The Dark Side of Helping Others | 13 Surprising Ways It Can Harm You

The Dark Side of Helping Others | 13 Surprising Ways It Can Harm You | Buddhist Zen Story

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Title: ''The Dark Side of Helping Others | 13 Surprising Ways It Can Harm You | Buddhist Zen Story''
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"Explore the hidden risks of helping others in this eye-opening video. From compassion fatigue to neglecting personal needs, learn how to navigate the complexities of altruism while preserving your own well-being. Watch now to discover essential strategies for sustainable and meaningful assistance."
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Timestamps:
00:00✅Introductory quote of Gautama Buddha
01:06✅[Number 1: The Martyr Syndrome]
03:01✅[Number 2: Dependency Issues]
05:08✅[Number 3: Emotional Drain]
07:21✅[Number 4: Enabling Destructive Behavior]
09:14✅[Number 5: Loss of Identity]
11:27✅[Number 6: Financial Strain]
13:33✅[Number 7: Neglecting Personal Needs]
15:47✅[Number 8: Resentment and Bitterness]
18:12✅[Number 9: Impact on Relationships]
20:39✅[Number 10: Compassion Fatigue]
23:12✅[Number 11: Unrealistic Expectations]
25:31✅[Number 12: Self-Neglect]
27:35✅[Number 13: Overlooking Red Flags]
30:15✅Conclusion
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@BuddhismHub 11 күн бұрын

Timestamps: 00:00✅Introductory quote of Gautama Buddha 01:06✅[Number 1: The Martyr Syndrome] 03:01✅[Number 2: Dependency Issues] 05:08✅[Number 3: Emotional Drain] 07:21✅[Number 4: Enabling Destructive Behavior] 09:14✅[Number 5: Loss of Identity] 11:27✅[Number 6: Financial Strain] 13:33✅[Number 7: Neglecting Personal Needs] 15:47✅[Number 8: Resentment and Bitterness] 18:12✅[Number 9: Impact on Relationships] 20:39✅[Number 10: Compassion Fatigue] 23:12✅[Number 11: Unrealistic Expectations] 25:31✅[Number 12: Self-Neglect] 27:35✅[Number 13: Overlooking Red Flags] 30:15✅Conclusion

@DavidSaupe-tm4cf Күн бұрын

Galatians 6:9 And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.

@adoa77 22 сағат бұрын

Lots of repetitive sequences and bizarre spellings. Why? The message is clear, good and pretty much needed, though. Thank you

@jimsullivanyoutube 20 сағат бұрын

It appears to be A.I.@@adoa77

@MeenAk. 2 күн бұрын

I found this channel a little late. 20yrs I have been working hard for my family and relatives.. Now every one is well settled and I am left out all alone with nothing. I am working on myself and my business. Thank you God for all the life lessons😌🙏🙏

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

Welcome aboard! ❤️🙏

@gracious8796 2 күн бұрын

Same here!😢

@leehartlee2970 Күн бұрын

Ask for help from the people who you have helped! I know... crickets.

@violetaclaudiabratu4 Күн бұрын

Yes is very common this ,same here ,but I forgive those family members,I pray for them one day realize what they done and become better persons for a future ❤

@arlenenavarro716 Күн бұрын

Same here

@ladywhite79 3 күн бұрын

Never pour from an empty cup. Make sure your cup is full first, whatever overflows, that you can donate to others. Your life is precious. You were not born to sacrifice your life for another to thrive.

@BuddhismHub 3 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@Subarna-pr9dh 3 күн бұрын

Well said.Reality should not be ignored

@lishamonique Күн бұрын

❤❤❤❤

@minimars3696 Күн бұрын

I wrote these wise and beautiful words in my diary! Very grateful for this comment. I learned through my experience that helping others while you are also in need of help is a very bad idea.

@georgiafrancis9059 Күн бұрын

it's the same principle as "put on you own oxygen mask first'.......you can't halp anyone if you don't .......think about it...

@dialmstyle 4 күн бұрын

I had learned these lessons once I understood that I was brought up to be a people pleaser. Now I prioritize me. There’s no other way.

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@sasachiminesh1204 Күн бұрын

spoken like a true narcissist. good thing for you that your parents did not do that.

