It is always a joy to find women who remain virgins until marriage. Please stick to your values in this degenerate and hedonistic society. I am certain that whoever you marry in the future will greatly appreciate it.

Im a 20 yo vigin girl too and I relate so much to this

You are infinitely beautiful as a creation of God! Keep walking with the Lord and trust in the life He has planned for you. You are still young and have plenty of time to find the one. You should be proud of your virginity and I know you future partner will appreciate that you waited for them. You are not missing out on anything.

Katia it’s a blessing to be of your age and still mantain the purity of your body. Sex sounds like a fun and exciting activity, but one doesn’t really understand the underlying dangers it posses until one is harmed and affected by it. Trust me, from experience, you don’t want that pain and void in your heart. You might feel lonely, I sympathize, I felt lonely too, until I got a gf and started having sex with her, but that didn’t really solve my issues and the pain it caused me later was gut wrenching.

i thought being 19 and a virgin was normal, you're not alone

it only works if you can get a husband or wife you actually want, otherwise it just creates a new way to "sin"

That's how it's done in most Traditional cultures.

Why the friends first phase though? Isn't it more honest to approach someone you're attracted to with more clear intentions? That being marriage of course

@@mrspazzout1 Friends or in the least acquaintances first. How will you know if you are attracted to them or not if you don't even (or barely know them)? I hope on not stepping on Men on a Mission's toes or anything (don't actually know his name), but this is my experience and thoughts and I absolutely agree with everything said in this vid btw. If you're attracted to someone you don't know, or barely know, I would say that sounds more like lust. Number one criteria is does she love Jesus and will she continue to love Jesus above you? after that everything else is just kind of a bonus, of course it's important to mesh well and have some interests in common but Jesus first. As a friend you will be able to see if that is true for her and she will hopefully be able to see the same in you. I'm 40 and have gone through a divorce (unwanted and uninitiated by me) I'm am following this method even at 40, where I wish I had followed it back when I got married. I watched my dad do it age 70 too, to a widow of 15 years. Trust in God that He has someone for you and that His timing is perfect.

@@earthwormandruw Thanks for your response it really makes sense to me! I was only thinking about my experiences being friendzoned consistently but that was before getting to know Jesus. Truly loving someone is wishing the best for them, and the best is salvation. As a man i should not stand in the way of this but instead should support her in that journey, thanks for making me think twice about this, bless you!

@@mrspazzout1 I would say that for me I am becoming better friends with someone rn that I fully intend to date in the near future, now we have both communicated that, and the reason we aren’t dating is because of personal problems that we are both working on to be better partners to each other. And yes it’s important to have communication (I’ve learned my lesson in that 😬) but that communication doesn’t have to be marriage related, that can come when dating, but the stage of becoming better friends in the beginning is important in making sure you actually like hanging out with someone that you aren’t actually dating, because that dating feeling can cloud your judgement. And if you and your partner are best friends even before going into a relationship then it will last!

Same bro let's keep going

Im right with you, brothers in Christ. I’m 12 days in. I feel a wave of temptation hitting me today, but I know if we focus on Christ He will give us strength🙏🏻

Don’t give up brother I am in the exact same boat! I’ve made it four weeks, then three weeks, two weeks. I won’t falter. I won’t give up. This time, I’ll make it to marriage. And if I don’t, I’ll pray for strength and I’ll keep going. Praying for help and for God to take away your feelings when you feel tempted works for me every time. If you pray, and don’t give into your own desires you will succeed.

Don't give up brother, fight the good fight of faith, staying in prayer, and figuring out more about yourself during your journey to freedom 🙏

Trust Brother it’s not worth it. Save yourself for the Woman that God will give you in the Future. Keep going man, God got us all!

How are you going to know if their respectful and, awesome if you don't talk to them?

It takes practice and humility. Just like anything in life you have to work up to it and fail a bunch of times. I used to be amazed at my dad for the way he would randomly share the gospel with others, even seen him almost get punched for it. I asked him about it once and he said each and every time his heart is pounding, he does it because that's what God told us to do. Start small, set a goal and in time you will get better at it. My dad says he has to share the gospel with at least one person a week.

Pray. A lot. Whenever you have a Problem, praying is the first and best thing to do. Our loving father will hear it and he won't ignore it. Even though I'm more or less extroverted and not shy, I also struggled a bit with that, but god helped me and Provided me Lots of occasions (for example in school) to share it. My heart is pounding like crazy every time, but this is just another winable fight

pray pray pray!!! talk to Jesus about this shame you feel and fear of man, pray for freedom from this and read your bible. talk to friends or christian’s you are close to. and you will be freed from the fear of man in Jesus’ name.

