The #1 Mistake Women Make in Relationships (Every Time)

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The #1 Mistake Women Make in Relationships (Every Time)
Are you struggling to keep the love alive in your relationship? In this eye-opening video, find out about the biggest mistake women make in relationships that can push their partner away. Learn valuable relationship advice from Keoion Henderson as he shares insights on how to maintain a healthy and loving relationship.
This video addresses common relationship problems such as how to communicate effectively in a relationship, the impact of using vulnerability against your partner, why men shut down emotionally, and tips to keep the love and connection strong. He covers key topics including relationships, relationship advice, love, avoiding common mistakes in relationships, effective communication in relationships, understanding male vulnerability, and strengthening your relationship bond. This will eventually end any relationship.
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@champ8605 16 күн бұрын

Too true. Ive cried and told my wife the shit that bothers me most and now she understands me. No judgement she just listened, not all women will twist and use your words against you.

@fuyukazemi 15 күн бұрын

It warms me that you found a good woman that listens to you.

@thomasmitchell4128 15 күн бұрын

Sounds like one hell of a woman. Is she single ?

@mulfie4749 14 күн бұрын

Your lucky mine didn't!!! She thew me to the wolves!!

@joanner1427 14 күн бұрын

[Proverbs 32..10._A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

@koolkat5217 14 күн бұрын

Just most.

@kona8832 25 күн бұрын

its been 15 years and my family still wonders why i don't tell them anything, same thing, they just laugh at me, never again.

@dilhancongar-pn1nd 23 күн бұрын

Yeah because your problems are laughable just like your attitude don’t blame the people around you for being a mild tempered over emotional 🐈 instead look in the mirror and ask yourself is it really that bad? Do I have cancer like other kids or am I sitting in a wheelchair? Do I have parents or someone else that cares about me and makes sure I’m warm and fed? Generation loser is all I’m seeing nowadays eating sugar playing games watching shows sitting around all day being lazy don’t want to work don’t want to approach girls watch too much adult content yeah yeah yeah you should be happy that you are even tolerated on this earth

@realblueshark 21 күн бұрын

Finally someone i can relate

@danielbee2399 21 күн бұрын

Womp womp 💀 Edit: thank you everyone for likes ❤️❤️❤️

@realblueshark 21 күн бұрын

@@danielbee2399 Bro likes his own comment 💀

@danielbee2399 21 күн бұрын

@@realblueshark You also liked ur own comment also call me daddy 🥵🥵🥵

@doi5451 8 күн бұрын

If this happens enough in a person's life they wont open up to anyone, period. Be supportive to those people, even if they dont tell you everything.

@arsenicghostdf 4 күн бұрын

This has happened my entire life so nowadays I just don’t open up to anyone period …people call me cold and emotionless …I don’t really feel love or pain anymore because it’s all the same to me

@themoon69420 4 күн бұрын

Been a recluse for years now...

@TalonE-bg1rt 4 күн бұрын

@@arsenicghostdf God is our only friend

@ismailhussain4699 3 күн бұрын

@@TalonE-bg1rtshee, not even him sometimes

@hazelherdz 2 күн бұрын

@@arsenicghostdfmy GF is like that & is hard for me… i like to open up & talk, she doesn’t, i’m a girl to if that’s relevant at all. I wish she did, i guess i just support her & are there for her, but for every lack of communication there’s always assumptions, rather you want it or not. Is how the brain works.

@beyourownvibe6638 9 күн бұрын

Brother...I shared some deep stuff with my childhood friend, shit that a guy needs to overcome. And the very next day this guy is using the things I confided in him against me to prove a point...yet I never did the same to him, ever. I learned my lesson that day.

@wendigos_eat_people7177 4 күн бұрын

That's very weird. Was he from a single mother home?

@Emilyrest 4 күн бұрын

@@wendigos_eat_people7177you men really hate women don’t you? lol

@kendrahudgins6412 2 күн бұрын

@wendigos_eat_people7177 Not so unusual in my world either. Had it happen with two men, one husband one a friend. I've known both for over 35 years. On more than one occasion (many in fact), one would bring up something from my past I confided in him about and used it "against me." The other would pick apart my responses to hurtful things and made me feel as though I was wrong for my feelings of hurt and/or pain. Both have parents that are still happily married for 55 and 60 years.

@kereiltutt5769 5 сағат бұрын

Strangely toxic femininity coming from a man, let alone someone you confided in.

@pdelta 2 сағат бұрын

@@wendigos_eat_people7177 That's racist. Also, no. Single mothers aren't pansies.

@mrmikeyshub Ай бұрын

Seeing that brother shedding a tear broke me fr. Too true... but we are men, we will suffer

@improbuslotus Ай бұрын

That was a woman…But hey, I’m not a biologist….

@mrmikeyshub Ай бұрын

@@improbuslotus young black man in blue behind the main stage held by another friend of his the frame is before hthey change to the maine speaker not the main person with a loong as tear. Just that young brother in the back with his friends feeling it. Buy hey, I aint no biologist either. I finished chemistry and phisics, did biology only 8 years in Europe because people dont have to be from the US but I digress. I apologize I made you take your time write and respond without really feel what he said and just look around....his point is made just now

@user-kp3rc4eq8x Ай бұрын

Probably crying about his dad leaving him

@mrmikeyshub Ай бұрын

@@user-kp3rc4eq8x broooo like.... no matter how sad one is.... there will be a mfk in the youtube comment section making you laugh out loud

@mrmikeyshub Ай бұрын

@@user-kp3rc4eq8x i didnt wanna like your comment but I gotta respect the hustle

@aripendragon9849 15 күн бұрын

Yup. That's why I don't tell my family stuff anymore. I mean, I'm a female, but I 100% understand.

@redwolfdragonkirangordondj2840 13 күн бұрын

Same

@Jamescanon-ek6ho 12 күн бұрын

You don’t understand

@margrettahawkins2749 12 күн бұрын

Yep. And men have done this to me too. You're vulnerable with them...they tell other people your business, mock you, criticize you... Then they say, "You just don't communicate anymore. " 😐Wonder why that is?

@dissident1337 12 күн бұрын

Relatable, family are the worst people to do this. You can break out of any other relationship when it gets to that point, but blood is harder to get away from.

@pinecone4610 12 күн бұрын

Same about the family part, and when I do catch myself feeling/acting friendly with them, I have to almost correct myself

@restoredivinemasculineandf8028 8 күн бұрын

This is true for anyone. I never trusted my parents with my feelings. One time I shared something with my mom and shortly after, she threw it back at me. We all need to just be listened to.

@awholelotofnothing6456 7 күн бұрын

I have told my wife so many of my deepest secrets. She pretends like she never heard them, i love that woman.

@Thirzy Күн бұрын

@Titangoboom99 Ай бұрын

I was vulnerable with a woman ONCE. and she told her friends. In front of me. And played it off as a joke. Never made that mistake again. Never will.

