The Secret of Starting Over | Edward Hartwig

The Secret of Starting Over | Edward Hartwig | TEDxAmRingSalon

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8 жыл бұрын

Using work as a tool for building personal relationships and furthering edu- cation is a skill that can be difficult to manage. Knowing when to stay and when to move on can be harder than it seems. Having worked more than 15 jobs, on three continents in the last 20 years, Edward Hartwig tells a story of personal development and reinvention.
United States Deputy Consul General in Vienna Austria responsible for emergency preparedness, visa and citizenship policy, officer development and training, visa waiver compliance, social media assets and public outreach.
Formerly a trial attorney specialising in criminal defence, mental health litigation, appeal strategies, and policy architecture.
Core competencies:
Storytelling and Public Engagement
Crisis Response and Deescalation
Interagency and Intergovernmental Networking
Project and Logistics Management
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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@lizzierose007 3 жыл бұрын

I left my hometown of more than 40 yrs. Gave away all my possessions and moved across the country. Just my car, some clothes & pictures. It was the best thing I ever did....

@magickitchen54 3 жыл бұрын

That's amazing. I mean I did something similar but I was 24 at the time.

@matildecestoni5021 3 жыл бұрын

I want to do the same thing, how are you hanging there? Are you alright? Do you have any tips? Reading you inspired me a little more to do so.

@SharifaKhalil 2 жыл бұрын

@TJ-lg2ym 2 жыл бұрын

@@matildecestoni5021 nmnn

@TJ-lg2ym 2 жыл бұрын

@@matildecestoni5021 nnnn nn

@fangbifxx 4 жыл бұрын

I am restarted my life at 31, from nothing. But i feel so good in my life now.

@brittneymoreland1610 4 жыл бұрын

Me too... @30!

@ricardojunior5567 4 жыл бұрын

Me too I'm 30, new beginning

@mustangsally9618 4 жыл бұрын

@@ricardojunior5567 im 30 and im trying to rebuild my life. can you be kind as to share a little about your experience?

@mustangsally9618 4 жыл бұрын

@@brittneymoreland1610 im 30 and im trying to rebuild my life. can you be kind as to share a little about your experience?

@galaxyoftruth2698 4 жыл бұрын

I am actually doing the same at 35. Many blessings and prayers to you all in your new Journey

@Dimasstywan 3 жыл бұрын

I left my family, friends and partner to pursue my dream career in another continent. 4 years have gone by, I had everything I wanted. However, I ended up being depressed and alone. Constantly thinking about ending my life. But a month ago I decided to quit my “dream job” and start over again and restructure my beliefs system of happiness and success. I’m terrified, but I haven’t feel the adrenaline to survive and live life for so long.

@gabbycouch8594 3 жыл бұрын

Good luck with everything ! 😊

@Dimasstywan 3 жыл бұрын

@@gabbycouch8594 thank you love

@magickitchen54 3 жыл бұрын

Best of luck to you. It sounds like you re prioritized your beliefs. I'm in that process now.

@Dimasstywan 3 жыл бұрын

@@magickitchen54 best of luck to you to!

@Dimasstywan 3 жыл бұрын

@@s.r.t.5123 We must keep moving forward no matter what for our own well beings.. hopefully we'll be in a better place soon :)

@nonnywinner5039 8 ай бұрын

For people that miss what he said as the secret to starting over: 1. Living Life with Purpose 2. Having People You Impact by Your Service 3. Having Family that Loves You. 4. Becoming Better by Self Advancement 5. Correcting Past Errors, and Pushing Yourself.

@onewithsource9742 2 ай бұрын

Thank you

@magicallyme96 3 жыл бұрын

If the universe just grants me this one chance to start over better and stronger than ever I’m taking it and running with it no hesitations 💯💨💨💨

@navdeep2057 2 жыл бұрын

I am 19, left my country last year, came to Winnipeg. Moving to Toronto this weekend. Wish me luck guys💫

@neoll5267 Жыл бұрын

Hey bro whats upp ?

