"The Black Girl Fetish": Let's Talk.
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3 жыл бұрынHappy New Year cuties :)
In today's video I'm talking about the recent trend of fetishized and performative admiration toward Black women by nonblack men on social media. I'm 100% in support of healthy interracial relationships, but the pandering and exploitation that I'm speaking about in this video is definitely not ok.
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@giovannagill9073 3 жыл бұрын
I also hate when they say: I am not racist, I have a black girlfriend.
@snakes7303 3 жыл бұрын
Its like how people say “Im not homophobic, my sister’s friend is gay” or “Im not ableist, my sister is dyslexic.” Like..no?? That doesnt mean you arent, the fact you have to say it,,no hun.
@iCanbEYOURrUKIA 3 жыл бұрын
Lolz like it's so hard to not be racist you should be rewarded for it 🙃
@timetravelingjukebox 3 жыл бұрын
Or worse where they would say I have friends or one friend who is Black 😑 like do they expect me to applaud for them lmao
@strangeperson722 3 жыл бұрын
And the girl be white washed
@aflits 3 жыл бұрын
I guarantee his name is either nick, chad, or cole
@mouserat374 3 жыл бұрын
That one white guy begging for a "melanin queen" made me cringe harder than anything has in a long time
@dre-p3058 3 жыл бұрын
Lol i mean we gotta see yall do it with black men all the time cant be anymore cringe
@mouserat374 3 жыл бұрын
@@dre-p3058 I agree, I don't personally do that but I know people who do, it's equally as cringe
@courtneyw6224 3 жыл бұрын
I couldn't smile at all! It was the weirdest crap ever. Idk why some people like being a fetish. It's creepy
@NeuroticBotanist 3 жыл бұрын
It’s so weird! I honestly couldn’t stop laughing because it was so bad. Like stop doing tricks, bro, no one’s going to fuck you for doing the bare minimum of not wanting to spit on black women.
@nebula____ 3 жыл бұрын
like fr i got SOOO icky
@rach7096 2 жыл бұрын
so many men try to 'compliment' a woman by putting down other women like NO that is not a compliment it just shows that you won't hesitate to disrespect women
@deniaridley 2 жыл бұрын
THANK you.
@roxassora2706 2 жыл бұрын
*looks at the neckbeards who fetishize Asian gals*
@lo7381 2 жыл бұрын
Men like this exist everywhere
@damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 Жыл бұрын
Come to the black community, you'll see it all
@josukeshair8891 Жыл бұрын
@@damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 ur username and pfp… I can’t breathe please--why💀💀💀💀
@andro1419 Жыл бұрын
Not being racist is like drinking water. *You shouldn't be awarded for it, it's normal.*
@perla5465 Жыл бұрын
But being racist should be punished
@andro1419 Жыл бұрын
@hi guy I don't see how this is related to my comment but, I'd at least let the person be calm and lay down.
@agggagagagyrururu Жыл бұрын
@@MiAm0rie is it that hard to not be racist?
@jujumoser Жыл бұрын
@@MiAm0rie girl not what she was talking about
@snailbird1915 Жыл бұрын
Not being racist is literally easier than drinking water
@YforYanny 3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been fetishized to the point where dudes wanted me to be their “first black girl” which is so gross.
@acid0277 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah its so easy not fetishize people like tf as a member of lgbtq+ the amount of times men made it about themselves when i came out! FUCKING STFU JOHN I DONT WANNA HEAR HOW U FIND WLW HOT (Side note your pretty :0)
@bluemoon455 3 жыл бұрын
ewwwww that's so gross :(
@treehugger9070 3 жыл бұрын
Is he collecting women like Pokémon’s tf 🤨
@thecurseddinkleberg4086 3 жыл бұрын
Yikes
@mirasobad9799 3 жыл бұрын
I hate that Foreal omg
@oops383 3 жыл бұрын
If they actually respected black women they wouldn’t have to pander
@mxchic05 3 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
@LL-ur3ks 3 жыл бұрын
If black women respected themselves they wouldn’t provide an audience to every single man who panders to our notorious desperation.
@imjustyapping 3 жыл бұрын
@@LL-ur3ks everybody just wants to be loved lol
@LL-ur3ks 3 жыл бұрын
@@imjustyapping of course but no need for the public embarrassment. White and Asian women are equally as desperate but they don’t put it on the world stage for everyone to laugh at, or pity and pander to them. I empathise with the young girls, but a lot of the women you see on Twitter etc are 20+. I’m tired of them
@Ducky190 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly👏👏👏👏💯
@Kat-99 2 жыл бұрын
Take this with the SMALLEST grain of salt bc I’m a white woman, but I study history with a focus on the history of sexuality, but historically speaking white and black women have always been pitted against each other via their sexuality, and white women have always benefited from it while black women suffer for it. In the 19th century, black women were fetishized and shown as hyper sexual partly so that white women could be seen as pure and chaste. Sexuality has always been used as a way to other black women soecifically as well as a way to control them, and colonize them. This, of course, benefits both white men and white women but has the added affect of white women being like “oh well the patriarchy is bad but I’m not like /them/“, and allows white men to fetishize black women because they view them as hyper sexual. Basically, the fetishization of black women has always been a means of control, and to uphold the patriarchy. It’s disgusting
@CINDERELLIE555 2 жыл бұрын
very well said babes!! 👏👏 you see this kind of thing even today. you truly have been educated on the truth of the matter. cheers love 💖
@beckyheartsjosh 2 жыл бұрын
I would love to take your course!
@deniaridley 2 жыл бұрын
I know it's implied, but during slavery it was also a way to rationalize and not take responsibility for sleeping with (i.e. raping) their property. And their poor gaslit wives needed to believe it too. Sort of a, "these black women just need sex so badly. What's a poor land and property owning, privileged, white male slave owner to do? I even have to give my neighbors some bed partners when they come for dinner, these women are so insatiable." Knowledge of this particular stereotype had escaped me somehow until I read it in a textbook on slave/master dynamics. Who knew? LOL And I'm a black woman. I was shook. Just another of many ways to "other" and de-humanize us. As if we don't bleed red and have the same hormones running through us as women of all colors of the rainbow.
@twoicecreams. 2 жыл бұрын
great perspective.
@chloeanastasia8440 2 жыл бұрын
@@deniaridley very true
@ravindecavalier2912 2 жыл бұрын
As a black weeb that I’ve noticed a lot of fetishization of black ppl specifically black women especially in hentai surprisingly. I’ve been dabbling in weeb things for a while now and it’s becoming genuinely disturbing. I’ve noticed how black women are degraded irl but behind the scenes they are the most lusted after. Ebony is one of the most searched thing on the hub and on Reddit there is a whole community dedicated to black women doing it with white boys. The second most disturbing thing abt these aside from the content itself is the comments, just straight up disgusting comments that really make you think abt the world a different way. We live in a fucked up world bruh 💀🤦🏾♂️
@rubyaddison5446 2 жыл бұрын
I’m glad I’ve never witnessed that side of the internet 💀 and why is it hard for some people to just not fetishise certain groups of people, like why can’t they just treat them like normal people 🤦🏽♀️
@chloeanastasia8440 2 жыл бұрын
What kind of comments?
@ravindecavalier2912 2 жыл бұрын
@@chloeanastasia8440 they say things like “let me colonize your womb” and “monkey finally discovered some bwc” and things along those lines those were just some examples I’ve seen before
@levithebaddest2369 Жыл бұрын
THESE PEOPLE CAN NOT BE TRUSTED
@heartnmz7385 Жыл бұрын
@@ravindecavalier2912 OMG 😲 that's disgusting 😭 😤
@sanrihoe444 3 жыл бұрын
that man did not just pull out a chocolate bar and label it “black women” 😐 then proceed to eat it.....
