The Abusive Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships | Idealize, Devalue and Discard

The Abusive Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships | Idealize, Devalue and Discard | SL Coaching

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@WestySimas 5 жыл бұрын

This kind of material should be taught to young people before they screw up. It's too late for a lot of people now, but the youngsters need to hear this. You're right on point.

@buzzingbee9499 4 жыл бұрын

Yet when you warn new supply they won't listen With all the knowledge and internet knowledge they won't research because it's denial because it feels so good . It's a shame.

@oceanenriqueplariza7393 4 жыл бұрын

Learning this now at 27 and making sure I dont become one. Working to becoming a healthy emotional person and taking responsibility for my thoughts.

@rosepetals765 3 жыл бұрын

I was just thinking of that. I wish school starts teaching about this. Too bad it’s too late for me.

@rosaliesullivan7531 2 жыл бұрын

I'd like to become a motivational speaker & address this to our youth & young adults.

@nkne.7040 5 жыл бұрын

Yes. Truth. It took being discarded for me to get help. I am codependent person. Unresolved childhood trauma. I am extremely loyal. He knew I would have NEVER left. It wasn't until I was thrown away, until I decided to stop and take a long hard look at myself, and my choices. I am now divorced and having to parallel parent with him. On the day I was served with divorce papers, he said to me: " if in 2 weeks you see me with someone else, don't want you to think I was cheating on you." Sure enough, he introduced our 5 year old to his new younger girlfriend just 4 weeks later. We were together 6 years, and I was replaced in 4 weeks. Now I know why. It still hurts knowing I didn't matter. I was in love with the representative who showed up. I wasn't in love with the man himself. So the next time he calls me a " piece of garbage " when we exchange our daughter, I will know that I am not who he says I am. He told everyone that I am the reason the marriage failed. He tells the same narrative to everyone we knew: that he left because I was abusive and mean. He says nothing about his part. I am finally starting to get healthy. This video is great. Thank you.

@libwest9541 5 жыл бұрын

“If you have to ask if you were being abused then, it was abuse”. It felt like a never ending cycle. One minute he’d be fine and the next it felt like I was his verbal punching bag. I almost felt like he had a split personality. All his friends thought he was a standup guy but, behind closed doors he was the devil. The emotional exhaustion, the feeling of never being good enough and the shame. After he was done, I couldn’t even look in the mirror and see myself. I looked vacant, the life was literally sucked out of me. One month no contact

@tbowpin7881 4 жыл бұрын

This really pisses me off knowing that someone I KNOW I loved and I thought loved me is like this and would ever try me like this . This is by far some of the saddest shit I’ve ever heard .

@heidi1543 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve experienced😡 being the narcissistic supply, it wrecks mental health

@heidi1543 3 жыл бұрын

The aftermath of a narcissistic relationship is no trust

@TaymaShine 2 жыл бұрын

I’m going to be honest. I do believe narcissists can love. But their love is toxic because trauma taught them to love this way. Of course, that’s no excuse for how they treat others.

@miss_whipps 2 жыл бұрын

@@heidi1543 PREACH! After allll the lies it's impossible to have any peace of mind.

@ryansmeester9618 2 ай бұрын

Hi Stephanie it’s Ryan I’m in a Wayfinders program and I was wondering how I can deal with my abuse wife

@skbains86 3 жыл бұрын

When I allowed myself to be discarded for the last time, I knew the relationship was completely over and I began to hold onto myself with ❤️.Dear Ex-lover, 🙏🏽”you forced me to become a better version of myself”

@SugarM84 5 жыл бұрын

You will never know how much you have helped me. I hope to meet you someday

@PaolaRL 5 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@Platinumally 3 жыл бұрын

I’m totally going through the devalue and discarding stage and its killing me. I’m kicking myself for staying in this relationship. I knew what it was yet I still didn’t want to believe it💔💔

@reneekelley4279 3 жыл бұрын

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@smithashekhar9539 Жыл бұрын

Takes time. Love yourself. Work on yourself each day.

@amala1874 5 жыл бұрын

Stephanie, on behalf of all those who's lives you're touching, thankyou. God bless.

@misstmemrs 2 жыл бұрын

Yea. Good!