@cocococo970 3 ай бұрын

How's life so far updates

@ChynnaPhillipsBaldwin Ай бұрын

You are courageous!! Proud of you, go follow your dream. 🎉 Take Jesus with you.

@debbY100 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve moved across the USA three times alone. Once without a ‘reason’ (no job, friends, or family at the final destination). It’s challenging and hard, and I would advise everyone to do it at least once in their lives. The life lessons and skills you learn are almost too many to count.

@nikanov 2 жыл бұрын

Left where I grew up in Va to following my retiring parents to Ga and I don’t like it.😭 trying to get the guts to pick somewhere else to move

@johnhflood 6 ай бұрын

@@nikanov In the same position. We moved to FL 2 yrs ago to be near family, but we don't like it and want to leave. Life is short, move if you want to move.

@beachykeen2082 2 жыл бұрын

The "Secret of Starting Over" is still a big secret after watching this video.

@charmedprince 2 жыл бұрын

Bahahaha

@srianjanaVadevoo 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah same thought .. I was actually waiting when he would start talking about starting over

@huhwho5255 2 жыл бұрын

That’s hilarious lol

@WNCHSTR 2 жыл бұрын

Same thought. He basically shared nothing. His speech only highlighted the horrendous disease he got in Ethiopia.

@loafbreed7246 2 жыл бұрын

yea fr I was wondering why he kept goin on about the disease when that wasnt the topic on the video loll.

@s.r.t.5123 Жыл бұрын

I've seen this video several times now. It's always impacted me so much. I'm going through my own crisis of starting over now, and it really hit home. Thank you, Edward for sharing your courage and being an inspiration to us.

@justmejm Жыл бұрын

🙏

@IgnorantAnime 4 жыл бұрын

I can hear it in this guys voice, he's definitely been through that.

@anhpam9205 7 жыл бұрын

Edward, what a wonderful, brilliant and inspiring talk. You look great and I wish you good health and happiness with your wife and children. I myself am very close to quitting too and have also been around the block many ,many times, so relate to what you said.

@Amir-vw7wt Жыл бұрын

Im 21 years old and I’m seriously considering leaving everything behind next week after my paycheck. Sick and tired of college just need some time to myself I’m taking the little money I have and I’m going to Vegas let’s pray for the best

@Ali-xg7wj Жыл бұрын

Good luck! updates?

@kolomgorov 3 жыл бұрын

If I get a chance to move away and start over I'm going to take it

@Dimasstywan 3 жыл бұрын

Why don’t you

@andycook6624 6 жыл бұрын

I didn't know what to do so I went to law school ... where is the part about how he has a bunch of money lying around so has time to chase all these passions? no story of any hardship at all... really far from 99% of anyones reality..

@maddimagpie 4 жыл бұрын

That was the biggest question I had. Especially when he kept saying he wasn't a good student. I wanted to know what got him to the point where he figured he could go to law school out of boredom, because few people can just relate to that.... I would be more inspired by those details.

@magickitchen54 3 жыл бұрын

He did say that he didn't make any money as a prosecutor, but having BEEN 'that' wife, it may have been his wife who supported him.

@Angelamar819 6 жыл бұрын

His voice is Soothing

@RenataLima-be2wk 5 жыл бұрын

I know exactly what you talked about because I am at the same boat right now asking me the same question. Isn't it crazy? There's no coincidence.... I think it is a sign of the Universe or God, whatever you believe. Thank you for sharing this. Have a wonderful days and life.

@magickitchen54 3 жыл бұрын

Me too. I've been contemplating quiting my job.

@happyf7717 5 жыл бұрын

Few people understood this. Probably the one how involve in such situations. Good talk.. Last 2 minuts is really the core.

