They die alone bc even if you love them you cant stand them for more than 5 minutes a week.

My ex would rage on me with his yelling, cursing, bullying and threats of physical harm. Then within a matter of seconds say something like "would you like to go get something to eat" as if nothing had happened. Even after threatening my life, he said, "oh, you know we are going to be together for the rest of our lives". He had absolutely no self awareness and that is what made it so frightening and dangerous.

They act like 4 year olds when they do not get their way.

Everybody sees my old mother as such a nice woman. If they only knew...how she treated me all her life and my father.

They never ask anyone how they are in conversations. They only talk about themselves & how wonderful they are

My mother is 74. Yesterday, she exploded in anger, started throwing laundry, stomping her feet and screaming. I calmly told her that behavior is unacceptable. I refused to let her make me react.

A narcissist loves to humiliate, laugh, mock at others. The worse the situation, the more they humiliate. It’s how I can differentiate a narcissist from a sociopath.

Dont be an enabler to this vile personality. When someone shows you who they are ,believe them. Remove them from your life or remove yourself.

My mother in-law was classic example of a covert narcissist. As she got older her behavior got worse. Used my wife and her inheritance to keep her a care giver and slave. When she finally dropped dead it was like freedom was restored to us. The most selfish entitled miserable person I ever met.

They have the emotional maturity of a 6-year-old. THAT never changes. If anything, they regress even further into childish antics and behaviors as they age. Very clearly explained-thank you.

A problem that has no solution. God have mercy on all of us

WOW!! My 90 year old Mother is all of these things. It's like she's upped her game. I am literally sick to my stomach when I have to deal with her, my Dr. even prescribed me some meds to keep myself calm around her...... I ruminate steadily with my guilt and shame..... working through it but it has been one of the hardest things ever! I keep thinking that when she is gone I won't miss her, I will finally have some peace and at 64 I think I deserve some silence!!!

My dad used to do the same thing. He would rage and be awful and then expect that we were supposed to just immediately put that smile on your face or I’ll give you something to cry about. The minute his rage was over he didn’t want any remembrance of it and if we even showed a hint of fear or crying that would make him even more mad and we knew it could make things worse. Horrible upbringing cloaked in wealth, which is even worse because everyone thinks you’re perfectly happy and it’s usually always the opposite especially in wealthy families. They have big giant ego images to keep up with and the scapegoat is the truth teller and they hate that. The last thing they want is their alcoholism and smoking pot and infidelity and abuse to get out into the world, so they tell the world we are crazy and unstable and liars. They destroy their own children on purpose to protect their image. It’s disgusting and it should be a crime.

It was the eye's.. That stare,black and empty. Felt like pure evil. Never forget it..

My mother raged against me when I was sick as a child. As an adult when my CVS returned my counsellor convinced me that my CPTSD had deluded me into thinking my mother wouldn't help me. Some BS about learned helplessness and distorted tgoughts. My counsellor talked me into asking my mum for help. I stupidly listened to my therapist. I asked my mother to please drive me home from the hospital after admissions. She flat out said no. I asked why not. She said she was too old. (She was 53) and she told everyone I was a drug addict and to shut me out. They believed her. I cannot describe the hell I went through because of that. It wasn't until 20 years later when my CVS was cured that I found out what she had done. Now, she is old and sick. She said to me the other day, "I have made an exiting decision. You can come and live in the spare room when your father dies" .... I said " So I can look after you ?! She said "Yes!!" Like I had won a prize or something. I will not look after her. She can morgage her house and get a carer. She can age all alone.

My dad is almost using his age as a weapon. A sort of "I'm old so now you REALLY have to do what I say,and let me do what I want,because by god I will make you feel guilty". He's horrible,then once he gets out in public he gets sympathy because he looks like a vulnerable old man. He even puts on a wobbly voice and everybody is like aah..poor man. I've written a poem about it,but not sure I want to share it yet.

Narcissists also induce paranoia in the other due to all the game playing, lying and gaslighting.