@issyeboi2060 29 күн бұрын

hope you dropped her*

@rue_777 29 күн бұрын

as a woman. I wouldnt either. dont blame u

@Titangoboom99 28 күн бұрын

@@em7937 as if I'd be vulnerable with someone on the internet.

@erfanpeykarjou6423 27 күн бұрын

@@em7937regardless of how unacceptable someone’s statement is; as their partner it’s your moral duty not to use that against them especially when it comes to violation of privacy. If your partner said something you didn’t appreciate and you’re not mature enough to handle it, just leave them; it’ll be better than being petty enough to use it as an excuse to attack or humiliate the one you once claimed to love.

@August_2456 27 күн бұрын

Gosh I'm so sorry you felt that way. I have a father like that.

@nicolanina 11 күн бұрын

Oh man...sad memories. Time ago i was with a girl for like...2 years, and after some bad days, she asked if i was good or need to Talk. After thinking on It a few seconds....i decided to open, and told her that i was feeling lonely cuz i used to Talk and hang out with many Friends, but i realized that everyday....i see less Friends, i Talk to less Friends....and That i was feeling like sometimes we all need people pay attention to us. She looked very understeable, and at this moment i felt so good to Talk. 2 months later, we was arguing and in some moment she said : at least i dont need to fullfill my empty soul with people to feel better. My jaw dropped to the floor, and i just answered : im sorry to let you know how i felt, and im so sorry that Talk with you made me feel less lonely, It Will not hapennd again. She said sorry inmediatly, but It was over, we broke days later

@Playay. 5 күн бұрын

Damn, i feel you. Hope you get better, man, wish all the best for you.

@jestosebno666 5 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing your story brother. Stay strong ❤

@MroZzzzz 5 күн бұрын

Sorry you had to go through that my man 🙏

@saureco 5 күн бұрын

Women are children.

@Technoanima 5 күн бұрын

I hope learned.

@clementm9161 10 күн бұрын

I'm a man and will keep sharing my feelings. If you ditch me for that, it's on you. I'm human and need emotional support too. And I'm still a strong and resilient man. We need balance in life.

@tanielleedman8770 8 күн бұрын

If no one has said this to you, I will. Thank you, for not letting bad experiences change the way you treat others. There is no reason a person should receive bad treatment for something they never did or say. I'm a firm believer in this. I guess I still want to see the good in people. That being said, it will take me longer to be vulnerable with anyone. Even if the wounds have healed. There's safety in weariness sometimes.

@Loujones1226 7 күн бұрын

BALANCE IS KEY!!!

@clementm9161 7 күн бұрын

@@tanielleedman8770 I agree !

@meileverse 6 күн бұрын

You clearly know your worth. God Bless You.

@seijin4426 6 күн бұрын

As am I brother, as am I.

@mrmusicknowledge6354 4 күн бұрын

I've lost many close friendships due to this. Its not just to win an arguement, it's when they belittle the things you tell them, its over.

@LynneSimpson-mm3us 3 күн бұрын

So true. I just shared with a friend why I hadn't been in touch to get together. She used the info against me, then told me she loved me. What a liar and so self-focused.

@liangjiarui1241 15 күн бұрын

When you expose your deepest emotions and wounds, you usually get no sympathy or understanding, but rejection and criticism. I learned that in a hard way.

@E4439Qv5 13 күн бұрын

Gotta never stop sticking it to my mom then.

@hanssimon8780 13 күн бұрын

I lost several women's just like that, I never open up like that again.

@73cidalia 13 күн бұрын

@@hanssimon8780 Wrong women for you. It's a good way to weed out the trash. You'll gain a better sense of who's worthy of hearing your story.

@user-kd5ig3vc3s 13 күн бұрын

Goes both ways

@dollarstore7994 13 күн бұрын

I've never opened up to anyone...but I remember a few months back told my sister something silly about her boyfriend, truly something innocuous, but made myself clear beforehand to never tell him what I said. Long story short she now uses that in arguments against him and he truly resents me for that (and to be clear he is an amazing man that I truly like) . If your own blood does that to you can't even think open up to someone else about anything.

@Vikturus2k6 20 күн бұрын

Amen, that was my ex. I did everything for her, was never good enough. When I had hard times I got told “you’re the man, deal with it”. Meanwhile she was going through things herself, I was there. Every minute. When I needed someone I was not I wasn’t manly for talking about my hardships. We broke up obviously, then I found my angel. She’s the exact opposite of my ex, she supports me when I’m low and never even murmurs a thing I’ve brought up. They do exist guys, just choose wisely. God bless.

@DaughterOfEncouragement 18 күн бұрын

What an awesome testimony! So encouraging 😊 Thank you for sharing, brother ❤ God bless you both!

@zyncsgamingchannel9602 18 күн бұрын

Don't do that... Don't give me hope...

@AK-uu1qk 17 күн бұрын

Sorry, the ex was right. We should never seem weak, it is disgusting to a woman, repulsive and gives her sense of being unsafe with this weak emotional man, she feels like he will not deal with possible danger and will start gradually losing the respect and attraction to a man. And you know how it ends - in woman's cheating with a stronger man, or in her acting disrespectful or in losing interest for sex with a man.

@AK-uu1qk 17 күн бұрын

Sorry but the ex was right. We should never seem weak, it is disgusting to a woman, repulsive and gives her sense of being unsafe with this weak emotional man, she feels like he will not deal with possible danger and will start gradually losing the respect and attraction to a man. And you know how it ends - in woman's cheating, or in her acting disrespectful and or in losing interest for sex with a man

@amjadm7730 17 күн бұрын

@@zyncsgamingchannel9602 bro true ....

@Sharon... 5 күн бұрын

I am a woman and agree 100% ,this goes for any friendship in life,i have had this happen me,it hurts,and i watch what i say now,it has a long lasting effect

@Diamond_Bridge 9 күн бұрын

The tolerance and patience we have to give women is immense and grand it should be a rewarded, but the moment we allow ourselves to open up and express ourselves only to be ridiculed and ashamed is when love no longer exist, just the solidarity, and silence of anger.

@ashton1952 7 күн бұрын

@@Diamond_Bridge not everyone passed the character tests life gives.. we chose better people for company next time

@novablazing9929 Ай бұрын

The axe never remembers what scars it made on the tree, but the tree always remembers the scars the axe made

@mrmikeyshub Ай бұрын

R u good brother?

@novablazing9929 Ай бұрын

@@mrmikeyshub Lmao nah, I appreciate you checking in tho. You ok?