@inqlearner 3 жыл бұрын
that's CANNABILISM
@stupidass69420 3 жыл бұрын
I HURLED
@BelkanEngineere 3 жыл бұрын
Wakatoshi what are you doing here
@yoongistoenailclippers 3 жыл бұрын
THE FUCKIN AUDACITY BRUH 🤦🏾♀️✋🏾 I almost threw my damn phone
@ino9397 3 жыл бұрын
I SCREAMMMED😭✋
@girlontheedge2636 3 жыл бұрын
no hate to harry styles but people were literally appreciating him for not saying the n-word when covering lizzo's song THATS THE BARE MINIMUM
@eddierich6179 3 жыл бұрын
Yea and... Do we even have evidence that this was his choice, as opposed to a part of the deal made between her people and his people about him getting to do that cover??
@girlontheedge2636 3 жыл бұрын
@@eddierich6179 exactly!! but i think he would not say the n-word cause there is no history of him being racist
@haliaaa 3 жыл бұрын
the bar is in hell y'all...
@user38211 3 жыл бұрын
@@haliaaa I'm telling you! The bar is in HELL its exhausting being a black woman
@themelanatednomad6989 3 жыл бұрын
Lmao. You mean the same Harry that wouldn’t even pick up the blm poster/flags at his concert before blm was cool.
@log5018 2 жыл бұрын
as an African man, I feel disheartened to know that black women feel like this because they are beautiful inside and outside
@Spid4rsw3bz Жыл бұрын
but from some black girls perspective...(not saying you) a lot of black men like to fetishize us black girls and women and also diss us and only dating lighter skinned people.
@Undefinedde Жыл бұрын
Then stop saying Asian women are prettier than black women and we wouldn't feel that way
@divyaa4459 Жыл бұрын
@@Undefinedde what does that have anything to do with his comment? why u being rude for no reason...it was a nice genuine comment. im sure he doesnt say that. Stop assuming shit.
@Undefinedde Жыл бұрын
@@divyaa4459 it's the truth all men think asian women are prettier
@Undefinedde Жыл бұрын
@@divyaa4459as a black women I know men treat us bad
@emf4888 2 жыл бұрын
I remember having a crush on a black character (I think it was Question Mark from Radio Free Roscoe if memory serves) when I was growing up, and I remember feeling so weird about the way some of my family would talk about it. Like, any time I mentioned that I found a black actor attractive in passing, I would hear "you've always had a thing for black guys". That always bothered me because I've always just liked people, regardless of their race or gender. It really made me feel strange and uncomfortable, like it wasn't "normal" to be white and be attracted to black people. And in a way, it felt like they were sexualizing that attraction EVEN THOUGH I WAS A KID. I wonder if some of these white people who fetishize black people end up doing it because the coded messages that other white people send to them that being attracted to black people is something "kinky", instead of it just being treated the same as their attraction to other white people.
@gasergurl 2 ай бұрын
Ohhhh this!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥 especially that last part. Being attracted to black people is just as normal as being attracted to white people, its not some “kinky” fetish
@lisatak7891 3 жыл бұрын
Having a preference for black women is fine, but to fetishize us isn’t it.
@karabokhwiane7593 3 жыл бұрын
Preference V Fetish: where's the line?
@kenm9545 3 жыл бұрын
@@karabokhwiane7593 I think the distinction comes in with how they see the people they like as a whole. Preference would be, “ I like ____ because they tend to ____.” Fetish is when, “I like ______ because they will/are _____” People who have a fetish think all people are one way, while people with a preference still recognize that ____ are still humans with a sense of individuality. I know I didn’t explain it well, but I hope that helped at least a little.
@lisatak7891 3 жыл бұрын
@@karabokhwiane7593 preference means you like all, but like something or somebody a little bit more bc of the taste (food) features, appearance,... Fetish (in this case) is when you find somebody sexual appealing for their stereotypical features such as big butts, big breasts, voluptuous/curvy for example or their skin color If you wanna date somebody because like them and think their features are MORE beautiful and don’t mind dating other people then it’s a preference, but if you only want to date them to satisfy your sexual needs or bc you think that they are sexy just for their race or physical appearance then it’s a fetish
@karabokhwiane7593 3 жыл бұрын
@@kenm9545 don't get me wrong, guys. I get that this trend is pandering-activity. I'm just comparing it to a Chrissie video I watched last year where she implored black women to WELCOME such disgusting fake adoration. She said we shouldn't be quick to dismiss fetishization, that it could be corrective promotion for BW.
@karabokhwiane7593 3 жыл бұрын
So maybe the motive isnt great here in principle. But it may be good as a collective practice (????)
@sharenquacker23 3 жыл бұрын
They don't like Black/Asian/Latina/ women,,, they like the image of a Black/Asian/Latina women they have created in their minds😬😬
@Shay45 3 жыл бұрын
Add white in here too. I see men (mostly self-hating men) saying that white women are like this and that & "not like black women"
@foxyboop4164 3 жыл бұрын
Black women are a marginalized group within an already marginalized group. It's really sad and disturbing how much ppl are obsessed with BW.
@YoGirlSeko 3 жыл бұрын
Facts, actual facts
@tiegideon9816 3 жыл бұрын
Isn’t that what everyone does? Wouldn’t it make sense to go after the type of women/ men that you find most attractive in your mind?
@DoobeeKind 3 жыл бұрын
@Adrian Trolls 7:05
@nolongerwannadie3025 2 жыл бұрын
I’m a quarter black, my ex found out and said “Does that mean I fucked a black girl?” And then went on to refer to me as such (even in random jokes) when I continue to tell him I’m mixed, (barely) not black. It was hella creepy.
@thegrayandwandering4704 Жыл бұрын
Thank god he’s an ex-
@shimmer4771 Жыл бұрын
A White guy had broke up with his girlfriend when he found out she was mixed. That's sad. He's racist and doesn't like Black people.
@Coco-chrispy 6 ай бұрын
Weird af
@ijusthadtodoitxd8792 Жыл бұрын
"These men are parading their 'love' for black women as some sort of badge of honor or brave hearts, to desire the undesirable." THIS. THIS. THIS. I am a trans man, a Hispanic one btw. But that means I grew up a Hispanic girl. In the South. I grew up thinking I should straighten my hair, Whiten my teeth, wear trendy clothes, blend in with the white people. I experienced racism in my elementary, harsh racism. I grew up thinking I was ugly and everyday I prayed I was born white. Blue eyes, straight hair. Thin, tall, no stretch marks. Etc. When I started getting older. People liked me bc of my race. I was golden, I had some weight, I was curvy. I'm looked at as the "thick Latina" oh I'm "crazy" bc of my race. "Never get a Latina girl she crazy." Oh but "she has the biggest ass" no. Not all Hispanics are thick, curvy, crazy, and speak Spanish. We're just like everyone else. But people fetishize the body that's been called overweight, the Carmel skin that's gotten me detention for the same thing a white boy did, and the thighs I grew up wanting to cut off. Once u get people that fetishize the things u were taught to hate u think it's 'love' but I should be happy bc he's the only person that didn't shun me out. It's. Not. Love. If. He. Wanted. To. Be. With. You. Bc. Of. Stereotypes. About. Your. Race!!! But he's lucky he got a calm one. Like we're dogs? Like they got a tame one? We're humans. Not dogs. And you shouldn't be rewarding these men for liking your race, it's the bare minimum. Stay safe lovelies.
@caitlinm0929 3 жыл бұрын
Why are these guys referring to black women like every black woman is the same....
@artalcoolique3341 3 жыл бұрын
Thats why you don't date these people, they don't see you as an individual, they see you as a stereotype that in my experience, completely ignore your actual personality, or get mad at you for not fitting into their preconceived notions. Because that's what they are, preconceived notions. They genuinely believe white people and black have inherent differences. That's. Nazi. Shit. PERIOD.
@shanespencer8754 3 жыл бұрын
People tend to like to put people into groups and make these groups monolithic because it’s easier to have an assumption about one group instead of getting to know the people within these groups in order to know what is and isn’t ok to do
@samrousculp4306 3 жыл бұрын
Right? Like.... you don’t fucking know this person or me?
@wife0fsunwoo 3 жыл бұрын
COME ON PREACH
@wife0fsunwoo 3 жыл бұрын
@@artalcoolique3341 my ex crush was just like this and I blocked his ass real fast. he failed to see that.
@zitaaureliae4468 3 жыл бұрын
Black girls know your worth! We shouldn’t clap nor praise someone just because they like black girls! It’s should be a normal thing!!!!
