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The 5 Stages of Divorce with a Narcissist//Divorce is never easy, but when you're divorcing a narcissist, it can be especially difficult. Narcissists are manipulative and often have little regard for others. They can be very hostile during divorce proceedings and can make the process much more painful than it needs to be. Rebecca Zung, top lawyer and narcissist negotiation expert, helps you understand what to expect and provides tips on how you can manage the process more effectively and protect yourself from further abuse.
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@maggie1158 Жыл бұрын

I want to tell everyone in this situation, Don't blame yourself for your (ex)/spouse behavior. My husband cheated on me multiple times too. I forgave too much and tolerated it for too long and the lying was just insane. Am glad am not in it anymore because I would have lost my mind. I felt depressed and the thought of hardship but am not gonna give up on myself, I was lucky to meet a woman who helped me building the little finance I could get off from the marriage during separation. Now am a single mom with healthy kids, who are enjoying their best life. I remember my ex husband threatening me that I can never make it without him, it's been 18 months. Am glad to prove him wrong !!!

@saanvi848 Жыл бұрын

I've been there! The mental torture, anxiety, and depression are brutal. Am happy you are at a better place today, Queen! 🙏🏿❤

@maggie1158 Жыл бұрын

@@steffan683 Her name is Ms Loretta Wilkinson, she helped me in earning passive income through her cryptto trading. Truth is then, I couldn't settle for business. I had to quit my job because I was taking off days, the headache was much, sometimes I overthink and didn't notice I was bleeding some of the times. Remembering makes me tear, I felt pain.

@jaluriaja6294 Жыл бұрын

In my case I was the one who was left behind and my soon to be ex is happy and in a new relationship already. I could not sleep well for a couple of weeks until I saw a doctor and got pills few days ago. But I am trying to be more compassionate with myself and stop blaming myself for everything. And just today, I decided to start viewing my divorce as a blessing and told God I trust his actions and plans with me. I believe time will show why certain things happen the way they do...

@johnwilson4283 Жыл бұрын

I hope you are feeling better. I saw your post and would love to connect with you.

@rupert1438 Жыл бұрын

@@maggie1158 What a small world, Ms Wilkinson helped me out too. the experience has been the best for my finance.She is quite popular for her services so you might have heard of her. She made me financially stable investing through her help, now I earn on a monthly basis through her passive income strategy... So I’ll advise anyone who wants to make an investment for his/her future and for the future of their kids to get a good Investment advisor for yourself.

@abdulwahidnagi861 Жыл бұрын

1 - denial “this is not happening “ 😇 2 - anger “why this is happening “😡 3 - bargaining “wtf is happening “ 😣 4 - depression “why this happened” 😞 5 - acceptance “oh no its that asshole again” 🏃🏻‍♂️

@stephaniefythm Жыл бұрын

I went through a lot of financial crisis during my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college..

@eadad4371 Жыл бұрын

I'm a single dad. Not quite long I started investing. I'm very curious and need help on how to enhance and increase my returns. Any good investment tips would be appreciated

@stephaniefythm Жыл бұрын

@@eadad4371 Generally, investing requires higher knowledge. For this reason, It's important to have a solid support structure (financial consultant) to guide you through especially in asset picking. I operate with (Regina Louise Collaro) an investment advisor who partners with a licensed wealth management firm. For the record, the experience has been the best for my finance.She is quite popular for her services so you might have heard of her. She made me financially stable investing through her help, now I earn on a monthly basis through her passive income strategy... So I’ll advise you do get a good Investment advisor for yourself.

@eadad4371 Жыл бұрын

@@stephaniefythm That’s great , your investment advisor must be really good,I have seen testimonies of people using the help of investment advisors in making them more financial stable. Do you mind sharing more info on this person?

@camillegrillo-ht7cr Жыл бұрын

I have tried to leave my SO for over 15 years we were married for 22 years. I filed 3 different times and got scared and could not handle the torment so I would go back. I am as of yesterday finally free my children are safe and I’m 1300 miles away with a new life and a finalized divorce decree. This process was painful and scary but this time was different I was so ready for peace and just listening to your advice on this entire process took the fear out and between you and Dr Ramani I had the tough realization that I can’t expect this person to act any differently in divorce than they did in marriage. Your “Thank you may I have another” played in my head constantly and it help my mindset change from being extremely reactive to treating this in a very removed transactional way. Thank You!!

