Over the past year, I've learned that a lot of employers will not fill all of their open positions, then will act offended when you don't do the work of three people. I've decided I refuse to feel obligated to work on my days off, to kill myself to do extra work when there should be at least two more employees to help, etc.

I've witnessed good people leave because of bad management. People who are in management who know nothing about managing people. They drive their employees to the ground and talk down to them. So they leave. Having people skills is becoming a lost art. We are not dogs or robots..we are human beings and they have forgotten it.

Sadly, you are so right. I'm quitting my corporate job on Monday. The last straw was when I had to cancel 1 day off I booked months ago for my daughters birthday.

I just quit my 9-5 & I'm around your age. impact on my health was the biggest one. Constant panic attacks on weekends and during the weekdays I was just trying to manage stress every second of the day.

I find it frustrating when employers bite off more than their employees can chew.

I resign my IT job 3 years ago,the best decision I made ,am happier,emotionally satisfied and just loving life,these companies demand too much but yet most of then never share the profits with staff

I just worked on paying off all debts, bought a cheap non-fancy home almost paid off. Not being a slave for anyone anymore I will play video games, workout and do what i want. I hate working 1st shift and 3rd shift. I’m a bad employee anyway lol.

I just quit my job also. My last day of work is on friday. Your videos are inspirational.

Recurrent nightmares regarding my job,not sleeping,binge eating and shopping,treating my family unfair

There is an obsession with some people that everyone should be moving up the career ladder. What is wrong with sticking in the job you have if you like it?

I def resonate with this. Most people at my 9-5 weren’t married or having kids or able to save for a home bc we got paid so little. I realized this job will not give me the finances I need to move forward in my life in ways I want to. It was a sad moment when I realized that!

I switched industries and one thing I realize is that many people spent their 20’s being burnt out and taking the brunt of lower level positions for a future “dream career” with no autonomy and simply do not care by their 30’s. Working in a field and talking to people makes you realize there is NO DREAM CAREER, especially for WOMEN. It’s all about money lifestyle and life balance in your 30’s. By your 30’s you have very little interest in being micromanaged and being a slave on other people’s schedule as well. They need to give people more money and autonomy.

This rings so close to home... They treat you like you're replaceable. But if you go on vacation, all the work you turned over is still waiting for you when you get back and then some. And then they ask you were you want to be in five years.

This is the most accurate description of what I am going through. I work in IT making $48k and recently applied for a job as a baggage handler at an airport which pays 22k, I have been offered an interview and I'm going to go for it as i have no dependents and live in a one bedroom apartment. I just can't think anymore. Thanks, also you're very pretty your husband is a lucky man. Thanks again, from the UK.

The way I could resonate to everything you're saying...I'm even nearly crying at work. I'm on coffee, sleeping pills, supplements, alcohol, a gravity blanket. Nothing is cute. The only thing that keeps me going is bills. I hate management consulting so much. Its broken me forever. I work at night and over the weekends....nothing is enough.

When you said the 5 year bit, it reminded me of my job where they sent us all to a class where we have to describe our 5 year plan. I quit after that too, after 10 years at the company. I definitely didn't want to be there (also engineering job just like you!) I much prefer lower pay jobs with less stress. Money isn't worth it if you lose your health.

Oh my goodness! The red flags. My direct report, the CTO, ATTENDED A MEETING (that really wasn’t that important) while he was in the ER with his only son who had been sick for 5 days! I knew then that he can’t preserve/defend his own boundaries, let alone have realistic expectations for others. I quit Friday, and not looking back!,😊

Yea. Good rundown. Video triggered flashbacks to my own similarly stressful 20 year 9-5 left going on 3 years ago. Trying to bury these negative memories but they too often come to front of mind. Trying to get over it but there it is, as ever, still smoldering. Am in a better place today doing better things so it worked out.

