THE POWER OF SILENCE: 5 Things YOU should Keep PRIVATE for a HAPPY LIFE

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THE POWER OF SILENCE: 5 Things YOU should Keep PRIVATE for a HAPPY LIFE | LUCY BENSON
Hey Guys, Todays video is about the Power of Silence, I gave you 5 things you should keep private for a happy life. I hope you enjoy 💞
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@shriya5789 Жыл бұрын

1. Sex Life 2. Private conversations with friends to a partner 3. Dont talk badly about one colleague to another (colleagues are not friends) 4. Dont discuss private life with colleagues 5. Don’t share anything that isnt concrete yet 6. Dont share things that are in the early stage; things might not always work out!

@RememberTheLord Жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting!!! ❤

@mariem2344 Жыл бұрын

Amazing 🎉🎉🎉

@OraclesofDarkStarr 6 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤

@sandejack Жыл бұрын

Not sharing my business with anyone got to be the best thing I've decided to do.

@friimunya8488 Жыл бұрын

For real girl. Frenemies everywhere

@Kari_Michele Жыл бұрын

I agree 💯💯💯💯💯

@saterahacham8351 Жыл бұрын

I think it's a contradiction because these very people can support your business

@drinks274 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes not even your partner ýou can trust

@Blackbrabx Жыл бұрын

Facts💖💖

@iyescorner862 Жыл бұрын

What isn’t concrete shouldn’t be shared. 👌🏾👌🏾

@SheriK926 Жыл бұрын

❤agreed and this is getting me my dream falling in place 🎉a day at a time

@alliyhvs7514 Жыл бұрын

English isn’t my first language, i dont get what u meant by concrete? Like what is not real?

@Tunde_ Жыл бұрын

@@alliyhvs7514 ‘Set in stone’ or guaranteed

@roshi8955 Жыл бұрын

@@alliyhvs7514 for example, you're thinking about starting a business. Don't share the idea UNTIL your business is up and running. Because people are quick to turn into business consultant and give unsolicited advices because “their aunties started a business and it failed”

@CarasPlace Жыл бұрын

Moving in silence is golden. Others can’t disrupt what they don’t know about. ✨

@Blessed_Daye Жыл бұрын

So true!

@elianna67 Жыл бұрын

So true and you hold all the power

@kuwsyd Жыл бұрын

Living in privacy has brung me so much peace

@lahlahluv8380 Жыл бұрын

Truth

@mizumi8462 Жыл бұрын

Brought*

@taliatale3629 Жыл бұрын

😂 😂

@dallypurcy3113 Жыл бұрын

@@mizumi8462😂😂

@mimi19921 Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree more with this. I remember going out for drinks after work with colleagues and everyone was sharing their own personal lives and relationships… at the end of the day we are not friends. I almost felt compelled to share but then I was like no I have my family and friends for that.

@sadecoco1502 Жыл бұрын

So proud of you. I just recently got trapped into sharing something personal with an inlaw. I kept quiet and just let her share her details, gave her an ear but didn't share anything in return. People will use your personal things against you later on.

@nadiagrssn Жыл бұрын

reason why I never like after works lolll

@mimi19921 Жыл бұрын

@@sadecoco1502 this is so true honestly

@sky_rae7062 Жыл бұрын

@@sadecoco1502 true

@lisaainembabazi9878 Жыл бұрын

Wow

@theetiara Жыл бұрын

My body naturally becomes silent around people I don’t feel comfortable around

@DeeandTee_London Жыл бұрын

Our colleagues are NEVER our friends. I learnt that the hard way in my 20's.

@TaylorWinter Жыл бұрын

This topic reminds me of the lady who recently went viral on TikTok for exposing her husbands cheating. People started harassing his job & she made a video asking people to stop because she is a stay at home wife and relies solely on his income. Knowing this, it’s crazy she told strangers her personal business in the 1st place knowing she solely relies on him. People feed too much into the internet, at any age.

