The Longer you spend time with wrong person or wrong activity the less time you have for the right person or the right activity

I heard the story of a boy who went to a disco and asked a girl to dance. She replied "no". So he asked another girl ("no") and another girl ("no" again) and a few more, until he finally got to a girl who said yes. And he noticed that she is intelligent and more interesting than the previous girls. They danced all night together and then started dating. The point is... rejection sometimes hurts , but sometimes it also leads us to the right destination. You never know.

Rejection is the universe telling us something better is coming along.

“Rejection” is good for the soul- it keeps us humble.

Everyone gets rejected: it’s part of life 🙏🏻💗 Keep dancing 💃

Summary: 1. Don't take rejection personally. Everyone has a different reason to reject, it could have nothing to do with you. 2. Learn from rejections. Ex: modify own body language to be more open, ask people with more open body language 3. When giving rejection, use the mindset: "I'm just being honest with what I want and what I can give" (better to say no than say yes and not be 100% present) 4. The key when giving rejection is empathy.

I was rejected from college twice I felt bad and depressed but I didn’t stop trying and I took it as an advantage to learn a new language now I speak 3 languages...rejection is actually a redirection from god ✨

My poor father I’m sure was scared of rejection, scared to upset people…he didn’t know how to say NO. He worked non stop, in factories, it helping family every single second…he never stopped…it broke my heart to see him never stop… And my mother was used to seeing him work, she encouraged it instead of telling him to relax….dad ended up having close to a thousand people come to his funeral , he was so humble, but so luved and no-one forgot what he did for them…but he didn’t live his life how he wanted, he never stopped to smell the roses, he never went Italy to see his family like he wanted to so much…he only lived a life pleasing others and helping everyone but himself…..I cry a lot thunking about him, he deserved a different life….and no he’s gone forever and I can never fix it for him….I cry so much for him and I don’t know how to stop….he was the kindest man you could know…

Rejection is redirection! Thank God I learned to look deeper into rejection and not be hurt..

She has such a beautiful speaking voice.

I love this because I have dated so many women that weren't interested and honestly dealing with them being apathetic, ignoring you, showing no interest when they go out of their way for another guy, saying they are busy 2 seconds after they said they were bored and had nothing to do on social media, etc. hurts a million times more than if they would have just said, "no." You get your emotions deeply involved just to feel played with.

Rejection is God’s protection

Rejection is the very first step towards acceptance. How can you truly enjoy acceptance if you have never experienced rejection? They are two sides of the same experience coin.

It's so hurtful to be rejected. Whenever i am, i try as much as possible to involve myself in positive thriving activities. With time it goes away. As humans we cannot control the feelings of human beings towards us but we can control ourselves. We all have to power in us to avoiding taking rejection personally.Thank you for sharing.

You're getting men to say no to you not because they reject you, because they're too intimidated to dance with you. Point is, sometimes it's not you that is the problem, it's the other person actually. Thanks for the talk you have a golden voice respect 👍🏾

Amen! NO means that there’s a better YES out there! Manifesting and claiming it! I receive it! ❤️🙏🏼✨

She is one of the best dancers in the world of salsa now

Growing up being rejected from social groups and workplaces hit me hard. The sadness still lives with me today. We have to be so careful with our words when rejecting someone in any kind of way. They carry what we've said to them for life.

She's helped me to put rejection that I've recently suffered into perspective. It helps a lot. I think I'll have to listen to this a few more times for it to really sink in.

She is flames. How could anyone reject her

She got rejected asking for dates!? I don't know man, she's gorgeous, well spoken and intelligent... The perfect woman for me lol

She is stunning 🥰

Just got rejected, but it feels good cause it’s finally of my chest. Doing gods work 🙌

She’s beautiful. I think that makes this more impactful.

Man, she's incredibly gorgeous :D

It’s hard to belive that anyone would reject her. She is the most talented salsa dancer in the world!!!

One of the best speeches i ever listened on Ted X 👍

So bizarre how this video appeared at the right time! Thank You ♥ I recently faced a rejection ☺️

My life must be one big benefit. I've always been rejected. I have the spirit of rejection over me for as long as I could remember. And I don't know why. Others flow easily through life and always accepted and appreciated. It is very painful.

Thank you Magna. I've been avoiding the acceptance of rejection. I read a comment on a different video and that person said go through it. It's the only way out. You've built upon those words for me to start to see the wisdom in facing the crippling fear I've been living with. Right from my heart I thank you.

I love her point about how we fear rejecting others because it seems socially acceptable.

This is metaphoric of relationships too. I love this talk. Glad she put herself out there and did it.

