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"Happiness is not something you need to achieve. You can still feel happy during the process of achieving something " -Kim Namjoon

The secret to happiness is learning to be in the present moment.

“When a person can't find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure.” ― Viktor E. Frankl

And that’s how my lunch break became a meaningful break 🥰

A lot of unhappiness stems from a lack of awareness within, and not having a northstar of your life 🌱

"Focusing on what you can control". I totally agree with eveything Aileen said here. Most of all I highlight that part, we need to focus on what we can control rather than what we can't.

"Happiness is a journey of small gifts of joy and smiles". Such an inspiration, love ya Aileen !💜

Lavendaire channel is just growing and spreading positivity all over the world .....

I really like the part where you explain that Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs has to be commented because the catergories can be different from each individual. Sometimes, the need of self-accomplishment (put at the top) is more fondamental than financial security. Very interesting to create our own hierarchy of needs !

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Lately I’ve been asking myself why I haven’t felt fulfilled in so long and this video just popped up. A coincidence? I don't think so. THANK YOU

Happiness is the product of our outer and inner environment. Even if everything around us is perfect, we still may never be happy. Happiness comes from within.

It's so true. The beauty of the present moment. When we just let the 'I' dissolve, and we trust in the now. We trust the creator, this beautiful force that lies inside of all of us.😍

I haven't looked into the hierarchy of needs in so long. It's really interesting how it got developed in the expanded version! I definitely struggled with self value and worth, but I really feel like that's changing for me so much this past 2 years. Now I'm currently struggling with Safety. This was so helpful, thank you!

I honestly didn't known about maslow's hierarchy of needs especially about the "aesthetic need" I didn't know that aesthetic could be a need but now that I think about it I think I do have the need for aesthetic. Thank you Aileen again for this video I love your content so much!! 😭💜 Lets all do our best to feel happy and fulfilled! 😊

Shout out to all new KZfaqrs and viewers, I love you

After I tried your "what makes me happy?" , I tried to think more deeply and suddenly I cried. I don't have many things that make me happy. but I am grateful for what I received in this life. Thanks Ailee

'You dont need a reason to be happy, choose to be happy' ❤️😍🥰

In my pedagogic studies the hirearcy of needs has thaught me one important thing: I child can't learn it they don't feel safe. When they are struggling with learning, you must first make sure that the child feels safe, then after that, they have the mind space to begin learning and growing.

Growing Up🥺 Glowing Up🧚‍♀️

This whole year I've dedicated to self growth & personality improvement , this is the year when I realized my true essence when I came into spirituality. I feel I'm getting fulfilled at every level . This is the year I found you answering exactly the question I was asking universe about. I learnt & realized & accepted & changed so many things about me through introspection. When I came across your worksheets I was super super grateful now I know what exactly to ask myself to grow. Thank you Aileen❤️

Aileen, I so appreciate all the positivity you put out in the world. Do you ever think about the ripple effect your work has on the world? Just watching your videos helps me to be more engaged and kind throughout my day. 💕

Omg, you are looking like a cherry blossoms flower.🌸🌸

You don't know how you have helped me through a very bad phase in my life. I will always be grateful to you.. Keep doing the good work... 🌼🌼🌼

Thank you so much for caring! Blessings to you! 😷🙏🙂

True happiness comes from within. When we are happy despite our external circumstances, we come to understand that we are in control of how we feel at all times :)

I want to thank you for helping me make my life more worthy .Thanks Aileen Xu .

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Glad I came across this channel, lots of videos on how to raise vibrations and become happier💜

Knowledge is the best tool against fear and feeling unsafe..

I'm struggling with the level of Esteem. I used to be a bright student in school but now in college, with all the competition and not being able to do upto the mark like before, with time I have lost all my self confidence and even if I knew I'd do well in a particular exam, somehow I just couldn't make it. I started procrastinating a lot in these years but before I used to be a lot sincere. I've been working a lot with self love since last couple of months and still healing. It still seems a long way to be back with the same believe and confidence, that I can do better and be good in studies. I just hope I can be back soon. Your videos have helped me a lot. Lots of love to you❤️❤️

It is true that our basic needs can come into play into our happiness but like you said I think it's mostly a state of mind or mindset. Like I feel like many who lack in their basic needs or don't have them consistently are more prone to looking to the spirituality/religion in the transcendence level to find inner peace and joy despite what's going on around them or what they may be lacking because of their inner peace and faith that keeps them going and appreciate what they do have and experience. I love how you keep reiterating to make changes in what you can control which is ourselves and to go forth looking to do what we can despite what obstacles (life) come in our way.

