I don't know how to be an "adult" in this world

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Video Information: “I don’t know how to be an “adult”
In this video I wanted to chat about expectations related to adulthood, and how I have, in some ways, not been able to live up to some of them. I’m quite disorganized and don’t work well under pressure. I am often told I am “childlike” in nature. I still enjoy many interests and activities I loved as a child, and in some ways, that has made others online speculate over my maturity or wonder if I have not accepted adulthood. In response, I wanted to share another perspective, that embracing who I am helps me be a more successful and content adult. I hope you enjoy this and share your own thoughts.
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@jaynebarry5658 Жыл бұрын

People who falsely accuse you of being “ childish “ are secretly jealous, that you have learned how to take breaks and enjoy life, because they, sadly, have forgotten how to feel joy, or relief. Encouraging one’s own joy is a skill and a discipline. Good job creating this space for yourself, and encouraging it in everyone. ❤

@esthersanchez2264 Жыл бұрын

My suspicion is that the negative comments come from people who are doing similar footage on their KZfaq channel. Whatever their motive it's definitely not worth your time and energy to give it a second thought. The secret to transcendence lies in our childlike innocence. I love what U have to offer as do many others. KEEP DOING U. IGNORE the competitive jealous losers. 🌄😅👍🏽🌿🐰🐕‍🦺🌻🌼🌸

@poppymoon777 Жыл бұрын

Yep

@jessicaqueen8162 Жыл бұрын

Everyone is a child of God. therefore it´s not a shame feeling like one. Just be you.

@eksbocks9438 Жыл бұрын

I think they really are trying to shame her, for not being nuts. They tend to do this with introverts too. Weird people just keep saying that they're "boring."

@mirrors8913 Жыл бұрын

I for one am extremely jealous of people who can walk through flower fields without sneezing their brains out.

@YouGuessIGuess Жыл бұрын

"Adulthood" is a construct created by marketeers who want us to work to afford status symbols we usually don't need.

@eliphas_catdaddy7982 Жыл бұрын

Yep and also it is usually mentioned when they want you to shut up. Ex: so what if the prices are rising? Act like an adult, pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Oh you are crying after seing some war photos? Grow up, war is normal. Etc.

@brushstroke3733 Жыл бұрын

👍

@Chunda8 Жыл бұрын

Overdoing the whole adulthood thing is a surefire path to Wage Slavery. I've noticed that without kids, without a car payment and with my debt low to zero, plus some savings, my conversatons with my employer(s) have changed quite a bit. Money that I don't spend I don't have to earn. With a little reserves, a self-employed side gig, a working spouse... interviews can be kind of fun. I have the resources to basically give two weeks notice at will to any employer if things become unbearable for any number of legitimate reasons. There is such a thing as "Employment at Will" states- well, I'd like to start pioneering the "Employment at My Will" employee.

@brianthesnail3815 Жыл бұрын

Marketers certainly present a version adulthood based around consumerism. That isn't what being an adult is though.

@eliphas_catdaddy7982 Жыл бұрын

@@Chunda8 Well said.

@ardentcerf6523 Жыл бұрын

Growing up isn't learning to be mature all the time, but learning when the right time to be mature comes

@incasethestoveison8869 Жыл бұрын

It is what I need. Thank uuuuu

@tunebeat3809 11 ай бұрын

You could still be a mature adult and do activities that makes you happy.

@floranaturelover 10 ай бұрын

Actually, my definition of mature is doing what is right, having proper views of life (there are many proper views) and just take responsibility for your actions :)

@ardentcerf6523 10 ай бұрын

@@floranaturelover does being mature not include all those things

@floranaturelover 10 ай бұрын

@@ardentcerf6523 (all in my perspective, fine with arguing/discussing) Maturity is not acting serious, boring and never taking risks in your life, maturity is following your conscience, improving your conscience and not being afraid to fail, to make mistakes to improve yourself mentally and physically or your experience because you know everyone makes mistakes. When people are old, many have regrets such as never trying things in life because they were too scared of the consequences or possibilities. I am pretty confident there is a difference between actions that are blind vs spontaneity.

@onehearthlove Жыл бұрын

"The artist is the child who survived" 💛

@tunebeat3809 11 ай бұрын

A part of me still want to have fun making drawings and writing stories when I was younger. While I do write my own stories and draw as an adult, it's not always easy, especially when I have to financially support myself.

@ronaldmay1283 10 ай бұрын

I love that!

@anonimowelwiatko4455 9 ай бұрын

@@tunebeat3809 It should be your goal to support yourself through art you make. Take your time, you will make it.

@DrawinskyMoon 7 ай бұрын

I must’ve died along the way.

@itslilyquinn Жыл бұрын

I suck at "adulting" and my mom calls it "Peter Pan syndrome" because I've just haven't really left my childish state of wonder. I'm made happy by the simplest things, lose touch with this reality and let my imagination wander. I'm so glad I found your channel and know I'm not the only one

@danika9411 Жыл бұрын

I think people who lost touch with their inner child are sad. It's not actually a good thing. And the worst part is if they believe how they function is right and everyone has to function like that. Keep your feelings of wonder alive!

@antonella4946 Жыл бұрын

Hi! I’m not a specialist but the way I think about “Peter Pan Syndrome” is towards people who run away from basic responsibility, autonomy and self-care as an adult, expecting others to do everything for them and provide for them as well. However, an adult who is still curious and in awe and enjoys simple things like a ruler with cute characters or whatever is not someone with Peter Pan Syndrome to me, just someone who knows what they love and what makes them happy ❤

@sukhkaur9440 Жыл бұрын

Actually becoming adult should be about being more engaged with reality with awe and curiosity. The typical adult of our society doesn't translate well to this notion

@superplaylists1616 Жыл бұрын

Are you secretly my sister? 🤣 lol. My mom also calls me "peter pan"

@courtneygrier2015 Жыл бұрын

I felt so alone until i found this channel. I am right there with you. And I can't stop crying watching this particular video, wanting to protect her from the ugliness that has consumed many adults wrapped up in unhappiness due to conforming to society. I relate to her so much and, truly, i'm so lucky to have come across this channel. She is such a beautiful human being. Some sadly, cannot handle such beauty.

@barber0611 Жыл бұрын

the reason why 1.36 million of us keep coming back is because we love you just as you are! 💖

@christinebyrnes3164 Жыл бұрын

100%, don't change who you are to please negative people ❤

@lailalivsdatter6660 Жыл бұрын

❤

@idelsiurquijo7259 Жыл бұрын

I agree 100% never change. Happiness is a childish heart,no matter how old you are.❤

@keiraLeeYuna Жыл бұрын

Verdade.

@tammysmith9495 Жыл бұрын

You are loved exactly as you are and you are a breath of fresh air. Your videos are exactly what my soul needs. Xo ty for being YOU

@sarahburke96 Жыл бұрын

I'm 26 almost 27 and I often don't "feel like an adult" Adulthood is seen as paying bills, working jobs, setting goals and all other stressful things. When really....we're just here to live. To just experience and learn. Reality is just an illusion and is whatever we make it. Also....we're really only living for ourselves. People's words are just words unless we put meaning to it. So just do what makes you happy. It's your life to live, nobody else's.

@enrique4459 Жыл бұрын

People knock me down all the time because I still hold something many of them lost along the way. There is moment when I feel its a blessing than other moments where they make me feel odd like if I'm strange.

@sarahburke96 Жыл бұрын

I can relate. All my "friends" are near or in their 40s as well so I'm the "child" of the group but people "my age" are so busy trying to "grow up"

@unknown_chillhuman Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for this reminder. I just turned 20 last week and was kinda afraid since on our twenties is put so much pressure to live a certain way. But I was thinking, 'stop giving a damn about what society tells you on what you should be doing at age xyz, it really does not matter...' I have only got one life and I am going to live it the way I want to. I want to enjoy every moment that I have got here and I think everyone else should too. At the end of the day we have only got ourselves and that is ultimately the person we have to or should be content with to live our best lives. Lots of love from another human on this planet earth. ✨💙🌼🏞🍀🌺

@sunnysideupprincessnatasya6310 Жыл бұрын

Marshmellow there!! 💛✨️. I'm the same exact age as you (26 at the moment and will be 27 towards the end of November this year) and I am the same exact way!! 💛✨️🌻🌈✝️.

