Absolutely sumaya..!!

Yes! This description totally describes me 😨. I've been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and Post Traumatic Stess Disorder but before the diagnoses I was just like their description. I am working on making changes in my life through self awareness and this video has been a great help.

True it is painful but once you accept that you are all alone in this world, there comes a moment of blessing and joy :)

Yeah sometimes I wonder if i met another like me would freindship work? Or would it be the same

Trueeeeeee

Ah... If only it were that simple. Think of the J as exceptionally good at reading body language and microexpressions. For INFJ that is similar to hearing tone of voice. It's just there.

Yes,Yes,&Yes Found love For forty years She's in Heaven Where is today? never mind tomorrow?

Judgement is a necessary survival mechanism as much as sight. We find it difficult if not impossible to accept others delusions. No matter how much they have a Right to them.

Then I will have to live alone and that is my fate

@eve You have reached INFJ nirvana. To accept that people will never change and you're fine with it will give you peace. You can do it without compromising your convictions and character.

Same struggle with my infj pers

Or maybe just two people that have this personality type for commenting like myself

🤓😂 ....15,000 comments of rare introverts busting out their truths....(actually it's the only place I can truly 'speak' confidently, I'd totally avoid the situation in real life).

@@djeyeskold1279 lmfao (trump's voice) so true... so true...

If you are an INFJ, it isn't great being rare, and the true INFJs know it's both a blessing and a curse on so many levels.

It's irritating. Everyone thinks they are rare.

I agree with you. My problem with friends is that because I am kind, people want me to take care of them. My ex-husband's psychiatrist told me that I only owe my children my time and attention. If I give anything to anyone else it is a gift. If anyone else gives me anything else, its their gift to me. simple and clear

I finally learned to like myself by age 43 or so.

This popped up on my feed. I had no idea what infj even was before today but I’ve been on this journey to find and figure myself out. Literally everything said in this video I’ve experienced. It’s as if KZfaq knew what I needed. Thank u God cause I’m one step closer. I just want undying self love and to learn how to manage being in my head all the damn time lol

@@rosannedoyle1262 Wow! That's really insightful.

I totally agree. I love talking and possibly make friends, but the ones I’ve try to befriend who actually were interested in befriending me first I had to let go. The intentions weren’t what they tricked me to be. It’s like they were envious of me after I would just empathize with them about my life & experiences. Like they wanted every single thing I had or wanted my job, literally everything that interested me they would try to make it theirs. Like I was giving my life away, so I’m very quick to cut ppl off and be ok with it because I know me. I know what I want. I know what energy I want to surround myself with. I love so much, but I do not play about my time and energy

True

Factssss

Iara enricoso, that is so true. we help others, but when we need help , there is no one there. We have to help ourselves and that is what i used to hate most about friends or people. But over the years, I have learnt that people actually want to help us , its just that we push them away. Because we always pride ourself in being in control. When i understood this principal, i learnt to embrace the help that people wanted to give me. Wasn't easy at first. I still feel a loss of control but is only in the mind. They felt happy to help me as i accepted their help as i have helped them as well.

Lol same goes to me.

Do you guys ever wonder why they don't help us like we would, and felt that's unfair? I always have, and I was feeling like "Did I do anything wrong?" "Do they actually dislike me?" and all those negative thoughts. Then I found out about MBTI about a year ago, and that I'm an INFJ-T, and almost all others are not. It made all sense. Doesn't mean I happily accept the unfairness, but it's nice knowing that it's probably not me doing wrong things, that's just how we/they are.

Only to realize that so few have a heart at all. 😉😆😆

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!

Amen to that. This is why I never had much trouble trusting people because I want to see the good in everyone. It’s so toxic to be pessimistic.

Same 😭

I need a break from myself...my bullies...my toxic family...my toxic music teacher...Just a break from the entire world so I can just THINK! ;(

🙏🏼

Good plan as Mark Passio like to say tell u ego to shut up from time to time : )

Omg i literally think this⬆⬆⬆ like EVERY SINGLE DAY! LOL especially when stressing over whatever infraction someone has done agajnst me, attempting to complete even ONE project i have obsessed over for days, months or longer...-all while managing my own life, household and family....uuuugh...its exhausting...and even the tiniest amount of drama or conflict will uproot and send my entire day spiraling out of control...(and by "day"-- ofc i mean" weeks"...okay "months"....and possibly even "calendar year"-- depending on whether or not the "domino effect of fuck ups" take place! lol) yeah...i think need another break...lol

OMGGG you are literally one of my favourite readers🥺

Haha same!!

