Why pay a dating site when I can be ignored in public for free?

Has anyone ever noticed how mean women can be to guys they're not attracted to? They will insult them, call them "incels," and speak negatively about them to their friends, even though they are all about muh "body positivity" and "accepting everyone." It's not creepy if the guy's hot. Women only want good-looking men to approach them. Always remember this, buddy boyos, Everything stems from lookism. Racism, sexism, bullying, etc... Being good-looking surpasses it all.

As a bald and unattractive man of 42, I'm already invisible. You get used to it. Although from time to time you have to suppress the need to be close to someone. And then it hurts.

A society that disregards most men is a society that is doomed to fail. If nothing changes, expect everything to come crashing down.

Guys it’s not 5 years. It’s NOW. And it’s 95%.

Bro at this point when someone tells me looks doesn't really matter or only matter in dating, I straight up think they are stupid..

Gave up at 29. Won't say I am "glad i did" like most people say. But i had to stop trying for my own sanity. I don't have the energy to try dating anymore.

I started internet dating ~ 2011, I noticed by 2020 there was a huge shift in the dating landscape, it’s as if the universe shifted. Women overall became more pickier, arrogant, more self entitled, delusional and only targeted the the top 10%. It was the final nail in the dating coffin.

I'm 48, and back when I was coming up in the 80s into the early 90s, it was pretty easy to at LEAST get your looks match. No problem at all. The challenge was getting a girl that was a click or two above your looks match. And even THAT wasnt an impossible feat. As long as you were good in other areas. Tall Height has always been preferred, but back then it wasn't a big deal whatsoever. Again, as long as u were good in other areas. Gym maxxing would get u far because not many guys, aside from athletes, were lifting on a regular basis. I feel for you younger dudes.

It’s not that it’s over, it never even began.

Since I 'm already invisible , I don't give a fuck ! Life has given way too many problems, so I prefer to spend my free time alone than trying to convince ANY woman to be with me. Peace of mind is underrated

There was a time I worked out, was as fit as I'll ever be, had money, had a pretty nice car, and a good job. Even then, w/ all that, I was still invisible to women. Went out clubbing, had a great time solo, was social, still ignored, whether it was for one night stands or a relationship. Yes, I'm telling on myself but I've only had 6 g/f's my whole life. At this point, in my mid-late 40's, I've given up on dating, being in a relationship. Just trying to enjoy life as much as I can till I keel over. What else can you do?

I'm invisible now and have been for 20 years.

Do people even realize the dangers of a society where 90% of men will be deprived of love and intimacy, some of the most important needs humans have? It’s like the famous saying: the most dangerous men are those who have nothing to lose. Or this african proverb: the child who is not embrace by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.

I have a theory about this... If 90% of men don't have the option to find love and start families, they have nothing special to look forward to in life. Then what would be the point of following the laws and rules of society. I mean what is there to lose? Something you weren't going to get anyways? If it keeps going like this, it's just a matter of time before groups of discontented men will unite to bring chaos and destruction.

If you want to demoralize a nation, this is the best way to do so and has been done since the 1920s. And if you want to depopulate the face of the earth without overt violence, this also is the way to go.

Invisible in 5 years? it's already at 90% now, I dread to think what the future will look like for young average men. My prediction is that it will be extremely common for chad species and top 5% men to have 10+ girlfriends at the same time and they all know about each other.

When you stop living in lust, you suddenly realise how ordinary and boring women truly are. All they give you is headache and no peace. 😊

What an excellent explanation. Chads get all the experience early because they are attractive, so now they also know how to talk to women and are confident because of their past success. Meanwhile normies and sub fives not only look worse, but because they had little to no success in the past, they now lack experience not to mention confidence after being rejected over and over again. So the chads get more and more socially apt while the rest of guys just fall further and further behind. What an absolute nightmare.

i see my self as a 5-4 and nothing and no one will ever convince me in using most of my time,energy and money into getting better at dating just to have a CHANCE of success,i'm better off feeding my hobbies and passions that i know will give me joy at any time and will never betray me.I choose dying alone but content rather then an empty shell that had tons of experience

Only in modern dating can a 250lb woman with 2 kids by 2 different baby daddies can make demands in what she wants in a partner.