There's also the Ikigai Self actualization pyramid which I LIVE by!

I love your content! You seem like such a centered intelligent woman. Thank you for this. I think this hierarchy should be imperative in all of our lives in order to reach that transcendence, but apart from that, let’s focus on living in the moment of now and awareness! I’m also glad two more levels were added! Those are so important as well! Love and light to you!💜✨

Hey Aileen! I love your videos! You're an inspiration! Stay happy & Healthy!! Loads of love from India 🇮🇳

Thank you for using this platform to change someone’s life! You’re an angel 😇

Your channel has become my favourite of all KZfaq. I love your energy, clean heart happy soul

I've been waiting for a week for your video.. you just made my day💜💜💜💜💜

Honestly, I needed this, for the past 4 months I have been creating multiple educational infographics every day to help students study online throughout these difficult times. Yesterday was the first day I did not create a new graphic, and I went to bed feeling terrible and anxious. I really needed this video to start off a new and better day, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

She deserves a lot more subscribers! ☺She inspires so many people💖 and make our lives a billion times better!😉 I was missing you babe! 🥰 Love you as always😍.

Just love you , girl you are doing a great job . You will reach great heights in life and be really successful . For all the good things you are doing and the positivity you are spreading in the world , the almighty will definitely bless you and your family

"Focusing on what you can control". totally agree, Thanks lavendaire.

Right now I’m struggling with Esteem as well. With a lot of tragic family events that recently happened and being pregnant , I just don’t feel like I’m good enough or can’t do anything right. Holding on to any ounce of happiness has been difficult. Thank you so much for the video! It really brightened my morning

I get so excited when she posts because I already know that it's going to be so good! 💙

I think happiness is in all of the small moment of life :)

I was really waiting for your video. Recently I lost my grandpa and I'm currently searching for happiness. This doesn't make sense but listening to your video makes me calm and silences my negative thoughts. Love you Aileen!!

Omg Aileen! I literally just posted up a video about my career journey and my made-up 'maslow's hierarchy of CAREER needs' 😂 I've noticed how negatively I've looked at my own career - how time after time, despite changing careers, I still felt like my 'needs' weren't fulfilled. When you spoke about 'growth needs' though, it made me realise that this whole time, it's not like my needs weren't fulfilled, it was that I had fulfilled a need and was looking to satisfy the next! You've put a positive spin on this and I'm sending you much love for it!

Hi Aileen, I thought I would just take some time to thank you. I usually watch all of your videos without commenting. But I need to tell you how inspiring you are ! You help so many people to feel better, and we will never thank you enough for that ❤️ lots of love from France, merci :) !

Thanks Aileen. I am somewhat familiar with the original Maslow Hierarchy of Needs but not the expanded version. My pyramid is interchangeable especially the growth level. I also believe happiness and fulfillment is inner feeling not just by choice.

You're a beautiful person!💜

Happiness overloaded when I saw your chanal notification

Hi Lavilove Aileen! I hope you are doing well. Thank you for being an inspiration to me and other ladies too. ❤

Thank you, Aileen. I didn't know the Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. It is very helpful. I think most of us are now going through a time of uncertainty and feel like many of our needs aren't being met and fall into the idea that everything is out of our control when maybe it's not entirely true. What is true though, is that we are experiencing a challenging moment and that is ok if sometimes we don't feel ok. Sending you love

Honestly this is an amazing video girl

I recently stumbled upon your video on how to figure out what you want to do with your life, and I loved it so much I watched your other videos as well. I'm just 15, but I agree with a lot of things you said and I'm glad to learn more, things I did not know, or things that change my mindset. I just want to thank you. your videos get me thinking and they're giving me so much motivation to get the best out of my life, and improve as a person. ❤️

I have no words , Aileen I am very grateful that I found u and trust me ur helping a lot of people . The content is very practical and ur voice is really soothing , I am sure that the exercises u have recommended is goin to help me a lot and another thing I love is how u give ur very own opinion at the end . It just makes the whole video more natural and makes me feel we are listening to a right and experienced person . JUST KEEP GOING and ima SUPPORT you ❤️

Thank you for sharing. Your knowledge in the subject and viewpoints are pretty well. The moment I think on a point you mention it. Like for example, the needs cannot necessarily be in order and I always used to wonder the same when I studied in classes Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs but this updated version I learnt from you today. Thank you. I also feel the transcende needs actually liberates us and makes us feel more empowered and confident when we are able to be of service to others even in a small way. I also believe that self care first is imp. Its important to fill your cup first then others but being of service to others is why we are here on the planet. Thank you Lavendaire.

