Bisexuality: The Invisible Letter "B" | Misty Gedlinske | TEDxOshkosh

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5 жыл бұрын

Perception is everything. It impacts our public image, as well as our personal relationships. Being open about one's orientation is a risk, but one that can pay off by living a fully authentic life. Visibility can break down stereotypes, eliminate shame and secrecy, and create accessible, realistic representation and role models.
Misty Gedlinske is a Fond du Lac, Wisconsin resident originally from Asheville, North Carolina. She received her Associate of Applied Science degree in Leadership Development from Moraine Park Technical College in May 2018, and will transfer to UW-Green Bay in August to pursue her B.A.S. degree in Nonprofit Leadership. Her professional career includes over a decade in local government administration as a Municipal Clerk.
She is the founder of Fond du Lac Pride Alliance, a community outreach effort connecting local LGBTQ+ individuals and their allies with services, resources, and welcoming organizations. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@milififi5006
@milififi5006 5 жыл бұрын
"I picked a partner. Not a side" So important
@powergirl5693
@powergirl5693 4 жыл бұрын
I nearly cried at this part, it is just so true💖💜💙
@berrystein9197
@berrystein9197 4 жыл бұрын
Facts
@milififi5006
@milififi5006 4 жыл бұрын
@Georgette Petrova Good call. I have this image as a profile pic since ever, but I'm still obsessed with this manhua _-_
@zachhoy
@zachhoy 3 жыл бұрын
that was the PRIMARY takeaway from this imo
@oliviawilliams5916
@oliviawilliams5916 2 ай бұрын
that was heart warming to hear.
@lenaschubert5533
@lenaschubert5533 5 жыл бұрын
"I PICKED A PARTNER NOT A SIDE" LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
@PHlophe
@PHlophe 4 жыл бұрын
Tante Lena gas spoken
@redacted5078
@redacted5078 4 жыл бұрын
Preach
@sebeauhomevideo2356
@sebeauhomevideo2356 3 жыл бұрын
You mean: THE PEOPLE TAKING IT IN THE BACK XD
@farateq
@farateq 3 жыл бұрын
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE WHO FELL ASLEEP
@eadaoinmalone503
@eadaoinmalone503 3 жыл бұрын
I don't think love is an option , I think its just there. I don't think you can just stop loving someone. You don't really have an option? I don't know...
@stupendoushorrendous8258
@stupendoushorrendous8258 4 жыл бұрын
I laugh so hard when people call bisexuals confused. I've never been less confused. It was when I thought I was straight but was inexplicably attracted to men that I felt confused.
@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax
@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax 4 жыл бұрын
LOL..so you actually WERE confused. You're confused about being confused.
@michaelregis1015
@michaelregis1015 4 жыл бұрын
@@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax confusception
@kaimikalaniYT
@kaimikalaniYT 4 жыл бұрын
I’m not confused about my bisexuality...I’m just confused as to why people question us
@victuz
@victuz 4 жыл бұрын
@@kaimikalaniYT They generally don't believe bisexuality exists and that we are "one or the other". Or if they trust our statement, they still say we aren't loyal, or that we're promiscuous.
@flair6527
@flair6527 4 жыл бұрын
I’m pan and I agree so much. I used to be bi and I was so confused.
@Jaz______04
@Jaz______04 5 жыл бұрын
where are my closeted Bi's at? 💖💜💙
@-westman3619
@-westman3619 5 жыл бұрын
@@MistyGedlinske I came out two days ago!
@justsomegirl3412
@justsomegirl3412 5 жыл бұрын
I'm here!
@Smartie-tk8nq
@Smartie-tk8nq 5 жыл бұрын
Bi daughter of christian parents✌️
@Jaz______04
@Jaz______04 5 жыл бұрын
@@Smartie-tk8nq yup same
@morganlottering3072
@morganlottering3072 5 жыл бұрын
Waddup my Bi's!! 👋👋🌈
@cyranguyen7714
@cyranguyen7714 5 жыл бұрын
Question is how did youtube know I was bi before I did
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Crazy Cat Lady Bi-Fi reception?
@itisakubrow6361
@itisakubrow6361 4 жыл бұрын
It really isn't that weird, you don't have access to swaths of demographic data and a whole department of statisticians at your disposal.
@limonade2544
@limonade2544 4 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske I CACKLED HAHAHA
@mingling4377
@mingling4377 4 жыл бұрын
i wish i had the gaydar of YT
@july4376
@july4376 4 жыл бұрын
buzzfeed knew before i did
@crystaleidson6042
@crystaleidson6042 5 жыл бұрын
"I picked a partner, not a side." WHOOO THIS
@brandongrey9240
@brandongrey9240 5 жыл бұрын
Crystal Eidson who dat b
@coralvillain490
@coralvillain490 4 жыл бұрын
A non binary person yay! 😃👍
@tonymeadows9155
@tonymeadows9155 2 жыл бұрын
1
@colleenmckibben4912
@colleenmckibben4912 5 жыл бұрын
Her saying “a different gender” instead of “the opposite gender” is such a small thing but it’s so wonderful to hear this kind of language be normalized
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Colleen McKibben Yes! Thank you for picking up on that. Gender is not binary, nor is bisexuality.
@nematoaddd
@nematoaddd 4 жыл бұрын
@Jake Dean nah
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Luise Naa I’ll thank you to take your transphobia elsewhere. It is not welcome here. To take your tired punchline to its conclusion, at least helicopters are allowed to serve in our military.
@QuiteLunnar
@QuiteLunnar 4 жыл бұрын
@@ellanaa9464 While I do agree that Transphobia is not not believing in more than two genders, I disagree on your statement about Trans people not being allowed in the military. They aren't allowed because Trump didn't want them in the military.
@NickRyanBayon
@NickRyanBayon 4 жыл бұрын
@Jake Dean I agree, genetically there are only 2 genders.
@KnightlyScarlet
@KnightlyScarlet 5 жыл бұрын
Most annoying thing friends say when you say you're bi. "Wait. You're not attracted to me are you?!" No. What have I ever done to make you think that? Nothing. Yet one statement makes you think about me hitting on you? really?
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Knightly Scarlet Yep, there’s a lot of projected insecurity and arrogance in those kinds of comments.