@mohamednofal5256 6 жыл бұрын

I totally relate to feeling good after quitting

@indigogirl5172 3 жыл бұрын

I feel like the wife should have had the Tedx Talk

@joeschmoe2309 6 жыл бұрын

i hate when the microphone is so good you can hear their lips smacking as they speak

@WelcomeToKabila 6 жыл бұрын

Joe Schmoe lol now I can hear it

@juliebella8996 5 жыл бұрын

I thought i was the only one who noticed haha

@katababaify 5 жыл бұрын

....aaand that's how I switched to another video

@r.g.greenwald2690 4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@angelgarcia4760 3 жыл бұрын

Thought i was the only one irritating

@ferindies8606 4 жыл бұрын

Edward this is so great

@jaspersmm 6 ай бұрын

thank you so much for this as a disabled person I thought I couldn't relate to you as you spoke on your jobs and moves .. I'm so glad i stayed to hear your story. I'm so sorry I made an assumption before listening . I'm glad you're here... men. listen to your wives

@Eagles.Fan.Since.Super.Bowl.52 6 жыл бұрын

This is a good video. Too many critics commenting here. Sit back, relax and listen to his story. There are no sales pitches at the end. Well done!

@stomiball889 3 жыл бұрын

Moving out to a new city for business and travel purpose To God be the Glory

@samuelcastro1573 Жыл бұрын

How did you do? Thinking about the same....

@WorkAtHomeOnlineForFree 4 жыл бұрын

Incredible.

@romangoddess5004 3 жыл бұрын

Seems like a life that revolves only around himself. His wife is a martyr.

@magickitchen54 3 жыл бұрын

I mean....that thought crossed my mind too. I wish there was a Q and A because its tough being that wife. Why I'm divorced now.

@justmejm Жыл бұрын

Yeah it's great to be supportive of our partners and also how do we accomplish our thoughts ideas dreams and goals when someone might have a total opposite if they do we all have choices to make the guess she chose the path she led yeah

@lindyf381 Жыл бұрын

Great life story but I think the title should be 'The story of my life' cos I did not get any secrets.

@LiveWeightLossSupport 5 ай бұрын

This is how I work too! I make life choices that alter my life and no one understands me.

@praneshkumar747 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot 👍👌

@kantnergirl08 2 жыл бұрын

So what’s the secret of starting over? I’m confused. I liked his story, it was engaging and interesting but I didn’t see clearly how it can help me? But good for you! You went through so much! And learned a lot

@plantmanstudios 2 жыл бұрын

It was a dreadful speech. I also find it hard to believe at his age he has done so much. Being a plumber takes years to learn. Being a carpenter also takes years to learn. Starting over means having courage to face the unknown and the confidence in yourself to start over. It also means building your determination to succeed no matter the circumstances. I'd need to see proof before I believe the tall tales I just heard.

@mrconcept 2 жыл бұрын

@@plantmanstudios Yeah thought the same. The talk itself was rambling. I'm guessing he's just doing handyman work based around those trades rather than being a full on professional in those areas. That's not to disregard how good he was at those roles. Some guys are just naturally good at any task without the qualifications / experience needed.

@busterfly1965 2 жыл бұрын

Simply put life is too short so do the damn thing

@ShonWilsonOfficial 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, about 30 seconds in, I thought, "This is the last person I want to take advice from," but I listened to the whole speech just the same. Not a thing in it relating to starting over I my opinion.

@srianjanaVadevoo 2 жыл бұрын

Hi.. what are you talking about.. the title doesn't match ur video ..

@bradleylatham8184 5 жыл бұрын

How many University Degrees and how old to cover so many industries?

@johnfernandez2060 5 жыл бұрын

Homie needs to hydrate

@erfansvideos 4 жыл бұрын

Speak in front of a couple hundred ppl then talk

@normamimosa5991 4 жыл бұрын

@John Fernandez -- Some people have empathy and humanity. Some don't. He's talking about having to leave his wife who has been such an amazing life partner to him; about the courage that took. It's not about hydration. It's about emotion.

