Andreea gosh your mum was probably right - my husband made me high just being next to him... but I think it wasn’t sustainable -strong, steady and stable sounds better now.

@@lornacharles9354 Are you still with your husband now?

My favorite auntie told me the right one feels like being home when he hugs you.

Wow great advice.... Thanks for sharing .... Will defiantly keep in mind when searching for my partner.

That's the man I married, he was always there for me during my bad times from my car crash to struggling with unemployment.

Future SLP isn't that true! Most of my relationships are getting so much better, except for the abusive ones and those are coming to a screeching halt, because when I love myself I'm too emotionally strong to be easy pickings for an abuser. And they don't want that. And I don't care to stay.

@@olivest509 I've been involved with good people whose closest family members were verbally/emotionally abusive types. What I noticed was sometimes abuse will come from these people I'm friends with because they don't know how to protect their friends from an abusive family member(s). They have weak or dysfunctional boundaries and sometimes I've experienced those poor boundaries destroy their outside-family relationships. It's a hard choice to de-friend people because they allow their closest family member(s) to harass you, but I've had to do it a couple of times. A good community is one with good boundaries, which is a thread of the threads of love. peace

BS. You need to get over your self.

cheaze69 aww you're such a sad little boy

Personal health Is 1:st Priority *(Psychlogical or Physical)* ------------- Should always; Be first - No matter your field of job/work

hmmm reaaly?

@@xanderpreem1782 I would not advise any woman to follow the ted speaker on dating and marriage advice.

Or you can marry Jesus

@@sharonelele1985 That’s the nun’s life. Nothing new. That lifestyle isn’t for every woman.

@@solid8403 Its Named agape.

@DJ I agree. I have some work to do.

So true I m learning to love me

Yesss same !!!

You really can't look to others to "complete you."

Mine too..

@@kiewr its valuable for everyone and somit right!!!

I'm 56: and that lit up everything I have ever learned and put a bow on it! All lessons learned being a gift I gave myself. And, I had a ton of loving support, because I asked for help when I needed it and still do. Aloha, Claire

Agree 💯

I screenshoted when she said that.

Love isn't a feeling but can include feelings. Love is being committed to that person no matter what it takes even up to death. If marriage is based on feelings, it will never stand the test of time.

@@dyrandwagner8089 My perspective is that Love is indissociable from feelings..but it takes more than that for a marriage to sustain (commitment, courage, ..).

When you are committed to a greater purpose, you will either back down or you will stand strong. I know what love is. I know what commitment is. I know who my God is. I serve Him and He commands selfless devotion to Him and your spouse/children. People are not perfect but my Christ is. Thank you for taking the time to reply.

Also, debates and input from other people helps expand your thinking. It is nourishing to have civil conversation.

That's the most important thing! Be the chooser...and know the most important qualities for you in a partner!

Big mistake! You don't look for happiness, you create it! Always looking for happiness is the reason this divorcee ruined her family three times.

@@EmilMToft As a senior male, I applaud your public honesty and "hard earned insight." But maybe I sense some guilt too. You (we) always do the best we can, at all moments, given our level of awareness at the time. I hope you have forgiven yourself and learned valuable lessons to rely on in order to make your dreams come true❤

Depends on your flaws I believe people should always trying to be better in a good way sum of our flaws can be a hindrance in a relationship like for example cheating is a flaw are u gonna accept that flaw and embrace it and say I'm ok with it or are u gonna try to fix that flaw

@@OsfafaNewton12345 I believe for it to be recognized as a flaw, you've made up your mind not to make it happen again, same as 'repenting from it'. However, people might choose to bring it up every now and again but so far you've grown past that and never going back to it, then you don't have to be bothered what people think of you anymore. Good or bad no matter who you are, people will still talk, once you're at peace with yourself you won't be bothered about the sticks or stones thrown at you.

That's Donald Trump.

Can you give example?

Common sense.

How did her actions affect the three men she was married to?

She got 3 houses

​@@cneuhauser1well she said she's on okay terms with them, so obviously it's not that she or or her exes did anything wrong, it just wasn't working and they understood that, and they handled the divorce maturely.

