has co-authored, with Jay Neugeboren and Michael Friedman, The Diagnostic Manual of Mishegas (The DMOM), a parody on the DSM.
Dr. Sederer appears regularly on radio and television. His website is www.askdrlloyd.com.
About TEDx, x = independently organized event In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

Пікірлер: 324
@giancarlofranco1991
@giancarlofranco1991 7 жыл бұрын
I have a brother who suffers from severe bi polar, schizophrenia and other mental illnesses. It hurts me to my core that my family and myself can't really do anything about it. It's almost as if he's on drugs but he's not on drugs. It's really sad and depressing. If anyone else out there is going through this I feel for you and my heart it with you and your loved one(s). We need to find a solution to these problems. It's as if I'm trying to cope with a death that hasn't happened yet. I just miss my bro. Love you cheeks. :,(
@lookatthatkidd
@lookatthatkidd 7 жыл бұрын
giancarlo franco I'm going trough the exact same thing.. I'm loosing it and it hurts not knowing what to do to help
@giancarlofranco1991
@giancarlofranco1991 7 жыл бұрын
Carmen Vargas learn to have patience. That is all you can do. Never give up on your loved one. Do lots and lots of research. Try to go to as many seminars as you can and educate yourself on how to deal with someone who suffers from mental health. Look up NAMI and other mental health organizations. Good luck, and never give up.
@lucid345
@lucid345 7 жыл бұрын
Carmen Vargas me too. it's heart wrenching
@kassalahorse5914
@kassalahorse5914 7 жыл бұрын
giancarlo franco I also have said that my son's mental issues are like i have to deal with a death of the person I knew and raised, but he is still alive. Hard, very hard. My heart is breaking.
@divah1901
@divah1901 6 жыл бұрын
Your not alone
@wejpasadena1
@wejpasadena1 6 ай бұрын
The toughest thing is when the family member does not think they have a problem and actively resists efforts to help. It’s hard to know what to do.
@walterbenjamin1386
@walterbenjamin1386 18 күн бұрын
Exactly
@Darkstalker212
@Darkstalker212 5 жыл бұрын
Dealing with my mother and brother. They've schizophrenia and it's driving me nuts. I did everything I possibly could. But, I'm getting tired..been dealing with them for 5-6 years.
@pamelapollock2774
@pamelapollock2774 5 жыл бұрын
It's hard
@lilacfuzz7530
@lilacfuzz7530 4 жыл бұрын
What would make the situation a bit more bearable? What support do you need? Reach out - talking to someone who understands like a counsellor can be freeing. Good luck to you.
@thenpc5527
@thenpc5527 4 жыл бұрын
Keep it up dude, me too in 10 years it was hard
@selftaughtartist1025
@selftaughtartist1025 3 жыл бұрын
Same here dear 😟
@PakhtunBae
@PakhtunBae 3 жыл бұрын
I am done
@annikasch8227
@annikasch8227 4 жыл бұрын
I don't know who needs to read this, but I love you, you are strong and not alone in this fight. Get the help you need and think positively we are going to get over this together . I love you You are a badass ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@Star-vg7ix
@Star-vg7ix 4 жыл бұрын
God loves you too!! You are VERY valuable
@The-Beaten-Saint
@The-Beaten-Saint 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you. 🙏🏻
@destroyer20248
@destroyer20248 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@michaelfleeman453
@michaelfleeman453 5 ай бұрын
I appreciate what you said, but I'm really a hopeless case. My family has left me on the Streets for thirty because I have a middle illness
@RobertMGordonPhD
@RobertMGordonPhD 9 жыл бұрын
Dr. Sederer condensed in only 15 minutes a lot of pragmatic information about how to deal with a mentally ill family member. Most families do not know what to do and this is a great service to them. Pass this around!
@theglasshouseproject2920
@theglasshouseproject2920 6 жыл бұрын
Hey Robert, it's true, the families are totally left in the dark in so many ways. I have been there first hand. I've started an advocacy channel for families and loved ones to find community and support! Don't take the journey alone, there is hope!
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
Robert...can u help me???im alone ,have noone to take care f me,can u???im vv upset😭😭😭😭😭
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
@@theglasshouseproject2920 can u plzz..plz..plzzzz take me there,i need true help to recover,im all alone,help me😭😭😭😭😭
@ryanulrich2147
@ryanulrich2147 4 жыл бұрын
These TEDx talks about dealing with mental illness in families have helped me so much. After 10 years of dealing with a family member with a very specific type of psychosis , I realized that I did most everything wrong. While that makes me feel bad, hearing these talks makes me feel that I'm not alone in my feelings of failure because many other families have done the same.
@rubibhowmick6098
@rubibhowmick6098 2 жыл бұрын
What you did wrong??
@patg555
@patg555 Жыл бұрын
You're certainly not alone. I feel your pain. I'm reminded daily how we ruined our sons life. Going on 13 years of freaking with this
@nerdscientist7427
@nerdscientist7427 Жыл бұрын
@@patg555 i can deeply understand your pain
@valerieprice1745
@valerieprice1745 8 ай бұрын
What is the right thing? There's no way to know if doing everything right could have changed anything.
