1. Fake it til you make it. Manufacture your looks. Decide who you wanna be. 2. Have an opinion. Decide. Rely on yourself. 3. Stop negative self-talk. Use affirmations. 4. Curate what you look at & who you follow. 5. Show up for yourself & your goals daily in a small way. 6. Embrace authenticity & vulnerability. Don't be afraid to be different. 7. Life's a play. You're free to choose the role you wanna play. You can try on different roles. 8. Be true to yourself. Expand your muscle of ideas. Create & voice your opinion. Learn to be wrong & change your opinion with ease. 9. Lean into your strengths. 10. Invest in yourself. People emulate how you treat yourself. 11. Do good for those around you. Very informative video! Thank you so much!!! I made this list to help my future self who wants to go back to this video... And to do #11 too 😊😁

I am LOVING that so many of us women are realising that femininity is our strength, not our weakness. The idea that being ourselves and experiencing life slowly and calmly is disempowering has done us so much harm. I love being on this journey with all you ladies. May we all be happier, healthier, and more at peace 🙏

After I finished my year-long course of therapy, I was afraid I would have some rollbacks but thanks to your videos I’m still going strong and my mental health has never been better. Margarita, you help your subscribers keep afloat even during hard times like this (I’m from Ukraine so things are not optimistic here). Thank you for being so consistent!😊

Hi margarita ... I am divya from Bangalore, India 🇮🇳 ... Accidentally happened to watch one of your episodes and here I am to tell u .... You are one amazing soul .. you are inspiration to women like me .. i unfornately lost my dad in covid 19... Had couple of relationship which has drained me emotionally and mentally .. after watching your KZfaq videos ... I have tried implementing few points that you share... Though I find it really difficult to calm my mind with anxious attachment style... Your videos are saviour. Thankyou so much for inspiring... Would love to watch more videos on women self development

I love the idea of “building the muscle of being your best friend”. I have a track record of beating myself up after mistakes but it’s so unproductive. I like the simplicity of what you said with decisions: “Got it wrong? No problem. Decide again.” Your videos are such great wake up calls😊

You’ve changed my perception of how I can live out the second half of my life. It’s about deciding who we want to be and working towards that person. I’m so grateful for these videos. And as for not yet being an older woman, I’m nearly 44 and I can tell you when you’re loving yourself internally, men still respond and want to get close.

So right, I used to follow these "young hot people" untill I realized they don't t serve me at all. Now my news feed is filled with people and women that are closer to me, to my interests and goals.

I've been listening to you for weeks. I write solely to thank you for your time, energy, wisdom, and shared experiences. You say that it is preferable to choose role models that resemble us physically and those we admire and try to be like mentally. Of course you are one of these for me! I am a Doctor by profession but throughout my youth I dedicated myself to literature and theater, my true essence. I am fascinated by how people work and I deeply appreciate listening to your videos while I walk. If you truly get to read that, I wish you with all my heart that you are enjoying the present moment with your newly expanded family! with love, Orsi❤

I love that you’re straight to the point yet easy and fun to listen to. You give the energy we need to feel. No bullshit no nonsense. Thank you.

I don’t normally leave comments, but you’re so genuine and warm. It’s comforting to hear someone speak so profoundly but in a friendly, gentile way. Happy new year. 2024 will be much better than 2023. ❤

honestly, your videos have had an IMMENSE impact on me and my life, and I just wanna say thank you. I used to hate being feminine since I perceived femininity as weakness and endless vulnerability. Unfortunately, such a perception mingled with an internalized homophobia (I’m a lesbian and I was born and raised in a very conservative town in Ukraine) and, as a result, sucked me into a trans-cult, and at the age of 20 I started transitioning to male and taking testosterone. As time went on, I felt worse and worse, but I couldn’t understand why. Thanks to my therapist, I managed to figure everything out and started detransitioning. Your videos have always inspired me to keep on keeping on, and I can finally say that feminine energy is the most empowering thing in every woman’s life.

Believe it or not, this is exactly what I wished to explore this afternoon! And here my favorite lady sharing her thoughts on it!. Thanks a lot Margarita! For everything you do on behalf of us!