@theminnesotawitch
@theminnesotawitch 4 жыл бұрын
I'm happy because when I told a few friends they were like "oh, okay, cool." What a lovely thing to say ammiright haha
@shannonshaw5865
@shannonshaw5865 4 жыл бұрын
This!! One of the reasons I'm really worried to tell some of my religious friends.
@themyofmy
@themyofmy 4 жыл бұрын
i literally told a kid from school im bi and he pointed to some random girl and said "sO yOuRe AtTrAcTeD tO hEr????!!1!??" like no
@k8tebird
@k8tebird 4 жыл бұрын
Right?! I think I'm more picky about who I'm attracted to than a lot of straight people.
@kaileys6237
@kaileys6237 4 жыл бұрын
I’m closeted but I swear my recommendations know what’s up Edit: Nearly a year later from when I commenting this I’ve come out to friends 💖💜💙 Happy pride you guys! EDIT: its 2021 so its now nearly 2 YEARS since I posted the original comment (I always get more engagement during pride month lol) and I have yet come out to family. Maybe youll hear from me again when I do because Ive been thinking of coming out to family ❤️🏳️‍🌈 FUTURE ME HEY HAVE YOU DONE IT I HOPE U HAVE edit: (3 years since the original post) MUHAHAHAHA YES I HAVE!!! SOME FAMILY KNOWS AND IT WAS VERY FUNNY BC THEY WERE ALL LIKE "YEAH I HAD A FEELING YOU WERE"
@helishah6903
@helishah6903 4 жыл бұрын
Same...
@ashleycole6498
@ashleycole6498 4 жыл бұрын
SAME
@Partlycloudy70degrees
@Partlycloudy70degrees 4 жыл бұрын
Same
@user-zn5gw3uk9q
@user-zn5gw3uk9q 4 жыл бұрын
bruhhh sAMEEE
@user-uf1mi1kp5u
@user-uf1mi1kp5u 4 жыл бұрын
Same
@Candzee_Kitu
@Candzee_Kitu 5 жыл бұрын
If only everyone was as understanding as this women.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Candzee Kitu Thanks, Candzee. I hope you’re well.
@shgh2695
@shgh2695 5 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske I never though the actual person in the talk would respond lmao
@chloemorgan3632
@chloemorgan3632 5 жыл бұрын
@@shgh2695 what do you mean by the clown emoticon?
@shgh2695
@shgh2695 5 жыл бұрын
Chloe Morgan you are a clown
@sunflower3352
@sunflower3352 5 жыл бұрын
Chloe Morgan “Hate doesn’t come from religion, it comes from fear.”
@ellie4300
@ellie4300 4 жыл бұрын
Shy, bi and ready to cry🥺💕
@CrescentPaws5000
@CrescentPaws5000 4 жыл бұрын
Ellie u need a hug fellow bi 🤗🤗🤗🤗
@ruthizred9090
@ruthizred9090 4 жыл бұрын
mood
@reagan3810
@reagan3810 4 жыл бұрын
This really spoke to me
@mingling4377
@mingling4377 4 жыл бұрын
Ellie cry in my arms 💖
@cloudy_dragon_
@cloudy_dragon_ 4 жыл бұрын
Here, queer, and ready to wipe tears.
@rosiehillier4904
@rosiehillier4904 4 жыл бұрын
I’m bi, I’ve got a boyfriend, and yes. I picked him. Not because he’s a boy but because he’s what I was (am) looking for. I’m not more likely to cheat, I don’t need a girlfriend as a girl to be valid as an lgbt member. Thank you.
@terilynn7074
@terilynn7074 4 жыл бұрын
not enough women into women out there huh girl
@madalitsomwanza2218
@madalitsomwanza2218 4 жыл бұрын
PERIODT👏🏾
@amosp9411
@amosp9411 4 жыл бұрын
Take your meds man. _LOL!!_
@msc0505
@msc0505 4 жыл бұрын
👏🏻
@desereeboyer7555
@desereeboyer7555 4 жыл бұрын
PREACH
@oikawadorable1653
@oikawadorable1653 5 жыл бұрын
FINALLY someone who explains it in a correct way, and she didn't say that bisexuality is binary i love her
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
oikawadorable Thank you! When teaching this concept to folks who stumble over “Bi means two,” I tell them that the “two” is same and different. Gender is absolutely a spectrum, not a binary. Individual attractions vary, but there is space for all within the scope of Bisexuality.
@oikawadorable1653
@oikawadorable1653 5 жыл бұрын
@@MistyGedlinske yes! so many people can't understand that, even some bisexuals themselves. Anyways i really enjoyed your TEDtalk, thank you for giving us a voice
@lucaspaiva7450
@lucaspaiva7450 5 жыл бұрын
I guess that I like you man
@c.v8838
@c.v8838 5 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske you are a star
@carrie637
@carrie637 5 жыл бұрын
You can also say that the two in reference are for binary and non binary people.
@princembat
@princembat 5 жыл бұрын
im open about my orientation but the people in my walking life pretend its not there or that im just being ridiculous. i dont care about that though. thank you for this video, as a fellow bi.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Max Winters You’re welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
@JustEvelynAndArt
@JustEvelynAndArt 5 жыл бұрын
This is so true, I feel the same way when people who don't know who I really am laughs it off as joke or simply ignore this about me
@RK-ep8qy
@RK-ep8qy 5 жыл бұрын
Max Winters open? Really? I never would have guessed you were bi, maybe you could make it a bit obvious and put it in your profile
@princembat
@princembat 5 жыл бұрын
@@RK-ep8qy im sensing a hint of sarcasm :P
@RK-ep8qy
@RK-ep8qy 5 жыл бұрын
Max Winters 😆
@WitchyCharlie
@WitchyCharlie 4 жыл бұрын
“I fall in love with the soul before the body.” -Magnus Bane, Shadowhunters.
@sarakotevska5089
@sarakotevska5089 4 жыл бұрын
Cheree Porter awwee
@zynory
@zynory 4 жыл бұрын
This might sound weird but this show has made me realise that i'm bi...