@Josith13 Жыл бұрын

I find the issue is I've been endowed with the wrong set of genitals to be allowed to fully take on the ideas put forward in this video. My worth and visibility and acceptance, is tied to my ability to procure resources$-- So it's 'be myself' at the expense of being a lonely reject overall.

@daryljohnson3945 Жыл бұрын

I'm a 65 year old male that struggled to fit into the world, now I'm glad I can't. Bless you young lady, love from Tennessee.

@dreamsofadaffodil650 Жыл бұрын

💐💐🙏

@eliphas_catdaddy7982 Жыл бұрын

Why do you call yourself a male and not a man?

@prime12602 Жыл бұрын

@@eliphas_catdaddy7982 does it matter?

@raven4090 Жыл бұрын

I'm 60 now, but last year I gave up on trying to fit into this world, too. I quit caring, and am a lot less stressed out now.

@Chunda8 Жыл бұрын

It's not you.

@lauradavis1619 Жыл бұрын

There is a world of difference between childlike and childish. To be childlike, I believe, is to be human, to wonder at creation, to play, to be curious and explore-all virtuous traits. To be childish is to lack responsibility. It appears that you are responsible, industrious, and conscientious. On another note, I will say that I never grew up until I had children. It is such a beautiful and heavy weight to carry.

@wendydarling8730 Жыл бұрын

maybe but I'm not sure why a sense of wonder and curiosity is seen as childlike either. it's more associated with personality type rather than age imo

@Nick-gh5bi Жыл бұрын

Children is an L

@Cranberries4Crows Жыл бұрын

@@Nick-gh5bi aww man :( what did I do to you??

@Candyy248 Жыл бұрын

Or maybe both v:

@Nick-gh5bi Жыл бұрын

@@Cranberries4Crows tf u mean?

@colleenwestbrook8848 Жыл бұрын

Oh honey. I am 68 and still love children’s books and enchanted forests and fairy circles. I still look for little holes at the bottom of trees and picture a little family of some sort sitting inside vesting their dinner. Never change. It is a wonderful way to be. My friends all say that the minute they see any little woodland creature with a family they know it’s me that posted it. I’m so glad I’ll be remembered that way. ❤

@Amanda-jd8xs Жыл бұрын

Of course. Who is to write or paint for our children if no one remains who can experience the world as they do?

@maybee... Жыл бұрын

Me too, I have a library of children's books. Shel Silverstien "the giving tree", I can't read that book without crying. I lost a tree this year, it was an apple tree, I planted it 46 years ago when my daughter was a baby.

@universallyinsync Жыл бұрын

I still have a few books from a series my grandmother gave me. She died young, so I cherish those. I just told one of my grown daughters to make her front yard tree up like the Sim's magical tree, with a fairy house and gnomes at the base. She gets it, and plans to. We are never too old! 😊

@SisterShirley Жыл бұрын

Colleen, you're a doll!

@colleenwestbrook8848 Жыл бұрын

@@SisterShirley oh how sweet. Thank you ❤️

@pixywings Жыл бұрын

This seems like a perfect opportunity for my favorite quote from Doctor Who: "There's no point in being grown up if you can't be childish sometimes."

@caesarali7191 11 ай бұрын

You look and sound more mature than most adults that I know. Having a child-like spirit isn't the same as refusing to grow up.

@tomsmith6513 9 ай бұрын

Maybe adulthood is like reaching the summit of a mountain, seeing everything below and coming to the realisation that . . . this is all there is. There is nothing bigger or grander than the view from the top of a mountain. You have reached the top, there is nothing higher.

@g8807 9 ай бұрын

I agree.

@alittlebindi25 8 ай бұрын

Yes I agree. The self awareness shows that she is mature already. And some of it could also be ADHD, ADD or just wanting everything too soon/at the same time. Sometimes we should slow down and remind ourselves life is not a race. We all reach the same finish line in the end.

@gint6898 Жыл бұрын

It's a damn shame that the world is in such a state that being genuine and true to one's self is actively discouraged. Do your own thing girl! We need more people like you these days!

@boboboy8189 Жыл бұрын

it's weird that she didn't commit any sin were rejected but people who commit real sin were encouraged

@thisisme5487 Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately that's just how it's always been. Only in a perfect world would it work if everyone were toget to just be their genuine self.

@jan-3356 Жыл бұрын

be the change you want to see in the world. go on a walk barefoot, go paint outside, go climb on some trees for pete's sake! just do whatever, and if someone asks, just say you're having fun. we only get so little time in this world, just do what you like to do.

@artistrophe6738 Жыл бұрын

If adulting means rushing around every single moment of the day being too busy to notice the world around us and being stuck in jobs we hate, then you can keep it. I am so inspired by Paola and the life she built for herself that allows her to live at a more moderate pace, just as nature intended. Love your videos. Living my ideal life vicariously through you ❤

@olive4naito Жыл бұрын

Totally agree. In my opinion it actually takes more adulting to go against the grain. Doing everything that's expected of you didn't take me a lot of brain power but protecting my identity has always been a challenge. After my parents died I learned to do a little soul searching and go searching for the parts of myself I had lost along the way because I mistakenly followed other people's instruction manuals.

@artistrophe6738 Жыл бұрын

@@olive4naito So true! It's easier to just follow the crowd on that well-trodden path. It takes a lot more self-awareness and grit to forge your own uncharted path.

@brightpage1020 Жыл бұрын

Work towards it. I dare you! I lived vicariously, too. Now I live on 40 acre logging turned egg 🐣 🥚 farm. See my above comment about our enchanted forest. It's real. For a couple few years I had to come around to the idea and check it out and now we're raising our family on it. It's for real. Work toward it. Dare to dream. The cottage fairy and I are proof it really exists. I'm just an old mom now, but... I live this. Thanks in part to the inspiration I found on this channel just a short time ago. It never occurred to me them I might someday live like this. Or that it could be real. It is. It is real. I never thought we could raise kids like this but it's amazing for them so far. They have already made friends here. My 5 y/o fell in love with a ladybug our 1st day in the farmhouse. He made a bed for it in a small planter box housing a pathway night light with leaf comforter covers. And a tiny dandelion pillow. My sons race outside to see who can pick flowers for me first. 🌺 🌸 🌹 My daughter is an artist discovering design of nature through a photo lens now. She has taken our best nature pic here so far. She is 9. Of course they have real friends, too. They go to school... And activities like horseback riding, tennis, soccer, golf...dance... All the normal things even this small town can keep up with. But we get to weekend here hiking the trails... On or acreage ecosystem. This is real life!?!? I never knew it could be like this! For reals. It is. You can.

@Briselance Жыл бұрын

"just as nature intended." You have no idea how many things we wouldn't have had, had we stayed "just as nature intended". Starting with the kind of device we used to write these.

@artistrophe6738 Жыл бұрын

@@Briselance I'll soon find out - I am retiring to the wilderness tomorrow. To each his own

@cozysweetpotato Жыл бұрын

does anyone else ever feel like they are too fragile for this world? like interacting with people (especially on the internet) is so stressful and scary and you worry about every thing you say and think its better to say nothing at all just in case. You assume the best in everyone and that people don't want to do harm, you try to be kind, you feel easy to upset, have issues taking care of yourself, etc?

@josephstalin9357 11 ай бұрын

The things we do to one another

@renaxo69 11 ай бұрын

This 🥺>>>> It's exactly how I feel sometimes...

@lombmusic07 10 ай бұрын

You need more time doing something you love by yourself or with a few people imo

@lmf3880 10 ай бұрын

Don't care what people say share youre light with the world regardless if what people think.

