I love how he hesitates before he answers a questions. I do the same thing, thinking what can I say to sound "normal"

Wow. This is why I avoid these conversations with anyone. They take so much out of me. I avoid my family because they make me feel too many emotions in a short period.

i'm like a landmine im antisocial till someone speeks to me then they learn EVERYTHING about me in about the span of a day.

You are so understanding and patient with the BPD person. I wish more people (and counselors) could understand and not judge or assume all borderlines are exactly the same attention seeking, manipulating, lying, and "awful" people... We aren't. I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I'm quiet, shy... I do have a very hard time opening up and revealing whats inside, how I'm feeling. I have intense emotions, but I don't display them. I wish more people could realize there are different manifestations of BPD. Thank you so much for this video, really helpful and compassionate.

I could seriously cry right now. Thank you so much for helping me understand what's going on in my head.

Oh god. *buries face in hands* I feel like I'm watching myself. "Oh, you're gonna cry now?"

My gf has BPD and yes our relationship is stormy. I'm here to educate myself more about it,how to deal with it and what i can do to help my gf. Sometimes it's just too much that I'm hurting but i always try to be more understanding as long as i can.I asked advises to some people and all they told me is that i should run far far away for my sanity.I really do care and love her.& I know my gf loves me so much and I ain't going to leave her.I really want to help her,I told her to get a treatments because that's for her own good.That's why i need more understanding about BPD.

I can't believe how only 2% of the world suffers from this...I get to be that lucky 2% :(

I have BPD. I usually control my ANGER and WEAR a SMILE mask just to let people know that I am strong even though I am not. Well I have to SMILE anyway :)

My sister drove out into the desert and shot herself in the head last June. Thank you for providing this kind of education. I wish that I had had the kind of tools that you present. I viewed her as someone who was loving and close to me most of my life then suddenly acted as though she hated me for no reason that I could see. She seemed random and cruel. All of our interactions were painful for me. I did the opposite of what I wish I had...I said "Call me when you can be a better sister. Until then you are dead to me." If I had understood, I would have been more loving. I am forever changed.

Very informative and interesting, but the BPDs I've dealt with were never this cooperative to talk so much about their feelings, no matter how interested or neutral you might seem to them. They would respond with like "why are you asking me all these things I don't want to talk about?".

im borderline happy and im borderline sad im borderline good and im bordeline baad

This is a gold mine, thanks for making BPD awareness! I'm a BPD patient, also a doctor, and this is so accurate, congrats!

i haven't been diagnosed professionally but i am pretty certain that i have bpd and have been doing lots of research on it. this video helped me understand this disorder better than anything else. thank you for making this.

Brilliantl. You did an amazing job. Very well done. Highly recommended to people with, and people dealing with BPD. Both sides are very well represented here. I am a fan!

Good luck to the people who have this unfortunate illness, may God help you all, and may God help my ex girlfriend who I loved so so much :( but broke me into tiny little pieces.

I have BPD but mine doesn't manifest like this. I DO have mood swings but it usually isn't in one conversation can usually stay stable or in one mood for about a minute up to an hour without change but I change a lot in a day unless I am numb then those days I don't change at all.

Helpful. I am just now understanding me. Its scary.

You are fantastic it’s so true,I think you’re video will help so much I support you x This is to my wife Hayley Ashton who has bpd,yeah there are some bumps in the road but she is truly a amazing person I am lucky to have married my best friend and the only true family I have The only true sadness I feel is she doesn’t see what I do and so many other people do in her,but no matter how hard or how angry we get I’m your safe place I love her deeply I no feelings can change but I need her to know I will always be at the bottom and will catch you you will never have to be alone you are a remarkable woman I am prevailed to know forever my love xxx

I just discovered your videos. I wanted to thank you for sharing both your intellectual knowledge of BPD, but also the emotional knowledge, which arises from your personal experiences. I appreciate that you are helping me to understand myself and others, that you are giving me the practical tools to deal with BPD and an understanding of what is going on emotionally for the person trying to cope with BPD. I am a foster parent. Many of the children I care for have BPD and your videos provide me with methods to help them, communicate with them, and make my home a safer environment for everyone. Thank you!

im honestly so glad this video exists!! i now understand my disorder better and now how to talk with other people with bpd in a healthy and less passive aggressive way...thank you!!!

I was recently diagnosed BPD and I can't believe how accurately you described my symptoms, thank you for the insight and I'm going to pass this on to my family!

