Yessssssss finally, some more info on enby people

Sage did such an incredible job! They really put an amazing voice on this topic, we need more people like them in the world

For a person who just came out a few weeks ago, I needed this

OMGGG I WENT TO HIGH SCHOOL WITH THEMMMM AAHAHAAHH. SO PROUD OF YOU SAGE!!!

Sage was so incredibly well spoken 💕💕💕 seeing some positivity about being Non-binary is always so refreshing especially as of late. 💕💕💕

As a non binary person, thank you so much for this TED talk. You described it perfectly and I'm happy I'm not alone! Thank you for making my day :)

Me: **sees their name** Me: Yep. It’s another enby.

Wow a video about non binary people and the comment section is positive? I love!

I absolutely love this and as a enby myself appreciate the positive recognition of non-binary people. We definitely need more education out there about this topic. It also made me so happy when Sage mentioned that some people go through multiple names trying to find the one that fit. I feel like sometimes in our community it's not as normalized to change what name you go by more than once, and it's extremely validating to hear another person say it's okay to do that.

As an NB person, I feel the most comfortable and confident when I'm more androgynous looking. My voice is even androgynous naturally. I was born a female, so there are days where I am a little self conscious of certain features of mine, but for the most part I am comfortable in my own body. I like clothing from every section of the store. I knew at a very very young age that I wasn't fully a female. I'd "jokingly" tell people that I'm a chick, but I'm also a dude. Sadly, I wasn't aware of the term gender fluid until I was older. When I learned about it, something just struck a chord. I burst into tears. Finally for the first time in my life, something describes how I've always been feeling. I'm 32 and just now coming out as NB. Seeing videos like this help me feel valid and make me feel less alone. So far I've been met with open arms when I've told people, both in my personal life and online. I'm so thankful that we're moving towards a more progressive world where people can truly be themselves and live their lives with pride and not fear. And if someone is reading this who is NB and hasn't come out yet, it's ok. Tell someone your truth, even if it's just one trusted friend for now. I promise you...there are more of us than you realize and there are more allies than you would think too. You are loved, you are valid, you are worthy of happiness, safety, and respect.

This individual makes me feel valid :)

To all my enbies, trans folk, and allies! You are awesome! Don't let anyone say anything diferent!!!!

Did anybody else cry?! Cause- Cause I cried.. *I've never felt so understood*

Y-you respected their pronouns! *happy enby squealing*

Thank you from a nonbinary person

Thanks for adding your voice, I'm an AFAB who's questioning and I can relate. I feel like in 20 years from now though, that won't be an issue, and we'll just be able to pee and poo wherever we damn well please.

Ok but I love their name. I mean Sage Skyler is the definitely one of my faves. Love the enby recognition.

Hi I’m kind of closeted right now and I’m really happy that this video came up in my recommended because I don’t know too much about dysphoria or stuff like that so this is really helpful. Thank you

Wow, a logical, informed, concise, confident introduction to gender for beginners? Y'all, we've got this!! SO proud of this community and all the intellectuals within it. This kind of knowledge makes the world safer for people. Love you all

im afab and im trying to express myself feminine sometimes but i dont wanna get misgendered. i just want to be feminine, androgynous, and masculine all at the same time without people being mean

*STANDING OVATION*

Thank you for making us feel so validated, Sage! You did well!

Just leaving a comment for myself if I ever watch this again in the future: I hope you found a way to put the feelings you have into words. Maybe you found the currage to come out publicly and maybe even wear the clothing you really want to wear to school (or even just the outside). I will always love you, eventhough it might not feel like that sometimes. I will always love you, no matter how you turn out to be. I will always love you

theyre so well spoken omfg

thank you for this!

That was just perfect. Thank you so so much.

11:16 is a 100% accurate description of my experience lol

I didn’t know why I liked this video so much before. It was comforting and I couldn’t figure out why... I came out as nonbinary to my dad today lol

Sage is a beautifully well spoken person and i needed this! thank you 💜

Thank you so much that Ted talk gave me clarity and gave me comfort. It made me happy inside. Each word gave me knowledge also wanting to know more. It made me realize that I am valid no matter how I express it. Again thank you 😊

I'm happy to learn that gender dysphoria and body dysphoria sometimes don't come in a bundle, I've always felt like I wasn't actually a demi girl because I didn't hate my body for being... girly I guess. But now I know I only have gender dysphoria rather than both :3

Hi all, So this was my first time learning about non-binary, what are enbys? I remember someone in a meeting about 4 years saying this and not knowing what they meant, I just caught that she preferred to be referred to in the plural. Interestingly my mother tongue doesn’t have gender pronouns, it merely has 2 pronouns; for humans and everything else non-human. So learning English getting gender pronouns right was a challenge, still is for many of us. With that said, I think patience and understanding from all sides (binary and non-binary) is needed as we come to a place of commonality and understanding. I don’t condone discrimination in any way, shape or form. I simply think mistakes we will be made all around, and rather than retract to our corners in anger and frustration, let’s be consistently cognizant of the dual journey we’re all taking to a better common ground. Thanks for this video

Thank you for this video. I just found out my one of my Nieces is Non-Binary, and I really didn’t know what she was talking about. I just didn’t understand-this helped me to understand what she has been talking about. I appreciate your honesty and bravery to explain this for me.

Thank you for this very informative talk. You rock!

I'm in love with their way of speaking!!

Great tedx talk. Very efficient summary of many points on the topic and emphasizing a non-european centric viewpoint.

Yes I'm so so proud of this enbe recognition. We seriously need more or it

This was amazing, thank you so much!

Thanks so much Sage! I also agree that gender is ever changing and there is not just one or the other.

