our workplace bully just got fired on Monday. now I sing on my way to work, everyday

I attract alot of workplace bullies. I feel like they are intimidated by me and try to make me look incompetent. Its tough dealing with those situations without losing face, getting depressed or reacting inappropriately. I think I'm learning though. It is just draining and upsetting. Thanks for posting.

One of the reasons why I have always wanted to work from home. Adults can be just as toxic as teenagers.

I just quit my job yesterday. Don't have anything lined up , however the weight that was lifted off my shoulders was one of the best feelings I've felt in a long time.

Often I find that the bully doesn’t think they’re the bully - beware

if someone makes your job this miserable....move on. you deserve better than a toxic enviroment.

Never, ever, be afraid to stand up to your coworkers, or even your boss. Good or bad, make your case. I've seen horrible employees keep their job, and I've seen good employees get fired.

Unfortunately, in our company, a guy was found hanging in a stairwell very recently. Allegations are he was being bullied by 4 manager's. You don't go to work, surely to do this to people. Bullying needs to stop,these guys should serve time if it's true. R.i.p John Smyth.

I use to think I’m the problem then I realize it’s the world I live in. Majority of people are driven by self interest.

I left my phone on record at work when I wasn't there in the afternoons for 3 weeks and what I caught was traumatic to listen to. So I started dropping key words and phrases I'd recorded and used them when in conversation with them. The next recording they started turning on each other accusing one of them of talking to me and telling me what they were saying behind my back! Eventually they found out and it stopped. I still have the evidence and they know it! Hilarious, if you do this though you have to have a thick skin it's very difficult to listen to other people's hate towards you.

I saw a therapist once for workplace bullying. She told me “ it’s just a job”. She wasn’t minimizing my emotional distress from being bullied but to say I don’t have to tolerate such abuse. She’s right. Love yourself enough to know you can do better by surrounding yourself in positive work environments.

To everyone out there dealing with this, you are competent, you aren’t doing anything wrong, and don’t let them dictate your value. Leave as quick as you can and find the next opportunity that values you. Good to see other content creators speaking out again this. -Mr.SmartCity

Two-headed snake is an early hugger. Surprisingly accurate.

I have witness workplace bullying that was so bad that workers suffered heart attacks , strokes, death and attempted suicide. A silent KILLER at BEST!!!! When is "BULLYING" going to be considered a "CRIMINAL ACT" punishable by the LAW????

The best of you brings shame to them.

This literally brought tears to my eyes, recognizing all the tactics that have been launched against me in a professional setting. Thank you so much for this education. I know I am not crazy or 'difficult.'

My old boss was a bully but everyone was too scared to stand up to her apart from me. I ended up looking crazy

Wait until it happens to you! No one is untouchable to them. I believe they will pretend to be a friend just to find your weak spots.

The worse is the boss who makes up that he has received numerous complaints about you when its just him complaining.

I have worked in finance for 17 years. This industry is absolutely saturated with cluster B personality types, psychopaths and narcissists. Bullying is openly permitted. It doesn’t matter which institution you work at, bullies will be abundant in all areas. Management at the top of the organisation, encourage this type of behaviour, and they hire people similar to themselves. I can honestly say I regret having worked in this industry, it has destroyed me. I am a shadow of who I should be. I tend to keep my head down, and try to be the best I can be at my work, at least I can take pride in that. The more you give them, the more you over over deliver, the more you meet their demands, the more they want. I worked 16-18 hour days non stop for 2 years, under intense pressure, and met every single deadline. I told my boss the day I had been diagnosed with cancer, and he did not express a single word of concern. Not even “sorry to hear that”. He simply said “ok, can you send me an email on that you’re working on right now”, and that was that. These people caused me to get cancer, it was induced by stress hormones in my body that eroded my natural hormone levels and this caused the cancer. These peoples are inhumane. Some people like me are stuck in this god forsaken industry because we have no other options, we can’t switch industries bc the market is too competitive. I hope one day bullying will be depleted from the workplace but I know that’s just pipe dream.

This breaks my heart that people of authority or just people in general can feel the need to dominate and tear down a person physically and emotionally

That's why I rather work for myself. Then I won't have that problem.