👍The first word my parents taught me was “no”. When I grew up, I asked why and they said they wanted me to know how and when to say or receive a “no”. There have been plenty of times in my life when I knowing how and when to say or receive a “no”. 💞

Had no idea you were so well spoken and self-aware, Magna! I've seen videos of you dancing your very fun, light hearted, personal style and I've always said "one day I'll learn to be my authentic self on the dance floor like her!" After this talk, (I'm also a self help junkie) I'm inspired by you even more! Keep up the good work!

I've been rejected from posting this message! But I kept on keeping on and here I AM :)

The speech just hit home. I can’t believe when I found this speech. I am learning to deal with rejection. I recently found out that I love ballroom dancing. I didn’t realize this is connected to dance. I am impressed.

Great talk. You are not only a phenomenal dancer, but an engaging and intelligent speaker.

So many times in my life but I am still stronger.

I fell in love and got rejected and learnt to let her go in these 17 minutes of her speech ❤️ And now I respect her a lot.

The title alone caught my attention. Her message echos loud and clear the divine sentiments of the book James. We are reminded to count it/the experience all joy when we fall into diverse trials for it gives us endurance and completeness in all respects. Solid truthful reminder.

Great talk! About much more than "dancing!" When to say yes and no...and accepting responsibility for how we show up☺

Wow. So much wisdom in this. I've said yes when my entire gut was saying no, and I wasted my time and the other person's. So true. The inner definition of rejection needs to be neutralised instead of demonized! Thank you so much, Magna for this one... Perfect timing for me to listen and absorb this universal truth x

I love everything about her analogies and examples because they force you to recognize the root of why people say yes = because we don’t want to hurt others. It’s a natural human response to something because we do not ever intend to hurt someone, despite our genuine lack of interest. However this speech helped me understand my problem, once I rejected myself. I genuinely like being liked. My whole life I went about my day with most people liking me, my energy, my effort, the way I spoke. It was a serious wake up call to me when I was rejected by someone who ONCE liked me, I dismissed and he KEPT chasing me. I ended up dating him out of pity, I had IRRATIONAL anger around him, I was never amused by what he said to me but he was SUCH a nice, genuine guy that I couldn’t say no. The worst of it all, I knew he wasn’t for me but I couldn’t bring myself to understand I wasn’t good for HIM. He lifted my ego, praised me, showed me undivided attention but I, being the selfish egotistical girl I was back then, just rolled my eyes and bathed in his affection. Until one day, he decided he deserved..better. I was appalled. Better? Than ME? Everybody likes ME though, how could YOU not? My serious, embarrassing issue was that I had never been rejected before. Never been shown that someone wasn’t interested. But that day my outlook changed. Suddenly I liked him more, couldn’t move on from him when he found someone who GENUINELY loved him. After all the time we spent together - I no longer meant anything to him. That’s what brought me here. The reflection of being rejected. Because it helped me realize that understanding someone can most certainly CHOOSE not to say yes to you/dance with you/anything you wanna compare it to, they have the RIGHT to say no. And for whatever reason they want to - NOT taking it personal is key. They are telling you that they’d rather not waste their time and although they don’t wanna hurt your feelings, they aren’t obliged to participate if they themselves wouldn’t be enjoying their time. I said yes to second dates with men I barely remembered the names of and I felt entitled to their attention. But this video (and some therapy) helped me understand that this is..toxic. I thought I was being nice but the opposite of nice isn’t pity. It’s fairness. Respect yourself enough to learn that rejection for both parties isn’t personal, it just means they/you don’t wanna waste their time when their entire heart/head isn’t into it.

I needed to hear this video - one of the BEST I've heard!! I am now at the age of 49, able to say NO to negative people & to say YES to properly caring for myself, setting boundaries with compassion & to learn from the pains of my past & turn them into GOLD. I am doing spoken word, creating art, writing & I now facilitate groups sometimes & am returning to SCHOOL in less than 2 months!!

True words. Direct and straight down the line. My yes is my yes and my no is my no. Once one honours one's emotions and intuition, you truly are alive.

Girl, being rejected by people you love and you thought cared about you is very different than being denied dances by strangers

This is a very important video that everyone should watch!

Beautiful person inside and out

This was so impactful. Loved all of it. Thank you for this!

Great talk.... I guess ive been very fortunate to have lived my life despising being anywhere Im not wanted. I have been rejected many times but it had very little effect because of that.

I just asked my date if she wanted to watch this TED Talk with me, she said, “Get out of here Billy!” and beat me with a large pillow from the sofa. And now here we are.

That speech announcer is beautiful

MAGNA = Magnificent! Keep on dancing everyone!!!

I really enjoyed this talk! Many great pearls of wisdom. (The empathy part ❤️👍) I love hearing how people find universal principles in the things they do 😊.

