TEN Types of FRIENDS you MUST AVOID on your Elegance Journey!

TEN Types of FRIENDS you MUST AVOID on your Elegance Journey! | Avoid these friends at All Costs!

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Ladies, for those of you who are on your elegance level-up transformation, a huge congrats to you for getting this far! You have done so well. However, it is time to address the elephant in the room- bad friends. What constitutes a bad friend? How do you spot a toxic friend? What do you do if you have a friend who you can't get rid of- in particular a friend who is hindering your growth? In this video, I explain in detail the types of friends you must avoid on this life-changing journey if you want to be successful.
0:00 Introduction
1:40 The Change Resistant Friend
3:09 The Complacent Friend
4:03 The Reckless Friend
5:25 The Jealous Friend
7:19 The Criticizer
8:51 The if I can't do it you can't do it type of friend
10:08 The Negative-Minded Friend
11:09 The Boundary Breacher
12:20 The Malicious Friend
13:27 The Guilt tripper
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@tina8796 10 ай бұрын

Be careful whom you call a friend. If you don't want something to be known don't tell it. Confiding in people is a dangerous proposition. I have been shocked at the things (lies) people have told behind my back. People are not your friends. If you want a friend, get a dog or a cat. Then, you'll have a TRUE friend. Lots of people parading around pretending to be your friend and smile to your face while stabbing you in the back at the same time. Just because someone smiles at you doesn't' mean they're your friend

@elizabethpace1591 10 ай бұрын

Sad but true.

@proudmganda1159 10 ай бұрын

💯

@kimciszek-kane397 10 ай бұрын

Agree

@wayaca47 10 ай бұрын

So Bam Nailed it ! When People Show You Who They Are Believe Them: Maya Angelou

@miriakasemiire4529 10 ай бұрын

True story

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 10 ай бұрын

"Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”" (1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV)

@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 10 ай бұрын

Amen.

@tina8796 10 ай бұрын

No truer words were ever spoken

@92martymar 10 ай бұрын

Absolutely 🤍

@randomvintagefilm273 7 ай бұрын

Yes!

@autumnvaughn5889 6 ай бұрын

Amen... Always look for God-fearing women!❤

@tina8796 10 ай бұрын

‼ People who are gossiping to you are gossiping ABOUT YOU. And you can take that to the bank ‼

@kimciszek-kane397 10 ай бұрын

Agree

@user-gc8qc6zz3u 4 ай бұрын

True

@linasornsuwan2781 2 ай бұрын

Agree 👍

@kimberleykanyongo9189 10 ай бұрын

In summary ; avoid 1. The change-resistant friend (they hate self improvement) 2. The complacent friend (they never take you seriously. 3. The reckless (dramatic and troublesome - resistant to advice) 4. The jealous friend. 5. The criticiser (they naturally abhore dreams) 6. The "if I can't do it, you can't do it." ( their greatest joy is to see you fail) 7. The negative minded friend. 8. The boundary breacher. 9. The malicious (they are always fault-finding ) 10. The guilt tripper ( they manipulate you to think you don't do enough)

@ladybrave2658 10 ай бұрын

Very helpful, thanks. Was in a hurry 😅

@Momo-lv4kn 10 ай бұрын

Also, be careful with who fake praise you, but deep down, they mean nothing with smilely face.

@princesschumbaa98 10 ай бұрын

@@Momo-lv4kntrue

@faithhope4703 10 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@92martymar 10 ай бұрын

So Helpful Thanks 🌸

@jennyleeisme19 9 ай бұрын

This list applies to ALL relationships for me! Friends, family, romantic, work, acquaintances...

@Fan-qu8qy 6 ай бұрын

YES!!!!!

@Starrr-ro8hg 2 ай бұрын

Yes 🙌

@77sunflowers 10 ай бұрын

Some family members can be the most toxic .. they alway look at you with a smirk or a frown like there's something wrong with you.. you always feel so sick in your stomach when you're around them... and you always feel happy or content with yourself. It's like you always need to prove to them that you are good enough... but you never ever feel adequate around them.