@PentragonCosplay 10 ай бұрын

Did you ever heard of HSP (highly sensitive person)? Maybe that’s worth looking into

@MAMAJUGO Жыл бұрын

As they say, there's nothing more childish than wanting to grow up

@trapoyuh5910 10 ай бұрын

i absolutely agree with you

@myriamm9917 Жыл бұрын

I'm often called a child because I love spending so much time with my parents as an adult. It's wild what some people can shame you for. ❤❤

@angelicasysnila5476 Жыл бұрын

Same. I hang out with my parents a lot, i go to fast food chains, park walk, play indoor games with them. My friends don't make fun of me, but it still makes me wonder, why am I the only one hanging out with my parents at the age of 23, while others hang out with only friends or just alone, i feel different. But we should do what makes us happy.

@Flamec45 Жыл бұрын

I wish I had a good relationship with mine. Nothing is wrong with this at all.

@chibimaster7819 Жыл бұрын

As someone who comes from a culture of extended families sharing one big home, staying with your parents being viewed as childish is wild to me 😅 I don't know that many people who live alone or as a small family.

@novejk Жыл бұрын

Same :( I'm just the same kid who loved to get cuddled between mom & dad, who followed her mom as a puppet, who made her dad her best friend, & still does all these things, being a 22yr old adult. I just don't know what life is without them. It seems meaningless to me My friends even Makes fun of me for I'm still too attached to mom & dad but Idc, to be attached to parents is synonymous to oxygen to me.

@ARCtroNerd Жыл бұрын

Well.... Send them to India lol. In India and probably other countries too, people live with their parents all their lives. We will always be a little kid to our parents no matter how much we grow. I'm not a parent yet but I feel the same about my younger sibling.

@vicki2153 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes, people respond negatively to someone when they themselves feel challenged by how that person lives and relates to the world. You're doing just fine.

@a.s.3267 Жыл бұрын

Yes.

@sophiependragon2467 Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@poppymoon777 Жыл бұрын

Yes

@am_2395 Жыл бұрын

Yes ²

@courtneygrier2015 Жыл бұрын

I believe wholeheartedly that people who have anything negative to say are truly unhappy: unhappy with the fact that they feel the need to conform to society and people like her (and me) threaten that. It makes me sad, not for me, not for her, but for those who have anything unkind to say about it

@Phellip_ Жыл бұрын

''Inside every adult I see the heart of a child. We just gradually convince ourselves that we have to act more like adults" -Shigeru Miyamoto

@dukenegju 4 ай бұрын

I'm still not convinced. :) Love

@wordsmith8193 Жыл бұрын

Wonder is ageless. Reflection. Nature. Artfulness. Creativity. These are our spiritual endowments.

@Colorado617 Жыл бұрын

As an almost 76 year old, an introvert living in my home built in 1907, I love the validation and inspiration I find in your videos. While I admire tremendously your enchanting art, my talents lie elsewhere as I sit with my paper quilling or jelly making (I just made watermelon jelly that my 10 year old great-niece asked me to make), I find great encouragement and joy and support in your words and your videos. Thank you and I encourage you to keep inspiring all of us!

@kimalonzo3363 Жыл бұрын

Wow! Watermelon jelly sounds delicious!

@unlockyoursoulmemory4199 Жыл бұрын

@@kimalonzo3363 my immediate response as well... sounds super delicious

@unlockyoursoulmemory4199 Жыл бұрын

your great-niece is so lucky to have you in her life

@kmarshall53 Жыл бұрын

You are a kindred spirit - I’m living a quiet life as well, and absolutely loving it.

@bettynix3678 Жыл бұрын

I was so encouraged to find your post I also am 76 and feel many times I am being childish. I was so encouraged to find this program. I want the child in me to always have freedom of expression.

@onepartwild Жыл бұрын

You're not alone, Paola. I'm in my 50's and still what many would consider "childish". I take my time, as you do, enjoy nature to the fullest, and love children's books, just to name a few. We are very similar in tastes and disposition. That's what attracted me to your channel. The beauty, calm and child-like joy of living and appreciating nature that you share is a wonderful thing our modern world needs more of.

@laurindaraquel8947 Жыл бұрын

I am in total agreement and feel exactly the same way at almost 65. 🥰🥰🥰 Just this morning I was foraging violets on the property I am so honored to live on. I plan to make lemonade with them. My darling husband joined in and we were both smiling ear to ear. While outside I also forages dandelions and gathered daffodils. Once inside the joy in me was quietly and gratefully overflowing. I look forward to sharing all of these types of moments with my almost three year old granddaughter.

@susansullivan7966 Жыл бұрын

If only all of us took the time to peek closely into nature, frolic in the rain, and enjoy the small things. At 63, I always have, and always will and my heart is full.

@tracythomas7288 Жыл бұрын

I am the same way. A 53yr. Old child. And cherish that

@rosekilcup5652 Жыл бұрын

Rose. Oh the beauty of wildflowers !!!! I remember as a child how much I loved them and now I'm almost 82 and so happy to say that my very favourite places in the world are in a field of wildflowers or in a wooded area. I grew up in PEI so I was blessed with both !!! I've been watching your channel for quite sometime and it's a joy to watch. Don't ever grow up !!! 💕

@Shashiyapavlogs Жыл бұрын

I'm the same , I'm almost 40 . Some people think I'm weird as I sometimes show my inner child in even in public places ( Gardens , waterfalls , ocean and even my toddler's playground ), but I'm enjoying myself ..glad many adults like me out there

@Dakota-Rose Жыл бұрын

The adult world is so overwhelming I would not survive mentally if I didn't live in my own little world and in touch with my childhood. I can relate so much with you and the comments make me happy. Glad I am not the only one. ❤️ You voice my inner thoughts one by one.

@darkrider0 Жыл бұрын

Well said and I socond that!

@Dakota-Rose Жыл бұрын

@@darkrider0 Thank you ❤️ 😊

@Chunda8 Жыл бұрын

I'll go one better than this and say unequivocally that the adult world actually sucks. Plenty of reasons. Overwhelming doesn't even begin to cover it. We live in a world where some mentally ill whack job menace can shoot up an elementary school with an assault rifle- little kids are not safe in their classrooms. That is the point of complete and utter societal failure. It'll be interesting to see how much further civilization can break down. The Mad Max movie franchise is supposed to be dystopian science fiction, not a how-to or documentary. The Walking Dead is supposed to be a comic book, not a PSA for Kensington, Pennsylvania.

@frayansertzrave Жыл бұрын

I feel this even now at 23 😭❤️ I'm an adult now but my childish side in touch with my innerchild will always be there. Because absorbing too much stress might affect my health and die earlier.

@Dakota-Rose Жыл бұрын

@@frayansertzraveThere is a song from a Dutch artist called 'goodbye little boy' from Robert Long. He sings about parting with his inner child. Somewhere deep down he is still there inside of him, looking at his adult self in the mirror but he lost the magical world where he was living in when he was a child. I was very moved by the lyrics. I had lots of difficulties with the transitioning to adulthood. I embraced my childlike side and come to terms it is my saviour in this world where I can loose touch of my senses if I didn't had that in my life. I am not 20 anymore but still love this childlike side of myself. Not hiding it anymore, as when I do I would loose a part of my identity, my lifeline when anxiety strikes, and the meaning of life will be lost. I will never part with the childhood in me.

@LB-yp6oe Жыл бұрын

I think people forget that the real world IS natural beauty and wonder , sitting and breathing and watching , ....the constructed world of work and worry is just that: constructed.

@sarahorozco9823 Жыл бұрын

The way you understand your own mind and inner self is something that many adults don't have. The way you can be alone with your thoughts and not be tormented is impressive to millions of people. Maturity doesn't really have a solid definition but I love how you are able to recognize your own sense of maturity through the things you find important. You inspire me so much thank you for these videos 💙

@cait9406 Жыл бұрын

Well said.

@Elizabeth-arb22 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment! I agree wholeheartedly. 💗

@annamallard2730 Жыл бұрын

Couldn’t have said it better myself 👏 🩷

@karolinabaker7637 Жыл бұрын

Beautifully put.

@staceylynch9751 Жыл бұрын

I'll be 50 this year. It took me a long time to realize that no one knows ever really "grows up" or even knows what they're doing. We're all just fumbling along through our "adult" years. You're fine. ❤

@playhighwhilegames7151 Жыл бұрын

You fought against a world that forces you to be someone else. Keep doing you.