@uzbek1988 2 жыл бұрын

I reported my cheating narcissistic girlfriend to immigration. That b$itch is being deported. Revenge is the sweetest joy 🤩

@toothlessbanana7988 4 жыл бұрын

I started sobbing when you said “it had nothing to do with you”. I blamed myself for months. I watched him move on with someone else while I felt like I was dying on a daily basis. I’ve rewatched this video so many times. I feel strength slowly coming back! I’m worthy and I am good enough!!

@lwontherez7927 4 жыл бұрын

“Narcissistic supply” = attention; adoration; adulation; putting them on a pedestal; admiration; honor; idolization; etc.

@stefaniastefi1614 5 жыл бұрын

I agree 100% this should be learnt in school! Relationships functional and disfunctional and all

@marylu7711 5 жыл бұрын

This is soooo spot on! I was with a narcissist for 12 years and I was so depleted in the end, it's taken 3 years to heal... And I'm now grateful for the lesson... Thank you for this video! Your helping so many people 💜

@sunshinedayz7032 5 жыл бұрын

Awesome video! This sounds like my relationship for the past 8 years. I finally figured out what was happening and decided "no more!" I was so confused due to the sneakiness and the cycle of nice and then mean. I am learning and growing and know I deserve more. I will not settle for bad behavior again. I was so happy and energetic in the beginning and periods throughout the relationship, but he drained me of all of that. I became sad, depressed and sick. I truly felt like I was just dying inside. It has been a month since the break-up and I am gaining strength and becoming my happy self again. Most difficult thing ever was to leave him, but the best decision for my health and well being.

@hazelpruett2681 5 жыл бұрын

I am completely floored that you nailed my marriage to a tee 😲 I had no idea this was a common and clean cut example of narcissistic abuse. I wish this was taught to me!! This has given me the reassurance that going forward with the separation/divorce despite having our 2 children is absolutely the right thing to do. I knew there was something bigger, stronger and more sinister behind all of this and you have just named that thing for me. I cannot thank you enough.

@vanessatamayo4156 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Hazel. I am in the same position also with two children. Did you separate and if so any advice as how to?

@rashideighttwo9320 5 жыл бұрын

Im a guy and I never in a million years thought I would be in this type of relationship she has torn my heart to pieces

@jamesegan8184 5 жыл бұрын

This is another excellent video by Stephanie Lyn. I endorse her coaching, she is a one of a kind person who also adds value to the lives of tens of thousands whenever she posts the videos. Lyn has some incredible insights on relationships.

@Brooke684 5 жыл бұрын

I say that too, Stephanie. We talk about booz, drugs, birth-control, drug addiction, etc, this stuff should absolutely be on billboards. Ox

@alamadakaratihy9312 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t know how I found your channel, but thank God I did. I just came out of this exact scenario and I’ve been-binge watching your videos because for the first time I’m actually getting some clarity, and able to put the emotional roller coaster behind me. You are making me feel like a sane, rational, normal human being again. I haven’t felt like that in about a year now. Thank you.

@christinabeita5671 4 жыл бұрын

Mine cheated on me from the very beginning and I was too blind with the image of him,he puts in my head!.

@jkai17 3 жыл бұрын

Same here. She was going behind my back from the beginning and I chose to ignore or excuse it time and again. Never again

@jeffmcilroy7081 5 жыл бұрын

I’m a guy who seems to be a magnet for narcissist females.. I give up on relationships but your videos definitely help me see some of the narcissist behaviours in my work relationships.. especially those in management. Thank you!

@neil7236 5 жыл бұрын

How many of them arnt Narcs lol

@vibekes2416 5 жыл бұрын

I wish you all the best 🙄 Narcs are poison

@android584 3 жыл бұрын

I'm starting to think that any woman who's life is a mess but is keen for a relationship anyway is a narcissist. These seem to be the only type of women willing to strike up a friendship with me though. Maybe it's possible for me to do better.

@android584 3 жыл бұрын

I think women are encouraged to treat men as a disposable commodity unfortunately. Straight white men are devalued by the culture creators and women are more easily influenced by popular culture.

@mariahconklin4150 2 жыл бұрын

They are all over which is why I’m no longer excited in finding a job. I left a toxic job thinking it was for me and my self esteem but it was for God and my boyfriend. My boyfriend is really toxic. It got to the point where I texted and lashed out at him for everything. We are 4 months in and all he’s ever done is mirror me and yet he still continue to put me on a pedestal it gets so old.

@diamondgirl7997 5 жыл бұрын

I think the 5 people that gave this video a thumbs down are probably narcissistic. This was excellent. A lot of wisdom!