@chaelmarcial428 Жыл бұрын

Good gracious, what a disaster that is.

@taytayshaniqua.8686 Жыл бұрын

Now that is a very insane thing to do

@LoveAndSnapple Жыл бұрын

Yes, I remember her! She almost found hersefl on the streets! Like, as far as the audience goes why would they take it upon themselves to harrass this man at his job as if that would change the outcome? And as far as she's concerned, what was telling the audience going to do? This isn't the EARLY times of the internet when you could just talk about something and get it off of your chest. In fact, I don't think anyone was exposing themselves and their family members like this back then.

@eternalabundance39 Жыл бұрын

Her emotions took over. Hard lessons she learned.

@eternalabundance39 Жыл бұрын

@@LoveAndSnappleif her audience really could help: send her money to get independent and tell her of resources to assist.

@sadecoco1502 Жыл бұрын

I used to be so scared of 'awkward silent' moments. Not anymore. If you think the silence is awkward, forget me speaking about something personal just for the sake of conversation 😅😂.

@okuhlentuli9093 Жыл бұрын

You're me for real... I realised I also over share just to make another person comfortable or be relatable... Thank god I'm stopping all that all together.

@KFSBonder Жыл бұрын

To kill the silence usually we do "small talk"; not DEEP talk

@Snailmail1 Жыл бұрын

@@okuhlentuli9093 this is me too. It’s almost like I feel obligated too and maybe they don’t even care to hear it. Do you have advice on how to stop? Thanks

@Snailmail1 Жыл бұрын

This is me now. Can I ask how you overcame it? And if possible could you explain the last sentence? Does it mean if someone thinks the silence with you is awkward then they don’t deserve to be told something personal? Sorry for all the questions

@okuhlentuli9093 Жыл бұрын

I let the person lead the conversation especially if they're talkative lol I forgot about this video your comment brought me back... Just a few days ago I met someone new an acquaintance and I let her lead the conversation... Honestly I'm super impulsive lol so attentively listening and deciphering what to say and what not to say is saving my arse😂😂😂

@suea8006 Жыл бұрын

I’m very careful with what I share with married friends or friends in intimate relationships. I only share information which I’m comfortable with their partners knowing because I know they’ll eventually tell them.

@tosin1018 Жыл бұрын

I really need to put this to practice. So true!

@friimunya8488 Жыл бұрын

Girl sooo true

@saywhatondat Жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@mezakkia Жыл бұрын

Excellent point!

@diplomat2623 Жыл бұрын

Great point!! I forget about that.

@Nat-mw3bz Жыл бұрын

Move in Silence, Act in Divine Wisdom, Let the Holy Spirit move you.

@hikerhobby1204 10 ай бұрын

Amen❤

@OhJodii Жыл бұрын

The best thing I kept to myself was my pregnancy and baby let me tell you , if you didn't see it it didn't happen lol ! I don't even post my son , you might hear him or see a piece of him but nah all mine ! Cause everybody isn't happy for you !

@userysl Жыл бұрын

This!!!

@lasantuzza777 Жыл бұрын

girl exactly some ppl even talk bad ab me for not sharing my son online.. i’m like, tell me why you’re mad you can’t have access into my personal life! i protect the things that mean the most to me which is exactly why you’re not gonna see my husband, children, or fam in general on social media period

@ayosawyerr513 Жыл бұрын

Yeah... Not everyone is happy for you Got me 😊

@CS-bu7lo Жыл бұрын

In my region in southeastern Europe, women are adviced to keep their pregnancy a secret in the first trimester when most miscarriages occur. Of course their partners, doctors and sometimes employers have to know and maybe some very close friends and family members, but not others.

@faybury4428 Жыл бұрын

I've learned to be private and silent around certain people especially those I thought were my real friends. Sometimes silence is also distancing oneself from certain people.

@LucyLucy296 Жыл бұрын

12:26 "The early stage of anything is not promised. Something that begins, could end. Abruptly."