@angelm6497 Жыл бұрын

It took me about 18 months to get my head straight and understand what had gone on in my relationship. I am a survivor and take pride in that, but I didn't understand covert narcissisism. Once I started to understand the relationship dynamics, I regained control. The anger is hard and so is forgiveness but the reality is you need to come to terms with the anger otherwise your giving them your power and with it control. They want you angry because they like to be the perpetual victim, so if you retaliate your giving them exactly what they want. You need to step away and value your integrity. Don't lower yourself to their level. And it's a very hard pill to swallow, to understand that you allowed this person to abuse you during the relationship and after, if you allow it. The way I dealt with regret was to say, hindsight is s powerful tool but if I were in that position again, given the information I had at the time, I'd have made the same decision. I couldn't beat myself up over it. It is what it is snd the important thing is to learn from it. We all have to grieve, its actually healthy, recognise it for what it is and be grateful you are out and you are free to re-build your life. For me I needed to walk away knowing that I did nothing wrong, even under intense provocation. Look Forward to the day when you can use their decisions and actions to negotiate the divorce settlement. Leverage is key and don't think for one minute they haven't used leverage against you. If you can't achieve forgiveness, then acceptance is the next best thing. Then in time you may come to understand that the forgiveness part sets you free and is for your benefit, not theirs. I think yhis is the part about forgiveness that people get stuck with. Your not letting them off the hook, your setting yourself free.

@mattzee6287 Жыл бұрын

I : divorced narc, quit drinking (nearly died from withdrawal) went to treatment, met new narc a week after treatment, (she would wake me up to read texts from first narc on MY phone) left her. Crazy narc who had been dating my nephew decided I'm single, and good fit for her, moved into my home without my consent, smashed my big screen tv, toilet, several other items, and stalked me for years. Had her removed by police, numerous times, finally moved. Been alone since August 2014, because I don't trust my choices.

@Random-mom Ай бұрын

Rebecca, ty . For changing my life! For the better! I seriously don’t know how I would get through all of this without your page and Dr ramani

@user-bd2hi2my9b 9 ай бұрын

Thank you! You are amazing!!!!!

@deborahalden5312 Жыл бұрын

They never want to fully let you go.

@Foxie635 10 ай бұрын

Sometimes just be content and happy without to add anything to your life except maybe one new thing to do because at the end of the day, you will still have YOU to live with, even after going to a book club, you still come home to YOU. So, you need to remind yourself I am good with myself.

@PurpleReels 11 күн бұрын

I take care of myself and I am still in the first stages of an annulment actually.... because I filed and then tried to give him a chance and then the same cycle kept happening. Now it's a matter of serving him for real now.

@grannybear3960 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@lilajtblue Жыл бұрын

I'm a survivor of domestic violence 7yrs, I was in denial until he struck me with his hands. Bruised me, talked in my face spitting, degrading me. I was nothing. I had nothing. Well he was wrong. My excellent attorney got me alimony and half of community property. You can do this. You deserve it. I was 55, a fish out of water. Now 62, free from men bc I see red flags 15-30 minutes in the date I excepted, I always meet in my car. If doesn't work out, I leave.

@lindsayvega1078 7 ай бұрын

I take care of myself!

@jacklyneboyce4418 Жыл бұрын

Your so wise

@cherylahanzel7540 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself.

@tsimonson49 Жыл бұрын

I literally can’t afford an attorney and he has one. So this should be fun. He makes almost 3 times my income and I am limited on number of hours I can work because my job won’t let me work remotely some of the time to keep my kids out of daycare but still be able to do coparenting where we work around one another’s shifts.

@jennadee6761 Жыл бұрын

Sending you strength & solidarity from a fellow single mother who cannot afford a lawyer & can’t work at all after the massive stressors triggered my immune system to attack my spinal cord. I hope we can prevail even without lawyers; fuelled by our beautiful kids’ best interest! 🫶🏼

@mits619 Ай бұрын

How did it work out? I hope you were able to obtain one, with credit or something and he had to pay for some of the fees? Hopefully you’re on your way to a better life by now. 🙏❤️

@conniehill4851 11 күн бұрын

I take care of myself💕

@mariafihn6874 Жыл бұрын

If you have something embarrassing in your past you know he'll bring to the table at the proceedings do u tell your lawyer these things so he's prepared?? Please answer .... 😢

@alihughes2471 6 ай бұрын

Is there away to talk to someone about divorcing the worst kind of narssist if 14 years. I can't handle living this way. It's a horrible thing n I need help

@mariancrow5402 2 жыл бұрын

hi rebecca off from today's topic, but i thought you might like to know i spotted a person in the news who was NOT a narcissist. a clip of camille vasquez, johnny depp's lawyer, arriving at court. she was paid a compliment by a reporter, and she replied, "it's the team."

@FantasticBooo 17 күн бұрын

I take care of myself - je prends soin de moi ❤

@ajibikesworld8970 Жыл бұрын

Can you recommend a family lawyer in Illinois?