Omg! Kino is also an INFJ 🥺

Gurlllllllll😲💖

Same

Right on!

Omg! You described me down to the t. 😮

YESSS!

For me (a Sigma Heyoka INFJ) the perfect community would be only INFJ's. Wish we did have a working/playing/hanging out group. I'm SO INFJ, I raised another one. 😍

So well-articulated Brian. Everything I was thinking of writing.

I can relate to this

INFJ here who lets those close to me know when I feel disrespected. If after I've let them know what a deal breaker is & they continue to engage in such behavior I have no qualms of being abrupt. There are others (most people) who are not close that I don't feel the need to explain or express myself. If they exhibit what I feel/consider deep disregard for my or others sense of BEing, they are not part of my life. Period. I prefer a few near & dear who are respectful than being with others (most people) who are disrespectful. It makes life so much better!

@@kelliesmith4068 Oh, yes, I definitely relate with not feeling the need to explain or express myself with those who are not close who I feel crossed a line & disrespected me. I just don’t feel the need to waste my time with it.

Right on! Life is short & we only have so much time, energy & resources.

Oh Yes!! And the worse part for them is when we walk away without explaining or in some cases even admitting there is a problem. Although I am noticing as I get older, I have become more willing to voice my grievances and give people a chance to change, but as I wrote in another post if they show me they are unwilling to change or start ghosting me in someway then I will turn my back on that person. Even family. In fact I am “actively working towards and literally removing most of the negative energy from my home and life. We must push the abusers away for our own spiritual, emotional, and intellectual sanity. Otherwise we will never be able to become better people, complete our dreams, and serve or love those who really need it with our purpose. Can you tell I’m on a mission to achieve True Joy in my life and help others do the same? ☺️😂”

I...i have never seen anything summed up more beautifully. Thank you.

It’s sounds corny, but ours is a high and holy calling, requiring much silence, introspection, and sacrifice.

EXACTLLY

@@kristamatic6916 Holy is a bit much.

Underrated comment by far.

I can relate....

I feel like I can relate to others with their perspectives but mostly others can’t relate to /-\

I somehow feel like i can relate to everyone but no one can relate with me.

Me too

Well said!

I am 70 y.o. and I couldn't agree more! Thank you for everything you said. Your words describe much of my experience, as well.

The cool thing about us, is even though we struggle at first with expressing ourselves, we become extremely good at it, to where we can get others to resonate with what we are saying and feeling. Of course, we have to want to do that 😅. I really resonate with your comment, it is very similar with myself. Oh and since you're a nurse, thanks for all your services!!! 🙏

I need to learn this skill!

Me 2... I give to much, think too deeply and sacrifice for others to much. Now I'm changing me... slowly but surely

You’ll all get there. I still have trouble and I get mad at myself and think “why did I say yes to this?” The anger I feel at being put out helps me to set boundaries in a nice way (still learning that, too). Otherwise I stuff the anger and get depressed and feel guilty for being angry. It sucks!

When I first read that I thought you were someone who was an actual advocate for INFJ personality types like myself. I was like damned "that is exactly what I need in my life".🤣🤣🤣 Then I realized you were just using the term like counselor and my dream went right out the window. 😂😂😂😉😉🤙

Time and following life will get you where you need to go. In the world where the pretty people peak soon after Highschool, but INFJ are still getting kicked. 30s-40s and some self reflection Bring us Roaring into our own. It takes time to work out all of our issues.

Haha, the relatives are probably the least to understand us, that's why we usually feel more familiar with likeminded people or with those sharing same interests and ideals rather than the family.

LOL...I wonder if we can understand each other.

Ikr my classmates dont understand me

@@AKKritter needed to hear that thank you!

Please I need your help

I feel you brother 💯

Yeah dude I need your help.I couldn't find my way out

Agreed. But, at the same time I can also resent the sacrifice and even the person. Exhausting being me :-(

@@rekhakaul2069 nah resentment is never ok

I only want to work just to buy stuff for people I love.

It is exhausting

That is because you haven't learned to set boundaries yet. You have to learn to be more choosey in who you put time and effort into and not let yourself be a doormat for self interested types. You have to learn that most aren't willing to put half the effort into themselves that you will be willing to do for them and that is unhealthy for you. They will use you and abuse you. If you run across the right people in your life you will learn this lesson quickly because they will completely drain you of everything you have emotionally, physically, and otherwise and then demand more or you aren't worth their time. Try to learn the lesson before you meet that person because we attract them and they can be hard to spot sometimes. It can happen to the best of us and it is a hard lesson to learn.