I've hated myself for the last time. I will never let someone hang up on me,turn their back on me,dismiss me, talk down to me,blame me,ignore me, manipulate me,cheat on me,control me and use me. I finally asked the right questions and got the right answers.

My mom would fly into a full blown tantrum at the smallest thing. Every time she did when I was an adult, I felt so scared. Eventually, I got the courage to stand up to her. She didn’t listen but I didn’t feel so scared anymore. I stopped talking to her and it was really tough because I do love her. I just needed to look out for my own family and my own peace.

Narcs seeks "immortality", but can't beat the clock in our lifespan. ⏳️

Spotting the aging narcissist is pretty easy. You'll usually see them waving a cane around saying, "Hey, stupid kids! Stay off my lawn!" Their habitat is usually Denny's on Sunday, where they can be spotted in the wild giving a waitress a hard time for being too slow on the free coffee refills.

I’ve been the scapegoat for two narcissistic parents my whole life. It sucks. It’s getting better now that I have my own family and don’t have to be around them anymore but still or sucks.

I was married to a narcissist for 25 years. He turned my kids against me by badmouthing me. I really hope karma gets him

Once I became aware of my narcissistic mother I started paying attention to her behaviors. I was the scapegoat so she would go into a fit of rage over absolutely nothing and belittle he and say all kinds of horrible stuff, then in a few minutes she would be the nicest person and trying to give me something like offer to take me out to eat or buy me something. This was so sad to witness

15 years later I am thriving! Narcissist parents, narcissist spouse, got rid of them all and having my best life. Took a lot of introspection and strength but so worth it! To everyone dealing with them at the moment - you can do it. Don't give up.

This is probably the best video that describes narcissists. The paranoia, the delusions, and the rage all get worse with age. Narcissists often have few, if any, close friends because people cannot deal with their behavior.

I was married to a narcissist for 50 years and you really nailed the behaviors perfectly. He died 4 years ago and I'm still feeling the after effects every day. Two years of therapy helped a little, but I don't think anyone can fully understand unless they've experienced it firsthand. The nightmares are awful, but what's even worse is the guilt I feel for never being able to mourn his loss. I can't even talk about it with family members because they wouldn't understand.

My in laws live next door-34 years of hell, interference and annihilating my reputation to anyone who would listen. MIL died in February and my FIL refused to speak to me at her funeral. I could have cared less. My son was married last Saturday and my father in law held up a picture of his wife just as they were saying their vows, which caused my SIL to sob violently. I didn't think it possible to detest another human being-I refuse to even look in his direction. They're loathsome demons in the flesh.

Jill, thank you for the wisdom you share with us. My X mother in law is now 92yrs old. For years she wasca terra and is worse now than ever. My husbsnd ,her son died 2yrs ago. After his death, her maskcompletely fell off, because I chosr to pull back from her, forcing her to show her true self. Our home was in close proxmity to her. I sold my home and land and moved away. Thanking God everyday for my freedom. It is by God's mercy and grace that I survived her and her son. No Contact of any kind is best!

Nobody is obligated to care for them, support them, put up with them - family or friend. Do not take their crap. Be very direct & follow through with what you will do for them and not do. Discipline like a 2 year old ! They deserve nothing more !

Manipulating you about his Will and inheritance is a tool the aging narcissist does. Triangulation with siblings and keep changing the Will every month, depending on which sibling is flavour of the month. Excluding the Scapegoat child from the Will is common. Its horrible!

This was my mother n law. She ended up with dementia and basically alone because no one could stand her. Narcissistic people are so selfish and nasty. They should be loathed.

Does anyone else experience an almost palpable, negative physical change in the actual atmosphere when a narc enters the room? Or is it just my pre-programmed anticipation/anxiety kicking in?

Wow. That's my mother. Haven't had contact for years. Don't miss her.

