The New 5 Second Rule: Redefining the First Impression | Quita Christison

The New 5 Second Rule: Redefining the First Impression | Quita Christison | TEDxPortsmouth

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4 жыл бұрын

First impressions are the unconscious categorization of people. In order to change the outcome of first impressions, Quita Christison is redefining the "5 Second Rule" with a new 5 Second Rule: STOP, See The Other Person. Quita’s two competing passions are theater and health care. She’s been able to merge these two passions at Next Step, an organization that provides teens and young adults living with chronic illness experiences and opportunities to learn life skills and build community. She uses expressive arts to develop “adulting” workshops. She’s a true people person and always happy to discover anything and everything while sharing a meal. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@experience42 4 жыл бұрын

“Maybe they think I’m standing in a hole” 😂 you have a great sense of humour!!

@PatrycjaJot 4 жыл бұрын

“First impressions are the points of no return” - I struggle with this statement. I absolutely agree with the fact that we need to STOP and “adjust” the initial impression as it might be completely wrong, even hurtful. However, there is definitely a return from it, we just need an open mind and, as you say, not act right away on the initial judgement.

@theprimagen 4 жыл бұрын

What a great speaker... really enjoyed this one.. was able to take something valuable while having a good laugh.

@psteinem 4 жыл бұрын

Superbe presentation. Loved the self deprecating humor, not made at the expense of others, yet twice as funny. A star is born

@jjo5375 4 жыл бұрын

I like this. Should be taught in first grade and every grade of school...including medical, educational....Life's schools!

@TomiwaAdegbola Жыл бұрын

This is brilliant, insightful, cheerful and beautiful. I was engaged throughout, and I surely will remember STOP, See The Other Person (STOP)!. Bravo!

@More-clients-less-stress Жыл бұрын

The category my brain wants to put you in is "BRILLIANT SPEAKER"! Thank you for a wonderful speech.

@sweet717tbd2 4 жыл бұрын

Hey Quita, great video, glad we ran into you randomly at a restaurant on a trip to Boston last year (i think?)! Enjoyed our chats and bonding with you and your significant other as we bounced around to a few local breweries!

@hebamadi265 4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant I love her energy she is so nice

@aleenadavis1801 4 жыл бұрын

She redefined first impressions for me, truly.. I now see more of the perons own identity and find it easier to identify with them.

@psteinem 4 жыл бұрын

WOW . A truly awesome presentation. Thank you for teaching us how to Listen, Learn, Respect.

@elenabelacastre7789 4 жыл бұрын

THAT WAS GREAT!! 🦉👁👁🦉 I CERTAINLY DIDN'T NOTICE UR HEIGHT AT ALL! UR RIGHT, , U ARE WELL PROPORTIONED!!

@brahimassafar3687 4 жыл бұрын

One of the best speeches since I subscribed in this channel but I did not expect it to be that good at first 5 seconds.I'll work on it thank u

@enjoylife9995 4 жыл бұрын

wow😍 brilliant speaker👍👍 vibes, energy is surreal and she is the kind of person who enters in room n glows the room with her presences... I would be blessed to have friends like her!!

@tanyabuckner2891 4 жыл бұрын

You might be small in stature but delivered a big impactful message.

@martinmason5008 3 жыл бұрын

This is superb. I'm here better late than never. I'll take all of this on board. Also seriously, the comedy clubs will be all the better, when reopened, for this young ladies wit, timing, and delivery. Very good, and alas I do need to keep reminding myself of the fundamentals.

@abhishekjain5995 4 жыл бұрын

Great speech. thanks a lot for sharing

@samanthabanya1349 4 жыл бұрын

this was great! really nice to listen to

@user-vw1kl6um1m 4 ай бұрын

You're awesome for speaking on this I'm a small person myself. So I relate so much.❤

@PawanKumar-tu6ti 4 жыл бұрын

What a awesome experience she shared with world to make them think that what the world really wants....Ted talks .. ideas worth spreading...and For us it's worth watching ...

@tathagatize 4 жыл бұрын

You are amazing Quita ✌

@mrhallman64 2 жыл бұрын

Great sense of humor!!