I understand your pain! I look at friendship as me making connections and giving people a shoulder to lean on. I know it's not ideal but it helped me get rid of the feeling that I'm lonely, my friends do care, and will help in times of need. It's just unnecessary to talk to them about the way I feel.

What you need is an ENFP friend

Maybe sometimes criticism controls our feelings to others, decisions...

@@EZart-bq1xl omggg you are so sweet. i'm an enfp and my guy best friend is an infj and now I'm watching at this to better understand his problems. 💜

@@natalijavelickovic4559 Now that's love

69th like

Yeah for I always do this and even thought about shutting out my family for a bit because I felt I couldn’t relate or just be around them and I didn’t want to cause them to be annoyed by me

Me

LMAO

It's true though.. we do ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Become close friends with a kid who has always been in my school, in my town. We even called each other twin flames cause we filled in whatever the other person didn't have or think. He took the test the other day and he was an INFP. Made sense

You don’t know how lucky you are that you found this out so young. I wish I had this information at your age but it makes me really happy for you. If this old INFJ can impart some wisdom, it is to brush up on what a Narcissist is and do your best to stay away. There are many out there and we seem to be prime fodder for them. The sooner you can recognize the signs (love bombing, gaslighting and crazy making) the less heartache you will experience.

@@gigimo6810 you are soooo right and such a blessing for sharing that bit of wisdom. I was reading thru the comments to see how far I'd have to go before I saw someone comment regarding being fodder for narcissists. Yes, we are. As if we had INFJ tattooed on our foreheads (at 60 I still look in the mirror just to check & be sure it's not on any given day).

Talking is the most powerful thing in the world, it can be hard but it's very important to talk things through and work it out with each other.

I can relate to the desire to have a small circle of authentic, transparent, loyal, and honest friends.

I'm probably doing that right now tbh. But dude hardly talks to me and we're not even in a relationship yet.. Wtf

Maaaaaaaan! I know what the real problem is. It because trifling people keep trying to fool me but I'm too smart for'em! I'm quick as a whip! 😆 That's what makes it hard for this personality type! You can't ignore the bullcrap therefore you move on!😅 I am sure your probably the same way which is why you're gonna keep moving on until you get better results. I see no problem with this. Lol

RIGHT! I always enjoy the fun beginnings but once you get in the relationship it just gets boring and then I over think everything which then just makes me think they are going to hurt me emotionally when they aren’t

True. Just be your unique self. Infjs are very important for this world

Someone: You need to lower your standards... Me: *crickets chirping in the background*

@@MariS1980 why are they so entitled. May be they need to raise their standards.

exactly. if we can reach our own standards, then it shouldn't be impossible for others.

@@amethystsky28 well said

Me too. ♥️

Same here!

Me

This is something i think is not valid for me, although i can't absolutely rule it out. Generally i detect manipulative persons quickly and i hate that type of personality.

I find INFJs very sensitive people.

@@angelacavon6408 We are, especially if our deepest values, convictions and etical standards our, competence and knowledge are disregarded but i think there is a slight difference between genders. Woman are likely sensitive and easy to hurt in other areas.

@@donarmando916 Yeah, women are usually more insecure than boys. That's probs why girls are more sensitive.

@@donarmando916 yep I hate it when ppl try to manipulate me. Iv been lead up till about 5 years ago since I was in my very young teens but now I am in a happy relationship with my first love . I have 2 children from past relationship and due a little girl with my partner right now. He is amazing I put him through so much ad I feel he does not understand me at all and I just won't talk. I'm not a materialist person never have but always wanted my kids to have what I did not. But now there 17yrs and 18yrs old one of each I feel 1 is so selfish and I blame myself for putting her in this situation. And my other child I feel is so like me in every way. But he is so young and inverted into himself ,no good since a young child to make friends not that he done anything wrong he just did not find the games.they played or things they do interesting or nothing about it is taking more of his life from him if he bothers to involve himself . So he is like me he lives his own company now he has a handful of friends and loads on the bet when he plays his game and interacts with the world by headset n speaker while also playing a game but a mate might call and he calls him in . But it's not long before he wants to be alone .when I am upset I dont even need to look he just comes behind me and gives me a hug and kiss bless him from no were .he just knows. Like me but my other child is so the opposite wants wants wants . How do I help her and my son any ideas ? O no I did not explain it well as i am thinking to quick and get all muddled in my mind one thing i want to know do others find they can not keep a story going we tell it in the wrong pattern is this because we think so fast ? And forget as it may not matter that part we forgot ? Help pls. Thanks karen 39yrs old love from Ireland Dublin XXXXXXX mhwaahhhhhhaa my friends ☘☘☘☘☘☘☘

I feel a real INFJ will know their selves so well they they know this video would speak to them. I relate to video that basic of facts about my daily life.

