The Dark Side of Helping Others: 11 SURPRISING Ways It Can HARM YOU

The Dark Side of Helping Others: 11 SURPRISING Ways It Can HARM YOU | STOICISM

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The Dark Side of HELPING: 11 SURPRISING Ways It Can HARM YOU | STOICISM
Discover how helping others could be affecting you without you knowing it. Inspired by the teachings of Marcus Aurelius and stoicism, '11 SURPRISING Ways Helping Others Can HARM YOU' shows you the hidden side of being too generous. You'll learn to find a balance between helping others and taking care of yourself, following practical and easy-to-understand advice. This video is perfect for those looking to live better, nurture their relationships, and understand more about stoicism. Watch now and start protecting your well-being while helping others!
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@zorlitazorlita2654 13 күн бұрын

I grew up in a poor household with parents who married early and no knowledge whatsoever about raising a family. I grew up needing badly all kinds of support until I come of age. As a child, being left alone or with needs being ignored SUCKS a lot. This is why when I got older, I make sure I help my family or anyone when I see that they need it, unsolicited or otherwise. I wish I had someone like me when I was a kid. I think we should offer help and guidance to minors but only guidance to young adults..

@lindabalent2755 11 күн бұрын

God bless you,

@hema2078 4 күн бұрын

Same as my situation. I still nvr see my siblings taking responsibility

@annalewis3356 4 күн бұрын

You have a big heart showing compassion and helping your family and others, May the Lord bless your heart of charity.

@LindaDavis-iq9zj 2 күн бұрын

I find it lacking when someone feels the need to downgrade one's family in any circumstance. You are your family, unsolicited, or not.

@isartoraplatz 2 күн бұрын

You are a healthy person Anyone who doesn’t want To help the poor and needy Or family if they have the Means to do so and don’t This selfishness on a Narcissistic level…

@Ritza.Elefteria.Michaki 24 күн бұрын

I helped my own family and in the End, they tried to get me down, jealous they were and badly behaved they have become.

@doriangray7723 2 күн бұрын

That's often the case. However, no need to harbor resentment or bitterness towards them. Hopefully, you have learned where to set boundaries with both family and others.

@dawnesteele9732 Ай бұрын

This has helped me tremendously because I realized I am overly supportive and have lost my own way

@lebohangm.1835 28 күн бұрын

Same here.😥

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience 🙏 It's a big step to recognize when to pull back and focus on your own path. Wishing you strength and clarity as you adjust your balance ♥

@markkelley2094 27 күн бұрын

I know that feeling too, just getting back on my horse, I fell off it landed in shit was dragged around in the dust back then all in order to help, I need help now no one there lol 😂 made me stronger than any of them though, god helps them that help themselves, not to my money and time no more, I think people out there get it mixed up, be on your own and find work to fill your table not leaning on others to get by lol 😂 clowns 😂😂😂😂

@madelinebigio7565 26 күн бұрын

Same here I can understand! I have been that way all my life ! It’s not healthy to always be there for someone!

@madelinebigio7565 26 күн бұрын

@@markkelley2094same here that has been my weakness!

@MissAliciaH 25 күн бұрын

I’m currently learning this right now. You can help those who appreciate it, but some will still turn around and sabotage you. Be discerning and don’t lose yourself in the process.

@judithcartwright437 23 күн бұрын

I was giving too much of myself to others while leaving very little time for me.This was an eye opener

@jonnyaesthetic 12 күн бұрын

If you grew up with parents that suffered from NPD... this video is so important to us..

@joyedwardsbuzzbuzz 15 күн бұрын

Gratitude is key to your life. When a person has gratitude they are on a path with God.

@johnd3982 13 күн бұрын

Knowing who to help and who not to help is the advanced stoic approach

@The12Believe 27 күн бұрын

Absolutely!! You have to use knowledge instead of being an Emotional pin cushion! 💯

@user-kl9qn2iu1x 26 күн бұрын

Facts

@ahmedandalous2878 Ай бұрын

"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate." - Carl Jung

@carol-us4xn 18 күн бұрын

Helping others is a good thing, but it's not a great thing when one becomes entitled and ungrateful. Rude and uncouth behavior is not an acceptable method for cohabitation.

