Yeah i remember i made one last week and then after it ended started laughing at how easy that was Still afraid though

I have it too. I guess it will go away with experience.

It's one of those things. I'm 42 and still have issues with phone calls and stuff like that. Face to face is ok. Talking to someone over the phone or online, especially with the person I don't know, not that easy. It doesn't get easier with age. It's still pretty much the same as always. So don't feel bad about yourself.

How good is that feeling the moment you finish the call and say "Kewl...all good" - the heart sinks from beating out through your Eardrums to where it belongs...and you feel like you can walk on air! Until the next call of course....Urrghhh,...

Yeah, then I think "next time I will remember it wasn't so bad and I will be calm" but it never happens. It only gets better with people I have known for a long time

Haha you’re probably exactly right. He’s the one who had an unwanted phone call come in to him!

Just imagine Adam was calling from an *unknown number* 😱

How about a sequel from that perspective?

Good gods, yes. Poor Jeremy!

Anxiety when I hear my phone ringing is mad. I receive like one call every 2 months so it's rare for it to happen. Also all those horror movies with the phone ringing.

For some reason it's not as bad to *answer* the calls, even technically it should be the other way around...

Yep, that's why I often write things down so I have a sort of script to go by - and still freeze like a deer in headlights. I. Hate. Making. Calls.

Exactly what happens to me as well. 🙈

Wow same for me

@@kadinaator same

And then just stumbling some words.

I was on vaccation visiting someone in the US last month. Her flatmate worked IT, mostly costumer service from home and he also had a "costumer service voice" :D

As a fast food employee with a generally low and monotone voice, my family didn’t recognize my voice when I answered their phone call order to the restaurant 😂

Gotta be professional even if you are scared shitless 😂

@@TheTerrorHamster What costumes were they making?

It's the only way I can handle phone calls. My real self is terrified. But my Retail Voice takes over and gets shit done

I'm just gonna leave you at 69 likes :) After all, a comment with the sentence "I love you" is perfectly balanced at 69.

I bet there is a culture somewhere in the world where that is normal. Even going to the West Country and ordering a coffee or buying a newspaper and the barista or newsagent will open with "oright moi luvver" and as someone from a more stoical part of the English speaking world one thinks "I'm your lover now am I? Blimey, that was fast! We've only just met!" Why not? We routinely hear "have a nice day" from strangers, why not "I love you"? It's only weird because no one else is doing it and if everyone was doing it no one would think it's weird.

Adam dead: ‘it wasn’t quicker they way’

@@VivaLaDirtLeague he dies too often :P

@@VivaLaDirtLeague Adam body besides desk, a few feet away, clearly dead with eyes still half open from the heart attack. Adam Ghost standing up besides body. Realizes he's dead, a flow of several emotions one after the other on his face. Finally he says "Well at least now I am finally free from this horrible job!" Then Alan passes by sees Adam body yet doesn't freaks out acts totally normally as if he knew in full what actually happened but just find that not weird at all and then looks back up to says to Adam Ghost, "See, that wasn't so hard!" then immediately Rowan pops his head from the side: "Oh and Adam don't forget to finish that inventory spreadsheet before closing time..." "But but... I'm dead!" Rowan: "That's not an excuse to avoid work, it's in your contract!". Then both Alan and Rowan leave. And then Adam Ghosts, now alone, finally realizes he's still stuck in that crap job, and grabs enough courage to reply to an absent Alan: "No Alan! It was *not* quicker that way!" and then looks towards the other side where Rowan left, sighs defeatedly, sits down at the desk, clicks a few times then and starts working while also talking aloud: "Inventory item #10487, Atari 2600 Joystick, Price 9,99$ Amount in Inventory: 0, Oh? I just got a new voice message... (clicks) We hear Rowan's voice "Adam resupply this ASAP! 50 units! Hot item a client buys a couple every month! So you'd better call them right now!" Adam sighs. And then Rowan's voice distant and shouting from out of view: "And you call them BY PHONE and right now, Adam! I'm watching you!" Adam starts crying.