@laramalanquini3124
@laramalanquini3124 4 жыл бұрын
Okay maybe i wanna cry rn
@Inevitably_Invisible
@Inevitably_Invisible 4 жыл бұрын
I’m so sad that the show ended!!! Part of me realizing I was bi was being attracted to Jace, Clary, Isabelle and Alec all at the same time 😩
@flynnbraithwaite4322
@flynnbraithwaite4322 4 жыл бұрын
I love him so much!!! Awwwww! He (his character) really really helped me to figure out who I was, and who I like!
@Just.Lindsey
@Just.Lindsey 5 жыл бұрын
“Isn’t it better to be invisible than to be demonized?...” 😩💔 I understand this all too well being a pastors kid!!
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Lindsey Ramirez I see you. I wish you all the best.
@louise4778
@louise4778 5 жыл бұрын
Stay strong💕
@elliejordan3233
@elliejordan3233 5 жыл бұрын
I fully understand you with this, I too am a pastor's kid. We'll get through it though. We have each other to lean on when things get tough
@mello1159
@mello1159 5 жыл бұрын
This hits home because my mom is a pastor too.
@tuttochiaramentechiaro
@tuttochiaramentechiaro 5 жыл бұрын
I have to hide the fact that I am vegan because when people know they use to treat me very differently in comparison to when they didn't know yet. It feels so bad.
@cr4shmycar118
@cr4shmycar118 5 жыл бұрын
As a bi teenager... thank you. Every word struck a chord with me. I’m in the middle of the coming out process and thankfully I haven’t had anyone react negatively, but I’m worried about what will happen if I’m publicly out.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Nightslash360 You’re welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed this Talk. 40-year-old Me was less scared than Teenage Me, but it was still a huge step. Take time if you need to, and I wish you all the best.
@serenityrose2594
@serenityrose2594 4 жыл бұрын
ME TOO! Part of my family knows and some friends, but there are some people who I am just terrified to tell. I just keep hearing the "it's just a phase" repeating in my head, even if I know that its not.
@keithmahoney4390
@keithmahoney4390 4 жыл бұрын
I've always liked both sexes and I don't care what people think
@keithmahoney4390
@keithmahoney4390 4 жыл бұрын
Nightslash from reading your post I guess you're American ?󾓪
@flair6527
@flair6527 4 жыл бұрын
Keith Mahoney, No. Not both sexes. All sexes.
@Mariajosea27
@Mariajosea27 5 жыл бұрын
i fee invisible almost everyday and for the first time in 17 minutes i felt comprehended even it as just by a screen. Than you.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
María José You’re so welcome. I see you, and you are valid.
@MrAdryan1603
@MrAdryan1603 5 жыл бұрын
That's awesome
@CosymoR
@CosymoR 5 жыл бұрын
So let it help you 💪🏻
@claudiahuacasi6795
@claudiahuacasi6795 4 жыл бұрын
Me too
@JustEvelynAndArt
@JustEvelynAndArt 5 жыл бұрын
6:25 The fact that she said 'Bisexuals are indecisive' and 'going through a phase' really hits close to home because this is not only said to me by people who are straight but also those from the LGBTQ+ too. I mean yeah I get where your coming, but what I don't understand is why can't I love who I want to love if I accept who you want to love. Can't it be enough if I say I like both male and female the way you like them too? Am I not allowed to say that guys are cute while I am in a relationship with a girl? I know that LGBTQ+ is accepting but sometimes I still get negative hate from both sides of the spectrum
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
TypicalBookworm: Eve You are allowed, and it is enough. Not because I said so, but because it’s true. You are whole and valid as you are.
@Dancestar1981
@Dancestar1981 5 жыл бұрын
TypicalBookworm: Eve I think we need to adopt the ideas of the Ancient Greeks in love. There are so many different types of love.
@meerasingh2624
@meerasingh2624 5 жыл бұрын
Whenever I say I’m bi my friends say that I’m not. That I just think someone of the opposite gender is attractive and that just because I think that, doesn’t mean I’m bi. I don’t understand why I can’t just be bi. Like I already feel like an imposter all of the time and doubt myself with everything which is why I didn’t know I had anxiety until now. I kept thinking I was making it up and it would pass. What if I just want a relationship with a guy or girl? Like why can’t I say that and people just be cool with that instead of saying I’m confused or asking me to prove it by stating how I feel when I look at a girl I think is attractive? It frustrates me that they feel the need to fight me on something I find true about myself. Sorry that was a lot to dump on the internet
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Meera Singh Hi, Meera. I see you. You’re allowed to be bi, not that you need anybody’s permission. Sounds like they’re the ones who are confused.
@meerasingh2624
@meerasingh2624 5 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske thank you ❤️ you made my night
@bicthalis7740
@bicthalis7740 5 жыл бұрын
invisi*BI*lity
@mingling4377
@mingling4377 4 жыл бұрын
bicthalis i love bi puns
@FriedEgg101
@FriedEgg101 3 жыл бұрын
I like it.
@mysmirandam.6618
@mysmirandam.6618 3 жыл бұрын
Yes
@halloooo1duuuuu
@halloooo1duuuuu 5 жыл бұрын
she has such an amazing and beautiful voice! She should become an audiobook narrator or something. Also, she seems like such a wonderful person, I love her! Thank you for your talk!
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
hallo Thank you! I’m so glad you enjoyed this.
@MrHarpette
@MrHarpette 5 жыл бұрын
@@MistyGedlinske Well i wonder how well your voice carried in that auditorium, since in this vid i have the volume cranked up all the way and i still can't hear you well, i'm going to have to plug in the headphones to understand what you're saying.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Jerome Potts I’m sorry. That’s an issue for the sound technicians, and unfortunately outside my control. I sometimes have trouble with sound levels, too.
@elenadylgerova7917
@elenadylgerova7917 4 жыл бұрын
Saaaame, I love her voice
@adamaldonado739
@adamaldonado739 4 жыл бұрын
@@MistyGedlinske I love your voice
@surya7930
@surya7930 4 жыл бұрын
"Sometimes, it starts a little voice in your head that says: "I'm just going to stay quiet because isn't it better to stay invisible than to be demonized.I don't mind being mislabelled,if it means that I am not going to be seen defective or lesser".That voice, can get really, really loud.Please don't listen to it.That way lies self-hatred and it will eat you alive.It's not true, it's not fair and nobody deserves it."