@nopcshere6097 5 жыл бұрын

I bet they are narcissistic parents/former spouses of some of us commenting here.

@bradmcewen 5 жыл бұрын

Play by play, blow by blow still after 2 years is remembered well. The saving grace is the first narc....outs the rest. A superbly well done clip.

@joywilliams4779 4 жыл бұрын

Wow i just relived every thing she said!!It is Damn so hard to comprehend and believe i meant nothing to him. I have been discarded for 3 years he only tried once to say anything he sent me Happy Thanksgiving greeting...I didn't respond. Just seeing that horrified me like i was watching a horror movie!! That the affect he had on me.. I gave him all of me. And although when i think about it. He showed me no commitment ever In those 6 years.!! I have been forever changed. I knew nothing of a Narssassist when i was with him. But when i watch these video's Im saddened that there are evil people like that out here preying on people. I left a relationship to be with him. But he would always tell me that i was still in love with the other guy. When i clearly told him it was him i wanted to be with!! It just All makes sense and I'm so grateful that I've found out wat i was dealing with! God Bless the people who are out her talking and giving much needed information!!!! Kuddos to U!!

@justastrawberrymonst 5 жыл бұрын

Amazing video! You should make videos about abusive friendships and families

@vibekes2416 5 жыл бұрын

Roxy Agree

@android584 3 жыл бұрын

Yes I think there would be plenty of cases where people are involved with a narcissist as a friend. It's not as big of a disruption as a romantic partner but still leaves a lot of questions and anger

@daniellecarroll7749 5 жыл бұрын

This is absolutely spot on! Thank you for sharing this with all of us.

@Quoteablemoments 5 жыл бұрын

I’ve been discarded. When I look back now I see it was just a fantasy. I meant nothing to him. I know that it had nothing to do with me, but I am still hurt

@Logangil515 3 жыл бұрын

How Are you doing now?

@Quoteablemoments 3 жыл бұрын

Logangil515 so much better, I’ve moved on and I’m happy. Thank you for asking 🙂🙂

@Logangil515 3 жыл бұрын

Quotable Moments I’m really glad to here that! I’m going through the same thing with my ex wife, the pain is still there but I’m taking it day by day. Thank you for sharing

@Quoteablemoments 3 жыл бұрын

Logangil515 it gets better day by day. You will have your moments, but as long as you keep working on yourself you will make it through. Watch this it helped me a lot kzfaq.info/get/bejne/eNeflrmp2b3HYZc.html

@KeepItRealintheKitchen 3 жыл бұрын

Same here... discarded (finally and for real- new supply) and wow, just digesting the fantasy, the reality, the abuse, every point in this video... play by play. Realizing he never really loved me at all when I gave him my whole heart. So much love and support. Phew! BUT these videos. This community. Seeing your more recent comment that you are doing great... I am feeling so hopeful now. Fuck him. Fuck that mess. I am blessed to be out. One and done. Never again.

@KB-sg7tv 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for making these videos. You're literally helping me save my own life.

@scottneal2302 5 жыл бұрын

Hang in there. I am in the same thing. It's been four months now since the break-up, Still hard but no near as bad.

@slimjim1104 3 жыл бұрын

As soon as I set some boundaries and started having discussions about lack of emotional availability we broke up and two days later was with someone else. These people deserve every terrible thing that happens to them.

@aprilchow-chee5281 Жыл бұрын

Truly

@bwilson2564 5 жыл бұрын

great education .you have helped me in a 12 year marriage of not understanding these phases and cycles.thank you so much.

@RATLOVIN900 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for another great video. Having been through all of that and still suffering really gives me some of the validation I'm desperately needing right now. Thank you for giving a bit of hope in a really dark place

@jazzminrios699 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. My whole life I been dealing with these abuse and I’m so empowered now. My confidence is so much higher now. Thank you for the knowledge

@MichailStrelzow 5 жыл бұрын

Wow! This was the clearest message I've ever seen. Thank you!

@Mookiezbadazmach 5 жыл бұрын

You are a huge deal to so many. You are AMAZING,thank you Steph.

@odette8905 5 жыл бұрын

Great video Stephanie! Well done. Well on my way to recovery and this all hits the nail precisely on the head. Agree that this stuff needs to be taught in schools! Let's go!

@gracehicks7870 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this. It 100% helps validate what I went through and helps me heal from feeling crazy. Your videos have been very insightful and have helped me in my own journey of getting back up and working in myself.