@rdkdavis8672 Ай бұрын

I take care of myself

@GeorgenMorales-eu8fr 7 ай бұрын

Ill take care of myself

@RodneySSmith Жыл бұрын

I take care of my self

@user-wt3te5rh4n 3 ай бұрын

Omogosh lol too accurate

@rebeccaeicher3886 8 ай бұрын

I Take care of myself

@fenellajames4112 Жыл бұрын

I take care of myself. 🌹

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

Keep SLAYing!

@sophieyyyhh0057 2 жыл бұрын

Hello rebecca, the other day A grocery store employee false accused me for stealing. Even though i didnt do anything. And she checked my pockets there was nothing in. Again after checking completed she followed me to parking lot till i left store. My friend was Also there with me while shopping she didnt check my friend . This is embarrassing and social inequality.

@joythorsteinson6745 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself!!! Thx so much 💖

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

You got this! 💪

@naveedrehman2987 2 жыл бұрын

Jokes aside this experience is literally “death” by a thousand “cuts.”

@dodibenabba1378 2 жыл бұрын

Not if you're born again, the Holy Spirit holds your emotions. 🙏✝️🙌🕎🗡️🔥

@timekeeper2117 2 жыл бұрын

O yeah well I'll definitely see you're next vid. 👑👸🏼🌬️💕

@SherrieRuffino 2 жыл бұрын

I am still going through the stage of financial concern and what is fairly justified!! In fact, I am prepping for a lawsuit against husband prior to Divorce!! We have been married 39 years so, there is mounds of paperwork, videos, recordings, text msgs. of husband threatening my life redundantly. Since my Husband is a Billion dollar sales rep for his corp. he makes a lot of 💰 yet, would love nothing better than to see me living on the street. Ps…I am a fighter, a survivor ! I be damned if I give another inch!!!!

@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723 2 жыл бұрын

Best of Luck and I pray God give you wisdom.

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

That's right, never give up! Stay strong! And, document, document, document! 💪

@SherrieRuffino 2 жыл бұрын

@@RebeccaZungEsq yes Maam😅 I am on it. I am sure things will be fine in the end:) that is not to say I am not concerned. Ps> I am just producing legit documentation, etc. for the court and telling the truth!! The rest is left up to God🙏

@madamqttml770 Жыл бұрын

I'll take care of myself

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@hadassahrachel860 Жыл бұрын

How do you deal with a narcissistic attorney helping the narcissist continue the abuse because you can't afford another attorney?

@LZRCuteR Жыл бұрын

Yes, someone please. I think its just suck it up, hope that they look terrible (low chance). Ultimately people with low funds will have to just work hard and be patient. My wife kept my kids for every holiday based on nonsense and never felt remorse. My entire side of the family and our kids missed out on those memories. Get counseling, because you need to accept it.

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@lilajtblue Жыл бұрын

Talk to another attorney and see what they say. They don't get paid until you do. My down payment, do you really want to struggle with narcissist attorney? No! He's fired! I had a woman attorney. I got more than half bc he lied. That's on him, not me.

@stevemeacham6880 Жыл бұрын

I take care of myself now. She hates it. Still can’t start this process tho.

@user-ct2kt4nc3x Ай бұрын

Last night I informed my husband of 32 years that I am divorcing him. He will be served next week. 😭

@innafurman3732 2 жыл бұрын

i take care of myself

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

Stay strong! ❤

@Lyndsydypyty 2 жыл бұрын

2 1/2 years later.... STILL trying to get divorced!! Can't just b done!! I'm so over it!! 22 years was enough. I'm soooo ready to leave it all in the past....

@MReeb-nq9pd Ай бұрын

Did you finalize?

@donnaloveless4266 2 жыл бұрын

I dont want to say things on line i need confdentiallity. Im 71 and on soc.Sec and living in a low income senior community

@Leon-xo5os 2 жыл бұрын

So people can change for the better and what if the guy or woman want to truly what to change would you then say maybe get might work and help the relationship to improve or are do you say just give up no matter what and people can't change for the better? Have you seen people change their lives to make the relationship work out in the end

@johndre8673 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy having my former partner back , after being separated for months . All thanks to Mr Ehijator whom help me to get back my ex again , I will suggest y'all to get help from him and it works within 48hours

@johndre8673 2 жыл бұрын

@✛2348147185762♥️≧﹏≦適港, 港决很.

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

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@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

I can't wait to teach you how to WIN!

@wwilson7034 Жыл бұрын

The day I discover you …. I knew I had someone on my side. Thank you simply doesn’t seem to suffice. Sending love

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@Jakairie Жыл бұрын

Can a lawyer ghost you?

@rosemontoya3656 2 жыл бұрын

If you receive a commission we who truelly need it should receive a discount .’..not fair! Not right

@retrobarbie9028 2 жыл бұрын

Right on time... I just came from my divorce lawyers office yesterday. And I realize I'm in the first stage of Denial. But I know it won't get better if I stay.