@marthachilekwa1114 27 күн бұрын

I enjoy and feel fulfilled when i help others, it's who i am and feeds my soul, i pray that as i take care of others may God help me in Jesus mighty name

@allthingseducation 26 күн бұрын

That is so self righteous and about you and not the person. You use your g-d as justification.

@amandakiernan3374 25 күн бұрын

Godbless you x

@allthingseducation 25 күн бұрын

@@amandakiernan3374 wow you are ignorant and I am blocking futher comments!!!!

@Joachim.Jacobs 24 күн бұрын

You also need to help yourself. You can't really help others if you are dying inside or getting worse as you're helping them. First help yourself then you can rightfully help others.

@donatelogithinji8784 19 күн бұрын

You never even listened to the video

@user-yp5gy8ed9l 29 күн бұрын

Helping people is not a choice for me. I dnt even chose who I help I'm led by the holy spirit and my purpose is to share the love and mercy of my father. I fear no weapons formed against me. You have to get disappointed every now and than to be reminded of what and who you are. I WAS, I AM. GOD is my salvation with him, nothing is impossible, let go of your owen mind set and let God led you, he will never fail you

@amandakiernan3374 25 күн бұрын

God bless you

@mac7775 26 күн бұрын

So true.!!! I love to work and when you work hard, resentment kicks in by those who like to sit around and do nothing. Working with these people I learned so much what not to be. These are all good words being said and acknowledge but I will always be a hard worker. It’s in my blood. My father worked hard and I learned from him. Plus my Good Father sees everything and He blesses me.💪🏽🤓

@BKLYNBOY38 25 күн бұрын

That sounds like me.

@suburbansteadsolutions 14 күн бұрын

Not always. When my husband caught dementia and walked out on me taking our only money with him, I was mentally devistated and my mother helped me for around 6 months until I got back my mind to get on my feet with. Now I've repayed her over half the money in just one month and I'll give her the rest very soon.

@RobertTursellino 28 күн бұрын

I agree with you one hundred percent.I experience what you are talking about from a lot I mean a lot of different people taking me for granted and the thing about it is they have not a kl ue what is actually happening between us Their attitude is Oh he don't mind he's a nice guy He loves helping people That what he was put on this earth to do He's such a nice guy That's how they think you can't over do they must pitch in and do a lot of it themselves Amen ❤😂 your shows are right on target God bless you all😂

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your experiences. It's important to find balance and recognize your own value. Blessings to you! ❤️

@donnetdukesamuels249 24 күн бұрын

W u right

@donnetdukesamuels249 24 күн бұрын

U right

@JamesBrown-xs7ox 5 күн бұрын

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU...

@rksingh2279 11 күн бұрын

Just excellent. Very true. Its that people understand this in life very early. Otherwise it will lead to resentment, frustration, mistrust, guilty. Finally to keep yourself happy, do not try to father, mother, husband or wife for anybody where its not required.

@Letschangetheworld216 28 күн бұрын

I use to help everyone,now I come first

@michellemarrs8080 28 күн бұрын

I feel like a fool. Although my intentions were good. Thank you

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

Your good intentions truly matter ♥ Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

@tracierondeau 7 күн бұрын

Been there

@shellylong2158 26 күн бұрын

I'm so glad my apprehensive friend helped with my mortgage last month...I got a new job finally making 6 figures. Both of us were Blessed when she decided to help me.

@user-dt3wm8rn4j 26 күн бұрын

Some want help and are selfish. Thinking about it. Boundaries. ❤ Resources ro point. Bye.

@audreystrachan9522 25 күн бұрын

I am the same give too much now I have diabetes, and vision impairment guess what my family hardly look after me

@vicenteescosa8940 15 күн бұрын

Thank you Sir very much for educational explanation regarding stoicism principles.

@lalsingh7612 28 күн бұрын

Highly valuable and meaningful contenrs. Thanks.

@sanchitapandeyofficial 24 күн бұрын

❤❤ informative video

@Andrew-ix4eo 25 күн бұрын

Amen thank you as always brother Solus Christus

@glendaanderson1119 28 күн бұрын

Exactly what my parents did with my siblings and I.

@serioussamurai86 28 күн бұрын

TRUE !!!