@CS-bu7lo Жыл бұрын

Yes, and this is why in my region of southeastern Europe women are adviced to keep their pregnancy a secret in the first trimester, when most miscarriages occur. Of course, their partners, doctors and sometimes employers have to know and maybe some close friends and family, but not others.

@ViRosewood Жыл бұрын

I think some people overshare in an attempt to connect with people. I have been in many embarrassing moments like that and despite having to have dealt with it many times, I still get a brain freeze wondering why one would share such privy information.

@lasantuzza777 Жыл бұрын

yes. i used to overshare because my mother was very neglectful and disconnected my whole life. i look back and see how i was just longing for some connection and validation. but doing it that way is superficial and can be dangerous or make you a target. privacy is a great protection

@devoutmisanthrope5687 Жыл бұрын

From my experiences of people oversharing with me, I think a lot of people don't have close, vetted friends to confide in and just want somebody to listen and understand what they're going through. Most of the strangers who've overshared with me were either elderly (and thus might not have any remaining family or friends) or were estranged from their families.

@ViRosewood Жыл бұрын

@@lasantuzza777 Glad to hear you have gained some valuable insight into your past behavior and the reasons behind it.

@FloralTraphouse Жыл бұрын

Being silent has really changed my life I love it here

@Sylvia_blissful-balance Жыл бұрын

Just for your information, 95%of ur married friends discuss everything you tell them with their spouses 😩😩

@LuvKitKatt Жыл бұрын

For why though.. that’s mad weird

@EmefahK Жыл бұрын

@@LuvKitKatt the sad thing is that it is always the girlfriend’s/wives. Boyfriend’s/Husbands very rarely dish out their friends’ business

@rrrealqueen Жыл бұрын

Because we married our bestfriends

@seleciaa Жыл бұрын

Yup. I heard a colleage speaking poorly on another, and now I keep my conversations with him to a minimum. I already maintain my privacy with coworkers. I really, really dislike gossip.

@earthangel8399 Жыл бұрын

Agreed.... over sharing....especially on social media.... just makes you a target.... needing constant attention and validation from total strangers is very unhealthy.... no one will respect you until you respect yourself

@user-db6el7eb9p Жыл бұрын

Any human person you share your business with won't help you. Can't help you. Share with GOD and everything will be settled. The day I started to share everything with God was the day my life changed to the better. Forget about human

@akinkuolieomorinsola6683 Жыл бұрын

I was foolish enough to share too much too soon and I got persecuted, disrespected and sacked .

@skyythepacifist Жыл бұрын

I be feeling secretive… but I have to learn that being private doesn’t equate to keeping things from people

@relleyy Жыл бұрын

Made the mistake of telling people that I was dating someone, the constant questions were killing me especially when I hadn't figured everything out yet. Never again, I'll tell one friend for safety reasons but that's about it

@Snailmail1 Жыл бұрын

What were they asking if you don’t mind? I would also get annoyed

@wicunaacampbell Жыл бұрын

@@Snailmail1 It’s the constant unwanted comments as well.

@wicunaacampbell Жыл бұрын

@@Snailmail1 Im not the commenter, but I would get questions asked about the future. When this, when that, etc. What’s his job? What’s his height? Then judge if he’s not tall enough, or doesn’t meet THEIR needs.

@NoneYa-pg6dk Жыл бұрын

You have every right to set your boundaries, but have you reflected on yourself? Could it be that you tend to date people with red flags? Some people are nosy and some are concerned or they’re just trying to get to know you. I get offended but at the end of the day, it’s my choice, so why build a wall, especially if it’s people you trust.

@ColleahG Жыл бұрын

Yes it’s the constant questioning that would bother me, too. Conversations are sometimes draining and can introduce doubt with all of the questioning.

@afuaansah1184 Жыл бұрын

Those who don't share and live in silence also suffer in silence.