@@patrickrannou1278 OMG! Phone killed Adam! You bastards!

Me too. Lots and lots of comments about people feeling the same. It's comforting that I'm not alone with this one.

If the internet does one good thing for me, then it is seeing others have the same issues like me. Or maybe not the same issues, but the same struggle with them. We don't know each other, yet still have a deep connection, and knowing this motivates me :)

That's why texting is so prevalent

The same - though I found a work around that works for me: I put the phone down and use the speakerphone - not pods or headphones, the speaker phone. For some strange reason it feels so much easier when I got both of my hands free and nothing is being pressed against my head.

I used to live under the mantra of if it’s that important they’ll leave a voicemail 😂

Even with family I don’t like initiating phone calls. I want to talk to my family more but I don’t want to initiate the call.

Same!! If I just act on my impulses, everything is fine, but the second I start thinking about it, I get really nervous. Wtf brain??

I would often write scripts in Word right before making something like an appointment lol

Totally me as well.

Exactly me too

Same I always need to script it. Hi it's ah me, how's it going -hope they say well I'm just checking about blank -hope they can help If they hit with something I don't expect I always try to "get back to them" by passing it on to someone else

@@alise296 Yes! I use online ordering almost all the time, and it’s great because then you can track the pizza’s progress. Ah, the wonders of technology

Same I get so scared idk y

Same here

and yet, text or email is such an inefficient way of communicating a lot of the time. For adams request it would be fine though

Same here buddy 😅

I relate so hard on this one

So what's that like? Like, do you have panic attacks when you're in a social situation or something? I couldn't imagine not being able to be social with people. That would really suck. How do you cope?

Indeed

Is that what social anxiety is??? I always have those but just thought I was just awkward. HAHA

@@theunderdog9353 its really just anxiety out of fear of screwing up or looking bad. Just realise that it doesnt really matter, or no one gives a shit about it and it be good... atleast thats how i got over mine

@@theunderdog9353 It's more like overthinking what would happen. Either expecting the person you are talking to to start laughing at you because you're always stuttering and not able to find the words. You repeat yourself and can't speak up as if someone was holding your throat. You notice details on the other person's voice or face that aren't really there, but it makes you think like they're thinking to themselves:„Wow, why am I speaking with this clown?” It's all about trust, I may not have a lot of friends, but when I'm with them, I feel refreshed, to be finally able to talk about life, what I've learned or my interests. And knowing full well that these other people feel the same. Trapped in a cage of fear. Have a nice day.

I know a couple tricks that might help, but you really don't want the first three. 1. Be so depressed you don't care about your own mental health. This requires a much deeper depression than merely not caring about your own physical health, strangely enough. 2. Hate yourself so much that you believe you deserve this as punishment. 3. Psychosis. If the you that is having the call has only some continuity with past you and none whatsoever with future you, then future you will be fine. Get in the habit of making notes though, because you will rarely remember anything from those calls. 4. Don't own a phone. Having to explain you don't own a phone repeatedly to everyone is also exhausting, but it is better than getting calls!

Hence why 99.9% of the time I just text. And when I do actually have to talk on thw phone (usually by being forced into the situation) I am quiet af and I don't say anything right away. I seriously hate talking on the phone because of anxiety

i only have it talking to strangers. if i have called someone before like a service rep and it's his desk number i got so i know it's him i have no problem if it's a get the first free person number then no i rather email. and even then it's hard because i don't know what i have to type and when to stop and it's gets wierd because of how long i keep typing trying to make sense of the length of the email that could be done with 5 mins on the phone.

@@michaelklog i wish my anxiety was better with people i know at least, but I even get bad calling my own extended family members. Support and switch boards are really difficult too, the places i have to call is always generic number, never the same person.

People generally really don't understand how exhausting mental/emotional exertions are, which is what overcoming or dealing with things like anxiety while doing 'normal, everyday things' is.

Is it a case of worrying how you'll sound?

@@thememaster7 I think it can be part phobia. Sometimes there isn't a logical reason. I think everyone has a measure of it, it's just more pronounced in others. Like some people aren't necessarily acrophobic, but will still not want to edge to close to the precipice of the Grand Canyon, while others might not even be able to stand on a chair.