@magicmanthegeez330 3 жыл бұрын
Say it a again for the girls in the back 👌🏾
@zitaaureliae4468 3 жыл бұрын
@BW Stop Giving Birth To Your Enemy I love your username lol 😂 ✨✨✨
@thelittleunicorn6196 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@thelittleunicorn6196 3 жыл бұрын
It’s the bare minimum
@scarletgomez6157 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@serenaelsasser7259 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for putting this into words. For as long as I can remember people sexualized me for being “black” even tho I’m mixed. They liked the fact the I was considered black but had light skin. I felt more like an object of pleasure rather than a real human. I thought I was ugly because of the kinks and coils in my hair yet because my skin was light enough I was seen as pretty or “exotic“. I could never explain why this treatment felt so racist and wrong to me. This video helped me so much and thank you for bringing attention to this problem.
@michaelbiggs7861 2 жыл бұрын
Most of these white boys are false, they aren't looking for love, they are looking for a conquest, something to tick off of their bucket list. A lot of my friends were like this, they wanted to have a black women, just to say that they had had a black woman. For what it's worth, I love black women, always have, I grew up in an area called Pitsmoor, Sheffield, UK. It was where most of the Jamaican families settled in the UK in the 50's and 60's. In fact, I loved black women so much, I married one. I'm 63 years old now, and I have been married to a beautiful black woman for 33 years, we have been together 35 years in total, and we have two beautiful mixed race kids, a girl and a boy. To all the black women out there, stay on your guard you beautiful black ladies, make any man work hard for your affections, don't give it up too early, make the men wait, the serious boyfriend contenders will stick around, the players will move on.
@leena5875 3 жыл бұрын
I feel like pushing this trend of obnoxiously telling everyone you’d date a black woman only further pushes the societal notion that black women are “commonly” unattractive. It should be normal to like us, making it a fetish only further enforces that it isn’t. I would rather see representation of black women as love interests with actions rather than words because it’s a step towards inclusivity
@theelevatedone3944 3 жыл бұрын
Right! I’m glad someone else sees this. I was watching a Tik Tok video one time where it was a compilation of these dudes saying how much they like black girls and there was this one girl in the comments that was like “Even if they don’t mean it. This is corrective promotion for us ladies” and I was like how??? This is not corrective promotion at all especially since a lot of these videos subtly treat us as jokes. If they don’t mean the shit then ppl will pick up on that and be like “Oh these girls are gullible and easy to fool. They don’t actually like them. In all actuality they’re ‘unattractive’ to them” and start to treat us more as jokes since we’re so seemingly easily smitten by just the slightest, bare minimum compliments. To me this just send signals to others that we’re easy targets, easy to take advantage of and we’ll take anything that’s the bare minimum. It’s disgusting.
@nternetrat 3 жыл бұрын
exACTly
@holidaycomplex 3 жыл бұрын
Perfectly put
@cinabonbon 3 жыл бұрын
TheElevatedOne and also we already are targets. Look at the protests of BLM. It was the women who were pushed to the front by the cowardly men :/. Everyone knows this worldwide if anything black women are partially to blame for this happening. For men that openly hate them. And that can’t provide for them financially. So there’s nothing you can really do about that.
@potatopotatoeOG 3 жыл бұрын
You done said it. But will they listen?
@ellenselma1286 3 жыл бұрын
It’s so dumb that people get rewarded for not being racist, like it’s should be normalized believing in basic human rights
@leehkae9593 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly I have had white friends in the past that’ll say “I’m not racist” and expect praise. Like okay Kyle I’m not either It’s nothing to praise
@frizzttymto 3 жыл бұрын
This isn’t racist this is just fetishization
@kznnyx 3 жыл бұрын
yeah, it's almost like other races wont be racist because they want clout x
@iimichelle8747 3 жыл бұрын
exactlyy
@pyruvicac.id_ 3 жыл бұрын
problem is they are literally being racist.
@olivia5024 2 жыл бұрын
This sounds exhausting and I applaud you for dealing with the BS with grace and thank you for educating me
@victoriaemonena647 2 жыл бұрын
Omg, seeing your lil link on ENDSARS as a Nigerian gurlllll made me feel so happy. Respect, sis!
@YN-wo8rd 3 жыл бұрын
As an Asian, I feel the same way. So many weirdos on tiktok are saying that they ONLY date Asian women and their fetishes scare me
@willowfaye670 3 жыл бұрын
Oof we need a support group.
@honeyandmilk4680 3 жыл бұрын
Same but i’m latina mestiza ;; we rlly can’t have a break as non-white women...
@knightlykar 3 жыл бұрын
Same
@reneelubke5508 3 жыл бұрын
Those type of guys think that dating asian women will be easier because they're 'more family oriented and meek' which is basically code for ' let me walk on them like a doormat and have them do all my chores for me'
@edwardiiiofengland9337 3 жыл бұрын
@@reneelubke5508 Knowing many Chinese women (and their Chinese husbands, another myth that Asian women are all after white trophy husbands!) I can confirm this is false... submissive and meek? Chinese women don’t want mamas boys who want a replacement mother in a new wife. Haha.
@jada2228 3 жыл бұрын
i hate when i see people tell black girls “you’re really pretty for a black girl” like wtf
@Dakarai_Knight 3 жыл бұрын
Oh i get so pissed when I hear that mess. As a gay guy I've heard the i never thought I'd be with a black guy but you look pretty. I was like waaa
@happyglowup7736 3 жыл бұрын
Thats the worst compliment. Thats saying black girls arent pretty 😡
@mello.1483 3 жыл бұрын
@@Dakarai_Knight YO WHAAT??
@mello.1483 3 жыл бұрын
The saying itself is just irritating
@Dakarai_Knight 3 жыл бұрын
@@mello.1483 like I've dated guys that apparently thought well obviously they're the more attractive ones cuz society values white features more. I wasn't tryna shame a bitch but like i gently said we are both beautiful and he got offended by that somehow. Like why the hell did I end up dating guys like that that seemed chill at first but then went full Jim crowe.
@sandykl 2 жыл бұрын
My heart is aching. I am watching this and I as a Hispanic person experience a version of this, as well. This year has hit me like a ton of bricks. I was manipulated to think that my race and culture is unworthy and that I should be lucky to be in the presence of a white man or be lucky if they talk to me, etc since I was little. And now I am realizing, there was nothing wrong with my culture and blood. It is a gift and treasure. Even I dyed my hair and straightened and I stopped because I was destroying me as if there was something unacceptable about me.
@vibez.no.cartel 2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you found the light sister
@shainsantiago8115 Жыл бұрын
When i was 13 i would look at our class photos and be disgusted by the coulour of my skin. (I'm pakistani). But soon, slowly ofcourse, i finally realized, how superficial it is to care about skin tone. And i am glad to say, that I now finally love the way i am.
@Deathnotefan36 3 жыл бұрын
if some wanted a black girl so bad, they would just go find one except for making tiktoks about how much they want us. do anything for clout.
@callmek5 3 жыл бұрын
exactly
@Burn143 3 жыл бұрын
So true, I don’t like that.
@perry2653 3 жыл бұрын
Omg faaaaaaactssssssss Exactly
@yourfavouritescepticx8969 3 жыл бұрын
I agree with that. I think we shouldn’t give them the clout they’re looking for 😂🙁. I think pandering in itself is very cringey but that could be the leo pride in me lol
@sahirygnobehi6448 3 жыл бұрын
Told the Abrianatheprincess viewers the same. She has these same videos of them white boys fetishizing black women. She with her crew came for me. But they weren't ready for the clap backs. Then she blocked me. It's all good.😆😆😆
@taliyahs_wildworld6976 3 жыл бұрын
As a young black girl that consumes a lot of Eastern-Asian content I get a lot of videos in my youtube recommended like "Do Korean guys find black girls hot?" or "How do Korean guys feel about black women?". And in the video they have them meet a black girl or show them photos of like Beyonce, and its like I'm supposed to start jumping for joy because a non-black person said they find black people attractive? No- I'm just uncomfortable-Stop It!
