One of the reasons the Supreme Court can give for deciding not to hear a particular case is that "the court does not deal in trifles." Prioritizing the insignificant above the truly important is not only wasteful, it is disrespectful. Liberally granting your time and attention is like printing more money: the subsequent inflation only serves to devalue the circulating currency. This means that it is essential to learn how to say "no." Pre-order my book: amzn.to/3UlsTsY Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jdiIdd2Cl66odYU.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzfaq.info/love/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #selfimprovement #success

"If you're gonna lose your shit every time you face a minor inconvenience, then that's exactly how much your peace is worth."

Men must constantly protect his M.E.A.T. (Money.Energy.Attention.Time) more than ever due to all the distractions that exists these days. Shoutout to Coach Greg Adams (CGA)!

Most grownups with jobs have max two hours of “free time”. Choose it wisely.

My kickboxing coach told me "nothing is neutral". In that there are only so many hours/days/years you are going to live and if it's not moving forward it is holding you back.

“Never argue with a woman”. When you are young and inexperienced you interpret this as a challenge and try to be the first to get through to her. When you are older and experienced - you interpret it the way this video suggests!”. They were never arguing to understand. It is a never ending absorption of attention that no man can afford.

In my younger days, several people told me that I needed to "learn how to tell people no". Subsequent interactions revealed that they were always leaving out the word "other".

Agree 100%. Say no, Reject, Deny, Disappoint and Ignore will likely earn you the title of Ass 'ole. Wear it as a badge. If you are called a 'nice guy' in your circles, then you are giving away your time for free. Congrats on 500K Doc. Onwards to 1M !

Funny how so many people think spending their "Golden Time" arguing with idiots on Facebook and Reddit is a valuable use of their time.

The Pep Talk I needed for like the past 20 f**king years. Better late than never. Thanks, Doctor.

Isn’t this just the same idea of “the subtle art of not giving a f”?

If you are one of those "receptcle" types, every once in a while test the person who is dumping their problems on you to see if they'll reciprocate by listening to yours, even if it goes against your nature. Their likely lack of interest will be the best demonstration of Dr. Taraban's point here.

This video really spoke to me. I struggle with not valuing my time over my girlfriends when she needs something. An unfortunate pattern I learned as a child trying to emotionally regulate my incredibly unstable mother. I definitely need to keep this concept in mind, thank you.

This is probably the best explanation I've heard for why boundaries are so important to have.

Sometimes you have to restrain your own friendly nature because people will want to take a mile when you give an inch. Thanks for reminding and reaffirming.

This is, by a long shot, one of the best videos you have done. Brimming with tons of wisdom that comes from years of lived experiences and overcoming challenges, in order to come up with such realizations. I already knew most of what you said, but I love the professional way you address these topics. The output is beyond amazing and definitely contains a ton of life lessons encompassed in a brief video. Kudos to you, Orion.

And yet, here we are, watching KZfaq instead of anything else.

Yes! People get away with what you LET them get away with. I have always believed that.

I love your talks and courses. It is strange. Every time I play any of your talks, it forces me to sit down and take notes. This very rarely happens with other clips I daily watch. The points you make are so fundamental and resonates with my daily life. It directly pokes the sensitive functions of my behavior that need adjustment. Thank you.

This applies to women too we don't have time to waste on attempting to figure someone out if they are interested they will say it otherwise move on.

I assumed as a married man my duty was to do everything my wife asked. Well what happened is exactly described in this video. Resentment, lack of time to do my important things, and my wife expecting more and more and being irritated that I was failing to fulfill her requests.

Wow, terrifically important topic. Nicely explained too. This whole bit about the value of your time and attention, is too little appreciated. Living in an era of entitled people has only made it worse. Thanks for this episode.

I found this to be really affirming. The clarity, composure and ruthless organisation of thought and emotion.

This is also exactly the topic of the book "the subtle art of not giving a f*ck"

Just what I needed to hear! This talk addresses some of the top energy drains .. Adding the adage about arguing with a fool.. Thanks for the extra tools. Never had a Trifle Meter and came with an accessory pack. Heck of a deal for 50 bucks!

Thank you, Mr. Taraban, for yet another thing that i SORT OF figured out by myself by being almost 50 years old, but never quite so precise and with drawing such clear implications! Also, as a non-native speaker, thank you for your clear pronounciation and calm and well-paced speaking style, it makes it easy to follow your points, even with you following a rather elaborate style. Keep on enlightening us!

Mmmmmmm, trifle. 100% agree, the single greatest gift I've given myself in adult is learning to say no.

When a trifel happens millions of times, even the Supreme Court has to deal with it. A minor inconvenience can sometimes become major, but it is rare.

Preach it, brother.

Congratulations on 500k subscribers! I wonder if you might devote an episode to your greatest influences in psychology. At different times you've mentioned Freud, Jung, Robert Johnson, and a number of others. Whose ideas would you say have shaped you the most? Thank you!

Man did I need to hear this right now 😮‍💨

Absofucking BANG ON! My greatest challenge in life, and the thing that has held me back more than any other factor, is that I have not told people: "No, I am not willing to do that." I was lucky to make a friend who conveyed the EXACT message Dr. Taraban is conveying here about 8 years ago, and it has improved my life in ways you cannot imagine. This is by far one of his MOST IMPORTANT videos.

That information about the 4-6 hours of high performance are certainly legit. High peak hours are necessary for = ''Creativity, Concentration, Physical Performance, Careful Reasoning and Performative Charisma'' That explains why we function and behave the way we do. Super valuable information

This was very good. The other day my oldest sister had created a chat between my brother and I. And my brother had bought a ticket for our dad. She was creating arguments conversation. I had to check her and say that between mom & dad if someone did a nice jester let the couple resolve and speak for themselves. Sometimes these trifles happen with family members as well. Very petty insignificant discussion that can be defused. Blessings 💜

This one made me think. Very good!