@lilianetv1482
@lilianetv1482 2 жыл бұрын
Mental health destroyed my beautiful family. Had to let my husband go. Had to choose me abd our daughter. It hurts me everyday. He was the sweetest person I have ever met. It was difficult let him go. I could not help him and I did know what he could do to me and our daughter once he was not himself. The saddest thing is that I resented him about it sometimes while he really could not help it. Praying for all going through this 🙏
@kj-my7se
@kj-my7se 2 жыл бұрын
No one in their right mind would fall in love with and marry someone who is mentally ill and not without a doctors permission. Common sense would say to marry someone who is healthy and a member of society.
@rrodriguez8877
@rrodriguez8877 Жыл бұрын
I am in this with one foot out the door. I feel exactly how you felt, grief, bitterness, resentment,hurt, loss, numb. Confused. Thank you for sharing.
@denisehernandez2035
@denisehernandez2035 7 ай бұрын
Where did he go live after you ended the relationship?
@76Titleist
@76Titleist 2 жыл бұрын
I'm attending the FBI National Academy in Quantico, VA right now while simultaneously attempting to assist a brother who has had a complete psychotic break after he recovered from COVID-19. My elderly mother is left to deal with his psychosis alone. I decided to focus one of my research projects on effective communication with a mentally ill family member. I have found this Ted talk extremely helpful. Thank you Dr.
@RMalai
@RMalai Жыл бұрын
I am worried when I am gone who will take care of my son. My wife will be like your mom one day, while taking care of her own illness. Will his younger brother has to be like you? 🥲. You are a savior for your family. God bless you.
@loveone4087
@loveone4087 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this Post. My entire family suffers mental illness addictions and for years I've fought all of them. Now I'm seeking to become better for myself and I give all of my family members to God. I pray without ceasing. I'm so tired of this fight. I am not ok but I'm clean I want help so I can help my family and others I love and care about in hopes of someday helping my community It all stems from our childhood. Thank you. ❣️🙏
@Bigbluebus2003
@Bigbluebus2003 6 жыл бұрын
I am a Ted Talk junkie and this is the most helpful talk I have ever watched!
@theglasshouseproject2920
@theglasshouseproject2920 6 жыл бұрын
Hey Robin, I have recently started a channel dedicated to the caretakers and loved ones of the mentally imbalanced, and if you felt this one to be helpful, I think you may find hope in my channel, The Glass House Project. Find community, support, and compassion.
@57sp
@57sp 4 жыл бұрын
I couldn't stop listening to this professional. Awesome, great job. Incredible to have people like this in the world. Thank you
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
Help plzzzzzz😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@carolgrayce1238
@carolgrayce1238 4 жыл бұрын
This was really needed for my family and I. Thanks so much.
@amyphx
@amyphx 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this heartfelt, obviously experience backed message.
@igspal
@igspal 9 жыл бұрын
THEE BEST VIDEO RE DEALING W/A LOVED ONE'S MENTAL ILLNESS!
@devorahbayer3433
@devorahbayer3433 8 жыл бұрын
Thanks for talking about the thinking
@merichamarais9539
@merichamarais9539 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you. You gave me hope as a parent.
@durrere1973
@durrere1973 3 жыл бұрын
thank you for info and encouragement
@pelicancovebeach2873
@pelicancovebeach2873 3 жыл бұрын
This was an excellent help. Thank you.
@Sort_it_by_sonia
@Sort_it_by_sonia Жыл бұрын
Thank you, sometimes family loses hope this type of talk gives hope to many
@phyllisgene4165
@phyllisgene4165 2 жыл бұрын
This was very helpful advice.Thank You.
@Hellohello-vp5jk
@Hellohello-vp5jk 5 жыл бұрын
Very useful information. Thank you.
@l.gonzalez9488
@l.gonzalez9488 6 ай бұрын
Aw... He's wonderful!! Great advice!! 😮 Thank you... God bless!!!
@luiz7837
@luiz7837 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this comment section feel like a community. Thank you❤
@hienienguyen6766
@hienienguyen6766 4 жыл бұрын
Yeah I really hope that my mom recovers from her schizoaffective disorder it is an exhausting process. I have been my mom's caregiver. it's one of the hardest challenges!! i just want her to be happy with her life
@qqqhv8777
@qqqhv8777 4 жыл бұрын
I also have a schizophrenic mom, it's the worst. I can't really help her much cause she doesn't believe that she has it.
@hienienguyen6766
@hienienguyen6766 4 жыл бұрын
@@qqqhv8777 yes I know what you mean it is the hardest battle
@ghoul4748
@ghoul4748 4 жыл бұрын
There is no recovery, only degradation.
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
@@hienienguyen6766 . True . This is a battle,im through the same
@karenh5239
@karenh5239 5 ай бұрын
Spot on.Realistic and practical advice
@eileenmorefield5981
@eileenmorefield5981 9 жыл бұрын
Well said. Thanks for your message.
@PeaceNLiebe
@PeaceNLiebe 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this talk. I needed this guidance in helping my mother. It's really hard and now I won't go after the marathon alone. This man is amazing!
@theglasshouseproject2920
@theglasshouseproject2920 6 жыл бұрын
Hi Caroline, I have walked a pretty dark journey with being a caretaker to my mother with a deep mental imbalance, and I know how alone and scary it can be. I have created a channel that gives support, guidance, and community. There is hope, and things will get better!
@carolbrock5798
@carolbrock5798 5 жыл бұрын
I too have experienced voices in my ears and thoughts that are not mine. please listen to my story on KZfaq at Hearing Voices: Real Help and Understanding. The Lord helped me in this battle and can help anyone else who will believe God. praying for you all, Carol
@buddhaneosiddhananda8499
@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 2 жыл бұрын
You'll find that the families are more distressed than the person with the so called "illness"...