@britneyr6917 4 жыл бұрын

I never comment on videos, but this has got to be one of the best one's I have ever watched. It is exactly what I went through and exactly what I feel.. word for word! I cried a little, I needed that, thank you so much for all that you do.. you are wonderful! Blessings to you and yours!

@melissahill3015 5 жыл бұрын

I can't even begin to tell you how much this video hit home. I'm at a loss for words.....how empowering! Thank you a million times over.

@wompyboy 5 жыл бұрын

I love your videos and perspective on life and appreciate you taking your time to bring clarity to these very difficult subjects. Emotional manipulation, what it looks like and how it happens needs to be discussed and addressed. Thank you again. Working on my recovery and how to keep my mind in a healthy, positive state.

@saimaummar786 5 жыл бұрын

I would like to say thank you Stephanie Lyn . You are the reason I’m able to live a happy positive life . Love listening to your videos . May god give you reward 🙂

@yukineswan 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saving my life Stephanie!

@jessebodley4893 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for all your efforts on topics like this . Your videos provided the information and self love skills I needed to walk away from the the worst heartbreak of my life. It was so empowering and uplifting to discover that I had the power to make myself be in a better place. This person I held so dear did not control the level of my happiness . Again Thank you so much for all that you do.

@minshweyi6468 3 жыл бұрын

Your words are so touching. I am very grateful we have someone like you for people (who have to go through those painful life experience) like us. Thanks again very much for sharing.🥂

@rlau1568 4 жыл бұрын

It’s amazing when I can watch a new narc video and still learn something new (considering I’ve watched dozens and dozens). This video particularly resonated in all the thoughts and reflections on the relationship after the discard. You’re giving me hope on my path to healing. 💛

@kirstiegiselle1487 5 жыл бұрын

I want you to know that I started watching you this morning after I searched emotional abuse and YOU ARE BRIGHT I’ve listened to you all day and you’ve helped me ALREADY. I want to say thank you have an amazing day 💕

@bonkahermitakaintjudge9228 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you again for another great presentation. They are right on target and I hope that you do not become disenchanted. You are a valuable contributor to the disheartened. Thanks again

@ericaluna01 4 жыл бұрын

I’m so grateful for your videos. I’m struggling tonight but you helped me so much. I’m going on a month since I left. ❤️

@aussiedrifter007 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Stephanie, I appreciate your work in sharing this information with people. You have helped me understand a lot about my past and I am more hopeful for my future. You are a Gem, keep up the good work.

@SteezyDollIsabel 3 жыл бұрын

Im so glad I found your channel. I never knew about narcistic abuse or gas lighting. This really opened my eyes and I feel like a weight has been lifted from my heart. I don’t feel nervous anymore about going back to dating.

@michelleneal6954 5 жыл бұрын

You’ve just explained the past 6 years of my life 🙈 thank you for making this video. I value your advice and help. God bless you x

@bernesemuir8022 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video i am going through total heart break 😔 everythg u said is helping me come to terms with it all cant thank you enough xx

@reboundingfromnarcissistic5386 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this! These experiences help you grow. Beyond grateful

@nhsmilemaker 5 жыл бұрын

This was probably THE BEST video on this topic I’ve ever watched! Thank you! The ending was so validating for me, because I truly loved him deeply & it was the most painful experience of my life! Thank you for this! And I agree, these concepts/tactics should be discussed in schools ..no one should have to suffer through these people!

@lenoirehunt3980 3 жыл бұрын

Your delivery was so clear. Thank you! I watch many teachers of this abuse. Your delivery was so understandable and direct and gentle. This discard is the most painful/confusing/lonely time for me right now. I am doing this alone during this pandemic and i could just jump out of my skin. But daily i get up breathe, i pray, i watch videos about this and just SO hope for peace in my thoughts and heart.

@RojitaCali 4 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh. I am so grateful for you :-) I'm sitting here driving and crying cuz I know that everything that you're saying is true and one day I will heal and get over this and be more aware so I am not in this state, hopefully..... Ever again. Thank you so much, you are so so appreciated.