Hey brother I understand your struggle! I just turned 24 still doing my best to glorify God inside and out. keep it up. The Lord is with you

Just turned 27, still battling my porn addiction. The Lord k ows what we have need of.

Not wrong

Dudes when a girl rejects them once in middle school be like:

@@yasiem6245 girls with a double digit body count be like:

@@Nick-ij5nt ooh, i struck a nerve.😥 Let me get out the world's smallest violin for your disaffected man child ego.

This is the sad reality for us who have sinned and not kept ourselves before marriage. We deserve the punishment we get because we have been sinned and been lustful creatures, not respecting the body God gave us, which is also a sacred temple for God. Simply repenting and being sorry is not enough. Years of sinning and perverting our bodies and souls isn’t atoned easily. I encourage you to be patient, eventually you will prove to God you are worthy of his grace and he will bless you. I know it’s not pretty thing to recognize but we have been sinners, we can’t have everything the way we want just because we think we are good and have repented.

@@shadowjuan2 There are so many faults in your reply that just don't sit right with an authentic Christian. 1. ''years of sinning...'' in my life there have also been years of abstinence, isolating from the world, reading the Bible as my life depended on it. And if you read the Bible too, you will see that Jesus didn't say things like: you have sinned for so many years that I won't save your soul just like that, only because you want it. 2. ''isn't atoned so easily'' this sounds more like the buddhist belief - that you have to burn your karma first. It isn't like that with Jesus Christ. Remember what he said to Mary Magdalene: ''Her sins, which are many, are forgiven' for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little." He then told the woman, "Thy sins are forgiven." 3. ''you will prove to God you are worthy of his grace'' God never gives His grace to us because we deserve it. It wouldn't be called grace otherwise. He had already given us His grace when sending His son to save us. God's grace is an undeserved favour, Jesus Chirst is God's grace personified. I invite you to get to know Him better, and you will have His grace performing miracles in your life too.

I'm sorry he treated you that way. It was highly inappropriate of him to say those things. I'm also a woman so I know how these words can hurt. But you are a christian and you are forgiven trough Jesus. I want to share something my boyfriend said to me when we started dating each other. He said "I don't care what you have done in your past." And he never asked me how many I've dated or how I have lived my life in the past. I was even able to talk about my past and my frustrations to him. He just listens. He do of course have boundaries, but he is a very stable person. I could just sense he is mature in his faith. You probably sensed something was off, I think it's so weird to judge someone by their past when you now believe in the God who gives new life. It does not make sense at all.

Christian people can actually be some of the worst people you will meet. Their faith empowers them to be awful to anyone who does not practice it or not practice it "perfectly"

Thank you!!

Why do should their break their virginity when they’re keeping at as sacred to the Lord until they’re married with the one God chose for them. They cannot just go marry anyone that call themselves Christians Just because they’re Christians doesn’t mean they’re the right one for you

@@Belovedfiredid u read the comment right

@@von8357 did you read my comment

What about men who do the reverse? Asking because statistically, more men sleep around and are more sexually loose.

@@yasiem6245 I have no problem saying men shouldn’t sleep around. I clearly stated in my original comment that’s the Biblical mandate. We cannot continue to immediately go to “but what about men!?!” every time we try to discuss issue women might be bringing upon men. That’s disingenuous. I understand there are a ton of male influencers talking about how “women are all whores”, but then say “men need to go out and sleep with as many women as possible”- that’s sick and evil! But please- this is Men on Mission. We’re going to address removing the plank from our eye as well as discuss how to remove the speck from someone else’s. Men of God must have standards. Man or woman- it is never ever right to shame or guilt someone into a relationship or imply that they aren’t being forgiving and Christlike because they might not feel comfortable entering a relationship with someone who’s had a sexual partner already. That’s all I’m saying.

the bible speaks on a man joining his wife and the two becoming one in marriage, it also speaks on the marriage bed should not be “defiled”, We can use common sense to realize soul ties happen and even if you’re in a relationship what happens if u break up? Its done like that, marriage is a commitment and sex in marriage is blessed by God, yes it could lead to divorce but divorce is not that easy

Most of what religion is man's projecting what they think God would want if they were a God. They are making a lot of stuff up. In the Bible days they were not even really getting married, they were buying and selling women to produce offspring to work their farms and to be soldiers. Also, if you give man something that wields power, they will alway twist it to support their wants and desires, in this case, men have ego issues and ownership/conquering kinks surrounding sex and women so requiring women mainly to be virgins supports that. it was also a poor-man's dna test to particularly ensure women and girls were virgins at marriages or union to be sure that the children they had belong to the man that owned them... Men have never really been expected to save themselves for anything...