This is so accurate. I know a narcissist in his 70s that is extremely racist and thinks everyone is after his money. He is the savior for his family and makes plans for the next top level position of employment like he's 25 years old. In total denial about age limits, and if you don't share his religious beliefs, you are surely going to hell. Same with politics. Can't keep his opinions to himself and believes in his own superiority.

Either an Angel brought your video to me this very second I needed it or you are an Angel, you rock!

Thank you for this video! 100% described my husband. I've seen that rage-turned-calm and expecting me to be totally fine & over it, SO MANY TIMES! It's truly maddening. I am learning to set my boundaries and stay emotionally detached. This is really sad; I spent years trying to change him, then when I realized he wasn't going to change, I spent more years grieving over who he refused to become. Now I'm focused on ME, taking care of MY body, MY soul, and MY spirit. Thank you again for this video.

Nobody better of stayed with a narcissist !!!!! Poor spouses better get out !!!!

I am an em-path. I suffered for years under the control of my boss - a narcissist. Then finally I realized he was relying on me to provide him with everything he needed to convince HIS bosses to buy into his belief that he was a superior employee! After that, it was a ball! Over time, people came to realize who they were dealing with and who was generating the positive output! I didn't have to say or do anything different! They all knew and reacted appropriately! What a show!

My adoptive mother was a Narc and lived to 95.She grew more evil every day.She died bitter and twisted.

This is very, very informative. This is my first time here. My father who is 97 years old and has Lewy Body Dementia is also a Narcissist. He is completely unmanageable for me and his caregivers but whenever anyone who is not involved in his care visits he goes into his "showtiming" and then the visitors place judgment on me. They don't believe he has the problems with his mental health and cognition. It is very frustrating. Everything that you explained here are things that I have experienced with my father.

This is all true of my narcissister. My mother, however, was a covert narcissist and liked being fussed over. She actually liked getting old, because people treated her better.

So helpful, thank you, my 90 year old mother has discarded me at the age of 69 and my husband. I’m 4 months out, finally beginning the healing . I’ve also gone no contact with my narcissistic brother 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻.

Thank you, you are so spot on - no one who has not experienced a narcissist first hand can truly understand the maligant narcissist. Indeed, the jealousy and rage becomes overwhelming as they age. My sister had bullied me badly as a child but did everything she could to destroy me in later life after she had lost her (lawyer) job, and as it became clear my father prefered me to her - her jealousy and paranoia then became overwhelming, and was even worse after he died. Quite early on, she blamed me for losing her job to start with when, after years of my helping my mother, I asked her to step in - then all hell broke loose and the elder abuse she then inflicted on my mother (who was also a narcissist, but nothing compared to what my sister became), was simply horrendous and I still am still haunted by her deliberate cruelty to her. She couldn't care less for the tragedy, terrible pain and degradation that happened to my mother - all her focus being on herself and that she didn't want the same affliction (Parkinsons'). I tried to step in and prevent her insanity to our mother, but was unable to, as my sister had gained power of attorney over her. In retribution for my efforts for Mum, she became utterly consumed with destroying me, gaslighting and blackening my name to all my mother's friends and the rest of the family. She also deliberately set out to charm my half sister, who I had been like a mother to all her life, and who my narc sister had never been bothered with. When my half sister was diagnosed with cancer, she deliberatey wooed her in order to inherit from her - she succeeded, and the money my (childless) half sister had always promised she would leave my children, she left to my narcissistic sister. My narc sister also deliberately set out to turn my mother and step father against me early on so that I would be written out of my mother's will, and turned all her charms on our wealthy stepfather in the hope of inheriting from him. She deliberately schemed to inherit from all three - my step father, mother and half sister. Her wickedness and cruelty, her narcissistic rages to me in private, the sheer malignancy of her treatment of me, my mother and half sister was hard to comprehend. It nearly did destroy me, until from months of reading, I worked out she is a malignant narcissist. I cut off all contact and now have nothing to do with her. Nobody who has not experienced a malignant narcissist first hand can credit their devious wickedness - but above all, their cruelty. It still haunts me, as does her cruetly to my mother, which I tried to mitagate against, but was powerless to prevent.