I decided to be blackpilled because all my life I've been treated horribly by females. Now i talk to none and it's fine like that. The only times i would have to interact with a female is when they're a cashier at a store or a receptionist at an office. Otherwise i stopped trying to talk to women after being called ugly and a lot of bad shit in my life. Obviously they don't owe me anything but i don't owe them anything too.

I gave up with 25. I had already never a big chance because of my looks so i saw early to just get over it. Today, i feel pretty good. I am happy i escaped the whole dating scene. People didnt want to believe me when i told them that social media destroyed the dating market for especially men. I looked for new ambitions and new goals and today, i would never want to go back. Sure it hurts sometime when you see a happy couple (at least it looks happy from the outside) but i am more sad because it has come to this. Not that I never was part of this in life but sad that the dating scene has changed so much to the worse. Even women are not happy with it. But those moments sadness are short. Maybe for a few seconds.

I have been invisible to women for my whole life.

Not to mention the fact that also, if you do manage to get into a relationship with a girl you have to work to keep her around as well. Especially today in the age of technology where women have tons of options and extreme ease of access to them, as well as constant reception of attention from other men. And let's face it, women today will leave you at the drop of a hat over practically anything these days. It's basically walking through a landmine field. One wrong step and you're done.

Another point to make about the snowball effect for Chads, they're able to commit "social norm violations" with less social penalty and usually some approval, with people interpreting it as humorous or endearing. That naturally leads the chad to overcome any social anxiety they may be harboring early on, like in high school. So their confidence is where it needs to be when they hit college.

As a 5-6 young man living near a big city I can also say that the older you get the harder it is to find someone of your level, back in high school it was much more easy now, im college student and even mid women here get so much men attention that being below 7 here means you're nothing, this helps focusing on my goals better though, but still makes you feel like shit sometimes

The globalization of the dating market through social media, dating apps and other areas of the internet are ruining everything for most men, and it’s only getting worse

I think hypergamy to extreme levels always existed. And that is precisely the reason why vast majority of major religions enforce monogamy or at least polygamy is allowed under strict conditions. That way, when a chad finds someone he wants to be with, he is out of the market. When everyone agrees that people should have one partner, people stop pursuing taken people and focus on the available ones instead. This won't stop occasional fantasy about a giga chad or super hot girl, but it will keep people in reality for vast majority of time. But what has happened recently? People are turning away from anything that restricts us. Nobody stops for a moment to think if that rule was in place for a reason. This goes for se x, we ed, relationships and so on... To clarify, I am atheist, but I think that world truly had a need for religions, regardless if god is real or not. Probably still has.

You won't discover the black pill. The black pill will discover you.

Dark for everyone involved. Dark for the lonely men. And dark for the hedonistic rich man and shallow woman with no love in their hearts. What hurts men, hurts women, and what hurts women, hurts men. In the long run.

I used online dating for about 15 years. I really enjoyed it. Met loads of women. Women were friendly back then. Now they're distant. They don't want to know the average guy. I stopped online dating after not having any messages for TWO YEARS. On various dating sites. So I gave up.

I’m not an incel but I appreciate you bringing this content to the mainstream. I have a couple blue pilled friends who get rejected on a weekly basis but are doing absolutely nothing to improve themselves, thinking the right girl will come along. I know if I said anything to them they would just ignore it, it’s sad how manipulated people are nowadays.

I'm 41, I've got a torn meniscus in my knee, a bad shoulder, and currently my back is tweaked. All this Rugby talk has me a little envious. I can also confirm dating was much simpler 10 and 15 years ago. I feel bad for the young men today.

The biggest problem with being average, is the fact that it is the only portion of the looks scale with a large amount of subjectivity, some may find you ugly some may find you cute or meh. This means a women who does somewhat like your appearance will be easily swayed to ditch u when she shows u to her female friends and they may or may not think your ugly. The only thing better for a woman than dating chad is making her friends jealous of her catch of said chad.

If 90% of men become invisible. We. Might as well all band together and flip whole society upside down.

Only two options for 90% of men: 1. self improvement (or COPE the favorite word of a lot of blackpillers) 2. "give up" (whatever it means to you)

"Just be in the top 10% and take showers bro."

I actually think A.I could help redress the balance here. It will diminish women's power because simpy men will just choose A.I girls instead of real ones, and it may give the guys who actually want a real relationship a chance to practice their skills with "women" without needing to be a Chad first.