Me too😔

Same but Was a Microphone

This is me! Thanks for posting this. I feel less alone

No doubt, you get wiser as time goes and you learn how to handle a lot of it. Time heals all wounds and we don't like to make the same mistakes over and over again.

Consider yourself very lucky to have your husband. I’ve had a hard time dating for a long time just finding someone compatible. I’m in a relationship now, and not happy. He doesn’t get me at all. We argue all the time. He doesn’t enjoy my passions traveling, learning. I just feel like I’m dating a rock. He’s a nice man. I don’t want to quit but I’m truly not happy. I just wonder if there is a man who can compliment me being an INFJ. And appreciate it! INFJ’s want to feel appreciated.

My husband is the complete same as me.. We're so unsociable it's not funny.... Having to avoid zoom calls during lockdown, making excuses...☺️☺️☺️

@@daniellem578 I'm so sorry! The best match for an infj is another infj. That's what my husband is and this other person commented that their husband is an infj and they get along great too.

@@daniellem578 compliment or complement ? If you want to be appreciated, the best way is to appreciate others and this way you will be fulfilled. Remember whatever we do for others UNCONDITIONALLY, we do that to ourselves.

@@WhitneyDahlin I thought opposites ATTRACT. ( I mean opposite personality BUT with COMMON VALUES ) Being similar would be boring and how does one complement each other ?

Absolutely the same way, for real! I truly cannot stand that type of life or living those phony or misleading perfect acted life and relationships. Despise the toxic hidden type of competing like neighbors can often do in ways like lawnmowing/landscaping/bought tools or ' toys',etc .. or the fake friends that tend to do this secretly ...yep, dead center bulls eye on my end too!

Agree, except for we also exhibit high emotional IQ too.

@@sirphil13 Yes sir indeed

Hmm. Agree to disagree. "Knowledge, like a watch, isn't shown, unless asked the time."

Agree..n bit careless too😇

IQ =/= type

Me 2 😊😙✌❤

It's not real😂😂

@@bhhhijjiu9438 what's not real?

Me also.

Why everyone is infj😂😂

Hi. I'm INFJ. Are you in Lagos?

I know exactly what you mean

It's TRUEEEEE

Trust me...my thoughts exactly...apart from the expletives!😁 Scarely accurate but many mainly apply only really when under serious pressure. The point of the video is not I quess that we are like this but capable of being like this depending on the circumstances and situiation we are facing...some of it is hard to admit to those even closest to us and sometimes you feel like you the only person like this... encouraging to hear others admit these are things they can struggle with too.

What unexplainable event happened that brought you to seek an answer? .. answers like How did that happen, why doesn't anyone believe that it happened and why they don't understand that no matter how long they've known you that you aren't the type to lie about things of that nature. Because we know how important truth is to bringing people to the greater understanding of who and what we are. And that there's so much more ..oh so much more that they can't feel hear or see. No matter how many experiences you have and revelation of unexplainable knowledge you have been blessed to witness ... I guess they think. What makes you so special? And if that was true everyone would be able to have premonitions or have those experiences. Yeah, Ghost hunters have really did a number on that conspiratorial it's all fake narrative.. And it gets infuriating and very frustrating when you are speaking to someone and they're talking about the newest video game or the football game , and even the TV series like The walking Dead.. And there's so much more to concentrate your energy and time on. Like maybe conversation I'm trying to have about the episode of John B Wells that I feel that they might enjoy. Or a podcast lecture by Manly p Hall. I guess they find that just as interesting as I find the NFL

I can write detailed plans, and blueprints, and to-do lists like no one I know, and never execute them because my starting point is imperfect. That has been the most frustrating and demoralizing aspect of my entire life. I was suppose to be born knowing everything, and everything around me was supposed to be perfect; but, because it's not, my planning is writing out my pipedreams.

@@DaveRod76 I don't know how old you are but, in my experience, you've at least completed ONE step! As a fellow INFJ, who also struggled horrendously with procrastination, I CAN tell you that the video WAS correct about things starting to get a little bit easier as you get older! I found that it started to improve with the first step of writing down lists of everything I needed/wanted to accomplish. And, then, when I looked at the first list and each item seemed like it was impossible to do...I broke the "impossible" into individual steps required to complete that task. Sure...when you do it like that and look at the ENTIRE list it looks insurmountable but, when you look at the individual tasks and check them off one by one, you'll find yourself wondering why it took you so long to get started and how you can combine tasks that are not from the same list item but are close to one another in your home/town/family etc. Simply so you get more items done faster and with less effort! I wish you the best of luck!