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

First stage is tough! Check out the Breaking Free from Divorce Masterclasses (www.breakingfreefromdivorce.com/) where I walk you through how to navigate the divorce process. You got this!

@jacquiesegafredo886 2 жыл бұрын

I won the first 2 motions in my divorce proceedings. I keep praying everyday that the Judge will keep seeing what the truth really is. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

@wolfgang7812 Жыл бұрын

I take care if myself and those important to me!

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

Absolutely RIGHT ON!

@sudhak86 Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️

@eileenshields8904 2 жыл бұрын

I will take care of myself

@donnaloveless4266 2 жыл бұрын

I need personal consultation on dealing with my divorce and avceptimg

@lucawilliam876 Жыл бұрын

Hi..i was a victim of this and am looking towards getting over it but i can't i want someone to talk to....

@jamespimentel1794 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself and im in such a better place because of Rebecca

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

You got this, James!

@deborahbruggeman1430 2 жыл бұрын

my lawyer is worthless I had to file a complaint against her it's been almost a year we owned nothing together our vehicles were in our own names and that was it I went months without hearing from her or getting a response from any of my emails or messages she's just irritated all I get are bills after my initial deposit my husband sold money our oldest son's inheritance everything she told me she would get was less than half she's done a better job of destroying me than he did 33 years later I need help I couldn't even make my car payment this month I was sent fake court date changes and of course I thought they were real and when I reported to her a week before we were supposed to start mediation and I hadn't heard from her and it disappeared and we're trying to get it out of the cloud but she was no help I have to do it all by myself I don't know what to do I'm just giving up

@lucawilliam876 Жыл бұрын

Hi..i was a victim of this and am looking towards getting over it but i can't i want someone to talk to....

@jacquiesegafredo886 2 жыл бұрын

Dear hearts I take care of myself. Yes, lonely at times but necessary.

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

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@nabeninja5718 2 жыл бұрын

Just filed a few days ago. It was /is thus far amicable. I’m grieving all the stages, flowing in between them. I think when she’s outta my life I’ll be nearing that acceptance stage. But definitely the anger stage i sulk in the most. In a way- I find safety in it because I know I’d reject the Hoover while I’m still angry.

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

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@laurelmizell2922 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself!!!

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! ❤

@laurelmizell2922 2 жыл бұрын

@@RebeccaZungEsq Your words and course have been a life saver for me Rebecca! Thank you!! ❤️🙏

@annaburns2865 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making this video. I was so extremely angry, livid and furious with my husband last year that I felt like something was wrong with me and I was surprised that he usually didn’t retaliate. He never got angry like my dad who was a raging narcissist. But now I know and probably knew back then that my husband is a different kind of narcissist. I am working through the stages. Right now I am just glad that my husband isn’t as bad as my parents. *sigh* Sidenote: I definitely went through all five of these stages even though I am still married. Maybe this procedure can happen with my family or origin as well? I still have contact with my family of origin but it’s much, much more limited now. I couldn’t cut them off completely.

@arnaudinstalle 2 жыл бұрын

If you were angry, and he never retaliated, why do you think he's a narcissist?

@annaburns2865 2 жыл бұрын

@@arnaudinstalle Hmmm🤔 That’s a good point. Maybe I just misunderstood the situation. Thank you for clarifying that for me.

@magicj599 2 жыл бұрын

@@arnaudinstalle agree. narcs are incapable of self reflection and can't stay calm when confronted.

@patriciavandevelde5469 2 жыл бұрын

Don t marry! Buy yourself a beautiful place,take a dog and have a lot of friends with benefits! Why pamper men? They are not worth the hazzle!

@tashad2201 2 жыл бұрын

I left and I have divorce papers but can't seem to file or even let go. I gave my all in this and just struggle with thinking someone would want to be the way he is so I keep hoping he will change. This is the worst. On top of religious beliefs and where to draw the line. So confused!!!!!

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

The initial steps are usually the toughest but you can do this. Stay strong against the narcissist. 💪 Check out my Breaking Free Divorce Masterclasses www.breakingfreefromdivorce.com/ where I walk you through how to navigate the divorce process.

@sheryl7837 2 жыл бұрын

Tasha, it is highly, even extremely unlikely that he will change. Mainly bc they don’t want to change. I gave it my all for 47 years and tried everything under the sun to make the marriage work. I was told by my counselor that I had every reason to divorce, including religious reasons. My ex only got worse as he aged! I am now married to the man of my dreams, kind, unselfish, loving and so much more. I never knew marriage could be so wonderful. God bless you, I wish you the best.

@tashad2201 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for everything. This gives me hope and I will use it to push through.

@InvictumLupus 2 жыл бұрын

If you don’t do it now, he will. The outcome benefits the person who files first. I just went through it the past year.

@lucawilliam876 Жыл бұрын

Hi..i was a victim of this and am looking towards getting over it but i can't i want someone to talk to....