@conradreyes5391 29 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing this video.

@LloydMajor 24 күн бұрын

I found this to be very true! Thank you for the class.

@Exposure2013 25 күн бұрын

Listing and learning to say no is key for growth in family and associate relationships a balance is key

@abdelilahbenahmed4350 14 күн бұрын

Yes excessive sacrifice is unsustainable in the long term.

@barbarathomas4645 19 күн бұрын

THANK YOU VERY MUCH ! ❤ BRILLIANT ADVICE !? 📖👑🙏

@ravetalks6834 12 күн бұрын

Wowwww... Much needed

@user-ri6vy7wp4b 7 күн бұрын

Wonderful thank you very much ❤

@marye5109 24 күн бұрын

Meaningful is the word

@Rexag 24 күн бұрын

Yep, watch out for the narcissist that intends bad results and when you see it, call it out, then it becomes they did this out of love and caring for some lame reason, stay with intuition... you know their true intention and you caught them. It's not caring about you.

@gricosandrinotereno2960 24 күн бұрын

Help others without expecting something in return.,

@julieverma1865 28 күн бұрын

Thank you

@venabanveloso886 29 күн бұрын

Thank U

@Tony-yw4ns 24 күн бұрын

Thank you this realy can help navigate through the minefield of life😊

@khinwinthet3299 16 күн бұрын

Thank you. I learn a Lot.

@nyakatoviolet860 14 күн бұрын

It's priceless wisdom ♥️

@FidelisIshiwu 8 күн бұрын

Thanks

@sanjanewmoonlife 12 күн бұрын

We must help each others , don't spend all your life helping others all the time , think about your life.

@annalewis3356 4 күн бұрын

I love to help others idc what others say if in my heart I know they are needy I help with all my heart and children need help and guidence we help them by encouraging that we love them by providing things they need. I teach my children to have charity in their heart and care others.

@geraldineyoung1364 28 күн бұрын

Thank you for your wisdom 😮

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

You’re very welcome! 😊

@LloydMajor 24 күн бұрын

Very wise!

@kyeishabrown 26 күн бұрын

A blessing that what my Dad did to myself n my siblings to I pray in Jesus name Amen❤️🙏🙌

@stonepaintertim 28 күн бұрын

great perspective to clear the confused mind

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

Thank you! Glad it could offer some clarity.

@KevinSpeller-ny7gk Ай бұрын

🤔🤔🤔I understand... Very interesting.😏

@neidiawilliams8344 28 күн бұрын

Facts 👌 ❤❤

@peterandrews4418 25 күн бұрын

Having compassion for others is a natural way but kindness is dangerous and patronising

@georgepatton5247 29 күн бұрын

Very insightful👍👍👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

Thanks so much! Really glad you found it insightful😊

@soniacochrane1288 27 күн бұрын

I tend to agree with you right now.

@melissazoubek6275 7 күн бұрын

No good deed goes unpunished.

@julieverma1865 28 күн бұрын

But I am a person who will always help others

@stephaniemillsaps3626 27 күн бұрын

LOVE 🙏🙏🙏

@kofiattakora4179 28 күн бұрын

Great video

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

Thank you :)

@clarkdavis5333 5 күн бұрын

No good deed goes unpunished...

@MrSnow-dx1pr 21 күн бұрын

I helped a friend pay her rent and never got anything back, but excuses and it put me in a bad financial situation.

@OSTARAEB4 10 күн бұрын

@MrSnow, I helped a female friend out financially and she went AWOL. I didn’t listen to my gut instinct and her mask fell and shattered. I’m angry at how I was used and believe she’s done this to many people. She’s a manipulative user and was never a friend. It’s exposed how ugly she truly is.

@azukaabrahamnduka5242 26 күн бұрын

Facts

@PrietyGoforever 25 күн бұрын

I will always help😢

@Rexag 25 күн бұрын

Yep, I circled the grammar mistakes without correcting, you want points, figure it out, correct it and you will have learned that mistake.

