“The Secret of Tiger Moms” | Cha-Hsuan Liu

“The Secret of Tiger Moms” | Cha-Hsuan Liu | TEDxAmsterdamED

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7 жыл бұрын

Dr. Cha-Hsuan Liu is a university lecturer at the Department of Interdisciplinary Social Science, Utrecht University. Currently she teaches Youth Study, Multicultural society and Health in society. Her work focuses not only on Diversity sensitivity and Health but also on other interdisciplinary studies, such as Education and Innovation Sciences. She has several articles, book chapters and books published, including a series journal papers in Chinese language about Dutch Education System. In her TEDx talk she discusses the high education performance among Asian migrants based on an interview with her and a collection of stories of Asian migrants in the Netherlands. Lui explains the main features of being a tiger mom, and stimulates an education that mixes best of bot worlds.
Dr. Cha-Hsuan Liu is a university lecturer at the Department of Interdisciplinary Social Science, Utrecht University. Currently she teaches Youth Study, Multicultural society and Health in society. Her work focuses not only on Diversity sensitivity and Health but also on other interdisciplinary studies, such as Education and Innovation Sciences. She has several articles, book chapters and books published, including a series journal papers in Chinese language about Dutch Education System. Dutch newspapers, NRC, published a column article in 2017 discussing the high education performance among Asian migrants based on an interview with her and a collection of stories of Asian migrants in the Netherlands.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@mickbaruffa590 Жыл бұрын

every children deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a children

@londoncarter9114 Жыл бұрын

I hope you don’t have children… you can’t even form a proper sentence that makes sense. A tiger mom would have done you some justice🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Rainytwilight 7 ай бұрын

Tiger parents have the most disciplined and well behaved children. So you better hush helicopter parent.

@user-uu5jf3jo3o 3 жыл бұрын

I saw the consequences of that in China: kids being scared to play with other kids, because they do not want to make a mistake. They don’t know how to relax. Even playing is like taking an exam ...

@ray.deathray 2 жыл бұрын

The term “Tiger Mom” tells you what’s really important. This is about the parents, not the children. She keeps talking about herself. She talks about accomplishments. Her child is barely mentioned. This is a great way to dehumanize your child so you can celebrate yourself.

@t.i.f.o.n.e.10 3 жыл бұрын

Great job guys !!!! SouthKorea which has the highest rate of tiger parenting families now has achieved the highest rate of suicide in young adults and teenagers..... Amazing job, very good strategy!!!!!

@simosc2 2 жыл бұрын

I dont believe that.

@ltcrustybabyjanex4104 2 жыл бұрын

@@simosc2 It actually is true, Asian countries have the highest suicide rates per capita in the world.

@zelantern 2 жыл бұрын

@@simosc2 Yeah don't believe facts. Keep relying on your fragile emotions.

@londoncarter9114 Жыл бұрын

This actually isn’t a fact! Their suicide rate is less than half of everyone else’s… they also haven’t raised kids that shoot up church’s/high schools for no reason so there’s that👀

@tranquilbakergentletraveller Жыл бұрын

This is what the K-drama, Sky Castle, was about

@yunxiaallyniu1317 3 жыл бұрын

Ya, as a Chinese mom myself, I can hardly finish listening to her speech. I respect Tiger moms to an extend, but not as she advocated so blindly....

@Tara-Yadil 3 ай бұрын

I loved it!❤ Every child needs a brave mom, like you Every child needs a mom who encourages their hard work.🍀

@bananapop4176 3 жыл бұрын

I loved this .. I’m African American but my stepmother was Asian and when I was a young child and did things wrong, I was punished by more reading, and writing, and summarizing what I’ve read, and given at home study assignments. And I despised it then, yet still to this day excel in my classes and my reading and comprehension has improved immensely.

@SupunPraneeth 3 жыл бұрын

I hate these kinda people, this is so wrong. tiger parenting one way that parents try to acquire that they couldn't by giving so much stress and pressure to their children, she talks tiger parenting as a good thing. you should put your children's happiness before their education. you don't even know what's success is. You just a bad parent.