@melissaboller2667 5 жыл бұрын

Awesome video! I can’t thank you enough, made a huge difference in my life!❤️

@johnemberson1930 2 жыл бұрын

Lyn is so right on target! This is an important video to watch for it describes perfectly the pattern and web we are or could be caught in! Thank you, Lyn

@SanaAbidi7 5 жыл бұрын

You're truly an angel. I just found strength to end my relationship and this is exactly what my situation is. Thank you for guidance! Please make more videos on this. Loved it! 😍

@OrlandoOntiveros 5 жыл бұрын

It Still amazes me like the first time I read from these personality disorders to hear someone far away in another country, another language, describe exactly the "script" to what's going on in my life. Great video. Thanks a lot. I think it summarizes many of the aspects that keep banging our heads during these relationships, why we got here, and how to finally get out, heal and start a new healthy phase in our lives.

@xombiebrainz 5 жыл бұрын

This is exactly what I went through it was my first romantic relationship and it hurt terribly, it still hurts tbh. Your videos have really helped me to understand and heal from this experience and I very much appreciate that you put his content out here. I really does help. Thankyou

@jackie20116 5 жыл бұрын

Now I understand the cycle. It truly hearts at a deepest level going through this. Thank you Stephanie for this video.

@jackpetersen7545 2 жыл бұрын

Jacqueline Pickering,You look gorgeous 🌷,Hope you are not with a narcissist!

@bksusmc 5 жыл бұрын

Excellent video! Semper Fi! Do or die! Was my engrained Marine Corps moto, it almost killed me. LOL. 23 years then she discarded me. So happy to have my life back. Yes, still healing those childhood wounds. I really like the self parenting concept also

@markford4949 2 жыл бұрын

I have spent 5 weeks since the discard… completely unable to recognise my ex fiancée. It has been the most disturbing thing I have ever witnessed. To see a switch flip in that person is so disorientating to my mental health. This video and explanation was like someone narrating the entire relationship from start to finish. We’re still living together until the house is sold and it’s like living with someone I’ve never met. It’s like she had never spent 3 years with me living together. She’s just switched into this single partying girl the very next day after discarding. I’m totally in shock. The woman I knew would never behave like this. It’s so weird to witness. I’ve been lost for words and I’m usually very logical. This experience has blown me away. Your explanation however has provided me with some closure and clarity. Thank you very much!

@dondewitt6414 3 жыл бұрын

This absolutely saved my life you are helping so many people out there that have never dealt with the discard to The gaslighting the silent treatment they absolutely make you think you’re going insane thank you for putting my feet on the ground and getting my scrambled eggs put back together you’re a godsend

@mariethompson8560 4 жыл бұрын

Stephanie you have a gift. Thank you. I am trying to get out of this cycle. Right now I have been discarded. I told him how I felt ... and set boundaries but as narcs do they don't want to be accountable or change. So he completely cut me off after blame shifting. And now he is acting as if I don't even exist. Lol. I need to be strong and stay away. These videos have helped me in a major way. I really hope I can truly move on and love myself. Thank you for your help and I will continue watching these videos and change myself.

@joanoshea773 2 жыл бұрын

I've only recently found you and I am delighted as you talk so clearly and are easy to understand and u make so much sense ... your helping me so much xx

@jacquinewman8125 3 жыл бұрын

Such a brilliant way of saying that we are forced to look at ourselves and grow due to severe pain that has been inflicted.

@christinelopez3664 9 ай бұрын

I’m so glad I ran into this video. Thank you so much Stephanie! You’ve explained it so on point. I’m going through the heartbreak and after watching this video, you gave me hope. The roller coaster of feelings/emotions you’ve explained while going through the heartbreak is the worse.

@mafens88 4 жыл бұрын

Omg you have been giving me the messages that I should have heard months ago. This has been eye opening for me to start really moving on. Thank you so much 😊

@BeckBrittany 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Stephanie. You’re truly helping me get through this heartbreak.

@kristinaaaawoo 5 жыл бұрын

Again, thanks so much for your videos! As someone who is currently getting out of a toxic relationship, it really helps! I was emotionally abused by my ex for years, to the point my self confidence was nearly non-existent. I made him the center of my world. I was so codependent on him.. his happiness was my happiness and it got to be so unhealthy! I took his abuse every single day and he made me feel so small and insignificant in his life. So finally when I decided to leave, I was absolutely devastated. I felt like I had nothing. Just empty. It’s been a few months and every day feels hard, but I do know that I have been working on myself every single day and I’m proud of how much I’ve learned about myself. You are so spot on and you literally describe what I am currently living through. I appreciate your videos more than you know! Wishing you all the best :)