Good day. You're on the right path to overcoming lust. One thing you should do if you haven't done is to open up and tell someone about it. The Bible says in Psalm 32:3 "When I refused to confess my sin, I grew weary and groaned all day long". Find someone in your life that you hold in high regard and talk to them about your problem. Ask them to be your accountability partner, that way whenever those thoughts come, you know there's someone else that's behind you and praying for you. Sin thrives in silence and secrecy, so I encourage you to speak up. I'd recommend like a parent or someone you have a lot of respect for. I know it isn't going to be easy speaking out. You might think you'll feel ashamed but I promise you once you speak out and involve someone else you'll feel free, and that feeling is added motivation. God bless you and help you.

@@kevweoteri Thanks! I have told my parents about my problem a while ago. But whenever I got tempted I didn't tell them when I should have, they gave me tips which I didn't really do (like clean dishes or change my thoughts to something else). I will try asking for their help the next time I'm tempted. The bigger issue is that it feels like when I was tempted, I kind of locked myself in, ignoring God's calls to me, I had a lot of time stopping myself but I didn't. And that's what scares me, the way I think selfishely and ignoring God. I don't want that, I am not even sure as to what happened to me at that moment. I want to be close to God, but I don't really do it. I feel like the seed that fell on the rock in the Jesus's parable of the sower. I want to keep my faith, but it keeps fading away the longer I not do the same sin.

@@parpar8090 I completely understand you as I am essentially in a similar position at the age of 40. Two things in my experience of sexual sin since I was 8 years old. 1) We have free will so it is up to us to make the choice to sin or not. The choice is yours an no one else's. 2) God is sovereign over all things and we can do nothing without Him. @Kevwe Oteri's advice is spot on but how can others help you if you hide the truth from them? You are responsible for your actions. Look at this struggle in your life as an opportunity to know Christ deeper, as Paul lamented and Jesus responded, "But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” ‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭12‬:‭9‬ ‭ESV‬‬. Do you love your sin more than Jesus? It's a far easier path to do so, especially when the desire burns like a flame from within at an intensity hotter than the sun. Cry, wail, scream, punch a wall, but just remember like all things, that desire will pass and the more you build the strength to resist the quicker and easier it will pass. I have had moments where I lay awake all night telling myself over and over while praying, just a little bit longer and it will pass. Soon it will go away and a new day will come. Don't allow the enemy to kidnap you in guilt and hold you hostage in it. Guilt is a prod, a push to Christ not a prison cell to keep you from Him. Love you brother!

@@earthwormandruw I get it, I'm trying to say that I feel like my spirit is fading away the longer I don't sin. Like my connection with God basically. I think that in order to connect with God is I should pray more, and focus more on what I'm reading in the Bible, and basically have God everywhere and anytime.

Brother try Philippians 4:8

If someone you loved was drinking, getting drunk everyday, ruining their life because of it, or say someone you loved was addicted to (insert any kind of drug) and it destroying their life…would you really just think to yourself “I’m just going to mind my own business” as you watch their life and well being deteriorate and potentially lead to their death? To say that Christian’s just simply “not mind their business” about topics like these because “sin hurts God” is grossly inaccurate. There is far too many studies and proof to the effects of p0rn, empty sex/hookup culture, etc on the psychology and biochemistry of an individual. It is damaging individuals on every aspect of their well being. We speak up on this because we love others. Also, how illogical the mentality of “you live how you want and I will live how I want” - that is a recipe for chaos and if we lived in a world in which every person truly were living how they all wanted to, you would see just how baseless and broken that mentality is.

Bro first off it’s a Christian channel sin in man is our business especially when it comes to Christians who are within hookup culture because ultimately the path leads to destruction of self not just mistakes.

What’s ironic is that you say live the way you want yet you’re on here telling him how he should live.Just because you don’t care about others or have a moral code do not try to make us not care also.Also as the brother below your comment said,this is a Christian channel,for those who want to follow God and be more righteous if you don’t agree with it and are not ready to change you can move it along,as you said yourself,let live.The truth however is that this convicts you

I’m not telling anyone how to live…I’m saying you choose how to live….if you want that than fine. It’s so funny how Christian’s speak as of they are morally superior to everyone else, yet they go out and do awful things (I.e sexually abuse their children in Bible study). I’m just saying don’t be bullied into a life that Christian’s want for you. Everyone who does not follow the Bible is not a terrible person. Christian’s sure act like they are.

And it’s funny that you speak of a moral code, yet hate everyone who is different (gay people, people who do not follow the Bible). Now, that’s irony