@brucecampbell6578 Күн бұрын

@@sasachiminesh1204 Seems a bit extreme. We are in charge of our own minds and hearts. I surmise that our empathy is the source of all of our wisdom. But the path of our own heart is perilous in the face of our ignorance. I say charity starts at home. With ourself. So we may act with equanimity and kindness. Is Buddhism about selflessness or selfishness or is it about both? This presentation would show correlation between Buddhism and Stoicism. To become a trained people pleaser has an up side and down side and this information is very helpful. If we find ourselves begrudging our own kindness then it is a sign of our own disease. The answer is not in self flagellation.

@pure_2xhelix Күн бұрын

Haha stupid ignorant people

@charlesshidler7792 17 сағат бұрын

Where is your Purpose now? Does selfishness bring Happiness? Truly?

@dazzleokpo3825 4 күн бұрын

There is no greater joy than the feeling I get helping people in need without expecting any praise or anything in return. The more I have given, the more I have been blessed.

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

God Bless You

@alisasali3064 3 күн бұрын

True. Same thinking ❤

@mabletugume7471 2 күн бұрын

God bless you more. We blessed to bless others

@user-nt8ve3cy8d 2 күн бұрын

Same here, I can’t afford not to help if the person or people needs my help.

@ingegerdtheresesorrell338 2 күн бұрын

Of course if only yourself involved. But when you start having children, you have to put your husband/ wife and children first, never give on their expense, many times it is the ego giving and the ego does not have the wisdom from some who really needs help from someone greedy who only want to take take from an other without caring at all about the others loss.

@SofieLove Күн бұрын

I wish I had learned these lessons a long time ago. I’m finally saving myself; at 49! There are people in this world whose sole objective is to be parasitic. They see others like myself as a host to prey on. I hope this video goes viral.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

Thank You ❤️🙏

@abentekelly9387 13 сағат бұрын

Me too

@ShoukatAli-jr5zj 7 күн бұрын

This is a very valuable advice. I wish I had heard this 50 years ago. I have sacrificed my own life and that of my family by overhelping others and neglecting my own family. I am going to change my way of thinking and acting. Thank you for opening my eyes and mind to the realities of life.

@BuddhismHub 7 күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@thearcherofjustice1492 7 күн бұрын

Me too 😓 and I only received trouble trouble trouble betrayal etc etc. We cannot go back in time to erase and correct our mistakes but from now on I can only help my own self and my adult Sons and grandchildren, to the extent of what is possible and coherent. Also stop feeling guilty and angry at myself (easier said than done), 30 - 40 years ago we couldn't know what we know today. We evolved and have so much more experience and a clearer vision.

@Ferrys1220 6 күн бұрын

Story of my life 😢😊

@lanasurisuricorina2865 6 күн бұрын

This is my life 50 years ago thank you for sharing this... God bless🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@annamarcelitashakil1738 6 күн бұрын

Relate much❤

@zorlitazorlita2654 2 күн бұрын

I couldn't agree more. Never again will I put others ' needs before mine. I was drained financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually. I can't rely on people whom I had helped. They never learned from our past, instead kept doing same thing over and over. 😢

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@gracious8796 2 күн бұрын

Same too😢

@starseed1014 12 сағат бұрын

Right? I give and give and when I ask for one little thing...crickets

@sugarfree1894 Күн бұрын

I think the darkest side of helping others is when we do so in order to gain some kind of egoistic value for ourselves, especially when we don't realize we're doing it for that reason.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@buddhaexhumed9922 2 сағат бұрын

If you are a Buddhist you might be interested with what I have to say. This is sort of out of topic here. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you.

@queenthompson526 4 күн бұрын

We still need to help each other we just need to take care of yourself more

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

right

@sasachiminesh1204 Күн бұрын

i see someone can think for themselves. good for you.

@nicolajackson1107 Күн бұрын

Well said

@rdartsandcollections1021 16 сағат бұрын

This is the right thing.

@starseed1014 12 сағат бұрын

Have to learn to say no

@mahbuburrahman8990 2 күн бұрын

So valuable message that the sufferer only can understand. I did almost everything for my brothers and sisters for last more than 30 years , now they do all conspiracies against me as I am not able to support them anymore.

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@rongair8699 Күн бұрын

Yes only the sufferer can understand . But you are not the 1st nor the last. Always good to understand.

@sstritmatter2158 6 күн бұрын

Just two nights ago from me viewing this- I was at a gas station at night. Out of nowhere a woman called to me and asked for a ride downtown. Her friend abandoned her there. She was older, not very mobile. I was hesitant because what if she has bed bugs and so on, not to be mean but reality. I thought about Uber but ultimately took her. She was hungry, so we wnt to McDonald’s - that was $11. I thought alright, did a decent deed. Then she asks me to spare her $20 - CRIPES she has not problem asking for things does she? I don’t do cash and shut that down, ut told her were to get supplemental food for free and a free hot lunch everyday. So - yes SET BOUNDARIES because many don’t and have no problem moving your boundaries to their advantage. Don’t feel bad, you work hard for your money at least I do so don’t forget to be charitable to yourself.