I think what you said was full of wisdom!!😊

Pathetic way to approach life ruining 3 mens life and now owning their property 😅

Pedro........what happened to your last girlfriend?

@@sylviacarlson3561 lol

how meta!

This is healthy, u doing good

At least she didn't say they all live in Texas.

Nice way to keep each other or at least trying 😋

@Andréia Cardoso is it ok if your man is bit feminine but yet romantic and cares for you.....

@Andréia Cardoso ahh!!😊 Am so happy to hear that

Aaron -_- it’s up to you, if you like feminine or masculine, or some other kind of man. You’re the one that’s in a relationship with them. As long as that’s what YOU want.

Lifelong dating can be tiring, but recognising when they ( your partner, spouse, friend, lover) make a effort towards: growing, building, and strengthening your relationship ( give credit, encouragement, boost, kindness, or complement) when they make one, will positively impact in your relationship ( be it with spouse, lover, friend, family). Most people ( including me) don’t think of vacation as a date, but it can do more to grow, build, and strengthen any relationship, more so than any candle lit dinner or flowers. Plus infinite amounts of treasured memories, inside jokes, “ remember they time that thing happened” moments, and pictures to remember during times when you hit temporary bumps in the relationship road, as most every relationship always does.

Same

Same here.... I loved that.

I touch myself enough as it is though, and I'm still single

Jordan Peterson also teach that. Makes some sense, too ! Have a nice day, everyone :)

"love your neighbor as you love yourself" - Matt. 22:39.

if you dont know how you feel about yourself then you're not ready to have a romantic relationship! this woman married 3 times and surely dated many more guys still sounds immatured!

@@mujtababarati9423 💅

imagine the carpet ! remember, hair is just dead stuff - yeah DEAD stuff. all those people carrying around years worth of dead stuuf like dreadlocks, pee u, what a stink, death

Yes , I clicked just to see her hair, is it natural or an extension ? 3 times divorce with her family history makes her experience material, I m all ears. But I m filtering as a christian. Ok. At the end , you can t love others nor let them love you, if you don t have self respect love and esteem for yourself. I m happy for you, hopefully the 3 previous men are ok too.

I knowww! Sooo beautiful!

omg yassssssss

This straight-haired chick adores naturally curly hair! She’s beautiful!

Yes!

Power

That is very important.

Siria Souza me feel miserable with his presence

@@Reem-jy5kl too bad! Wish you the best!

Right..

This one nearly made me shed a tear. So true!!

TripHop B.C. beautiful!

So true!!

Props to that

how is your relationship life going?

100% agree

I agree with you as myself work to overcome them with a help of a psychologist.

Exactly, Epo. It's a little bit more than simply marrying the wrong people. Aloredi's dismissive remark wasn't called for.

No she left because wanted to. That is it.

True

I ended up marrying my family. The same people I fled from.

Underated comment. Brilliant!

My Ears Got Youth System I loved when she said that and I’ve got to live by it!

This comment is on another level.

This is true 🙂

@@RAIJOHNSEN you can do it with patience within your spirit

And how much money too! Divorces can bankrupt anyone.

Thanks I'm 22 n it's a custom here to marry and have babies by ur 20

I am 21 and really needed this

Right! Such a gem 💎

Knowing and actually practising it are two different things. It's easier said than done.

WOW!! So very well put.

❤​@@glennandric6846

It’s never too late. That’s what I’m learning ❤

YES YOU CAN.😀 CONGRATS GIRL!!

This is incredible 👏👏👏

Oh true

that’s so true and really well said ❤️ tysm i will print it as a quote and hang on my wall

Nice

Can be applied to people actions jobs situations... Like I have kept taking jobs I realky didn't want!

and you can still eat cake without icing.

@@TheMemoryPolice I totally agree!!!!!!!

Love this!!

sometimes I buy icing and just eat that

Wow this is great!!

Great one, yeah!