@tina8796 10 ай бұрын

The jealous "friend" is NOT your friend. They're a low-key hater

@Shay4YourMind81 10 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯

@thesmiffs2006 6 ай бұрын

“Hater” is low class, tacky slang…..

@user-np2sg6yf9z 10 ай бұрын

I’m a man. but I can’t help being your fan. You are definitely helping men by helping women. Hopefully homes will get back together with these very insightful and wise teachings. Thank you.

@jessicasteele2761 8 ай бұрын

Isn't she sublime?

@HSBsoulsurfer 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for being here; we need healthy men too. Not enough people doing the work in such weird times.

@Linda-ot3pj 10 ай бұрын

A really genuine good friend is like a rare diamond. The human race is so wounded and unhealed. We have become so terrible at love I always ask God to put His spirit of love inside of me. Be a being of love. EXUDE LOVE

@Passions5555 10 ай бұрын

So true. The human race is beyond wounded. We are suffering from spiritual gangrene.

@Friends46488 7 ай бұрын

Well said.

@GuidetteExpert 10 ай бұрын

I can tell you as a woman getting to her 30's that the friend circle is soooo important in how you end up in your future. Ofc spending time with family and friends in your work can also impact you. Just chose to speak with people that are good for you and are how you want to be.

@tina8796 10 ай бұрын

Get rid of low-key haters. I got rid of two so-called friends that were low-key haters. Very happy to be rid of their toxic behavior. Snide comments, etc. They claim they don't know why ? Really ! They KNOW

@stormy8092 3 ай бұрын

My Dad always said, 'Better alone than in bad company."

@kayp.3832 10 ай бұрын

I use the term "friends" loosely. They are not many out there....

@LazyAmericanWoman 10 ай бұрын

wouldn’t using it loosely imply that you call any and everybody friend?

@jamarlblackett7663 10 ай бұрын

Very Tru

@j.elington1483 10 ай бұрын

Who is has no friends but is still watching ?😂

@Heythere2810 10 ай бұрын

I have zero friends now 🙋‍♀️ I am 27 & it’s hard making new friends because I’m more selective of who I want to hang out with. Also some of the people she describe have been a close friend. The friend who doesn’t respect my boundaries. 😔 I told my friend not post that photo because I look weird & she still posted it. I sent her a video where I look dumb trusting her I told just don’t post it & guess what she post it on line. Also she once gave me the phrase, “I bought you something, so you should buy me something.”

@divinelove4604 10 ай бұрын

I would not call someone who is jealous of me a friend. Jealousy is a muderous spirit.

@Amgirl03 10 ай бұрын

Great list! Super important and it weeds alot of unsavory results out of your life. Better to be friendless for awhile and get closer to The Most High than to desperately cling to the distractions..the enemy put in your life to keep you away from Abba's purpose for your life...

@sarahbartholomew3442 10 ай бұрын

If you want to level up and be classy, stay away from trashy women! If you don’t want to be a pick me, stay away from those types! I’m really struggling w this. You really are who you’re friends are.

@Beccadette 10 ай бұрын

You are the sum of who you hang out with. You also start exhibiting their characteristics. I thought that the removal of these friends from my life was a loss. No, it was me realizing who I am. Thank you for the videos on the leveling up journey. 🧡

@OnlyOne_Her 10 ай бұрын

Hey Vivian I love your content, can you please consider doing a video on toxic parents that manipulates and how to detach from them?

@Adriana-ph2eb 10 ай бұрын

Define your limits, find your own home, be respectful at all time. 😉

@joanramsey4002 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Vivian. Yes, I agree with your list. I had a so called friend and I had to get advice from the police to deal with some of the antics, she was very sneaky! That done, my life improved no end. I later found out that another mutual friend was having a bad time with her too. A regular church goer, no one would suspect her. I still keep the crime reference reports as a reminder to be more discerning.