@leonstrubbe9940
@leonstrubbe9940 2 жыл бұрын
i've had this little voice in my head for a few months and let me say...that was the worst period in my life so far. so please never listen to it. I took a lot of big decisions and still have a long way to go by telling everyone that im bi.I even told my male crush i liked him which sadly was not received well,but you deserve love and will get it one day by finding a partner!
@yellowst1494
@yellowst1494 5 жыл бұрын
I love when she describes the difference between "privacy" and "secrecy". I couldnt quite put my finger on it but it's exactly the clarification i needed to hear
@wacey7455
@wacey7455 5 жыл бұрын
Same here. Have been thinking about this lately.
@Miss_NatashaO
@Miss_NatashaO 4 жыл бұрын
I know it as well. Hearing her talk had calmed me down. Despite all that happens in my life, I'm gonna be OK.
@lord.have.myrcene
@lord.have.myrcene 4 жыл бұрын
It's crazy that she put this invisible feeling into words
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Wren Lorraine I tried, anyway. I hope it helped you. Thanks for watching.
@milescarr8524
@milescarr8524 4 жыл бұрын
I feel so bad. She’s so funny but no one is laughing and making awkward silence
@yunmis1300
@yunmis1300 4 жыл бұрын
are you saying that she talking about being bi is a joke? i hope i got it wrong or else i'll be seriously disgusted. when she actually makes a joke people laugh so idk why you said that, she made jokes (i think) two times just so the speech wouldn't be so serious.
@norahgilbert1679
@norahgilbert1679 4 жыл бұрын
SockyAnimatics I don’t think so... they’re pointing out the fact that it was a quiet crowd when she DID make jokes
@yunmis1300
@yunmis1300 4 жыл бұрын
@@norahgilbert1679 but people did laugh at her jokes. i feel like the comment indeed was mockery.
@Ishaankaushal1
@Ishaankaushal1 4 жыл бұрын
@@yunmis1300 not really when compared to most ted talks
@anshnanavati
@anshnanavati 4 жыл бұрын
@@yunmis1300 no, there were quite a few times when (I feel) she was attempting humour but it wasn't well-received by the audience.
@HomoExDiamond
@HomoExDiamond 5 жыл бұрын
from the bottom of my heart, thank you for those words
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Julia H.E.D. You’re welcome.
@ch1vis
@ch1vis 5 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske Thank You!!!
@InventorZahran
@InventorZahran 4 жыл бұрын
Despite being bi, I "straight-pass" almost everywhere to avoid judgement or discrimination...
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
InventorZahran 327 I understand that practice. I did too, for a very long time. All my best to you.
@unicorntomboy9736
@unicorntomboy9736 4 жыл бұрын
Same
@flaviasomarriba6555
@flaviasomarriba6555 4 жыл бұрын
same, after 4 years, I began saying it to only a few people, some of them saying that "I can find a person of the same gender pretty, doesn't mean you are into them" and it really hurts how hard it is to be judged as if you are saying nonsense..
@karminyates3261
@karminyates3261 3 жыл бұрын
I know this was from a long time ago but there’s no such thing as being straight passing most people in the world are either assume to be straight or cis.
@DALICAHE92
@DALICAHE92 5 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend sent me this. I have always tried and searched for ways so that she feels comfortable and safe. But most importantly seen, cause since we’re both women I don’t want her to feel mislabeled by me. So this is so useful and definitely helps me understand her and support her more. It was an amazing video
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Dalicahe I’m glad you enjoyed, and hope this helps you.
@BearclawsBranson
@BearclawsBranson 5 жыл бұрын
My wife sent it to me and it really helped me, too
@360xssp
@360xssp 4 жыл бұрын
my girlfriend also sent me a link to this video. This talk is so on point, I understand Bi's and their situation and thinking much better now. Thank you very much!!
@emilydickinson5033
@emilydickinson5033 3 жыл бұрын
I'm trying to work up the courage to send this to my gf so thank you for sharing your reaction... Have a lovely day :)
@StoneSaysHello
@StoneSaysHello 5 жыл бұрын
I thought I was straight till I was 22 because of all this. People kept telling me 'it didn't count' made out with a girl, nope, had a massive crush on my female friend, nope, ect.
@rachelcordell1869
@rachelcordell1869 5 жыл бұрын
SAME!!
@Alina_Schmidt
@Alina_Schmidt 3 жыл бұрын
Giving this comment a like would feel wrong.
@mathewhart530
@mathewhart530 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for reminding me of the difference between privacy and secrecy
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Mathew Hart You’re welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed.
@jeffsanon13
@jeffsanon13 4 жыл бұрын
💖💜💙 “Picked a partner, not a side.”
@futurestar2999
@futurestar2999 5 жыл бұрын
This video just popped up in my recommended and damn, did I need to hear it. I feel like a stranger in my house after coming out to my mom who’s made me feel ashamed of who I am. Being bi is something I struggled with for years and when I finally got the courage to say it out loud, I told my BF who’s wonderful and loves me for me, but my mom just doesn’t seem to understand. I’ve been told by her not to tell my other family members because she doesn’t think it’s important. This video has opened my eyes. I don’t know when and I don’t know how, but telling my other family IS important and they deserve to know the version of me that makes me proud to be myself. ❤️
@redalpha2392
@redalpha2392 5 жыл бұрын
My mom and dad said to me that I'm going through a phase... I almost broke down in tears.
@lightawake
@lightawake 5 жыл бұрын
@@redalpha2392 I'm sorry to hear that...i truly feel that no one else has the right to try to tell you who you are or aren't - it's such disrespect at the most basic level and it's not okay to say. Hugs xx
@neigeepierrot4694
@neigeepierrot4694 4 жыл бұрын
Ellie Rutt same here I’m sorry your mom has not accepted you yet I hope she does soon good luck though
@jordansullivan5764
@jordansullivan5764 4 жыл бұрын
"It can be really difficult to turn your powers off -- even if you really want to." As femme bi woman, it is soooo hard to get other women to notice you're hitting on them and not just being friendly.