@jesseniaherrerareyes5439 2 жыл бұрын

Now I take care of myself

@davidhinkson8856 2 жыл бұрын

Religious beliefs kept me locked in for a while. I was the only "practicing Christian" in my family so I was determined to make the marriage work, and I was fooled into believing that I needed to grow more spiritually for the marriage to work (though no one told me what that entailed - pastors I'd reached out to for counseling in that church were totally inept). So when I realized that I was experiencing spiritual as well as other forms of abuse, I put an end to it. Still battling with the aftermath of my separation and her attempts to remotely control my finances and time.

@SherrieRuffino 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry you was misguided, used and, hurt so bad:( I will pray for you David 🙏 just hold on and hang tight to the good Lord☺️give it to him and I know all will work out:) 🌟

@julianndavis9415 2 жыл бұрын

Me too. I believe the Bible and what scriptures say are for our benefit. My husband however would use the scripture on ‘man is head of the house’ as grounds for being a dictator and enforcing control to have everything his way. He totally ignores the part about imitating Jesus

@dodibenabba1378 2 жыл бұрын

Quite possibly you like me were married to someone with a Jezebel or Lilith spirit. 32 year relationship and two grown up children! Then a friend told me about narcissistic abuse and woke me up to what was going on, my mental and physical health were in an appalling state, the demon nearly killed me but Our Heavenly Father is steadfast and never leaves us. What a Saviour! 🙏✝️🙌🕎🗡️🔥❤️😊

@joythorsteinson6745 2 жыл бұрын

Same!! Thats how he got this far,...

@2fiah_914 2 жыл бұрын

Same

@CLHS1944 2 жыл бұрын

Since leaving the ex a covert narcissist I’ve done nothing but take care of myself!!!

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

Good for you! ❤

@SherrieRuffino 2 жыл бұрын

😊👏👏👏👏

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@shannelm3489 2 жыл бұрын

This is my second time filing for divorce and since then he’s moved to Florida and he keeps insisting that we should work things out. Even though he’s already moved on with his life. If I go through with it he’s says he’s going to contest the divorce. I’ve wasted so much money on him and this divorce I just want to be done with it already. The pain, the heartaches, and the stress.

@tashad2201 2 жыл бұрын

Praying for you. You are not alone.

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

He's really making it very hard for you! Check out my the Breaking Free from Divorce Masterclasses (www.breakingfreefromdivorce.com/). I'll walk you through navigating the divorce process!

@shannelm3489 2 жыл бұрын

@@tashad2201 thank you sending you strength and love your way.

@lucillebennet4233 2 жыл бұрын

@Sluggo01 10 ай бұрын

Maybe if you dont ask for what is his…just ask for what is your..what you earned in life,..ask Social security for your yearly wages…and then compare it to his, you put in 20% you get 20%…and no more

@Preeti-nb8ml 2 жыл бұрын

Is it safe to show happiness on social site before take divorce from narcissistic ?

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@angelapapadopoulos189 2 жыл бұрын

Trying to take care of myself. My narc became visible via a group event right in front of me & best of a photo proof. It took me about 3 months to blow up. When I did, they tried to gaslight me. " I WOULD NEVER HURT YOU." As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. Now the hoovering as well as the love bombing have begun. I have learned to not react because of your videos & fb group. Sadly, we share a house for the time being. The threats have begun too. "I'LL TAKE YOU TO THE CLEANERS" . His famous remark is, BUT, WE ARE MARRIED, SO ......" He truly believes that "this entitlemwnt" allows him to be in charge/control of me emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and my family & friends. It took me the event with the photos to wake up, take a serious look, and put myself into protection/build a wall mode. #Iwillsurvive

@lucawilliam876 Жыл бұрын

Hi..i was a victim of this and am looking towards getting over it but i can't i want someone to talk to....

@snoopy4802 2 жыл бұрын

I was taking care of myself before my ex fiancee narcissist came along and guess what I'm taking care of myself after I left him. I'm so glad I didn't have to go through a nasty divorce with that man. It would have been ugly because going through a divorce you learn a lot and what to do in the future. Ladies, take care of yourself always. Always be #1 to yourself.

@johndre8673 2 жыл бұрын

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@snoopy4802 2 жыл бұрын

@@johndre8673 No thank you scammer

@darlenejansen7521 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for always saying the right information needed to help us get thru to the end , hopefully. You bring hope and knowledge of how to see the narcissist for who they really are and help us move on! Great video! I shared this video with our daughter who needs to realize her value and bring true happiness into her life. NO room for false people controlling others lives. We are strong, we are committed to living a happy, normal life!

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@katereaves8710 2 жыл бұрын

Best video yet. Catching myself being in the entitlement phase and resentful phase is an eye opener.