Absolutely, constant practice just gets rid of this issue.

@@thememaster7 Maybe a bit... I'm in a similar situation as @GreatOneSquidly but for me personally it also depends on whether or not I know the people. It's less proponent with family, friends and coworkers. I abhor having to make calls to people I don't know, especially new potential customers. Not so much worrying on how I'll sound, but rather to disappoint them in not being able to help them or knowing the answer to their question(s). It's the uncertainty of everything really. Also on how they'll sound. Will the person on the other line be in a good mood or just had some bad news or is annoyed by something, ... 3 different possible conversations with the same person allready. And you cannot anticipate nor react later (as you would in an E-mail) so your reaction has to be on point. Just like Adam in the sketch people don't always notice around me (coworkers) but if I tell them this takes an effort from me they are surprised. So I am relating a lot with this show. Nice to see that it's actually a quite common thing. (not 1 in a million at least)

Same. Since I got into truck driving and have to call customers to get information about parking, receiving hours, and sometimes directions pretty much every day I've gotten better at it. It's definitely still there though. I've found too that when I'm using my headset instead of talking into my phone it makes me less nervous. Something about having my hands free I guess.

Satan is friendly! Pick up next time, you won't regret :)

I remember I very almost denied the call for my college interview (this was during lockdown, so they were doing it over the phone) because it was from an unknown number. Granted, I'm sure they would have called again, but still xD.

@@azoth9875 I always figure they'll at least leave a message if it's important

@@glint1224 yes same here.. if I don’t know the number, I figured they would leave a message

YES!!

It sometimes makes me wonder if they are watching me. I am now going to search my place for hidden cameras. :P

Have you not seen Ryan George?

​@@kenn5287 The day Ryan starts producing gaming content is the day he might tie with VLDL for the first spot.

Or just when you have anxiety and overthink too much. Worked at a call center for a while, and waiting for every call felt just like that. Oh the relief at the end of each day. I am slightly better with dealing with phone calls since that job, but I still hate it.

@@AnneB2 I worked at a call center in the past too but for me its the opposite, I dislike calls even more since this time ^^

@@Olsenator seconded. I work as an analyst that requires constant phone calls to customers and the customers are usually nice but ooo, I just hate picking them up.

@@AnneB2 okay, now real question. Now that you’re not doing the job anymore are you more understanding or less of the person on the other end? I don’t know myself, but when someone is faking it they’re so much more obvious than before.

@@AnneB2 Worked at a call-center as well, I hate making personal calls but oddly enough answering calls in a call-center was rather easy (with all those procedures and stuff behind you). But as soon as I have to make a personal call I start overthinking things, prefer working through mail and messages. Also hate the "you work in a call-center, you call, you're used to it" line people in my family used to give me whenever calls had to be made, ugh >

At my last job, almost all the calls I got on my work phone were wrong numbers.

Omenvreer; What it is about a call you find taxing? Not being facetious I'm actually genuinely interested.

Yup i know exactly what you mean! Having to make a phone call, especially to someone I don't know, is a full on battle!

I was wondering how realistic this was because I've never experienced anything like that. Do you really calm down while talking to the other person and then get anxious again after hanging up?

@@limiv5272 Personally, it depends how important a call it is. Say a phone interview is naturally more stressful than a simple chat like in the video. So once the introductions are over it's a lot easier. I don't get anxious again after hanging up though, just a sense of relief and feel emotionally drained!

Wait you worked in customer service with social anxiety? That sounds like a nightmare, lol!😅

@@Liam_Bob It is. I work as a Consultant Developer and I hate phone calls. Just write me an email.

I worked in a call center for a very long time... I had no problems receiving phone calls....or to call back... BUT if I had to make the first call it was something completely different

@@Rebslager yeah, same here. Or the "Yeah he will call you back" kind of tasks when your colleagues see your name in a ticket in which you have had close to no involvement in.

@Hermaeus Mora I agree! Phone is a last resort lol!