@adiarbiv4613
@adiarbiv4613 4 жыл бұрын
Jordan Sullivan oof hi it’s true
@misakichan6723
@misakichan6723 3 жыл бұрын
Can you please explain what femme bi is?? I'm sorry I don't know but I'm very curious about it?
@theincredibleknuffibar4834
@theincredibleknuffibar4834 3 жыл бұрын
@@misakichan6723 feminine Presenting bi women :)
@mecchabaron64
@mecchabaron64 4 жыл бұрын
I recently, at 21 years old came out as bi and I had no clue of the problems facing our community. It makes me want to bring everyone into a giant hug and let them know they are accepted for who they are
@niaranoctyrna3754
@niaranoctyrna3754 4 жыл бұрын
I am 20 years old and...probably going to be in the same boat soon
@sehabel
@sehabel 8 ай бұрын
I'm 21 and I came out as trans and bi 2 months ago. It feels fantastic to finally be seen as the person I truly am, I've been depressed and suicidal for way too long.
@haleysadlemyer3228
@haleysadlemyer3228 4 жыл бұрын
“There is no deadline or expiration date on your truth” 💕
@terilynn7074
@terilynn7074 4 жыл бұрын
but a lot of people don't like your truth so you better get a man while you can
@aperson7421
@aperson7421 4 жыл бұрын
The truth is that your "truth" isn't the truth
@mikedewalt697
@mikedewalt697 4 жыл бұрын
God's Truth trumps over what people 'think' to be true. God's Truth vs. your 'truth'. You will lose that battle 100% of the time.
@Alina_Schmidt
@Alina_Schmidt 3 жыл бұрын
@@mikedewalt697 Oh dear, why do you project your own mistakes on normal people?
@LilyJbeauty
@LilyJbeauty 5 жыл бұрын
Some things you don’t even realize you’re struggling with, and your words made me feel okay and empowered. We exist and i strive to not be invisible anymore
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
lily jacqueline We absolutely exist! All the best to you.
@feelsrestricted8322
@feelsrestricted8322 5 жыл бұрын
Hello bi guys and gals, to avoid staying invisible to each other, wear the bi colors/flag on a piece of jewelry(like a bracelet). Lets make this trend popular, so we don’t necessarily need to scream attention to ourselves, but we can still identify each other as sources of strength (or even potential partners, haha). Comment on any other ideas.
@strawberrymarshmallow7370
@strawberrymarshmallow7370 5 жыл бұрын
Honestly! I'm about ready to make a lil ring right now 😂
@dariarussu686
@dariarussu686 5 жыл бұрын
Love this!! Had the same idea for years! We need more people to do that :))))
@Phoenix909TV
@Phoenix909TV 5 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I thought of after seeing this video and reading on bi erasure on reddit for a few days. We need to be visible not only for ourselves but also to others to set the simple standard that we exist.
@jessf7341
@jessf7341 5 жыл бұрын
*[FeelsRestricted]* Honestly that is a great idea
@chambergreece3914
@chambergreece3914 5 жыл бұрын
But what if biphobic people get to know about this trend and start attacking us.
@Just.Lindsey
@Just.Lindsey 5 жыл бұрын
“The only person you’re obligated to save... is You.”
@oliviahaglund8978
@oliviahaglund8978 5 жыл бұрын
"Be visible first and foremost to yourself." Chills. This was really needed and really beautiful.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Olivia Haglund thanks, Olivia. I’m glad you enjoyed.
@qingruxu135
@qingruxu135 4 жыл бұрын
Ah ok, lesson learnt. Bisexuals are superheroes.
@cherade99
@cherade99 4 жыл бұрын
Well we try!
@puffcatco
@puffcatco 3 жыл бұрын
aww, You too :)
@updated_autopsy_report1
@updated_autopsy_report1 3 жыл бұрын
we are superheroes with super powers!
@F4wk3s
@F4wk3s 5 ай бұрын
Nah, I use my invisibility to commit crimes
@targetaudience0x
@targetaudience0x 4 жыл бұрын
wow that final line - "the only person you're obligated to save is you" - brought tears to my eyes. What an articulate, amazing person.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Matil D Thank you so much. I’m glad you enjoyed.
@benoncarsten396
@benoncarsten396 6 ай бұрын
48 years underwater. I began the painful process of surfacing a few months ago. Until now my wife was the only one who knew. Three days ago I had a hard conversation with my 22 year old daughter. Today my weight feels lighter. I’m an infant learning how to speak about what I have felt for decades. Thank you so much for giving me these words and this language.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 6 ай бұрын
You’re so very welcome.
@garveyful1
@garveyful1 5 жыл бұрын
Stumbled across this and felt every word in my soul. Thank you for a beautifully spoken, intelligent and compassionate speech. ❤💜💙 🏳️‍🌈
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Amanda Garvey You’re quite welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
@rararaex6990
@rararaex6990 5 жыл бұрын
I wanted to say thank you for this talk. You are right about how heavy the invisibility burden is. It felt like a weight off my shoulders once everyone who mattered in my life knew about my bisexuality and I didn't realise just how much hiding my true self was affecting me until I came out. It's content like this that helped me at the time so i know there are people out there that have benefited from your courage to share your story. xx
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Rararae x Thank you so much!
@AM-fk7rp
@AM-fk7rp 3 жыл бұрын
Like 450 is me.
@graceless000
@graceless000 5 жыл бұрын
“I picked a partner, not a side.” Yes!! Thank you!
@lizzy1084
@lizzy1084 4 жыл бұрын
“I picked a partner, not a side” - my heart feels free hearing someone say it for me. Not confused, not a phase, who i am. Thank you!
@mikedewalt697
@mikedewalt697 4 жыл бұрын
Who you are is a sinner who does not want to repent. I'm a sinner who repents. Now you know the big difference from a pagan and a Christian
@lizzy1084
@lizzy1084 4 жыл бұрын
MIKE DEWALT what is wrong with you?!
@mikedewalt697
@mikedewalt697 4 жыл бұрын
@@lizzy1084 Absolutely nothing.
@abby_v.v
@abby_v.v 4 жыл бұрын
homophobes are rampant
@NelyMokay
@NelyMokay 5 жыл бұрын
I really needed this. I repeatedly chose not to say anything we people assume I’m straight. But then would feel bad when I say I have a crush on someone (sometimes girls) and people assume I’m talking about a men. It feels like I’m not being honest but I’ve managed to convince myself that is not too important. It actually is. I guess is part of accepting myself for who I am. Thank you.