This is a remarkable representation. It actually made me cry. The punitive parent is so loud and critical in me and I'm sure is the biggest cause of my meltdowns (or arrival of my angry or abused child personas/faces). You are so understanding. Wonderful effort. Sincere thanks.

Thank you so much for helping me understand what goes through my mind. I was tearing up while watching this video because I finally feel free. I now know that I'm not a horrible person for being so X & Y with my emotions, it's a mental illness. I'm not alone. I beyond grateful for the time, effort, and education you put into this video. I need to make an appointment to see my Dr. ASAP.

Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with us. Your honesty is much appreciated...

My daughter and I *need* to be alone for the episode to end. It can take seconds, but we need the person triggering the emotions to just go and leave us alone. As soon as the adrenaline's gone, we're bewilderingly fine, as if nothing happened. If the person/people will not stop "trying to reason with us", then it escalates very quickly into a survival mode and we say and do the craziest stuff and then don't remember it until someone brings it up. I never get psychotic except under severe stress, so please, no Brady chats, just give me my Time Out.

This was beautiful, and your presentation was so painfully accurate. it made me choke up. I have struggled with BPD and childhood neglect/abandonment/emotional and mental abuse since I can remember. Thank you for putting it into perspective for others. We're NOT monsters, and it sucks to see so many have suffered at our hands, because of our own suffering. Thank you.

I have watched this and I want to cry. You have literally summed up how it is to be me in 10 minutes in a way I can show others. Thank you x

i am currently diagnosed with BPD and in DBT Treatment. This video found to be ten times more illuminating and helpful than the slow, almost condescending pace at DBT. I am amazed to see a guy (sorry, that's my own warped perception based on experience with men talking) - surprised to see a man so genuinely caring...Thank you!

This girl I know that is my recent new BFF that I really liked confused the heck out of me and it was hard for me to figure her out. It wasn't I realized that she had BPD and when she told me about it, everything now makes sense the way how I think about her. This video was very helpful! I hope it will help me learn more, help her with her future, and make our friendship stronger.

More more more !!!! This is great!!!! I love the collage effect and it's so awesome! This is well worth another turn - with a harder subject. This is just amazing

I got diagnosed today at the age of 25 and probably have been dealing with this since I was a little kid, and it explains so much about why I have been doing the things Ive been doing and feeling the way I feel all the time. I was encouraged to read and watch as much stuff about it as I could to understand it. And this was the first video I watched and I sent it to my mom. Thank you for making this

This was incredible. I was finally diagnosed back in January after 15 years of really, really horrible behavior on my part. I crashed emotionally and fell into a pit of guilt and was ready for treatment. I did DBT classes and my psychotherapist has been wonderful at helping me understand that I can express emotions without lashing out at others and that I do not need others to validate my feelings for them to be valid. I am so much calmer now and able to see myself 'switching' as it happens and then I can start reigning it in. Treatment has saved my marriage and probably my life. I would urge anyone diagnosed as a Borderline to seek active treatment and be open minded and nonjudgmental about it. Listening to others is so very important and one of the things that I struggled with the most.

Superbly done! Very interesting and informative. Thank you for taking the trouble to put this together.

I found your videos (and some others) browsing through the web trying to find answers to what I have been feeling for so many years. I was diagnosed with major depression about 10 years ago and they put me on Effexor, which I continue taking today. At the time, I was so confused that the diagnosis made sense to me, since I was feeling so sad, but it was short-lived! I understood later that my problem had to do with mood swings and personality-based disorders, but I still held on to the pills for fear of the sadness coming back. Now, I have found your videos (and others) and I clearly understand that what I suffer from is nothing else but BPD!!! I comply with 6 of the 9 traits you are supposed to have and I totally identify with everything you (and others on KZfaq) say!!! This has made me think about so many things about my past, present and how to face the future. Unfortunately, I live in a country where psychological treatments are very expensive so, that's totally out of the question. I must try to understand this by myself. This is why I THANK you so much for posting these videos. I am doing everything you guys say on the videos. I have even started doing the DBT myself!!! Too sad there might be more people in my country who are unaware of what they feel.... At least I am bilingual and I can understand what you guys say on your videos... I wish I could do more to help people here....but how could I? I still have BPD!!! Thanks!!!!!