Gotta listen to this every single day from today

I am loving how you are empowering women to stand in who they are. I love this! I love what you represent. I have learnt so much listening to your messages, I realise I have always been a black cat who exudes that energy & now I understand to keep being who I am in that respect. I love that you are empowering women to be strong, value yourself & the people who are worth being in your life will come ❤️

You are stunning Margarita my goodness. I can’t believe they told you this. This is so why I hate the rhetoric online of destroy her ego. Kind of bs. Anyone who tears anyone down or tries to put them down is so working against the whole of humanity. Love you dear beautiful gorgeous wise women !❤❤. Happy New Year! Thank you for all you do and have done for us always. Sincerely your leadership is divine amen

This made me cry in the best kind of way, I feel like you've allowed me to give myself permission to start living my best life honestly thank you ❤️ xxxxx

Margarita, it’s been more than 5 years since I’ve been following you and I really look up to the strong woman you are, and I hope to be as strong and empowering as you are. Thank you for all that you do. And thank you for making such a huge difference in my life and helping me become a better woman. ❤️

Thanks for sharing all that you share. You have no idea you are saving lives.🙏

Great video. Lot to learn. I’m stuck between Fake it till make it and Being vulnerable and authentic. It seems like they cross out each other.

Your content popped up on my TikTok during covid and you and a few others are the reason I left my narcissistic ex of 10 years. I saw the signs. I realized I disliked the person I became and I slowly changed. I'm now single for 2 and a half years. I've lost 60 lbs just changing the way I eat. I'm sleeping now! I couldn't with my ex , my fight-and-fight mode was on 24/7. I am glowing and work on myself every day.

I love that you said thank you for subscribing not “please click to subscribe “ That shows me you ready live the things you say.

Cruel adults telling a child she is not pretty 🫣😢 speechless

Life imploding due to divorce, heartbreak, suicidal thoughts. Scared to support myself for first time. The man I left my marriage for has left me. Self worth destroyed. Guilt, shame, gullibility. Listening to you to build up from wreckage. It’s Ride or die time.

I love what you have to say ! ❤. I am going to turn 69 in two months. I am a widow and slogging through the online dating community. Age is an influencer . I am retired, pretty , athletic, financially sound and living my best life but bring up my age ? OMG! I become invisible!

I really needed this. After a recent relationship, I was struggling with my self-worth but after much reflection, I choose me after so many mind games. Cut contact now as I feel so clear in my head that I have put myself first ❤

Found your videos on Tiktok but they were too short then I decided to come to KZfaq. You really help me become a better person and remind me that there’s only one me and that’s my super power thank you

What you said about daughters who have mothers who don't do for themselves was so accurate. That was my childhood and I felt like a burden. I have an 18 month old daughter and am always reminding myself that what she sees me do for myself, she will do for herself.

I just love your straightforward, no BS approach to helping us women. Thank you. You uplift me whenever I'm feeling out of sorts. I watch your Detach video over and over. Going through that now as heartbreak is just hard (I need to look through your vids to see if you have one on that). But thank you for helping us with this great content.

Love this ❤ just wanted to say Thank You for validating that as women our desires are ALLOWED. So often in our culture we’re taught that our needs are selfish. I look forward to your videos as a reminder that I am allowed to have desires and needs and have them met. ❤ love ya sista!

I've been binge watching your videos. I'm 24, and need to start loving and respecting myself and I need people to start respecting who I've become, too. All that to say Thank you. You're so inspirational.

Leaving a comment because you told me to (I do not usually). I love listening to you and I do believe I have become a more confident person from doing so. I just feel more aligned after I hear you speak. Like the world is always tugging on our brains all the time and it’s easy to forget who you are or what you’re doing but when I listen to your videos I’m like “oh yeah…” remembering. Thank you so much, Margarita 🙏🏼💗🤟🏼

I love you so much!!! Thank you you dont understand how much you’re helping us women who went through traumatic relationships that killed us internally

My main takeaways were it’s okay to be cringe and you can be anyone you want to be, and to just make decisions quickly. Thank you!!!❤

Amazing video dear Margarida ❤️✨ sending you much love from Brasil 🇧🇷

You rock. This is amazing. Thank you. You are not only pretty, you are also so smart and wise. Thank you for everything you do. ❤

& thank you for being you !!!!!

Haha, sing it girl, "you gotta be stronger" lol. I just want to thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. I love your videos. You have no idea how much they help me on the daily. You are an absolutely gorgeous, bold and smart woman and I appreciate learning from you 💙

Thanks margarita for your videos. My mind's cleared out for myself again-seeing myself and my worth not to be tied up with someone else is just utterly enjoyable. It's good to return to me.

Wow , you’re are incredible. Every time I watch one of your videos I think about how amazing it would have been to have parents peak the way you speak to us (viewers) please never stop you have a gift !