@@DaveRod76 in other words, you will discover that there is no such thing as a "perfect starting point" so, simply find the one that best fits your needs and ability so you can chase your dreams! If you're anything like the rest of us (or at least the person I have always been and the person these videos say INFJ's naturally) are, you've spent your life supporting/being there for/helping others...it's your turn so take your list and start checking items off! You deserve it!

That's for sure! Sounds like you could have given better advice than I did since it seems like you have me beat on planning experience but, since you hadn't yet gotten the chance to reply to your previous commenter, I hope you don't mind me offering the little advice I had to offer, Rachel Morosky. Also, for some reason, it wouldn't let me edit my original comment when I realized I forgot to add the other part so please forgive the fact that I had to comment twice! I'm on my Kindle so I can see the videos better so I don't know if that's the issue or what it is but it also wouldn't let me reply @ you either even though it let me to him. Sorry!

@@dd2b4ever I must be one of these “INFJ”s...reading your replies feels like I’m reading one of my own posts. Have I finally found my tribe? 😄

Knowing what others think isn't exactly a blessing.

@@nightrider6136 it helps when someone needs talking if their feeling down, INFJ people can help with that, so I kind of think it is a blessing. It’s just your opinion though, everyone has opinions 🙂

I thought the exact same thing

Well don't you just got it figured out

@@MultiCheeseme I just suppose that it's a common misunderstanding that INFJ's are these oddball awkward mysterious types when in fact we could be totally normal, buttoned up and outgoing at times and most people wouldn't even realize that we were introverts. It's a product of our ability to adapt to our environments, but...if surrounded by too many toxic people (and that is totally up to the individual to decide who is), we get drained and need to recharge. Not claiming I know it all, it's just an observation and of course not all INFJ's are the same so...

I can relate to that so much. Im feeling that right now , I feel so hopeless and I keep on beating myself up with negative thoughts because something didn’t as I expected it to go

Thank you

We should all get together!!!!!!!!!!!!

Heyyyyyy

Hello from Slovakia - Slovak Republic.

Let's be friends all infjs out there hello 🙋🙋🙋

😂

Me too:(

The most difficult way to be ever. It's a lonely path for sure.

@@dabeezkneez8716 i know... I am suffering a lot

Took the test three times and yeah similar result also have problems with anxiety

Yeah, we don't fit the society well in many aspects and as far as i'm concerned i give a ....

I hate manipulation. We ourselves can be manipulative but choose not to almost always.

I know. I can’t stand the thought of harming someone. Being manipulative seems like harm. I think “manipulative” is the wrong word for the situation. Yes I can move people to move in the direction I feel is best, but usually it is because I am able to make them see that it is in their interest too.

I can be manipulative at times too depending on how frustrated I am on a certain situation that isn’t working out in the way that I think it should.

@@veronicawo3033 True, there is a toxic manipulation and then just a more innocent one that isn't being careless or uncaring of another person.

Yeah, that's also not true for me as i hate manipulators.

Same

High functioning autistic and INFJ here. Not great either.

Bongo..🙄😐😑

lol bro sounds like my life 👌😅

Oh my God. Feel the same way. Nice to see someone else is the same.

Sounds like you are struggling to accept the result. I think we are born with it and can't basically change it unless we go into self denial.

You and me both!🥰

Ditto

Could make you feel good for a sec but then make you feel like crap the next.

@@MariS1980 yea if you really think about it...

Thank you! Agreed

Exactly..Even it's not a speciality or anthing to brag about . its just a personality like other personalities.

For me, true, in the sense that it doesn't make me feel any more special; however, (if I actually do have this personality type) it would explain a lot of things, such as why I have had difficulty finding a sense of belonging. Also, why does it seem like I can empathetically console an individual, but I can't seem to form many deep personal relationships. It never occurred to me that this is due, at least in part, to traits to a rare personality type. It's interesting to say the least.

Better to be -A

💞

You have to learn to vent that anger appropriately and not let it build up so much. That way it isn't so explosive. If you control the release it isn't so uncontrollable and overwhelming and you feel better about it. I have pretty good control over mine now and don't stuff it or let it bottle up. I learned the hard way and had to work on it for a while but it is worth it. 🤙