@01michelle 3 жыл бұрын

Agree, she say strict Asian parents like someone who can raise their children to a high and successful level, but forget about their child’s happiness. And what happends? The suicide rate of students in Asia is very high

@physicianskitchen 2 жыл бұрын

Not being successful (ie having a good job, roof over your head, food in the fridge and a social network) surely lowers your chances of happiness. Why does it have to be one or the other?

@rjtheripper931 3 жыл бұрын

Balance is the key word here.

@aduts1177 2 жыл бұрын

This comment section is giving me hope about humanity😥Great job, guys. Every child deserves a happy,peaceful childhood. Beyond success and everything

@judithwerner5301 6 ай бұрын

Tiger moms are child abusers.

@sarac2543 6 жыл бұрын

Is the child happy glowing up under tiger mom? Can she/he think or act independently when he grow up? Not depend or relay on his parents?

@XiaoFeng895 6 жыл бұрын

Sara Cohen Yes ofcourse the parenting is for making independent and make living for selves hard work.

@rosemarymassaro9930 5 жыл бұрын

K koo oooo thy

@yisancheung6980 5 жыл бұрын

비와나무 Lee lol I am her son and I don't have any problems lmao

@missxmarvel 4 жыл бұрын

MissCityOfWestminster 2016-17 GALAXY Children miss out on their childhoods with overprotective parents but I don’t see anyone complain about that.

@shubhsaxena8745 3 жыл бұрын

@@yisancheung6980 ur moms outdated tell her that many billionaires like jack ma(richest asian) and richard branson failed school,look at celebritites,actors and singers all of them were mediocres and failures in school

@Jilli8310 Жыл бұрын

Education is crucial, but if you study behavior like I have, you will understand that it is the environment the child is in. 3 other people in my family are Harvard Law School graduates. Of the four of us, we went to public school. It was how our parents engaged us, how we were stimulated and encouraged while growing up. Yes, I am strict with my children, but I'm not so strict that I put everything into making the kids'lives miserable. They have friends and can socialize. Children deserve to have a childhood, to be loved, to have fun, all while being stimulated, encouraged and challenged. If you cannot balance this, then don't be a parent. Each child does have a talent, it's up to THEM to find it and develop it, not parents pushing it on them. You only have one childhood. Edit: I am married to a Chinese gentleman and we do agree on our parenting techniques. He doesn't want to be like his parents. I compromise.

@user-sd5tf3zo7o 6 жыл бұрын

oh well she had it easy as relatively wealthier compared to all the other taiwanese at the time. she was part of the government families. my family could only worry about what could we eat for the next meal. whether or not would our younger siblings survive a cold. education, piano lessons were not at the top of our minds...she got lucky

@mariflak 4 жыл бұрын

I asked my mom to get me piano clases and she got me a book.. i can play piano now... must be nice to have a teacher, or money... i come from planet Mexico so.... i was born broke in money not spirits.

@bettyangwenyi1797 3 жыл бұрын

"Every child has talent!" " If not, hard work produces talent!" Contradiction?

@ferpirata76 3 жыл бұрын

You are right. Contradiction. Best wishes from Spain!

@AxelSituation 3 жыл бұрын

good quotes and very true!

@physicianskitchen 2 жыл бұрын

How is that a contradiction? It simply says some talent is inborn and some is acquired through hard work.

@astarothamon2113 Жыл бұрын

@kaiyan1573 6 жыл бұрын

i disagree, i believe that education is crucially important for a childs development but it DOES NOT determine ones future. it itself may lend a positive impact on ones work ethic and responsibility but it certainly not the only way of attaining 'success" and happyness. what matters the most (in my opinion of course) is one's mindset,do they have a direction in life, are they hungry for success and are they willing to work for it. another important point that i believe that is way more important then formal education is self education. do you have the ability to learn something yourself out of necessity or just fun and reach to HIGH standards. you want to know ho to invest?pick up a book about investment.want to know more about the human anatomy? do some research about it instead of getting a paper and wastng 4 yrs of your life. "formal education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune"

@XiaoFeng895 6 жыл бұрын

kai yan Most people has basic education from 5 to 18 years old and that basic education is improvement. As some person. say "If you want new idea open old book. " I liked the education class. I open book I read ancient Chinese philosophy and it changes the thinking. Education is always important.