@xxx_putin_has_a_flaccid_pe5374 Жыл бұрын

The modern “adult” world is so hostile to the average person’s well-being, you just have to look around to see what it does to everyone. Some people are in a position to cope better, but nobody could call it ideal. Suffering and sacrificing your whole life as a cog to keep this society going just isn’t worth it. Love your stuff, live how you want for those of us who can’t!

@tunebeat3809 11 ай бұрын

This is especially true in Japan, which is infamous for its workaholic culture.

@xxx_putin_has_a_flaccid_pe5374 11 ай бұрын

@@tunebeat3809 Yeah holy shit Japan. America too. The work culture may not be considered as balls-to-the-wall as Japan’s, but the nonexistent safety net and poor work standards show the result all too well.

@rangercommandervelvlarumai7589 9 ай бұрын

That’s bootstraps capitalism for you. everything is disregarded in the name of the dollar, and usually you’re not even the one getting it. I don’t want to be rich. I don’t want hard work. I just want to enjoy myself! study science, talk to people, and see the worlds natural wonders. I don’t see why life needs to be more complicated than that.

@SeaTurtle515 Жыл бұрын

Paola, you seem to be reliable, trustworthy, responsible, giving, intentional, kind hearted and sensitive and that is what is required of a healthy adult, of which you are. 🌿

@maddy-books Жыл бұрын

I find it so wild that you have received a single negative comment on this channel. I think you are such a positive force on this platform and use your influence well. Every week your videos remind me to be grateful for the wonders around me, to talk kindly to myself, and to do hobbies that bring me happiness.

@kwilsonnc Жыл бұрын

Wild indeed. The internet is a strange place.

@joanmyron Жыл бұрын

Very true indeed. It simply shows how some people simply used the internet to put others down.I simply love her videos ❤

@Jules-zw7iu Жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@sherry450 Жыл бұрын

Yes, @joanmyron, it seems it’s the only way to make themselves feel better is to put others down, truly sad. If THAT is being and “adult” then I’m not interested.

@ariag.8745 Жыл бұрын

@Maddy: beautifully said. I am reminded of the movie Under the Tuscan Sun where Francesca's friend, the beautiful British actress, talks about the famous Italian director Fellini saying to her "Never lose your childhood innocence; it's THE most important thing." I believe at our core we are spiritual, joy-seeking beings having a physical experience. I think Paola so beautifully embodies that core spirit which is one of seeking joy and seeing beauty in the world around her for when we see beauty we really are seeing the face of God in all things. Thank you Paola for sharing your most authentic self with us and reminding us of what is possible.

@madnessintomagic Жыл бұрын

Adulting these days adds up to constant competition. Competitions in every realm for every thing. It’s exhausting. And when you point out that it’s irrational or unreasonable, you get gaslit that somehow “the way things are” is better, or how things “should” be - when we all know that’s not true.

@scottfw7169 11 ай бұрын

And my mind did not accept how exhausting that was until my body said, "Sorry, mate, we're done living that lifestyle. Since you won't slow down we'll slow you down for you."

@sunwukongtive Жыл бұрын

I only recently became an "adult". Legally anyways. I suffer with a lot of mental illnesses that I am age regressed mentally and emotionally. So many people say to "act your age" when that is so hard to even do when becoming an adult is giving up your life to a corporation so you can make below minimum wage. Yes, I am going to college, but I am getting these degrees so I can make my own sanctuary for animals. To be lost in a forest and not have so many worries. This is why I love your channel so much. It makes me feel seen through this walk of life. Even with bumps in the road, it is still a road. You will travel down it, be it left, right, looping, or through tunnels. You will always be on that road to see the light.

@powpowcherrybomb 9 ай бұрын

Care to talk? Maybe i can help

@bellafiore3283 Жыл бұрын

I am 72. I have been following you now into the second year. You have the wisdom of a 70 year old who is in touch with your gentle creative soul. This is a form of mastering living in The Now. You exemplify this way of Being beautifully. You mentioned your sister is a social worker/therapist and I commented that your videos would be important for those coping and expanding after perhaps early childhood adversity. You are a breath of fresh air sharing such timely wisdom. 🙏👏

@mellodecember6654 Жыл бұрын

Very well said! I second all of it!

@jesslinc Жыл бұрын

So beautifully said. Agree 100%

@smallhouseinthemeadow6131 Жыл бұрын

This is beautiful and choked me up. If we could all just see the beauty in each other, instead of finding fault, what an incredible world it ould be.

@arianahoule7223 Жыл бұрын

Oh, my. There will always be those who try to put you down. In my "75," years, I have been ostracized by family and others for being different. It has always saddened me because all I ever wanted was to be loved. However, my integrity is more important than acceptance from others. I am happy to say that my inner light shines bright, and each day is a new day to offer loving kindness to others. Paola, you are a gift to our beloved planet. I am glad you are strong enough to stay true to yourself. And you are dearly loved.

@kytoober5137 Жыл бұрын

I find that most things that society pushes as "adult" are no more mature than anything else. Maturity isnt a lifestyle but more of a mindset

@alexandra_horia Жыл бұрын

My mother left me the most precious message: "No matter how big you'll get, never forget to be...a child." I love your videos! ♥️

@darthvader1793 9 ай бұрын

yes no matter how fat you are, you are still a child.

@dianemcdaniel8284 Жыл бұрын

I'll never understand why some people insist upon making rude comments instead of simply switching to a video that's more to their liking. There are SO MANY options. I am very grateful to you for your gentle perspective and share your love for children's books, whimsical woodlands, and simple joys. Thank you.

@maddyharvey7414 Жыл бұрын

In my humble opinion it comes from deep insecurity. Some part of them that they feel they cannot accept, and so they condemn other people for doing it. Social media is filled with this. People who are reasonably content with themselves and their life don’t need to bring others down, they just move onto people they relate to more, as you say.

@tracyhickman6961 Жыл бұрын

I agree wholeheartedly. Simply switching to something else would be the adult thing to do.

@pippas5808 Жыл бұрын

As my grandmother used to say - if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all!

@TheCottageFairy Жыл бұрын

In this video I wanted to chat about expectations related to adulthood, and how I have, in some ways, not been able to live up to many of them. I’m quite disorganized and don’t work well under pressure. I am not efficient or even good at being productive (I cannot even follow a schedule, to be honest). I still don’t feel like I know what I’m doing half the time. I am often told I am “childlike” in nature. I still enjoy many interests and activities I loved as a child. This has made others online speculate over my maturity or wonder if I have not accepted adulthood. In response, I wanted to share another perspective, that embracing who I am helps me be a more successful and content adult. I hope you enjoy this little ramble and share your own experiences ❤

@michellecd4722 Жыл бұрын

@TheCottageFairy I'll never feel like an "adult" and I'm 54 this summer.

@corinnegrima3096 Жыл бұрын

Dear Paola, I must say this video resonated so much with me today especially. I have been following you for some time now and I can honestly say with full certainty that you were able to get me out of my "being-an-adult-exlusively" shell. I am a 36-year-old mother of two young children and wife and I can honestly say that life does take its toll upon you. But yes, I find solace in seeing the wonder in this "mundane" and mostly negative-oriented life. By applying this wonder to my own life I try to inspire and help other people and I must say that however little effect it has on their day, I have noticed that yes, showing small acts of kindness and understanding is mostly all the things people need to hear or feel in their day to make it more bearable. Keep up inspiring me and others. I am in love with everything you do and project. Thank you! Have a good day (or night!) :)

@spindragon Жыл бұрын

What if we let go of our ideals around how an adult should act in the world. Then learn to celebrate our unique gifts and live gently with our shortcomings. Also we need more adults who are childlike in nature..