They get too old to beat you up, so they whine and yell that everything is unfair, or switch to using guilt and "you owe me" or cutting you out of the will. Just a different kind of spite work.

The part you said “Go wash your face” that was when you knew the rage was over….that shook me to my core. I remember both of my parents did that but in two very different forms.

The dellusional thinking absolutely gets worse with age. My Dad (narcissist) cut out his entire family because he thought my Grandma stole a ring from him. It's a long story, but basically, my Dad found a ring on the floor when he was a child. His aunt (my great aunt) loved the ring and asked if she could give him $20 for the ring. He agreed. She wore that ring until the day she died. When she passed, my Dad lost his mind and told everyone that the ring was HIS, and they STOLE from him. I tried to explain to my Dad that his Aunts kids want that ring because it reminds them of their mother who passed away. Whereas my Dad wanted it to sell to buy drugs. My Dad made it clear that if everyone didn't FORCE my cousins to give him back his ring, he would disown us all. He did. My Dad was diagnosed with cancer 5 years later, and he died alone.... by his own choice. He kept to his word and disowned all of us.

This is exactly what’s happening to my boss. I’ve worked for him for 23 years. He was always the typical arrogant successful guy. A little difficult to deal with occasional irritability and bad temper. But at age 78, he had completely changed into an unbearable manipulative control freak with a ridiculous need for attention. He is dismissive, argumentative, confrontational and negative. Last year I quit going to the office to work from home because of his abusive treatment of me. I put my phone on do not disturb because he constantly texts and calls me all night long. Rage tantrums as screaming are a daily event. If he was always like this, I wouldn’t have worked with him all these years. It’s like he lost his filter and I’m seeing the little ugly man behind the false curtain.

Excellent summary. Lived thru this experience for 30 years. This was my mother-in-law. She passed recently. I did always keep tight boundaries around her however just her presence in our lives was so toxic. So happy to wake up and remember there’s no need to deal anymore with her nonsense, drama, lying and triangulation. Nope, not missing any of that! So happy now! Hubby is relieved too.

You described my sister so accurately, it's scary...I'm in the process of going no contact, and I will move across the country and never look back. I will ensure she never has my address or true phone number. I'm done.

Thanks for the warning!! She’s now 88…i went no contact when I was 19 and she was 39. I really hear nothing about her from my siblings who remain in denial and in daily relationship with her. So….i can’t witness for myself what’s going on with and to her. I’m just glad I got out when I did. It’s been difficult and interesting growing into adulthood but as I started this healing journey about 3years ago I’ve learned, grown & now I’m thriving. I’m free. That’s the word I use-- FREE 😁😊🥰. Thanks for your video…it’s been helpful.

It’s so heartbreaking when you have been targeted by a narcissist, you are so spot on, thank you from Australia 🇦🇺

They also hang onto a slight or misdeed in their eyes and mind, and will rage about it forever, never letting go. The huge and ugly part is their ""confidants" and/or( hopeful) heirs will play into it with them, over and over until you either become sick of it, or you run for the hills. It can be horrible and carefully orchestrated to mess with your head and life. It is emotional abuse at its worst because they say so, so it must be. Don't give them that power. It's an excuse to hurt and punish . The others involved are their accomplices. 😢

You have just described my younger brother to the”T!” He has been harassing me for the last 4 years and completely took away my entire support system! I had to remove our father from his care in 2011 because he almost died and had to put a silver alert out! I believe this is when in his covert narcissism woke back up towards me and he planned on the revenge for years. When I had to leave my job to care for our mother full time due to her frontotemporal dementia! He did a smear campaign that I stole from our mom, abused her, didn’t bath her, called the police, APS, lied to my only child who now doesn’t speak to me, I’ve never met my granddaughter, he even went so far as to get to my mother’s siblings! I ended up with no one to help me with my mom. Told everyone I kept everyone away, I was so stressed and close to suicide, but I couldn’t leave my mom with him!! I texted him when our mom was in her last stages, guess who never came to say their goodbyes!! He would rather go see her at the crematory! Who does that!!!