It's inexcusable too, how managers enable bullying or just look away. There was just one manager I had who put a stop to bullying right away. An exceptional woman. What I learned in my career is that strength and cunning too is necessary to survive in some environments. One time I listened at a door after hearing my name mentioned to learn what was going on. I documented it all with names, who said what and turned into HR. Followed up via email with numerous questions and voila the problem went away

or the two headed snake who acts like everyone's friend and tries to divide the other coworkers with rumors and lies those are the ones you must watch out for notice they will be very agreable and seem genuine and friendly this is a marage they'll use you as a tool or as stepping stone. Generally passive aggresive and remember if they gossip about others they gossip about you too

Remember, if colleagues at work say you’re doing a good job, and you know you’re doing a good job, if your boss is abusing the appraisal system and making it look like you’re not doing a good job, it doesn’t change the truth that yes, you are doing a good job! An individual may abuse their position of ‘power’ but don’t let them start making you doubt your own capabilities.

I needed this so much today! I’m educated, 42 and loved my job. I resigned today with no plan. I just erupted in tears when my boss confronted me stating the untrue accusations formed against me. I just couldn’t take it anymore. It’s devastating!

I've never understood people not going out of their way to get along with others at work. We spend so much of our lives in our careers, why would anyone want to make it miserable? I'm trapped where I am because I desperately need the great health insurance we're given, and there aren't many other options right now. I'm being treated terribly by the veteran coworker and her followers, not being trained and it's the most unwelcome I've ever felt anywhere. Going to the boss will surely make these behaviors worse by a lot. It's a group of ADULT females just bullying me. It's catty and horrific. Honestly causing me so much anxiety I don't know what to do. Praying something good opens up and I find something else. I feel for anyone dealing with this stuff at work. 😣

I face these things every day in the military. Talk to higher ups who eventually told me that I have a depression problem and I need to seek counseling. I went searching to see if I’m actually the problem because with all honesty I’m being bullied, it turns out that this work place bullying is actually a thing. So tired of it and dying to leave the military. I talk about the abuse that I face and suddenly I become the problem.

As a supervisor, I think the dumbest thing that any supervisor could do would be to pick on the veteran employee! You need them on the side more than anybody else. Some people are crazy

Beware of workplace clowns as their jokes may actually be thinly veiled bullying.

I recognize all four types. I wondered for years why their life mission seemed to be to make my life as miserable as possible. Turned out it was THEIR INSECURITY and THEIR ENVY driving all the control freakery. In a way, it's a back-handed compliment. The better you are at your job, the worse your "boss" is going to be!

Another example is to excessively scrutinize your work in an attempt to find errors so that they can reprimand you for that.

my boss was a combination bully. she had traits of two types. the screaming mimi and the constant critic. she wasn't smart, at all, and she lied and cheated her way to being a manager.

All of this is very accurate. That's why I'm self employed now.

I am naturally a passive person, and I was previously involved with being gas-lighted and "bullied" at work for a long time. I was a regular associate and worked my way into management, only to get manipulated even more. You become a target to these kinds of people if you allow them to do it to you. How one can avoid these kinds of situations is by practicing boundaries and setting them accordingly. Do not get involved in the politics involved with these toxic people, and point out these things and set boundaries in the very beginning of the work related relationship. Boundaries in work life and home life are so important and aren't exemplified enough... Once I started career related therapy and behavioral therapy I learned how to set proper boundaries everything in my world changed, there was a sense of respect and a difference in the way co-workers communicated with me. I will honestly say those times were hard, but I learned so much from it

That's about every "job" I ever worked.