@marirose19 Жыл бұрын

Paola, being “childlike” or disorganized, even not knowing what you’re doing half the time is something many of us feel. But I’ll echo what others have: we love you just the way you are. I need, seriously need, your vids. I was so glad to get this notification at nearly midnight on the Eastern Coast. For me, it’s been a very rough couple of months. Your vids are a special reprieve into beauty, simplicity, peacefulness, & tranquility. I’m so grateful for you. I’ll suggest to you what I have to other dear creators on YT I care about. Please get 1-3 trustworthy ppl to moderate your comments. They can block & delete, not engage with, ppl or trolls who bring you down & who feed off each other. Then you & those in The Cottage Fairy family who adore you won’t be exposed to these comments & you don’t have to waste energy & time responding to such ppl. It’ll feel safer for us all, especially you who we care deeply for. It’ll especially uplift the energy of this channel even further. Imagine! Holy Wow! “Non Illegitimi Carborundum.” In other words, don’t let the turkeys grind you down.

@julieb2398 Жыл бұрын

At 62 I am trying to recapture that child I used to be. I watch your videos and just relax and remember the good in my childhood and miss it so much. Sitting under the apple tree, sitting in the field with my horses, playing in the creek, catching fish in a bucket when my dad told me there were no fish in that creek and proving him wrong, ahh how I wish for those days again so often. Thank you for the reminder to search for my inner child. Thank you so very much for making these wonderful videos. Remember always be you!! Brightest blessings and much love!

@Nicnac13 Жыл бұрын

Love you and your channel xxx I am autistic , 42 years old and still have so many parts of me that are so young, I find pure joy in teddy bears, Disney, fairy tales, imagination etc … keep being you and feeding your inner child it’s beautiful and you help so many others like me feel less shame x

@dreamsofadaffodil650 Жыл бұрын

Stay blessed ❤

@hairsensationbyfiona4098 Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@roamer1389 Жыл бұрын

As someone who grew up too fast in my teenage years and cowardly regressed to my childhood ways in my late 20s, I can tell you that growing up is not worth it. Too many responsibilities and too much bullshit to deal with (especially my own), especially when it was forced down my throat growing up(although everything going on now is on me) and with covid fucking us all. It has drained me of passion, and the willingness to go on. Bless you for not being an adult in this world and for being happy. You deserve it and everything great in this world.

@Shreya-hy2vf 6 ай бұрын

I just entered my 20th year.....and I couldnt resonate with you more...... Just this morning I wrote in my journal....how badly I wish to be back to childhood. I too "grew up" too quickly .....and the responsibilities of adult life shivers me..... I love solitude and want to escape so badly. How are you?? And how you navigate life as of now?

@jsams4990 Жыл бұрын

I am 64 and proud to be childlike too ❤ Love my forest and playing barefoot in my fairy village 😊 Always keep the child alive! Love your channel ❤❤🧚‍♂️

@alanaharris9488 Жыл бұрын

I’m 65,I buy Lego,kids books and things ( for my grandkids when they stay) my husband said I buy it for me! I listen to children’s audio books. Love it.

@pineconelife Жыл бұрын

Also 65 here and have always believed faeries exist. Without whimsy and the beauty of nature my life would feel so uninspired. I studied children’s lit at Uni and I love illustrated children’s books etc. I’m quite content in life and am happy to find similar souls among us.

@jsams4990 Жыл бұрын

@@alanaharris9488 I totally buy it for me 😂

@jsams4990 Жыл бұрын

@@pineconelife I love a beautifully illustrated children's book. Glad I can read them to my grands now!

@etherealgirl394 Жыл бұрын

I remember there was this group of girls at college who at first were my friends but when I started going to anime conventions they started isolating me, making hurtful comments calling me childish, they made fun of my close relationship with my parents, and laughed at me and other people in class who were different to them. They thought they were soooo mature cause they had a boyfriend or lived alone, but in the end, they were the immature ones being mean to us for no reason... a mature person respects everybody. At first they made me doubt myself a lot, but when I realized they were no one to define me I decided to be EVEN WEIRDER!!!! hahaha And I've been quite happy ever since, I found a group of friends who don't judge others for their taste and who are actually kind and respectful. So don't change who you are for anybody!! Their comments say more about themselves than about you! :) great video as always!

@TheGoldenCapstone Жыл бұрын

And now look at you! Still can't handle being an adult but now you have a group of friends to dress up like cartoon characters together.

@etherealgirl394 Жыл бұрын

@@TheGoldenCapstone yeaah, adulting is hard and there are things I'm still learning, but at least I have the right people next to me and I can say I never made anyone feel bad for their hobbies. And maybe not giving up my personality for becoming a very formal adult or fitting in led me to persue my dreams and now I'm an author! I'm so much happier without listening to those toxic people, tbh :) and by the way we did dress up as characters a lot but after the pandemic we kinda stopped that, I miss it lol

@Artsu1993 Жыл бұрын

@@etherealgirl394 dress up again!

@NitwitsWorld Жыл бұрын

@@etherealgirl394 hey anime is mainstream now so those bitches can suck it 😅

@etherealgirl394 Жыл бұрын

@@Artsu1993 I already have something in mind hehe

@kimulm0619 Жыл бұрын

"As long as your living in kindness and a humble heart,I don't see how it could be wrong to be you".That was profound imo.Thank you for this gem of a reminder .💖😇

@MasayahingShana 11 ай бұрын

From the day I became 18, my question was always: "I feel like different from my friends. Do I need to change myself to what the society's standard wants to live as a matured person?" this video is what I need 😭 thank you so much. Such calm video. It feels home while watching this.

@angelsspirit335 Жыл бұрын

I am a doctor of Psychology and I say you have a BEAUTIFUL SOUL! Celebrate it be yourself!

@kristiant96 Жыл бұрын

ah yes psychology, the racket for the jews.

@slowrunn3r88 Жыл бұрын

Huh, I know some therapists who you should have a….talking to, because not only were they bad therapists, but they relentlessly got inside my head and made me feel “lesser” because I saw my job as a means to fuel my hobbies. They said career needs to be my focus as an adult or I’m objectively wrong

@Kokorocodon Жыл бұрын

@@slowrunn3r88 As a psychology student myself, I will surely try to never push people towards such a toxic way of thinking.

@slowrunn3r88 Жыл бұрын

@@Kokorocodon I appreciate that - as long as you’re willing to learn just as much as clients should learn, I think you’ll do great

@elisasmith1609 Жыл бұрын

It's hard to fathom how small a mind must be to belittle the wise by saying things like enjoying peaceful and joyful activities as an adult is "childish". Unfathomable. I pity the smallness of such minds. Only the wise and strong can be gentle. I applaud your gentleness and joy of life, Paula!! There are many out there just like you, including myself. I could easily spend my days doing nothing more then wandering meadows, thinking, smiling, taking photos, laying in the grass, searching for beautiful wild flowers and silly critters.. it's in the humble rhythms of nature and soul that real life is discovered and enjoyed. The haters just haven't graduated to fully-blossomed-adult yet. 😁

@purplecouch4767 Жыл бұрын

She is so calming and talented. When I was hanging out with my friend (this was a few years ago) they once told me "your such a child" in a nice way so I responded saying "thank you". Why would I want to be an adult? Maybe besides good new experiences. I don't know how taxes work. Also last week when I was at a restaurant I asked for paper and crayons so they gave me some. I don't care what others say (well sometimes I do but I try not to) it has a fun crossword puzzle and tic tac toe and a hidden character. Plus I could play hang man and draw whatever I want. I still like to go to playgrounds and making fun crafts. I'm not going to stop being me just because I've survived long enough to become hairy. Although people around me have already started dating someone, got a drivers license, and a job. And I kinda haven't yet. I'm worried that I won't be good at adulting. Oh I'm 17 btw. more words etc. As long as people aren't ignoring their responsibilities I think they should be as childlike as they want.