Wow this is amazing...I'm Rebekah from Ethiopia 🇪🇹...I watch your videos almost everyday...This is beautiful...Thank you.

Thank you for making this video, Margarita. You’re very wise! I really needed to hear this today. Happy New Year to you and your beautiful family. Thank you for making the world a better place with your videos🤍

Margarita your words are so profound, true and raw! I swear I cannot thank you enough for each form of advise you give. For all the girlies desiring to change and be the better version of oneself you are the support we need for this… You have changed my opinions so much of how I have been living and I am grateful.

Dear Margarita, You have the same name as my older sister who is very special to me. I want to thank you for the clarity of frankness of your videos. I am in my 50's and still consider myself that I have chances in life, though some people consider the 50's as 'old'. I have been married for 25 years with someone who never really saw me as his priority and unfortunately I allowed it. I am in the process of rebuilding my self esteem and the essence of me before marrying: playful, joyful, thriving, resilient. I moved from Latin America to Europe for him and I grew professionally, with ups and downs. However, always unhappy in this marriage, he always had something more important going on, and he talked always about himself all along... Now, I have detached from him and having separate lives but still under the same roof, because of the financial issue. However, all the steps recuperating self esteem are good to move towards a better state.

We all hold beauty. I am learning this after suffering with body dysmorphia for years. The bad thing is when you compare yourself to others. That gets you into trouble. I think you are very beautiful and intelligent. I love your videos. ❤

Margarita you are not only insightful and intelligent but also extremely magnetic and a charismatic pure soul..who people would want to connect with.. Thank you for sharing such valuable advice and inspiring women to do their best and feel their best

I rarely write comments on KZfaq videos. This video is important to me as a start to a self-learning journey. I'm grateful you take your time and talk on the topic of self worth. I'm wishing for a better me after I implement the steps from your video. Thank you Margarita

I generally don’t listen to self worth and feminine energy videos but you…ma’am you have brought unimaginable changes in me. I dated a toxic guy and it turned me into this sloppy careless dirty person. Thankfully after listening to you I started showing up for myself like I used to before meeting that toxic guy. And I already feel better…lethargy comes back at times but I push myself to clean up, doll up and take care of myself anyway. And you are so true about affirmations. I started acting like how’d I look and behave if I become my best version. And I started doing it….you’ve brought such a big change in my mindset. Thankyou ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Also congratulations and a very happy and prosperous new year to you.

Love your mind, you’re amazing . 🖤✨

I found you 2 weeks ago. Listen to your podcast and love what you have to say. Thank you Margarita!

You speak to me on such a deep level and that is incredibly rare for me. Thank you so much for creating this channel and putting your energy into others like myself who need this life changing perspective/advice.

The answer to self worth has always been the same, self respect. Just treat others the way you would like you to be treated and you don't have to feel bad. Nothing is, ultimately, someone else's fault, they also have lived life and not been respected. Everything you do in life leaves a mark, Make your mark but don't let it be a big fat X . The more marks you make, the more you will be remembered, whether for good or bad.

Yes to you and your dedication to be who you are in this world. It’s simple refreshing to hear you speak and see you thrive. I am on to the next video now… thank you 🙏🏽

This video came at the most perfect time. Thank you so much, Margarita. I've appreciated your presence and your words for quite some ting now. I'm going through an awful rut with my selfworth and it's painful, I was THAT girl my entire life but I've been going through so much stuff mentally that I really can't recognize myself anymore. This video is helping me re-gain and remember who I used to be just a year ago. Please dive more into this subject

Margarita Oh Margarita! First of all congratulations on the new baby! second, I used to watch your videos here and there but this one hit home. I have noticed that my relationship is struggling and I realised the biggest reason for that AND my crippling anxiety is my low self esteem. I grew up being called fat and ugly and have a mom who has always sacrificed for everyone. Also, the fact that my parents never liked each other. Whatever the reason maybe, I have decided it is on me to change what the aspect of me I don't want to have anymore. I have been reading a lot and working on myself. This video helped me tremendously and I cannot thank you enough. I hope you are rest well and enjoying motherhood!