I understand a lot of the issues with these corporate jobs. Esp in America and PTO. We all know “Unlimited PTO” is basically a trap lol but I actually had a pretty good salary and corporate job that I liked. They encouraged setting boundaries and we actually could use our unlimited PTO without the stress of judgment from managers or coworkers but maybe that’s because we were fully remote. But even with all that, I still quit my 9-5 to pursue freelancing and working for myself. It’s been 5 months now and I honestly don’t see myself ever going back to a corporate 9-5 hustle. Some people thrive on the corporate ladder and don’t mind doing anything and everything to get recognized or to make a higher salary. And that’s fine too. Just a reminder here that not everyone is going to be happier working freelance and not everyone is going to be miserable at a 9-5. You have to know what you WANT. I opted for freelancing because I cared less about making alot of money and wanted to focus on my quality of life and health. I now work maybe 20-30hrs a week and make half of what I used to but I’m 10000% happier.

I'm an old timer now and must say that I accidentally came across your channel and decided to give this talk a listen. Glad I did, and in short, l admire your wisdom about the matter. For me this means you've rejected the lie of career first, and everything else second or third and so on. In my opinion, each of us must ask ourselves this question as we age, "Will I die well?" The question is answered through the legacy of our children. Do they choose wisely in terms of what's important in life, i.e., immediate family first, are they positive in society, and do our grandchildren repeat the cycle well?

That question of where do you see yourself in 5 years, I can’t answer that either. I’m thinking of turning in a notice as well. I don’t see any development opportunities.

"You're usually trying to finish up like ten different things before your day off." I put in my two weeks recently then spent the entirety of my final two weeks doing 12 hour days to finish as much as I could and create guides explaining how to finish what I couldn't. Leaving the company and still in that immensely anxious mindset. It's ridiculous

OMG this is me! I’m an engineer. I just don’t bother to take PTO even though I get 25 days a year. HR gets upset with me every couple of years for me not taking time off for letting the days accumulate but I just ignore them and they forget about it for a while.

Wow! This is so me!! I work for the LA School District and omg, it's beyond stressful, I can't even find the words to describe how awful it feels. Thank you for describing it perfectly.

This video is so relatable. Being in client success, I resonated with these reasons 100%. I've been working in the role and experienced these issues in like 6 months. I'm glad I found this video. The story with the PTO and employees hit really hard. How is it that I'm new and know more about a new computer program than my colleagues there years before me 😅

Our society has created such a vicious cycle... 😥

Funny, your videos mirror perfectly my experience going from a technician (no stress, easy to mentally check out and not let it physically effect you) to engineer (high stress, unfulfilling work). I instantly knew I couldn't do it and my body was rejecting it in ways I didn't even know were possible.

I’m in retail. I’m classified as full time but I’m not given full time hours. I’m concerned I’m gonna lose my health insurance. We’re always understaffed. We’re expected to take online classes on our own time and not get paid for doing so. Meetings are unpaid. IMO if any of that is work related then we should get compensated.

I have exactly the same feeling for my PTO in my company. For last 7 or 8 years it's always the same. I plan my vacations in January. It's supposed to be really easy time when I'm on vacations and projects always delay and it's the most busy time. There is no one who can take over ... and I feel big remorse putting this on somebody's shoulders.

I was let go from a corporate job right after my 20yr anniversary. I went to work for a small business mainly because I was sick of searching for work. It was the best decision I could have made. I didn’t realize how unhealthy my situation was until I was a months removed from the corporate world.

Thank you so much for sharing this. It’s so refreshing to know someone else feels the same way

Going through this right now. I feel sick everyday, taking pills for my head, stomach, colesterol etc and I am 30. Trying to look for other opportunities because my mind and body are exhausted after a year and a half of a stressing job

Very true about the un-interrupted time off and 100% on the lack of alignment.

Yeah I was thinking about quitting my job too, because Of my strict, offensive boss. She once scolded me for signing up for a one-worker shift and disagreed with me that I could do it by myself (I have a learning disability and limited comprehension). She said I needed someone to guide me, but not very politely. I can see why she lives in her own apartment 🙄 My aura always turns into gray clouds when I see her, as if it’s going to rain on a temporary beautiful day. I always retreat when I see her coming (when she hasn’t seen me, of course). My relationship with her is getting really unhealthy, given my fear of her. I was thinking about quitting because of her offense and scariness, but I think I have a better idea. I have a coworker with dyspraxia, which affects her motor skills and hand eye coordination. One day, *if* my boss _ever_ scolds the girl for an innocent mistake she couldn’t help as a dyspraxic, I might risk my job and say something like: “You know, [boss] is right. You need to be more considerate of someone who doesn’t understand the difficulties with learning.” I’d wink at the coworker to hint the act and wait for my boss to react offensively. If she fires me, fine by me. At least I’ll have made an important point she needs to understand-and resent, of course-to hopefully knock the context-rejecting bigotry out of her. People without learning disabilities can be so shallow and superficial. And they think *_we’re_* dumb.