@marigoldbeam5475 Жыл бұрын

You are correct, but you should choose who to share with and when to share judiciously.

@princessm2893 Жыл бұрын

@@marigoldbeam5475 💯

@euniceombogo5712 Жыл бұрын

Some even die

@federicatorrente9121 Жыл бұрын

it all resides in WHAT you share. we're not talking about not sharing what makes you suffer, but rather not sharing things that should remain private. it's different.

@Sylvia_blissful-balance Жыл бұрын

Silence is very important, am someone who doesn’t talk much and not talking much has really saved me from so many situations. However, life doesn’t have to be controlled by so many rules. If u are hurt or traumatized by any situation, then,it is important to talk about it with the people u have some amount of trust. Been able to talk about a situation that is bordering u is very important to your mental health. If people think they can use ur story to shame u tomorrow, then it is up to them. I don’t think life should be made of too many rules, life is not that serious.

@briasa4357 Жыл бұрын

well said

@TiondaRae Жыл бұрын

Yeah but be careful with trauma dumping. That’s why emotional consent for those on the receiving end is a must. It’s exhausting. Also, a therapist can help with that. Just saying.

@Eica.t.s Жыл бұрын

Often not even the doctors or psychiatrist know the answer… sometimes the answers lie within, #Selflove

@marigoldbeam5475 Жыл бұрын

A Nigerian, Igbo, friend of mine, whom I ironically met through work, once advised me to not talk about my plans at work. Something I had considered to be networking and seeking mentorship. I had applied for a senior role, one I could do with my hands tied behind my back, several times and not been successful. I was bewildered by her advice, the idea that people can wish someone they hardly know ill, but stopped sharing my career goals with colleagues and applied for the next opportunity silently. I got the role. She also introduced me to the concept of 'village people' who wish you no good. Again her words proved portentous, as I later learned the hard way that even some relatives can harbour jealousy and wish you ill. These are unfortunate realities, but realities that we must come to grips with nonetheless.

@geovanellytorres5408 Жыл бұрын

My goal is to not overly share now 🥺 and be more careful in who I trust. Thank you for the wisdom 🫶🏽

@ruthbavani Жыл бұрын

I realized I was posting way too much and getting zero things done..like if I say I'd do A, I lose the zeal to follow through. I have made a promise to myself to go off my social for 6 months, just go quiet and not posting anything for the sake of my peace of mind. I'm excited for what I'll achieve in these 6 months of putting my head down. It's not easy not posting but I've placed some measures in place to keep me on the right track

@rodneybost6073 Жыл бұрын

I havent posted in years. Been so peaceful

@sadecoco1502 Жыл бұрын

Should I ever get pregnant, I have always said. I will not share it until my partner and I agree that it is time. We will enjoy the moment alone. I swear if you see me pregnant, I will deny it.

@OhJodii Жыл бұрын

Lol , I feel you ! Hunnie no one knew I was pregnant unless they saw me with a belly! I actually saw a friend who was visiting and she was like I see you post but girl you moving in silence . I loved how the few ppl who did know stayed on code . Until I wanted to share with the world. I didn't want to hear any pregnancy negativity nor the videos ppl share just because you're pregnant ... yess I'm pregnant but I am a person aside from the life I'm carrying. Needless to say no one knew baby was coming until I was 2 months away lol (no baby shower either , no stress lol )

@dalidacm140 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this. Just confirmed that I am not the only one who thinks this

@miimonalisa Жыл бұрын

I was pregnant in 2021 and no one knew until I was 5 months. I would’ve waited longer…. Everyone was so shocked. Most people were glad but my partners mom made it about her and was annoyed she didn’t know know right away. People speak bad over you and you really have to be careful with who you share your happiness with .

@heartspeaks Жыл бұрын

Babyyyyy alllllll of this is why I no longer have a “Bestie”, sister girl, have close female friends or trust folks! Betrayal is a hellacious drug! I’m still healing!

