What I learned was that never do something out of your own comfort zone. That is to be authentic. Realize the inner child issues does not make who you are today.

I learned to let go and do own I don't care what other people think I started a KZfaq page to help people.. Sorry Aaron but you talk way to much about your ex step mom let me ask you are you ready to let it go of your inner child wounds? If you need a element healing I will offer you one free to help you let go

That happens when you become a public person. Fans you perhaps dont want!

THE BEST video you ever made!!! Period

Knowing I need to set more boundaries. This is very difficult as a mother because you sacrifice so much. Do you have examples of different types of boundaries and when to use them?

Ooof. Accurate.

Mmmm interesting why do we feel we can give rather than receive.. however I feel I’ll never receive the support n help I give or is that isn’t in the method or way I want it to be or is that I’m not able to receive it

100% me

same here :/

"He's scared, She's scared" I would recommend reading this book. It helped me a lot. I hope you soon start to love yourself as you deserve!

Agreed! And trying to control outcomes in order to feel safe & secure. *Personally I think, we need to let go of being told or thinking that are needs, are not important or invalid- for most codependants that is the core of where codependancy was created. Shame. ❤🙏

If one looks to other people, alcohol, addictions, etc because they are using it to fill their voids and they feel the neeeeeed it, then there is codependency there. If you neeed someone else's energy then it is a form of dependence. Anytime you reach out of yourself to fill your voids that is a form of codependency. I'm not trying to argue with you at all. This topic is part of my work and I've studied it as a therapist, intuitive, and healer.

@@CaraHealBeFree I can appreciate that, but there is HEALTHY INTERDEPENDENCE. The Codependancy & Narcissism, as well as addictions and compulsion I refer to are clinical. Everything in moderation. After all the nature of our universe is duality. Everything is polarities, integration is the goal. Human Beings are not isolating individualists- connection and belonging are integral & embedded in our very essence. Ie:As such the dynamic of masculine & Feminine with an individual and the relationships we experience with reception & action. Too many spiritualists want to push the Everything is in us concept. Which is true, but we only evolve individually through the mirror of the external. ❤🙏 Blessings

Codependency is all of those things: needing someones energy, being needy, putting others before you, not putting up boundaries.

Dang that story was creepy. I'd be tripped out too. super weird. sorry that happened to you man.

This has transformed my life

Amen

Yes

I'm s0 ready!!! & listening

I’m “like” number 666! Angel number meaning: related to self-love, balance and refocusing

Love this! 💕

*For a more realistic view on relationships you might like reading "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment" by Steve Harvey. I like having outcomes and I usually get them. It saddens me to look at people judging themselves badly for having a goal or wanting an outcome, or having an expectation, there's nothing wrong with it. Can you imagine a world where people have no expectations, no agreements at all and no promises kept? Well, here's the utopia that could unfold, let's say you go to the post office and you don't expect for the people serving you to be there, or you open the faucet and no water runs through because you shouldn't expect to have water services running perfectly, you go to catch a train at **8:00** and it doesn't show up because hey, it's wrong to have expectations. I think people delude themselves thinking they have no right to desire an outcome or expect something, since they are not sure if they'll get it they decide it's normal they should have no expectation. I call bullshit to this.* *You can have expectations, for instance if you want to get married you better be transparent and let another know you are dating with that intention in mind. You are not forcing it upon someone else, just that eventually this is what you're after, you can take your time to see if you guys like each other or not, and if not then you're free to spend your time dating someone who might be interested in wanting similar things to you. Being authentic is knowing what you want, it's not necessary to vent it out on the first date, just be sure you will get it and feel the fulfillment of it within yourself already so you don't have needy energy. But that's all to it, enjoy the ride towards the practical fulfillment, but don't be a person with no vision. The bible warns against it, it says "Where there is no vision, people perish". Sure, we can live even with no conveniences at all, out in the woods, with no modern shelter, heat, electricity, no attachments. Do you think this is what life is about? Life is interesting because we can define visions for ourselves and get it. But you can't get something that you can't even define.*

Wow! What great quote! Thanks for sharing 😊

Beautiful quote ❤️❤️❤️❤️✌️

Well said! 🦋

we love you yannie

I feel you… thankfully to this channel and therapy I am getting better 🙌

Currently in this state as well, and I have now learned to reframed my mindset and go back to having a secure attachment, than becoming anxious throughout my previous relationship. I miss being single where I was independent and secure of myself, now I don't need a partner unless they're secure as well.

Never too late to heal and change ❤️

Fantastic well done

Much love to you gail. How awesome. ❤

Hell yeahhh

I loved reading your post!!! I’m sooo happy for you that they don’t like you anymore. Enjoy your freedom babe! You rock

You too. 💝

thank you, same to you..

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How are u now

@@zoomrud999 stronger with the clearest vision I've ever had. I see things for what they are and no longer give the benefit of the doubt.

Understatement of the century

Agreed

Thank you, great In spirition from a young 60yr old

Love this!!

WHAT do you mean. if your inner code is off like in a narcassist he is sticking to creating pain, trauma, abuse and harm to everyone around him or her.

@@ptk51 CODE is formulated conducted to act and proceed unnatural to the appeasement of self. Narraciscism takes no code just baseline human desire.

Same here

Me too! I’m trying…. Not there though

Codependent

Amazing

I feel the exact same way! I now realize that no one has ever “abandon” or “reject” me! Is was only me projecting my wounds and fears and reacting to what was happening outside…that is changing completely how I’m seeing and feeling myself, I’m so grateful

Ohhh thank you this resonated so much!!

nice try, not clicking your channel

Good vibes you got this!

Yasssss mamas! Love this

What a weird comment who cares

@@devonwick2004 Different people notice different things. I like random stuff like this.

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If a grown adult has a pattern of mistreating people they should seek help and develope better patterns.

They are some people that think that you are speaking only to them. It happens to celebrities as well. I do agree with him, you have to set boundaries and protect yourself. That's why celebrities have bodyguards.

YES! ONLY this past few days i realize my big sister has an infeareer disorder n that leads her to behave certain way. at last i break free bcos i hold her as my autority figure!!

No to the narcissistic ppl

@Joy Guidry I wish the best for you and your family. Be easy on yourself. You are awesome!

Same here!! I'm hoping to heal from being an anxious attachment to a secure attachment style.

You may want to examine why you engage in Facebook. I was on for seeking approval and acceptance. How many friends did I have, how many likes did I get, who said I was pretty. I realized that I needed to work on self acceptance and self love. I have completely stopped Facebook. I don’t miss it. Start by deleting people you don’t talk to often or you barely know. It’s been freeing. Good luck.

MY GOODNESS 😞😞😞

"they're" (they are) ... not "their"

@@pattyray4841 okay

So there is hope! TFS 💞

At what point did you notice your feelings change toward him? Did he perhaps detach himself from the outcome and thus attract you?

This is how your father was, nice guy who respect women?

I believe the nice guys Aaron is referring to is the codependent/people pleaser that do it out of unconscious programming. Some people are just temperamentally agreeable and it isn’t a programmed pattern that give off the neediness vibe.

He wasn't your 1st choice, its not gonna end well for him..you will be fine though