Lessons from Mom: How to Help a Loved One with a Mental Illness | Sarah Mikulski

Lessons from Mom: How to Help a Loved One with a Mental Illness | Sarah Mikulski | TEDxHarperCollege

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5 жыл бұрын

Mental illness is still a taboo topic in our culture, but this talk will give you some tips you can use to support a loved one. Sarah Mikulski is from the Chicago area and attended Loyola University and the University of San Francisco as an undergrad, and got her master’s in teaching (M.A.T.) from Northeastern Illinois University. In addition to working as an ESL instructor, Sarah has also worn the hats of mother, wife, yoga instructor, Peace Corps volunteer (Poland ’01!), and caretaker of her mother, who struggled with bipolar disorder for over 20 years. Her experiences with learning how to best help her mother are what inspired her TEDx Talk at Harper College entitled “Lessons from My Mother: How to Help a Loved One with a Mental Illness.” This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@carolinavaldes5483 6 ай бұрын

No one tells u this. All we here about is US US US protecting our own mental health. But extending compassion for an ill parent is the most compassionate act one can do to give back and not regret it many years down the line. Thank u for this message! ❤

@bhargavibhat7044 4 ай бұрын

I wish there was a free support group for people, especially children dealing with this. Its an experience so difficult to endure.

@yolandacollins4418 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much ❤

@pazley612 8 күн бұрын

Your local NAMI chapter will have support groups available, you can choose to attend them online or in person

@wellbodisalone 9 ай бұрын

Mental health is a real concern even though just a few get to talk about it. Great speech!

@juliegage6322 5 ай бұрын

I thoroughly enjoyed your talk, THANK YOU. I have a 42 year old son MIA undiagnosed and spending his life savings causing mayhem. I've given him over to the foot of the cross for redemption. I have no control contact. In and out of jail.

@dj_spinfire_d-.-b 2 ай бұрын

Bless your heart Sarah! My mother needs to view this in regards to my Ninny who has dementia. I now feel further compelled to become more involved as well. Compassion & unconditional love are so integral towards fruition of best possible outcomes. Gratitude for your profoundly heartfelt insights in light of these such delicate & unfortunate circumstances. God bless you.

@fullerlifeministryconsulta9126 Жыл бұрын

This was so helpful for me. I am dealing with that with my mom

@nickwright4828 2 ай бұрын

I am finding my outlet now. I try to walk daily. My brother is bipolar and addict/alcoholic. It has been a terrible 17 year storm but I am trying to navigate it all.

@Dbb27 Ай бұрын

My brother as well. I am flying out in three days to help him transition out of the hospital. I’m binge watching these videos to try to get a handle on helping him function again. It’s so difficult.

@diademglow3429 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, what a kind heart you have. I help my son quite a bit and I love him, so it is not just impossible to do, but other people do make me feel like there is something wrong with me. I have learned that most people just dont want to have go the extra mile so they feel guilty when they see other people doing it, as if i am an enabler. But, I feel very good about it all, I have a system of checks and balance and have seen his progress. Love works.

@Eurafrican 2 ай бұрын

What an inspirational speech. Beautiful, eloquent and deeply moving. The message is profound. We can support one another through mental illness, but also have to prioritise taking care of ourselves. I'm glad she was able to help her mother through the devastating condition that is Bipolar Disorder. I'm sure her mother's spirit is watching over her and her family proudly & protectively.

@Buwan173 11 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@axenistar Жыл бұрын

Beautiful, thank you so much

@sookiesookie9184 2 ай бұрын

This was so helpful. I thank God I found this video.

@bhumirajput5068 Ай бұрын

thank u so so much , there i difference in loving the one with the mental illness , and phyical abuse and unbearable verbal abuse need not be accepted , but if its a mild depression or condition where they dont harm u but are sad , lowly and procrastinated , and u care for them , u can help them. I love that you tried to teach without judging and rather shared your experience while being consciouss that other may be in different or difficult-ier condition

@user-fw4dk8fw6c 10 ай бұрын

Do you have a link to the resources you mentioned in the video?

@pazley612 8 күн бұрын

I would love to access Linda’s guide that you put together ❤

@dancegirlhaver3182 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for this help

@MusicIsDivine Ай бұрын

Your voice is so soothing apart from the words you speak Thank you ❤️🙏

@claudiacarvalho2773 3 ай бұрын

❤Thank you so much❤

@Sanasalmanawan 3 ай бұрын

can someone pls do a TED talk on its also okay to walk away, when you feel you can no longer deal with a loved one's mental illness.

@paulrowlands9604 21 күн бұрын

Wow, complete opposite to what the speaker has just spoke about. No guilt, remorse, empathy, life long regret. That takes strength or having the DNA of a rattlesnake.

@ivanemmanuel2822 6 ай бұрын

I endure my mother for very long period of time beside my own problem

@SherryMcKinney-hq2co 3 ай бұрын

Free mental illness help -- NAMI -- National Alliance for Mental Illness.

@ivanemmanuel2822 6 ай бұрын

My mother talk about money and health never love faith hope etc

@jayneelisabet1159 12 күн бұрын

❤

@ItsSoarTime 4 ай бұрын

THUMBS UP, 'NUFF SAID after the point about helping those who WANT help. no need to really watch the rest of the video. but i will.

@blovethompson 10 ай бұрын

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@gojo9442 Ай бұрын

What to do with a parent that refuses to seek help, keeps insisting that they are not mentally ill and do not need professional help, while at the same time making life for everyone around them incredibly difficult. I can be there to listen but I am not a professional to give advice. I can be there but it's not enough for them, at the same time they become quiet when I ask what I can do for them. I don't know anymore.

@Dbb27 Ай бұрын

There’s no solution. I think you just have to het a thick skin. I was just writing this and she’s saying the same thing. You can’t emotionally respond to them.

@maureenjohnson6888 27 күн бұрын

Seek advice from a professional for tips to assist your parent. If you have an Employee Assistance Program at work, use it for yourself. See if there is a NAMI support group in your area and attend educational classes. Our Mother battled mental illness for decades. Had to hospitalized when she got off her med, but eventually got on injections that helped her stay pretty stable. Then our oldest sister was diagnosed with a mental illness. It is important that you take care of you first. I wished I had learned that decades ago. You can learn coping tools that will help you take care of yourself and provide healthy boundaries with that parent. But, you must seek resources. I wish you well.

@ivanemmanuel2822 6 ай бұрын

I got mental problem but l got doctor and other support

@ivanemmanuel2822 6 ай бұрын

My mother is mad but no doctor except me

@ivanemmanuel2822 6 ай бұрын

My mother say l am thief she must be mad

@ivanemmanuel2822 6 ай бұрын

I think mother is mad but no doctor except me