This stuff needs to be talked about so that it comes to the forefront of the corporate narrative. It happens a lot! I had a screaming Mimi back in 2008. Its not in my nature to take that kinda crap, so I started fighting back and it only took about a month for me to get fired lol. I look back now and am glad I kept my pride in tact and had support around me, but not everyone has that luxury. Workplace bullying is as important as diversity and gender equality. It can happen to anyone regardless.

im dealing with bullying at work its a terrible experience to go thru workplaces in my opionion are getting worse in the last 25 years its probably better to have my own business and be my own boss

I was bullied at work by the person I report to. He wouldn't even address me by my name. The first thing the admin lady told me when I walked into the office building 3 months ago was that he can be a little grumpy at times. I didn't get it then. Then I slowly realised what that meant. As days went by, I got really stressed about going to my workplace and facing this man. He never treated me with respect. It was as if he was never happy with whatever I did. Always dissatisfied and frustrated. I am a graduate engineer and when I was hired I was told I would receive a lot of training in this position. I received nothing, and in fact he was so busy that he expected me to just share his workload. I learnt a newly released software on my own which he wasn't even very familiar with. I did my best to learn and deliver at the same time. I was working overtime (which I wasn't paid for) as he never had time to review my work until 5:00 p.m. And I decided to quit. A week ago I gave my resignation. He became worse. The director of the company who was present at my interview with my line manager gave me a surprise visit and pulled me into an office room without notice. At the end of the conversation, she told me very "nicely" that I could talk to my manager and leave early if I wanted to. I did not take the hint. I was being dumb. Since my resignation, there were two instances he picked to point fingers at me but I ended up being right in both. He never apologised. And just yesterday morning, he walked in grumpy saying he thinks I am not interested in this job anymore and I can bring my final day forward to yesterday. He also hinted that the company is wasting money on me. So it was clear. The management just wanted me to leave. I wasn't going to stay after this. I sent an email to the HR confirming yesterday as my last day. He just said good luck for future. It's a shame that I didn't have anything to tell him. I was speechless. So I just left. No goodbyes at all. I came home feeling relieved. Last night, I had the best sleep I have had in a while. I don't know what I am going to do. But I now know that dignity, self-respect and mental health is more important than anything else sometimes.

11 years later in this video is still teaching me stuff to help my friends fight back against tyranny

It's not productive but I turn the tables when I can. There are workplace bullies everywhere I've worked, at least one. I had one "lady" tell me quietly ( I already had her figured out) "I make people cry sometimes. I'm just blunt like that and that is how I am." I turned around and said, "I was so blunt at the last place I worked a man hung himself when he got home. Making people cry is kid's play..." To this day she walks circles around me but bullies the crap out of others. I hate to see her do it but it's not my fight. The bully's game is to intimidate and put you into submission. No one has time for that. Bullies are damaged people that refuse to see it and come to the workplace to play games. Sad really..

I am in graduate psychology school and finally landed a practicum site at a non-profit organization housed in this cute little Victorian. Immediately, I knew something was very wrong. I was shuffled back and forth from one supervisor to another--and in the end--by the time they got their claws in--I was suicidal. They would fire me--but not do it in writing like my university required...and just endlessly screw with me. If I do not complete practicum with a passing grade, I don't get my master's degree, period. So they have a lot of power. I went to an outside therapist and she told me I was being subjected to "adult bullying". Psychopaths-all of them. Worst part? This is supposed to be a "helping profession"! Sick.

This is so accurate! And it’s unfortunate that those bullied often are not able to survive.

Hey here in 2020. Appreciate this because it really made me see the truth. I was working in the ER as a PA. I was surpassing the the prior more experienced ER PAs and getting bonuses and accolades. When was asked to present at the supervisor’s office I thought I was going to be commended for getting the door to doc time down but instead I was told that I did not know how to treat common disease such as hypertension and COPD. I was asked “ to do the right thing and quit”. I was told that a very common medication that treats hypertension wasn’t unused to treat hypertension. Crazy! And the patient was on the medication for hypertension. I was so confused and shocked! It has been over two years since that has happened and I’ve questioned myself everyday. Before this and after I’ve seen and treated numerous patients successfully but to this day I still feel inferior, incompetent and belittled. However, given this information in this video things seem a little more clear. Thank you

What I do when faced with a "screaming Mimi" is to simply look offended and reply in an indignant way, "Excuse me?!" And then if the person yells at me again, I repeat my retort even more forcefully and disbelievingly, and then when I'm hollered at a third time, I simply stand my ground and calmly say something like, "Well, there's no need to shout; I was going to do that, anyway. All you had to do was ask me in a normal voice", or, "I do not believe that you have grounds to talk to me that way", or, "Excuse me, but do you have the authority to tell me to do that?", or, "I will be more than happy to do as you ask, but could you please say that a little more nicely?"