@tmy3411 Ай бұрын

@@novablazing9929 we are in it together brother keep pushing

@novablazing9929 Ай бұрын

@@tmy3411 thank you. We must keep pushing, keep walking this path, and we do it together

@j-og1fm 27 күн бұрын

@novablazing9929 you got this man remember pain will be forgotten the same way today will be in a year

@LittleBarracuda 17 күн бұрын

Am female, grew up among boys only and was basically raised like one. Family was platonic as fk, most emotions were considered weak and definitely not something to talk about, deal with your own shit basically. With my first partner i learned to open up a little since he came from a very emotionally open household. Regretted it. Made my life a living hell. Broke up after 5 years. Second partner - tried again. Opened up after some time, went well, broke up due to other reasons, uses everything against me to make sure people see me as the bad person and not him. The guy im seeing now feels like a male version of me. He had the same experiences with his past gfs. I sincerely hope that we can help each other heal.

@coffeecup369 14 күн бұрын

I HOPE THE SAME FOR U BOTH B FRIENDS GOOD FRIENDS

@Rayview-px1hm 13 күн бұрын

Understand

@a-a-rondavis9438 13 күн бұрын

He'll be a time bomb like the rest. The pattern breaks with YOU.

@redwolfdragonkirangordondj2840 13 күн бұрын

Damn same bruh O-O

@ReallifeAang 12 күн бұрын

Shit …. Just don’t repeat patterns like in your last relationships . I wish you the best with him!

@aaronlandry3947 5 күн бұрын

That's because way too many people talk at each other in a relationship rather than talking to each other and communicating with each other. For some reason people think that it's perfectly normal to have an argument in a relationship but a healthy relationship has debates and discussions not arguments. There's a difference between disagreeing on something with your partner and working out a solution with them versus just straight up attacking them because you want to be correct.

@AK-qt2xu 7 күн бұрын

This wonderful advice can also apply to men who throw everything back in their women's faces when the woman opens up to them in times of vulnerability. It's hurtful to see and experience human beings treating one another so poorly.

@lagoya 11 күн бұрын

Best thing I ever learned for all my relationships was not to fight dirty: Don’t dredge up the past, don’t blame/accuse, don’t call names. Focus on the present, focus on the facts, and look for a mutually acceptable solution. Above all be humble and willing to apologize and forgive. Love doesn’t hold a grudge. Using someone’s vulnerability against them would definitely qualify as fighting dirty.

@Bearded_Tattooed_Guy 8 күн бұрын

Sound advice. When fighting a loved one, remember who you're fighting. Don't fight dirty, don't fight to win; you'll both lose.

@ohdiverdoc 6 күн бұрын

Shutting off vulnerability is not really the same as holding a grudge. If I smash my thumb while using a hammer on a nail, I don't hold a grudge against the the hammer, the nail, or my thumb. But I am sure not interested in repeating the experience.

@lagoya 6 күн бұрын

@@ohdiverdoc of course. Forgiveness does not have to equal trust

@gracebe235 6 күн бұрын

This is very true! It’s also a sign of maturity.

@naturesway16 4 күн бұрын

@@ohdiverdocyes, but that doesn't mean you'll never use a hammer and nail again. You learn to deal with it. But if you avoid hammers and nails in the future, you'll just be guided by fear. And if you do that with everything, you might not hurt yourself anymore, but you won't live anymore either.

@pjmrees 14 күн бұрын

Yup, this happens to ANYONE who's with a toxic (narcissist) person. He prodded and fished for my story then used it against me for 23 years until I finally left. One of my notes to myself I read daily was, "NEVER share ANYTHING of meaning with him again."

@Lovepeaceandchickengrease 11 күн бұрын

Yes!!!!

@gewfone 11 күн бұрын

Why would you wait that loooong ??? Masochistic....!!!

@Bravetreee 10 күн бұрын

@@gewfone🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

@TheAchilles26 10 күн бұрын

By your definition, 99.999999999% of women are narcissistic then.

@ArchAngel435 10 күн бұрын

I had the good sense not to open up to my husband of 25 yrs. Discovered that he is narc after he discarded me. He never opened up either, except the first time we met, he played victim and cried about how he was treated by his family and his ex wife. Said he missed his first born child. He never ever expressed vulnerability after that, now he's gone, just walked on, leaving me and our children.

@jrfoster4225 6 күн бұрын

This is so incredibly true! I feel like sending this link to my ex. She wonders why after she left me then decided to come back, why I said no. I was sick of this very thing and when I was free, I intended to stay that way.

@StrongestHumanAlive 16 сағат бұрын

I'm so blessed to have a friend who doesn't console me and tells me that everything will be fine. He tells me how everything that's happening, is happening for a reason. And that you'll be compensated for this, either in this world, or the afterlife. I remembered telling him in a playful tone that I wanted to end myself. I thought he'll just laugh it off. But he kept asking what's wrong over and over until I gave in and told him. After that conversation, I've never been more happier and satisfied. God bless you my bro

@andrewsmith9078 13 күн бұрын

My wife and I have been in each other's lives since 2004; we were 11 years old at the time. We have two beautiful children, and I fall more in love every day. She knows how to treat and respect me, sometimes more than I deserve. I'm so grateful to have such a woman in my life.

@ciboire699 8 күн бұрын

damn at 11! you are a lucky dude most of the relationships at that age finish in like a year or less

@arnabseth7800 7 күн бұрын

@@ciboire699 its not really a relationship at that age is it. Its just a cute acquaintance. Also the op said they knew each other since 11, not that they were in love since 11. Its so cute when people who knew each other since their childhood can keep themselves together. Its like they've known each other their whole lives.

@ciboire699 6 күн бұрын

@@arnabseth7800 you make a good point but still it's impressive

@KaiisTied 6 күн бұрын

That sucks

@willmariegirona2911 13 күн бұрын

My hubby has gone through some hardships in life and won't tell you how many times I've heard the same stories, but I will keep hearing them as long it helps him heal and I know it has, cause after 8 years, he's such a goofball and loving guy and has opened up to tell me so much and I will always cherish him and protect that vulnerable side of him ❤❤❤.

@idrawattention900 10 күн бұрын

He’s lucky to have you. I’ve been the same way w my partner. I just hope he’ll continue to do the same for me & never get tired of doing so.

@thepunisher9698 10 күн бұрын

That is so sweet, and I'm so glad you both have each other in this hectic world lol

@willmariegirona2911 10 күн бұрын

@@idrawattention900 I pray for both of you to become each day closer and closer and as time passes, have healed and just remember the memories that both have created 🙏🏻 ❤️🫂

@willmariegirona2911 10 күн бұрын

@@thepunisher9698 Amen 🙏🏻 I thank God since he's helped me with my hardships also. Bless you 🙏🏻 🫂❤️

@1Psalmaday 9 күн бұрын

A good woman is a blessing Proverbs 31:10-31 10 A good wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. but It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. We should always support and uplift our partners and be a blessing to one another.