@gersonyamada5366 4 жыл бұрын

Gratitude 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

@ig0ddessify 4 жыл бұрын

That was Beautiful!

@2901nc 4 жыл бұрын

You had wonderful adults in your life when you were growing up, and you make good use of those interactions. Congratulations.

@DavidHoodEdinburgh 4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant.

@delont1986 4 жыл бұрын

What we project is so powerful.

@kkaisa6685 4 жыл бұрын

i thought this might be a video that lets me eat food of the ground guilt free.

@ilytswg 4 жыл бұрын

So did I. Gueas there is more 5 second rules.....LOL

@sensegrove 4 жыл бұрын

Same lol

@ropy89 4 жыл бұрын

AHAHAHAHA ! X'D thanks for the laughs man :'D good comment and a creative one !

@chiamakankorikailechukwu9189 4 жыл бұрын

I was not the only one. Thanks God

@boldnbutiful_ 2 жыл бұрын

Lol

@LearnwithMariyam 4 жыл бұрын

Amazing video

@AiyanaT93 4 жыл бұрын

LOVE YOU QUITA!! ❤️🌻

@vivilonrane1330 4 жыл бұрын

@The Rockall Times yea she does

@DjediFemi9of1 7 ай бұрын

This was a beautiful presentation I am going to save this video so that the next time I have a speech or storytelling to do I can refer to your style. Really,it was absolutely, most awesome-ly, beautifully presented, thank you for the inspiration - oh and I also learned something valuable as well! Next time I meet somebody, I won't forget to S.T.O.P and See The Other Person

@becomingadreamcatcher 4 жыл бұрын

🛑 STOP. See the other person. And after we learned how to do this perhaps the next time we look in the mirror we can also STOP and also give ourselves the benefit of the doubt. 💚

@kunjattasvlog4010 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@PrayWithMeDaily81 4 жыл бұрын

Let's keep developing ourself

@sadabahmed1649 4 жыл бұрын

Amazing 😍🙌👌

@gaillewis5472 4 жыл бұрын

I noticed her voice more than anything else, then asked myself if she was little based on its resonance. Then she said it.

@TheHappyYouChannel Жыл бұрын

Time to make a positive first impression with the new 5 second rule! 🤩✨

@alisherkhasanov2632 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, awesome, I just was talking to my son similar thing before his bed time. ...Mercury in retrograde, must be it..

@haticebiket7067 4 жыл бұрын

Yahh so kind lady 🙏

@medineyasar6184 4 жыл бұрын

Hatice Biket Sen türkmüsün, senin de mi bu hastaliktan var ?

@haticebiket7067 4 жыл бұрын

@@medineyasar6184Evet Türk'üm tabi ki. Hayır çok şükür bu hastalığım yok , kadının konuşması stili çok hoş çok net. Beğendim 👍 Neden böyle bir soru sorma gereği duydunuz ki ?

@pyschologygeek 4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes you need patience in order to find true happiness. It won't come fast and it won't come easy, but it will be worth it.

@englishwithhanifkhan6501 4 жыл бұрын

Respect is better than apology that's what I've learned from this video.

@abcgamer2012 4 жыл бұрын

Nice.

@walid2029 4 жыл бұрын

Nice

@jambuvantavhale15 4 жыл бұрын

It is always see that to judge poeple is our prejudices about our past experiences, and our brain use it's past references, so this video may be change people to judge by only seeing then in first apperence. It will help to STOP.....

@gartheligon140 4 жыл бұрын

Standing alone I couldn't tell she's that tall.

@asthajha5041 2 ай бұрын

She reminds me of Bernadette from tbbt

@AdamShaiken 4 жыл бұрын

In 1992, I shaved half of my face as a fashion statement so to speak and I wore that look for several months. The reason for this was trifold. First, it was my sociological experiment...Do people really look at you and fully notice or take you wholly in ? Secondly, it often provided entre into an informative exchange with those that did notice and further acknowledged the difference and thirdly, was meant to be a personal statement of my opinion as to the schizophrenic state of politrips at that time. If you will recall, Perot was in then he was out then he was in again...blah blah blah !!!

@HowellConsultations 4 жыл бұрын

Almost 2020! The next 2 months are all about being dedicated to your craft and to yourself. Hope our channel helps!