@BuddhismHub 6 күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@hasinahmasud3808 5 күн бұрын

You did more than you should have. I help people but I don’t give rides to anyone it’s not safe. Because sometimes the bad people send other people to you. I am glad that was not this case.🙏❤️. What I found out too is use your intuition when you are helping someone if it doesn’t feel right don’t do it.

@ThiNguyen-ni7ye 5 күн бұрын

You will be rewarded as you did a good karma. Your good air is like a boomerang it will bounce back to you. I know even your family members try to exploit you too.

@Titian328 3 күн бұрын

Dangerous to let anyone in your car, give rides to someone you don’t know. They can accuse you of anything, then it’s their word against yours.

@hasinahmasud3808 3 күн бұрын

@@Titian328 That’s very true what you wrote. Even people can put their children up to lie on you. So I don’t give people rides and I don’t babysit peoples children. I see all the horror stories in the news one must protect themselves and that means setting boundaries.

@user-nh3rf2ff6c 2 күн бұрын

This is exactly 💯 talking about my life journey. In the end "it was never appreciated". I am now learning, to pour the love into myself. And I am also, learning to say NO. .. at certain times. I still, help whenever I can. But, not as I use to in the past. Cos' it made me neglect my own personal needs, and goals for years. Unfortunately, growing up in the wrong religion made me believe I need to sacrifice my own happiness to make others happy.😢

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@tari3536 4 күн бұрын

Oops it's ME after I stopped nobody talking to me now but it's okay... thank you for this video.

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

Most welcome ❤️🙏

@thelmaluna9981 16 сағат бұрын

Exactly! It’s sad. It happened to me too.

@user-ds5jm4tw6u 7 күн бұрын

Read many years ago to never interfere with another person´s karma, has not forgotten.

@BuddhismHub 7 күн бұрын

🙏🙏❤️

@estherbaettig 6 күн бұрын

Agree. Helping someone might interfere with their karma (what many might not understand).

@hasinahmasud3808 5 күн бұрын

@@BuddhismHub If the person doesn’t share your religious beliefs they don’t understand thats true. However Others have their own religious beliefs and they should be respected just as well as your own religious beliefs. I was renting an apartment from a Buddhist owner. I paid my rent on time. However my lease stipulated a screen for my upstairs balcony door. For 10 months every time I went in to pay the rent I asked and the manager always told me the same thing they had to order one. Fast forward people who moved into apartments that didn’t have screen on their balcony doors they were given one. However all they were doing from me was collecting money. The air conditioner was blowing in dust and had a moldy stinky odor. I went out myself and bought filters for the air conditioner yet it didn’t help much because the system needed professional cleaning. I ended up having to break the lease after 10 months there it was a 12 month lease because I was getting sick from breathing the stuff coming in I got so sick I couldn’t leave my apartment for two months. I live in a hot climate area. After I moved they accused me of breaking the lease. In the Buddhists belief because I moved out I should receive a bad karma?? Then what should the landlord and his rental off receive according to karma? I think they broke the lease by not giving me what I was paying for but collecting my money and jeopardizing my health. Mark you I had a small dog that was healthy and when I moved there he got sick and died he was only 5 years old. I think he died from breathing in the stuff that was coming out that made me sick also. Two of my neighbors in two separate apartments in the building we were in only 3 units someone died from each apartment causing their family members to move out. Also the first two months I was there I couldn’t cook because they had a horrible cock roach infestation I had to buy the stuff to kill the bugs before I could cook it was full of babies. Aren’t Buddhists taught to treat people right since they believe in karma?? Or do they believe it’s ok because karma will only go to the no. Buddhists. That was the worst place I ever lived. The owner was a greedy man who just wanted money.

@lishamonique Күн бұрын

Agree

@lokkich487 Күн бұрын

Ture. I prayed sincerely for a child stricken with leukemia. She is my student. I prayed every day. A year later, she survived, and my daughter committed suicide. I saved a life by sacrificing my own.