Thank you , this was very enlightening , especially the bit u said about the mother , my mom did a lot of herself along with for us and while I struggle with self worth sometimes , I am seeing her perspective now in a more brighter light

I just started the video, but I resonated so much when he spoke about always identifying as average or being told or treated like you were average it isn’t until recently, that I found out I was not ugly or I should say that I felt that I was not. And it’s just mind-boggling the way we perceive ourselves, because looking at you I can’t imagine you ever thinking you were not absolutely gorgeous. Thank you for the work you continue to put in the lessons you continue to give us. I’m gonna go finish the video. ❤❤

This is a keeper and I know I’ll rewatch this video multiple times. As someone with chronic illness, it’s a struggle to see myself the way I want to, but I’m trying. I do a lot of philanthropy. It helps me stay motivated, grounded and positive!

You have no idea how much your videos have helped me ❤

All the previous videos that i have watched of your channel , i would have said that i want to be like you, but after this one i would say i want to become a better version of me and not a 2nd version of someone else. Thank you for becoming you and for inspiring us becoming ourselves.

You will never now how much I needed all this!! You just completely changed the way I see life. Truly, thank you so so much. I will never forget this❤️

Hey beautiful soul!! I just have to comment and say THANK YOU for existing and sharing so much good content! I'm recently really going thru some struggles with my self worth, my love life and other things - and listening to a lot of your videos for the past few days has really liftet my spirit and given me back hope. It has been so helpful to learn so much from you and your experience, and also hear a lot of things that I already know but sometimes forget because of my trauma. so just wanted to comment and say thank you. 💖

Be healthy!

My mom has unfortunately never taken time for herself or done anything to "treat" herself. It was very hard for me to learn how to do things for myself without feeling guilty or like I was wasting money. Now I get my hair professionally done regularly, get a monthly massage, have an extensive skin care and shower routine, and just all around invest in myself, and I think it's reflected in my confidence. My mom just went to a hair salon for the first time at age 68 this year and it took so much convincing from me. I feel for the women in the previous generation who had to rely on men and expected to do everything for the children. For some of them, it will never feel normal to treat themselves how they deserve to be treated.

Had the most dramatic wake up call about self sabotage and anxious attachment, unfortunately I’ve hurt a person so dear to my heart. You, my dear you are helping me to navigate this insane situation in which I’ve brought myself without realising. Thank you for your power and for your dedication! You are at service! God bless you, your family and love ones! Thank you❤

You are so raw and authentic. Thanku for sharing. I hope you know how helpful and reassuring your videos are and will continue to do so ❤❤

This video was so powerful! Point #7 in particular really resonated with me. Thank you so much for being YOU, Margarita!

Thankyou so much! Love from Malta

Your videos help me out a lot I’m a male,you’re very attractive, I’m upset people told you those untrue things , but you already know that

Thanks margarita your words are really powerful.... I had anxious attachment and it was the first video of you who made me realise that... Hope you have a really healthy baby..... God bless you

Ok yhis may seem strange but the tone of Margaritas voice soothes my nervous system she clearly has an advanced throat Chakra. When I hear her speak it literally feels soothing so thank you❤I'm learning to use my voice. In nice ways to get what I want. I liken what your discussing to sprinkling make believe magical glitter positive thoughts into my day Something I'm new at feeling into and doing for myself. Learning how to stick uo for myself. Thank you❤

The syncronisation of this video and my realisation of feeling, thinking and looking to curating the life I want because I am worthy. You're a gem ❤

I love how a-lot of the tips are about abundance of good rather than just elimination of anything 😊

Margarita 🌼 you’re inspiring. You have so much potential. I ran across your black cat video and made me click because I have golden retrievers lol I’m so glad I did, I’ve watched like 10 more videos from you and got to realize I need to work on my attachment style, energy, the way I behave around my husband, etc. very helpful information and motivated to read more also inspired to keep my channel going, and keep showing up for myself ❤ xo

Dear margarita U have no idea how adorable you are. I love ur voice. Ur accept Is soothing to my ears. Sometimes I sleep listening to u. Thanks for existing and making an effort for making youtube videos.may ur babies be healthy and happy. Lost of love. ❤❤

I needed this! ❤Especially the part about mothers and giving to themselves first. I was raised with a mother who gave everything to us and was always depleted- I grew up, feeling the need to be the same way as her. To feel guilty for anything I wanted for myself. I now have 2 girls and I am teaching them how important it is to love themselves as well - Tyfs!❤

You are amazing Margarita! I found your video on anxious attachment when i was at my lowest of lows. I was triggered, ruminating negativity and i had lost myself. You explained my situation to a T. You have helped me taught me so much throughout the months/years. I really want to take your course. You are literally a relationship and life saver. I hope you are doing amazing with your new born. :)