I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯

Whtsaap him**

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same kind? ye i see, if you accept your charackter "x" than there will be another "x" out there who cant accept himself and doesnt feel good in his skin... so he wants to feel good in your skin because you can accept his "x" and your x . and thats why people have sex. imma right?

there is no choice on your heart, the right person will be next to you and you will never notice or even care, there is no choice, you don't choose your hearth does. there is no will power over it no matter how hard you try..

I got seven likes! Woo-hoo!

Make it 8! Haha

how are you pretty?i like you,i wanna know you better..

Look up here on KZfaq "Michael Todd Relationship Goals".. ! Changed my life. I watch the series every 6 months now. EXCELLENT!

@@Hermione617 just watched the first episode, it was eye-opening. thank you for recommending it to me!

It can only help you if you are insecure to the point of marrying some guy just because he likes/protects you.

Because You Did!!!

yes

Mondy M. very good

I don't know. It sounds almost like you're saying a state of near-perfection must come first. Given my own family's experience I am to question that idea. The parents did not start off with the best of relations and especially my Mom had a fair number of issues. But the thing was she and they worked through them. It took many, many years but they have been married still to this day and that is over 30 years. Consider the average marriage only lasts 10 years, supposedly. I am not sure so much if actualized perfection is necessary at the outset as much as a sincere desire to want to make it work and also to want to perfect oneself. Perfection as process, not as achieved result (for true perfection won't be achieved anyway ever.) I suppose that though, still, of course, requires one to love oneself. And to know oneself, too. Yet both of those things require time.

mike4ty4 they didn't say you have to be perfect they said you have to be content with who you are and don't expect outside things to make you happy or fix you .love yourself and make yourself happy

Mondy M. Human in general, not women

Sophie Kozhemyako well said!!!!

Sophie Kozhemyako very true

Nim Boo Life doesn’t give you the people you desire it gives you the people you actually need for growth to be the best individual you can be! The people that come into our lives from friends to companions are either lessons of blessings. If we don’t get the lesson after it has been presented then we will continue to meet individuals exactly like the last individual until we learn that lesson and grow as a person.

Oh there,! that way, fabulous conclusion.

You mean Ikea

Simply said: If we learn from our mistakes we will make fewer of them as we grow older. We used to call that wisdom.

Facts

Marry me

Don't drink alcohol and don't consume drugs: Marry me.

@@mrs.paulschmetz3912 I am a pure person, pure and simple, I love healthy life and have a good heart

Its true

The person you really need to marry- Federal Reserve

Very perceptive, Zgnid.

Pretty sure this is spot on. Childhood relationships can totally mess with us even if we don't feel particularly hurt about them

agree!

you figured all that out after she exposed herself? hehe

Hmmm. I don't think it was so clear. Intelligent people often get stuck searching for life's true meaning and it does not necessarily have anything to do with trauma. She said so herself at the start of the video that she always thought life was love followed marriage followed by a baby carriage, but after she achieved all 3 levels she still wasn't happy. She was taught from an early age, like most women, that happiness comes from external factors such as getting married and having a child. However, she found out quickly that after you complete those goals, life continues after that and you then have to figure out what level 4 is. I think it is poor psychology to ignore the patient's own words and then slap on a projected theory, and it is an easy trap to fall into.

Daniel Omiyi Word. If you hate yourself, you'll share it with the partner. If you look at yourself with disgust, you'll share it with the partner. If you love pie...hmm...

Once I started trusting myself, I swear my whole body relaxed that much more, permanently. I didn't even realize how scared and tense I was before.

The fact that she broke the hearts of her husband's and gave her child an insecure life and can still bask in happiness tells me that she is selfish and disturbed.

Dyrand Wagner are you gonna diagnose her in every post? You are a clear case of the internet armchair psychiatrists that like to wrongly diagnose people after a 14 min video lol.

@@rebeeb1haha no, just responding to people who think she is an amazing woman for deciding to quit on her husband's and child. Marriage is sacred to me so I guess I am a bit passionate about it.