@mattyice_13 Күн бұрын

went from helping my dad who passed last year from Parkinson’s/dementia for 7 years while working construction was A LOT. I am still tired .I had NO help from anybody. “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” more like “what doesn’t kill you depletes ur brain of every chemical it needs to function properly. God Bless anyone going through this I pray for you I really do and send nothing but positive vibes✌🏼✨✨✨🌍👁️🙏 LOVE

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@kimyoung3484 6 сағат бұрын

❤️🙏♥️

@tibetemchigmbhtibetmedizin4160 3 күн бұрын

I myself come from Tibetan Buddhist culture and there we say that helping other should come from your deepest hearth and dedication, without expectation and with a positive motivation and wath the result will be, is not in your hand. My personal meaning is, that In now time the peopel who asked allways something from others without respecting the Donners resource, should learn more them self to set the boundary , then the helpers, whos motivation is to help in “need”. I supported a medical project 15 years in Tibet and I do not regret one day of it to have done, even it was not always easy. I see it as my karmic diuty to help others. 🙏

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@user-gg2zw3mc2l Күн бұрын

Your way is THE way. Thank you.

@clownclownian4247 14 сағат бұрын

Damn nothing but the honest truth I spent my entire life helping others,sending money to people, buying stuff including air tickets 🎫 to family members etc. Until one day,I realized that there was no water in my house and I can no longer use my bathroom and no body cared because all they needed is financial support. And when I decided to say enough is enough,I became the greatest enemy of the people including my own family members no one talks to me anymore and no one calls me or sends messages just to find out how I’m doing. Thank you for this information I rather stick to my grounds and say no.

@BuddhismHub 10 сағат бұрын

❤️🙏

@ovelianaidoo7973 6 күн бұрын

I wish I had known this earlier I did a lot but got no gratitude 😢

@BuddhismHub 6 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@kimyoung3484 6 сағат бұрын

❤🙏

@bettynish6284 3 күн бұрын

This is true, I have learnt not to be good to people, they end up using you.

@BuddhismHub 3 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@susanthepowerseller Күн бұрын

Don't be afraid to reach out when you have the resources, and someone is truly in need. The reason people behave badly is because they themselves were treated badly. This starts a cycle of using. Break the cycle...give what you can afford to lose, but refuse to distrust everyone. Otherwise, you will become a dark, grasping selfish person who only looks out for themselves...and that's what was done to you. Jesus says that He will repay your good deeds, if you are in relationship with Him. But knowing that, it's not a good deed to enable users. So keep your heart guarded, but open. Look for true people, who truly need help. And believe their is still good in the world.

@rosebandola772 3 күн бұрын

Choose people to help. Know them and their story. Period

@valarieford1778 2 күн бұрын

If you dont help anyone in lufe when you are down no one will be there. When I help people it comes back. Every one needs someone.

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@SofieLove Күн бұрын

When I help people, more show up until I’m emotionally, financially, spiritually, energetically, and physically depleted. It’s not worth it. There is a reason why they say that no good dead goes unpunished.

@oklahomaisok Күн бұрын

Some people can be helped. Others become dependent with an entitled attitude not wanting to help themselves. We would do well to identify each person that we help and if they seem to want to become dependent it’s time to move on. Learned this after helping some family members for a long period of time. And it reflects what is happening in my city with an ever-growing number of transients and homeless. Some can be helped. Others want handouts without any obligation to take responsibility and help themselves. They are professional moochers who are leaching off of society.

@rosebronikowski2022 Күн бұрын

Not necessarily true. Have had the opposite experience.

@angelmabudusha9034 Күн бұрын

I think it depends on the situation, some people truly need help and they are really desperate. In such situations i will always help❤

@jodelario8713 3 сағат бұрын

The more I give, the more I receive. Thank you God for 😮your blessings on me.

@BuddhismHub 3 сағат бұрын

Wonderful! ❤️🙏

@michaelpowers2339 Күн бұрын

All of life is AN EXCHANGE. I cannot help anyone without expecting reciprocation. That's how I take care of myself. If there's no exchange, I send them on their way.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@rebeccamalicsi4470 4 күн бұрын

Learned a lot from here. Now I need to take care of myself and recognize my limitations. Need to relax

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

yes, need to relax

@lightworker5720 20 сағат бұрын

I wish 30 years ago, i heard this video, but its not too late i think to learned all what is being said in this contents, opened up my eyes, ohh well, i will love and care for myself FIRST before others...thank you CREATOR OF THIS VIDEO..MORE POWER TO THIS CHANNEL ❤❤❤❤

@BuddhismHub 19 сағат бұрын

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@sophiapetros7602 11 сағат бұрын

It gives me Great Joy to say ‘NO’ to everyone. I have learned many lessons from suffering and Just like I can find a way; they too can learn/help themselves.