Talking about reading - I was checking your Amazon book list a few weeks back... 'The Four Agreements' caught me eyes. Thank you Margarita!!! ❤🧠❤ Amazing book!!! ✨ Got me reading 'The Fifth Agreement' as well. ☺️

This is gonna be on repeat for these 1st 30 days 💪🏾💪🏾❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

Happy new year Margarita! I discovered your KZfaq channel and podscasts about 2 months ago when I was at the very lowest in my life after a breakup and many problems and it help me a lot! I love your videos and you truly are inspiring! Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

Thank you, I hope this time I will heal and love myself. I was kinda bullied high school, thought I held but anytime I meet a person after first or second date they vanish and my insecurities come back This is the first time that I want to love myself

I love watching your videos to keep myself in check. I have a very similar mindset and I've found that listening to these values over and over again helps my brain accept that this is my reality. Thank you

This is Great Information and It Works! Thanks 🙏🏻 you’re helping me tremendously

I love your videos thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience ❤

You're the pretiest, gouregeous, cutest mom, most creative who I mostly feel greatful for on KZfaq, Bless you for blessing my days with your sisterlike advice. LOVE LOVE YA !

You are so funny! I just knew you were going to start singing “gotta be stronger”. 😂😂😂

Really love this video. I’ve watched it twice in a row.

I can't believe anyone ever told you you were average... you are gorgeous!!

Hi Margarita, I really like how well spoken you are with sharing your conclusions. I also like literature a lot and the number 7 😆 it is funny that it was the only one I could multiply as well. And one of my favourite numbers along with 4. Greetings from Poland, you do a good job.

I found you on TikTok and I just want to say, Thank you ❤ I’m 42 and struggling with all these things, along with anxiety, depression, etc and I am in a new relationship, you have really helped me in all of these areas!

I thought I knew myself worth till it was tested by people, having an insecurely attachment style because of how my parents treated me does that to you. I didn’t realize I was just attracting people who emulated such as my parents because little me was trying to change that narrative. Important knowing what you have to offer as yourself/ your value and so that if someone comes around and tries to change that you know your worth, so you won’t lower yourself for them. The right people will come around and step up to that level and even higher!

This is so helpful. Thank you very much! 🥰

I've just understood that my mother was exactly that type of person who would deplete herself and tell us how ungrateful we are. As a child I didn't even understand what I should be grateful for, it's like you're born and you're already guilty of something, you need to kind of excuse yourself for your own existence. No wonder I've often felt worthless, despite being liked, smart, an A-student and all of that. Nothing really matters unless you believe in yourself.

Love you lots like jelly tots💓you are a woman i watch that looks NOTHING like me, and probably doesn’t have a similar life story AND you have a have a HUGE effect on me in the BEST way possible! Your energy and your words are top tier.So excited/hype to take your course💓 Thank You,All the best to you and your family!

Thank you so much for this video ❤️

Absolutely love you , always have . Loved the last point … giving to others gives us purpose and fulfills the need inside of us to essentially feed our goodness . Thank you darling you bring light into the world 🙏🏽

Thank you from India! 🇮🇳

LOVE what you have to say on that topic. also, you look sooo much like Scarlett Johansson!

I completely agree with everything that you say on your channel and I live my life by the standards as well, and when my daughter gets older, I will show her your videos because you have a beautiful way of articulating it. Please keep them coming!

This might seem random but... I CANNOT stop obsessing and ruminating and I have absolutely nobody to talk to about this and I need to get it off my chest (and I'm also willing to read responses, if anyone feels called to respond...) I had a HORRIBLE therapist HORRIBLE HORRIBLE HORRIBLE the worst but here's the thing... it's twofold: 1) he's wildly successful (and I can't for the life of me figure out why or how) 2) I saw him for almost all of 2023, I was so traumatized when I went to see him, that I just kept going, because I had nowhere else to turn... In the end, he really fucked me up. Instead of helping me, he traumatized me further. It's over 6 months now, and I can't stop obsessing over how he's traumatized me, and all the money I wasted, etc. etc. I can file a formal complaint. But the process seems long and arduous, and brings me no particular benefits... It's just that I can use my voice, and he can potentially get reprimanded... But if I do this I have to do it soon... I don't know what to do? Any thoughts, anyone?

I really needed to hear this ❤ I'm about to start a new job filled with stylish and intelligent people. Thank you Margarita x it's helped so much!!