I have experienced th rage with my mother. After suffering her rage directed at me she would quickly go as if nothing had happened and I was still in shock from her abuse!

Thank You So Very Much For Sharing This I Have Never Experienced Such Horrific Abuse Until I Met A Malignant Narcissist This Person Is In His 60’s His Abuse Is Horrific I Experienced Being Emotionally And Psychologically Abused Maliciously Cruel Belittling Me Calling Me Horrible Names.Highly Manipulative.. I Would Get Months And Years Of The Silent Treatment And Being Discarded You Are Absolutely Right..This Person Almost Drove Me To Suicide.This Person Has Destroyed My Life Especially My Self Confidence And My Self Worth This Person Enjoys Treating Me Like I Don’t Exist This Is Absolutely The Worst Abuse Ever .Narcissistic Abuse Is Beyond Brutal..

This sounds like so many of my mother’s siblings. Herself, her brothers, a couple of her sisters… I’m so grateful to be their scapegoat/black sheep !!! Because I am the observer and truth teller I am considered the “mean one” 😌 I refuse to fit the role they had me living now thanks to you and a couple of others who give so much. Thank you Jill ❤♾️🫀🧠💪🏼 !

And plenty are leaders of institutions, local authorities as well as families... Yet, I can recall the pressure to revere the mature/elderly throughout my life - especially a thing in some ethnicities - ALL the elderly! The danger of this has always been clear to me, even as a child, and it's increasingly so, speaking as now a mature, myself. In fact, by the time I was 20 I realised that narcissism so common in some communities, it began to be normalised to my thinking of mature folk. So I started an undeclared policy of monitoring and limiting my exposure, unless I somehow experienced clear evidence of the ABSCENCE of narcissistic traits. I am confident this has helped me

I am 57 narc wife 65 getting better like watching rotting milk i am making my plans to leave finally filed for divorce. This aummer i break free. Cannot stand being used insulted raged at demeaned anymore. Good luck to all suffering u will break through.

Thank you Lisa. Both my parents are ALL OF THE ABOVE. And don't forget the entitlement!

Bigotry and paranoia -- yes. He enticed me to share my opinion on a sensitive topic and began to hammer me with passive/overt aggression when my response didn't match his expectations. It digressed into an ugly conflict I still struggle to comprehend. I just wanted to bond over our kids and past experiences, but the man was unrecognizable. I learned later that his behavior was sociopathic.

All people without compassion should be rejected by society.

They can be so blatantly hypocritical it's plain astounding. It took me 30 years to recognize narcissism in one of my ''friends'' I simply didn't know what it was.

My mother's rage and hostility has increased to a great degree as she has gotten older. I realized that this is because, as she gets older, people are not afraid of her anymore, and to a bully that is horrifying. What used to work for her before (menacing, threatening tantrums) doesn't work anymore, and that enrages her (it's easy to terrify a defenseless little girl, but not so much mature, logical adults) . She has always remorselessly lashed out at her family, taking for granted that we will always come back for more abuse, but she's seeing now that when one pushes people away, those people often stay away. We are not afraid of her and we will not tolerate it anymore. But she never acknowledges the trauma that her temper has caused for us all. Instead, she pretends like it never happened. Now, when I don't call, she tries to guilt me by saying she's old and is going to die soon. But the last few times I called, she would inevitable start yelling at me for having different opinions than her, and it would end with her rudely hanging up on me. I tried to warn her once not to take her family for granted, but she doesn't seem to get it.

I'm glad I went no-contact a long time ago

My heart is racing listening to you. I was able to get away. Thank God!

You have perfectly described my boss he's 72 years old, been working together for 37 years. Never could figure out what the heck was his problem until I started viewing these Narcissist videos.

Some get a nurse/cook/carer convenient girlfriend. Many narcissists finally move in with someone, out of convenience.