@samblue8904
@samblue8904 Жыл бұрын
Yea...im going thru it too. Its ruff dealing with her. Im only dealing with it because of the kids. Dont no how much longer ill b able to withstand the verbal abuse and shouting matches 😔
@TheBjabeytalial
@TheBjabeytalial 11 ай бұрын
Sometimes.
@aidasark3771
@aidasark3771 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@DaoNguyen-vp7ki
@DaoNguyen-vp7ki 2 жыл бұрын
on my watchlist for later. seems relevant and important.
@medicenrana
@medicenrana 3 жыл бұрын
Thank u for this!
@abhavarma
@abhavarma 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@BarbaraRicciiwilllisten
@BarbaraRicciiwilllisten 9 жыл бұрын
This is a valuable , practical video. Many families will benefit from his advice. I am grateful that Dr. Sederer is such a passionate mental health advocate.
@theglasshouseproject2920
@theglasshouseproject2920 6 жыл бұрын
Barbara, The Glass House Project is a new channel and community for those struggling to deal with loved ones with a mental imbalance. Find support!
@frik3744
@frik3744 6 жыл бұрын
The healty system it's not there for us. Peoples that need longest therapy the most often have the least money to go to the therapiste.
@jewelsdonovan376
@jewelsdonovan376 5 жыл бұрын
A lot of the places only really give you 6 months also before they “ graduate “ you from their program.
@janisripple754
@janisripple754 4 жыл бұрын
frik Stigma for many illnesses, Addiction being one, hard to get help if the shame is to great.
@bettyodom5813
@bettyodom5813 9 жыл бұрын
Sad that your parents don't support you .I have been told to love and keep loving
@shamakuma1967
@shamakuma1967 5 жыл бұрын
Depression sounds like a very benign condition. But I can tell you it's very difficult to motivate to even get up from your bed, go out to fetch your food and take care of your personal needs including visiting doctors for your regular check ups. The other social challenges are even more daunting like climbing a steep mountain. I am left wondering what exactly am I doing on this planet? Struggling to keep myself alive? The purpose of life has been robbed by this illness.
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
100%True.. U stole my heart words...im also left wondering the purpose f my tortured life with no hope,no goal,finding no way to get relief...I dream,wish that u were here in Pakistan with me😭😭😭😭😭😭😞
@lisainatree
@lisainatree 2 жыл бұрын
This talk is a wonderful hopeful message. I would like to learn more about using leverage with a MI loved one. If anyone has resources that specify exactly how to do this please share!
@meeksochic
@meeksochic 2 жыл бұрын
Thank youuuuu!!!!!
@cyclistArsenal
@cyclistArsenal 2 жыл бұрын
Life is hard but a family member with mental illness without any cure is the hardest to live with. Unable to do anything to save them from this trauma 🥲. I just want to end my life but than who else is there to take care of family. It's just there to be suffered 😓
@Aleksandra.DaGreat
@Aleksandra.DaGreat Жыл бұрын
I totally understand what you are feeling but, please don’t lose hope! I have a younger sister and my heart breaks everyday for her and for my mom. I lost my father 2 years ago. I was a drug addict for 5 years. I’m clean for 2 years now and it was the hardest thing to overcome! Don’t stop wanting to live! God loves you very much! Never forget it. Life is a gift! I just got into a fight with my sister last night. I still worry about her but, I’m not desperate anymore! Go ahead and pray and I will pray for your faith to have no borders.
@cyclistArsenal
@cyclistArsenal Жыл бұрын
@@Aleksandra.DaGreat very true. Now the things are much better. I think we should always keep on trying. Results may or may not follow but there is no other way. Keep on pushing everyday can be difficult initially. Hope you too get what you want. Life is too short to worry about negative things. Happy new year!!
@danaturgal4941
@danaturgal4941 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. Sederer for your calm demeanor and practical advice to help guide and support families and people affected by mental illness. I have known about NAMI since 2005 and it is very supportive to families. Finding out about you via U tube is fantastic though! Kinda like a shot of vitamin B as I continue in the marathon of advocacy. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I can't wait to read your books!
@JaniceTrades777
@JaniceTrades777 9 жыл бұрын
thank u... im a sufferer throughout past 6 years real bad, no medical help except e.r.s... and my family disowned me once i started crying alot, after then 3 years of suicide attepts, went without food shelter, clothing, medical care, lots of pain. Family couldve helped much. Im about to finally get disability and have started rebuilding my life alone.
@JohnRoganT
@JohnRoganT 9 жыл бұрын
good for you! you deserve it!
@JaniceTrades777
@JaniceTrades777 8 жыл бұрын
:) thanks John....and I've had undiagnosed bipolar disorder, I'm now 38 and was just diagnosed last year which illness is bad enough to disable me. I have nightmares every night, just really hard to live through stuff. So, thank you for your kind words.
@JohnRoganT
@JohnRoganT 8 жыл бұрын
good luck :)
@JohnRoganT
@JohnRoganT 8 жыл бұрын
***** why what?
@talaveraman3222
@talaveraman3222 8 жыл бұрын
Why was the disability so important that it had to be mentioned? Rebuilding alone is this best thing for you, because you need to be in a controlled environment. your therapists and counselors need access to you on a daily basis. Do you have a plan that when you're well enough, you'll apologize to every person whose lives you damaged? Don't say you don't need to. You know there's a string of people, family and friends, who need to know you are genuinely sorry for all the hell you caused them. Wait until you're well enough to make it count, wait until you really mean it, and wait until they're seeing you getting well enough to become a functioning member of society again. You'll have a lot of skepticism to face, but if you're genuinely willing to eat humble pie, in time you will gain their acceptance of your apologies, which you DO owe them. You may never regain their trust or friendship, though. Expect that. Once you destroy trust in people, they're harder to regain than a walled fort. Best wishes on your full recovery.