@@rebeeb1 Also, where have I been wrong? She just sincerely acts like she made the right decision to leave her husbands. I also have a lot of experience with children and adults who have come from the background she has as we have been involved with foster and adoptive ministry for children for many years. So I am not a stranger to what some of her circumstances can lead to.

@@dyrandwagner8089 Most people here are not resonating here with the part where she chose to leave her husbands. They are resonating with the idea of being willing to give oneself the emotional and material things you expect from our loved ones. It's about learning to relate with oneself with compassion and care as we are choosing to do the same for our partners, children or family. In her case, she is not just talking it in a superficial way. She has taken that message of self care to heart and builds a "relationship" with herself just like we'd build one with our partners or anybody else. I respect the sacredness of marriage too but sometimes you get really tired of hurting yourself and others that you make drastic decision to avoid the mistakes of your past at least in your future. In her case, it involved leaving couple of husbands. :)

Jessica Boisvenue GIRL I'M LITERALLY CRYING RN

But can you think of her 3 times breaking relationship?

Johnny Islam you clearly missed the point

Jessica Boisvenue omgggg my eyes instantly teared up ❤️ so amazing

Jade Fields lol

Jade Fields cool

I didnt get it tbh. Could you explain what she ment by line at the bank?

+Osman Kmbal it means if you are on a line at a bank or whatever you need to be patient. so you asked for patience and here it is for you. life puts you in situations which give you what you asked for. I hope this was clear enough.

Susan Isaac thanks

B💥💥M!

BAM!!!💥💥💥

Yes. That. That’s tough.

What have you done

Me too. How special

I found this really precious relationship in God's unconditional love for me. It's even more constant than I am able to provide for myself. And accepting that I am loved like that allows me to do this thing she was talking about- loving others where they're at. We aren't actually the most reliable things in the world to ourselves- sometimes we let ourselves down. So it's pretty cool being fully known and fully loved by the perfect, infallible one who created me. That's available to everyone. :)

Sarah Murchison This, this is what the world needs.

Same here 😢

I was always afraid of people leaving me and when she said that she would never leave herself, I realized that I will always be there for me too and that is all that I needed 😊

Her laughter covers pain but I love her. She is right.

I agree with you.

me too! ;)

Although i get your logic. This sounds almost like people in general assume that people who don't love themselves yet can't give love and are therefor by default broken or half. Sure it works like this for some people but to me it sounds like you'd call people broken a bit. If this helps certainly go for it but, don't take it as the norm please.

wish i knew about this earlier.

+Mike Schuurbiers not incapable just ineffective by contrast. the way you choose to give love may not be the way your partner interprets love. some people are okay without an identity of their own and develop it through a relationship with a more balanced individual. others do not and require tempering through closure, introspection, self appreciation, meditation. with a better relationship and understanding of self they also have the ability to share that level of development when their partner, friends or family. consequently it leads to better personal and working relationships and a better life especially if your partner is equally capable. However the States from time to time reflects this poorly as seen by example of crazy breakups where their means of closure is petty revenge generally involving some regrettable misdemeanor. that petty mindset may not stand true for you but it is the truth of several others.

stfu

Miles Mchugh wtf?

yer Miles... WTH?

"you're actually in love with your nemesis!" lol loved this.

"I'm actually in love with my nemesis" @.@

Always

Not the ones needing subtitles though (me)

Me😂

Me😉

Welcome to the world of overstimulation, our brains and receptors are on overdrive from social media and EMFs, we all have ADHD technically :D

Me. I even vowed to try that do oneday. The color, immediately. Wow

She's the best red head! I salute ms. lady!

Distracted yes. Gorgeous no.

Absolutely love it

Im annoyed by the audience noise.

How beautiful an analogy about being your own caretaker and nurturer. So true! Don't abuse yourself. Be gentle with your heart. I really liked reading that, thank you for sharing.

It could also be low self esteem from your partner, so you should evaluate who that person is before getting into a serious relationship with them because in return of them hurting on the inside they can turn around and hurt you.

Human Whale it’s easier to walk away... I on the other hand would want to try and help them instead of leave them so easily, like why kick a person when they are down. But everyone is different so thanks for your reply ❤️

verbose overconfidence also.