@elainerogers6337
@elainerogers6337 5 жыл бұрын
Im asexual and romantic and I hear my parents asking me if I have any crushes or if I like anyone. I am too scared to come out to them but I hope with time I can. I hope that your loved ones will except you ❤💚💜
@mikedewalt697
@mikedewalt697 4 жыл бұрын
God is more important.
@yunmis1300
@yunmis1300 4 жыл бұрын
@@mikedewalt697your comment made me puke just now ngl
@mikedewalt697
@mikedewalt697 4 жыл бұрын
@@yunmis1300 Of course..because you are a weak thin-skinned person
@mcplumpkin6191
@mcplumpkin6191 3 жыл бұрын
@@mikedewalt697 doesnt God hate the sin, but not the sinner?
@animeunknown8708
@animeunknown8708 5 жыл бұрын
Her voice is so soothing
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Anime Unknown Thanks. My kids have a very different opinion!
@animeunknown8708
@animeunknown8708 5 жыл бұрын
I need advice.
@betelgezaa
@betelgezaa 4 жыл бұрын
She has a magic voice. Whatever she says I could listen to for hours ....she would be great in “voice therapy”.
@sebastianboeddinghaus3505
@sebastianboeddinghaus3505 5 жыл бұрын
Bi people are the sweetest people you can ever meet, but we get the most hate from straight and LGBT+ people🤕😢. Also crikey this lady is very good and Imma go send this to all the people I'm out to who don't understand bisexuality.
@rosmarinlavendel1477
@rosmarinlavendel1477 5 жыл бұрын
Seb 713 thankyouuu.
@sebastianboeddinghaus3505
@sebastianboeddinghaus3505 5 жыл бұрын
Rookielove1 Sure, but a lot of people don't think that bi people are serious in romantic pursuits, believing them to be confused, indesisive (English🎉) or just going through a phase. We call that erasion or biphobia and it's mean. Edit : just saw the family part, idk I can't speak for those people, I have never known anyone to want to date a family member.
@marieb.1810
@marieb.1810 4 жыл бұрын
Oh wow. I was at a straight country western bar and i got a crush on a girl there who looks VERY butch and after we fast danced she reached out to grab my hand. So i was drinking a bit to get my courage up to go up to her which i did like 4 times. Now there's this guy i knew from around town i've been chasing too. Gave him my ph number at least 3x and he never called. So he was at the bar too. I was telling him that i had a crush on K___ and gave her my ph number, but she never called me. I then said, "um , you never called me either. " I was like crushing on two different sexes at the same time! He took it all in stride when i said i liked that girl. I was asking him imfo about her and he was telling me. Anyway,, don't get drunk if you are bi cuz ya never know what you will say to people!
@Heyiya-if
@Heyiya-if 4 жыл бұрын
Not dating a bi person on the basis just not being attracted or interested is fine. Not dating them on the basis of *them being bi*... is biphobia.
@xxalicegamingxx5077
@xxalicegamingxx5077 4 жыл бұрын
Heyiya-if No it’s not. Lmao! People don’t have to date bi people if they don’t want to. Why can’t bisexuals date bisexuals? Date your own people ffs instead of guilting other people into why they aren’t dating you.
@SashyGryphyth
@SashyGryphyth 4 жыл бұрын
"Identity is not taboo." Throughout this video Misty hit nail after nail right on the head. It was impressively accurate. I couldn't pick a person based on something as gender, I need the right personality, and gender doesn't guarentee the right one.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
SashyGryphyth I’m glad this Talk spoke to you!
@arwenjoy8962
@arwenjoy8962 5 жыл бұрын
This is such a good message ro here. I am 14 and Bi, luckily in my family, friend group and school are very accepting environments. But i have worried about how i will be accepted out in the world.
@Jig_Artist
@Jig_Artist 5 жыл бұрын
Arwen Joy If your friends and family accept you, that’s an excellent start. Be proud. When you are out in the world, the right type of people won’t even care.
@donniezawadski2047
@donniezawadski2047 5 жыл бұрын
Stick around people who love you for who you are Also hang with friends who inspire you !! Best of luck and don't worry. It's gonna be fine 🗽
@unicorntomboy9736
@unicorntomboy9736 4 жыл бұрын
If they accept you, that's all that truly matters
@paulaaaii7442
@paulaaaii7442 5 жыл бұрын
"The only person your obligated to save...is you" honestly I needed this
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Paula H I’m glad it was there for you.
@paulaaaii7442
@paulaaaii7442 5 жыл бұрын
@@MistyGedlinske thank you for replying omg😍. I hope you know this ted ed gave me the spur of the moment courege to come out to my family as bi. It's been such a breath of fresh air, that I was forcing myself to drown out. So soooooo many thanks to you💛💛💛.
@emilylizotte9793
@emilylizotte9793 4 жыл бұрын
I have never felt more acceptance and understanding towards my bisexuality than in this moment. Thank you.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Emily Lizotte You’re so very welcome.
@CoachBess
@CoachBess 4 жыл бұрын
The only person you’re obligated to save is “You”
@joey4283
@joey4283 4 жыл бұрын
"And her fangirl crushes,y'all let me tell ya,on certain British celebrities can be seen from s p a c e"i feel ya girl. i feel ya
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Jellby Fish The purple shirt was an intentional choice 😉
@Vampirech1ck
@Vampirech1ck 4 жыл бұрын
This is a good talk, meany things she is saying could easily apply to asexuality as well. That’s why gotta have each-others backs
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Vampirech1ck Agreed, and other commenters have made the same observation. Thanks for watching!
@kerchewy2571
@kerchewy2571 4 жыл бұрын
Bi ace solidarity!!!
@mikedewalt697
@mikedewalt697 4 жыл бұрын
God don't have your back on this subject, so people can't help you with that.
@kerchewy2571
@kerchewy2571 4 жыл бұрын
MIKE DEWALT not everyone believes in god mike.