@MaxSharma1989
@MaxSharma1989 5 жыл бұрын
My father has also recently started showing signs of severe mental illness. Thank you for posting this video. If there is anyone out there who dealing with a parent with the same condition as mine, feel free to get in touch with me. Maybe together we can solve this problem. Two heads are always better than one.
@scoutcreter5908
@scoutcreter5908 5 жыл бұрын
MAYANK SHARMA all of my my family members deal with mental illness except me and i really want to talk to someone who is dealing with the same
@taylorellis4336
@taylorellis4336 5 жыл бұрын
My mom has it trying to educate myself on how to deal with this
@valeriesanders9833
@valeriesanders9833 4 жыл бұрын
Research a Dr.Hoffer
@bexw120
@bexw120 4 жыл бұрын
I rarely ask for help. I only do when I'm really really struggling. I went to my sister and she told me she just wants to be happy. I guess I dont. I have hallucinations a lot and I guess I'm a lost cause. She would never smile or talk to me friendly in a room unless my mom was there. She grey stoned me. I finally got the message.
@kj-my7se
@kj-my7se 2 жыл бұрын
It's important to break the cycle. Don't repeat the pattern. Education helps.
@user-bg1gm7ik1w
@user-bg1gm7ik1w 4 жыл бұрын
What about dealing with a mother that refuses that she's ill in the first place? she denies having any problem yet ruining the lives of her own family in every way. A mother who's an emotional and physical abuser of her children, and i'm 27 speaking. You're talking about taking care of mentally ill loved ones, understanding them and supporting them but what about us? the people suffering because of those dear ones in our life, what about our mental health with all the negativity going on, on a daily basis caused by that family member? We've suffered with our mother ever since we were conscious, our dad too ever since he knew her. you ask people not to get into fights and not show any negative reaction. This is exactly what hurts, expecting us to be angels with mentally ill loved ones no matter how severe their condition is and how hurtful they are towards their family next to refusing to even admit there is anything wrong with them. Our mother is a disaster to our family in ways we can't begin to describe and we don't know what to do it's heartbreaking.
@noorihasan5519
@noorihasan5519 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it's very difficult to control your own temper and sanity and it hurts alot
@medhachaubal3459
@medhachaubal3459 3 жыл бұрын
I am sorry to hear, I know it can be very frustrating and one feels helpless managing a patient at home. I do not know where you are located but have you tried out support groups for caregivers?Support groups for caregivers are available in various countries for caregivers to patients of long drawn illnesses like various psychiatric disorders.p
@MargaritaMagdalena
@MargaritaMagdalena 2 жыл бұрын
Maybe you can talk to your GP about it?
@baroncarmen1
@baroncarmen1 2 жыл бұрын
Yes! The “normal” ones become punching bags while the mentally ill has to be tolerated, ignored, excused, supported, loved…
@lorddshqipe3016
@lorddshqipe3016 6 жыл бұрын
I need help. My brother has had anger problems his whole life, but the past 5-6 months have been horrible and it’s only getting worse. He’s 15, smells bad , stays LOCKED in his room , cant properly communicate , etc.. but tonight it was the worst. My older brother snapped at him and it ended with everything destroyed and my little brother bleeding out bad. He’s in the hospital right now it looked like a horror movie. He was laughing the whole time. It is killing my entire family and him, my parents won’t sleep at night exhausted from working all day
@Doriesep6622
@Doriesep6622 6 жыл бұрын
I don't know what to say. Your family is at the beginning of a long journey. Try to get your parents to do some research so that they will be able to weigh the long term effects of the drugs the doctors will give him. So sorry.
@randysnewbiebluesrockguita7782
@randysnewbiebluesrockguita7782 Ай бұрын
I myself suffer from Bi Polar 2 disorder and clinical depression along with PTSD and I am on disability because of it and my spinal issues. I have noticed in the last 10 years my mental issues have gotten a lot worse in the fact that I am depressed more often than not. I'm not suicidal or feel like EVER harming another person but I am frustrated because it has broken me off from the only family I have left and it's not because they don't love me or me loving them back it's because they just can't grasp the problems I have and when I say things they consider out of line they take them personally when I some of the time don't even remember saying it or when I said it, it came out the totally wrong way that I intended it to. I have 1 brother and he lives near me somewhat and I am a cancer patient also I just finished my last round of chemo and am awaiting results of my cat scan's. My parents are very old 98 and 94 and they live down south and left a VERY sizable amount of gift's to my brother and I and when I was in surgery for my colon cancer he went down to see them, got them to make it so everything is left to him with the promise to " Take care" of me. I was getting half before this. He used my mental and physical health problems to get them to remove me because he didn't want issues with the court should I pass away before him. I don't see or hear anything, I'm not a crazy person. I am just as normal as anyone else except I have been through some very bad trauma in my earlier life resulting in my mental issues. My finances are fine I owe no one except for medical bill's and I own my home and I don't use illegal drug's nor am I addicted to any substance period. People with mental issues are easy targets for greedy people and I know that my last years are going to be spent in a court room trying to get back what was mine. What I SORELY Deserved.