@@jerneenneshell7242 Thank you for your comment. And I just want to say that, as someone like myself who just this week started therapy for childhood trauma issues, and who has acted like someone else than who my partner has known for almost 4 years and at times recently I've been someone that I don't even like. And so yes, my self esteem/ speaking up for myself needs some work. But I'll tell you what, my relationship reached a whole new level of love that I never imagined and that is the feeling of unconditional love and security that comes.with it when, sometimes, you are at your "ugliest" and your partner is right by your side to be there while you brave the storm

Beautiful comment

Alilililiiii 🥰💃💃💃

Wonderfully put ❤️

I'd love to know how you've grown in the last year. What have you learned about yourself since you made this commitment?

Congratulations ❤️ I'm about to go buy myself a ring and climb a mountain. I hope I say yes! 😊

No person is an island. Without Loving and being Loved, there is only misery, pain, sorrow and a completely wasted life.

Yaşar wouldnt say it better bro

Samuel Sallai The problem with her past was because she had no datum to follow, and grow as a normal balanced soul, due to having two bad parents with no parenting skills. The folk that read her as an example of empowerment, need to look at why she was a victim to not being friends to herself. It was because she had no focus or good examples to follow, from going shipped with so many foster parents. For so many fostering in ones life, it would suggest naturally, she was dysfunctional in character. So the moral of the story of why her marriages did not work, when the guys she says were all good family types with a good education, was because she was still acting like a 21 year old. She found herself, when she married adulthood, and that's when she understood what wedding vows of commitment actually mean. Time folk that clap for wrong deduction by her, need to also see the true picture here. It's a case of immaturity that was not necessary her initial fault, but, afterwards she was the ships captain to what commenced. I wish her well for finding the stability in herself finally. I appreciate that her getting fostered from one home to another, could of given her the thinking that she had no worth, due to seeing such parents rejecting her as a person. A smarter person takes ownership when a pattern forms, rather than putting up a wall. Which I think was why her constant in life, happened finally, when she was 40 years of age. Wishing her all the best.

Ask your intuition, not the ego 😂😅

We are born alone and we leave this world alone.

Wow, I am so happy for you! Wish you the best! ❤️🍀

SUCH AN AMAZING PERSON 😻😻

Wow.. so touching. wish you the best!

THIS inspired me more than her talk! It IS possible!! 🙌❤💯😭

Thankyou💯

that's incredible and inspiring. thanks for sharing:) tough times don't last but tough people do : ).

Good for you! I hope you are still doing well. Don't stop loving yourself. Thanks for your comment. Im sure it was very inspirational to everyone reading.

Very nice! congratulations! Wish we could meet for a coffee and chat to encourage me :-) doing the same.

Amazing and very good for you! This is such a nice and inspirational comment. If everyone can manage to do what you do, the world would be a much better place. Thank you for sharing.

Abbrielle House I'm inspired by your story.

Always learned the damn hard way lol

It doesn't matter how well you get to know someone " or think you do " once you get married the dynamic changes , and we change as a person , being friends isnt like dating , living together isn't like dating and marriage isnt like living together .

I agree with Kristen. Can you explain your comment better? Thanks. @@drinkthekoolaidkids

kristen jameson I can’t answer on their behalf, but what I believe about what they said is this... no matter how well you know someone, we all change... you will end up with someone who is in many, many ways very different from the person that you start out with.... for some people and some changes, this mean the relationship ends (and for some changes a.k.a. deal breakers it should), but if you truly love yourself and your significant other, then you will love them change, after change, after change because, for one, you too are changing, and you will change together, and two, because your love is not so shallow that these changes matter. You chose this person as a whole, and every whole human being must change with age, with circumstances, with life... or life will be a huge, indiscernible struggle.

Lynn Walker See my attempt above.

Dale Roger Hmmm, most of these comments come from men who didn’t really study the feminism. To see what feminism really meant decades ago and how it changed today! There are some very educational and objective articles about feminism, all you have to do search for them. However, in order for a man to do that, he has to have less ego and be open minded, in other words less patriarchal! Good day.