@slumpkweeen6989 3 жыл бұрын
This is the one☝️☝️☝️ It's so ridiculous and what makes it worse it that these young impressionable black girls are eating it up.
@taliyahs_wildworld6976 3 жыл бұрын
@@slumpkweeen6989 It's so disheartening because i see girls in the comments like "This gives me hope I can have a Korean boyfriend" and so on.
@slumpkweeen6989 3 жыл бұрын
@@taliyahs_wildworld6976 Which is messed up in itself. Because why are you seeking out a korean boyfriend? Is that not somewhat fetishy. I feel as if black woman are trying to find acceptance from males from other races because black men are so hateful towards their women usually.
@gertycherismat5277 3 жыл бұрын
Same here sis. It breaks my heart😔
@goldenoceans14 3 жыл бұрын
Bruuuh that has been all my recommendations for like 3 days 🙄🙄🙄 like ok and I didn't ask
@tiarasanchez5906 2 жыл бұрын
I LOVE that one of my favorite KZfaqrs knows about another one of my favorite KZfaqrs!! If I need to be hip to what’s going on, I watch you and Khadijah!!! I love you both and I love the knowledge you share with us!!! 🥰❤️🔥
@DorotaGabal 2 жыл бұрын
Very well stated. The problem isn't having a fetish, but fetishizing a whole race. People want to be appreciated for them, and for others to be attracted to them as an individual, not as a representative of a demographic. The other issue is expecting handouts for saying black women are beautiful. If I give you a compliment, you do not owe me any gratitude. And you shouldn't ever. That's some strange attempt at power play, a "nice guy" trope with a twist.
@user-cv2vo5wn9m 3 жыл бұрын
I’m asian and was talking to a guy and laughing until he said “FINALLY MY DREAM OF TALKING TO AN ASIAN GIRL HAS COME TRUE”. I was not gonna handle that shit, I said “ your dream ended, bye”and quit.
@kayg3405 3 жыл бұрын
Good for you. Now that is a fetish not true love.
@sasha44486 3 жыл бұрын
Yesss omg i have been seeing that the sexualization of Asian people has been on the rise😩😩
@Eyeluv2d 3 жыл бұрын
Your reply to him 😂😂😂😂
@seemaa6528 3 жыл бұрын
folk got the audacity to say that on your face, oh yeah, fetishization and racism against asians is seen as a 'joke'
@beez1408 3 жыл бұрын
GIRL WHAT- sis you dodged a bullet on that one😭
@Deathnotefan36 3 жыл бұрын
another thing, they go around and ask " would you date a black girl?" that shit is so cringy
@NKOSi1415 3 жыл бұрын
Fr or “light skins or dark skins” aka light skins vs dark skins
@Somcognito 3 жыл бұрын
Right 🤢🤢🤮🤮
@aloof8429 3 жыл бұрын
esp the foreign ones like in korea or japan. like we are NOT worried about y’all!!!
@slayboots 3 жыл бұрын
@@aloof8429 GIRL THE AMOUNT OF VIDEOS THAT I SEE LIKE THAT IS SO 🤢 like it's kinda sad to see women wanting validation from men they have never or will never meet, AND THE FACT KOREANS OR JAPANESE MEN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THAT SHIT OMFG 🙃
@aloof8429 3 жыл бұрын
@@slayboots exactly, it’s unrealistic and creepy !!
@bluelikekrishna 2 жыл бұрын
This is SOOO good. We needed this!!
@heyshawty6946 2 жыл бұрын
I like that you always put english subtitle in every videos because it really helps me to learning english. love you❤
@fermi-dirac 3 жыл бұрын
the obsession of having mixed race children is disturbing..
@TheMereDEATH 3 жыл бұрын
Kylie jenner
@Da1TruArtistPup 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly but then they'll get mad if they come out darker than a paper bag.
@Nprelaw 3 жыл бұрын
@S J And that is also equally disturbing
@percivermilli8946 3 жыл бұрын
Just for "beautiful hair, small nose and divine complexion". If that isn't the most disrespectful, bias shit to say to ah whole group of people who are not only your akin but in your community, the same color scheme as you which is brown?🙄
@sunshinedesignsbend 3 жыл бұрын
It may be idealistic for some people, to blur the lines of racial separation. Some people want to preserve their race, others want all races to mix thinking it will make humans one, without racial distinction. Some people have good intentions even though others don't understand. I'm not trying to negate black women feeling like a white man's fetish, but not everything has sinister intention.
@pdnwkd 3 жыл бұрын
You never hear people call someone "a mayonnaise queen" lmao
@beththomas3532 3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣😂😂😂
@PinkPopcast 3 жыл бұрын
wtf?! 😂
@ultymateslayong6758 3 жыл бұрын
Stop💀💀😂😂
@tianacosta2163 3 жыл бұрын
Jesus 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@bangtancrackheads1704 3 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@dez-m 2 жыл бұрын
Its about to be 4:00n the morning. I have my midterm at 6:30 pm and I'm losing my shit to insomnia. I've been a fan of Khadija for months now, and I've been binging YT to get through the morning. Ended up educating myself in the process! Thx for the insight!
@shamekarosa157 2 жыл бұрын
Omg, words cannot describe how much I love your channel and the content you produce!!! You say everything that's on my mind but that I cannot express intelligently because I get to fucking angry!! PLEASE KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING 🙏 You don't know how much you are needed. When I express to my non- African American husband what I go through as a black woman in this country, he doesn't believe it. But now he will be watching your videos. Much love ❤ to you sis!
@beedrinkinghoney 3 жыл бұрын
bruh imagine a guy going up to a white girl and calling her BREAD. being called a food is not flattery its just weird
@UnknownVir 3 жыл бұрын
Cream or Sugar happen but really, pet names of any sort have no business being used for people you're not close to or in a relationship with and only as long as consenting.
@Fedethedangerous95 3 жыл бұрын
oh my god I'm laughing so much, I want to do this #LETSGETTHISBREAD
@kingofthebeast4024 3 жыл бұрын
‘Breadbox’
@byleemalox2265 3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣😂😂
@TheRainyKingdom 3 жыл бұрын
Ok ik this is a joke but I would honestly enjoy being called bread LOLLLLL
@Itzkeisha 3 жыл бұрын
I was fetishised just the other day 🤢calling me chocolate isn’t cute baby
@jonly38 3 жыл бұрын
omg thats awful, and not okay at all. also love ur channel
@hobixsprite2136 3 жыл бұрын
PERIODDD 💯
@TAMARA-uy5pc 3 жыл бұрын
I really hope you and tee collab. I been waiting for monthsss!!! 😭❤
@jenniepeach6764 3 жыл бұрын
fr calling us food is weird 😭
@Cynthiaa.c541 3 жыл бұрын
it’s cringey when African American men say you like chocolate
@koobie83 2 жыл бұрын
I get fetishised for being a spicy Latina on dating apps. Dudes wanna talk to me thinking I’m a Spanish or Brazilian student living in Australia. When I tell them I’m Australian and mostly Irish and German. They’re like 🚪 👋🏼 It’s disgusting.
@michellesm1nd Жыл бұрын
a year late but i’m happy i ran into this video it’s so well put together. it’s something i’ve noticed myself but couldn’t quite put into words why i found it so odd
@wonsandonly 3 жыл бұрын
Honestly the fetishizing of black people and asians needs to stop on tik tok.
@kamilareeder1493 3 жыл бұрын
Mixed people: *quietly enters the chat 👀*
@lemongrassandpeach4884 3 жыл бұрын
not only tik tok but the entire world pls
@Da1TruArtistPup 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah the fetishization of *black women* has to come to a stop.
@Mayflower-xo8ew 3 жыл бұрын
*blasians have entered the chat*
@wonsandonly 3 жыл бұрын
@@helloitszandee yup
@niconicolle9623 3 жыл бұрын
The white men who are actually attracted to black women and married to them don’t make videos like that
@zimt2863 2 жыл бұрын
Lol yeah I been married to one for 36 years.....just happened no tik tok lol
@dessertcactus 2 жыл бұрын
it's so creepy for someone to whittle a group of people down to what they *want* to think of them... even when the person is part of that group, too
@samismith8752 2 жыл бұрын
Yup. Making the person you're dating or simply attracted to an accessory to your own identity is so strange to me.