Her videos gives my life value😭She is soooo positive😍keep going❤️❤️

I tried flipping the pyramid upside down. Now, I don't mean to minimize the reality or importance of our physical needs and what a struggle it is for many people to feel safe. However, I found it much easier to work on these things in my life when I started from a place of transcendence. I'd love to hear others' thoughts on this idea! I realize it is definitely a more privileged perspective to take but as someone who lacked a lot of safety, love, and esteem in their life, this perspective was extremely freeing.

Take a moment for appreciating her video skills😍So aesthetic and calm-full🥰

Couldn’t get over how your skin is glowing in this video

it would be really interesting if everyone put the 8 levels into a different more personal order. I love all the levels but the higher the pyramid gets the less I identify with its order. I looooove this video, you are so calm and aesthetic 💖 I think I am currently working on mastering the fourth level „esteem“ 😊

I love you when I see you I fell inspired

oh yes! loved this so much! 🍒💕

Been sharing this with others, but you’ve explained it SO much better that I ever could 🙌 Mahalo & shared 💗

She inspired me to create my own blog in the future like her 🥰

Connection makes me happy, be it with self, family, friends, strangers or nature. The sense of being able to connect with something or someone, that makes me happy.

Can u make updated version of the foll. A. How i organise my life B. Home tour C. Desk tour D. Ur journal connection

I think a person can have only the self-actualization and spirituality needs met and be very happy. It’s about mindset with so many unemployed living in tents or cars yet enjoying simple things like meditation and laughter.

You always light up my mood 😌♥️💜♥️💜

Just exactly what we all need, right? Yeyy! Thanks, Aileen! 😍❤

You have an amazing style❤️ I love the way you dress and embrace your natural beauty, you are my inspo❤️ long hair looks so stunning on you!

Thank you, Aileen I really needed this and I am soo grateful to you for it your videos come at the perfect time.

Aileen, you are an inspiration! Thank you for posting this uplifting video! I totally agree with what you said, it's definitely about finding joy in the process.

This video saves me,I'm actually crying,and I opened the video to feel better,and magically,I am. Hahah thanks Aileen

knowledge is power for sure! I've gained much of my confidence and lack of fear in situations, especially with everything that is going on in 2020, simply due to the knowledge I have gained from my hunger to learn more.

To be happy you should be satisfied and grateful for what you already have and also for what you are going to have

I just started studying tourism management and got hyped when I saw Maslows hierarchy of needs. Just knowing that I understand something hyped me up lol

Your videos always realign my energy and get me so positive and motivated. Thank you 💜✨

and alsoooo you are so eloquent you speak very beautifully and clear 🤍

I love the reasoning behind these videos, it's real empowerment not idealising a lifestyle or obtaining things or being an identified with a group that's better than others, those things are fake happiness. 😖

Learned Maslow Hierarchy in university but haven't thought about it in years. Definitely think the expanded version is so much more in depth.

Ur videos are honestly the most inspiring..I am so glad that I found your channel..Wishing you all love and success

Could not have come at a better time! Thank you

you make me cry right now. thankyou 😭❤

This was so much needed ❤ Thank you favourite 😇

I don't believe in searching for happiness, I believe happiness is in this moment, in being present!

this is definitely the pick me up I needed this morning!! I've been struggling with feeling fulfilled and defining success and what makes me happy

May God bless you ♡ , you taught me about life more than my ppl did . Thank you infinitely

I've been in a rut lately and this is actually super helpful - thank you 💙

I learned this in business management,but I never considered how I could apply this to my life.Thanks for the wake up call

Hi Aileen Hope you are doing greaat Just wantee to tell you that whatever you are doing for the world is an amazing job You are always there in my prayers May all the forces be with you and support you You have helped me change my life and bring to the proper track when I needed to . Thanks a lot May the Almighty bless u girl!!

Needed right now for self awareness and self care

Thousands of hearts to tell you that you're my idol .......

I need this, thank you and love u!💜

And to add to being present as a key to happiness, we must detach from material possessions and emotions in relationships.

Was waiting for her soo much .. Just loved this video and Now again wait starts for her another video 💓

Thanks for sharing the expanded hierarchy of needs! I hadn't heard of that one before.

Your podcast and workshops and videos have helped me so much in my self growth process sending you so much love 🥺♥️and thank you ❤️