@BuddhismHub 10 сағат бұрын

Thank You ❤️🙏

@darrenfoster5341 23 сағат бұрын

Me too been helping others my whole life and putting them first. Got me surrounded and manipulated by narcissists for last 8 ish years. I’m learning my lesson.

@BuddhismHub 19 сағат бұрын

🙏❤️

@infinity5968 2 күн бұрын

Very true, it happened to me, between a demanding boss and an ungrateful partner. Protect yourself, learn to say NO.

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

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@masterprophet8378 Күн бұрын

High wisdom! As a former victim of extreme altruism, I know the pain of that path. Love yourself!

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

❤️🙏

@susanthepowerseller Күн бұрын

Exactly, love your neighbor as yourself, but you can't do that if you don't love you. Light and blessings.

@sakurabrent1242 Күн бұрын

I go by the "good samaritan", meaning i help anyone who needs my help but i also go by "Give man a fish, but teach him how to fish." - this is what my family and teachers taught me growing up, in that way the one helping "his/her kindness" won't get abused by oppurtunist. ✌️

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@mademoisellerose727 12 сағат бұрын

If u can, help others... hidden luck will come to u. U think nobody knows your kindness.. but the truth is the universe knows your kindness and give it back to u using the same ways that u expect or different ways that u never expect

@BuddhismHub 10 сағат бұрын

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@kimyoung3484 6 сағат бұрын

❤❤❤

@user-fn8kc2ug3s 2 күн бұрын

Here in the west unfortunately people see kindness as weakness

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@Naturelife-ph3oi Күн бұрын

That’s called selfishness 😊, Ifeel happy when I help others and prioritize others.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@susanthepowerseller Күн бұрын

Amen. In an attempt to balance the universe, some people close their abused hearts to ever caring. Love with an open, but guarded heart. Thanks for sharing!

@MySpace662 6 сағат бұрын

Jesus was a Buddhist monk, and his teachings was to help others and to show compassion.

@BuddhismHub 3 сағат бұрын

❤️🙏

@JC-hf3sd Күн бұрын

My aunt eventually died of cancer (2nd time), Chinese saying help only for emergency but not poor is always correct!

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

🙏❤️

@dr.b.pradeep6027 Күн бұрын

On my spiritual path I learnt the hard way I was totally immmobilised,overdependence, exploitation, loss of money, materials and so on! Well it was easy after that, setting the boundaries of taking responsibility for others within my physical mental money and other powers! Then it became total joy to go on the path and believe me the strength started increasing and also to tolerate the repercussions and let downs expected & unexpected! Thank you!

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

Most welcome ❤️🙏

@devarajn8744 19 сағат бұрын

I thought i was a fool who went out of her way to help others. Glad to see that i was not the only one!!! Some consolation

@BuddhismHub 19 сағат бұрын

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@TomyD1321 Күн бұрын

I completely agree !!! I love helping family members, friends and strangers but I ended up being hated by all of the ones I helped. I borrowed money to my family and friends, they never paid me back and they never call me either. Same with friends . Its even the same with my own kids.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@KA-ub4rc 2 күн бұрын

I realised froends ahd relatives was crossing the lines with not considering my time and valuing me, so i stopped being rhe kind person who they used to use. I wss a people pleaser but not anymore, i see the truth how selfish people can be demanding kind people to run thin for them with no compassion.

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

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@sherryBLUE735 Күн бұрын

Being selfish is not a good thing. It helps our world when we care about others.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@bell1435 5 сағат бұрын

Helping others constantly (specially economically) gets you their hatred because your help is telling them in a masked way “you can’t, you’re useless, you are hopeless”. Period.

@BuddhismHub 3 сағат бұрын

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@chinuchyan4040 7 күн бұрын

By helping others one may think himself or herself Savior, if we genuinely wanna help someone it's always better without disclosing identity, so the one who receive doesn't feel burden and the one who render help don't inflate Ego. Another -ve aspect I have learned myself is, though one helps hundreds of times if says NO once even for some valid reason, the one who expects help is likely to bad mouth or feel bitterness. So, it's always be prepared to face such -ve judgements.

@BuddhismHub 7 күн бұрын

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@hasinahmasud3808 5 күн бұрын

You said it right one may think that they are their savior. If someone is going to help someone they should not be thinking such things or expecting anything in return it should be done without any strings attached. Even if they don’t appreciate it the person should not feel bad because it was not done for a reaction from them it was done out of the goodness of their heart. Most people are unappreciative anyhow. So keep your giving coming from a pure heart expecting nothing from them in return.