@lucawilliam876 Жыл бұрын

Hi i was a victim of this and am looking towards getting over it but i can't...I need someone to talk to....

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

Glad I could help. You got this! ❤

@kp5390 2 жыл бұрын

Very difficult to start a new future. Ended up in 2 psych hospitals. Depression phase is hard. You are so truthful. I am almost to acceptance. Your spot on!!!!

@12onin_Gypsy Жыл бұрын

You got this!

@ebaydrbrads 2 жыл бұрын

Omg! I fell for hoovering hook line and sinker! Started divorce process then she became perfect wife, I'll change, counseling, meds, started doing all the things I like. Bought very expensive home in another town and it's all starting up again.

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@erickafrye323 2 жыл бұрын

God helps me to take care of myself

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

Amen! 🙏

@lucawilliam876 Жыл бұрын

That's the reality there

@peterknyk1942 2 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh, I can't wait! 💞

@josephsnisky1851 2 жыл бұрын

That's it Rebecca keep the pressure on , don't let up . Some times I even feel it and I'm not one of them . You're doing a good job .

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@nicolamills8003 2 жыл бұрын

This was great. Thank you, from New Zealand

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

Thank YOU, Nicola. NamaSLAY!

@nicolamills8003 2 жыл бұрын

You are not wrong. Selling house, as he wants a divorce, but , now, only wants to split up, but still sell, so he can use equity to bum around Europe and I'm Left living in a camper van... But he's love bombing me heaps!?! Wants me to sign sale of house I guess, but I'm not fooled, as the devalue will start, as summer follows spring... Thanks Rebecca for all your wisdom.

@user-dc6wz4dv3l 3 ай бұрын

The first thing I told my lawyer was he doesn't think I'm allowed to get a divorce. She laughed.....but not anymore. She believes him. When you marry a narcissist they believe they own your body and your mind. This means thinking about getting a divorce is not allowed. This also means you go where he allows, when he allows, and no he won't say any of this; he will prove it with his actions. He will cause a fight to stop you from leaving or create an event. You have sex when he says so, or face insult the next time, which is sexual abuse. They use sexual abuse for all kinds of punishment. I'll reiterate they own your body. They will attempt to put you in a mental hospital to keep you married when you try to divorce them. Nothing is yours- if you get away with your 50% they will rob you anyway; they can because you and everything in your life is theirs, including the children. They do not want 50/50 custody they will pretend to agree. Then go behind your back lying, illegally stalking you-using your children and family, surveillance, submit false incriminating evidence to take control of the children. If you get away you go naked. Or else. You will be happy anyway, just to get away.

@chihuahuakween2085 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself 🥰

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

That is very empowering! Stay vigilant!

@sonialola4329 2 жыл бұрын

Rebecca God bless you, I’ll definitely take care of myself. I currently have my deceased husband‘s spirit in my body which ha ha who who, incredibly challenging, but I’ll take care of myself thank you so much for all your information. God bless you just got skills

@luckied7542 2 жыл бұрын

I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF Actually, it's God who takes care of me. One of many examples: When my narc mother died, everyone around me thought I was crying out of grief, but I was crying out of relief. I spent the next 5 months confused about how I was supposed to feel about my mother's death, and slept all the time. I had to drop out of college to take care of my mother during her last days. I ran out of money, so I needed a job. One day, my husband said that he scheduled a job interview to get me back to living again. I mean I wasn't even looking. I was in bed all the time except to eat. I never even left the house. I went to the interview and it was the easiest interview I ever had. She only asked me one question, she hired me, and hugged me to seal the deal. This was a total stranger! Lol. I still have the job to this day after 17 years.

@jee-youngkim4142 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself!!🌷

@trillienone6394 2 жыл бұрын

I hope you find someone special that'll love you for who you are, I'm truly interested in your old soul and you'll complete my other half... I want to hug you tight because you mean so much to me... Your voice makes my heart flutter for an reason... Your my intuition, my purpose, my gift

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@briannameade3509 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve been going through severe stages of narcissism from my husband for almost 2 years (per Wendy Behary narcissistic therapist ). I am about to ask for a divorce and truly feel like I’m already at the 5th stage. I’ve gone through all the others & feel total acceptance. Is that even possible? I have no clue on his end how he will respond/handle things. But I’m ready.

@lucawilliam876 Жыл бұрын

Hi..i was a victim of this and am looking towards getting over it but i can't i want someone to talk to....

@corinnaschreiber5455 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of my SELF!