@dalidacm140 Жыл бұрын

Same here. It was my sister who expose my life on social media one day. I was broken and still am till today. I no longer trust anyone around me

@Erica-cf1xb Жыл бұрын

To both of you ladies...I pray that God heals your wounded hearts from the betrayal of disloyal people. He saw your pain and felt your heartache. There is a natural grieving process that must be done. In due time, you will attract Godly friends. Please do not let those people keep you from sharing You with others. Focus on being your own bestie now and forever. God is healing the land right now. I'll be praying for your heart as well. In Jesus name. Amen. ❤️🙏🏾❤️

@TheJesusMirror Жыл бұрын

yes love this so much especially the colleague point! God tells us to guard our hearts for a reason. I remember working in a backstabbing retail environment and felt so relieved that I never shared I was an influencer for God for the whole 2 years! Protect what is precious to you guys xox

@ley2037 Жыл бұрын

ahh i love this! God bless you girly! i have trouble over sharing currently but this video really gave me encouragement and especially looking at it through a biblical way is so good :) .

@rue.eudoxie Жыл бұрын

Finally Christian’s in these comments always feeling so alone. Gonna check out your channel x

@name0055 Жыл бұрын

I think if you have problems sometimes you need to talk with someone about it. That can be the second step to healing (first step talk with God.) Obviously you talk with someone who you can trust. But my problem was often that I kept things in my heart thinking it will be alright. Yes the problem did go alright, but I get used to, to let the pain in me and get more insecure in my heart. After a while I just began to cry all out, but it was still in my heart. Speaking with my sisters in Christ and they praying for me was a absolutely game changer. Without them I never could figure out how to describe my feelings in words. Also God protected my soul, we know all people and my sisters are not perfect. But to trust God to open up with things was really good, I just didn’t learn things about myself, but also from others. Sometimes we scared to do it. I did not watch the video honestly but I want to let this comment here. btw my English is not that good. Greetings from Germany

@Shannete572 Жыл бұрын

Exactly amen 🙏 a private life is a private life. Not everyone needs to know

@Lentinalumis Жыл бұрын

This is so spot on. I’ve been working on improving myself and leveling up. This has been one of the main things I’ve done and I feel so good about keeping a lot private. I’m an influencer and extroverted; and sometimes people expect access into certain areas of your life. Especially the coworker thing. I hardly ever mix colleagues and friendship. Some circles need to be separate for our own good. Be careful of emotional dumping. If you really need to talk, get a therapist if possible. Or have one or two confidantes who have earned your trust and vice versa❤

@kmedabeaute1759 Жыл бұрын

The number 2 point especially is spot on I've never understood why people tell their friends business to their partner? I've never understood it.

@starbright6579 Жыл бұрын

Another one you should keep silent is don't tell people you live with your parents because people hate people who are adults and live with there parents. When I told people I live with my parents they seem to be jealous I think because you save or invest more money, they feel like you got it easy, and that you are not struggling like how they did. Even if you are independent life is hard it's not the way it used to be back in the 1970s-1999. Everything has gone up and savings interest rates have dropped below 0. Gas gone up, rent gone up, food gone up, and life is hard a lot of independent people tell me I wish I lived with my parents. Most parents kick there kids out as soon as they turn 18 so yes if you are an adult and live with your parents other adults will hate you. So I will now stop telling people that I live with my parents or that my mom bought me a car because when I told the man who works at a bank that he gave me a look like oh, I wish my parents did that for me people envy and hate people who live with there parents and I didn't know that until now.

@AnnAdeva1 Жыл бұрын

I am sooooooo glad I stumbled on this video. I have been this way all my life and I even went to therapy because people around me would keep complaining about this. But let me tell you the peace that I enjoy with this privacy? UNMATCHED!! I do not feel pressure from anyone and I can change my mind and take my Ls privately with no stress.