Yes, but i expected him saying "Subscribe" right before he hit the ground. 😄

Master Faller

Caption gang

why i just text or reply to yt comments

Closed captions activated!!!

Yeah these skits on being anxious need to stop being so relatable, or I need to go see a therapist

How is it treated? Asking...for a friend...

@@ZarkowsWorld Well... For me the treatment looked like this: 1. Medication, which took a while to get right. 2. Individual therapy. 3. After individual therapy ended, group therapy. The therapy was largely looking into coping mechanisms. The easiest of them to master is the square breathing technique, where you stare at a square object like a window and let your eyes follow one side slowly while breathing in and then follow the next side slowly while holding it in and then letting it go and rinse repeat. Or more advanced strategies such as alternative thoughts and exposure therapy. The honest answer is that for me I have had to work my way back from literally not being able to leave my apartment for anything, including shopping, all the way up to having a job at an electronics store (in the warehouse part). It took a lot of time and there are still things that I cannot do and I still have setbacks, but my life is so much better now. Your best bet is to talk to health professionals about it, because as much as I know about it, there are still plenty I don't know.

@@ppunion And then after 1. meds, 2. solo therapy and 3. group therapy, finally able to do 4. make that dang phone call.

@@patrickrannou1278 Hahahahaha.

The horror, being forced to answer calls or make calls the entire day ☠️

I would definitely look for other jobs in that case, I was in the same position. Making a call as an anxious person now and then is not too bad but doing that all day can't be good for your mental health, it sure wasn't for me.

Ironically, I do work in one and have no issues while I'm working - but doing important private calls to a company or whatever still stress me out a bit somehow..

That sounds like the safe version of a bee keeper that's allergic to bees.

Try tech support on an escalated call with 20 people listening and only 1 useful person on the line and numerous others asking irrelevant questions...

I hope you've gotten a better job that suits you better

I know how you feel. My first real job was at a personal loan company. It started out as customer service - providing loan info, processing payments, tons of data entry - all stuff I'm good at. But when we upgraded computers, a lot of that went away, and we were then expected to make sales calls to round out our day. Suddenly I was terrified to pick up the phone. I really tried, but that's how I found out I'm terrible at sales. I got another job, and I've never even tried sales since then

oh no, I think I would have quit after the first shift

@@druncle1977 Ha. Ha. Good joke. I spent the last five months working as floor staff in a supermarket. That ended when I got put alone on a shift that needs three people, slipped up because I was incredibly stressed, and told by the deputy manager that I could leave voluntarily or stay and fight against whatever punishment management decided to mete out. That job was not worth it.

I'm so glad you mentioned the restaurant thing!

"Had a similar fear of restaurants (don’t laugh)." I would never laugh at someones fear. Social fears are so hard to explain and even harder for someone who doesn't have that fear to understand. So while I would said I don't understand your fear in restaurants because I don't have that one, I wouldn't laugh at anyone but just be supportive and try to help them through it if I can 😄 Fears are there to remind us we aren't invincicble and can help to keep us grounded.

This is exactly me. Once I actually start speaking I'm fine but actually making the call is just like this - I won't call either unless I really have to, will just send emails!

@@leone9183 dang dude. Sorry you have to deal with this kind of thing.

@@leone9183 I feel you, the stress you go through before making the call, everything going smooth during, and the heart sink after, every single time. Sucks, but it is what it is.

@@leone9183 This is me too I found out recently that I have ADHD and through learning more about it I've come to realise why these sort of situations send me for a loop.

I am very similar, massive anxiety calling and waiting for answer, calm and professional talking and then needing 42 bottles of wine after!!

And after it's over you feel exhausted and like dying inside for a few moments.

Same for me. It's very logical. You can see them, so you now their reactions while you're speaking to them. So you "know" what they're thinking of you.

@@karolinajandova9061 this

same here. in fact the sketch could have taken it in that direction with him traveling all the way to their offices just to ask in person. i know id rather travel the length of the country than make a phone call.