@tina8796 10 ай бұрын

OMG. That sounds like our neighbor. We had to threaten her with the police and lawyer's office. She is also very sneaky / phony. We're very glad to be rid of her. She terrorized us constantly.

@joanramsey4002 10 ай бұрын

@@tina8796 Glad that life has improved for you. Nobody really understands how bad it can get, they think you're crazy. My trust in people has changed, a lesson learned for sure.

@Anika99356 10 ай бұрын

First view 😅. Can you please a make a video on the most common etiquette mistakes people do? Thank you.

@elizabethpace1591 10 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, there are too many people like this around, you have to take care of yourself. Excellent video, thank you for sharing ❤

@garimamishra2340 10 ай бұрын

@@ElegantLily5rh2

@lvettesonai 10 ай бұрын

These are all spot on!! Sadly, a lot I recognize in people who are supposed to be my spiritual family. 😏 Bad association 🎯

@lvettesonai 10 ай бұрын

@@Heythere2810 Absolutely

@user-hq9iv4ff2c 10 ай бұрын

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@user-hq9iv4ff2c 10 ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

@user-hq9iv4ff2c 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

@harmonychidimmaonwujiobi 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Vee❤😊

@louisjaugustin8673 6 ай бұрын

I used to have many friends who I thought could be trusted I almost ended up with money and financial problem just for helping others now I'm very precaution and try to be careful who to be friends with!

@lolajacomino6574 8 ай бұрын

For all the points that you just mentioned and some more, I don’t have friends. I only deal with my family and with some of them I have to be like walking on egg shells. There are is always dramas with family so I think that’s enough. I used to give myself entirely to friends, honestly, entirely, not anymore. I’ve learn so much, well….I’m 73 now, so I have had enough experience. Thank you again for your work and for making these super helping videos. We all need them ❤

@lisau.4307 10 ай бұрын

As always another insightful and encouraging video! This type of video is also an important reminder to myself to not be that type of person as well.

@freedom1049 10 ай бұрын

Oh Vivian, you just described some of my family members, including my mom! 😮

@Friends46488 7 ай бұрын

Micah 7:5-6

@julijakeit 10 ай бұрын

My main red flags in choosing friends are: 1. Obvious toxic traits: jealous, gossiper, lack of integrity (liar, user, transactional, manipulator, criminal). They may start as a witty joker of the group gossiping about common acquaintances or celebrities or circumstances but soon they betray their jealousy, lack of integrity and only thrive for drama or to use others and then turn against you the moment you say no to them. 2. Naggers, complainers, criticizers, eternal victims. These people are incapable of doing things on their own, they'd rather blame everyone for the world being unfair, and will look for any excuse not to level up. They will also play 'experts' on how things should be done, never applying the same principles themselves. Worse, they will turn into toxic people from list no 1 as soon as YOU start succeeding inspite of the excuses they made for their failures. 3. Mentally immature people, sometimes because of one or multiple personality or brain disorders. These people need to see a therapist to heal before they form any relationship. Some of them need medication to control their disorders. Sad as it is, stay away from them the moment they betray any of the traits associated with mental disorder or even admit they have one or multiple.

@PASKAALINGA-gu9xc 10 ай бұрын

Vivi you are indeed an elegance ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤we shall eliminate such kind of friends around us ❤

@debbiedorsey2371 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video! Much needed and you are awesome!

@LazyAmericanWoman 10 ай бұрын

i love your videos and i appreciate your service of teaching us ❤

@proudmganda1159 10 ай бұрын

Viv ❤very well said. At my 50 years I said good bye to growth without forgetting my family members and I am at peace ✌️ ❤

@queenstoner9407 10 ай бұрын

Jealous friends soo toxic avoid those ppme

@ingridbell6769 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for delivering such quality content. ❤

@chea591 10 ай бұрын

Very helpful! Thank you so much for doing this 😊❤❤❤❤

@claudiafagim8202 5 ай бұрын

Dear Elegance. You are right about everything.I grew up thinking I had to please everyone and accept people as they were.Thank God ,I was somehow aware of bad paths one can take and that stopped me from being with the wrong people.