@AceHardy 4 жыл бұрын

👑

@m...1045 4 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👍

@ivonneedithl 4 жыл бұрын

S.T.O.P 🛑 See The Other Person!!! 🛑

@4thi13 2 жыл бұрын

nobody commented in 10 months and my teacher made this an assignment to watch so wassup

@giga_chad_cosmic 2 жыл бұрын

Your teacher made this an assignment ??

@amicst 4 жыл бұрын

SEE the other person!

@amicst 4 жыл бұрын

@The Rockall Times yes, exactly.

@mr.h5436 4 жыл бұрын

As a 6'3" man, logger, roughneck, I sort of was tired being looked at by 4'11" women as another notch on their belt. But I got over it.

@Lianpe98 4 жыл бұрын

In my experience first impressions are always wrong

@jareknowak8712 4 жыл бұрын

My experience: above 99% right. Not joking.

@junjied1875 4 жыл бұрын

Stop, see the other person. The world doesn’t need an apology, it needs more respect. Every person deserves respect, all it takes is 5 seconds!

@evab2132 4 жыл бұрын

I don't think so. All these psychopats sociopaths, narcissists....don't deserve respect. 5 seconds judgment is wrong. Person need more then 5 second make a judgment, without need, to apologies later.

@junjied1875 4 жыл бұрын

Eva Gabor safe to reach out with good intentions and allow time to filter out different behaviours, values and personalities - those could also be identified sooner once you’ve met enough of them. ;)

@kayketterling5133 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome Quita! You are so articulate. We ALL live in this one big world. Love and respect each other (S-T-O-P!) Love it!!

@umbratrickster7774 4 жыл бұрын

Wait... this isnt about food

@idealoading 4 жыл бұрын

She has good sence of humor επισης κανω επιστημονικα βιντεο μπορει να σε ενδιαφερει

@ahmadabdullah008 4 жыл бұрын

STOP 🛑 See The Other PERSON .. Masha’ALLAH.... I love that ❤️

@flyme2009 4 жыл бұрын

dont bring your islam here

@carlosmanuelcabreraalvarad4365 4 жыл бұрын

Why that isn't spoken at schools? Teach kids about that, and problem solved. They grow up with it

@user-bj7bz1vg6q 4 жыл бұрын

رائع

@user-bj7bz1vg6q 4 жыл бұрын

@@Sneed_formerly_chucks nice

@ih271 4 жыл бұрын

She got Chariiismaaa

@ih271 4 жыл бұрын

@The Rockall Times wtf?

@defendliberty1289 4 жыл бұрын

Naming something of biological/ neurological origin as "cultural" influence and trying to "redefine" it to an arbitrary standard? Sure, that will work.

@defendliberty1289 4 жыл бұрын

@The Rockall Times I guess so.

@owen9510 4 жыл бұрын

@The Rockall Times okay boomer.

@englishwithhanifkhan6501 4 жыл бұрын

Need subtitle also to understand easily

@darrenwalshe8513 4 жыл бұрын

Judging is an ego trait xx

@darrenwalshe8513 4 жыл бұрын

???

@Kdrama-699 4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like selena gomez

@albertobozzetto8939 4 жыл бұрын

Delicious.

@wildedibles819 4 жыл бұрын

Hi 5.... Person....

@Hoxgene 4 жыл бұрын

Add these categories next time: Hit-able faces/buck foi/not today/mama mias You're welcome

@wildedibles819 4 жыл бұрын

The Adhd behaviors we can put our foot in our mouths a lot.. Makes sense ansestors judging quickly to make quick safe not safe etc... Stop and think about it... I'm thinking more before taking.. Some times it's hard remember to stop.. We will remember better... Like my kid learned snap... Stop... Now... And plan I think it was it helped my Adhd child... Stop is better for us adults stop is already in our brains

@Esther_In_SoCal 4 жыл бұрын

ummm heavily "borrowed" from Mel Robbins who has millions of viewers of her TEDtalk and what turned into a book called The 5 second rule. Why not come up with something original instead?

@psteinem 4 жыл бұрын

Maybe if you had taken 5 seconds to STOP you have have noticed the title of her presentation is "The NEW 5 second rule"