@Blessed_Daye Жыл бұрын

It upsets people when they don't know all of your business! I'm introverted and I don't talk much around people unless I have a really good relationship with them. It's like people expect to know every detail about you.

@AnnAdeva1 Жыл бұрын

@@Blessed_Daye Preach! I think it is because people feel so entitled to know everyone's business all the time.

@VicksStyles Жыл бұрын

I stopped sharing every little thing with anyone , best thing ever 💕💖❤

@madagbehsheriff7472 Жыл бұрын

It is so difficult for me, and keep doing it.

@mimiwhite-ux6if Жыл бұрын

Tbh it all depends on the level of friendship and family member, my sister inlaw which is my brother's wife chat about almost anything and everything. it has helped us both in our relationships.

@SakenaRedmond Жыл бұрын

Sometimes I def over share as soon as I feel comfortable with someone which I’ve always hated about myself. Lately I’ve been trying to not do that bc ppl rlly don’t need to know all ur business. At my current job everybody knows everyone’s business and shares it with each other without permission & that actually made me realize more and more how I need to keep more to myself just from easily hearing other ppls business

@shayarun2856 Жыл бұрын

you really can’t trust anyone it’s that scary

@rubyboye3785 Жыл бұрын

I can’t get enough of how many times you mention silence in every video of yours ❤

@i-spy-ty Жыл бұрын

The "your plans with your partner" really resonated with me. I shared with some people what my husband and I were planning on doing in the coming years and they SH*T all over our plans. Telling us both how they were unrealistic etc etc. I was shocked and disheartened! Luckily we are positive people and didn't let the opinion influence us but we made a pact to never share our plans with people again until they have already been completed! It's made us a lot happier with how we view our relationships outside of our marriage! Thank you for this, I know people will benefit from this advice!

@michellebrown572 Жыл бұрын

I needed to hear hear this I shared something with mom my mom yesterday about this guy I'm in a relationship with and it ended up with a lecture. Lesson learned

@CS-bu7lo Жыл бұрын

If your mom is a good person and genuinely wants the best for you ( some mothers aren't like that, sadly), even though the rant could have been annoying, consider the possibility she might be right as she has more life experience. It was my case 20 years ago. Now that I reached her age then, I understand her better...

@puritytvlove Жыл бұрын

Is true, for me I always tell people about my life hoping there will be help , but at the end they turn against me, thank you

@msmiills Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this video I got older and now realized that being an oversharer actually harmed my relationship as I kept to many “friends” family members up to date on my relationships.🤦🏽‍♀️ Now I’m wider and only keep my relationship between myself and my partner.

@phindilemhlongo6224 Жыл бұрын

One thing about me, I’ve learned so much in this 15 Minutes of my day. Thank you sis ✨😊

@ece-hr5fg Жыл бұрын

thank you for this video! i used to bash myself for being an oversharer and i'm definitely getting better at it, but one thing i noticed from watching this is i NEVER overshare about things that concern other people and i'm proud to be this way. an ex of mine used to constantly tell me intimate things about their friends and it used to make me so uncomfortable. when it ended they accused me of never having trusted them and now i realize it was true, precisely because of this type of oversharing they used to do. conversations and similar things should stay between people; even when there is no explicit agreement between them, parties involved are oftentimes trusting that it will be this way, especially when said conversation concerns intimate topics. i think it is super important to recognize this.

@bamber4757 Жыл бұрын

Yes to all of this. I find that if Im trying to connect with others, as oppose to oversharing, I’ll ask the other person a question and have them set the tone. That way I understand their comfort level of information to take in. But even then- its best to keep things light. Like sharing your favorite things is the perfect way to do this. They get to know you with out getting too deep. Love this information. 💕

@patriciaayebare9408 Жыл бұрын

I have been very observant about some of the habits I have found myself doing! Thank you for this video.❤

@elianna67 Жыл бұрын

Great advice, I have been doing this for years and it works. You hold all the power and they can’t manipulate you. Thank you. Love your channel ❤

@nanawordie7967 Жыл бұрын

This video was very informative !! Like you said at the end of the video i’m definitely the type to tell people news because i’m excited about it 😭 i do need to work on waiting until it’s concrete and keeping more things to myself. Thank you for this video !