@paulalee5179 2 жыл бұрын

"There is a difference between what's equitable and what's allowed under the law... Move on for you" (Rebecca Zung)

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@almacortez1198 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself 💞

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome!!! ❤

@iamgoddessoflove 2 жыл бұрын

Once a narcissist can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. 💙KZfaqr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

@dodibenabba1378 2 жыл бұрын

You aren't a goddess that's an insult to the Most High God of Israel, the best a human can be is a daughter or son of the Most High God of Israel, and for that you must be born again. There is only ONE GOD and He is your Heavenly Father. If you believe anything else you've been fooled by the demonic. Blessings 🙏✝️🙌🕎🗡️🔥

@PBVader 2 жыл бұрын

This is one of the only things in the comments section I can agree with. Narcissism is our current societal problem, and nobody wants to deal with it. Shall we let them tear themselves apart?

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@peterknyk1942 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself! This is an incredible video, Rebecca! The death of a marriage is more difficult for me than physical death because of the spiritual component...🌻🕊

@jacquiesegafredo886 2 жыл бұрын

Peter, I will say a prayer for you as well. Because I understand completely how difficult this is. 🙏🙏🙏

@peterknyk1942 2 жыл бұрын

@@jacquiesegafredo886 Thank you, Jacquie! I will recite the 23rd psalm for you tonight! 💕🙏🏻

@SherrieRuffino 2 жыл бұрын

God will see us through🙏🌟

@JS-dq7ir 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you as always for your videos . I only have a comment about the “depression” part. I would be careful not to “blah blah blah” it away although I do agree we need to stop ourselves from going down the “rabbit hole”. Please remember you were never married to a narcissist and yes, that makes a BIG difference. Marriage is the most vulnerable abs intimate relationship you can have and there are vows that are spoken that say, “through good and through bad, in sickness abs in health….forever until death we do part”. And then when children are involved well enough said. You feel like you have failed

@davidhinkson8856 2 жыл бұрын

Correct - you do feel like a failure if it doesn't work out but it's not in your best interest to stay if you've tried your best but the other party really doesn't care one way or the other.

@dodibenabba1378 2 жыл бұрын

Vows are not biblical.

@JS-dq7ir 2 жыл бұрын

@@dodibenabba1378 doesn’t matter if they are not “biblical”. It’s not a “religion” issue. It’s a HUMAN issue that effects trust.

@JS-dq7ir 2 жыл бұрын

@@dodibenabba1378 in other words, your response doesn’t make sense or maybe it does to you.

@dodibenabba1378 2 жыл бұрын

@@JS-dq7ir the Bible has nothing to do with religion. 🙏✝️🙌🕎🗡️🔥

@over-comer Жыл бұрын

I presume narcissists also go through the 5 stages.

@wolfgang7812 Жыл бұрын

I have experienced the "I never should have married the person" but that is the loop the narc wants their target of abuse to be stuck in. The "shoulda; coulda; woulda" loop!

@itisfinishednowtimetoclean2723 2 жыл бұрын

Catastrophic indeed, I had zero denial, I am angry. I had no more fight left in me during the divorce I settled quickly, I wanted out. X kept most of most of “our“ my personal pictures year books…. Locked me out of my house and put cameras up within days of leaving, I was afraid of him and his family. Thank God for the law and for attorneys who know their stuff. When I left he said I should just walk away from 20 plus years of my investment, then said, “I think we can work this out…” my reply; if 20 plus years has shown us anything it’s clear that’s not possible, then they were going to make me pay via stalking…. I take care of myself, good care.

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@kindnessisnotweakness532 2 жыл бұрын

I take care of myself. Thank you for your service here. I am facing a really tough divorce in the county next to where you practice in Florida. I am almost to acceptance!

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

Stay strong and don't give up! You got this! 💪

@janisgriffin3578 2 жыл бұрын

When you divorce a narcissist with whom you have children whom s/he alienates against you, it's almost impossible to reach the acceptance phase. My ex-narc alienated the kids against me. In 20 years since the divorce they still don't acknowledge that I exist. I would appreciate a video on parental alienation.

@RebeccaZungEsq 2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear about the damage done by the narcissist. I do have videos about parenting with a narcissist, including parental alienation. Check out this playlist: kzfaq.info/sun/PLku4DIiORCvJAYBnPeCMiit3YGg-81jnQ

@aprilchow-chee5281 2 жыл бұрын

I haven't gotten alienated as yet he just refuses to have anything to do with the kids unless I give him full custody of them. So it's either I take care of them alone or he takes care of them alone. And I won't give up my children because he's a horrible person. He's financially stable yes but an alcoholic and would ditch his kids for alcohol, sex and friends it's insane.