Get a digital recorder because most bullies attack when you are alone. Take really good care of yourself and make sure you have a lot of fun. Do not tell them who your friends are at work because they will scoop them up on their side and isolate you. Get your sleep and go to the dentist to make sure you are not grinding your teeth. If you cannot sleep take sleepy time tea from the grocery store. Avoid the bullies as much as possible.

I was bullied at my first job as a teenager back in 2013. I’m still traumatized by it. It really botherd me. It still does when I think about it.

Thank you so much for this concise breakdown of workplace bullying. As a victim of bullying you become so beat down you think it’s you, and you start to question yourself and you actually start to feel unworthy. Hearing your description of what I just dealt with for 8 months was more helpful than you could realize. Thank you ☺️

wow im going through this right now and feel it doesnt look good for me because I stood up and said enough is enough.

I was bullied relentlessly for months before I was thankfully sacked. Apparently I had made 'no progress' in 12 months. How do you make 'progress' if someone is screaming at you from before 0930 out of earshot of others, making angry gestures at you while the office is full and screaming at you again when the office is empty. After being sacked I made a decision never to work for a company again and became self employed. Now I am making 4 times my old salary, working and worked some of the most inspiring people I have ever met and have had the chance to work in Barcelona, The Netherlands, Belgium and London. Sounds sad, but I recently emailed my old company using an email address of one of my Belgian clients describing in detail my bully's behaviour and recently found he has left the company - either sacked or just embarrassed to be outed as a bully. Regardless I am now happy at work and in a position to simply walk out of a role at the drop of a hat if I come across animals like that again.

Had a combo two-headed snake/constant critic about ten+ years ago. I still think I’m processing the trauma. Absolutely awful situation. Didn’t know until she left many other people felt the same way, were just too afraid of her to say anything. Watching this video and reading the comments has been cathartic - I’m not the only one.

This is a very real and serious problem in the workplace!

Then their is gas lighting,where they have been accused of bullying and harassment and they quickly flip the script on you!

I really wish bullies would consider how their behaviour affects people.I've been bullied at work,and its eaten away at my self esteem.

If you work long enough, and if you work anywhere long enough, you are guaranteed to experience all 4 types of bullies, and other harassers. Witnesses are also negatively impacted by bullying.

I’m being bullied at age 57. Can’t even believe it. I’ve reported it, requested schedule change etc. only to find out management is friends with bully, now they are trying to get rid of me geesh

You forget one thing, Dr. Gary Namie. Those bully types may not be necessarily illegal, but they're all acts of pure evil in the workplace! No doubt about it!

I used to be like that I would let things and people get me down and walk all over me now I am older and less tolerant to peoples bullshit I literally eat people like this for breakfast by literally mirroring there behaviour and showing I am not someone to be messed around with and while it took a while its a breath if fresh air when someone tries to make you look like a fool and you just turn it around on them.

i feel bad for anyone who is bullied, it is rampant nowadays...human misery , what a shame, back in my day life was better and you could deal with a bully the way you wanted, but bullies were rare back then.

Wow!!! When you said about 'the hugger!' That massively resonated with me. So that's what my manager was doing... it's clicked! Disgusting to back stab someone when they are struggling with long term health issues.

I just had this happen to me. I was in my position for 12 years, won awards, always made my deadlines, & did what I could to make sure all were accommodated. I've never even had a bad review. However, I've dealt with slandering and gaslighting from an HR director for quite a while. He bad mouthed me to every new supervisor before they met me. A new boss with the same personality who touts herself as an "expert" was added a year ago. The abuse dramatically increased. She was extremely jealous of my work. Departments refused to work with her and told her they were going through me from now on. The environment became indescribably hostile. When I filed a harassment claim against the new boss last week, they fired me three days later. They said I had no proof but the HR Director only questioned one person. I had begged for help three times over the past year. The insomnia, panic attacks, blood pressure spikes & various other medical issues grew. They used my own claim against me in the write-up. As of this Tuesday, I am unemployed after 12 years of pouring my heart and soul into my work. I can't describe the way I feel.