@katbarron Жыл бұрын

When people point out something in a critical way, I think it’s their way of wanting to be able to do what the person they’re criticizing is doing. It’s a longing or desire that’s perhaps dormant within them, and rather than go on a journey of cultivating mindfulness, it’s easier to point fingers and judge. Your work is beautiful and I’m so grateful for the play, creativity and stillness of your videos ♥️

@leosearle Жыл бұрын

As a 69 year old man I have seen a lot of the so-called "adult" world and experienced much of what that world has to offer. Even though to an outside observer I no doubt come across as a too-serious, responsible guy, the reality is that in my true self I am still the child in whom the sense of wonder never died. The clothes of what the world calls adulthood have never been a comfortable fit, and so finding your channel has been like coming home to an oasis of childlike (not "childish") sanity. I take inspiration for my own life from you and your beautifully creative, mindful videos and art. Please, never "grow up" and continue sharing your art with us inthe spirit of that neverland of joy that is the Heart of us all. 🙏 🤗

@teresajones5973 Жыл бұрын

As a 61 year old creative person, I watch your videos to calm myself. Your videos are a great escape from this crazy world, and I thank you for reminding me that it’s okay to slow down in life.

@mariamiller9678 Жыл бұрын

TRUE!!!

@lisefrydenlund4147 Жыл бұрын

So true.

@lisefrydenlund4147 Жыл бұрын

@@calisongbird Was he? Can you tell me where to find this about him, as you say.

@kerrymartinez4463 Жыл бұрын

I recently realized that after all the striving to fit and do, working so hard etc. - I still am the same little one who loves outdoors, animals, flowers and cake. And that is a very wonderful realization. Thank you for your encouragement.

@JoesGuy Жыл бұрын

In spite of the world's ills, it's heartening to know that delightful people like yourself exist.

@josephstevens9888 Жыл бұрын

"A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly... if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely." Beautiful... just beautiful!

@dixielovessunshine Жыл бұрын

It's good to see your videos and partake of your quiet, soft, and lovely demeanor and attitude... I wouldn't say you are childish, rather, Childlike is a better way to describe your beautiful personality ... Your calm nature is inspirational... Thank you for being the person you are, the world needs more sweet, loving people who aren't afraid to be themselves...🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️

@InnerChildCreates Жыл бұрын

I love this too. 😄 Wonderful quote.

@frode1974 Жыл бұрын

"Growing up" is a term often misunderstood to mean entering the roles that society and culture "require" of us at any given time. This is not the truth. "Growing up" is to get to know yourself, to accept yourself fully and completely without judgement. "Growing up" is the process of loving yourself unconditionally. Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey "growing up" and in the process helping and supporting the rest of us "growing up" as well. Thank you my beautiful soul ❤

@poppymoon777 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@M_JackOfAllTrades Жыл бұрын

Beautifully said. I agree with you.

@Mike-mj8oj Жыл бұрын

So you don’t judge yourself at all? You know that every single person is under the wrath of God because of our sin, Jesus Christ who is God in the flesh said these words: Most assuredly I say to you, unless one is born again of the Holy Spirit, he cannot see the kingdom of God. John 3:3 Just being a good person does not get anyone to Heaven. Those who believe in the Lord Jesus Christ are not condemned, but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the only name of the begotten Son of God. John 3:18

@TheGoldenCapstone Жыл бұрын

No, growing up is not "fully accepting yourself". What is this new age nonsense? No wonder all of you are struggling with adulthood.

@luluanthem Жыл бұрын

@@TheGoldenCapstone Accepting =/= never changing or improving. You just come to understand what is actually important to you, not to others, before you try to "improve" only by conforming, like some think is central to being an adult.

@laurieboyd8725 Жыл бұрын

Long live the child within all of us! ❤

@ironbadger8985 Жыл бұрын

Something my mother once told me; "Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional".

@user-qf5kl6cv2y Жыл бұрын

If you have someone that takes care of you

@MariamArt_ 10 ай бұрын

Lucky to have a very understanding mother. My pressure me to grow up but not grow old. They’re hasn’t been used to just becoming more mature by getting married by 18 or 19, investing and investing in stocks, buying a 400k house at 22, investing stocks by 25 until you retire at 30. Many people are forced to live this lifestyle because of capitalism and we live in a global capitalist economy. We are not allowed to relax be lazy. We were meant to be productive and alert for everything.

@JeffJensen55 Жыл бұрын

My sister sent me a birthday card years ago that said, “Growing old is inevitable. Maturing, however is optional.” I’ve lived my life (at this point, 68 years) by that standard! ❤

@rachelina97 Жыл бұрын

I love this! And just for fun, I would like to question what the definition of mature is. And perhaps, even redefine it! In this sweet quote you share, being mature means growing up to lose your wonder, which is how many people seem to define it. Yet, what if maturing also allowed space for our wonder to be prioritized too? It is people like Paola who shows us how mature someone could be with child-like wonder. By my own definition, I believe she is even more mature than the average “adult” who is too serious. Perhaps it is the ability to let ego take a seat. Just thought I’d share this stream of thought here!

@JeffJensen55 Жыл бұрын

Rachel, I absolutely agree. Perhaps the quote would better be, “How we mature is optional.” Growing older, and maturing can (and certainly should) bring at least some degree of wisdom. You’re right in that maturing should not cause us to lose our childlike sense of wonder. For me I think it has deepened my sense of wonder. The Norwegian singer Aurora I think captures this thought in her song, “Through the Eyes of a Child.”

@rubychew6535 Жыл бұрын

Don't pay attention to those comments regarding your adult presence. We as adults need your channel since the world is so cold and cruel. Your videos are calming and relaxing.

@tunebeat3809 11 ай бұрын

A healthy amount of optimism is needed to keep ourselves and each other mentally strong, especially in a time like this.

@N_ostro 11 ай бұрын

I feel like I'm in a constant internal battle between a part of me that wants to "fit in" and the other part, which just wants to be at peace, which makes me feel like a failure. The world needs more people like you and the community you've created on youtube. I hope to be part of it.

@hearts4pinkie_ Жыл бұрын

I genuinely don’t want to be an adult, I’m 19 and i still have the mindset as if i were still a child. I hate the pressure from some of my family members saying that just because i’m 19, means that i immediately have to get a job and get ready to move out on my own. I don’t want to do that, i don’t have a problem with getting a job but, i don’t want to be out in the world on my own

@SharonG-ip3ll Жыл бұрын

At 53 years old I still have a whimsical child like mind. I have a small collection of stuffed animals that all have names and personalities. When life gets chaotic and adulting is too much, I can retreat into my room with my things and be safe and have calmness and inner peace. Thank you for showing that it's ok to unplug from the world, if only for a little while.

@donnawatson845 Жыл бұрын

Betty White, a much respected animal advocate and actress, LOVED stuffed animals too. Ha!! Guess what? So do I. I buy them to share with family, n my students love my "animal adoptions" for every holiday. So...do what makes u 😊

@jmitch5161 Жыл бұрын

NEVER apologise for who you are! We need as much light in this world as possible. Your light shines brightly and you are certainly playing your part.

@moonstonepearl21 11 ай бұрын

This message is so important. As someone with a very active imagination and who spends a lot of time in my head and loves lounging in nature, I feel this.

@docmars Жыл бұрын

I find it silly how anyone could call you "unproductive" when your cottage is literally perfect and tidy, you've got hobbies, and you seem to take good care of yourself. The same people passing those judgments probably don't have it quite so together, I wager.

@liahalsall Жыл бұрын

Beatrix Potter painted and wrote children books and look at her legacy now. She’s a literary icon who continues to inspire even after her passing. The fact that you can tap into your inner child is a beautiful thing and the only opinion that matters, is yours. Be you, be unapologetically you and we will be here listening and watching your story without judgement. 🏡 💐 🧚🏻‍♀️ 🎨 📚

@lorifontaine Жыл бұрын

Paola, the world is broken. You, with your joy and your gentle soul are helping to heal it. You have the magic that many of us lose once we allow the chaos of the world to touch us. We need to hear what you have to say. Light will always win over darkness. So grateful to you. Hugs from Canada.