@madeinkonada 5 жыл бұрын

I enjoyed this. Thanks.

@growthseeker595 5 жыл бұрын

I usually like it when people tell stories, but this was so boring...

@Candlewick14 2 жыл бұрын

So often in Ted Talks, the presenter makes the mistake of thinking you want a blow by blow description of THEIR story, THEIR experience over 20 years. We dont. We want to know how to make over our own lives - tips, strategies, ideas and resources. If youre going to give background, keep it to like 3 mins.

@mark22390 Жыл бұрын

Yeah I got lost in this one was he saying he was ok with moving even though it almost took his life but won't move if it ment time away from his wife?

@savvyguy1353 Жыл бұрын

Agree

@sephiroth1234 Ай бұрын

Well, unless you're not a narcissist and actually interested in other people's lives.

@Candlewick14 Ай бұрын

@sephiroth1234 oh of course anyone not willing to listen to a half hour ted talk where the presenter speaks about themselves but be a diagnosable narcissist. Ok.

@jupiterscorner5423 2 жыл бұрын

I started my life over at 32 when a few months ago I escaped and cut off bio toxic father

@tatianahawaii13 2 жыл бұрын

Hugs. It’s difficult. I stopped talking to my parents at 33 because they were destroying me. Please watch Uncommon knowledge therapy here on youtube. They help to restructure beliefs and get rid of victim mentality. 💕

@Georgesspierre Жыл бұрын

Because of my parent's moving me as a child, now i speak 4 languages which is good

@yetiblack8469 Жыл бұрын

Starting over is a necessity... But be careful not play with the or any desertion.

@sterlingpless9280 Жыл бұрын

It's a good feeling in next ten years will be a nomad starting next couple of weeks it's a new challenge and a new life

@nikanov 2 жыл бұрын

36 and I want to start over just don’t know where to go

@nikanov Жыл бұрын

@Tyler Harris Happy Birthday!!! Ive been researching Arizona lol

@nikanov Жыл бұрын

@Tyler Harris certainly!

@jazreelangulo3796 2 жыл бұрын

chúc kênh thầy càng phát triển hơn nha

@joannloves8232 3 жыл бұрын

Watched this whole video and am still wondering where the 'secret to starting over' is. It definitely wasn't in this video.

@jamescoyle7819 2 жыл бұрын

Looking to pack up and just go next week going to give up the small things I have that are no much and take a chance see where God takes me

@biscope7029 4 жыл бұрын

Inspiring story

@yeseniaflores6583 5 жыл бұрын

Great job and God bless. But the less fortunate including myself can not come even close to relating to your story. Have any idea what it would do to someone's credit score to uproot and go through the apartment leasing process every few months. Great story but ridiculous to most middle class people which are the ones who really need the help considering our limited resources

@vester7457 Жыл бұрын

Plus, what's so admirable about having zero attachments to your home state, the people, the places? Should we all just be free floating entities bobbing about whenever the whim seizes us? What about loyalty to aging parents, spouses, in laws? Just asking.

@strawbrey6783 Жыл бұрын

Did anybody else realize his watch was on backwards

@felixthecat4584 Жыл бұрын

You have things to live for, cool. What about those of us who don't? No wife, no kids? I am so close to the edge right now you don't have any idea...

@Amir-vw7wt Жыл бұрын

Thought about killing myself countless times over the past year it’s pretty crazy

@randykarnell9980 6 жыл бұрын

Sensational, thanks Edward - so compelling, Dude.

@erfansvideos 4 жыл бұрын

This is not suppose to be a “professional” speech. It’s suppose to educate so you can hopefully get something out of his story. Learn to not judge too quick. You never know what you’ll miss that might help your life.

@FromTheBiggining 4 жыл бұрын

...it doesn't have to be professional to make it worthwhile listening. It just was rambling about his life. I found no value whatsoever.