I only knew one chad. He was 6’2, big with muscle and had the gift of gab. He went on a double date with a friend, a nice avg guy. His friend did not want to sleep with his date the 1st night meeting her so, the Chad slept with his date and his friends date.

Conclusion: It´s over

I want to see this world burn either by my hands or see it be done by somebody else

today in the gym, i was in the sauna, and there were some older gentlemen in there about 40 - 50 odd, talking about modern dating, modern women, feminism, and how they felt sorry for the young men of todays generation, because a lot of them are the reason modern women are able to have such a high sense of entitlement and privvilage, these old boys were basically saying young men need to go their own way an not put up with this female fuckery, i got so excited that we were on the same page even though we like 20 - 30 years difference in age lol, i politely sat there listening to this older generations wise words whilst sweating to oblivion.

Don’t forget the bed-room fun as a snow balling skill! Guys who have a lot practice will calmly look forward to the intimacy, whilst the less experienced are nervous, can’t switch off their thoughts „what is she thinking of me“ and „will I be able to please her“. Which will get worse with every bad experience.

The snowball effect is also probably why a lot of the best comedians aren't also the best looking. They have to start from a social deficit in nearly every situation, so they have to adapt by being extra funny in order to maintain friendships at an early age.

It's cool. I never had a chance in dating before all this crap happened either. I've spent my life training for this scenario.

Take it from some of the guys here like me who are in their 30s, 40s, and beyond… I understand you may be upset with your lack of dating success. But the fact of the matter is, the “prize” of landing a female is not likely to be all that great. Most modern women are whores who don’t offer much, except for baggage and headaches. They initiate divorce the vast majority of time. Even if you land a female and marry her and stay married, you’re unlikely to be all that happy anyway. So many guys fixate on females, who ultimately are very likely to not make you happy anyway.

I have to tell my parents that no matter how good they think I look I have to focus on self improvement first before continuing. They are shocked to learn how competitive dating is these days compared to theirs.

Fellas, there is no woman out there more beautiful than Your Peace & freedom -Cheek Slaying Gospels💯

The dark FUTURE? This stuff is happening right now In the present day

It actually feels like it gets harder every 2 months or so...

Snowballing definitly is on point. Its easy to be confident and relaxed around women when you have had dozens of successes already.

All I hear everyday just be confident have confidence and be yourself it will happen when you least expect it.? I'm 42 years old and nothing is coming except the same old same old. Welcome to the world of involuntary celibate..

1) Save your money. Do whatever it takes. 2) Research moving to the Philippines and get your game plan together. 3) Move here, marry a beautiful, faithful Filipina. 4) Live happily ever after.

I wonder why this only happens in countries that don't value religion 🤔

As an older man, dating is not as important to me as in my younger years. I can do without dealing with the succubus that are out there. Just focus on your dreams, goals and aspirations. You will derive more pleasure from those three things than chasing the modern woman. Please look into stoicism, yoga and meditation. I wish I started all three in my twenties. I would most likely have retired by forty-five with a high seven figure portfolio.

So the collapse is inevitable.

I wished someone told me this when I was a teenager. Now it's too late

Basically, being a short or unattractive guy finally getting a chance with a girl is like being a soccer defender that finally gets into the opposition's penalty box with a chance at goal. He'll probably put it into the stands.

So it’s like the rich gets richer and the poor get poorer but apply to dating/intimate relationships

In five years? I've been invisible for 35

This is the main topic that ALL those who call themselves "coaches" get wrong: They say: if you can't get a GF, get a social circle to help you. They forget that if he's struggling, he will as well struggle to have a decent social circle. it's harder than getting a girl randomly every now and then. At best he can have an inc*l group of struggling men like him, which will lead to nothing at all. being rejected or cast-away is not only related to women's opinion.

This is an awesome concept! It's sparked an interest for identifying snowballing vs diminishing returns skills in other areas of life. Great job coming up with a new way to look at the world.

6) Chad is forgiven far more often for errors that would get non-Chads in trouble.

This means that many many men are going to have lonely lives. It also means 90% of women will end up alone with their cats when they get older. Sad all the way round. At least all those cats will have a happy future.