@celestinarichard7749 Жыл бұрын

I just landed in a hot mess because I can't just stop talking, I'm so hurt😭😭😭 right now, that's why I'm here, to finally learn how to just stop talking.

@nanaaraj Жыл бұрын

That’s a good point. They don’t only force people to share their sex life online but they are also forced share their financial needs on the internet. I notice this happens to artists and celebrities they get asked a lot of personal questions in interviews. I get that it’s to know the human side of them but they don’t have to go into detail. They are well known so they are forced to share everything about themselves even this happens to influencers. They are humans just like every other person, it’s just that their talents gets recognised. They can choose what they want to share publicly. I was watching something on MTV and I saw they played the game where they asked a rapper about other rappers’s big purchases. I knew it was just for entertainment but it’s quite personal to ask them those questions. I was thinking it’s not my business to know what they spend unless I know the person personally and it may not matter to that rapper what they spend. It made me feel uncomfortable to watch it. I’m upcoming artist but when I gradually grow big, I wouldn’t want to share every personal aspect about my life publicly.

@PRETTYPINKZOEEE Жыл бұрын

I love this video and never thought about being silent! Thank you❤

@envy2069 Жыл бұрын

I’m naturally not an oversharer. Growing up in a household where family business stays family business, I feel like sometimes my employers and coworkers feel detached from me and are always curious 😭

@envy2069 Жыл бұрын

@@madagbehsheriff7472 I am not the right person to ask! I don’t like sharing super personal details because people can use that against you. I can 100% without a doubt your coworkers may be gossiping about you. I had a coworker that would tell me almost everything about her, down to her constant drug use, exchanging needles with someone in a seedy hotel they live in. Please just be mindful of what you say to people.

@madagbehsheriff7472 Жыл бұрын

@envy2069 this is really getting serious, I don't know what to do until I am depress

@Anonymous-gt1eq Жыл бұрын

All what she is saying is spot on correct!!

@jr38499 Жыл бұрын

She is telling the truth in all areas. I have lived by this advice for years, and it works. Listen to her! "Early stages of everything is delicate."

@februarykhahloe2600 Жыл бұрын

The second one is definitely a gem for me. I was quite ignorant about about it. But I am glad that I've learned now👩‍🎓

@ebierebere Жыл бұрын

Thank so much for this power of silence videos Lucy🙏🏾 ❤️I’ve learnt a lot of things from you that I’ve started implementing in my life and more from this video which I am guilty of that’ll still have to stop over sharing in my life especially things at the early stage.

@ninaschafers200 Ай бұрын

Awesome explained❤ GOD BLESS YOU🙏🏼

@doreenbenson2197 Жыл бұрын

I can't just get your teachings and opinions enough. Like🤔 ahhh Lucy I love you. I'm practically a victim to most of the things you mentioned here. I've been learning and for today, it will sink. Thank you ❣️

@user-lk9sl6ri7b Жыл бұрын

i 100 percent agree on every single thing you said , privacy is one of the biggest things you have to control carefully as a human been because you never know what the word has plan for you

@AbimbolaTolulope-lj6up Жыл бұрын

Lucy you have saved me! Literally

@iyescorner862 Жыл бұрын

Everything you said!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@debbieadeoye Жыл бұрын

15 mins well spent. Spot on!

@AKOSUA. Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this message. an eye opener.

@kooliecurlz93 Жыл бұрын

I think it’s important to take videos like this with a pinch of salt. Great points were made but please do not suffer in silence under the guise of not ‘over sharing’. Move with caution.