@danglenn7454 3 жыл бұрын

OMG I was just discarded for the third time and wished I had seen this information before hand. I could’ve saved me so much pain and grief. YOU are a godsend and you explained everything so accurately and I experienced all those things firsthand, they are so painful to go through, but there’s light at the end of the tunnel through understanding ourselves and other emotionally broken people. thank you! thank you! thank you !Stephanie you are awesome👍👍👍

@thehannahwhite 5 жыл бұрын

This video makes everything come full circle, and its hard for anyone in your life to relate to your situation. I'm so happy I found you when I did. I think the hardest part is trying to close our remaining ties for me - car loan tied to both us. He is using it to keep in contact, sending me pictures of his sister new baby and begging me to talk to him for "closure". These videos have helped me set boundaries for myself and not allowing him to use me to feel better about all the horrible things he did, and now he has to walk around with that burden and I am healing one day at a time.

@LAUREL5784 5 жыл бұрын

Your personal presentation is so very genuine, you really don't need the inserted emotion enhancing gifs! You're great withOUT them!!

@nawazmodisinghania3365 3 жыл бұрын

Your videos are so deeply valuable that I often find myself watching them very intently twice over back to back. This one is no different. You're a light worker, a soul saver. You have the blessings of millions...🙏 🙏 🙏 😇 😇 😇

@annieblooms 3 жыл бұрын

Stephanie, I just want to say I am forever indebted to you for helping me out through this most difficult time in my life. Without you sharing your expertise on this topic, I would not have been able to cope on a daily basis. As you said, we are forced to work on ourselves daily because of the very painful experience we've been through... I have understood so much as I keep on listening to you. Thank you, Stephanie!

@leacampbell2969 5 жыл бұрын

Stephanie, it’s scary how accurate this is. It’s scary for someone else to describe IN DETAIL what my marriage exactly was. I’m sharing on social to make others aware that may not know they are in this situation...like I was. Thank you 💙

@TheForeverfree1 2 жыл бұрын

This was my miracle, my answer to much prayer! God bless you, Stephanie Lynn for the gift of understanding! 🕊️

@queenizzydeigh9085 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. I agree, I wish these things were taught in school. I was thinking I wish I had known about as a teenager, it would've saved me from so many bad relationships. It explained how and why I was so hung up on a relationship that I was in over 20 years ago. I couldn't understand what drew me to this person and why I loved him so much but you just described how are relationship was. I think being aware if half the battle and the first step to recovery. I've been praying for so long that my mind would be free of this person. At least now I can have some closure and peace of mind. Thank you.💖

@Doug5614 5 жыл бұрын

Two huge thumbs up! You completely understand my pain. I don't talk about it with others, but it upsets me more than I've let on to anyone.

@StephanieLynCoaching 5 жыл бұрын

well thank you for sharing and commenting!

@kremenakolcheva6157 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I'm going through this right now (narcissistic husband) and your videos are helping me to get my hope and dignity back. I'd love to see more videos regarding narcissistic abuse and how to get over it and move on with your life. It's really hard to keep your sanity when co-parenting with narcissist and meeting him every day. Thank you so much for your help ♥️ I watch your videos every single day again and again and every time I'm learning something new and going deeper inside my thoughts and feelings. Thank you , thank you, thank you!

@handitan8375 2 жыл бұрын

very well spoken. yea thats true, after going through the phase of being hurt badly or heartbroken, and the angry phase and all of that shit,. I have in the end nothing but feeling grateful for the lesson , it taught me to be confident myself as well as honoring my vulnerability, flaws as well as appreciating people who are actually genuine, and for the pain they caused me to the point where i managed to find myself and my bravery and , everybody in the end is a teacher, especially those who cause you the most pain. I listen to my spider senses or gut instinct more and think more before submitting to being too emotional and trusty nowadays. thanks for this talk, very well spoken and analyzed. always amazing !

@SoundandLightTechnicians 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I can’t express how your videos helped me get through this separation.

@jenniferbarber7839 4 жыл бұрын

This video helped me tremendously because I never learned exactly what gaslighting and narcissistic behavior was. Now I am addicted to learning more about types of manipulative behavior. I was in a 4 year relationship that ended due to cheating on their end 5 months ago. You talked about what I experienced in that relationship. Love bombing, etc. I had no idea! I am still working through that because I still love him. Thank you for sharing this information!

@lisas8061 4 жыл бұрын

100% it needs to be taught in schools! I survived 21 years marrying young to a narc, I wish i had known this. Heartfelt thanks Stephanie you present this so v well! God bless you.