As stated before up the standards on them. Too many Tattoos, 6 figure student loan debt, roommates, high body count, abused and emotional damage, poor financial management, kids, high waist hip ratio, low bust size, poor posture, no back arch, lacking large estrogenic cheekbones, overweight, poor diet, etc

Your example made me recall my own school rugby experience. I was a successful attacking scrum half in the second team. I got promoted by merit to the first team and put in a full-back defensive position, and no longer improved (and lost interest in the game). Different skill set, and an example that just because you are successful in one scenario, it doesn't mean you will be in another!

What alot of people forget and even people with in this community ( yes wheat did talk about this) is the experience gap, once you manage to luckily get your looks match she will have so much more experience than you, she'll expect you to be picking up on hints like her past partners did and will think there is something wrong with you when you dont. Even passing the looks threshold doesn't mean success will occur since most of you struggling guys dont know what to do or how to escalate, thats why I would say its HTN or over at least when you're at that looks level you can leverage your looks for the lack of experience.

Dating nowadays can be resumed like this: you will have to sweat and bleed in order to get laid with a 6/10 roastie who has been with at least 20 guys and is currently talking with 100 more. Just give up. Not worth it.

I have two chads among my friends. We are 40 now. They have bedded 1000+ girls thanks to technology. Never married: they just don't see the point and are addicted to novelty.

This channel is HILARIOUS!!😊

I’m sure you know this wheat (since you’ve mentioned it before) but the scale for attractiveness isn’t binary, i.e. “just be top 20% bro.” It’s exponential, somewhat approximating a quadratic function. A top 1% man has 10x the options of a top 5% man, who had 10x the options of an average man, etc. We are accelerating towards a time where nearly all men (except the very top) are disregarded. This is a natural consequence of a technologically developed society.

I have no idea i will end up being a black pill. WE ARE DOOMED

I'm already invisible. All of my friends are dead or in prison and I am so not into dating anymore. I just go to work and go home, though I spend a lot of time writing horror stories too since I'm already here and already have millions of people listening to my stuff. Life is horrible. I hope I don't live long

I’m 40 and had lots of success in my 20’s, but nothing in the last 6 years. Have never paid for sex before, but since women want to make the game like this, I’m just gonna pay for it and enjoy the financial and practical freedom of life. Plus paying for it is cheaper than a relationship.

I'm 76 so really just interesting to me to understand just how far society, in terms of mating behaviors has declined. When I was 20... mid 60's... the average high school girl was looking to be married up, that is have her meal ticket, within 3 to 5 years from graduation. Marriage and having a man pinned was about security first. Yeah looks and status mattered, but not as much as now. The difference now is that girls/women don't need men anymore. The meal ticket thing is gone and they can obsess about getting their Chad and letting their raw appetites run. Its about 'fun' They've got their advanced degree in something that pays them well; they don't need no man. And if they do decide they want a kid, having a man around to raise it is not that important anymore, and they don't have to be fussy about who the bull daddy is. Even thugs will do. Single mothers with 'darker toned' kids really common now aren't they? The human scale consequences are going to be enormous. Literal population collapse is imminent. The "Z" generation thinks this is all so humorous. And men, of course, not important at all. Those single moms, well their boys are all going to be doctors and lawyers aren't they? OK. Wait until their roof needs replacing, their car needs to be fixed, the streets snow-plowed. Women aren't going to be doing those jobs. The new social Gods are not going to be lawyers. They are going to be the extremely rare man that can actually do things.

Great video. Not having options on dating apps will cause lack of experience, and finally, after months of swiping and trying hard, maybe you will get your first online date, but you won’t know what to do and you will mess up the opportunity. First of all, you won’t know how to read her body language to figure out if she is into you or not.Secondly, chances are that you will be awkward and nervous in the interaction, and the girl will receive the vibe, perceiving you as inexperienced and weirdo. Thirdly, you won’t be able to flirt and to escalate properly, because those things require some minimum level of experience. Fourthly, while being on the date you will have a scarcity mindset, and this is normal, you had got a shot after months of trying or even years… we’re humans not machines. Women have crazy instinct and they can smell inexperienced and non confident guys from miles away, and this is a huge turn off for them. On the other hand, Chads they know how to handle every situation on dates, because for them dealing with women is a daily routine. And as Wheat Waffles explains, this is one of the main reasons why in the dating market the rich get richer and the poor get poorer.

I am 49 with Aspergers. While my dating is still pathetic, I feel it is probably better than 30% of the bottom millennial and gen z men. I could have done even better if I had the knowledge I had now. Dating has gone the same way as UK car boot sales.