@dianalacour2267 3 күн бұрын

Same for a woman I can tell you this from experience people just want to be heard it's hard for people to just listen without letting ego step in 💝 hope you find someone who can sit and truly listen to you 💝

@RifleKitty 9 күн бұрын

When I cried to my man about how I was hurt by what he said. He told me to suck it up. I was devastated. That was the last time I ever cried in front of him. Then when I broke it off with him, he called me child and emotionless. Not realizing last time I showed him my emotions he shot me down, every single time.

@peppr115 8 күн бұрын

It genuinely saddens me whenever I see these comments. I can sort of understand why he may have done that because I used to sort of do that myself when I used to suppress my emotions. What would happen is I was emotionally numb, and so I wouldn't really understand the big deal of why people would cry or get emotional; it was just annoying in my mind during that time. Eventually it got so bad that I didn't even know myself anymore. I eventually got a friend that was really nice and eventually helped me recover and helped me be more ok with expressing my emotions. My family would always use my feelings against me, so I guess at a young age my mind might've put up walls for protection. I personally believe for a person to have empathy, they first need to understand themselves. If a person's mind doesn't process its own emotions, how do you expect their mind to process others?

@RunitBackBoys 17 күн бұрын

I always have deep ass conversations with my homies and they tell me they hate it but they also love it. They know I’m a true friend that will always be there for them

@Cinnamon-sugar-toast 7 күн бұрын

One day, they will miss it.

@mocabeentrill 20 күн бұрын

I have a few women, family and others that are receiving this version of me now and forever more.

@hikenzankusen 17 күн бұрын

No point. Get them out of your life

@hikenzankusen 17 күн бұрын

If you keep them around, you're telling them implicitly that what they did is fine and you have no standards

@Knightcraft42 14 күн бұрын

I go to God, I don't let anyone know my feelings. It's been probably 6-7 years I last time I cried in front of another human

@brownjade 13 күн бұрын

I don’t care about the males in my family and Vice Versa.. since we all became adults it just naturally happened but even back then when we played as kids they had many double standards

@taratarat5818 13 күн бұрын

Same

@Bedmoments 10 күн бұрын

This definitely applies to men too, they have often used my vulnerability against me and attacked my past abuse as a sick angle when trying to prove a point. I even had one man say to me “ ugh your father was a child abuser” the child in question was unfortunately me and I had told this ex this very personal information and definitely regretted it afterwards. I had a man say “ you have no friends or family and this proves you are a bad person “ I had to ditch my friends as his controlling behaviour made it difficult to keep them and the previous comment explains why I ended up with no family. I had my past and all its difficult times used against me by every single previous partner I had in fact…… happy now though and married to a wonderful husband who loves me completely and I love him too. We have had similar difficulties but we have triumphed over all of them. We now have a very comfortable and wonderful home with successful careers and beautiful children. Never ever give up people…. ❤

@smithsmith1956 8 күн бұрын

Everytime. Ok, sure. HOWEVER, this is mostly a female behavior. Nowhere near as many men do it as women do.

@remveel2443 7 күн бұрын

It's crazy because men understand that as long as they keep it to themselves, no one can betray him but himself. Which honestly, I'd much rather trust myself than anyone. Which is also the reason why men don't open up or act as if they have no problems. Because if you think about it, acting like you have a problem will make you open up. But you don't want that at all. So you always say "I'm fine" so you get no attention. Meaning no one will find your problem and no one can betray you in the process. Even in times of despair, we know how to play the safest game

@colinevans8619 23 күн бұрын

It’s true. My ex did this to me and then would say “why don’t you talk to me like we used to?” This was the same person I confessed my love to and opened my heart to. Later in the relationship, she said and I quote, “I have never loved you and I never will love you.” That level of damage can never be repaired. She destroyed me in one sentence. I can’t even put into words how devastating that one sentence was to hear.

@sirprize5191 23 күн бұрын

That is fucking evil, man. And I thought me losing this girl was the worst

@valantinegomez9520 23 күн бұрын

You'll find a better person.

@peapod5629 22 күн бұрын

Dear brother, don't let a manipulative and cunning woman break you. That's exactly what she wanted to do to you. You think she doesn't know that would hurt? She knew, she said it (regardless or whether it was true or not) to spite you when she realised the relationship was over.

@0Tony1 22 күн бұрын

She said it to hurt you but she most likely did love you

@RevealedFilms 22 күн бұрын

Rn she’s calling you a narcissist to the new unsuspecting victim.

@Stoicmom777 16 күн бұрын

You can lose anyone that way. Even a close friend.

@ModernMercenary 9 күн бұрын

Yes, but It's typically women do who do this

@winniethepooh5087 3 күн бұрын

My mother did that to my father, my brother, and me. And she wonders why no family member tells her our true feeling.

@abasi333 10 күн бұрын

Came to comments to see how many women made this about them and missed the point

@timkingsemail 9 күн бұрын

No shortage here

@Mega88888 3 күн бұрын

@LynneSimpson-mm3us this is way more prevalent with women, but in my opinion it's normal. I genuenly think men should be vulnerable only if necessary. Women do this "using words against you" more than men, but it's not necessarily intentional or for a bad motive. It's just how men and women are different, it's OK. I've had women do this against me multiple times. If a woman does it against me, I'll be more forgiving than if it was a man basically, given men who do this are usually doing it for a bad motive.

@lanaofficiel4042 13 күн бұрын

So true. If you LOVE your man, REALLY LOVE him, be a good listener, be available for him, just BE. He's your lover, not your rival, not your competitor, not your ENEMY.

@AK-qt2xu 7 күн бұрын

Yes Amen! Also some men can benefit from knowing their women are not their competitors but their partners!!!

@lanaofficiel4042 6 күн бұрын

@@AK-qt2xuYes, of course, it's vice versa also. Lovers need to be lovers and support each other, they should not be competitors with each other.

@Adrienne.Michelle91 14 күн бұрын

I understand how hard it is for men to open up. I've been guilty of throwing things in a guy's face once or twice before (because the same thing happened to me in reverse) but I'm growing and learning. I never want to make a man feel like he can't open up to me and pray my next relationship that we"ll be a safe space for each other 💕❤️

@upthepunxcollective7398 12 күн бұрын

Just understand that resolve you have now in this comment will be shaken and tested in the future, and it'll seem easy to go back to old ways. It is on YOU, NO ONE ELSE, to hold yourself true to what you say here.

@antonioturner3835 12 күн бұрын

You may have gone through this sort of thing before and im sorry to hear that but for men its kinda different, our feeling saren treally validated like womens are, yes men will haves used yours against you but in the time of when he was told he wouldve actually cared but for men we will tell them and it is instantly loaded as ammunition

@randygomez9595 12 күн бұрын

Men are not born having a hard time opening up. Look at little boys, like, elementary school aged boys. They are the most open humans in the world. Our post feminism culture makes it unsafe for grown men to open up.

@Fucyourfeelings 11 күн бұрын

You're not going to be anything but what you were before. Cause thst shit works for you.