My mom in law is 79 and a narcissist- her narcissism is getting worse and drives my wife crazy and annoyed at her

Yes, more paranoia. Suspicious of everything and everyone. They are the guilty ones with their lies and bag of tricks. I agree with everything being said in the video. Thank you, dear lady, for your wisdom and truth. 😊

Thanks for saving me from a possible life with a narcissist; this girl had been giving me cold silent treatments for over 11 months now, But I never gave into her manipulations, false accusations; first time I went to India to visit home from US, I made 1 day time to meet her, but she never appeared, she kept me confused, 2nd time I visited, she never responded to my Whatsapp or calls; I was being empathetic to her, but she made me realize why I should concentrate on the other better people...

You described my father perfectly. I had enough. I feel so sorry for my mother. Both are in the mid-80s.

Spot on as always! ❤

I felt this video in my soul! My God, at least it all makes sense now! Thanks Jill❤

Thank you for bringing up the elephant in the room. The thing which we are afraid to speak of. The thing men say doesn’t exist. Bigotry and racism. And when you marry the kind man and he’s compassionate society blames you too for not seeing it from the beginning. Double pain. When you buy a home together it’s especially hard to get out if you have a disabled child and all alone. I can’t ever find anyone with similar experiences. Also a lot of these people have crazy addictions like smoke and chew. Even sucking their thumbs! They are just so traumatized by some life event somewhere that they never get over and grow. They simply give up being human.

I think I encountered an old narcissist. He was in his 60's and my neighbor was having a party where her family was invited. She made all kinds of food for the guests. He was drunk and he wanted more alcohol. He wanted them to give him money so he could walk to the store and buy more vodka. They wouldn't give him money. So he stuck his hands in the food. It was some kind of potato salad or something with eggs and noodles and mayonaise. He was shoving it into his mouth and it was smeared all over his grey beard. Everyone was grossed out and the food went to waste. She was very angry at him for doing that. He ruined the food she made for everyone.

Spot on in every respect. They become more toxic with a looming fear and anger over losing control over the ones they once intimidated by their outbursts and bullying. I can attest to everything in this video.

Oh my goodness. You just hit the nail on the head. My mother is a narcissist and has been all of my life. She is 85 now and i have just identified this in her. She calls me numerous times a day telling me someone has stolen something from her or theyve hidden something from her. This is so hard for me to deal with. I always knew she wasnt right, but i loved her and believed everything she said. When i was a teen she would get my friends together and make fun of me in front of them. Humiliate me to make herself look better in her eyes. It was horrible the abuse i grew up with. Now i live nextdoor to her, all of her family has passed, so she really depends on me. Her narcissism has gotten so bad in her elder years it makes me feel physically sick.

My entire childhood was hell! My father terrorized me and my mother and put my sister on a pedestal. He used her to belittle, bully and hurt me. He always let me know that there was something wrong with me. My mother remained married to him until her death. I was 40 at the time and in the years before it never occurred to me to break up with him for good, but after the death of my mother that is what I did, what a liberation, finally peace in my soul!. I advise everyone to break with a narcissist and only then will you be free.

Yes, this was amazing to me! He could make a huge seen at a party and then leave and within 15 minutes he's back like he's everyone's best friend! And all of us are just standing there thinking WTF.. what the heck is going on here!!

Thank you so much for this. I’ve sent it on to my brothers as well. We have suffered with our supremely narcissistic, retired attorney father all our lives. He’s about to turn 90. He has either divorced or buried 4 wives and has done his best to destroy his 4 children. It has only made us stronger and brought us even closer to one another. Your channel is wonderful - and your warm delivery is, I am certain, a godsend to countless people! ♥️

Men and women who could not deal with any trauma forever searching for mommy 💯✊

People need to LOVE themselves & GET OUT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE (of course, this is not that easy with a family member).♥️💯 There's NO NEED to deal with this abuse, manipulation, & lies of these demons!💯 YOU DESERVE MUCH, MUCH, BETTER.♥️💯 I had TWO EVIL COVERT NARCISSIST friends, & they are still SO PATHETIC.💯🎭👹👿 I got out of these so-called "friendships" AS SOON AS I COULD.💯