@dianedunn5589
@dianedunn5589 8 жыл бұрын
I know where it comes from--feeling unloved and then your family starts treating you as a second class citizen because of course your mentally ill which is a downward spirial into oblivion
@bexw120
@bexw120 4 жыл бұрын
Totally true
@bexw120
@bexw120 4 жыл бұрын
Drs and therapists and case workers often do too
@momsspaghetti2246
@momsspaghetti2246 2 жыл бұрын
So true... Some people prefer to abandon a family member even if it increases the risk of them killing themselves, instead of questioning their own behaviour towards them, which is also a reason for them getting sick in the first place.
@Natalia-ht6hp
@Natalia-ht6hp 6 жыл бұрын
My sister is like a ticking timebomb when she gets angry or depressed about something she gets really aggressive and I always have anxiety when she's around even if she's doing ok. I don't know what to do because it really affects me but I don't want it to. Any extra tips pleaseee?
@unicornlover4344
@unicornlover4344 6 жыл бұрын
Natalia Pineda you should try to put her in sports because when I was younger I was an EXTREMELY angry child, I did hurt people and I exploded with rage over the little things. So my parents put me in a fighting sport (boxing) and I used my anger as my fuel and now I'm doing great! I'm more sociable and happier. I don't explode over the littlest of things and hurt loved ones, but that's only my suggestion
@recoveringfromdomesticabus8633
@recoveringfromdomesticabus8633 6 жыл бұрын
Natalia Pineda my brother punches, kicks, chokes me as he is mentally ill and has knocked me into a mild concussion and broke my nose in 2005
@aliyahgarcia1435
@aliyahgarcia1435 5 жыл бұрын
Natalia Pineda same thing w me :(
@jewelsdonovan376
@jewelsdonovan376 5 жыл бұрын
Claudia Vlahović what if she’s not able to stay away? It’s not always so simple as “ stay away “. I know me, I have mental illness. I have more than one type. One of the things that I personally need is for family not to “ remind” me about my mental health issues. Listen to your sister, if you can, don’t say stuff like you only feel this way because of your mental “ illness “. Most of the time when I need to say something my family members aren’t gonna like I would be more willing to hear solutions. If my mental “ illness “ is not brought poorly into the conversation. If you look on my Facebook profile. My bio says that I am stronger than my “ special abilities “. I also don’t want my “ special abilities “ used against me.
@addhoc256
@addhoc256 5 жыл бұрын
That not good. We should not have to wrap our lives around someone elses. Your mental health is just as important as hers. Is it posdible to say something like: you scare me when you do this or that. Dont take it out on me. Be very specific about a practical example. Because if you say: your whole presence is ruining the atmosphere: she might think you dont want her to live there at all. So something like: " i love you this and that but when you do so and so (one particular not too general example) it makes me nervous etc. I cannot solve your problem. Maybe i can distract you with fun things but i cannot go into your anxiety mood".
@teresahopemiller1008
@teresahopemiller1008 6 жыл бұрын
It is easy to fall through the cracks of the system. Family support can be limited. My family pays for my meds. But the most effective thing is cognitive therapy for me. Major Depression and anxiety and a sight impairment .I haven't seen anyone work with a patient who has both you rather get mental health services or services for the blind My conditions synergize. Try that one folks. Suggestions?
@s.g3452
@s.g3452 2 жыл бұрын
Yes families should be allowed to give medical help and care to patients. How and why will a mental patient give permission to his family for his treatment.
@riccardomariotto9321
@riccardomariotto9321 Жыл бұрын
This may be true in a lot of cases, but when it comes to narcisistic parents there's nothing to do except going away and never coming back even once
@valerieprice1745
@valerieprice1745 8 ай бұрын
It sounds like your poor parents have an ungrateful, entitled, selfish kid, in other words, you sound like a narcissist.
@dagored41
@dagored41 Жыл бұрын
Going through this 2017 I feel done. Not much support where I live.
@mommamia4630
@mommamia4630 5 жыл бұрын
What to do when our loved one with mental illness is in denial about taking medication?
@petrafied
@petrafied 4 жыл бұрын
Check out Dr Xavier Amador's videos.
@marinesreccy6452
@marinesreccy6452 3 жыл бұрын
They're all in denial that their behavior is very wrong, immoral, and self sabotaging. They literally don't care. It's like they live in their own world with different rules and standards. It is absolutely sick.
@koyle.j
@koyle.j Жыл бұрын
@@marinesreccy6452 wrong? Immoral? But It's not their fault. People with psychotic conditions don't think they have a problem. Schizophrenia is a very good example of this. My dad has been schizophrenic for 9 years now and till date refuses to believe that something's wrong with him. But we give him the meds (it was very hard at first) and he trusts us and just takes it now. He's obviously feeling a good change inside but refuses to acknowledge it.
@drdoolittles6145
@drdoolittles6145 2 жыл бұрын
Have you got any information on narcissistic abuse or psychopathy, psychopaths and sociopaths the ones who cause most of our problems? The ones who are allowed to walk free when psychiatrists deny all our abuse!?
@Bobo411
@Bobo411 8 жыл бұрын
My brother has an undiagnosed severe mental illness - something along the lines of schizophrenia. He is enabled by my father, though, so I don't see him getting help. I am scared what will happen when my father is gone.