@magnuscritikaleak5045 4 жыл бұрын

@@XiaoFeng895 yes but what about looking into the Future.

@_.kssh._3251 3 жыл бұрын

@@magnuscritikaleak5045 You cant surpass the future without having knowledge, knowledge is the past.

@SupunPraneeth 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, finally someone who understand

@unle8867 Жыл бұрын

Recommended speed to play the video...1.25 😀

@gfy2979 5 жыл бұрын

She gives me the creeps so bad

@kellynonicr856 4 жыл бұрын

Greenfang Y why’s that?

@casusbelli9225 2 жыл бұрын

@@kellynonicr856 because she is a shallow psychopath?

@harumis5402 3 жыл бұрын

Tiger Mom BS. Raising your children through emotional tantrums is proven to be unhelpful in creating a healthy family, since the love between the parent and the child may be wanted but is clearly not there. Instead, encourage with logic and positivity, not threats of physical violence. Messed up criminals come from homes that gave them abuse and neglect. When teaching children, never yell or hit them, for they will hate their parenst and be truly sad.

@simosc2 2 жыл бұрын

Take a Good look at what being Permissive Parents looks like!!! Rioting! Stealing! Attacking Police!,,,sounding familiar yet? Turn on your tv or computer. Those monsters will never be winners, Hard work? They didnt get that teaching.

@harumis5402 2 жыл бұрын

@@simosc2 hard work is done by those encouraged gently with love logic and peace too!

@Nathan-ru2sm 3 жыл бұрын

Better have your child living heathy and not committing suicide than to be poor

@oliviab3807 2 жыл бұрын

Love this 💕

@aduts1177 2 жыл бұрын

Your child wont,trust me. He will end up having childhood trauma and will be prone to depression and addictions of all kinds. Beyond success and everything,we need peace. Ensure that your child is having that

@YouTube_Enjoyerlol 3 жыл бұрын

I’m watching this at 1.5x and it still slow.

@obilombernadine6877 2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@littleantukins4415 3 жыл бұрын

tiger parents: CHILDREN MORE LIKE ROBOTS

@simosc2 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!! If just a few parents will hear this and research how to use it to raise solid, decent, respectful, successful adults, there will be hope for America again. Its time for change in this country. Permissive parenting created the monsters we are seeing in the burning cities of America.

@yoleeisbored 2 жыл бұрын

no. Tiger parenting is harmful. need a balance.

@laur7841 Жыл бұрын

If you want to give your child anxiety, depression and childhood trauma, go for it

@Noob_froggy Жыл бұрын

Go look up the negative effects of tiger parenting

@londoncarter9114 Жыл бұрын

I agree with the reason behind why they do what they do, some choose verbal abuse and are very very strict and I don’t agree with all of it but I am on board and plan to raise my son the same! I prefer intelligence/success over anything💯💯💯💯💯

@elliygxoxo Жыл бұрын

As a millennial mom of 5 kids, who has "gentle parented" for 12 of my parenting years, tiger moms have a place in this world. I have a deep appreciation for them and I regret not going this route 😔

@DarkAssassin677 Жыл бұрын

She's not even a Tiger Mom at this point, more like a Dragon Mom.

@harshakkumar4009 3 жыл бұрын

Why the place did they even let talk a tieger mom

@nathanielcarreon5634 4 жыл бұрын

We pressured/invested a lot of money for their private schools to our son to finish his mechanical engineering degree and our daughter her doctor of pharmacy and both are now very happy receiving 6 figure salary starting salaries. Now they cant thank us enough.

@casusbelli9225 2 жыл бұрын

I would thank you by locking you up in the worst retirement house the moment you grow weak and unable to fend for yourself.

@osint10 3 жыл бұрын

Perhaps, the parents' desire for their children to live well has created a phenomenon called "Tiger Mom." This is also the behavior that parents love their children. I got your back. :)

@AxelSituation 3 жыл бұрын

Can anyone recommend an online website or fb group for similar tiger moms to share resources? Love Tiger Moms!