I am not even exactly sure why at this moment - but I have two tears running down my face. I have been a Psychology student in both my college and personal life for many years and never have I felt so drawn into a "lecture" on any of the topics studied. You have a real talent for getting your point across, and if your pain was not real in this video it certainly felt like it was. Thank you for your contribution to Psychology.

this is the most accurate conversation with myself and my family can have. i'm only outward to my family but am inward in public and self harm and just beat myself down later alone. i can't imagine having a person close enough to me like a VERY long time boyfriend staying with me after seeing this side. im afraid to show me

I was diagnosed with BPD about a decade ago, and have not had any therapy or taken any medicine to pacify the variations of emotional intensity. While I feel deeply, on the outside it can be assumed that I care less. How does one go about being fully authentic without lashing the true depths of thought in the given moment? My intentions are not to hurt people which is why i lack expressing myself to others as i feel as though i myself is a burden.

This video was so refreshing! My loved one has BPD. I try to be as supportive and understanding as possible, but any time I assert myself with her, she pulls away. No matter how gently and reassuringly I do so. I’m exhausted from the push/pull and seldom feeling heard and understood. She comes and goes so much that I never know if she’s splitting or just needs space. We loved ones are grateful for every bit of insight that those with BPD provide.

“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams..

Thank you so much for this video. I have been in a on and off again relationship for six and a half years with a girl with BPD. She told me in the beginning of relationship about her disorder. For the most part her disorder has not caused too much trouble in our relationship, but she has abandoned our relationship twice. I have done lots of research online about BPD but this video really hit home and really explained a lot as to what goes on in her head. Currently she broke up with me again last week, but I'm just going to be nice to her and patient and hopefully she'll return home soon. It's definitely not easy to date somebody with BPD, but I love her and I will never give up on her even if she chooses to give up on herself. Thank you again for this video, it helped me out tremendously

He's kinda cute.

I have BPD and found your video very on point. The switch happens that fast and I often do not know which way to respond...Any of the 5 feelings can come out. It's a battle to keep the child hidden at all costs...yet still wanting help. I see the 5 different schemos in myself and thought they were accurately portrayed here. Well done! Nice to be understood!

Dear Bas, thank you so much for this. It feels scary to watch this because it's almost like you were in my head and i have always been trying to make people understand and i cant express it myself or explain it. But at the same time i felt relieved because you did a very good job with this video. It brought me to tears thinking that people who understand us actually exist and it will all be just fine. I was diagnosed with mdd with underlying bpd. It's probably worse than hell for me, and I really hope more people can understand and accept us as we are as you did in this video. Thanks so much.

I am actually very surprised, because I feel like I've rarely ever expressed the anger inside me and generally therapists and doctors told me I'm not a "typical" borderline (which sounds harmful for others, sadly) but now that I think of it, it's probably mostly because I've been self harming so much that all the anger just went into it and I didn't have to lash out so much...

Thanks for this vid. I was crying because that is my life. Especially the punitive parent lately. This gives me some hope I can be better to myself.

Wow, this is the first BPD video that has made me cry!!!! You have completely hit the nail on the head.....

You are definately the most high functioning self aware guy I know - this was thoughtful and amazing. I am dating a wonderful boy with BPD and this is so helpful. I am going to try and find the schema book - to realise crystalize all this information. This video is a really good introduction/summary.

i have BPD and this is amazing thank you for making these videos, thankyou for sharing 💚💙💛ive liked and subscribed thankyou from Australia

this was very good the girl I'm dealing with has this disorder. and for years I thought she had issues. but now fully understand. that sounds like a lot of work just to have a simple conversation

Must be 4 years since i saw all your videos. I have the same disorder. But not as strong as it was before, thanks to you and those fantastic videos. It saved my life problably. And it saved my friends of beeing hurted of things that i normally would be hurt of. All the drama, all the strong feelings, the paranoia, the urge to do something scary or dangerous, or get reactions.. I was really friend and a beast. But with MBT therapy, MBT group theraphy and your videos i found my self. The strong feelings and confused thoughts is still there sometimes but not close as before. King Ghost is simply not here anymore. I can only hear him far away. Thank you!

Thank you so much for your videos ! I finally realise: I'm not alone, I'm not crazy. There are so many misconceptions about BPD. Even my mother was breaking down in tears, finally understanding that I wasn't putting in a show. she as well as me realised: oh my God, that's you down to a T. I talked to my family, apologising, telling them that I never wanted to hurt anyone, and that I wasn't aware that my behaviour is so hard to understand for them. Your videos helped me and my family a lot! Thank you! Lily X

Very insightful video. Thank you for putting the time and thought into this

Very helpful thanks.