@cindysage9110 Жыл бұрын

This ❤🙏

@poppymoon777 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful

@user-qh8nh7oe6d 2 ай бұрын

Please just know how many people love you Paola, you can see it in over a million followers you have. We are all still part of the child we were. Our childhood reading helps to shape who we are as adults, and books we live stay with us our whole lives. . You are an adult, and more mature than many, in understanding the beauty and wonder of nature, and its magic. You are doing all you can to be kind and nurturing our world, which many adults seem intent on destroying. The best adult. I can't thank you enough for making your way to me. I'm 66, and mankind gets too much at times, with how cruel it can be. We need millions more Paolas to get us on the right path again. I'm just happy to have got your book, and waiting for my nature owl set to arrive for a present. Bless you Paola, and Luke and your animals

@hajarhematian6970 Жыл бұрын

It's a strenght to be gentle and "childlike" in a world that can be so serious, critical and harsh. Your life is not boring at all ; it rather seems that you have a very rich life; capturing, enjoying and sharing the precious moments in your daily life witch is filled with light and magic. I would love to have a friend like you; creative, sensitive, nature-oriented, someone very wise and with a big heart! It's a delight watching your content, thank you so much for that, Paola. greetins from Belgium 🌼🦋🌼

@jayalexander3356 Жыл бұрын

As a 53 yr old woman who has dealt with anxiety disorder her whole life and always felt inadequate because the world was just too fast for me, I think its wonderful that you've built a life that suites your personality. I wish I'd had these realizations at your age. My life would have been much less stressful.

@poppymoon777 Жыл бұрын

So true.Don’t get brainwashed by the crowd

@jnetbeams Жыл бұрын

Not childish, but childlike. And it speaks to us. ❤

@mewklu Жыл бұрын

Although i'm not an adult, but soon to be (after all, years go by pretty fast!), i felt this video in my soul. A lot of people had always noticed my childish and kind nature, and even after all of this time growing up, i'm still pretty much the same person! I still enjoy some things i liked when i was young - or at least what society thinks it's labeled for kids, like going on playgrounds, watching kids shows, playing with plushies and anything of that nature. I've had people question why i'm like this. To be honest, i'm not entirely sure… One day i thought being this way was pretty neat, and it made me happy, so i decided to stay like this! I'm glad that i did, because not only it makes me feel happy, but it makes others happy too! Something that i promised myself is that i'd live to spread happiness to others, and by just being myself i'm able to do that! Like… People literally said that themselves! Even my friends!! My family too!! I never plan on changing the way i live. I forever want to be like this, and i want to share all of this kindness and purity to others. Watching this video was super delightful!! ♡

@MCSorry 11 ай бұрын

I'm only glad people around my age are starting to wake up to the fact that our world is not normal. It's full of stressful expectations, pressure to compete, and I'm so full of it. We will never have it as good as previous generations; but we just want to live unburdened by it all.

@livertine504 Жыл бұрын

I am 40 and I majorly failed to fit into this society at all. I tried to be someone to act like someone who can fit in but I never did regardless how much I tried and how much I put a lot of effort into doing so. Honestly these days I literally do not care anymore. I do not even wanna be a part of this "so called society" anymore looking and watching how cruel and disgusting most people are to each other and the world we live in. Being an alien in this world is sometimes challenging and also depressing but on the other hand better be different than like them.

@walterharris4681 Жыл бұрын

Because of this, do people harass you at work or make you feel that they are going to get rid of you soon? This has happened to me quite a bit.

@livertine504 Жыл бұрын

@@walterharris4681 Honestly mate I avoid people at all cost these days. In the past I wanted to fit in but now I do not even care anymore. I am glad that our roles (my wife and I) are totally switched because I do everything at home, clean, cook, buy our groceries and my wife only has to focus on her job and at home she can chill and mate I am happy with that more than I ever was before. I do not have to face crappy people who drain my energy and put me down anymore and I can focus on my hobbies, art etc. I just hope to find something small on the way in my life maybe with my Art working from home (which would be the best) to have more money on my own. Right now I get some support not much but for me enough from the state but honestly I would always choose this type of life style because most people and the pressure from society are just the worst. We force ourselves to live a life we do not even want to live it that way. We are working towards days we retire not even knowing if we even reach those days or in what mental or physical health state we reach it. Living like that makes no sense. We are buying stuff we do not even need to justify a life we do not even want or a job we absolutely hate. But material stuff only makes you happy for a blink of an eye and then the whole circle starts all over again. And in the end you are never really happy or satisfied. But when I was facing people, jobs or school I witnessed all from not finding a common ground with them, never really felt as a part of their crowd, knowing they were talking behind my back about me, clearly mobbing me (especially in school). Later in life because I am tall and looking like a tree they never dared to mock or mobb me but still I knew they were talking behind my back and I wasn't able to keep any job on a long term. Most jobs I lost already after 3 months. And at first when you are young you think all the fault is bedded on your side. And this can and will hurt yourself and how well you feel with your self a lot. But the day will come you notice it is not you it is them. And the only thing you can do is to avoid "them" as much as you can and live your own life how you want it.

@happiersomeday Жыл бұрын

I think the correct term is dystopian society (; lol jk

@alexpetrov6079 Жыл бұрын

@@livertine504Do you have children or/and close friends? Just asking, because your story is really interesting.

@livertine504 Жыл бұрын

@@alexpetrov6079 no children, not planned 😅 wife, childhood friend and parents.

@AndJusticeForMe Жыл бұрын

And let us also remember, it’s not our fault we were raised by incompetent or abusive parents.

@centum-780 Жыл бұрын

I wish there was a rule or law how much of a mental stability and income parents need to have to have a child and not just recreate like nowadays

@AndJusticeForMe Жыл бұрын

@@centum-780 Agreed. Prospective parents should go through a gauntlet of tests and evaluations. I know it’s wishful thinking, but perhaps less children would be harmed. Unfortunately, unfit people are able to breed like rats and can even get rewarded by the government for doing so.

@SunilMeena-do7xn Жыл бұрын

@@centum-780 Now, it's never going happen, since declining population is already a problem in developed countries. Parents have to spend so much time working for a stable income, that most don't consider having kids or even if they did, kids don't get enough care. I feel like basic education about psychology, relationships, toxic behaviours, trauma, emotional stability etc should be added in high school, so people are just more aware of these growing up. I mean our whole education is just about learning to work.

@centum-780 Жыл бұрын

@@SunilMeena-do7xn Almost all generation x and millennials think school and university education is necessary for successful life, when in fact all you are taught there is how to become a successful slave (corporate worker, who has to do all the hard work for someone in order to earn enough to survive), no one will teach you how to become successful entrepreneur, how to build your business, what to learn to have a not "earn to survive" income but much more, they simply do not teach useful things in order to keep things how they are now and I think we can all agree that things aren't quite well in the world, but no one cares as long as rich become more rich and people will stay silent, nothings going to change unfortunately

@arnowisp6244 Жыл бұрын

@@AndJusticeForMe Nah. There were people who thought like you especially only letting "high quality parents" have kids. We called them Eugenicist.

@rami_241 Жыл бұрын

This is an example of a one in a million video. The cinematography, the soothing music, and the topic at hand are absolutely beautiful. I will always cherish my childish side. Having a sense of wonder to small things brings me the most enjoyment in my life.

@kellysereda4961 Жыл бұрын

" "Growing up" by other standards isn't as important as growth in general". Well put.

@susanclark8654 Жыл бұрын

I'm 60 this year and I still come inside after a walk or just out in the garden with things...little deserted cocoons, pretty feathers, rocks , pine cones...I've been doing it since I was a kid. it's nice that some childhood things never change 🥰

@Karen-ve6ds Жыл бұрын

Same….. I’ve had pine cones crammed into my grownup handbag. 😊

@susanclark8654 Жыл бұрын

@@Karen-ve6ds 😁

@felsiedaniel1244 Жыл бұрын

Just don't change. You're more adult and understand yourself.. better than the 'adults' I've met.. don't lose the wonder of life. You're an inspiration and I'm 65 this year.