Let me reiterate what Dr. Gary Namie said, bullies thrive on control and vulnerability. They're threatened by your skills and your good-naturedness. Its' nothing more than a game to them, and to make themselves look good to the higher ups by putting you in a negative light for kicks. Your educated mind, skill, and good-natured well-liked attitude is your only weapon against them. In short, take away the control away and you take away the power from the bully! Its not easy, but it can be done.

"The Two-Headed Snake," describes the woman who bullied me. Talk about hitting the nail on the head.

So happy to have reached retirement age so I could finally leave this arena. I had them all. It was a miserable chapter in my life.Wish I'd known about this during those tough years.Better luck to those still at it. Don't let yourselves be pushed around.Fight back!

Teddy Roosevelt said, "Speak softly but carry a big stick!"

OMG! A person I know dealt with a workplace bully as a supervisor that employed ALL of these tactics!

sometimes you find a monster who crosses all these boundaries and embodies every aspect of all of these 4 types.

Two-headed snakes comprised the company where I last worked. The meeting structure of management itself was a two-headed snake approach! You'd get the big sales meeting that was all positive, and even the official reviews would be positive. Then, all of the managers would have their own private meeting and trash anyone not in the room. Like others in this comments section, I started my own company instead

Sounds like folks I've worked with before in Healthcare

these are good reasons why there are workplace shootings and if anybody wants to stop that from happening they need to get a new hobby. it's called being proactive about putting the bully in their place by catching them in the act on camera or voice recorder and build a case so you can take it to a higher authority. misery loves company.

"Beware of a hugger, while they're embracing you they're basically just going up and down your rib cage looking for a place to stick in the shiv." Best joke I've heard all week! Thank you so much for sharing your insight with us. Delightful video.

When you mentioned withholding resources you are so right about the gatekeeper and how its always the guy at the bottom of the ladder that has no rights. You need to be on EVERY company harassment video

The only way for me is to find another job fast and then instantly quit the job that got you bullied. It's happening to me right now its stressing me out, and i cry every night when someone is being mean to me. And i doubt the boss will do anything about it cause they're all like this to me.

Absolutely 100% accurate, especially their tactics of charmingly disarming you to expose your vulnerability, and striking you when you are at your least able moments

The work place bullies make to job so dysfunctional that the whole company will fall apart eventually. I recently worked for a company full of covert narcissists and workplace bullies and the customers were always very upset and frustrated with the staff and the company didn't want to hire and train someone new because they couldn't handle it and they let me go. meanwhile they were flooded with work and had barely any staff to help. The workplace bullies are their own down fall.

I watched this video in advance of my meeting yesterday with HR. It really gave me strength and I represented myself well. I'm super grateful that you make this information easily available.

I wish you had spoken about the personal nit picker. I once dealt with a person who spent a lot of time picking me to death so much I think it was harassment. This wasn't about anything related to work. And the things he did were so small that I would look trivial for pointing out any one of them. I once bumped my head and said 'Doh.' He grouched at me for making a weird noise. Another time I pronounced a name wrong and he grouched at me. Finally, I he asked for directions to a place. I gave him them. The next day he yelled at that there was a shorter way. When these things happen to you EVERY DAY they wear on you. Management did nothing.

Been emotionally traumatized by a female co-worker in my new job. I work as a panelist in a group setting and have to sit next to her or near her day after day. I thought I was going crazy so I am so thankful to come across this video and WBI. At first I thought I could figure it out and solve the issue directly with the Bully. You know do the mature thing by asking her what's the problem is and have I offended you? What can I do to make our relationship at work better approach. The approach failed. Total denial and then of course, the bullying got worse after that. Now it seems she's out to turn others against me while being overly nice to them. They certainly don't want to get on her bad side. It's working and those that use to be friendly to me are now ignoring me. It's all got me thinking I'm a freak. Thanks to this video and the website I understand better now. I think it is too late to win this war. I feel I've lost and I don't even know why it happened. So painful to go through. Thinking it is time to quit since the stress has me coming home in tears everyday and dreading the next work day.

I’m so relieved to hear you talk about this

This is so relevant to my situation its crazy.