@nadjiguemarful
@nadjiguemarful 8 жыл бұрын
step in bro, try to speak to your father and explain how u feel.. not to be intrusive. i wish u the best
@theglasshouseproject2920
@theglasshouseproject2920 6 жыл бұрын
I struggled for a long time with my mother in the a very similar way. You should seek help from any reliable health care source, and be persistent. Do not isolate yourself, you must take time for self care!! so important. Find community in the channel I have created for the loved ones and care takers of the mentally imbalanced. You are not alone, there is hope!
@recoveringfromdomesticabus8633
@recoveringfromdomesticabus8633 6 жыл бұрын
Bobo411 my brother is diagnosed but has been off meds for almost eighteen months and two bad beatings, kickings and chokings one which resulted in my receiving a very mild concussion
@mabeltasimeyie7315
@mabeltasimeyie7315 5 жыл бұрын
Hello Bobo . I am Mabel from Cameroon but I live in cologne Germany. My husband is suffering with something similar to your brothers case. His mother enaes him big time. I am really afraid for him when she's gone too.
@bettylandia1
@bettylandia1 4 жыл бұрын
I am going through the same exact situation :(
@pooryapercini4194
@pooryapercini4194 5 жыл бұрын
well my familys killing me and i dono what to do. i feel like if i leave them and never come back theyll be destroyed but if i stay im getting destroyed. and suicides not an option.
@AndyBuxbun
@AndyBuxbun Жыл бұрын
Was violently attacked by my brother while he was in a psychosis after suggesting he take medication.
@zabf8732
@zabf8732 Жыл бұрын
Your not alone.
@golden.fire.princess9653
@golden.fire.princess9653 3 жыл бұрын
My family refused to acknowledge I am mentally ill as it would destroy their head canon of the family name and tried to hurt me out of it lol so I have to find help alone
@dianedunn5589
@dianedunn5589 8 жыл бұрын
what loved one? you mean the person you ignored? that one that's screaming why don't you love me? why don't you care? your more conserned about how I look in public with you that my heart or soul? the one that went crying to their room months ago and you only now noticed?
@rosearabian8295
@rosearabian8295 6 жыл бұрын
Exactly me as well.
@amorzindavida9152
@amorzindavida9152 4 жыл бұрын
Hope you are well
@momsspaghetti2246
@momsspaghetti2246 2 жыл бұрын
So true... There are reasons for someone to get mentally ill and toxic social contacts are mostly a big part of it.
@devendrakatkar9006
@devendrakatkar9006 5 жыл бұрын
I am from India ,I have 2 mentally ill people my sister and a mother ,I gave them medicine from past 5 years but there is no sign of improvement . Sometimes I get frustrated from them now I think I have no option to just berdsht them
@ramonamontenegro6722
@ramonamontenegro6722 4 жыл бұрын
I isolated myself I lived with my husband and my family I didn't understand health issues I was having...after seeing a specialist I was told I've had anemia for 5 years and my doctors didn't tell me! I wasn't eating good for 4 years so I was very tired and could barely fuction I bacame a daily user of meth to get my day going keep me awake so my family never supported me emotionally, financially, spiritually so when they told me right before I went in for surgery That I had to move out they wanted nothing to do with me because I was smoking meth!! This was January 2019 its June 2019 and Im homeless trying to heal and gain my health sonI can live......family is not important to me but my health my mental health is
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
God bless all homeless as this world has no meaning in such case..😭😭😭...Hope pray to c better Real world will be after Death
@SimplyASweetHeart
@SimplyASweetHeart 4 жыл бұрын
Can u please help me to help my boyfriend out of the blue he started acting different saying he hears people and their watching him I been with him for years and never seen this before I'm scared I don't know what he will do next he's so afraid of what's around him nd he was so brave at first always wanting to protect others , always keeping up with his hygiene and looks now he seems not to care like he wants to be cannot , how could this happen out the blue and so suddenly?? I just don't understand I want to help so bad his mother just ignores it and doesn't say anything I can't sleep my stomach hurts because I'm so worried about him ...who do I go to for him? Who do I take him to talk to? Please help me he's 27 years old never showed any signs of mental illness but I see something is way off and I can tell he just keeps trying to make me feel like he's ok but I know he's not I can't function without knowing he's not ok I need someones help I need to know how to talk to him I feel so bad I hope I didn't do anything to make this happen.. we wasn't even aguring or anything when this happened we were very fine just relaxing , he used to hug and love me so much now he feels so far away and my heart is hurt so much it's breaking into pieces...😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭
@clintbrill2317
@clintbrill2317 Ай бұрын
HIPPA has destroyed my family and my life. My wife (now my X) refuses help for her bazaar mental illness and I can’t help her without her PERMISSION!!😢
@dianedunn5589
@dianedunn5589 8 жыл бұрын
duh see how it is see how you say they feel worthless? humans need love this is a scientific fact
@keith8762
@keith8762 2 жыл бұрын
How to tell my wife's family that this is happening to my wife there sister, we became homless a part is both of outs depression,they fight a scream and yell her ,they don't understand and my wife brought up for the first time in our long life ,GIVING !!!! HELP !!!
@mandyporras07
@mandyporras07 6 жыл бұрын
Where was this two months ago. My husband is in jail now. Things got so bad. Now he’s looking at time I believe. I had to make sure my daughter and I were safe. It’s really sad.