@annamarcelitashakil1738 27 күн бұрын

I helped alot but humans others are abusived n manipulator specially when they all gang up on you - you cannot help or give anyone you do'nt have... help self first - my opinion

@ElizabethArellano-pi9nq 24 күн бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤

@user-wh5mr4tr8u 26 күн бұрын

I have been damaged and destroyed by some idiots painting a picture of helping me when they abuse their power to destroy my live and my child's live

@moniquemcbean1855 28 күн бұрын

❤amen❤

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

Thanks for your kind words! I'm really glad you found it helpful😊

@sovereignbeing7931 12 күн бұрын

This all will be true if all the circumstances faced by people are natural. We can’t have powers that be /man made problems yet expecting everyone to be able to stand on their own. I understand since the issue already exists we should all strive to do and be better but in reality other people do not want to see other people doing well. Jealousy, hate, unfairness, pure evil, spiritual wickedness are all contributing factors….

@user-wq6dq7ge2x 25 күн бұрын

Love This Wisdom ❤

@yasminekhalida2536 27 күн бұрын

Do not help a child in school home work,obstacle in personal development,lack of confidence,if attached always corrects always a student mistakes,it will spoil his confidence,encourage people to develop their own personalities by their mistakes,learn by your own mistakes,freedom and respect of individuality,to face the consequences of one's actions,each individual has his own path,decisions,kindness for others,excessive sacrifice,negative consequences,self management,a healthy balance,mutual support,use of wisdom in excessive sacrifice,escape from personal problems,take care of your own life,healthy boundaries in relations,emotionally and physically,positive intentions do not always bring positive results,support and guidance are essential for growth but excess of everything is bad,learn from mistakes for conscious understanding of oneself.

@rebeccaxodonq7893 14 күн бұрын

❤

@lenkabahdia5661 13 күн бұрын

Therefore we deny God in us- was time it was not business to helping eachothers but naturell and who not helped was criminal- today it is oposite, We got be more and more corrupt and not human. We are here for us!!!

@myrahouse2368 13 күн бұрын

I help others often I don’t ever ask for help though 🤣 I don’t need to.

@joyedwardsbuzzbuzz 16 күн бұрын

God help us.

@lindabalent2755 11 күн бұрын

Their selfishness grows many excuses. Amen.

@AnaSilva-to1sy Ай бұрын

1 Peter 4:8 and 9 Above all things have fervent love for one another, for love will cover a multitude of sins. Be hospitable to one another without grumbling, (grumbling - complaining)

@justinhoward514 21 күн бұрын

No kidding. If I had of known then what I know now

@littlemissy8356 12 күн бұрын

This is not right. Everyone needs help, and selecting the right person to help is correct. What kind of a world would it be if no one cared about each other. Sometimes everyone needs help. The point is to be discerning about who you help.

@karinhare2271 25 күн бұрын

Many help.others for selfish gains.

@Lee-fb4oj 5 күн бұрын

You help people when they ask for help. You also help people to save their life. Helping is the same as teaching. This post is trying to separate the two.

@ritaceron7329 29 күн бұрын

More likes & subscribe 🙌🏽🙌🏿🤗

@ModernStoic_YT 28 күн бұрын

Thank you for the support 🙌 ♥

@kingcapricornio1193 14 күн бұрын

🫀🙏❤️‍🔥

@MahAnnie2729 25 күн бұрын

Cringing as I listen to this. Guilty of over control. God forgive me.

@stevesteve7162 9 күн бұрын

Being good person in this evil world will destroy you. Lil selfish / saves you

@lindabalent2755 11 күн бұрын

This is for anti-Humanitarians, anti-Jesus teaching (the real ones), the lack of people working together toward important goals. Most of this is for those already swinging toward their own anti=humanitarianism.

@angelbaybee3700 9 күн бұрын

God Squad is pretty offended rage on martyrs why would they completely missed the point

@Michael-uy2bh 12 күн бұрын

I don't care to help others 1 because I don't know how and 2 I believe everyone is responsible for their own life the weak shall perish and the strong will survive, I will not intervene in the universes work

@lindabalent2755 11 күн бұрын

Noen survive this world.

@stevesteve7162 9 күн бұрын

Do helping ppl is stupid. You don't get it back lol

@tracierondeau 7 күн бұрын

Maybe not from them but what goes around comes around

@soulhealingquotes 23 күн бұрын

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.. I m your new friend.Let's grow together.