Bravo! I'm just now learning about BPD (and that I may suffer from it), and you made some aspects of it clearer in a

Brilliant - Thank you for this video. I'll be tuning in to your channel regularly.

This is much easier said than done. Especially in the case of my ex husband of 14 years. Who has BPD, NPD, ASPD with psychopathic traits. No matter how empathic, compassionate, or understanding I try to be with him he projects his entire world onto me. I'm an evil drug addict who denies his parent time. The truth is he is that in his own eyes and denies himself parent time. I've extended an open invitation for over a year and he hasn't come to see her because he wants the power of making me drop her off to him. But it's receiving parent pick up and she's terrified of him. So I won't take her but he's more than free to come talk to her. Nope. Not good enough for him. He even drove past our house once and didn't stop to try and talk to our 14 year old. I have been patient with him for 13 years then he opened a case against me a year ago now trying to get custody. He stands no chance based off his own actions towards our child, his violent nature, drug use and sales, etc. I could go on for days in what I've learned in the last year since he pathologically lied to me and about me for 14 years I've found out in the last year. I've given him everything he ever wanted. Every weekend when he got every other in the papers, extra holidays, even some mother's days. I think the saddest part is for a parent who has had their child every weekend for 13 years doesn't have a clue who their child is. I have still kept my cool even with everything I've learned in the last year and I've been the new target for the last year because he can't take it in that his own child is the one severing their relationship. So of course I've brainwashed her along with everyone he couldn't conquer. I've tried very hard to be there for him and tried to get him to get help but to absolutely *no* *avail* . I've offered counseling for all of us, or just the two of them, every Wed an open door, and he's supposed to pick her up every other Fri. We have not seen him in over a year now after *one* counseling session with our child and the therapist. Our child told him she didn't want to see him anymore and she was afraid of him. After the therapy appt I asked what they were going to do and our 14 yr old refused to go telling him in front of me then as well that she wasn't going anymore and she was afraid of him. He just started screaming at our child to get in the damn truck over and over while our child backed up and her hands started shaking. That's when I finally told our child to get into our car and we left after he told me I was having a child fight my battles for me. It's multiple times now that our 14 year old has told him. He still refuses to believe it or take any responsibility for what he's done. I've read books on BPD, NPD, everything I can and most say (and I agree) it's best for your health to end the relationship. If you're the parent of someone with the condition obviously you keep it up. But in our case I think it's best to let him fade off when he gives up because neither of us will bend to his will and controlling behavior. He brought the case into court but refuses to pay for the things he needs to fight the case, such as the custody evaluator. If it's not his way it's no way. I will do what it takes to protect my child. I understand this is a serious disorder but he absolutely *refuses* help. I think this video should be for family members dealing with a BPD personality in their family only. Because anyone who has to rewire themselves to walk on eggshells to have a relationship with someone like this is not ok to me. If they want to accept treatment then I think that is different. But if they don't all you're doing is changing yourself to keep them in your life and possibly encouraging their lying to cut corners through their mind because it's easier for them and the way their brain works. And remember, dealing with one like I've got they can just pathologically lie about whatever they want and believe it. I feel for those of you suffering with this frustrating disorder, but it seems to me most of you suffering from this condition in the comments understand what you're up against and are trying to seek help and for that I absolutely congratulate you! Seriously and with all my heart, congratulations you've gotten beyond the denile. I pray frequently my ex husband will eventually step out of denile and get help. But no matter how solid the evidence put before him, he refuses and gets furious. I've known him since 4th grade as well. So I know his childhood and all. I just wish he would try, but as far as our 14 year old goes, unfortunately I think it is way too late. 😕 😢 Namasté to all of you and I hope your lives will be very happy ones. ✌ 💞

THANKS FOR THIS... this is really helping me to understand what I am going through and have been going through for years now... I just have to find a therapist to treat me for this. My therapist is on bullshit. What I mean is the facility's policy that I currently attend is they do not diagnose or treat personality disorders. Yet she has told me off the record that she feels I have BPD. When I asked her for a referral to a therapist or facility that diagnoses and treats BPD she started feeding me a line about she didn't know if that would be good for me - if the services would overlap their services etc. All I'm trying to do is get a definitive diagnosis as anyone else would who has any other disorder mental or physical. I want to continue general psychotherapy services with her and group therapy at the facility I am currently attending. I only want to go see a specialist for BPD treatment since she isn't allowed to do it. I think she is looking out for the facility's purse and not my well being. I am so pissed but I remained calm as she told me this. She asked me several times why I wanted to have an actual diagnosis. I was like to myself what don't you understand about what I am saying to you? She told me she will let me know if she feels this will be good for me and will give me her answer next week. I may be forced to either stay there and not get proper treatment for this or leave the facility to see a specialist and leave all of my friends at the facility that I've made in group. Frustrated...