OMG i so needed to hear this...everything you said is what I am dealing with, as my Narc 93 yr old father continues to abuse me in every way possible. Using religion and anything he can do to destroy me. I have to walk away. he has convinced everyone I have abused him and ruined his family and his life.. I am at a loss. so much therapy needed for me to just to get on with my life.

thanks for doing such a good job in explaining this in a real life context. You rock at this!

This is why when you start dating one in mid life or later it is quick to reveal itself. At first, you're amazed at your good luck theyre still available. If this is your first one, you will excuse every oddity. Not everyday people oddities but real questionable behaviors. Those who have even entry level knowledge will see those signs even before thinking of hey...wanna talk sometime ? Yep..the first one is your opportunity to learn and become autonomous without need of others. Supposed societal norms are mostly seen as traps. Self care of yourself is attractive not capitulation to a mirage.

Oh my goodness! You described exactly what I have seen first hand - incredible to hear. Thank you so much.

“The liar’s punishment is, not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else.” George Bernard Shaw This is so true of the narc. My aging mother is becoming more and more delusional and paranoid. Thank you Jill for this. This is everything I’ve experienced.

This is MY MOM at 90 years old. Things are much clearer now in my head.

I have so many horror stories. I'll share this...me and 6 year old son were watching a programme in the lounge... husband comes home turns the channel over so son and I go into kitchen to watch our programme....he storms into the kitchen and stomps his feet like a brat.... absolutely furious that we carried on. It was astonishing watching this mental person behave like that. Obviously now he's retired.... it's egg shell day permanently. To all who live with one of these....my heart ❤️

I’m looking forward for the day he reap all what he has sown in my life and my children. I live through the abuse in real time, uneducated about narcissists. If I only knew soon what I was going through is about I would have getting out sooner. I’m still in shock and emotional pain that this is my reality.

Thank you Jill so much! Yes it gets worse and scarier 😢💔

Thank you Jill, your content is always so accurate and so very helpful ❤❤❤

age is especially hard on the attractive female narc. once the looks go, there goes a huge part of her control mechanism.

I feel I am narcissist and what you describe here is right. I realise that and mind my words and my intentions. I often feel that my value can be at sake. What helps me is to aware that I am my own source of freedom and joy. And that truth is the way of communicating.

Great summary of the aging narcissist parent. We had the same dad. I wrote into Societal Narcissism describing the way my dad would be the raging hulk on moment and then expect everyone to participate in fake family harmony the the next minute as if nothing just happened if that is what suited his whims. No apologies, no explanation just fall into line to entertain his next mood. I named this gaslighting technique "Disappearing Elephant" because we all had to ignore the elephant in the room. He thought the family had love and respect for him when actually the walking on eggshells and jumping when he snapped his fingers was just fear. Although he was allowed to violently rant and suck all the oxygen out of a room, nobody else in the family was allowed to emote. Once, at age 26, after he called everyone to the table for a toast at Christmas dinner a moment after one of his raging rants, I dared to say "Wait, we need to clear the air here".... Of course, that brought a barrage of names and accusations upon my head from narcissist dad and narcissist mom and histrionic sister. I was berated for being the crazy, ungrateful and the harmony disrupter. You can't make this shyte up.

How all of this disorder was not comprehended by us all even 10 years ago is strange. As this video, the narcissism is totally prescriptive, the behaviours have names and the condition fit both in action and pattern. Great videos Jill ; )

There is a beautiful saying : "Behavior cannot be changed" they have it embedded it in there inner core as behavior and it can not be changed due to age.

When they start aging they’ll start hanging around younger people and act just like them so they’ll feel young again.

This was excellent information for me to hear, I have an aging narc in my life and this certainly explains a lot, thank you.