@deshawnmiller4126 2 жыл бұрын
No they not most white men is married to white woman.💯
@LonelyDreamer. 2 жыл бұрын
@@deshawnmiller4126 wooooow thats messed up but we cant just assume every other race is using us for that some might just want love, but then again were talking 50-50
@Erolore 2 жыл бұрын
I’m glad that I’ve been broadening the range of content creators whose content I consume so that I get to enjoy Noir’s videos. She has great delivery and touches on interesting topics that I’m otherwise removed from.
@cielsteam 11 ай бұрын
I love how you articulate things in such a clever and encompassing way, yet still manage to crack us up with the joking attitude you sprinkle here and there. Discussing such loaded topics, while 100000% necessary and important, is often very draining for many people. However, I find the way you do it makes it very enjoyable to learn and discuss. Thank you for giving us such quality content presented in the best, most engaging way. ❤❤
@meh7497 3 жыл бұрын
When liking black women become a personality trait 😂
@richthekidsleptonmycouch 3 жыл бұрын
The bar is so low
@swaglish1415 3 жыл бұрын
Next personality trait, hating Mexicans
@crappyaccount 3 жыл бұрын
@@swaglish1415*looks at 2016-2020* I think that's already been done...
@Apolloxl 3 жыл бұрын
@@swaglish1415unfortunately it did it peaked around 2016 - 2017 when trump became president
@SoInTreble 3 жыл бұрын
Lol oooooo k
@ltd8461 3 жыл бұрын
especially when they see us as a collective rather than individuals. Like when they say “I want a black girl cause y’all thick asl😍” or “y’all are ________” like sir we don’t all have the same body type or qualities. WE ARE JUST PIKE EVEYONE ELSE AND ARE UNIQUE IN OURSELVES
@lisatak7891 3 жыл бұрын
facts gurl and that leads to other galls thinking that they ugly when they aren’t.
@mariahmorgan469 3 жыл бұрын
Yesss it’s like there’s a certain “black girl look” that these boys want😐
@yaapeasah4443 3 жыл бұрын
I'm a twig
@kennedyjojackson1202 3 жыл бұрын
@@yaapeasah4443 I look like a doggone pixie fairy 💀
@yougotgamesonyourphone6947 3 жыл бұрын
Meanwhile all of their non-black exes are walking planks..at that point you know it’s a fetish.
@tumbleweed0u812 Жыл бұрын
My girlfriend is black, I highly desire her due to her beautiful heart, her belief in God and how she treats me. I am myself, I don't try to act outside of my race, just be yourself, she accepts me and I accept her, that's what we both love about each other. It's very unfortunate that black women are kicked on so much, however, I find black women beautiful and truly fun to hang around, great attitudes. Sad to see such misconceptions about black women, I find them to be just that misconceptions.
@awtumn Жыл бұрын
I hope you and your girlfriends relationship continues to thrive!
@shimmer4771 Жыл бұрын
One woman said Black people are thieves. Some people...
@nicoledeveraux4322 Жыл бұрын
along the vein of this conversation, i remember being eliminated as a romantic option on the basis of my race all through schooling. i had so many friends, but in my majority white school, most people never even considered me an option to begin with and i don’t think a lot of them were aware of it. those that did express interest in me were often either not white or made it very weird very quickly lol. interestingly though, rather than make me really crave romantic attention, this whole situation has had the opposite effect. i was entirely unconcerned with looking for a relationship for a super long time and i think it honestly helped me grow into myself a lot more as a result. brilliant video as always, tee, i loved your talking points. while i’m not a black woman, i am a woc and your message resonates across the board. black ladies do get their own special brand of bizarre attention from men and i recognized some of those differences mentioned in the discussion, but it was fascinating to see some similarities there as well. it’s nice to know there are other people out there are dealing with the same type of world.
@93runninggiraffes 3 жыл бұрын
Like, being more attracted to black women is not a personality trait.
@anthonyp2883 3 жыл бұрын
They probably just do it for clout and are actually lying
@mekfiethio7388 3 жыл бұрын
Actually , it's a preference Edit: I sound like I'm being a bitch but that's not what I'm trying to seem like. It's just a preference, people like what they like. It is what it is. 🤷♀️
@sloppyjoe5739 3 жыл бұрын
@@mekfiethio7388 but its not a personality trait
@mekfiethio7388 3 жыл бұрын
@@sloppyjoe5739 yeah
@sloppyjoe5739 3 жыл бұрын
@@mekfiethio7388 don’t say yeah bc that’s exactly what this person said like u sounded dumb.
@Lia_03x 3 жыл бұрын
So I’m half black and half white and i’ve been called “melanin queen” or “caramel baby” “chocolate” by adult white men and yeah that’s just a weird thing to say. And I’m only 17 so that’s even weirder
@ecccentrication 3 жыл бұрын
For one regardless of gender people shouldn't call you or anyone for that matter crap like that but then your under age too? that's just weird asf
@anhedoni4510 3 жыл бұрын
That’s gonna be a yikes from meeeeeee :/
@tironnarexxmorriss2883 3 жыл бұрын
Uummmm yeh -datzah nooooohhh-stay strong young lady
@ivys.2006 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 14 and it happens 💀
@morganlegayfay 3 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy to see that I'm not alone I'm also 17 ans mixed too and I have some pretty similar stories
@kelialollos1666 2 жыл бұрын
I cant image growing up surrounded by people telling you that you aren’t desirable most of your like. I live in italy and the second i was born and growing up I’ve always been called beautiful and praised for my features, same goes for my other black friends. It’s sad to hear that it isn’t like that everywhere.
@kathope4484 2 жыл бұрын
I keep hearing that Italy is the place to go for black women. I need to go there😄
@kelialollos1666 2 жыл бұрын
@@kathope4484 italy has a lot of problems with racism but it differs from where your at and the people you meet. The biggest problem is the fetishization of black women, especially from old men. But guys under 30, that generation, understands it’s bad, of course there are exeptions. In 20 years of living her I only had 1 obvious act of racist. It was a guy in a minicar that honked at me and gave me the middle finger. I was shocked but I laughed it of, mostly because I wasn’t alone when it happened. So yeah it isn’t perfect
@shimmer4771 Жыл бұрын
One woman said a guy got off his motorcycle and pinched her on the butt, then drove off.
@sirah1282 2 жыл бұрын
I read in a comment section somewhere that desire comes from admiration and respect, whereas fetishization comes from degradation and ownership. Obviously, as you said, black people and other poc can consent to being a fetish as it is a kink, but the fact that some people are victim to this and aren’t aware of the double meaning underneath concerns me
@sparklingjustice468 3 жыл бұрын
I see something similar to this but for Asian women, like white men wanting to date specifically Asian girls because “uwu anime girl waifu”. It’s disgusting
@phoenixfire4923 3 жыл бұрын
Oh yes Asian Women are highly fetishized too and it's gross.
@jocelyn9744 3 жыл бұрын
For real, this is so bad and almost widely normalized, it's disgusting
@jasminebrown1214 3 жыл бұрын
Yes I agree. I see that alot also. It's definitely gross.
@keiramitchell5240 3 жыл бұрын
my coworker is obsessed with korean girls cause he has some weird fetish with asian girl gamers
@errortryagainlater4240 3 жыл бұрын
Kpop fans and hyper-weebs tend to denounce sexpats who fetishize Asians in general, and then turn around and behave in the exact same way with whatever they're a fan of 💀
@stxrkilla 3 жыл бұрын
Reminder: fetishization and admiring are two INSANELY different things and are not even on the same scale.
@stxrkilla 3 жыл бұрын
And the food compliments....yeah that's gotta go.
@halcyonaudi0s718 3 жыл бұрын
@@stxrkilla can you explain what u mean abt food thing?
@alyah9098 3 жыл бұрын
@@halcyonaudi0s718 I think they mean calling black women chocolate
@stxrkilla 3 жыл бұрын
@@halcyonaudi0s718 chocolate, cinnamon, hot chocolate , cocoa, almond,ect
@yougotgamesonyourphone6947 3 жыл бұрын
@@halcyonaudi0s718 “my chocolate midnight coco swirl brownie queen” like Sir my name is Tamara..