This is a beautiful, intelligent and compassionate video. Thank you so much. I am dealing with this issue in my marriage and i have struggled to recognize the condition in my partner and often made things worse as a result. This video is shockingly recognizable to me and your advice is well crafted and caring. Amazing work.

One of the best videos on BPD. Thank you for making this.

Thank you, it's good to feel understood. I've had a rough BPD week..

The original term is not "schema modes" but "transactional analysis" which describes the "parent, adult, child" triangle within each of us. They, the author's you mention, must have built upon the original theory, and work, of Eric Berne. You might want to check out the book, "Games People Play"... it's very interesting, and it's original.

Until I found out about BPD, I never understood how it was possible for me to feel like a cold, detached person who ignores their emotions and yet also an extremely irritable and impulsive person controlled by those emotions. It makes so much more sense to me now.

Wow this is an excellent video. It really helps us bpd patients and others the cycle of emotions. So cool. Thank you so much for this, Bas!

I pray to God for the person with BPD and the family. This video brings me into being aware of importance of warmth,and love instead of punition in development of child hood Thank youtube for this video.

All this time I just thought it was just depression.... Now i'm confused...

I watched this video and I wanted to tell you i found this one of the most helpful videos for practical help for family members I have watched. Great Job on communicating this to the world. You have overcome, and are helping others! KUDOS!! More please ;)

Thank you SO MUCH for making this video, and for making BPD easier to understand, by doing it in a ‘real world’, ‘demonstrative’ way, I really feel that it has helped me to understand my adult Son better! He hasn’t contacted me at all in the last four months, and the last time he did send me a message, he said that he would NEVER contact me again! Every day, my heart is broken and crying for him, I am so sad without him in my life, but if he ever DOES contact me again, at least I now have a deeper understanding of his mental turmoil, thanks to your video, so a huge thank you.

Thank You for doing this video....Everybody has a hard time explaining this! Some videos are horrible pics with sad music. Docs saying we are dangerous ! Fantastik

I mean no disrespect and I am not criticising BUT schema therapy is not the best therapy for BPD although there is a section in the course of therapy that focuses on interpersonal relating. Dialectical Behaviour Therapy is a program that is multidisciplinay, skills based, and designed specifically for borderline personality disorder. Marsha Lineham is the therapist.

This video so awesome, thank you!! It allows me to understand my constant internal conflict ...punitive parent ...impulsive angry child fighting back and forth and back and forth omg it's a constant struggle to get anything done I always feel out of control!

Your video had me in tears. The embarrassing and unfortunate accuracy of these faces was remarkably realistic and relatable. Thank you for posting this. You've aided me more than you could ever know :)

The hard part is, how do you deal with a,family member who has this and possibly other mental disorders, but they won't admit it and they won't get help? What do you do if they insist that everyone else has the problem and they are just fine?

I came looking for people hating on BPD and it's abuse. I have it and came to see how people around me feel. Because I hate how I treat them. This.... was about support. Why is this not treated like NPD? I thought it would be. *about to cry*

I am suffering from BPD and I can tell you: This Video is AWESOME! Found myself in it! Moodswings and changing "Parts" are extremely exhausting!

I'm so glad i found your channel. Your videos about bpd have helped me a lot

My daughter has mild to moderate BPD. The DBT classes helped and regular counseling helps also. But she has done neither in months. It can be extremely challenging and depressing at times to live with a person like this. You love them so much, but they distance themselves from you and you feel like you have to walk on egg shells every day. Today is a bad day. This week is a bad week. Will just have to ride the wave and hope next week is better. But it truly is hell.