@@karolinajandova9061 also, body language is possible when speaking in person, which makes things much easier

Same! I'm pretty good at reading people in person so I feel uncomfortable with only auditory communication with strangers. When I had a temporary speech impediment it was the worst!

Makes perfect sense to me! I feel the same.

That's literally everyone that doesn't do it regularly

i sort of get the same feeling. its like when they are on the phone all you can see is your own imperfections and this ominous voice on the other end is absolutely perfect, and then they speak and they go "uhhhhhhhh.... yeah sure let me check" and now they dont seem so perfect/intimidating. when its in person you immediately notice a smudge or something on their shoe and suddenly the reality that they have flaws and are relatable is now viewable again. the reason why this doesnt appear in text/email/online is because if you notice a mistake you can always just backspace it out. they havnt seen the mistake and you can check it as many times as you want before you send it. i think its that hesitation of not being perfect that causes the deadlock.

Makes total sense to me...I was/am pretty much the same.

Oh hecks yeah, me too. Sounds counterintuitive (which is why I have a hard time explaining it) but it's true.

And the worst part is it's impossible to get anyone who doesn't have this to understand that it really IS bad, never mind getting across how INSANELY scary it feels.

For me, "business calls" are easy, its calling family that fills me with dread.

Calming meds? Like cannabis?

It helps if you write down what you need to say.

I go literal MONTHS before replying to ppl or reaching out.. no texts' or calls even with friends/family.. then script elaborate convos in the form of word documents before they happen.. relate.. & yes lorazepam/xanax

do a push up or something and stop complaining!

@@OverSpark65 That's more likelly to make you more anxious

No, it got way worse. Now we're in the video conference age.

HA, you must be under 30.

Yes and no. I'm actually surprised how many things do STILL rely on phone calls, esp. some 'old school' branches like public administration, medical advice, hairdresser, etc. I always inform myself in advance, if the company or service I need have a website or a social media presence that looks good (means that they care about the digital distribution) and if they have an e-mail address or, even better, a direct contact form or reservation system for appointments.

Ehhhh, yes and no. A lot of companies are really weird with emails and chat. Most of the time, if you have a special request or you need a special accommodation or have a complicated issue, you still need to call their offices to speak with a live human. Because emails and chats are "in writing", companies may limit their representatives to used specific saved replies and if they deviate, they could get in trouble. Which means the reps don't have options to offer you beyond that pre-approved reply the company sends you. But with a phone call, because it's happening in real time with a live person and the company wants you have a good experience chatting with the reps, the reps have more freedom to help you and offer you solutions that are not within those saved replys for emails and chats. Source: works in a call center

I've never had that (lucky I guess). What is it about a call that twists everything up inside so?

@@fex144 It's about directly initiating contact with a stranger. You are also essentially interrupting whatever it is they are doing in their life at that moment and directing their entire attention and focus on you and what it is you have to say. This can cause a great deal of social anxiety in a lot of people.

@@fex144 Kids/young adults have spent texting and posing in social media too much time nowadays, but when they actually have to interact with another human being they shit themselves, the world has turn crazy the last 10 years, see this everytime at work and I'm not a boomer or sh*t like that, I'm mid 30s

Are there no Apps/Websites where you can order delivery food online? I remember when I first heard about ordering pizza online about 15 years ago. I never made a call to order food ever again

@@TheTerrorHamster There are if you're near a big city, but then you sometimes still have to deal with them on the phone when they're delivering to help them find the right location. I make my partner deal with those calls. And if you're moderately rural, forget it.

@@aurhiaseelund ah, here in Germany if your village is big enough to have a food place that takes delivery orders via phone they 99% also take orders on online platforms like delivery hero. Or they even have their own website that looks like 2007 but still works

I can relate to that. I'm hearing-impaired as well. So glad I now have an aid with bluetooth capability. Makes things easier since that comes in nice and loud and clear for me. Now to find a solution that can mask my stuttering ... ;)

The day I discovered my favorite local pizza place had a website with a delivery app was the last day I ever phoned in an order.

Ugh, so relatable. Been there. Hope you find the help you need!