@dianedunn5589
@dianedunn5589 8 жыл бұрын
this brain activity you see is actually the brain shutting down
@violettweeter3681
@violettweeter3681 7 жыл бұрын
Diane Dunn
@majlinda2020
@majlinda2020 2 жыл бұрын
I think deppresion made me stronger
@alottoflove3617
@alottoflove3617 Жыл бұрын
My mom has schizophrenia. I would wake up as a little girl and she would stare at me and say I’m not her daughter etc. I don’t know how to help because she doesn’t want to speak to a therapist etc. My brother was living with her and he was bipolar. Unfortunately, he committed suicide and I believe trying to care for her and himself was too much for him. 😢 How is someone able to support a parent with mental illness while making their mental health a priority.
@patg555
@patg555 Жыл бұрын
He described my son to a T. He feel hopeless, nobody will help us
@iamDarrennn
@iamDarrennn 4 жыл бұрын
what do you mean when you say bend the rules?
@francinebrakling9947
@francinebrakling9947 4 жыл бұрын
Please open this video for contribution. I´d love to translate it to portuguese.
@Evernia6181
@Evernia6181 5 жыл бұрын
HIPPA is a stranglehold: killed the iconic family doctor. My advocacy fo my ailing loved one goes endlessly unheard. Doctors are a box-n-ship lot.
@sabrina4920
@sabrina4920 4 жыл бұрын
For most of some them it,s a business prescribing the meds .
@janisripple754
@janisripple754 4 жыл бұрын
I think hippa law needs amending.
@angelarich8455
@angelarich8455 3 жыл бұрын
I became a nurse before HIPPA and it's a crock of baloney- who wants to stop family from helping anyone in medical treatment? Why have they made the law?
@s.g3452
@s.g3452 2 жыл бұрын
True and the family suffers most if there is a mental patient. Medical business is making things complicated and they are behind such laws.
@vreytee
@vreytee 2 жыл бұрын
Listening and leverage both didn't work and my brother just refuses to go see a counselor. What do we do?
@sarojsheth5460
@sarojsheth5460 2 жыл бұрын
My daughter has the same issue as Giancarlo. I have not been able to beat Hippa law. I feel laws are made not in favor of mentally ill people. Dr.Ted Hippa Laws need to be reformed for the Mentally ill. We have stopped living a long time ago.
@MHobbs43
@MHobbs43 2 жыл бұрын
Therapists just call it "complaining" when one talks about what they see their spouse doing. It's a sad situation when a loved one is trying to get help in living with an un-diagnosed mentally ill person. Therapists can not help these people, they are simple minded people, in most situations. Journaling what you see if pertinent, and will save your own life.
@kj-my7se
@kj-my7se 2 жыл бұрын
Complaining never works. I agree. Actions speak louder than words.
@MHobbs43
@MHobbs43 2 жыл бұрын
@@kj-my7se Actually, what I meant was that; when first dealing with mental illness and not knowing at all what is going on, all you can do is share the problems that you see, which can be called "complaining", but it takes a skilled therapist to see the situation and actually help. some just want to teach communication skills, thinking that is the problem. That doesn't do anything when dealing with a mentally ill person.
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
Request all to help me...im suffering through this v severely..did much medications but 0 recovery.... is there any angel to truly help...??😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭. have no one to lookafter... finding no way
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
@J ... Thanx. But i know that no one will come to save me.... Can u call,take me in ur country??😞😭😭😭
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
@J .Thanks... Can u plzzz take me away ,i ll be recovered soon?? Help😭😭😭😭
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
@J ...😭😭
@reginakay7439
@reginakay7439 7 ай бұрын
What were their mother’s pregnancies like?
@buddhaneosiddhananda8499
@buddhaneosiddhananda8499 Жыл бұрын
"Mind your own business..." Nietzsche Don't lose sight of the purpose of life... you don't need to study... you don't need a job... you don't need a home... what we do need is quality of life...🥳🥳
@contrafax
@contrafax 7 жыл бұрын
I started flaking out 13.. sigh.
@kokomanation
@kokomanation 5 жыл бұрын
In my case when mental illness enters and there is no family no one
@scoutcreter5908
@scoutcreter5908 5 жыл бұрын
Chris Kokolios i’m so sorry i know what it’s like
@malikzafar7232
@malikzafar7232 3 жыл бұрын
True..Practically no doctor cud cure yet...I did frm multiple top doctors,Im much hopeless waiting for death only😞😭😭😭😭😭
@user-nc4us2qh9t
@user-nc4us2qh9t 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah.
@astrobob10
@astrobob10 Жыл бұрын
I'm not alone i think...
@mohsinku
@mohsinku 3 жыл бұрын
I want to connect with family who have some loved one suffering from mental illness. The idea is to share experience of dealing with the problem to lessen the suffering. Reply here and I'll provide detail to connect. Thanks.
@LoganSmithtaichi
@LoganSmithtaichi 3 жыл бұрын
A lot of people get along with everyone except thier parents, and thier parents set requirements with which siblings spend time with which siblings. Some irresponsible elderly parents live with even thier even elderly parents, and impose thier will upon an entire family community, so thier kids cant even be a part of thier extended family anymore. Holy...thats quite the thing. This has to do with financial problems and mental illness primarily, and in this case, many need to look for even more distant relatives in order to stay healthy. Its that bad its kind of like a whole mentally ill community. This goes on in the US and is hidden by social engineering methods for reasearch purposes and is part of the fall of society happening. I have personal experience.
@worksupermodel
@worksupermodel 5 жыл бұрын
I need help.