@AReid-ss3kk 10 ай бұрын

Good topic. Good job! True friends are priceless and rare. If you have one good friend you are blessed.

@estheradu3192 10 ай бұрын

Great to be back here again. Thank you for sharing such great information.

@nikeade1115 10 ай бұрын

Sooo touching… sharing your personal experience sinks this episode deeper.Thank you for what you do Viv

@Shayane-ub8ky 10 ай бұрын

Beautiful lovely elegant lady of wisdom

@marie-clairemotchie349 10 ай бұрын

Impressive! Thank you ❤

@SB-hj3mg 10 ай бұрын

On point! Thx for the absolute truth!

@biblebeliever.7 10 ай бұрын

Open my eyes to the toxic friends in my life, God bless you Vivian ❤

@sbm3417 7 ай бұрын

Lady of Elegance are real. I have experience alot around me sometimes negative energy from other. I have a friend very mouthy and gobby do go mile of insults. I have learn not to speak too much of my plans in front of her. 😮👀🙏🏿ENGLAND 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

@rhemamensah6582 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Ms Vivienne.

@alekxa90 7 ай бұрын

Your skin is glowing, so beautiful! Thanks for your video

@sheliasmith1242 6 ай бұрын

Thank you that was the best advice clear and concise and to the point

@joyamenpryce8979 10 ай бұрын

Thank you very much for your inspiring and informative information. I do appreciate it. Love ❤️ and Light 💡.

@monicahmaina8948 10 ай бұрын

i found these points totally useful. Thaks

@asha4189 9 ай бұрын

This is very helpful and knowledgeable! Would love to hear a video on the kinds of qualities to look for to cultivate healthy friendships

@TheMocao 10 ай бұрын

Over the years, I’ve had to end “friendships” with a few people who were passive aggressive. I once heard a pastor say, “If you don’t know who you are, there are people who will try to tell you.”

@saniyyahhollingsworth7064 10 ай бұрын

Thank for sharing this useful information.

@Trevonvaul 8 ай бұрын

THANKS, I'VE RECENTLY HAD AN AWAKENING WHERE IT RELATES TO TRUE AND REAL FRIENDSHIP, I WILL NOW AUDIT TO CHOOSE WISELY. WHERE I AM IN MY JOURNEY AT THIS PRESENT MOMENT, I CHOOSE PEACE OVER DRAMA.

@haniamakram3399 10 ай бұрын

Excellent video! Came right in time when I just had a row with a “criticizer”!

@lusiahaundjondjo1949 7 ай бұрын

Thank you very much, Vivian, for sharing. Indeed, your lesson is very uplifting and educative.

@patriciakrahene9295 10 ай бұрын

I love this video ❤ thanks 🙏

@therealcraftymom10 5 ай бұрын

I just wanted to say thank you for these videos ❤

@d-cameliaR 9 ай бұрын

I ve recently made the difficult decision to ask myself the hardest questions about my friendships. I discovered that a childhood friend who sometimes reaches out to me was a source of negativity, vulgarity and even abuse. When I told this friend just a little bit about how I felt she immediately justified herself, blamed me and twisted my words. I hope I will have the courage to cut her off completly. Thank you Viviene for your content! ❤

@guadeloupe61 10 ай бұрын

Hello, thank you for this video. This is really good advice. I am sorry for the back-stabbing that happened to you, I mean it; it happened to me too. Sabine.

@isabelcowley1248 5 ай бұрын

❤❤❤ I've recently stumbled upon your chanel, and I'm just LOVING it. Beautifully presented, such interesting, honest and eloquent topics... they are difficult to resist. I've recently retired and began a 2 year long African Adventure Trip throughout my continent of Africa... well this "LEVELING UP" journey has clearly reflected which friends belong to which category. I quickly sifted out the jealous ones. Thank you for a beautiful chanel. ❤❤❤

@f.jp.s9668 6 ай бұрын

You are really elegant yourself my dear. Thank you for what you are doing.