@mikedewalt697
@mikedewalt697 4 жыл бұрын
@@kerchewy2571 True, but its a dominate worldview, especially over atheism. I believe in God and so I will speak from my perspective based on my worldview. (raised by atheists btw).Plus I am exercising my 1st Amendment Rights, so there's that too.
@francescabellan2313
@francescabellan2313 5 жыл бұрын
Great talk! Clear, informative, compassionate... THANK YOU so much for this. As someone who's spent the last 12 years of her life trying to educate people on bisexuality (I co-run a blog, FB page and IG profile in Italian on bi-pan visibility), I can't praise you enough for bringing this subject to TED. So many people are still suffering from the consequences of bi invisibility and erasure. Will do my best to share this video as much as I can.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Francesca Bellan I’m honored! Thank you so much!
@sophiafried_
@sophiafried_ 5 жыл бұрын
hey :) i would like to follow you, whats your blog called?
@timothysmith7080
@timothysmith7080 3 жыл бұрын
"If for right now you only feel comfortable or safe whispering the truth to yourself say it anyway." That is a very powerful statement.
@rovietergeek
@rovietergeek 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making me realize how important it is to not let myself think that I am just confused. That I should acknowledge the fact that this is who I am. I am not just stuck in a phase, and that choosing to be with a person either of the opposite or same gender, does not nullify my bisexuality.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Rovieter Geek Thank you so much for your comment. I’m so glad you enjoyed the Talk. You are real and valid and absolutely enough.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Rovieter Geek Bisexuality also encompasses non-binary gender-nonconforming folks. You may hear otherwise but such things are not true.
@rovietergeek
@rovietergeek 5 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske Actually in my current high school, we were asked to conduct researches of our own. I chose to make a research that focused on gender stereotyping and gender conformity. I wish I’d seen this sooner. It would have been a great contribution to the researcg
@sebastianboeddinghaus3505
@sebastianboeddinghaus3505 5 жыл бұрын
Rovieter Geek 💗💜💙
@kialuvsyoo
@kialuvsyoo 2 жыл бұрын
She made me cry at least 3 times in just 17 minutes. I feel shook. I feel seen. I feel understood. I feel encouraged. I feel loved.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@andslove88
@andslove88 5 жыл бұрын
I'm so effing proud of my bisexuality 💙💜❤
@kingofhearts804
@kingofhearts804 5 жыл бұрын
andslove88 hello , sorry to bug , but it’s pink , purple and blue
@unicorntomboy9736
@unicorntomboy9736 4 жыл бұрын
We all should be.
@elixir6327
@elixir6327 5 жыл бұрын
I’m glad someone chose to speak up about this. Everyone seems to get so caught up in the bigger picture of peace for LGBT+ people that they forget the erasure going on within their own community
@lauracabe
@lauracabe 5 жыл бұрын
Laoise 🙌🏻🔥🔥🔥
@francescacappai2652
@francescacappai2652 5 жыл бұрын
This might be a stretch, but she is wearing a PURPLE shirt. That might be something 😂
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Francesca Cappai It was an intentional choice. 😉
@lugh8592
@lugh8592 5 жыл бұрын
Finally, i started crying. Thank you so much. I feel understood for the first time EVER
@citrus8884
@citrus8884 4 жыл бұрын
In the community people get so annoyed because apparently we have it easier. We are still LGBT, and it’s also hard for us. It’s not a competition to see who gets more backlash, it’s an opportunity to support each other.
@justsayin1756
@justsayin1756 9 ай бұрын
The statistics do not reflect that bisexuals have it easier
@tesseraph
@tesseraph 5 жыл бұрын
Her style of communication was both captivating and calming and everything she had to say was spot on. One of the best TED talks I've seen in a long time!
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Topi Viljamaa Thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed it.
@hastaluegoluka
@hastaluegoluka 5 жыл бұрын
this woman gives me hope. she is an example of what my future can be like. i will be able to marry the person i love and have a family with them, and i will be okay. this was so inspiring and i hope other baby bisexuals like me will feel validated and comforted by this video ❤️❤️❤️
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Elena Santin I’m glad it spoke to you. I wish you every good thing. Be well.
@IWishICouldThinkOfAGoodHandle
@IWishICouldThinkOfAGoodHandle 4 жыл бұрын
She deserved the huge cheer she got at the end
@soph7066
@soph7066 4 жыл бұрын
“ the only person your obligated to save, is you” iconic
@pandispandilps7012
@pandispandilps7012 5 жыл бұрын
I had to stay hidden for years because “I was to young” I was eleven when I figured it out and I had two friends who also was bi. I know I was young but I had herd many times from adults that I was smarter than many other grownups that they met, and I had no problem saying something and they would take my seriously. But not with this. Why? ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 💖💜💙
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Pandis & Pandi LPS I’m sorry that happened to you. It wasn’t right, and it wasn’t fair. I see you.
@tamara.mw.
@tamara.mw. 4 жыл бұрын
This has given me a lot of strength. Maybe I won't come out just yet, but I'm trying to slowly get rid of those voices you talked about which are so, so true. I feel like there's a bit of internalized biphobia in me that I so want to get rid of before telling anyone, and your words helped me immensely. Thank you ♥️
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Tamara W. You’re so very welcome. I still find unexpected bits of baggage to unpack. It’s a process, I think. I wish you the very best of everything along the way.
@aster5600
@aster5600 2 жыл бұрын
I'm crying from feeling so understood. Sending hugs from the closet.
@noelle3780
@noelle3780 4 жыл бұрын
You have no idea how deeply I wish this woman was my mother
@JaShleylover17
@JaShleylover17 4 жыл бұрын
Dang. Who would've though Ted Talks will be this emotional? Great video, thank you so much ❤💙💜
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
JaShleylover17 You’re welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed
@coppersense999
@coppersense999 4 жыл бұрын
Difference between privacy and secrecy. That's good.
@alyssaolson7964
@alyssaolson7964 5 жыл бұрын
I'm pansexual, and I totally get this, too. When I was in seventh grade, I had my first crush on a girl. I knew what it was to some degree, but I kept fighting it because I didn't even know pansexuality or bisexuality existed, and I thought I was straight (since I'd had a few crushes on guys, including one I'd just gotten over a couple months ago). The only reason I knew bisexuality existed was a DeviantArt profile I'd seen a while ago that I thankfully remembered (after *hours* of not paying attention in math class because I was too busy worrying about this stuff). When I thought of that was such a relief, because in that moment I knew I wasn't defective. I looked up other sexualities when I got home, so that I could be more aware of all the different sexualities and could make sure I found a label that fit me (pansexual, if you've forgotten).