@laurids7812 2 жыл бұрын
It made me really happy that you included „(…) or their group“. I know people who say „they“ or „you“ did or doing this and that and by saying that are completely correct. I felt more included in the topic and not accused of something by using ways to address a whole community.
@CHARLESNDC Жыл бұрын
Hello there from Washington, DC!! All of a sudden you just appeared. I stay until the end. URBOOTIFUL!! I learned quite a bit. Thank you. I am now a subscriber.
@mikaylacater822 3 жыл бұрын
to put it simply, "black people are trending" and that's why this whole liking black women for clout thing is so gross and misleading. We are not a trend...we're people.
@LibraP93 3 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@goldieee2003 3 жыл бұрын
Factss
@kayy1736 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly ! I've noticed in highschool it's some type of trend to have a black girl/mixed girl or guy. Its tbh sad. Like what you like but not just for a trend 🤧
@rebornmystic3274 3 жыл бұрын
Amen! 🙌🏾👍🏾
@verbalbeauty18 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Black people are trending and black women have been especially trending, which is why we have a lot of white women or light skin women of other races trying to copy the “black queen” aesthetic to get some of that money and fame.
@nicolasgalviza7948 3 жыл бұрын
Liking black women is not a personality trait. Look, I get it. some people like what they like, but... you dont have to tell us. its like yellow fever all over again TREAT BLACK WOMEN LIKE PEOPLE PLS.
@mariahmorgan469 3 жыл бұрын
YES IT COMES ACROSS AS DISINGENUOUS. ITS NOT SOMETHING TO FLEX. We are human freaking beings and not trophies to flaunt and to give yourself ‼️‼️
@ellax325 3 жыл бұрын
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK.
@superiorpanda6449 3 жыл бұрын
NiccoP FG Purrr ‼️
@wildslimes3545 3 жыл бұрын
“yellow fever” exactly, we should stop the fetishization of all poc as it happens to all of us and its bull
@brooket8068 3 жыл бұрын
i just want to say that when you said yellow fever i thought the virus 💀
@Ibriden 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for addressing this particularly sensitive topic. You've done it so skillfully. Greetings from Algeria!
@hannahmichellelambert8983 Жыл бұрын
I love how in all your videos you go out of your way to bring in other people’s voices and plug other creator’s videos!
@liteflightify 3 жыл бұрын
They think that sh*t is cute and that they’re being real “Liberal” and “open-minded”. Most of the time it’s pandering, it’s baiting and/or it’s fetishizing.
@KaiDecadence 3 жыл бұрын
I think the true test of this is to see if they've actually dated black women. As in had an honest relationship with one. Not just a fuckbuddy situation but an actual strings attached relationship. I think that will show if their "love" towards black women is as sincere as they try to make it out as.
@Royalty_girlie 3 жыл бұрын
@papí 4chan thank you, but you know someone is about to start a war over nothing.
@melissaredhead6000 3 жыл бұрын
Lao Decadence Yes very true. Most of these men have never dated much less married a black women. Like if you have a preference but it never takes precedence then...
@vegetaismydad5382 3 жыл бұрын
And *way* too many of these heifers let that shit slide. And when I call these dudes out, my *own* damn people cuss me out for it. SMH.
@planet.barbie 3 жыл бұрын
@papí 4chan Amen!!
@mimireuser5383 3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend is white, he prefers black women, but doesn’t shout it to the world, in fact I didn’t even know that was his preference til later lol. He doesn’t dress different, talk different. I’m just glad I didn’t get the creep.
@mimireuser5383 3 жыл бұрын
@@ttwhite3004 exactly! I am just me, and he loves that, and I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world. It is the most refreshing, relaxing, and comforting thing on this earth.
@Q.T-T 3 жыл бұрын
@@ttwhite3004 That lowkey is an accomplishment tho because it's kinda sad how many darkskin black women still are obsessed with black men who make it CLEAR that they want nothing to do with them.. 💀
@donovandavis6031 3 жыл бұрын
Lol this is a cringeworthy conversation for real lol
@paulelago9453 3 жыл бұрын
He's racist, preferring someone because of their race is the definition of racism.
@mimireuser5383 3 жыл бұрын
@@paulelago9453 I prefer non black men. So am I racist? Well, I’m going to go sprinkle fairy Disney dust and live my happily ever after. 🧚🏾♀️
@deeds7529 2 жыл бұрын
@ 4:30 she hit the mark. I used to enjoy watching these types of videos from these guys because I was super insecure. And it didn’t help that the same energy was not found in person. Thank God that He took me from that 😭
@pineconequeen6691 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve watched this video 4 times and I’m just about to watch it again because it’s so succinct and well put. I always used to think that this kind of stuff was well intentioned, because if you’re not a cis, straight, able-bodied, upper middle class white man, even the privileged group giving you a crumb of attention is such a complement as seen by them that it outweighs the objectification of an entire group of people. It kind of reminds me of the model minority myth because stuff like this seems flattering until you realize it simplifies entire races and cultures to being “smart” or “attractive” instead of talking about them as human beings, with multidimensional characters and feelings. It stops genuine discussion because racist folks can point to these men who use their attraction to Black women to get clout, and say “see look you don’t have any problems, because the oppressor likes you.” But what happens if they don’t. If the “favorites” are fetishized and reduced to a couple characteristics by the privileged group, what happens to the unlucky ones? Do privileged people think they’re unlucky or unfavorable to them on purpose out of spite or are they trying to exist in a system that will hurt them and use them either way. Great vid Tee
@mimipeahes5848 3 жыл бұрын
Lmao can you imagine if white girls got compared to food too? “Baby I need me a real juicy apricot girl, I’m tryna get me that 🍲 clam chowder goddess 🙌”
@BimpeOla 3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@kingofkings7054 3 жыл бұрын
“Oh how I just adore my mayo queens” 😭😭😭
@victoriam438 3 жыл бұрын
Bruh 💀💀
@xenophiliuslovegood6914 3 жыл бұрын
😂
@pikachudemsy9751 3 жыл бұрын
@@kingofkings7054 😭😭😭
@DK-sf1hj 3 жыл бұрын
They’ll say they like black girls and than when you look at their following list and the girls they’ve dated it’s a bunch of non black girls
@shaylany4232 3 жыл бұрын
They do anything for clout
@yougotgamesonyourphone6947 3 жыл бұрын
Literally just said this Sis. You love black women so much but your dating history says otherwise lol
@rebeccam.7249 3 жыл бұрын
Period
@zharak843 3 жыл бұрын
and they literally don't follow any black girls
@kshaun13579 3 жыл бұрын
Either that or the black girls of a certain complexion
@serenitygrubb5335 2 жыл бұрын
Found your channel through Tara Mooknee & absolutely love it!! Can’t wait to binge watch all your content when I get off work ❤️❤️
@winterwolf0100 Жыл бұрын
The moment they have to bring someone else down in order to lift you up is the moment you know it won't work. You shouldn't ever have to make someone feel ugly just to make someone else feel beautiful because they are already beautiful regardless of how someone else looks. People can be and are beautiful outside of comparisons.
@shimmer4771 Жыл бұрын
Yes! Some Blacks would do it in reverse. They would say they love White women and talk about the snow bunnies or "If ain't snowing, I ain't going." These dudes would say Black women have attitudes. Just sad.
@iimichelle8747 3 жыл бұрын
Why do people get praised for not being racist? It's weird-
@Jenibelle 3 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@Rha_C 3 жыл бұрын
Ikr? It’s common decency. It’s like praising someone for not littering. And the sad thing is that some people expect praise for not being racist.
@og-greenmachine8623 3 жыл бұрын
I hate the British But not the copper ones Judge me... 👉🏽I don’t give a shit😎
@renedo141 3 жыл бұрын
@@og-greenmachine8623 what is a copper one? And that’s a joke right lol
@AnthonyRossetti 3 жыл бұрын
Well I think it’s a monster we created. Since a lot of white people now a days seem to think they are considered racist until they proclaim they are not. Then people praise them for being unproblematic. I think it has a lot to do with why some of these guys are like “look at me ! See I like black women! I’m not racist! “ because they might genuinely be attracted to Black women but feel they need you to know they aren’t racists. Lol.