@Marlee82 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your channel Stephanie I'm so glad it showed up on my recommended 👍🏻

@sandyvarao3061 5 жыл бұрын

Amazing video girl, like all of your videos. You have been helping me through some extremely tough times. Not out of the woods yet, but your videos give me so much strength! 😘💖💪

@samantha1109 5 жыл бұрын

Your video helped me so much! I'm seeing things now. And I'm raising it's not me. Thank you

@yourloanassistant Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Getting stronger everyday listening to messages from you!

@Chrysanthemum808 5 жыл бұрын

This is something I am going to teach to my kids. I don't want them to go through what I went through, and providing the knowledge about what to look for is one of the best gifts to give to another person.

@Jo-xn2cs 5 жыл бұрын

This video helped me so much today. I finally discarded, but it was when I was at my lowest point in my life and I could finally admit he was abusive. I knew enough about the cycle of abuse to know, but I had never experienced it to such a degree....or with such malignancy. Thank you so much for what you do!

@mel1874 4 жыл бұрын

I am so glad I came across this today. This message is so relevant to me and what I am going through. So insightful and helpfull. Love your videos and ur inspiring words of wisdom. They really help me see clearly and know it will get better.

@sportella2 2 жыл бұрын

I have learned so much about me, my ex and our relationship from these videos! I am able to recognize love bombing. I am able to recognize my low self-esteem, and where I was co-defendant. I am now trying to figure out how to remove the wall I have built and possibly build a healthy relationship. I still have much more growth ahead of me! I never knew how scared I was to act like myself, because i was always on eggshells. It is great to be me and not worry about making someone angry. Thank you!!

@caribbeanqueen1389 5 жыл бұрын

This is one of your better videos. Everything you said was on point! They beat you down to the ground to feel good about themselves, and then discard you when you're a shell of yourself. This is akin to murder.

@anyabierbrauer5241 3 жыл бұрын

Wow - that was enlightening. Thank you so much for this and all your other videos. They have helped me through my current journey of healing following my husband's repeated infidelity. You clearly put so much value into your work.

@jennifercoolidgeislife6760 3 жыл бұрын

All your videos give me goosebumps. I was having anxiety and panic attacks . I was the codependent .. the accuracy is jus too on point it’s scary.

@mimitheo2944 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you sooo much Stéphanie. This knowledge should be in schools.

@monicautrilla1876 5 жыл бұрын

Lyn, you are amazing, I thank you hoping that what I am learning with you will give me the opportunity to look for something better, healthier for me. Love you!

@slimpickins8685 5 жыл бұрын

Steph, This video as seemingly all your videos, hit the nail right SMACK ON THE HEAD, of what I lived and what I will continue to live until this DIVORCE ends. After 19 years of abuse from my narcissist we concluded she had enough of me. My stroke of 2015 was just not going to allow her to gain any supply as she deemed required for her enjoyment. I started looking to KZfaq last year in summer months as I needed to be clear about what seemingly was a mental disorder impacting me daily. I have a concurrent minor, (BA) from the University of Oklahoma in Psychology that one would expect to make aware a person with just basic intelligence he or she was dealing with a really sick, touched, creature. The topics, words, scenarios you illustrate are MY PAST on a day to day bar none. Really. I mean, Really. If,, I am talking about someone stating you don't know what you are SPEAKING ABOUT,, Let me talk to them. I don't know how else to inform the population THAT YOU ARE SPOT ON THE SUBJECT OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. God Bless You Stephanie. Keep Up the GREAT WORK. In my case, You are a Godsend!!!!! Kenny

@nanat9178 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. I cried so much.... you helped me see what I went through, you basically narrated it ! I have been so badly hurt that I was continuously stuck in the loop thinking what is wrong with me, why me ? Thank you for comforting me 🙏

@infinitelight111 4 жыл бұрын

Your words resonated a lot and made realise some dynamics I was only subconsciously aware of. Thank you for sharing

@johnh.8906 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the great coaching video Stephanie. The Narcissist in my life is trying to get back together after the discard. Thanks to your coaching and that of Dr Carter I know what to do. Stick to my boundaries, stick to my plan for a better future. Thanks again.

@alcudiababe1 3 жыл бұрын

I watch Dr Carter too! He has a very good way of explaining things and getting things across to you and I know I feel I'm learning things everytime I watch his videos. You can never have too much knowledge 👍