The bittersweet beauty of unrequited love: Jesse Bering at TEDxMalibu

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10 жыл бұрын

"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation," reads Henry David Thoreau's immortal line. This applies to our sexual lives as well, and in this talk, Jesse Bering explores how our lustful desires for those we cannot have quietly shapes us as individuals. Jesse Bering, Ph.D. is an author, psychologist and former director of the Institute of Cognition and Culture at Queen's University Belfast. He is the author of Perv: The Sexual Deviant in All of Us.
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@MrRandominternetname 9 жыл бұрын

The title of this talk is misleading.

@innertubez 8 жыл бұрын

True

@v3ra 5 жыл бұрын

The most useless talk I ever heard. No value whatsoever, misleading title, and just plain pointless.

@garbonomics 4 жыл бұрын

Definitely is! I was curious what he had to say about unrequited love. Instead I got a crash course on homosexuality in the modern world.

@ckmo2223 2 жыл бұрын

Very who the fyck wrote this title

@stevemiller1345 6 ай бұрын

Well this was useless

@eyebrid 9 жыл бұрын

This video has the wrong title! At no point does he talk about unrequited love, only sexuality and social perception.

@jeishun 8 жыл бұрын

Trolled me with the title

@georgegeorgopoulos6014 6 жыл бұрын

Agree that the title is completely misaligned with this great talk. Judging by many comments below though it appears there are many insecure people about and probably always will be.

@parepidemosproductions4741 6 жыл бұрын

He spent 9 minutes talking about anything but what the title says his talk is supoosed to be about, what in the world

@aniketkedare8 2 жыл бұрын

Well I am in unrequited love. I don't know if it is beautiful or nadir. I am just enjoying my life.

@paul.andre24 7 жыл бұрын

ya'll should fix the title

@UniQueLyEviL 7 жыл бұрын

That took a REALLY ODD turn.

@v3ra 5 жыл бұрын

UniQueLyEviL what got you? The horses or women urinating standing up? 😆

@mism2897 2 жыл бұрын

I came to find out why a girl doesn't love me back, not to learn about why men bang horses.

@freightergator4406 10 жыл бұрын

Very brave and informative. What if your desires ARE harmful if acted upon? What should one do? This is an honest question.

@ileavecommentshere 10 жыл бұрын

That depends on the situation. If you feel like your desires are so strong that they're worth a life change and you cannot be happy otherwise, then you should consider acting upon them. But it also depends on the kind of harm you're going to inflict, who's going to be inflicted upon, and if the amount of harm is time-dependent. An example of that would be if you're a married homosexual man with children. Would acting upon your desires just affect your wife or would it also interfere with your children's lives i.e. you drifting away from them at a critical age etc.. Each case is different but you should never suppress who you truly are because of society. Anyone who loves you and appreciates you as a person should be understanding enough of your decision if you do it openly and honestly. Just try to do it in a very political and easy way. It's never wrong to put yourself first, but also try to ease the pain of those around you and never disconnect from them completely. Sooner or later, they'd have to accept it and move along. Hope that can help!

@arabellasky4966 9 жыл бұрын

2.50. Online search for gay pornography. Haha! I watch gay porn and I am not gay. It's called curiosity. I can watch many many things online, and research them to the point of obsession, yet it doesn't mean I identify with those things or necessarily want to do them.

@shakhbass 2 жыл бұрын

Please change the title

@pelizoli 5 жыл бұрын

how did i get here?

@kentbarnes6380 5 жыл бұрын

3 years

@gizelleb160 9 жыл бұрын

When I just listen to him talking, he sounds like Sheldon 😂

@AishwaryaD12 2 жыл бұрын

He looks like him too

@humbine7456 2 жыл бұрын

who is sheldon

@debarchan123 8 жыл бұрын

He sounds like Mr Garrison from south park XD

@gwenraiden1845 4 жыл бұрын

Wtf did I just watch. Lmfao.

@patricemarie2960 6 жыл бұрын

..... MY DEAR LITTLE SIR: WHY HAVE YOU WASTED YOUR $$$$$ EDUCATION & THE PUBLIC'S TIME ..... ON INANE ------ "FUCKIN" CHATTER! ...... I BEG YOUR PARDON?