Kudos Magna. I miss personally seeing you in the salsa scene. What a great talk. Well delivered and well nailed!

You may never see this...But Magna Gopal!! Thank you for stepping up to share this...AWESOME AND easy on the eyes... :)

Magna is such a wonderful and inspiring woman, I feel so grateful to have met her in real life she helped me a lot with my insecurities, we don’t deserve such a woman

Great points in this speech about learning from rejection and learning to say “No” from an honest place.

This is how we all should have been raised to interpret rejection, the other way makes us so polarizing in how we want to try again that to think of it this way is like discovering life after death. Also I think you have to know what it is to lose, to truly appreciate and realize when you win.

A wonderful and impressive lady and a short and spear pointed presentation I learned from, and which I will remember and hopefully be able to practice on and live by.

As you described how you reject others kinda made me sad lol as I reflected on how I was rejected by someone I fell for.

Rejection activates our past hurts. It’s a sure sign that growth is right in front of you. So rather than distract yourself, make excuses, vent ( suppress or express ) etc. just develop awareness and equanimity for these sensations as they arise. Just observe then let them rise up stay for a while and then they will change. This is the normal cycle of change. Rejection in the present helps you heal your past. Rejection is a gift.

I've never experienced as much rejection as when started salsa dancing. It's difficult as a guy, especially a new dancer. I try to not take it personally, I'm still working on it.

This could be one of the most powerful and most important speeches ever, to show to the sosial media generation growing up today!!!!

So inspiring from one of the best dancers in the world

Look, my home town! Looking this up because I was jus rejected for a position that I was certain I had in the bag. The interview and follow-up went so well but no dice. These TED talks have really been helping to me to own why I'm rejected and not let it rip me apart.

Healing words - medicine of the soul!!!

Thank you for sharing this positive message and understanding of rejection. I have never dealt with rejection in a good way and I am going to take what you have provided and apply to my new soon to be dating life. Thank you for having the courage and passion to share this information.

Very deep topic;rejection...rejection very helpful video for a lifetime.brilliant personality.

👏👏👏👏 I love this! Makes a lot of sense. Now I will never feel bad about being rejected.

The speech is so beautiful & speaker too

Wow. She is just stunning.

Always a pleasure! Love this speech and always enjoyed your salsa classes. Thank you Magna!

wow shes naturally beautiful and very attractive, she even has charm.......wowwwwwwwww

She is a great speaker!

I Love this woman. I'm so happy you made this, it helps our community of Salsa Dance Lovers. I have to say no a lot more often. I'm in Miami now, we have lots of dancers with different styles. I am afraid of getting hurt or Cross Body Leading someone into danger. Love You Magna.

Salsa!!!! 💙💜 Amazing speech! Much love from Croatia.

You cant avoid rejection in ur life everyone has experienced that it's up to you how you take it. If u get rejected then be more courageous

Magna, thank you for sharing your insight on rejection. Honesty is the best defense.

This is a VERY good jewel. Thank you 💖

This was so well written!! And she did a great job speaking. I agree with everything

It is great to see that rejection is not biased so all kinds of people get rejected and have to deal with it.

With the utmost respect, I have to acknowledge the fact that Magna has to be one of the most beautiful ladies in the entire universe, with a lovely voice and obvious intelligence to boot!!!!

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

Have listened to this a couple of times now. The delivery is just on point...

She looks stunning ...what a presence..

Rejection is a part of life especially in the dancing community. You can't PLEASE everybody. If you get rejected MOVE ON and try again. It's NOT the end of the world if one rejected you. Why would i waste my time to those people who doesn't want to dance with me?? Of course there's always someone out there who really WANTS to dance with me :-) Peace!!

This was amazing!!! Enjoyed all the lesson and wisdom shared!

ya you are so right. thank you😊😊😊

This was really liberating. Thankyou so much Magna!!!

Sometimes People rejected a right person but they easily accepted the bad person

She's beautiful and intelligent. Those rejecting her are fools!

So powerful. Thank you from New York

Great advice...she’s an amazing dancer

first time I ever comment a Ted talk. two words: amazing speech !

Love it. She is right 🔥🔥

Yes and No lessons Is Absolutely 💯 Thank you for your truth ❤️.......

this was very good explanation of rejection and it is ok to receive and give rejection as well. At the end it is about respect to yourself and others. that is so true about salsa dancing especially in the beginning until I got better. she is right the concept of it, the rejection made me want go improve until i got better, instead of sulking to the back of the room I went to class 3x a week and going back to beginners class in 3 months I improved 6 months I could read the guys leading and I grew comfortable and confident..salsa dancing is a life lesson. practice makes perfect. Glad I clicked on this. everything she said is true!!

Totally can relate to this. This was a really good talk.

This is such a great talk - thanks so much!