@wendycordova5943 3 жыл бұрын

Give this man some water

@Noct343 2 жыл бұрын

Enjoy life now stop chasing happiness this is why you're never gonna be satisfied, never ending hunger.

@crikeymos22 4 жыл бұрын

Where was the secret of starting over??? Did I miss something

@FromTheBiggining 4 жыл бұрын

.... there was none. u figure it out yourself

@crikeymos22 4 жыл бұрын

Lee Hall, VA ah I see. Bit rubbish really then.

@ferindies8606 4 жыл бұрын

just do it

@ashleygutierrez8305 3 жыл бұрын

Motive.

@whiteinferiority418 5 жыл бұрын

Wow dude gets up and talks about himself for 14 mins.

@Haruglory131 5 жыл бұрын

Whisper you mean lip smacking whispering

@willsommervil6141 5 жыл бұрын

😂 ikr? I didn't get anything from this story at all.

@normamimosa5991 4 жыл бұрын

@White Inferiority - Wow! that says a whole lot about you, if you didn't get from that talk, inspiration to face difficult decisions and act on them.

@normamimosa5991 4 жыл бұрын

@White Inferiority -- I suggest you would do well to learn some lessons from him. How do your accomplishments match up to his, despite the enormous volatility in his life?

@chgofirefighter 3 жыл бұрын

Where’s the story of the hardships? How can someone move so often, travel, take risks, and relate... ?

@loafbreed7246 2 жыл бұрын

he spends like 5 minutes talking about an existential crisis on an airplane bc he got typhus then the video ends. Idk what I was expecting but this felt devoid of anything actually relevant to the title. bro just had a near death experience then went "ahp time to reinvent myself yet again" and that was it like what lmao.

@Dont_tell_me_to_relax 10 ай бұрын

"I left my job" Crowd: woo🎉🎉🎉 *applause*

@Sea__ 3 жыл бұрын

his watch???

@EclecticG 3 жыл бұрын

Any body got a couch? I am ready to start over anywhere more metro.. I got skills and could be on my feet in 6 weeks.

@ghiffarimohammad6859 5 жыл бұрын

i sense ASMR

@charm2800 Жыл бұрын

makes me feel like this is sus, reminds me of the catch me if you can con man, they found out that even in his interviews after he was back to normal that he was lying in the interviews describing his life. This also reminds me of the movie The Big Fish. every other thing he says it makes you gasp because it's so hard to believe.

@spentshells1924 Жыл бұрын

Dude gotta be immortal

@jessicajennings5625 4 жыл бұрын

Was this dudes wife Lafawnduh?!

@nelsoneulalio1927 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing the lessons. However I am sorry but it is another story of a patriarchal family where the male is the one who chases his dreams (hiperactively btw) and the wife has to just follow over, with her professional dreams being discharged and focused on his.

@loloppololp9304 Жыл бұрын

How did he do all of those? Trial attorney? Don't you need a law degree?

@stacyramirez980 2 жыл бұрын

Don’t watch this video you’ll still wonder what the secrets are of starting over 🤣💀

@sterlingpless9280 Жыл бұрын

Also you meet new people

@jonasschanze5897 Жыл бұрын

x1.5 speed

@demayr465 3 жыл бұрын

He seemed to only enjoy talking about himself

@James_36 Жыл бұрын

I am ever going to get that 14 minutes back

@ryannavarro6141 6 ай бұрын

Amazing speech! Though speaking with your chest would improve an already incredibly written talk.

@BubblegumJoss 4 жыл бұрын

i learned NOTHING from this aside from all this dudes life story

@Prod_Beatzz 2 жыл бұрын

I didn’t understand a thing this guys talking about

@WNCHSTR 2 жыл бұрын

So after that long and winding talk, the secret to starting over is to "JUST DO IT". LOL

@somaesch2769 3 жыл бұрын

Ok sweet. I was expecting something more invigorating

@spentshells1924 Жыл бұрын

Thats a lot of life for a dude looking not a day over 20

@sebastianreyesorbegoso4241 4 жыл бұрын

My paperboy has a more touching story...