I think my light bulb moment just came when you talked about trying to change everything about your life and health. I'm feeling the exact same way that I don't want to be in anyone's shoes here in 5, 10, 20 years. I'm very stressed because longevity was heavily discussed in my interview and seeing as how I've only been around 6 months, I am right on that edge where I'm deciding if I go to my boss and say something and risk being pushed out or try and exert all my remaining effort to overhaul the symptoms of my stress to make sure it's not just stress from being new. It's killing me. But I think you are right. I think if my health was perfect and all necessary changes were made, I still wouldn't like the situational aspect of this work. Not to mention, making those changes is now required because of the job and stress.

i can totally relate to PTO and coverage parts in a way even during vacations, i can't really relax and enjoy myself because I subconsciously know I have to pick up the slacks once I am back because my coverage did a sh*tty job when I was away. and my company does not promote me to a senior, aka not getting paid as one either, yet, I am being asked to do senior level work...

I totally relate to having to explain my work to those who would be covering for me during PTO almost negating the ability to enjoy my time off. I was perceived to be "on call" all the time and have been interrupted on vacations numerous times (desk job, not a life or death medical professional). Not surprisingly, the company and I parted ways.

I needed to see this today. You helped me decide. Thanks!

Thanks for posting. I relate with every point you made

I had the same experience last year… this was so well said and I’m glad you were able to break free ❤️

The PTO part played into being understaffed for the capacity of our role. It's like neither of us could take real PTO/vacation without the department falling behind. Like I don't know how many other ways you can notice or communicate YOU ARE UNDERSTAFFED. We all need breaks from being needed without everything going to shit. I am an arbiter for work-life separation.

Loved this video and the other one about the physical symptoms. I can relate to both of these videos! Love this and thank you so much for sharing!

Paige I am so glad I found your channel, it re-assures my decision I made yesterday. I put in my two weeks yesterday at my job, I was having the same issues.

Thanks for the advice.

PAIGE! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Glad you made the decision. I just did the same. It's hard!!! But glad you pushed through and made the decision. 💥😁

Definitely an eye opener, I have a great 6 figure job, but currently burnt out n fatigued. Shorthanded so do the work of 3 people.

I worked in collections for a big telecom company for a while and after 2 emotional roller coasters of being laid off and re-hired, having micromanage-y supervisors, lack of training but still expected to produce results, being openly shamed in a weekly meeting for not meeting goals and grilled on why (along with 30 other people.. what a waste of time.) I started to see the effects on my health. I couldn't sleep. I could barely eat without getting sick. I was stressed all the time. When I wasn't working all I did was think about work. I lost 10lbs per month for 3 months. I came close to committing suicide. And I finally just... quit. The effects of the job weren't just affecting me but also bleeding into my family life as I couldn't destress. I didn't have a backup and my husband didn't support me quitting, even if it was obvious I was becoming very sick from the job. Which led to more problems after I quit. But once everything calmed down, it took me months before I was able to go back and look for something. And it only got better once I did quit. Never again. LOL

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZfaq channel 5 months ago about self development. Now I have 312 subs and almost > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

lol I had to drink coffee to stay sane and stimulated at a job I do not enjoy, quietly quitting and making moves by end of year.

I love this video!!! I often feel like I don't reflect enough and actually take time to figure out the root cause. I'm so used to putting a bandaid over it, so this is definitely a good eye opener 👏

i really resonate with this. i have been contemplating quitting my job since January. i have started a youtube channel which has been hard to grow with the job i have in accountancy. the environment is very toxic. i finally decided to quit last week and focus on my KZfaq channel and i really believe that this will give me time with my children and husband. so i really understand. thanks.