@ojimaojoatabo1745 4 ай бұрын

Good and educational presentation. God bless you richly Vivian ❤

@aaronaustrie 8 ай бұрын

That’s why I rarely have friends. That’s something that’s hard to find today.

@carineokeh3543 3 ай бұрын

I came across this channel today. I decided to subscribe to your channel. Your words are full of wisdom.❤

@esthermutua1287 10 ай бұрын

Great and amazing lesson

@expinankehmanjong7209 10 ай бұрын

Hey Vivian. I really like your videos. Accept love from Cameroon. I listened to this video at the angle of " could I be one or more types of a friend that my "so called friend" might think to avoid someday?" I'm a selective person when it gets to putting some people in my "circle of friends" and that keeps me moving stress-free in life. It's heart warming to know you're not as named above to those you love and call friends.❤

@jessicasteele2761 8 ай бұрын

Hello to Cameroon!

@expinankehmanjong7209 8 ай бұрын

@@jessicasteele2761 thanks a lot🙌.

@mollygambiza9186 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing❤

@user-hu5gz3vm7r 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing ma'am I'm reminded about whom to dislodge and whom to keep.

@estherabaqueen 10 ай бұрын

God bless you sis. Thank you 💜

@HumanbeingonfloatingEarth 10 ай бұрын

you are such a breath of fresh air.

@nellygold4ever 9 ай бұрын

I love that "No one really fails, unless the make the decision/choice of not trying again". Right on point

@RichInFLAVOR 10 ай бұрын

Excellent!

@nnennaeze6575 10 ай бұрын

Very useful God bless and keep you Vivian

@NilgunYetis 8 ай бұрын

All About boundries and you are well defining.thank you.

@user-od2td3le8o 10 ай бұрын

nice one, i love your channel

@hwh5045 10 ай бұрын

Love you n thank you❤🙏🏼

@LeahWalentosky 9 ай бұрын

When a friend wants to change I always say: you are a good person but you know who you are and you know what is best in your journey so I will support you through it

@cynthiakeysfiona2377 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 🥰

@CarolineWamucii-gr3ym 2 ай бұрын

Useful points. Most describe narcissistic behaviour. Steer clear.

@McQueenDP 10 ай бұрын

Very informative

@lionhotty 10 ай бұрын

I throughly enjoy your content. Is it possible you could create a video about how an elegant lady should act?

@Meliexoxo_ 10 ай бұрын

Oh my I love these content do more ❤

@junewade6859 10 ай бұрын

Great Content!

@widowswatch6610 8 ай бұрын

I have never had a good friend. I don’t know why. But I am older now but I love your videos and will follow your information. ( I feel like I am a kind person )

@blanchendifor1809 8 ай бұрын

Thanks again

@user-xq3yd1mv3y 10 ай бұрын

Luckily I've never had a jealous friend! Thank you Vivienne :)

@Eagle77744 10 ай бұрын

Friends are full of " " you know what? So it best to be your best friend. Have no attachment but have fun

@Ericaashu 10 ай бұрын

I had a friend who have all. Of the character, it was so draining pulling up with her. I just has to walk away coz I got tired of the negativity.

@loveisthegreatest1112 10 ай бұрын

I love your channel

@island661 6 ай бұрын

I have zero friends and I prefer it that way. Most people are toxic and fake.

@miriamchigurl7450 10 ай бұрын

Very educative

@Starrr-ro8hg 2 ай бұрын

This is so true about the jealousy so true even your family can say you could never . … so smart thing to do is Do you don’t say a word

@adriana_admaiora9091 10 ай бұрын

This video arrives in a moment of my life of deep changes and leveling up goals humanly and professionaly. I'm getting rid of a lot of people who used to call themselves "my friends". Some of them using the Bible too!

@blanchendifor1809 6 ай бұрын

Thanks Vi vi

@Wiseladybrittany 9 ай бұрын

I lost two good friends on my growth journey. It's the best decision I have made . When the time comes I'll be open to making friends who are not intimidated by my growth . ❤❤❤