@td605 3 жыл бұрын
I'm a black woman who has dated all ethnicities of men. Dating white men for me was a bit tricky as I never knew what to expect, but let me tell you, anytime and I do mean anytime a white guy asked me out and I agreed to the date, I made sure to request a restaurant at the blackest area I knew of for the first date and if we dated past the first, I requested to go to the whitest area- because you will not deny me or hide me. Also anytime they referred to me as an ebony queen, nubian princess, exotic blah blah blah, I was OUT- and by out I mean at any stage of the date, be it appetizers, dinner, etc. I collected my purse and walked straight out the door of the restaurant.
@vibez.no.cartel 3 жыл бұрын
Uno what. That's actually quite clever. I wish I could like this a million times so people see it more.
@user-l4uof 3 жыл бұрын
that’s hella smart😳 don’t mind me just gonna take that trick
@Chocokaylarobin 3 жыл бұрын
Yes!! My friend she's saudi arabian and her first boyfriend only liked her because of her race and she broke up with him.
@Ahyawnah 3 жыл бұрын
Are you in ny Suggest me some restaurants in the blackest area
@stephanielufungula8907 3 жыл бұрын
Nice trick might have to put that in my purse!
@Sony6848 Жыл бұрын
it sounds so weird to like someone because of their race like... haven't you tried to like someone for their personality? no? ok :) you are gorgerous! and i absolutely loved the way you talk and give the information
@karupin9893 2 жыл бұрын
Just found your channel and am binging all of your videos. I looovvveee your commentary and the conversation. I also just want to say that the bar is in hell. Not on the floor, not in the ground, in metaphysical hell.
@leahj7601 3 жыл бұрын
im so tired of being compared to chocolate. im a human being. 🧍🏽♀️
@beautycreambar4330 3 жыл бұрын
💀💀
@mentalwealth6454 3 жыл бұрын
This
@OnAComeUpChea 3 жыл бұрын
Ok chocolate
@leahj7601 3 жыл бұрын
@@OnAComeUpChea how long did it take for you to come up with that one? you must be some sort of genius.
@beautycreambar4330 3 жыл бұрын
@@OnAComeUpChea that's so embarrassing 💔
@ok-ed3eq 3 жыл бұрын
OR THEY’LL LIKE A BLACK GIRL AND THEN WHEN SHE REJECTS THEM THEY’LL BE SHOCKED BECAUSE A BLACK GIRL REJECTED THEM!!! THEY FEEL SO ENTITLED BECAUSE THEY THINK THEY’RE SO NICE BUT ITS JUST EMBARRASSING ⛄️
@vibez.no.cartel 3 жыл бұрын
It’s a weird superiority complex most white people have due to media conditioning them as the “epitome” of attractive when that’s in fact not true. We all have different tastes and preferences. Some of them just have a hard time believing they are not everyone’s top choice.
@ok-ed3eq 3 жыл бұрын
@kyle zizza What?
@tacrewgirl 3 жыл бұрын
This
@mamallamadrama9035 3 жыл бұрын
YES!! True truth right there!!
@lynnwynn4931 3 жыл бұрын
I got called the n word for rejecting him
@Suggiemomma8 2 жыл бұрын
Girl I love you voice it's so soothing and calm 💜💜💜💜
@kelliwallace829 Жыл бұрын
I'm definitely gonna share this...this needs to be shared
@Daisy-lo6lo 3 жыл бұрын
everytime i see a young black girl ask her non-black fave if he likes black girls, a piece of my soul breaks off and floats away in the wind
@viviand.6280 3 жыл бұрын
SAMEEEEEEEEE!!!!! it hurts .... it hurts me
@khadmohamed 3 жыл бұрын
LITERALLY😭 its so cringeworthy
@nope.thankies 3 жыл бұрын
cough cough K-Pop Stans cough cough
@xoliyah6553 3 жыл бұрын
when the young black girls literally praise them for the bare minimum of liking a black women it KILLS me, the “YASSS KINGGG” “he a spicy white boy” i hate it i hate it all
@sameerakhan7455 3 жыл бұрын
@@nope.thankies I'm confused. What does Kpop stans have to do with this? I'm just curious 😅
@aliabsolute2060 3 жыл бұрын
This honestly needs to stop. Even white women do this. Like as a lesbian, I've had some girls say stuff to me like, "Oh yes, such a strong black girl needs to eat" when I went and got some food, or "I like the idea of a younger black girl dominating me. Queen" just out of the blue in a conversation when I brought up the colour of my skin. Or like "My dark-skinned, chocolate queen?" Like I've been been called "Exotic".
@ebaycat4445 3 жыл бұрын
Uh hell nah
@doreydavidson 3 жыл бұрын
Seems very weird and creepy. o.o
@artalcoolique3341 3 жыл бұрын
The fact they assume how we are sexually just because of our skin color is so fucking disgusting
@talliecolon3659 3 жыл бұрын
i've been called exotic too lmao i didn't know it was fetishizing and didn't think much of it when it first happened to me, but looking back i kind of raise an eyebrow at that comment
@sodapopsugar2602 3 жыл бұрын
Exotic ?? Wtf 💀💀 some people act as if they have never seen a black person before
@kiaj.d.5855 Жыл бұрын
I dated a white guy senior year of high school. He was a regular white guy. He didn’t dress in “urban” gear or try to “act” black. We had a good relationship too. We broke up since I was going to college in Louisiana and he stayed in Ohio.
@katherine_queen5294 2 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU SOMEONE SAID IT! I’m not Black but I am a Hispanic girl so I’m very used to fetishization of races and I always get uncomfortable when people talk about how they wanna be with someone and have a mixed baby. I remember I saw this white girl talking about how she wants to have a mixed baby and I was so uncomfortable but I couldn’t even explain why. You have literally said exactly what I was thinking. It’s sad that POC especially the women have to deal with this all the time as if it’s normal cus it’s not.
@pashatash 3 жыл бұрын
As a Korean culture enthusiast, this is a MAJOR issue within the community also. Black fangirls will search any proofs than a Korean celebrity likes us. Full videos made BY black women of video clips where korean celebrities show the minimum courtesy to a black girl and slap a dozen of heart eye emojis. Those men are known by name within the community and intensely celebrated. But again, it's a trauma response to the racially insensitive community that constantly ostracizes us.
@kayjohnson1178 3 жыл бұрын
I completely agree! Gosh those fangirl clips give me war flashbacks.
@lisatak7891 3 жыл бұрын
You writing facts hun, it’s honestly so upsetting.
@AndSoWeLaughed 3 жыл бұрын
Literally just wrote this comment! Thank you! It’s fucking crazy. That whole jun lee situation showed the depths of this fetish. It’s kind of nasty. And the same black women fetishise the Korean male celebrities, who use our music and our culture to make money and still wanna dress in black face. Lord gosh. and we both know who makes those videos, she is crazy.
@nelle5339 3 жыл бұрын
Oh gosh I've seen those video compilations. It's literally kpop celebs politely interacting with black fans, which wouldn't be so bad except that the titles are always like "*insert celebrity name* likes Black Girls?! PROOF!!!". Like Tea said, the bar is literally on the floor.
@-macadamia-1778 3 жыл бұрын
PERIODT POO.
@taylorblack3495 3 жыл бұрын
“Shouldn’t you be grateful?” No.
@ChurchofPhillyWatch 2 жыл бұрын
That's right because it's NOT a goal of ours to achieve your approval. Exactly my Sister 🤩💝
@sm1purplmurderedme583 2 жыл бұрын
so true
@taleenawherry5524 2 жыл бұрын
When white men try to talk to me. Throwing the fuck up!!!
@loralarose9615 2 жыл бұрын
@@taleenawherry5524 gee maybe there not a racist 🤣😂🤣
@taleenawherry5524 2 жыл бұрын
@@loralarose9615 it's my personal opinion and when they try to talk to me it gives me slave master vibes
@blubblub8890 2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are eye-opening! Thank you!