@paulfool8728 2 жыл бұрын

Yherapist

@Leon-xo5os 2 жыл бұрын

I hate being a narcissist I losing my wife I want change and get help for it I hurt her so bad now I hurt. Im will to change I because she is the love of my life I understand what I was doing and changed in how u would treat her now. I read the bible and have a relationship with the heavenly father. I feel set free from control her. I know now that in a relationship that you need unconditional love meaning that no matter what happens to her you stick by her side will to our her needs above yours. Lifting her up when she is down in courage her and motive her it isn't about you any more it is about the both of you and trying to bring out the best in each other not to use her or bring her down. A lot of is I lacked self confidence and hated my self all the time. She us still her in under the same roof but doesn't say any thing to me. I try to show how much progress I have made but it doesn't matter to it is to late. It hurts me just as much as she hurt because we are of one flesh and we make whole and when one hurt you both feel and share the hurt. I sorry my love. It is going to be hard for me but I will always love and I hope and pray for the best for you. My yahweh bless you path and protect you as you go in life my you bountiful in everything you do. Also lift you up from here on out. I have truly change in my heart. I pierced her so bad that I'm scared to have anyone else now. I can hurt anyone any more so I will never love again. I not saying this to get her back because I want what makes her happy and in return I will be happy. I wish you the best forever. I know that what I have said is in line with a narcissist but it is all true I meant it.

@jake90009 2 жыл бұрын

I think I'm jst gonna stay single forever. Living with my narc dad, who's a neglectful/malignant narcissist, he acts like I'm married to him or aught to be. If I ever actually do get married, it will be after at least 1 year of knowing them

@PBVader 2 жыл бұрын

It takes a lot longer than a year. They will at games till you catch on, 12 years for me. My advise, don't get married, not even to an Amish or Mennonite. The state will no longer have their narcissistic control.

@lillybethford1915 2 жыл бұрын

Tip: If you’re dealing with a covert narcissist, there’s hope. Here’s why: Because covert narcissists are very protective/obsessed of their image, they may be willing to fold a little, as it pertains to the settlement, why? There are things about themselves, they may not want the court or even their own lawyer to know.👍☮️

@bridgetb9899 2 жыл бұрын

I hope so 😃

@alzeppelin 2 жыл бұрын

^^^i agree 100% and know this for a fact

@Joe502J 2 жыл бұрын

That's who I'm dealing with. I'm planning this so carefully

@JohnKotch 2 жыл бұрын

@@bridgetb9899 me too

@fawn7. 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the tip

@bourbonrich491 2 жыл бұрын

My problem: I have a lot of empathy for people. Her in particular. My overactive imagination casts visions of her crying, feeling alone and rejected. In a weakened state. My 5 year role has been to protect and love her. It’s hard to do this. I’m not bargaining anymore. I did that for the last couple of months. Our marriage is definitely over; but neither of us were ready to admit it. So sad to write this out. I had plans. My wife has mental hang ups from years, prior to me. I often felt like I was either living in the shadow of an ex, or being punished for their sins. I know she’s carrying these chains. I love her very much. I care for her well-being. I would do nearly anything for her. However, I can no longer watch my self-respect sink into oblivion. I have been patiently giving her intimate space, which has resulted in the previous two years being platonic. No spark. I just told her yesterday, that I want a divorce. It was a civil conversation.

@EAngelB123 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experience. Your “overactive imagination” resonated with me. I “see” the abused and neglected 4yr old in him & feel the weight of his sorrow. I thought I could heal him with my love. I thought I could give him everything he didn’t have. 26yrs married. 10 kids not including him. Trauma bond. Early stage of separation. I hope things have gone in a positive direction for you. I hope you continue to hold your boundaries ❤

@nickacevedo4519 2 жыл бұрын

I'm taking care of myself Better than I ever did in my 30-year marriage to a crafty, evil NARCISSIST. I'm so much better and so much happier since he left to move in with his mistress.

@RebeccaZungEsq Жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪 This might help - slay.rebeccazung.com/

@babs420th9 2 жыл бұрын

This is what Amber Heard went through with vulnerable narcissist Johnny Depp. And she could use some support now. (,Johnnys fanclub is giving him a standing ovation daily.) Justice for Amber Heard!!

@InvictumLupus 2 жыл бұрын

Lol. Are you watching the trial? Her own witnesses are not helping her case. They’re both narcissists but she’s the bigger abuser.

@SherrieRuffino 2 жыл бұрын

I always get the vibe from Depp that he is an Empath. But, can’t be sure because I do not know him personally?

@babs420th9 2 жыл бұрын

@@SherrieRuffino Does the kitchen-rage video of him describe an empath? More like 100% vulnerable narcissist.

@babs420th9 2 жыл бұрын

@@InvictumLupus Erm, her witnesses are confirming her story! He beat her! And she covered her bruises and cuts to cover for Johnny, like so many other victims. I suppose most of these types of rock'n'roll relationships take this turn sooner or later... But she should't take the blame for HIS violence! Insane.

@brandonhenson8387 2 жыл бұрын

@@babs420th9 narcissists can push empaths to the point that they explode and appear to be the crazy one. It's a tactic that they commonly use. Then they record you and make you look like the bad guy so that recording of Johnny may not tell the whole story.