I have watched a couple of your videos about quitting. I know that where I work now is not my forever job because I dream of becoming a video editor ( I have about 2 semesters left til I graduate) Yet I know the impact I have put into my current supervisor position has value. Since becoming a supervisor it has greatly impacted everyone around me in the company that I work for. I have tried to make change and bring fairness to all since becoming a supervisor but the other people in management don't want to be apart of the change I'm bringing to the table. My company has put management in management classes to help everyone. My biggest issue is the people that are managers should not be in the current position they uphold. It's frustrating that I know that I am doing everything on my part to make everyone a team but some people don't want to be team players. Everyday I have to step up to the plate and go out of my way for the process to not stop, but when someone is slacking, it effects everyone. And those people are being protected, favoritism. It's just hard to walk in with a mask everyday knowing that I am not happy, I am not myself, and no matter how much I complain or try to bring change. Nothing goes anywhere. I have mood swings I am constantly waking up with nausea and stomach aches. I over eat because I am stressed and find myself to comfort with food. I feel burned out. Yet I just came back from a vacation in May lol. I work with family too so its a constant world of my work is now being brought up at home. *It not like a family business or anything of that sort, fyi we all work in different departments lol. Along with that is that I am dating someone I work with the company. If I try to vent to family about work, then they turn around to make it seem like I am too sensitive.... At least my boyfriend is willing to listen but his approach to things is way different than mine. I am just finding it hard for someone to be on my side to understand. But now finding it hard to hangout with him because we work different schedules.

i just did the same and i feel guilty. its only been a week and ive had freelance jobs ive had to do. but i feel so anxious, so scattered, struggling to sleep now still. I think its because i fought so long and hard for this career.

as a small business owner. i can understand how you feel. I dont get time off either yet I have to worry about my staff being taken care of. its a never ending cycle.

Happy for u that u can see your worth like that! Just started a software engineering job so I’ll defo keep these points in mind 🙌🏼

0:50 - My God, do we work at the same place? I have that EXACT same issue right now, except instead of weeks in advance, it’s MONTHS in advance. Guess them’s the breaks for working as a copy writer for a nonprofit.

This is a pretty huge issue that needs to change in the United States. I've considered leaving the country because of how much our government favors corporations rather than the individual's wellbeing. Corps just bring people in, grind them to dust, and that dust just naturally washes away in the wind. We are abused consistently.

I love this series! 😊❤ Currently in the same situation… is there another video where you explain how you actually quit? I want to maintain my professional integrity, but I’m SO nervous and such a people pleaser.😩 I know it’s like ripping a bandaid off but we are low staffed, and our managers don’t even work near our district. I tried to push myself to stay for a year, but I’ve been hazed throughout training which is considered normal here. My mentor was the main perpetrator 😔 I moved alone across the country for this role and was totally shift-shook when I got here! 😅

You have no idea how much I'm resonating with this video... OMG

I’m seeing this at a mental health counseling center. And I feel like they ask that to push you out because they want to know how long you’ll stay and be invested whereas when I worked at a job I was happy at I stayed 13 1/2 years without constantly asking me.

Thanks for sharing. I got burned out for my last job, a new job is much better.

thank you for the video! im sure its helping so many people! i personally hella appreciate this video! and yes!!! on all counts yes!!! thursday nights are the worst for me because its towards the end of the week where i feel like i cannot go on. the stress is nuts, my energy levels are shot, and its the moment where i just wanna run away to a small town where i can sleep in my car and get a barista job 😅😅 luckily we get paid friday morning a few hours before i go in and that is often times the push i need to even get up to make it in on time that day 😮‍💨😮‍💨

Great Video!!!!

I’ve been punished at several jobs for taking a vacation. I accumulate my PTO and take long trips. That is a no no in the companies I was at.

Brilliant video. I work in engineering consultancy. Biggest thankless career ever.

7:03 That basically happened to me too. I was asked if I saw myself working in my manager’s position because that was what I was working towards. I knew it was time to leave.