(I'm 17) I probably don't have BPD and I most likely am just being a hypochondriac but I have huge mood swings, one minute I will be talking with my parents completely fine and the next they will say something that makes me a bit angry and I will completely over react and flip, I hate being angry, especially with my parents so this leads to me being upset and getting even more angry with myself usually resulting in a panic attack meaning I need time to calm down, in this time all I can think about is 'there's something wrong with me' 'why am I so weird' 'why can't I just be fucking normal' generally leading to a great deal of self loathing. This can happen unexpectedly too, I don't even have to be angry I will just go into my room, catch myself in the mirror and hate the way I look, this tends to happen at college too when I'll see someone who is gorgeous or something and it will just get me really down instantly. I struggle with being seen as equal and I always feel 2nd best, like there is always someone better than me and more important than me and it just make me feel so fucking shitty.... all of this can happen and then soon after I will be fine again and laughing and joking ect... as I said it's probably just my age and me being a hypochondriac but I hate it!

Wat ben jij een dappere man om deze video te maken. Respect voor jou! Ik heb kenmerken van BPD en ook schematherapie gehad alleen ws niet lang genoeg. Begin binnenkort met psychoanalytica.

I remember watching this video years ago. You are one of the better presenters on here. I know this must have taken you a great deal of time. Thank you.

I have borderline personality disorder sometimes I'm depressed then I'm happy then I'm nervpus

I have been diagnosed with bpd. I usually try my best to be emotional. Too afraid I would blow up. When I blow up I look like an idiot and the next day I'm very exhausted. My brothers and sisters don't show emotions either. We have been accused by others for being a hard read.

This is such a great video. I could feel "him" (the other 4 "parts") deeply in my heart, brought tears to my eyes. Someone I love has BPD. Thank you for helping further my understanding.

I cannot be live this, you have just described me perfectly, to the point that I am now crying! I have only recent!y been diagnosed with BPD, dissociation, depression and PTSD. I wasn't sure if it was the right diagnosis but you have now clarified that for me. Thank you so so much. X

like this.. halped me understand myself :)

I have some of these issues, but I am skeptical of all these ready-made diagnoses and labels. We all have these tendencies in varying degrees, and the idea that you have a "disorder" when you pass some arbitrary threshold is dangerous. I would caution people not to jump into these labels, and to question any diagnosis given by a professional. Also be aware that some physiological diseases like Lyme Disease can cause extreme mood and behavioral problems.

This honestly helped me so much. I'm really trying to learn more about my disorder. This pretty much nailed it. After watching this I try to catch myself and see the difference of the way I communicate. It's really a big challenge. This really shed alot of light. Thanks again.

Thank you for this video. It has given me a good insight to my problems. I will be showing my family this video and hopefully it will help them to understand me more and help me recover one day.. The way you did the video was very good. Thank you so much.

It really helped to see how someone with BPD acts/communicates. I agree with the poster who said the book Stop Walking on Eggshells is a good read.

we don't show our emotions because I feel like if I really show my emotions I will break the boundary like when a werewolf sees a moon ,and plus,no one wants to know my thoughts and emotions I believe,my true thoughts are dark and not funny at all even I don't want to know my feelings.

Well done. Thank u for taking the time to do this video. Very helpful.

I have been diagnosed with BPD and this really helped me understand some things with myself ... and how other people can feel because of how I am ... Very emotional , thank you so much will be watching your other videos

DIALECTICAL BEHAVIORAL THERAPY - DBT - MARCIA M. LINEHAN

I am a BPD and I make sure my mates know to avoid people with BPD!!!! They are dangerously toxic they DO manipulate you in the sense that they are usually loveable. Real deep emotional thinkers but they have the potential to ruin your day and ruin your life. Ive tamed my urge Ive tamed that side of me but my emotions and personality is always gonna be fractured. I have the potential to hurt and manipulate, I choose not to but Ive had years of training of self discipline. The only way that we learn is if you look after yourself (something that borderlines do not know how to do btw) if they hurt you get rid of them! Dont enable them look after yourselves.

Thank you so much for this!! Probably of all the videos about BPD I watched, this one is the most helpful.

That was very very well done!! I'm BPD and just got into a IOP program, I'm a lot further along in my recover thanks to understanding mental disorders before I knew I had any but thank you for this video!!

LOL, do you recommend people talk to themselves like this in order to deal with BPD?

"Furious, I mean i was at the Lie berry, not doing drugs or anything, I was at the lie berry" that made me lol

Thank you so much for this. My counselor and I think my mother might have this personality and we have struggled the past 18 years from it but now I understand a little more and will try some of your tips out. Explains so much. Really eye opening and your view is so compassionate and understanding.

Thank you very much, very good. You got to the point and the lesson right away unlike many others who ramble around for 30 min before getting to the real issues.