@Day-Walker. Күн бұрын

Learning this lesson changed me. I will never open up again. Opening up was by far the worst thing i ever did.

@jimycrackcorn408 6 сағат бұрын

Those were some real tears of pain because that really knew exactly what he was saying!!! Respect

@farlonmuentes6004 14 күн бұрын

That's what I did to my ex. She used against me what I shared to her and the next day, she was chasing me with calls and messages until she got exhausted and stop. I ain't got no time for that bullshit. Weaponizing my vulnerability is sure fire way to make me get away from you. If I shared, it meant that I trust you and for you to use it meant you can easily betray me.

@manichairdo9265 11 күн бұрын

I like how you wrote: weaponising my vulnerabilities. I never regarded such behaviour as a weapon against me. Thanks.

@I_am_Raziel 15 күн бұрын

Literally every time I opened up, it was used against me in manipulative ways. NEVER again.

@alessiofrigerio833 10 күн бұрын

The shitty part is that they use the things we sad for years. Move on for God sake. The past is the past. And if I try to say something im bitching about it.

@ThrashedHydra 8 күн бұрын

Yup, it’s why now I’m single and my ex wonders why I wouldn’t talk. We argue it’s always “remember when you told me this or that” nope never again

@Keksakallu 2 күн бұрын

This is true across the social spectrum. If you are told - verbally or actually - that your emotions are mockable or dismissible, you lock them down for *everyone*.

@_ojosdegato 14 күн бұрын

Yea my husband uses all my insecurities that I trusted him with against me. He’s definitely lost me emotionally.

@Revrevbz 12 күн бұрын

You dumb for staying.

@TobiasRieper047 12 күн бұрын

Why is he still your husband? Gtfo from there, enjoy life with people that do care about you!

@_ojosdegato 12 күн бұрын

@@TobiasRieper047 we have a baby together and I don’t want to lose a day with her.

@jordanbelfort4494 12 күн бұрын

@@_ojosdegatoDont want to lose day with her. So you would lose a case in court as a mother ? Your cooked anyways

@TheNeuteredCat1 12 күн бұрын

@@jordanbelfort4494COOOOOKED

@adamwhite7930 16 күн бұрын

Took my older brother standing up to my mom for me to finally start coming around again. I missed countless Christmases, 4th of July’s, thanksgivings, birthdays, etc. not because “I was sick” or “working”, but because I didn’t want to be around the person who made me feel like I wasn’t good enough my entire fucking life. I don’t know what exactly was said as I wasn’t there but it was along the lines of him snapping saying “why don’t you leave him the fuck alone for once? He doesn’t come here because of YOU”. Women, realize that while you may never be capable of hurting us physically, the shit you do, even once, will scar our souls for the rest of our time on this earth. We’re not “reserved” and “quiet” for no good reason.

@KtotheG 14 күн бұрын

My sister wouldn't stick up for me like that because she is just like our mother. They often clash, too, because they are so similar, but when all is said and done, she is riding with mama. They're both single mothers who resent men and masculinity. So they will live the rest of their lives without me. They said they didn't need any men anyway.

@adamwhite7930 14 күн бұрын

@@KtotheG I’m sorry you have to deal with that, man. I suppose that’s the fucked up part of life as a male, that it’s on YOU to move on and figure it out. But I hope you do.

@Loujones1226 7 күн бұрын

Prayfully you are much better. So sorry you had to experience that situation. 🙏🙏

@skibidikoshtantan 5 күн бұрын

mom always do that to me till she no longer believes i was that genius of a son of her and thought im trash with no emotions

@debraamerson8803 7 күн бұрын

Amen! However, that’s vice versa, and many women feel the same way. Now, if both parties are mature, open, and honest with each other as well as self, there would be no need for such behavior as shutting down communication. Respectful communication is just as important as breathing. I think many people are feeling 💕 the need for control of another person’s life. That stems from insecurity, usually because someone else is controlling their lives. That’s a mental imbalance. This is a good course that should become an eye-opener for many. Praise God for the insight on this subject; as many can benefit from it. At least one can take a look at their lives. God bless you. Much love 💕

@b8133 15 күн бұрын

And then you get blamed for being mad at them when you don’t talk a lot, when in reality you’re uncomfortable around them.

@rahulvinod1098 16 күн бұрын

The tears in those brothers eyes proved how hard and right this man with the mic is speaking ❤ Cheers to all us men fighting inner battles More power to all kings 🔥🔥 and whoever reads this comment remember I am proud of you doesn’t matter if anyone does or not

@NinjaPickups 7 күн бұрын

This literally happened to me. I drive an hour to work and an hour back. I wake up at 6AM to get ready. I am introverted so I like to stay inside. Every time I told her I am tired or not feeling like going out, always "You said that last time. You are always tired. I am more tired than you." Much happier now that I am single :)

@codesinging 2 күн бұрын

I love my husband so much. We’ve been together thru so many tough times. We’re both still learning and neither of us are perfect but we do try for each. The thought of us losing each other to someone else or just losing them is too much. Truth, light, and true love always prevail ❤🙌🏻

@BigBen-wb1kl 13 күн бұрын

100 %. Thanks to my own mother, I've known how important this concept is before I was 10. I haven't told her anything since.

@danieru_risu 6 күн бұрын

Yep. My mother doesn't keep stuff confidential and even if she does she's not emotionally mature enough to help me anyways as sad as that is.

@machine1223 18 күн бұрын

This is exactly what happened to my ex i was vulnerable and open with her and she did exactly that. And before we broke up she would come to me begging me to be open with her like i use to. Begging me to talk to her more and stuff. Saying stuff like you never tell me about your day anymore, you never want to talk to me. And i straight up told her that I did but you used it against me so I will never make that mistake again

@Zero.Zero.. 9 күн бұрын

Me being 17, my bf being 18, i love him unconditionally. I do NOT see another man let alone look at another man as anything more than a stranger. my bf has opened up to me. And bc of that, him letting his shell go, i love him and respect him even more for showing me his true emotions and his fears and his pain. I wanna help him grow, i don't wanna ever let him go, or slip away

@ScissorN 8 күн бұрын

Focus on school

@Zero.Zero.. 8 күн бұрын

@@ScissorN What do you think that I been doing.... Idk if education has anything to do with this video lol-

@mikec4308 Күн бұрын

yall are teenagers you got nothing to open up about yet. you havent even started life

@Zero.Zero.. Күн бұрын

@@mikec4308 you know nothing of our lives lol, we both are willing to live that life together and experience it all side by side. Opening up abt things is just apart of it all.

@RisingRose94 6 күн бұрын

Very true... but people have told me you cant just shut down after bad experiences. You have to stand up and voice things otherwise you will be stuck in a silent prison and no one will understand why. You cant expect people to always act right. Sometimes we need to have grace for those who wronged us and help them to see if they keep it up. THEN it will be forever ruined

@siennastar-siennariina-mor1747 15 күн бұрын

That's goes for both Man & Woman.....Anyone whom uses someone's vulnerabilities to attack them in the future,is weak as and not the sort of person you should continue any relationship with.