I quit my 9-5 healthcare job finally and now working from home in tech support

You are true to yourself, that is a good sign and good for your entire life

Another reason I work for myself because I don't aspire to be like someone in another hamster wheel. Instead of using my skill to build someone's dream Im going to build my own.

why do companies NOT train managers how to be managers? People get promoted becuase they are good on the tools or they stay long...then they are on the tools less and now made to manage peopple and they have no idea or training to do so!!!

Oh my goodness yes! I think these videos popping up on my feed is a sign from God to quit my job right now, but I have to get some things straightened out first, I’m in the process of making income another way because corporate America is not for me either sis. Like you said having to take time off being a hassle, poor work-life balance, and also I am SO unfulfilled at my job too…. Not worth it. I cannot WAIT for the day when I never have to step foot in my corporate job again. Keep going you got this 👏

I so understand the problem with not being able to take off I had a deadline on the same day as my partners funeral instead of preparing for the funeral I had to work

I'm so looking forward to the day I make my "I quit" video. My corporate job is killing my spirit (even though I went part time). All my coworkers are stressed and work on their days off. It's not a lifestyle I want.

Great video. No one talks about having no bandwidth to take time off.

I am in corp comms consulting still the same issue. I think it's a problem with consulting work environment.

Wow.. Straight from the heart. Way to go !! I did the same in India. I quit my IT job as it was giving me headaches and not to mention the toxic people I had to deal with everyday. Everything you said is a norm here. I thought it happens only in India due to more supply of resources and lesser jobs. I am surprised to see that it's the same scenario in US. Don't you have labour laws which limits the working hours and where you can sue your employer if they break those laws.

I knew my job was not for me after my boss said it. And I had missed my period for 6 weeks due to stress. After a work day I am so mentally drained all I can do is sleep. I was drinking wine after work like every day! SMH.

Every single thing you mentioned in this video is happening to me right now. Except I don't have a mentor to talk to about this coz I feel like nobody cares enough.

I don't know how long since the decision to quit, but I can see that the tension is still there.

I feel like this is true that you know they want to have younger people for more pay because they know they’re only gonna be there for a short time and the ones that are there for a long period time and I get forced out or just quit.

Applying Missed aligned pressure in order to stay connected to tasks for the soul purpose to deliver a project that has the ability to change a delivery date … will always result in dissatisfaction. Dissatisfaction is a direct result of misaligned pressure. (Either External or Internal or both) Which will ultimately expose the companies poor processes & the frustration of being able to successfully rely on those whom should be working with you. Sinking Ships are not aware that there are live viable human beings onboard. The ship however thrives on the basis on team work, healthy mindful decisions, discipline & the human basic understanding that rest keeps stress at bay. Doubling Down on Pressure will ultimately lead to a path of nothingness … because doubling down doesn’t produce a humane existence.

Real managers that want to make a difference give support to their employees instead of using punitive measures all the time. The least competent ones in my experience are usually the ones that never get involved with your projects. Egregious apathy for extended periods of time. They turn a blind eye to your needs, but when the problems come their way, they require you to deal with them.

Hitting this exact same burnout cycle for different reasons. My team has been "re-org'd" 3 times in the past 3 years. I've had now 4 bosses in that time. At one point during that period I had an additional 2 'dotted line' bosses. My team went from 10 people with 10+ years at the company and industry to 6. Only 2 of the original 10 are left, the rest are new hires. Work has become a toxic politics match because of the big personalities they brought in to manage the company. Nobody, not a FUCKING SOUL can tell me what my job is anymore or what my tasks are because our management simply is in such chaos at all times that they can't agree on basic roles & responsibilites. Quite literally you have to inject insane amounts of caffeine into your system to summon the will to live your life of voluntarily climbing into the dumpster that is on fire to get your paycheck.

I'm also stressed, only sleeping probably 4 hours but not straight, like waking up all the time. I'm tormented by this career, this work, doing 40 hours a week that it's taking toll on my life, 9-5. I can't quit, I need the money for bills and mortgage. I can't find another replacement because there's a bit of recession going on, so I might just have to quit and take a break, then see how my health will hold up. I've been doing this work for many years, and yet I'm just doing for money, no life, no excitement, no sense of fulfillment. I just need it to pay the bills, that's all. Sometime I just want to never wake up, just everything to end, but that's the easy way out. I know things will get better. I just need to hold on...