@Lighthouse_Wisdom 2 күн бұрын

Your life is your message to the world. Make sure it’s inspiring.

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

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@happybaby3817 2 күн бұрын

Give help to another one day unexpected u receive help, it's nature. I always seek to that persons who is needy , after help to them I have feel joy.

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

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@susanthepowerseller Күн бұрын

Yes! Give and it shall be given to you, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. Light and blessings!

@user-fn8kc2ug3s 2 күн бұрын

💯 correct protect your own wellbeing

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@MANOHARANVNNAIR-sb1dr Күн бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤yes you are right. I can't see it such people who are crying for food shelter and cruelty of their own blood relatives. Thanks you so much for your great advice.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@patriciagonzalez6903 Күн бұрын

These lessons are a practical manual for life. Wise advice to practice daily and live better while helping others. Thank you!

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

You are so welcome!

@andrearenee7845 3 күн бұрын

The advice is priceless. Thank you.

@BuddhismHub 3 күн бұрын

You are so welcome!

@stellaercolani3810 23 сағат бұрын

This life is fleeting, eternal life is everything. One must suffer to be purified and that's not through selfishness.

@BuddhismHub 19 сағат бұрын

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@mariannetrepedino5386 4 күн бұрын

---- Releasing the Need for the Label "THE GIVER "-------as "THE GIVER " will attract "THE TAKER " Been there /done that ------learned the lesson ! The INTENTION is a Factor ------------

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

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@bawatabetando6902 7 күн бұрын

Glorify helping others( This is the Mother's Syndrom) is good. BUT YOU YOURSELF DESERVE YOUR LOVE AND COMFORT. AT THE LONG RUN DEPEDENCY LEADS TO INABILITY OF TAKING ON THEIR OWN RESPONSIBILITIES. WHEN WE TAKE ON THE EMOTIONAL REQUIREMENTS OF OTHERS, WE BECOME THE SCAPE GOATS( VICTIMS)

@veronicaelsegood5175 17 сағат бұрын

I've learnt the hard way. I wouldn't not help again but I'm alot more selective now and I have barriers to protect my space and personal wellbeing .

@BuddhismHub 15 сағат бұрын

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@simone222 2 сағат бұрын

Personally, I find peace and joy when I know I've been able to help others. However, genuine altruism is complex and diificult-it requires selflessness and often involves sacrifice. When I decide to help, I make sure I have the ability to do so, while also ensuring I reserve something for myself. Balancing my desire to assist others with my own well-being is essential for sustaining meaningful contributions while nurturing my own happiness and fulfillment.

@user-hm2gb6pm6b 8 күн бұрын

Loss of identity is the unresolving and never ending issue

@BuddhismHub 8 күн бұрын

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@Mamatha11100 7 сағат бұрын

From Khamoshi to Heeramandi I bet many things must have come and gone in Manisha's life but she is still same by giving humble smile to whoever she meets.☺️

@BuddhismHub 3 сағат бұрын

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@hayal1693 7 күн бұрын

Synchronized thoughts what a confirmation. I’m a student of this behavior 62 years vested. A lesson, very valuable one. So happy it fell , crushed , cried out for help. Yes I granted it help 6 months In I’m thank you for some guidance while it’s still dark , healing .to be marginalized a senior and a melanin female is so challenging, rewarding . Thank you, Thank you and thank you.

@BuddhismHub 7 күн бұрын

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@officience1 2 күн бұрын

This should be NOT buddism. Buts its a wise advice.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@TamaraSaad 3 күн бұрын

Right on point! I needed to hear that: If I heard this many years ago I would have judged this content, but now I know it is true! I have always overextended myself to help others because it was in my motherly nature to want to help and “save” everyone I can, until I was burned out and had nothing to give any longer. After years of giving, I found out I was depleted and questioned why I became a hub for “users”.. it was my giving nature and “Savior” mentality that not only created bunch of users sucking the life out of me, but the inability to give anything any longer! So this video came right on time as a reminder for us to teach others to help themselves rather than teaching them dependency on is! Teach them how to find food instead of feeding them. ❤

@BuddhismHub 3 күн бұрын

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@jonathanedmonds1315 11 сағат бұрын

Like charity, giving 10% of one's time to help others unconditionally I find to be a healthy amount to achieve balance