@joimonae4090 12 күн бұрын

Right but we as women often complain as to why men aren’t vulnerable

@Jamescanon-ek6ho 12 күн бұрын

As usual missing the point and crying for attention “but the women!!!” Stfu

@kittell6486 12 күн бұрын

@@joimonae4090Because the risk is huge. We open up and it's used against us, no more relationship, maybe for the rest of our life.

@aaronwagner9310 8 күн бұрын

Leave it to a woman to take something meant for MENS mental health and make it about herself.. makes sense 🤷‍♂️

@esterriesparabe 24 күн бұрын

Same with women, I opened up and everything was used against and even some things missinterpreted as if we spoke in a different lenguage

@Confessions089 13 күн бұрын

Language.

@dollop405 13 күн бұрын

That's because you were dealing with a Narcissist. Evil people!

@AllThingsRoshnee 8 күн бұрын

I'm a woman and that's my response. If you use my moments of vulnerability to win an argument or whatever, that's it. You'll never gain that privilege ever again

@HasanVohra-je7ct 2 күн бұрын

I told this to myself thinking of telling it to someone:- "Always remember Never tells your problems to anyone, no matter what!! If they get chance they will use your past against you!" Second " If someone ever tells you his/her problems never reveal it even at your lowest no matter what, this is what makes you a better person!!!" ~Hasan.M.Vohra

@sarahkessler2456 14 күн бұрын

That’s relationships in general. I had a “friend” do this to me. Used something very personal I shared during a vulnerable conversation, only to use it against me later on. I forgave her but I told her I lost all trust I had in her and therefore won’t ever be able to be close again.

@HoracioBautista-rs9wl 8 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear that but you also got rid of a burden and a backstabbing

@ninjinchapster8964 14 күн бұрын

This is so true, doesn't matter how many years pass, a man will never forget if you have ever used that moment vulnerability against them. It doesn't ever go away

@verona599 Күн бұрын

Bold of you to assume that I will stay. Had a former lover years ago, always listening all of his problems and deep secrets when he was being vulnerable and feeling blue, and then he said he likes the attention that he got but no longer interested with me due to my unfortunate looking. Nice play 😌

@josu4321 2 күн бұрын

exactly my thoughts, if someone opens up to you, you keep it safe deep inside you. that's a thing of trust and honor

@dijone11mus1 20 күн бұрын

What I don’t understand is how woman can see men like this and see other men understand and feel this but turn around and still call that man weak. It takes a strong man to be vulnerable in front of others. Stronger man than I could ever be.

@sparkmie 20 күн бұрын

I’m a woman and I don’t understand either 😂 I think it takes a very brave man to choose to speak about his feelings and insecurities. It can happen to women too I think, if you cry a lot or very emotional then you are too girly, dependent and dramatic and no man wants you. But yeah for any man reading this if some woman thinks you are weak for showing and talking about your feelings, just leave them. They don’t seem to have the empathy that a woman is supposed to have.

@metaLungiez 18 күн бұрын

@@sparkmieMen hate dealing with y'all's excessive emotions but we understand and _accept_ that's what you have to do to get all the other good stuff a woman provides.

@MPop-jg9mg 15 күн бұрын

@@dijone11mus1 I have nothing but respect for vulnerable men. My dad is one of the strongest men I know because he cries❤️

@Alixir1228 15 күн бұрын

Most women do not do this.

@KtotheG 14 күн бұрын

@@Alixir1228Have you ever been a man before? No, you haven't. So you can't gaslight us and dismiss our claims. Your unqualified denial means you're doing this now.

@techtexan2816 18 күн бұрын

I’m not a very emotional guy as in I don’t cry, get angry, or anything like that. I’m pretty chill for the most part. But I was dating a girl who complained about that I didn’t know what to say. Not long after my dad had some heart issues going on. We didn’t know what was happening, my mom was freaking out, he was adjusting his will, doctors were still running tests so we didn’t know how serious or not it was. Well my mom cried to me and I had to be a rock for her- comfort her for my dad. I cried to my girlfriend about the whole situation once. In the moment it felt like she was there for me and I was glad I opened up a bit. Well a few months later we’re in an argument nothing too crazy but she decided to throw that in my face going so far as to say I was a cry baby. I don’t think Iv ever instantly gone from loving someone to despising them so quickly before. That was a line not to be crossed. I immediately broke up with her. She cried said sorry but I was done. Told her she’d cried about some pretty dumb things - from her friend refusing her a snack at her place since the snacks were for her kids, or for just hard life, I remember saying this is my dad not a stupid fruit snack, i can’t get another dad. She begged and cried but I was done. Broke up with her on the spot and blocked her phone. The crazy thing is most men my age (28) have had similar experiences.

@thyhandle 17 күн бұрын

Hey, random guy here to tell you, I relate a lot to your story. Like you, I chose to let this person in. And she used the word " Whiny". Only not to my face...I found out later on she wore a "caring" mask but couldn't care less behind closed doors.....which felt kinda even worse then if she just said how she felt to my face. I too felt disgusted. Stomach churning, especially when you'd given them access to the Achilles Heel and marriage was on the table. If you read this, Good luck dude. I wish us both the best.

@shaylaahava6413 14 күн бұрын

Wow, so sorry to both of you!!

@iamz_mbie 14 күн бұрын

not rlly that crazy considering most men are like this too. i’ve always avoided relationships because most men can’t have a mature, honest conversation

@aldrans4652 13 күн бұрын

@shaylaahava6413 I'm sorry for him not that dumb girl hopefully she learned to never ever do that but I doubt

@aldrans4652 13 күн бұрын

@shaylaahava6413 I'm sorry for him not that dumb girl hopefully she learned to never ever do that but I doubt

@HeyhoBrando Күн бұрын

I had a best friend who died, and I just broke down, my girlfriend asking me what was wrong and when I told her she said “not like he was family or whatever so I don’t understand why you’re like this?” I was just floored on this, and after that never told her anything if anything was getting me down would go to my other friends but one day when she said “how is it your more open to your friends then me?” “Reasons,”

@TR-lk4ik Күн бұрын

This is so sad…if I had a husband and he wanted to talk, I’d be all ears. I grew up trying to share my feelings,etc but ignored, made fun of etc, so I understand how hurtful this can be🙏🏾

@Crasseuxdu1700 18 күн бұрын

my mom has been doing this to me as long as I can remember 😢

@_Irrelevant 15 күн бұрын

Same

@KtotheG 14 күн бұрын

Mine, too... and I no longer speak to her.. She's on her own until she meets her maker.

@laurayarbrough4646 13 күн бұрын

That’s sad

@aldrans4652 13 күн бұрын

Same

@ebonyeverything2751 21 күн бұрын

Ive always applied this, but one of the best men ive ever known literally did this to ME. Threw something i share with him in my face to prove a point....