Final Straw for me was getting kickback for trying to use my vacation time I earned, talking about "you don't have enough sick time banked for emergencies to take all your vacation days" Umm maybe because I was SICK from work stress and burnout? Then when I re submitted my time off to fit their policy I STILL had days rejected "because business needs, we're short staffed and going through department transitions" on top of getting lied to about training id get, and being lied to about a lunch break law, and the cold depersonalization from management in their emails, I'm done. Putting in my two weeks tomorrow, even though they don't deserve it, I don't want any negative reputation for quitting on the spot like everyone else has.

It sounds like your exactly describing my previous corporate gigs. It seems like they are all the same. Lol

Your place sounds so much like mine. There's this extra benefit for employees that may be suffering from autoimmune diseases or such. It's a extra paid benefit where a employee can call in and basically say they are having a flare-up and can request a fmla day and it not count against them .Their job is 💯 protected. However, 95% of our employees have it and abuse it They can pretty much call in as many times as they want. . A handful of us don't have it and are the ones forced to cover for these people. They usually call in when it's a busy day or they just don't want to come in. Happens every week and burned out being overloaded w work I I can't finish and here I am 1 day short of being terminated cause I was hospitalized. Seems very unfair. The worst part is that these are employees that are constantly arguing w management, getting written up, refusing to do work, and complaining about the type of work they get.

Great video

Our time is already a major sacrifice for a job, our mental and physical health absolutely should not be getting worse from a job. Some jobs are more stressful and dangerous than others - we have to ask ourselves if these conditions are sustainable in the long run. The efforts should primarily reside on the actual purpose of the job, not handling a corrupt toxic workplace and coping with disease spiking stress on time off.

Its not that my employer is particular bad, but the final straw for me in the corporate world, on top of everything, was hearing once again - 'All-directorate staff away day...' No other combination of words can be as deflating as those. I'm now actively looking into the world of self employment.

My boss talks me to work on my rest day and compare me to our new hire who works on our rest day with no pay. She say this is molding me as a manager, I get that but I'm still not a manager so you must pay me . Plus she expects those on vacation, sick or rest day are expected to be online anytime. no rest at all and I felt that this is totally wrong.

Love what Paige is saying :)))))))🤣

Exactly same situation as you I want to quit but I've a home loan And my parents are not letting me quit, they are lower middle class all their life and it's first time they are enjoying money What to do Ps : Working at FAANG

That sounds rough, I wouldn't want a job where they didn't respect planned PTO.

Did you do any quiet quitting ?

9:45 _in other words.. having a family & personal life (or private life, in the example of "time off").. was (Secretly) Not in the "Company Policy".._ *This is Fraud. They made you sign a false contract (while secretly using it to bind you to "Undisclosed Clauses" they never revealed)* _You weren't fully updated by your employers on what the job required.. this is Pure Criminality, they shouldn't be allowed to get away with this scam.._ *You should Sue them (no clue what this is legally classified as, but they Definitely Scammed you, and were Lying about it)*

Literally my life for the past two years

I want to say, I'm studying 3D animation so while it is not engineering, I am already starting to get into routine with checking emails, doing my projects before due deadlines, etc. I put in all of my time and effort into this career so my skills will grow. I am also personally not planning on having kids (childfree). I realized many of these demanding jobs are just not work/life balance friendly especially for parents. Like you said some parents are working all the time but not spending time with kids. If I had a child I don't want the child to feel neglected, I want the child to be happy and be loved. I personally love what I do as someone starting my career soon but I wish more jobs are more flexible for those who have families or planning to start a family.

So how do you pay your bills?

I left consulting for this reason and for the fact that I could make 3-4x more working for myself per client and getting full pay no tax taken out (s Corp) Another problem is I only worked 9-5 for companies but they wanted you to work 50+. Working more than 40 hours dilutes the already pathetic pay rate they give you vs the bill rate they charge their clients.