@BuddhismHub 10 сағат бұрын

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@amosnyirenda8960 10 сағат бұрын

It’s true every time I help someone I find myself alone or hurting my own feelings and mind

@BuddhismHub 10 сағат бұрын

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@Jsey816 3 күн бұрын

This message is definitely geared towards me, I always seem to be putting helping ppl over my self, but i just stop doing so, I'm doing me

@BuddhismHub 3 күн бұрын

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@nocomments5029 Күн бұрын

The correct thing is choosing the right person to help. The intent isn’t to have the person indebted to you but to make sure they aren’t some parasite that will latch on and suck you dry. The idea is to create a group system where people pour into your cup and you into theirs. Like the Buddhist heaven where people feed each other. But people are unpredictable and fickle, superficial. A good friend’s worth is weightier than gold.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@Jasonjbr 4 күн бұрын

My narcissistic mother shared this video to me and cynically thinks she's doing the right thing by taking away something that is supposed to be the necessary means to my prosperity in future by literally applying this portrayal to her own children 😢...... How ironic now Im having an unmotivated day

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

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@deeznutes4170 3 күн бұрын

Maybe your perception of the gesture is wrong. If she notices this shes probably saying (passively) I know I have a problem I can't help maybe this can

@juliefall2892 2 күн бұрын

Was sharing this to you , her justifying her not helping you?

@julie5668 7 күн бұрын

This can also happen in charities you have donated to. I feel really stressed by the pressure of continual letters asking for donations that often start at a 'suggested' sum of £19.00 and upwards of that amount. This makes me feel like anything less I donate is not enough, when I rarely get the chance to spend that amount on myself! We know the larger donation will enable them to do more. We don't need it spelt out to us. I often wonder if they sent fewer letters asking for donations ( and suggesting sums appropriate to their needs), they might get more, not less.

@BuddhismHub 7 күн бұрын

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@hasinahmasud3808 5 күн бұрын

You can always throw the letters away. That’s what I do because sometimes they are sending stuff out that you didn’t sign up for or promise to send them money.

@ms3707 4 сағат бұрын

Charities are the biggest scan, just don’t open the letters. If you want to donate give tins of food, clothes towels or blankets. Don’t give money. The government takes your money in taxes therefore you have given enough of your money away.

@silviacolaprete4231 Күн бұрын

Quanto sono contenta di avervi conosciuto!❤

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@rubegwajuvenal2147 22 сағат бұрын

Here we have many good comments. But I think that if we wait to get the surplus to be given to others for help, I am afraid that , at the end of the day, we will help nobody. In my view, any help needs sacrifice. And there is inner pleasure in helping. As for helping some people such as relatives expecting something in return, I am afraid that the risks of disappointment are too high. I can not even expect something from my children. I don't know whether, for example, they may not 'go' before me. Thank you.

@BuddhismHub 19 сағат бұрын

Most Welcome ❤️🙏

@mohanamuthukumar1001 3 күн бұрын

Yes I was negligent of my well being for 13 years rethinking of my brother and mother grow neglected my health and well being now I face health and mental depression why I was like that without 6th sense as they cheated me and did not let us develop financially. Now they forgot my sacrifice and mistreating.. if I had had good guru or any thingies this video I would have been good to me and my son .

@BuddhismHub 3 күн бұрын

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@brigitte1959 Күн бұрын

True words, thank you ❤❤❤

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@deliaocampo4340 6 сағат бұрын

I help but with boundaries think my self to be financially stable when I get old no worry about money not to regret in the end 🇵🇭🇺🇸

@BuddhismHub 3 сағат бұрын

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@user-ne2uw8ji7h 2 күн бұрын

We have a situation in my country where instead of people begging for food and shelter they beg for money for drug's.Nearly every supermarket and groceries shop has one or two. One goes another comes. We are known as givers and this is taken advantage of. All we're doing is keeping them in their addiction longer. It's gotten to a stage we're people don't like going shopping because of what they have to face every time , it's intimidating at times because they fight with eachother over the spot. It's worse because of crack cocaine their all using.✌️

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@bojanpopovicYNWA Күн бұрын

It's Horrible. What country are you from, If you don't mind me asking?

@Dragon34th Күн бұрын

Very good upload thank you. We all knew family can be a burden but we can't help helping them even though it drains us.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

Very true, Thank you❤️🙏

@Rin-le7cx 5 сағат бұрын

I helped someone when their house was damaged by storm. She never ask for my help. I was the one offered as she is in bad shape. That woman talked shit about me after. Never again.