Thank you so much! I love this video and used it to help explain my dysphoria as a a non binary person to my mom and helped so much! I really appreciate what Sage is doing for the NB community!

This was amazing. I just love highly-educated, eloquent people who know how to use their arguments in a valid, objective manner. I think they were on point with everything said. 👌🔝👏👏👏👏

Thank you for this, it all comes down to "be yourself " and everyone should have the right to be who they are. This is a truly great speech.

Thank you for this! I just came out and this really hit home.

So glad to see this type of video here. Super well informed and well explained.

YOU DID AMAZING SAGE!

Thank you so much for this! It clarified some questions for me. You are articulate and explained it very well. I´ll be looking forward to your YA writing!

I think I will show this to my parents, maybe they will get me a bit more afterwards! If no, never mind ! You made my day, thank you so much for your wise words 🤍 I pray for the world to be more loving and accepting towards all human beings..

i love all the wholesome comments, but then i scrolled too far and found the close-minded transphobe comments aka the small pp comments :/

The last time someone tried to tell me that enby people don't exist I asked them "how have there been laws against us for centuries if we aren't here"

As a genderfluid person, this describes me so well. Thank you so much for your wonderful Ted Talk! 💜

Sage is adorable. Loved their presentation.

I'm questioning but I suspect I'm an enby... And this just gave me a warm, fuzzy feeling inside! :)

Thank you for this talk, Sage ❤ I'm learning about gender dysphoria and this has been well spoken and incredibly well done.

Amazing!!! I thought I was a Crossdresser. Then a Trans Woman. Now I'm feeling like I'm Non-binary Transfemme. Everything this person said is true. I just wish that one day I have the confidence that they do to go out in public. Great talk.

I’m going to come out soon, this really helped

This was so validating. Thank you!

Thank you so much for this presentation, this is a fantastic description of the many aspects of being non-binary, and that there's not one single way to be NB. I feel less alone in the world with this Ted Talk (especially as someone whose natal language is heavily binary) and with the supportive people in the comments. ♥️

I just want everyone to be their authentic self and be happy x

Try as I might, I just don't understand it. However, I support everyone's right to be themselves.

*happy enby noises*

This is awesome! Sage rocks!! ~Your local non-binary person

I know this video is old but I’m trying really hard to battle gender dysphoria. I know I’m an enby because I don’t want to be because I don’t want to come out... I’m crying after seeing this so, any tips?

Wow. Gave me lots of validations that my thoughts are not weird and that I have to accept societies judgement, expectation and standards. Love when you said that everything is a Transition (I prefer the word Process) but never thought that Gender had a Process and that at the end of the day, do what’s comfortable. - Riley ;)

What a beautifully concise, insightful, and well-delivered presentation connecting non-binary stories to the ways we all change throughout life -- I'm sure you've positively affected so many lives with this! :) Thank you Sage!

This is amazing 😍

Greetings weary enby traveller! Be sure not to venture too far into the dark wood, there are some real horrific monsters in there! Don't go too far down in the comments, you'll find the transphobes. You are loved and accepted by many, have a great day :^)

I so needed to hear this. Great talk!

Good job. I can tell you rehearsed numerous times. It paid off, congratulations Sage.

These comment sections give me so much hope for the future! Love to all my LGBTQ+ family out there!🌈❤

How short did you cut your hair? I want to get mine done like that but I dont know how short it needs to be

I wonder if it would be possible to get a transcript of this presentation. There's so much good information here.

this is what my teacher expect of our oral presentations

The origination of gender identity is far older than Christianity. There is more to transitioning than one's own comfort and pronoun choice. There is also the matter of how one is perceived by others, the world, and how well one is integrated into the world. Everyone wants to be productive, self-sufficient, confident, creative. Those achievements are beyond the goal of transition.

Been playing around with the idea of possibly identifying as non-binary and this video really solidified some of my feelings. Thank you internet.

Enby homies can I get a woop!

As a person identifying under the non-binary umbrella this is very informative and comforting. It's also seems like it would be pretty comforting to a non gender conforming person.

Heyy fellow Nb's!

they did that ❤️ thank you

What on earth do clothes have to do with being male or female.

i was expecting the comments section to be full of supporting enbies, but it mostly consists of people refusing to believe we exist. i just wanted to say to all of my enby friends that you are valid and to not listen to what the hateful people in the comments say, you know yourself your body and your feelings more than anyone else in the world.

Everyone needs to watch this ✨

Ive finally found a name that fits me (jace) and i'm planning on coming out soon! Maybe ill edit this later to say how it went lmao edit: i didn't come out-

Brilliant. And so validating...

Hhh THANK YoU

Sage is such a cool name! And they are very well spoken.

This was eye opening

When your skin is too fragile to keep the hair away and you just get so tired of masking alongside the dysphoria that you just settle with the lesser of two evils for physical comfort over emotional serenity. It’s like your chrysalis half transforming you into some incomplete homunculus and you fashion those half formed wings into something comfortable you can prop yourself up with at whatever stage of metamorphosis you are acclimating to like a pair of water wings.

thanks

They's good.

Love this!!!

Thankyou for this ❤

thank you so much

love this !! great job Sage !

Me:*scrolls too far and finds transphobes* Me: back to the top we go I dont have that sort of mental capacity right now Ps- great talk sage! I feel so much better about being a transitioning enby

thank you! this helped me understand the nonbinary experience :)

thank youuuu!

Well done talk. 👏

this was so eloquent *+**_ +_+_*=_+ they are my new fave I want to share this talk so much

In some languages every verb has a gender when talking about somebody. So you can't just be gender neutral, it's either female or male. I damn hate this so much and that's why i avoid speaking my native language.

i scrolled down to see some... not so nice comments about enbies... Oof