Good women are perfectly fine hearing no. I can simply tell my wife that I want to be productive to work on “X” and she simply ask what and when I want to eat. She needs her productive time as well, and during that time I try to take care is the surroundings, which right now it includes our child. I get not all women are like that, but stop complaining and learn how to find the ones that are.

Orion, you mentioned in one of your vids, "No women ever left you when you were doing well, only when you had a setback." Since this has been a universal thing men deal with women leaving when they lose a job, have a death in the family, a health or business setback etc. can you do a short one on this topic?

Solid message once again from the Doc! Given that we don't technically own our own children, I've learned that our attention really is the most valuable thing we all possess, even more so than our time, since where our attention lies controls how we spend our time.

A long overdue episode to be saved in my favorites. Thank you!

O dang, TRUTH.

This is pure gold

Phenomenal episode.

This channel has been such a gift for me

Thank you, Orion. PS. I really admire the art of your front pages.

Brilliant

This has become my favorite episode. ❤

This is priceless.

That's my problem before I had a hard time saying " No " because of being nice, compassionate, kind and for the sake of peace and harmony . However some people don't know their limits sometimes including MySelf. Now as I aged I learn to say NO even if some people like friends, family, neighbors get dissatisfied or disappointed . Same as well if I cross on other people's boundary then it's okay to say/ tell me NO. I'm a believer of There's time for Everything. Time to respond, time to pause, time to relax, time to think, work , time to sleep and eat etc. etc. time to closeness and separation. I totally agree on this 👍.

1:24 hearing the word f**kery is when you know you have to stop watching this video & leave a comment about it and click that like!!!

Super relevant right now. Thanks for the video!

This is good advice for everyone regardless of age, sex, race, or nationality.

This is relevant to my current family situation. Thank you again and again 🙏🫵❤️

As is usually the case, this video came right on time for me.Thank you sir 🙏

This type of video is pure gold. Good work on this one!

Right on the money, Dr. T!

It's interesting how it often stems from not receiving unconditional love from parents at a young age - it sets up a condition in your head, that you need to deserve other people, and that you can't love yourself just because. Later in life then, people too easily plead for love, because they can not grant themselves the peace of it themselves, since they have never experienced such emotion of self sufficency. I think it's equally as important to know where these problems stem from, as well as knowing the solution. Problem - Not having self-worth and unconditional love for oneself. Source - Lack of love in your childhood Solution - Logically deriving your self-worth, but also emotionally realizing that someone didn't give you what you were supposed to receive at some point, and it now remains upon you to finish raising your inner child.

4:30 AM - 10:30 AM. My Golden Time.

Very important video.

This is so true in customer service

Fantastic advice for life and work

Makes a lot of sense prioritisation and time, good stuff

dude I love this analysis

Thnx Dr. This episode is GOLDEN !!

This is awesome information. Thank you!

This is excellent, and I look forward to applying it.

Wow congrats with half a mill subs! You SO deserve it. Thank your for your brilliant insights into the human psyche! I’m a sub for life

Life is trifle. Most of our lives are trifles. The concept of "the court does not deal in trifles" is applicable only to those in major power. Your life is nothing but trifles. It's your job to choose the most valuable trifle to you. At the end of the day, most of us ARE trifles. Menials, cogs, low level or at best, mid level people. Yet somehow, we must strive for some semblance of meaning, pride and worth so we must find our own valuable trifles.

I love this!

Simply outstanding! This is the message I need to hear now, something that can improve my life immediately. Thank you for your wisdom, sir. I will use this lesson moving forward.

Excellent video! ❤

Excellent talk!

Highly salient. Appreciated.

Thanks for the Trifle Meter with accessory pack!❤

Excellent advice on how to allocate precious resources!

Highest concentration of value in any of your vids. Which sre generally very useful. This is preaching

Thank you for that. I used to get mad when ever anything went wrong. Then Christ changed me. I started saying thank you God, when bad things happened. This gives a new perspective on a spiritual issue. It's a good tool to change that which is broken.

Mindfully set boundaries

Great advice! There’s already too much bullshit to deal with in the world these days.

Thanks!

At 1:23 you ended all discussions. Period and point blank 🎯🗣️📶🔥🔥

Thank you. I'll keep the Golden time close to heart

I’m currently studying for my Masters at a prestigious Law and I agree with everything the court will not deal with. Also consider the conservation of energy from a physics standpoint and your time is very important.

Excellent Episode

You never miss brother.

This channel is such a gift.

I found I am very good with setting boundaries in my personal life, however when it comes to family that around 29 years to figure out. Live and learn

Yup, saying No, disappointing, rejecting and ignoring women has always ended with an angry woman. Someone has to teach these women that you don't always get what you want. 😂

Guard your energy, don't give it to people who haven't earned it. I'm still learning, it takes presence of listening to ones gut, "is this worth my time".

Thank you for your videos Orion. 🙏

¡Gracias!

Thank you Dr

I needed this today. Really shifted my thinking

I'm def buying your book

Very keen for your book Dr!

Thanks so much as always doc😊

Excellent

I am continually surprised by the clarity this man brings to issues. I wonder if living in cali. , with all the b.s. they want to impose on this country, has forced deep reflection on many topics.

This channel is one of the hidden gems on YT

Valuable information thanks ❤

Amazing angle. I think i needed it more then ever .