@UrbanMatts 21 күн бұрын

that’s a child

@ctdevil 19 күн бұрын

@@UrbanMatts of course if a man does it he's a child 👏

@user-gy2ze3wf4n 19 күн бұрын

Why wont he you look like the grinch😂

@deinvater5427 19 күн бұрын

Nah sometimes men do women shyt too. Sneaky lil boys acting like all the girls he knew. Something like this is an women thing. @@ctdevil

@ebonyeverything2751 18 күн бұрын

@@user-gy2ze3wf4n great line kid. My face paid for my college education with pageant scholarships 💪🏾😊, but go off🤣🤣🤣🤣ur miserable.

@MrKandu4u Күн бұрын

This has happened to me with family, friendships, & r relationships with Ex's. In every instance I've walked away from all of those that responded to me in this way & I NEVER TELL THEM ANYTHING AGAIN!!!

@theengagedfew 13 сағат бұрын

I must've learned this lesson very young, because I don't remember ever being open with people. I always just knew they would betray me.

@SG-lc6vi 22 күн бұрын

They’ll never understand this. In the passion of the moment, winning is the only thing they truly want. Consequences go out the door and they’re shocked when you go too.

@seanisnotjohn 22 күн бұрын

"How can you be winning if someone you love is losing?"

@Torieeve 21 күн бұрын

Sounds like a man to me.

@SG-lc6vi 20 күн бұрын

@@seanisnotjohn excellent quote

@Yeeha494 19 күн бұрын

@@Torieeve u sound like a Id iot to me, all good u fo-ol

@eml9473 18 күн бұрын

Lol touch grass

@OrchidTingz 11 күн бұрын

PK is absolutely right and we as women need to heal & learn how to disagree with honor and become a safer space for a man to open up and be vulnerable and not just expect men to open up without any legitimate reason! It's difficult opening up and if you do not have the character, capacity, or compassion for someone to open up to you, You shouldn't expect a man or anyone to open up to you or trust you in that manner period! 💯

@kristinestaples7607 3 күн бұрын

This goes both ways. I, as the woman, learned never to share too much ever again.

@tailgunner5454 18 күн бұрын

I consider that and personal insults the same. It is allowed one single time and that’s it. Afterwards something like this needs to be said: “We’re both old enough to understand what is right and wrong, and also understand we will have issues and arguments. Don’t think that allows either of us to be insulting.” It honestly shocks me having seen/heard the level of BS people are willing to accept from their partner.

@KtotheG 14 күн бұрын

It's probably because they took it from their parents. Our parents are our first relationships.

@Exxperiment626 2 күн бұрын

Some people have no self-respect anymore, that's why they allow their partners to treat them like shit.

@jasminealexia 15 күн бұрын

I would never do that to my man. I want him to share his heart with me. This is a safe space to support you and console you

@nightmind919 13 күн бұрын

Yeah right, don’t trust ya earthworms

@christianriddler5063 13 күн бұрын

So many women say this... It's getting funny to see women say this because they almost never actually mean it.

@e.williams13 13 күн бұрын

@@christianriddler5063sorry you feel that way

@Janko881 13 күн бұрын

All women talk the same, until a man opens up, then you consider him weak.

@lifelessons5943 13 күн бұрын

You say it until it's time to use it

@andnor 2 күн бұрын

Preach! This is why most men backs down and don't discuss their feelings with what should be the 4th most important person in their lives.

@CvetomiraMikovska 18 сағат бұрын

It's good to understand that we, humans, may be distancing our partners the same way they do to us and not even realizing it, because we are not conditioned to repress the same emotion, therefor don't consider a strike on it that hurtful. The video is a generalization, so I am generalizing: just like a man will start to hide his sad side, a woman will start to hide her angry side.

@LisaDaigle-re4ef 14 күн бұрын

Thirty-four of knowing each other and helping each other through many tough things and times when we realized we have a beautiful understanding person. Married 35 years. The waters have covered our heads and didn't know how we would start wading to get back on shore to find that love/person again. I'd like to believe we can get back to a comfortable and loving relationship. We (I ) was busy caring for our children, and then they grew up and left. We had to remember we were connected, but that was put on the back burner for so long, and life just kept going where we eventually had to get back to the time where we enjoyed each other. It takes effort, respect, and affection. It is hard to hear these short word conversations. We need nurturing and trust.

@michelleayre2018 20 күн бұрын

This goes for everyone, when you tell someone your vulnerabilities and they know what you've been through and they still hurt you , you become a different person and you become less trusting , not hoping, not believing in love and if you do get in a relationship ever again, it takes everything you've got , you'll put in 110% but in your mind you're waiting and hoping they won't do the same but once again you're waiting like an idiot while they're with their female friends being there for them not you . There are some wonderful men and women out there who are old school but now you keep to yourself.

@DenisedeSmedt-wf7dn 9 сағат бұрын

Same reason it breaks my heart that there are so many things I just will not share with my husband anymore. I didnt cause this cancer, I assumed we were closer than we actually were...now the gap just keeps getting wider & wider...

@dananderson1264 12 сағат бұрын

Yep ... Sure thing ...ok... nothing's wrong ...i'am ok... Ill be alright... I love you too.

@ilikebeanies3499 20 күн бұрын

I'm a woman and I can't genuinely say what I'm feeling to my Mother for the same reason. Last time i did that she cursed me out and scared me so bad I mainly just stay in my room from now on. Saving up to move out.

@DeepThoughtsYouTube-DTY 16 күн бұрын

We suffer the same fate. Truly hope we find a place somewhere, where we are appreciated for being ourselves. All the best to you

@ilikebeanies3499 16 күн бұрын

@@DeepThoughtsKZfaq-DTY thank you, you're incredibly sweet 🙏

@keijimorita1849 16 күн бұрын

I recommend staying as far away as you can from her once you do move out. Don't waste your time with someone that was not there for you.

@recklessnotion1899 15 күн бұрын

@@keijimorita1849 problem is moving out is expensive and some of us have no other choice than to reside in these situations with toxic ppl

@vanessabochecha3844 14 күн бұрын

Stay strong we are in the same situation, i can barely leave my room without being verbally harassed by her. I hope we can both move out soon. Good luck.

@andersondawn3631 20 күн бұрын

I remember seeing my dad full of tears over a movie. My mom always teases him for it. That why I don’t 😤 shouldn’t be a crime or mockery for a guy to cry.

@keijimorita1849 16 күн бұрын

"Men are expected to have a thick skin but get criticized when it turns into a hard shell."

@keijimorita1849 16 күн бұрын

How can he be expected to take her emotions seriously after that?

