Yes it sure is! Thank you 💕

Amen! Thank you ❤️

I'll be praying along with you 💕

Thank you 💕

Thank you Emily ❤️

Awe thanks for taking the time to watch!

You are quite welcome ☺️. We are so very happy to share our experience adoption stories!

Awe thank you for sharing your story with us. Kindred spirits! Merry Christmas to you and your family 💖🎄

Very very true ❤️

Thanks for watching 🥰

Thank you so much for sharing your family story 💝 It's so beautiful how God forms each of our earthly families! Congratulations on your recent adoption ☺️

It certainly is a grieving process, as it is whenever someone you care about is no longer in your daily life. Ultimately, we rely on God to comfort us and trust that He loves, guides and protects the children. The most important thing is to maintain the mindset that even though it might be hard to say goodbye, the time spent safely with us, was worth it.

No, the cost for the basic paperwork done by our adoption attorney was covered by the state allowance.

Thank you for your thoughts. Unfortunately without getting extremely personal, most cases the parents are given extended amounts of time to show progress in the ability to parent. There are often other factors, like a history of older children being removed over and over again. Believe me, I too struggle with heartbreak that all parents and children can't be together 💔. My mother's heart breaks for other mothers.

@@TheWhites6 You are a truly compassionate person. Someone else might have blasted me for even suggesting what I did, and you didn't. -- I have been seriously contemplating fostering to adopt, without doing very much about it, as I am single and would do this alone. So it's a tough one. Thank you for receiving my message with so much kindness and understanding. I wish you and your family all the blessings in the world.

By "open" do you mean the adoption has not been finalized and signed? Or it's been finalized but you have agreed to an "open" adoption meaning there is some amount visits, phone calls etc..? If it's finalized, the chance they could appeal the adoption is slim. If not, then, yes, if they are not in agreement with the terms you want ( no visits) then they could drag out the process. Ultimately, if you truly believe the visits are retraumatizing and will not get better, and you have some proof ( from a counselor or someone supervising the visit), I would go before the court to amend the adoption terms. I hope that made sense and helps!

@@TheWhites6 It’s not finalized but I’m thinking while deciding to do open or closed that if I do closed and they appeal it she’d have to see them the whole time. I’m a therapist myself and I see firsthand that the visits are retruamatizing, and the woman who does visitation and her state case worker agree. If I allow visits after adoption can they still appeal the adoption for some other reason, or are they not able to appeal at that point?

Yes, until it's finalized she will still be allowed visits and if you choose closed and the bio mom doesn't agree, she can drag the process out for quite a while, until it can be proven a closed adoption is best for the child. Once it's finalized, rarely will those terms be changed but she could always try. Often families will choose an open adoption but with very strict stipulations on very minimal visits, like one or two per year, supervised with the option to not allow the visit to happen if the parent doesn't meet certain criteria.

@@TheWhites6 I don’t think you get my question 😅 You’re saying that they can appeal it if you choose closed adoption but if I chose open isn’t that still a risk anyways that they could also appeal the open adoption just to maintain control over the situation

@@emilyyoung9285 yes they can always but it's very unlikely the terms of the adoption will change if you have abundant documented evidence of what terms are best for the child. That is the whole reason the adoption process takes so long, to give the state and courts enough time to collect documentation to prove what's best for the child and not have to go back to court after finalization.

Thank you for watching and commenting. I understand your viewpoint that adoption is not natural however I would say a child not being able to be with their biological parents ( for whatever reason) is not natural or maybe better said, ideal. Adoption in my opinion is a beautiful gift from God for both the child and adoptive family. I'm sure as an adoptive parent you'd agree the love, connection and feeling of "family" is or can be just as strong regardless of a child's biology. And I 100% agree, the baseline event of being removed from your biological parents is traumatic and should always be kept at the forefront of any adoptive families minds. As a trauma informed family, we are well educated on the trauma that happens even while in the womb! I wish there was a way for all adoptive children to maintain a connect with their biological family's but unfortunately if the other parties are not interested, there is little we can do, other than keep that door open ( which we have). Praying many blessings on your family ❤️

Thank you so much 💕