@tolanimary Жыл бұрын

10:03 I've done that before and I felt so relieved after recording myself in my emotions. I felt less burdened

@sisamhlan33 Жыл бұрын

That is such a good idea with the recording. I have never thought of doing that. I have been going though some things and don’t feel supported when I tell a close friend and there is so many times you can share something with someone. Will be trying this today !!

@realtalk4478 Жыл бұрын

Facts 💯, thanks you for sharing this knowledge with everybody, people need to know this ❤

@lilbeth4804 Жыл бұрын

That second point is so trueeeeee. I hate it so much when people share private things that people tell them. I live in Germany and let me tell you. People don’t automatically know this. They just go ahead and tell everyone what you told them.

@Ebuskitchens Жыл бұрын

Good evening Lucy happy Sunday and happy palm Sunday 🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴 . The video was amazing 😍😍😍😍 thank you so much

@Nulsqui Жыл бұрын

Colleges are not our friends that’s true

@dorisdiribe Жыл бұрын

This video is packed with so much lessons. I really learnt!

@ac7853 Жыл бұрын

I agree for some parts colleagues, sex life, projects etc but if you have people you trust you can share your business without setting up expectations

@644miss Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the reminder. ❤

@franzezz6602 Жыл бұрын

This is amazing, thank you, the content I've been looking for.

@elohoroghorodi196 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Nicely said 👏🏽

@cynthiagadi Жыл бұрын

Spot on Lucy thanks for the gems as per usual..

@bataigergo Жыл бұрын

I love your mind so much! Such a class act! Keep going and share your wisdom!🎉

@alicei3233 Жыл бұрын

Amazing, I 100% needed to hear this ❤

@mannycalavera2335 Жыл бұрын

I am on the opposite side of the spectrum. You never had to tell me not to share private things, because I never did. But over time I learned that it can also be a good thing to let some personality show and share some of the things that are important in your life. It makes people understand you a little better, and it helps build relationships (even professional ones). The key is balance. You don't have to be a vault, but you should also recognize what is and is not appropriate to share. And when in doubt: Keep it to yourself.

@akamavimba1379 Жыл бұрын

Very much older than you!! But I learn alot From you my darling! God bless you 🙏

@ijeomaloveth8340 Жыл бұрын

Brilliant, thank you so much

@jounerie_ Жыл бұрын

OMG , big sis Lucy posted another one of my favourites🥰

@Temple001 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Lucy...I've learnt alot from this series. You look amazing though!❤

@vickymg_ Жыл бұрын

Lucy is just very intelligent ❤❤

@faith8775 Жыл бұрын

I really needed this video so much facts being shared !!! ❤

@zoesway5036 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for speaking straight facts

@246Shanti Жыл бұрын

Thanks much love for bringing me back to this place, I NEED TO SHUT MY MOUTH and STAY 🔕

@jannahgarcia_ Жыл бұрын

Love this ☺️

@elisabethtaylor5859 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this ❤

@krystalkarlie706 Жыл бұрын

So true 🙌 I learnt about the colleagues thing the hard way. Thanks for sharing

@nabilarasya 8 ай бұрын

ooh yes!! ive been doing this my whole life, however i was in this phase of life where im kinda tired of 'moving in silence' because nobody seems to celebrate me, and i thought sharing my 'business' would make people celebrate it together w me, and became too open & i kid you not, ive never more regretful my whole life than this ! never doing it again 🙂🙂

@nelago__ Жыл бұрын

SPOT ON!!!!!!📌

@shayarun2856 Жыл бұрын

i have such a problem with oversharing it’s literally why i am so self conscious and have social anxiety. i love talking to people but when they ask me things about my personal life, and not anything else, i’m always getting into difficult, crazy situations for this reason.

@siobhanraddy2071 Жыл бұрын

Thanks Lucy, this clip is helping me

@gaj30 Жыл бұрын

also something i noticed in my own life is that if i talk about any plans or goals it doesn’t happen anymore. people really send you bad energy and you don’t expect it from certain people but they do. it really is best to keep quiet about everything