@lilytehrani6243
@lilytehrani6243 4 жыл бұрын
I wanted to keep reading that - you'd make a great writer (soz for the random comment)
@abirdietoldme4102
@abirdietoldme4102 5 жыл бұрын
Finally, someone said it. Omission and reliance on other people's assumptions really hit home. And Erasure is very real.
@sofitaylor725
@sofitaylor725 5 жыл бұрын
It is so nice to finally be comprehended by someone, even if it’s just in my computer. I feel invisible every day and thanks to this for at least 17 minutes I didn’t feel invisible. You are an incredible person and I hope there are more people like you out there 💕💕
@CrescentPaws5000
@CrescentPaws5000 4 жыл бұрын
Sofi Taylor it’s ok 🍞🍫🍞🍌🤗🤗🤗
@macarooni4023
@macarooni4023 4 жыл бұрын
I just wanted to say her voice is really calming like she could read me a bedtime story to sleep.
@decraziness
@decraziness 4 жыл бұрын
I haven't been able to tell my family. I'm not ashamed of who I am and yet it's still hard to say the words. Great talk. She has a really good narrating voice. She can totally voice an audiobook
@jeffwooliscroft6600
@jeffwooliscroft6600 4 жыл бұрын
I am so pleased I found this. It's such a relief to hear my own truth, the one I'm fighting to be open about, spoken aloud and with such apparent confidence. And, for the record, I have a lot more grey in my hair than Misty Gedlinske does. Thank you Misty, from the very bottom of my heart.
@alicewest9696
@alicewest9696 4 жыл бұрын
ok but she looks and sounds like that once in a lifetime likable english teacher
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
I’m good with that assessment! I had some English teachers and Literature professors like that. All my best to you, Alice.
@jacobs1264
@jacobs1264 4 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske I love how you still come to check the comments it’s amazing NV
@mysmirandam.6618
@mysmirandam.6618 3 жыл бұрын
Yep the one who really cares
@maude6671
@maude6671 5 жыл бұрын
That erasure thing she was talking about is my muuuuum.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Carrie Gould I’m really sorry that’s happening to you.
@IPLCF
@IPLCF 5 жыл бұрын
same
@KyleBeanBurrito
@KyleBeanBurrito 5 жыл бұрын
My parents are pretty accepting (I think my mum thinks it's a phase) and my dad somehow knew I'd be and LGBT.
@redalpha2392
@redalpha2392 5 жыл бұрын
My parents think it's a phase
@angelicasbestversion3301
@angelicasbestversion3301 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Angelicas Best Version You’re very welcome.
@Nick-eu5lb
@Nick-eu5lb 5 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske please post videos on your channel
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Nicky PALKA I’ve posted a copy of this one on my channel. If there are more in the future, I’ll be sure to post those as well. Thanks for the suggestion.
@theneekofficial8829
@theneekofficial8829 4 жыл бұрын
Misty Gedlinske hey, I’ve been reading through the comments and saw you replied to every comment and I just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to reply to a majority of the comments. It means a lot.
@dancarnell5938
@dancarnell5938 4 жыл бұрын
‘I picked a partner, not a side.’ AMAZING
@ernie8430
@ernie8430 Жыл бұрын
Her voice is so calming and comforting
@ericrush3495
@ericrush3495 4 жыл бұрын
I have felt such peace since I accepted that I was bi and came out to my family. I love this
@jiska8851
@jiska8851 5 жыл бұрын
Omg you touched on exactly the right points loved this vid 👏😍 but what shocked me the most was the given data 😣
@jenjen_oreo
@jenjen_oreo 4 жыл бұрын
"The only person that you're obligated to save is you." Giving me chills when she said that. Truth in so many levels.
@alexsmit5430
@alexsmit5430 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you, this message is great, I needed to hear this.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Alex Smit You’re welcome. I hope it helped.
@maryamelb4918
@maryamelb4918 4 жыл бұрын
Her voice is so nice to hear. I could listen to her all day speaking.
@WitchyCharlie
@WitchyCharlie 4 жыл бұрын
Recommended reading: Leah on the Offbeat. The sequel to “Love Simon.”
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
Cheree Porter Thanks! I’ll have to check it out.
@CrescentPaws5000
@CrescentPaws5000 4 жыл бұрын
IT HAS A SEQUEL ooooooo I’m reading that now
@Sander_los
@Sander_los 5 жыл бұрын
What she is saying is so powerful, and no one could of said it better! Thank you so much for these words
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Sander Los You’re welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
@andreaj.phillip8007
@andreaj.phillip8007 5 жыл бұрын
I loved this, and felt this with every fiber of my being. I chose a partner, not a side, and doing so does not negate my identity in the least. She explained this so perfectly. I wish I had this video on hand whenever someone questioned me or disrespected me because of my orientation.
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 5 жыл бұрын
Andrea J. Riettie I’m glad you enjoyed this. Share it with whomever needs to see it with my compliments. You’re entirely valid and enough just as you are.
@usuarioaleatorio3105
@usuarioaleatorio3105 4 жыл бұрын
One of the few videos on youtube that actually captures bissexuality correctly
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
kay13 That’s one of the things I was hoping to provide. Thanks for watching!
@avaheckman6086
@avaheckman6086 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks you for letting me know that someone actually understands
@donniedarkorequiem22
@donniedarkorequiem22 4 жыл бұрын
I’m crying. This is the logic I’ve been trying to articulate for years. She nailed it.
@jaikasch4565
@jaikasch4565 4 жыл бұрын
This made me genuinely tear up. Exactly what I needed to hear!
@MistyGedlinske
@MistyGedlinske 4 жыл бұрын
I’m glad it was there for you. Thanks for watching.
@Marshmallow95506
@Marshmallow95506 4 жыл бұрын
This is one of those really important messages! I’m open about myself, but I’ve seen friends hurt by hiding. This is amazingly said!
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