@farkhoddle6093 4 жыл бұрын

Did Jeremy Lin have tiger parents ? I mean I'm sure they were strict...

@leumasboytv5749 2 ай бұрын

7:00

@Dinhjason Жыл бұрын

She's not serious is she? They're laughing. Why are they laughing? They know she's... serious, right?

@missxmarvel 2 жыл бұрын

Ppl don’t like tiger moms but appreciate the overprotective ones. This is why I hate parents.

@danielaskocicgarcia4665 2 жыл бұрын

@friedi_fx 4 жыл бұрын

If I had had that mother, I wouldn't be creating music, shooting and editing videos, or drawing pictures today. She would have suppressed all my creative potential and put a cork in it. Not all children are the same. For some, education is not the most important aspect of life.

@missxmarvel 4 жыл бұрын

friedi_fx You’re talking about overprotecting mothers. Tiger mothers invest in their children and are way better.

@friedi_fx 4 жыл бұрын

@@missxmarvel Maybe for you, but not for me and many others I assure you.

@Rainytwilight 7 ай бұрын

Lol shooting and editing video's.. you call that an accomplishment? if you are so great then why didn't anyone offered you a record deal? why aren't you working for Disney or Pixar if your drawings are so great? You think tiger parenting is so bad but this woman is highly successful, has a PhD and her children are high achievers. I can't say that about so called indluencers.

@zhuzuinan 2 жыл бұрын

Value education is a precious attitude of the Chinese culture. But formal education and hard working only do not determine success in (professional) life. Like Kai Yan said one's mindset, attitude, direction in life, hungry for succes, vision and passion matter even more. At the end if the tyger moms dediation and upbring methodes are so successfeel, why we see so little success full businessman (woman yes), visionaire leaders, eager CEO's, bestselling writters, award winning actors or noble price laureaats out these 'successfull trained' tiger kids? If these tiger mon kids are so outstanding, why the Boardrooms or higher management layers, university professors, alderman or ministers position are always lack of Asians than? Specially in the West. I believe that the Tiger Mother's education methode is succesfull on the schools and educations. But at the same time the strict upbringing methode is also the limitation for success in professional life. Being excellent and outstanding in professional life and life in general there is no blue print and no instruction how to do it. This is out of Tiger Mom's reach. I believe that tiger mom has to think further than education only. The Tiger Mother 2.0 needs to add soft skills and inspirations to the methode so the kids will have the luggage to excel beyong the school and university.

@MrSupertwo Жыл бұрын

Haha, the people look so unimpressed. Imagine paying top dollar to listen to this woman praise child abuse.

@jonfee5081 3 жыл бұрын

This is a bunch of bs

@phuochuynh5523 5 жыл бұрын

@anonx2747 3 жыл бұрын

You mean abuse?

@evanstiff1057 6 жыл бұрын

Bro if you tryna get better education dont come to america LOL

@zelantern 2 жыл бұрын

All I hear are excuses. Something around the lines of "the end justify the means."

@MrSupertwo Жыл бұрын

Her kid is doomed. This kid will never understand what happened to his life. The cycle of asian damage will continue on and on.

@devilmemnoch 6 жыл бұрын

She spent half of her life in the west but speaks English very poorly... Yet she is talking about the perfect education?!

@J.I.0 6 жыл бұрын

devilmemnoch I wonder if you can speak her language and englsih

@Foimay 5 жыл бұрын

She probably came when she was developed keeping her from developing an accent. Ps she speaks very good English(she could probably write it better than most) but the only reason you are calling her English "poor" is because of her strong accent.

@onyx1674 4 жыл бұрын

@@Foimay The only one talking about accent is you. It's her grammar as well as inconsistencies (one, second, third). Can't you tell or are you so focused on her accent that you can't hear the grammar?

@alexjames2510 4 жыл бұрын

J C She grew up in The Netherlands not England or USA

@salihplayer480p6 3 жыл бұрын

@@Foimay Im from Turkey I'm never seen any English or American person in my whole life and Im still better than that woman