@nananananananana1567 Жыл бұрын

What a soothing voice omg I could listen to you talking for hours

@Iera_Thaumaturgy Жыл бұрын

I had this discussion with my mother yesterday that I live in a fantasy bubble, I told her that it was better than reality, how you are a slave to the government and get brainwashed. She just told me “it’s reality, deal with it” I’m a hsp and I love nature and art, I wish to go on my own pace and that I could live alone and not just live with my parents as a 21 year old. I wish to live in a tiny cottage in the forest with my pets and my love for all art and nature, be ignorant of the bad and negative stuff of life or just the thought to live like anyone else, Sleep, eat & drink, work and repeat the mere thought of it makes me feel depressed. Im glad I stumbled upon your video and that I am not alone. Much love 💕

@cosmicreef5858 Жыл бұрын

Being able to relax is not "childish" and growing up is not dying. Growing up should be an ADDITION to your quality of life, not the destroyer of your dreams.

@beautifulgirl219 Жыл бұрын

I once had a young person, whom I had over 30 years seniority on, complement me on my wisdom and maturity, while seeming to envy those traits. My advice was to not be in a hurry to exchange innocence for wisdom, as I believe I was happier when I was young and innocent, and saw beauty in every direction, while I failed then to see the spiritual ignorance in the world, that can now appear so unattractive. I see you Paola as an artist, a craftswoman, a philosopher, a poet, and perhaps a mystic. A force of nature. Perfect as you are. :)

@sirhubcap2171 Жыл бұрын

Shame is such a painful weight to carry, and almost all of it is because of arbitrary burdens we pick up trying to fit in. Going on 23, I am just starting to shed that crust of insecurity and it has truly begun to open up a whole world of beauty. Even the dark parts of the world serve to embolden the colors of life.

@theacademy7946 Жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you. Adulthood in this society equals a callous, consumption-oriented existence without soul-nurturing whimsical desires. Being childlike is embracing what the creator intended us to be: a spiritual being having a human experience.

@gypsy3314 Жыл бұрын

In this virtual informational garbage heap that we call “the internet” nowadays, I’ve found your channel to be an inspirational and serene respite. And if “being an adult” means abandoning one’s own humanity in favor of chaining one’s self to conventional societal ideals that are based on nonsense, then I also want no part of it. Thank you for showing others how to reconnect with themselves and transcend the external “noise.” 🌸

@lisamae8971 Жыл бұрын

So so well said

@calvinengland1506 Жыл бұрын

If it weren’t for the dreamers and sensitives in this world we’d have no children’s books, no imagination to share in and no dreams to follow. No happy memories and staring out of windows, no wild carefree days and no forest friends. Life would be incredibly dull and bleak without free thinkers like you that bring us so much joy. And I still have kindred thoughts and remember the forest, the fields, the animals, the wind and the trees, the chuckling brooks, even at sixty nine. Even as a man growing old I remember them all. Thank you for reminding me of those precious moments running free.

@slipiest-adv_7000 Жыл бұрын

This is a very beautiful message. I'm going to finish college soon, and the thoughts of adult life scares me so much because I'm afraid if reality will crush the magic in my inner world, turning me into a "proper" adult society always expect from anyone. Thank you for sharing and reminding me that there's still love and kindness in this world

@dudylifestyle 11 ай бұрын

The shocking surprise is that being REAL mature means return to our child spirit 😁😁❤️ thanks for your videos, it’s a gift finding people like you in the current world ❤

@juniperlau Жыл бұрын

I am astounded by the courageous kindness it takes to respond so gently to thoughtless remarks like that. What an inspiration you are! Bravo.

@brgnhntrdi6081 Жыл бұрын

Well said. That is a true sign of a Lady. A classy Lady in fact!

@fanfight Жыл бұрын

I don't mean to be rude,but it's "Brava"'(not "Bravo"),'cause "Brava" is the female version of "Bravo" :)

@annabeard6324 Жыл бұрын

As a HSP and therapist- your living a healthy life. Keep creating content! Our community needs your message💚

@anireseegam6128 Жыл бұрын

You're watching a highly crafted video. You don't know what anyone's life is really like

@Alpinewild444 Жыл бұрын

@@anireseegam6128hush

@deniseunterman9652 Жыл бұрын

Anires, I'll bet you're in big demand for parties.

@elem382 Жыл бұрын

I have to say, by knowing and accepting yourself, you show more maturity than most of people. "Adulthood" in that kind of sense is just something others expect from us, not something that makes us really grow. I personally struggle to let go of expectations and take time to do things just because I enjoy it, even if they don't serve a bigger purpose. So i look up at people like you, who seems to have figured that out.

@TheMirandalorian 9 ай бұрын

You havent failed to grow up, you just decided to live your life exactly how want to. Thats the most adult thing you can do.. listen to no one else but yourself ❤

@kimkinsella2521 Жыл бұрын

As a child I spent hours alone with nature and like you, Paola, I collected flowers etc. the trees were my friends and animals came up to me totally unafraid. The serious world of the adults in my life, with all their problems, separated me from that magical world when I was 8 years old. Your channel has helped me to reconnect with my 8 year old self. Thank you for all you do. (I’m 66 now and refuse to ‘grow up’.)

@TheSelfCenter Жыл бұрын

We're all struggling with adulting 😢 I hope you have great days ahead ❤❤

@Bayoubebe 4 ай бұрын

Man I miss touching grass😅 but really…I’m 42 and just a few years ago, I was like you; laying in my backyard grass, petting my loyal pup who has since left me. We would bask in the sunshine on a big blanket and look for little cute flowers. I was a full on adult then, as much as I am one now. It’s obvious that with all of your success and responsibilities, you are obviously doing a wonderful job at adulting. The haters are just mad that the world has sucked their sense of wonder out of them. Thank you for this video, and reminding me to slow down and do those things again. I was a much happier person. So inspirational.

@GoForAly Жыл бұрын

I just got fired from my job - on paper it should have been a dream, but I hated it and could feel it sapping the joy out of everything. now I’m not even sure about what I want to do professionally anymore. I haven’t cried at all about it surprisingly, but I do feel a little sad. I think it’s more the feeling of like I failed. I always work hard and made an effort to overachieve and I just couldn’t anymore. Taking some time to realign myself in the things that matter to me and allow myself to just live other aspects of my life happily ~ tysm for the video. really spoke to me at this time ✨ like I found it at the perfect moment

@tanschi8449 Жыл бұрын

Being hopeful and joyful for a child is usually easy as many have not yet experienced evil firsthand. But having hope and joy as an adult takes courage because the dark side of life has already touched us. Sometimes too much. That's why magic forests, fairies and sweet stories are needed now more than ever. Thank you for being "childlike" and help us live, through your videos, in that magic world as well.

@courtney1709 Жыл бұрын

Beautifully said, and as a 55 year old who has experienced a lot of loss in recent times, I completely agree.

@Briselance Жыл бұрын

"That's why magic forests, fairies and sweet stories are needed now more than ever" That's maybe the reason why I still (secretly) love MLP. I got hooked on it, back in '12-'13, and I have never truly left it behind.

@didyoueverwonder333 11 ай бұрын

Thank you - Growing Up 😂 - the truthiness of my being is to finally shed this "adult" and finally allow my child to be, observe, express and experience the weird, wonder and love! Today is a little better knowing I'm not alone! What a lovely garden we share 🌈❤️

@yana10525 Жыл бұрын

This reminded me of when I was young. My uncle would always bring home books containing local folklores and fables; after he finishes all of them, he'd give it to me. I was a lover of fantasy, befote I became too aware of the reality I live in. Now, I'm a young adult and it feels like I'm meeting that inner child, sharing stories with each other and memories of who I used to be. The very beautiful thing I've ever realized was that, that child inside me remained dreaming and fantasizing about the places we could never be in, and I am an the older self who now knows how to manifest that imagination into reality through arts. Thank you for this video! I never really thanked my child self about the things that I am capable now, and I had that epiphany only today. The child me will remain a child forever and I should nourish who she is; I should never see her as 'was', but a part of me who keeps reminding me that, somehow, I still want to step on those crunchy, dead leaves even though I'm near my 20s.

@Justmyhandle Жыл бұрын

Being childish and being child-like are two VERY different things despite how similar they may sound, and losing one's capacity for the latter in pursuit of our socially conditioned definition of "maturity" is one of the greatest tragedies there is.

@tammy2855 11 ай бұрын

🙌🙌