This is a really good video and explains so much. Great job!

Interesting theory and it definitely affects things like sexual performance/skill. A woman will reject a guy who is bad in bed even the first time, which leaves him unable to practice. And thats AFTER he did all the work and attraction to get there in the first place. Probably the best bet is to get long term experience early in life to develop the skills that will take you through adulthood

As a mildly autistic tall guy with good looks, this is absolutely spot on. Even though I lack the charisma and ability to pick up on social cues, I still get many chances to talk to women whenever I go out simply by my looks, which is not often as I have little social energy. I have learned through trial and error what not to say, how to act, how to be more attractive to women and I get access to sex relatively frequently, even though flirting doesn't come naturally for me and I'm the biggest nerd. I have not had a successful long-term relationship yet because it is very hard work for someone like me, but red pill content has greatly improved my attitude and success in this regard, and the best thing is, it is even easier to not take women as seriously than it is to!

"if you enjoyed make sure to press the like..." bro how could I have enjoyed that?

it’s over boys. just gotta hold out hope for AI girlfriends

I'd prefer to stay single myself. Yes I'm average and yes I've had plenty of women wanting relationships with me. I've been married and divorced twice and I'm just no longer interested. I'm making 6 figs and living life on my terms and I love it. If someone can't get on board with what I do then I'm just not interested.

This is a very well thought out video.

Good, can't be falsely accused if we're invisible

Keep posting the truth. Never change please!!!

I’ve just had an apiphany; Most people with confidence fall into one of two categories: 1) a false sense of confidence created reactively from insecurity 2) a genuine sense of confidence born from a genuine emotion. Most people when they claim to be confident get their boosts from the first option. Whenever someone who isn’t genuinely confident feels attacked, they reflexively act confident as to no appear weak. But they never passively feel the emotion of confidence. Genuine confidence is not so much an emotion as a mental state, you understand everything you do is correct so you know you don’t have to question yourself. While this often leads to blind arrogance, some people who are genuinely kind or able to receive criticism without letting it get them down in any way while still understanding that the criticism is wholeheartedly kind will foster genuine confidence, but pretty much everyone to some extent will be affected negatively by personal slights and the such, which may cause them to be less confident in the future. This leads to only the most popular people developing true confidence, the rest of the world just kinda forced to develop a poor, insecure, reactionary expression of confidence. Anyone who does achieve true self-confidence will most likely be successful as it takes some success in order to be confident in the first place, but in general this means more attractive people generate genuine confidence leading to an even bigger disparity.

That’s caption made me die 😂😂 bro u funny af alright on to actually watching the content

Had a bumble ad for this video 😂

Being short, ugly and nerdy, it was terrible trying to date 35-40 years ago. Worse yet, I was jammed full of blue pills by my sister, mother, TV and the movies. It was light hunting bear with a fly swatter. I can't imagine it being worse today, unless women declared outright war on ugly men.

Please make more videos!!! you are really opening my eyes to things

Extremely important and relevant and interesting analysis of a MAJOR issue! Please continue enlighting us! A French admirer

Just another symptom, a sign of the last days. The world has a few decades tops.

Loved the rugby analogy. Well executed mate.

Excellent content. This information will bode very well in my research, planning, and actions.

Couldnt agree more with this vid. I was always thinking this how good looking ppl have easier but never really said it loud because you would be labelled as pathetic looser. Well, luckily I turned this fact into my adventage. Knowing, I am going to waste my time in rigged game, I shifted my time into selfimprovement, saved a lot of money and reinvesting it now and will be able to retire early, shopping and not checking price labels, just enjoying spending money on the things that makes me happier. We as a men, I believe, can get over it, refuse to play always loosing game and get back to the real world without fantasy that bring us nowhere.

love this video as it proves your looks is your confidence, confidence does not make you attractive, being attractive makes you confident as you have more experience being around women and don't need to fake confidences it is second nature, this is why game is a myth your dating experience and acceptance by women is your game which you only get if you're good looking enough 😅🤣😂

Amazing analysis. Thanks waffles

I hit puberty late so my face/body didn’t mature fully till I was about 21. I had a big glow up at that point. Now I’m having to play catch up at 24 because I didn’t date at all during hs. Doesn’t help I have social anxiety so I avoided dating in general.