@TemiBabalola 2 жыл бұрын

Calling your wife gullible!?

@WelcomeToKabila 6 жыл бұрын

Good job. A lot of people couldn’t do what you just did however if I am being honest... Boy was it boring! Voice tonality throughout the video was just not doing it for me

@wordhannah528 Жыл бұрын

What an incredible wife you have!

@robyndismon394 5 жыл бұрын

I am not going 2 watch any video starting with a man stating how 'gullibile' his wife is and how he might have taken advantage of that over the years.

@Peter_Parker69 4 жыл бұрын

@Takokami 3 жыл бұрын

No practical advice was given that day. I only finished this video because the guy is hot.

@srianjanaVadevoo 2 жыл бұрын

Good girl

@veronicalynnmouser8967 Жыл бұрын

Love the talk but please take a sip of water when you need one. It ruins the talk, otherwise.

@JacobAndJamal Жыл бұрын

Yes man, it was driving me nuts . 😑

@cindyhalpern3187 6 ай бұрын

He began with," My wife is gullible." Why? That is your opinion of her? I don't like your disrespect of her! And you have dragged her around a lot. What have you done to emotionally support her? What have you done to help her see her dreams realized? You certainly took her to questionable places to live. I don't think you ever thought of anyone else.

@scottphoto1051 3 жыл бұрын

WHAT ARE THOSEEEEEEEEEEEEE

@anne3838 2 жыл бұрын

Why did your wife leave you sleeping on the plane? 🤣

@IsamuLicca2 2 жыл бұрын

This is so boring, he is such a big headed and self centered guy. 5 minutes of listening about his greatness was enough to close te video

@srianjanaVadevoo 2 жыл бұрын

He when will talk ab starting over

@AWayOfLiving84 11 күн бұрын

☯️🌏🕵🏻‍♂️👣

@Abcdxyz11534 Жыл бұрын

Exthept it wathent nyth to call your wife "gullible" in front of a large crowd!

@FromTheBiggining 4 жыл бұрын

...too much talk about himself I stopped watching it 6 minutes after. I feel sorry for the audience.

@Reymundodonsayo 4 жыл бұрын

He’s bullshitting the whole thing

@Onlinesully 4 жыл бұрын

rayturnertile It is a bit of a nonsense story alright

@FromTheBiggining 4 жыл бұрын

... Yeppp

@charm2800 Жыл бұрын

agreed , and not even very well

@MariahAurora 4 жыл бұрын

What was the secret again? Seems like its to have a solid marriage? Too bad not everyone can get that.

@philpetrone6426 5 жыл бұрын

Boooooriiing..... Lol

@skyer0blue 4 жыл бұрын

This is probably the worst TED talk I've ever seen

@abo1732 5 жыл бұрын

He's a confused man

@erfansvideos 4 жыл бұрын

So are you.

@holdencaulfield8239 4 жыл бұрын

Get to the point

@srianjanaVadevoo 2 жыл бұрын

Same thought ..

@aidanlasombra 4 жыл бұрын

This is boring..

@erfansvideos 4 жыл бұрын

Then leave. You bother listening AND putting a comment?

@aidanlasombra 4 жыл бұрын

@@erfansvideos i did..

@erfansvideos 4 жыл бұрын

Aidan La Sombra you still here

@materenemolaoa1752 Жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you. 😭😂

@aaronupton4584 3 жыл бұрын

Jesus H. Christ! The mouth noises are unbearable!

@tumbleweed4026 5 ай бұрын

I have one question though. Is his family rich? Nobody could do what he did unless they have the financial support/net of their family. Changing career, states, homes, countries, going to so many different schools, especially law school. I see a fickle man-child who has only jumped from one place to another because he could afford to do so, and not because of a sense of purpose, or in the realisation of his authentic self. Pointless story. Self absorbed. Shallow af. Think about it.