@mallory5872
@mallory5872 5 жыл бұрын
How about a talk on when families create mental illness? The NAMI idea is a nice fairy tale.
@wardawarda5656
@wardawarda5656 Жыл бұрын
I don't think that's right Noone can deal with someone have a mental illness because they will always tryes to make troubles and problems from nothing and after that they will start hitting their heads on the wall and yelling and crying instead of apologize very often no one can handle that because we as human have a limits to everything and also it depends how much the other person's mental illness
@jillianjacques4190
@jillianjacques4190 2 жыл бұрын
Leverage lovely leverage Do: use it to encourage behaviours rooted in treating the cause of the affect. Don’t: use leverage to get those mentally ill to better complete tasks that are symptomatically not improving at a pace you’re happy with due to illness despite the person struggling actively working towards recovery. If the cause is depression and the affect is a messy room using leverage over the messy room is useless. Leverage over going to therapy appointments and follow ups with psychiatrist? Yeah go ahead. None of this: “Oh when you came home from therapy you didn’t do the dishes until 10pm and you napped for two hours when you got home. If this continues you’re out” Cuz the latter is what my parents did and let me tell you-not helpful.
@dianedunn5589
@dianedunn5589 8 жыл бұрын
see how you talk about the money? the woman is saying screw the money what about me? don't you love me? don't even care im sick? or am I just a money machine to you? why don't you do something about the money? im nothing to you that you care more about that than me
@tamarabradberry9299
@tamarabradberry9299 3 жыл бұрын
Hipia doesnt make it easy
@lakhikutum5485
@lakhikutum5485 2 жыл бұрын
My parents has mental health issues they start shouting on small small things... They doesn't even know how to respect our grandparents as well... They're completely mental... They're so selfish..
@MsColetha
@MsColetha 6 жыл бұрын
What about John whose main family members are all schizophrenic?
@theglasshouseproject2920
@theglasshouseproject2920 6 жыл бұрын
Hey Coletha, I come from schizophrenic parents, and I have created a new channel in support of loved ones and care takers where they can find community, strength and compassion. Please check it out, there is hope.
@MsColetha
@MsColetha 6 жыл бұрын
The Glass House Project Are you schizophrenic?
@theglasshouseproject2920
@theglasshouseproject2920 6 жыл бұрын
I am not. Do you live with schizophrenia?
@jpc.598
@jpc.598 2 жыл бұрын
First guy was prolly just getting stoned and gaming lololol
@marinesreccy6452
@marinesreccy6452 3 жыл бұрын
Or thoughts are not moral.
@TickleMyHair
@TickleMyHair 3 жыл бұрын
CEOs talk to themselves in the mirror to promote there mental strength when morality is low
@raphaellavelasquez8144
@raphaellavelasquez8144 4 жыл бұрын
NAMI gives love and support to toxic abusive parents. They think this is wholesome.
@summerofplums
@summerofplums 7 жыл бұрын
Helpful talk, but why are you suggesting that the teenager who smokes marijuana does it because of his parents or childhood? Teenagers smoke weed because they can, because it is easily available, and now legal in some US states. Many of them will develop Bipolar or Schizo-Affective Disorder as a direct result of this high THC (five times higher than when their parents might have smoked it) cannabis use, not because of their parents or childhood. Others will develop mental illness as a direct result of the pharmaceutical meds they were allowed to be prescribed when they were children, for example for ADHD. We have to recognize the consequences of all drug use on the brain, especially in young people. and take responsibility for the epidemic of mental illness in the Millennial generation.
@jopatten-walsh4167
@jopatten-walsh4167 6 жыл бұрын
summerofplums hear!hear!
@CariLemme
@CariLemme 6 жыл бұрын
Do you have any sources for your claims? Thx
@Doriesep6622
@Doriesep6622 6 жыл бұрын
You are a voice of reason. Not to mention genetics, undetected brain damage. Sometimes a mother's three day virus will affect the unborn baby. But true, I think the drug taking is the majority of how it becomes such a monumental problem.
@gugldisniland
@gugldisniland 5 жыл бұрын
This guy sound exactly like Bukowski
@laraparks7018
@laraparks7018 2 жыл бұрын
You're speaking about symptoms, the cause is the family Trust me, there's a root cause
@soulpowerful
@soulpowerful 2 ай бұрын
That’s not true
@laraparks7018
@laraparks7018 2 ай бұрын
@@soulpowerful psychopaths are born, neurotic people are created
skibidi toilet 73 (part 2)
04:15
DaFuq!?Boom!
Рет қаралды 32 МЛН
ISSEI funny story😂😂😂Strange World | Pink with inoCat
00:36
ISSEI / いっせい
Рет қаралды 28 МЛН
TEDxTerryTalks - Laura Bain - Living with Bipolar Type II
16:11
TEDx Talks
Рет қаралды 1,4 МЛН
Psychosis or Spiritual Awakening: Phil Borges at TEDxUMKC
25:03
TEDx Talks
Рет қаралды 7 МЛН
Mental Disorders as Brain Disorders: Thomas Insel at TEDxCaltech
15:06
Surviving with a Mental Illness | Eric Walton | TEDxBoise
17:54
TEDx Talks
Рет қаралды 140 М.
My psychosis, a different reality | Jeroen Zwaal | TEDxEindhoven
18:56
skibidi toilet 73 (part 2)
04:15
DaFuq!?Boom!
Рет қаралды 32 МЛН