Thank you for your insight. It is really sad that there are people who go out of their way to make the lives of others at work turn upside down. When I report to work, I focus on doing my job, nothing more, nothing less. There is no room to bother others.

it goes... 1. installing the fear...seeing who is afraid and who is not. 2. nitpicking your work performance & trying to find douche-bag ways to get you to quit...stress you the living fuck out day after day... and if they can't get you to quit. 3. they will just fire you and call it a day.

Thank you Dr Gary to you and your wife for working so hard to help people cope with cruel treatment from nasty bullies.

Well spoken. The 141 👎🏼 are the bullies worried we will beat them at their own game.

Bullying is not fun, I think that the Government needs to implement harsh sanctions on all those company who allows these type of act on and employees who is doing there best, This has got to stop. Too many are loosing their lives over the stress of bullying.

I worked for the MAJOR hospital in Washington state. I was bullied by another co worker from my first interview, I actually got the job and from that point on it was hell. All the workers were unionized so they could not be touched without significant litigation. This person that bullied me actually had been fired and lost her job, THEN GOT IT BACK with the union. She made up a lie about me, and my boss told me I had to go to HR and APOLOGIZE to this person who bullied me. HR told me she has a long history of doing this and nothing can be done, but I did nothing wrong, so I was ok. From this point on my boss did everything he could to stifle me, while using me to fit his needs. I came in on my days off to do tasks he could have done, sacrificed my personal life, I was passed up for promotion, when it did come to another promotion he told me my 4's and 9's did not look good on paper so I wasnt deserving of classification. He himself fabricated mistakes I made, so I presented the evidence to him (documentation) showing that was false, he insisted he was right despite the obvious. Finally I was classified but it was only to extend my hours to use me during floor transitions. I was forced to resign 1 month before I would have had union protection. I had a 3 month old daughter, and my partner had just quit to take care of our daughter full time. I had my national license and a college degree, also the youngest, only one other tech had my credentials. I was targeted and ejected to satisfy a sociopath who ran the department de facto. Learned alot about the reality of work at this time. Anyway sorry to rant.

I'm a doctor but I was made to work as a receptionist.. I totally lost confidence in me. It was really toxic. Today I took this step to resign for my mental health.. though I don't have another job in hand, I had to take this step. I hope I'll get a good job next 😇

Everything you describe is accurate and I’ve dealt with numerous times when I was trying to get my externship hours for medical assistant and for respiratory therapy. They did this because I knew what I was doing and I was a fast learner so they didn’t want to see me succeed. I don’t know for some reason they thought if I got hired I was going to replace them, when really I was just there to get my hours so I could graduate and move onto my next goal. I don’t even know how these people got into that line of work with that kind of an attitude.

Well said and very interesting! I’ve learned the hard way recently to: NEVER have a meeting in work without a witness present. Keep a record of EVERYTHING that is ever done to you no matter how small or stupid it may seem. DO NOT assume that management or HR will back you even if you’re doing the right thing by flagging up an issue to them. HR are never neutral, no matter how nice they seem just remember they work for the company. Don’t STRESS yourself out by doing more than your paid to do, if you do your job too well you’ll eventually be asked to do more and more until your doing other people’s too even taking on managerial responsibilities. Basically give LESS f🙊ks and take NO shit! You are always replaceable no matter how hard you’ve worked for them! Especially when their treatment of you begins to affect your mental and physical health... by then your just used goods to them.

This is exactly what is happening to me at my new job. I’m ready to walk out. I’ve only been there 2 days and it’s absolutely unbearable

Many years ago I had a bully that didn't even work with me. But would send long e-mails to my boss even though nothing she said was true.I became very ill after a few years. Put my job first and my health second and I almost died the year I lost my job. I called her job stating that I was an employee where this woman worked. I said that she didn't do her work, that all she did was type up hateful emails about others. They found this to be true and she was fired from a really good job. I always say, " Payback is a b--ch, about 5'2"! 😁

I've had several bully supervisors. They don't do their jobs and harass their workers under them. Especially someone who is doing a good job and are liked they will go after that person. Pull them in their office, put them on probation for nothing, and just make their working lives hell. One boss I had we ganged up on her and reported her to personnel and eventually got her fired. Did you know that if everyone in an workplace agrees that the boss needs to be fired and they report this to personnel that personnel is obligated to investigate? The place I worked was a hospital and we only had 4 employees in this office and 1 of them was the boss and I now have my pension from this hospital because we got this woman fired. She was hell bent on harassing all 3 of us for absolutely nothing at all. But we turned the tables on her.