@FeellWellBeWell 4 күн бұрын

the true about this is that the quieter ones are the ones who know more and are the most dangerous, the fact is their strength is unmeasurable to keep calm

@HKVISION1 17 күн бұрын

I learned this lesson in 7th grade. Wrote a “love letter” to a girl I really liked and she told her friends about it. Getting clowned about how I felt about someone.

@scorpio11955 15 күн бұрын

Not only men. I don't tell anyone about myself at all. I was a silent girl growing up and I was never good at opening up to anyone. When I was 22,I once opened up about few things to someone who I knew so well for 7 years. But after like 4 months,there was am argument which was just so little but they used everything i told them against me. I felt so bad. It hurt me coz some were just like family things that i never shared with anyone. That moment made me realize why i keep things ti myself. Why i go through things alone,and i missed my silent world where there is no such things. At 27 and i dont share a thing ever again. They keep asking questions but i says am so okay just like i did before. Some tells me its because of my zodiac sign that thats why i keep secrets but its because i dont see the need of opening up to anyone. Am good. There are so many people out there who are emotionally immature and they will use any single small thing to just win

@iamachosenone9046 13 күн бұрын

They're not immature they're not your true friends, at all. Aka frenemies!

@alisonreed4408 12 күн бұрын

I understand where you are coming from, I get it, but when you eventually find a person you feel in your soul is safe and trustworthy and has a good heart, you have to be vulnerable with them when it feels right. Otherwise you will only have surface level relationships with everyone around you, that is the other side of the coin and the price of 'keeping yourself safe'. Like with everything in life, there has to be a balance, we can't live life without taking any risks at all as then we wouldn't leave the house, the same goes for vulnerability and opening up. Sometimes, with the right person, you can have a choice whether to open up and take relationship/ friendship to the next level or deny yourself the chance of being fully seen, understood and loved, and sometimes the risk of getting hurt is worth it.

@skc-j 12 күн бұрын

@@alisonreed4408 disagree! If you have deep relationship and love for yourself, you won't feel the need of getting that kind of love and relationship with anyone or taking risk for any purpose. You would be happy with surface level relationships with everyone and deep relationship with yourself. You don't need any human or animal to love you for experiencing the feeling of being loved.

@andrewkeller9853 8 күн бұрын

Funny how that works. Confide in the love of my life about my anxiety and depression. A year of total understanding turned into another year of “anxiety isn’t an excuse”. She moved out 2 weeks ago. Now i just suck at life.

@guruprasad2771 4 күн бұрын

I opened to my wife about childhood trauma and the ways I got hurt trusting my people and she used all that in divorce and made it public , still I am unsure whether to trust anyone because of her

@ayen1580 14 күн бұрын

I am a woman, but this thing is true to me too. My biggest mistake in my life is showing vulnerability to the people who will use it to guilt me shame me. I promise myself not to be vulnerable to that kind person ever again. Sadly, these are people who really close to my heart.

@Chris-gc4cw 15 күн бұрын

This happens with family too all the time. I have no one that I can tell how I really feel bc I’m afraid they’ll use it against me if/when we get in an argument

@goas45 10 күн бұрын

My family always asks why i wont talk to them about my problems. Tho when i told them once, all i got from them was ignorance, them laughing at it and not taking it serious. People betrayed and hurt me so often that i didnt even cry one tear when my father passed away two months ago. Neither was i sad about it. The only person where i still get at least some feeling is my older brother. And i really dont know how much more i can take before going completely insane. Theres voices in my head, my heart hurts as soon as im provoked a little bit and i lost about 40kg because i cant eat. Not a single bite. If anyone read this until the end. Thanks for listening to me and giving your time for it. If anybody has an advice, im desperately in need of help. And my psychologist gave up on me. So that wont be an option anymore...

@nextupafrica9897 16 күн бұрын

I opened up to my ex husband about being s**** abused as a child at 9 yrs old and he later on made fun of me & I will NEVER forget . Hurts to this very day! It’s not just women.

@KtotheG 14 күн бұрын

That's cruel af. Was this during an argument or playful banter? Did you say something equally treacherous to provoke him or was it out of the blue?

@nox9749 13 күн бұрын

That's so fucked

@Alexlovesmemes 13 күн бұрын

That's so messed up

@tanquerayandchronic5308 13 күн бұрын

I’m sorry that happened to you. I wish you the best.

@demethiaodom6837 13 күн бұрын

Same. It was because I didn't like him drinking and driving. I never let him in after that.

@mulligatawnysoup9281 Ай бұрын

Lets just be normal humans. Learn to speak normally.

@veronikaprichina881 22 күн бұрын

so true

@imarilucifer 20 күн бұрын

“normal”?

@spacelore1210 17 күн бұрын

@imarilucifer no fighting, no cursing, no madness etc. Talking is not a competition, so be careful and orientate to morality. Find solutions.

@IanSCastro 14 күн бұрын

And respectfully at that.

@lilly5157 Күн бұрын

Ten years in, he finally cried in front of me, and I knew he finally trusted me. I would have never used it against him. He cried many times over the next 30 years, and I cherished the fact that he trusted me.

@nesbitt7433 7 күн бұрын

This is why i stay keep everything deep within myself, with everyone....

@brya8492 16 күн бұрын

say you were hurt, man up and if she won't hear you, move on. Vulnerability ALWAYS requires risk, for both men and women.

@perfectpeace9723 12 күн бұрын

My husband gets this from me because he has done this over and over again

@lisamuller6703 13 күн бұрын

Goes for women and men. Don't say "you're to sensitive" to women, because then she shows her softness to other people who are a safe space

@AmyStruxMillz 9 күн бұрын

THIS

@TheSupraman2jzgte 9 күн бұрын

Probably to other men too

@AgalmicAutomata 9 күн бұрын

That is why this is directed towards yall.

@Dumps3rFir3 9 күн бұрын

Always funny to see the comments redirecting the conversation from men's health. Never fails

@lisamuller6703 8 күн бұрын

@@Dumps3rFir3 you got me wrong or maybe I said it wrong. I think that the message is important and real. Just wanted to say that it's not about men but humans. 😉 Would have said it the other way around as well

@Novemberrain111 10 күн бұрын

Same goes for women😢when Id tell my X stuff and when he start a argument he would bring up what I told him in all trust, confidence and deepest feelings I DONT trust men. Periot

@WoodenShank 9 күн бұрын

“Hmmm how can I make this about me??”

@Shannon_Stamm 9 күн бұрын

@@WoodenShank I'll remember to use your line too. Thanks!

@horsthooden4600 7 күн бұрын

Good for you. Because we dont pursue you OF having moral eroding thots anymore.

@nayelimartinez2115 7 күн бұрын

Yea that’s usually a self centered trait they don’t have your best interests if they do that man or woman it’s usually falls under a narracistic trait so it’s obvious they truly don’t care and that genuineness isn’t their they have other negative motives not good for no one not even themselves smh.

@christophersoo 7 күн бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear that. You can trust me 🙏🙏