@BuddhismHub 3 сағат бұрын

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@nikkinorman4254 Күн бұрын

Self-sacrifice is not self-love because you need yourself for the universe in the first place

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@joannrosevc Күн бұрын

🙏 Thank you 🙏

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

@lindab6974 Күн бұрын

I have gotten tripped up by the "ignoring red flags" part many times!

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@motivational_mouse 2 күн бұрын

Thank you 💛

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

You’re welcome 😊

@aatina333 2 күн бұрын

Very true. These were hard lessons I learnt from life.

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

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@RoshelleGritten-mq9fk Күн бұрын

Its me drained most of the time but in between a rock and that hard place ❤

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@haliec496 2 күн бұрын

I help nobody anymore apart from my 1 sibling, & customers in work because I'm paid to. Thats it. Lessons learned the v hard way.

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

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@user-fn8kc2ug3s Күн бұрын

Always look for the balance in life

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

Right ❤️🙏

@davidbawdy8183 Күн бұрын

I can tell no one here has experienced this. Just by their words alone..

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@krishnagondhea7428 2 сағат бұрын

Helping others has to come from a place of feeling healthy within. A certain degree of self love then you can help and love others when it feels right to you.

@dollmck8360 Күн бұрын

Wow I needed this advice today❤

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

So glad! ❤️

@user-ky6jh3ds9f 5 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing ❤

@BuddhismHub 5 күн бұрын

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@mohanamuthukumar1001 3 күн бұрын

Every individual should be enlightened by this video

@BuddhismHub 3 күн бұрын

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@archanachaturvedi6518 Күн бұрын

Unique thought

@ranichalupsky2827 4 күн бұрын

Save your soul, help others if you can , you will be blessed, Jesus Christ teaching ♦️🌺♦️🌺♦️

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

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@SofieLove Күн бұрын

He also said he’d be coming back with a sword. It’s been 2000 years. Where is he? How many more children need to die from war, neglect or malnutrition before he gets on his horse and return from the clouds?

@ranichalupsky2827 Күн бұрын

@@SofieLove it’s not Jesus Christ delaying the coming its humans, every mouth should proclaim Jesus is lord, people who don’t worship God , they end up worshiping Devil, by getting drunk and drugs, so many sinful things, meaning they want Satan to rule the earth, for now Satan is the god of this earth 🙏💐

@jenmoore5571 4 күн бұрын

I hear you, this has helped me, Thankyou 😊

@BuddhismHub 4 күн бұрын

Most welcome ❤️🙏

@abdelilahbenahmed4350 Күн бұрын

Yes, we can't pour from an empty cup.❤

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@user-zu5tv7zt6v 2 сағат бұрын

Just realize if you are doing it for a good feeling, you are doing it for yourself, for ego. Worse, if you enable others and prevent them from growing as a consequence.

@5canwalk Күн бұрын

Super sensible🎉❤

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

Thank You ❤️

@openbuddhistforuminternational Күн бұрын

Incredibly good advice , congratulations . 🥰 Very much in accordance 😇with contemporary psychology .

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

Thank you so much! ❤️

@berlecsinnappan1367 7 күн бұрын

Execellent advice

@BuddhismHub 7 күн бұрын

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@joansheekey476 6 күн бұрын

I help all my family I’m there every time I relly die coulent do nothing different I love them I no yur right about arexselfs we need time I get that it’s so sad when yur son needs yu in his mentel health it’s all I no relky. He’s getting better now. Hope it keeps up god gelid me get tree this I pray every day ❤

@BuddhismHub 6 күн бұрын

God Bless You ❤

@timamans3371 5 күн бұрын

Absolutely 💯 right

@BuddhismHub 5 күн бұрын

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@stoichr3324 14 сағат бұрын

This is all true. I'm an enabler_empath. I robbed off people's independance and potential growth by selflessly helping them 😢. It led me to burnout.

@BuddhismHub 10 сағат бұрын

Thank You 🙏

@NoiRosales Күн бұрын

Correct ❤❤❤

@BuddhismHub Күн бұрын

take love❤️🙏

@OluAbimbola 2 күн бұрын

This is very helpful thanks

@BuddhismHub 2 күн бұрын

most welcome

@rongair8699 Күн бұрын

Helping is a silent call within one's soul, making it one's mission . Helping others doesn't guarantee equal treatment should the situation be reversed., due the necessity to always prioritize your safety 1st. In order to be a true helper, one needs to be a perfect self caretaker

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