@ohmylaurenn 5 ай бұрын
your memes and the way you speak are everything
@BolanleJenny 3 жыл бұрын
I am not a fetish, I am a whole ass person and people cannot use stereotypes to try to connect to me. I have a personality that is more than my race and if you are not interested in me as an individual.... Goodbye 👋🏿
@nachyocheeze9348 3 жыл бұрын
Period
@briannaharper8901 3 жыл бұрын
😗💅🏾.
@bbypinkcherry 3 жыл бұрын
i’m just confused as to how black women are always heavily associated with food....and food itself is extremely sexualized when considering how it’s advertised in media. like you’d never refer to a white woman as “white chocolate goddess” or some shit like that, so why me???
@m.m.i.9586 3 жыл бұрын
I don’t know if this happens very often now, but in old literature, women with light complexions were often described as being “creamy” “peaches and cream,” “milk-white” and “honey-blonde.” Perhaps these terms are no longer In common use, but I honestly wouldn’t be surprised to read that the heroine of an old romance novel was a “nymph, with skin like fresh cream and a rosebud for a mouth.” Or some such nonsense. 😂
@jadapaige9775 3 жыл бұрын
I think a lot of these tendencies come from literature. I saw another comment that mentioned how there aren't a lot of positive ways to describe brown in nature (dirt, wood, etc.) So food although it may be "weird" is in fact a better alternative. Personally as a black woman I've never had a problem being called chocolate. But I definitely have to admit the whole eating a chocolate bar in front of the camera thing... is a no for me.
@bbypinkcherry 3 жыл бұрын
@@jadapaige9775 yeah, i completely get that. i guess being called chocolate is better than dirt lmao, but still. like you said, the eating chocolate bar thing is just....not my circus 🙃 just call me pretty or attractive and go if you wanna compliment me - don’t eat a hershey bar 😭
@bbypinkcherry 3 жыл бұрын
@@m.m.i.9586 i noticed these types of terms while taking my english classes last semester! i really wouldn’t mind it if they were still used commonly today with our counterparts. i mean it is still weird to have your beauty associated with food, but at least we’d all be attractive foods together lmao 🥴 like i just feel like it’s so exclusive to black women to only be associated to chocolate, ya know? like just call me pretty or attractive if you feel that way and go
@jadapaige9775 3 жыл бұрын
@@bbypinkcherry 🤣🤣 fr! I honestly don't see the need to compare people to food at all. Like can't we just be called pretty without all that extra stuff.
@salem1569 2 жыл бұрын
you're a very pretty person and your voice is very calming and sounds very nice. even the background/atmosphere in you're video is calming. T^T
@AlexS.776 2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are so informative I love them so much!! I have learned so much since following you xx
@alyshabarrett1553 3 жыл бұрын
being fetishized makes it hard to navigate romantic partners because you never know someone's true intentions.
@clare_jordin 3 жыл бұрын
Just withhold sex and money. The jokers always leave.
@seismicvertigo345 3 жыл бұрын
@@clare_jordin Best advice for women ever is to withhold sex. I wish more knew lol
@clare_jordin 3 жыл бұрын
@@seismicvertigo345 fr, it also helps to know a man's character as well
@slimmjaiiluv 3 жыл бұрын
@@seismicvertigo345 its sad bc as an Androgynous being ..even with gay men u have to do that ..especially when ur not the usual..it always shows true colors.
@elisaa9855 3 жыл бұрын
You know when you ask the right questions.
@caitlynmartin4020 3 жыл бұрын
When I was like 14-15 I used to think getting told I was “ pretty for a black girl” was a “compliment”. I’m embarrassed at the fact that I thought that way. I think that’s the most disrespectful “compliment” you could ever give someone
@BrownSugaBabe 3 жыл бұрын
It really is! That is the worse and most disrespectful comment ever. I have heard "you're pretty to be dark skinned " so many times in my life and it's absolutely sickening.
@caitlynmartin4020 3 жыл бұрын
@@BrownSugaBabe girl same!!!!!
@mesalouis8976 3 жыл бұрын
🤮
@phoenixamazon 3 жыл бұрын
I have been told that too, I had no idea how to respond.
@PeaceLuvDojah 3 жыл бұрын
If you say that, That’s a fk no for me
@nekia_therapist_coach 10 ай бұрын
Could not have said it better....love, love, love your content!
@ifehansson2254 3 жыл бұрын
The worst thing about this is that there will be black women thinking these men are actually being appreciative of them 🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️
@lennon9650 3 жыл бұрын
that, my friend, is called✨gaslighting✨
@BUFFEATER-lp8zk 3 жыл бұрын
there already is u have a channel called bri who think this is cute lmaooo
@foofa__loofa1271 2 жыл бұрын
Right the comments on those videos be like “yes finally someone who appreciates us😌” 😕
@kookiecream7259 2 жыл бұрын
I am indian and I saw this random white dude fetishizing Indian girls and I saw the comments on that video and I was like “no girls we are not falling for this"
@tatyanadmg 2 жыл бұрын
@luna dang 😢
@seasaltine 3 жыл бұрын
I physically cringed seeing that dude eatin chocolate labeling it as "black women"
@ink1018 3 жыл бұрын
same 😭
@msgirly6827 3 жыл бұрын
My body when into a cringe spazz that i cant even describe.
@suicidalthotss 3 жыл бұрын
LMAO same wtf was that - 😭
@cremetangerine82 3 жыл бұрын
It’s like he’s advertising his vore fetish!
@canary9418 3 жыл бұрын
SAME! ew🤢
@GTA_moha Жыл бұрын
As a black man I will never let another person disrespect a black women in front of me I stand with my melanin queens ✊🏿👸🏾
@vixromanov Жыл бұрын
💕💕💕
@Eldeecue Жыл бұрын
I go for not letting anyone disrespect any race or gender, myself. Gotta start somewhere, I suppose.
@GTA_moha Жыл бұрын
@@Eldeecue of course if I see any other race get harassed or something like that I will defend them but I feel like dark skin women are more vulnerable to that
@ranip7644 Ай бұрын
Aww that's so sweet 🥰
@goddessence8636 2 жыл бұрын
Say that!!!! 100% facts! New subscriber here. Keep it coming girl!!!
@rantallaboutit 3 жыл бұрын
Something that bothers me is the fact that many of these guys like to pick and choose which "type" of Black woman they like, "respect" and advocate for. They'll go hard for the "urban" hypebaes with shoe game, hoops, laid edges, glossy lips, tiny waists and big butts but will disrespect Black women with afros and bohemian or alternative style, etc. On the other hand, some of them will praise the natural girls and degrade Black women with weaves or vice versa. They'll hype up light skin women then disrespect dark skin women. They'll fetishize dark skin women, they'll fetishize curly haired mixed girls and try to pass it off as admiration and "respect". Don't say you love Black women when you only love and "respect" Black women who have an image that you like. If you support Black women, as you claim, then that respect should be extended to ALL Black women not just the ones who you find sexually or romantically attractive. Respect should never be contingent on whether or not you find someone attractive. A lot of these "I Stan Black Girls" and "Protect Black Women" social media boys haven't learned that yet.
@alicia-hd2cs 3 жыл бұрын
Is it not like saying “i like men” or “i am bi and love girls”? Everyone has their preferences but they dont mention it when they simply say “i like men”.
@benchwarmerss9165 3 жыл бұрын
It they be the same ones tryna change dude into a black dude .. like nah if you gonna date a white dude let him be white .. white as hell .. boy meets world Corey white 🤣
@kopii00 3 жыл бұрын
@@benchwarmerss9165 what??
@benchwarmerss9165 3 жыл бұрын
@@kopii00 more Leonardo decaps less Travis kelces
@jadahb4552 3 жыл бұрын
@@alicia-hd2cs I feel like you should pay attention to the part where she said “like/respect” If your only like or respecting 1 type of girl/black girl while treating the others like dogs shit you got a lot of problems. Or if that person is just outright lying about liking that race, because usually people will eventually figure out that you really don’t or maybe you’ve said something disrespectful before.
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