Yes!

@@faniarethas2716 , nobody mentioned feminism here, I think.

Our parents are supposed to teach us these things but many do not.

It is an individual journey schools can’t really teach her effectively. Nor should they. This is spiritual and psychological work. Even parents are not effective at teaching this to their children. Because they can only teach to the level of their own growth.

Dc Foliage this is amazing and inspiring. I hope I can be at that point with myself one day

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Dc Foliage... Please can you tell me a bout mirror talks? Thank you for your help

look up Louise Hay on you tube, she has video's with mirror talk :)

Dude I talk to myself in the mirror all the time!!!!!

I have depression too Chị Duyên

@@vivianlaursen4301 I hope you find happiness! Please remember that this world needs people like you. If possible practice meditation. If you need any help you can message me here. I will be here to hear you out.

I loved her a lot too❤️.

@@vivianlaursen4301 1 in 6 people do according to the CDC...pretty common unfortunately

Not irrelevant at all ❤️

Wait... people have to be told this?

Yes.

What does it mean when you say "How I felt in his presence "...?

How I felt in his presence... emotional feelings, but feeling, ease of communication... please I want to understand it well..

Binyam Haile Well, I guess it’s more about the comfort level at that moment. Am I feeling safe? Am I happy? I have so much to give. Vs. Does he like me? Am I doing too much? What does he expect from me? I’m no longer trying to impress him because ultimately, I have the one real person that will never leave me. Me. So, in his presence, I feel good. I’m happy.

Julie cortez im in exactly the same situation ...this made me realise the same thing. Best wishes to you xxx

Yeah...I have a parent who is a little like this. But then I started therapy with a new, wonderful therapist who knew there wasn’t anything “wrong” with me the moment I walked through the door. Wanting something for someone else from a place of lack and negativity isn’t healthy for anyone involved.

You are the sanest woman I've ever come across. Let your parents know my girlfriends and I have just learned what you already know and we've all been married at least once some of us twice

How to make banana nut bread on KZfaq

Im in my 30s and have never had a bf, my parents are really worried lol.

@@Soo_Blessed haha thank you!

Lexie Mae I LOVE what you've said here!

I love this! Thanks for commenting I'm gonna save this on my computer xD

Lexie Mae Beautiful and powerful advice. Thank you.

Lexie Mae I disagree with this. Although it is lovely, it is a romanticism of reality from my perspective.

Nguyen Hoang I agree. It's difficult to love people in this current society, so instead of loving an individual, love an entire people. They can't hurt you. Opening up to an individual can be scary. Just remember, in order to attract a loving, open, happy, person, you have to be a loving, open, happy person. Change your venues, start working in charitable organizations, that's where loving people congregate, or join a church that has a big outreach program. Start smiling at random people. Try smiling for a whole day as you walk around your city...just to see what happens.

Paul Anthony Very interesting

Paul Anthony ٧٧٦٦ ٧ش

YEP!

Wow that's really interesting! And I can definitely see where you're coming from.

Very accurate statement, Paul. I'm a relationship and life coach and I tell clients all the time to get into themselves, and once they do, others will find them attractive and get into them as well. When you don't appear needy and you look self-assured and confident, alot of the right people will come looking for you. You eliminate a lot of bad relationship opportunities that way.

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@@saintmarybulicek567 It just goes to show you how our own personal experiences have no relation to other peoples experience due to our own point of view and the decisions we make based on them.

Vladdy wow 🎉🎉🎉

I love this.

Thanks for your comment!

♥️

Awww that's so cute

Amen to that.

Wow ❤️ I’m touched

Love this. This mindset makes it less complicated. It all boils down to this.

*snaps* I needed that

So very true!

I echo your wonderfully expressed post!!

How true

e g So wise and true. Only an authentic person can be truly happy

Some what true. We’re always re-discovering our self.

Full of bricks

You are quite humorous life is a journey

@@Joshuarcade full of pricks 😂

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