I often feel like a leper at my workplace. I've been bullied for 24yrs I can say it's truly ruined my life,devastated my confidence ruined my health. I'm still there - why??!?

My mother was a screamer & a constant critic. She would 'strike' whenever I was vulnerable. Always. I grew up feeling paralyzed. When I went into the military and encountered a boss who was a bully I reverted back to my previous behavior of being paralyzed. Fortunately, that was 20+ years ago and I have developed strategies on assertiveness. However, I am so happy to have found your channel and can't wait to learn more!

Yes, this is good. I have known all of them. I find the statement about the bully being able to change tactics, even within the same meeting, to be so true. And the types here apply not only to the workplace but also to the way that bullying can be enacted in the classroom. There was a science teacher- young, handsome, knowledgeable, efficient, self-righteous, utterly without humour, and with no compassion for those who for one reason or another, were struggling. He never actually SCREAMED; his voice was venomous and his comments corrosive. He had it within his power to destroy a student's future employment by whispering behind their back.....so he did. When he withheld, by refusing to have a child in the class, it was, of course, the child who was in dire need of positive affirmation. If he found anything to praise in a student's work, then that student would go into a state of jitters, knowing that their achievement would be used, within the following sentence, to humiliate someone who had done less well. How does a person in their early twenties, get to be such an intimidating monster? His efficiency pleased his superiors. He rose up the ladder fast, and was soon headmaster of a large school. He died young.

If someone at work is extra nice to you and says they have your back, beware. Sometimes the nicest people get the job you should have had. Work is very competitive; and sometimes you cannot trust those who seem like they are your good friends. Haters are adept at disguising their hatred. Competition for jobs and money has separated lifelong friends; and other work colleagues, when one tosses the other under the bus. Like the old song says, smiling faces tell lies.

let's stop bullying by making a new law against bullying

WOW!!! great job on nailing down a BULLY BOSS!!!

Thank you for sharing! Thank you for being courageous to talk about these ongoing types of bullies at work environments. On point on so many levels. Thank you , thank you !!! I have experienced all of these types of misconductive behavior, while the new manager whom I am to report to have been in a long time conflict my previous manager. My previous manager wrote a very negative annual evaluation where my credibility has been distorted. Now I am like a chess pawn where the new manager is trying to deceptively use my experience to build a case to report on the previous manager. Previous manager has his trusted advisor ( aka admin assist) to report All doings, reject All of my ideas and questionings, and she doesn't answer any questions I may have...she leaves me hanging looking like a fool during chats. She is cold, distance, answer with one word answers, and plays the dumb card when the new manager asks for input...this is the culture that was exemplified ' good mentorship' and was highly appraised from my previous manager. It boils my blood and there is no justice!!! All at the same time, the previous manager asked me to report the new Manager's behavior so that he can bud a case against him and report. I am not protected, so I am trying to stay clear of the both managers way. Oh gosh, I feel like I am in a mess with two unprofessional managers who are trying leverage on subordinates to climb the ladder. I have got to find a better place for safety ground. I have exhausted my patience and have to remain professional at all times, and I believe in high integrity. I would have nightmares about my work and getting punished in my dreams, waking up terrified, and feeling at a loss of where did I go wrong. It is comforting and a relief to hear you bring this types of misconductive behavior into light!!! Can there be anything done?

As a therapist told me in the aftermath of a successful workplace mobbing, "Look at the lengths they took to shut you up." * Twenty years ago, I was a 20+ year civilian employee in a law enforcement agency. I was mobbed to serve as an example to the other employees of what would happen to them if they disrespected the detective sergeant & a few detectives who were under investigation by the state attorneys office & agency for felony misconduct on the job. PS. While there was no justice on the job, pretty much everyone involved eventually ended their own careers by just being themselves to bullies that were bigger than they were.