It doesn't sound like the high life but she sure is immature about money. This is a constant problem with people shacking up and not making a commitment to be true partners and getting clear about values and goals BEFORE they start playing house together.

He may not be a sugar daddy, but he sure is a patsy.

Doesn't sound like a sugar daddy if she lives on credit cards.

@@curiouscat3384 Better to play house and fail, than marry someone who can't adult.

@@DAndyLord maybe. But you ignored my point about getting to know someone thoroughly and determining you share values and goals. In my life since 1972 when shacking up became a thing, and even more recently with sex being acceptable on the first date, it seems that people just as a matter of course move in together because they're enjoying dating. Good marriage therapists recommend getting to know someone for at least a year, through 4 seasons, all the holidays and birthdays and getting to know the families, talking about budgeting, etc. By that time you should feel confident about committing to each other and statistically results in more successful marriages. It's a crap shoot if it will last whether you get married or shack up without taking time to really examine your relationship

THIS!

or when you are not willing to be a woman's pawn, they will insult you for not treating women right and you won't be getting p*ssy with that mentality so guys fall for it

@@cl8wnm5n sih

Yep. Without trust and respect there is no relationship

Just leave her and find a better person who is financially responsible

💯 classic.

Thanks rich cooper

Which should always be a reminder that if we have to push for better politicians, we need to CHANGE THOSE LAWS.

Are you a reformed simp now? White knighting is so cringe.

Congrats on your freedom!

Your story makes me think that if you truly love someone but they have this one fatal flaw, instead of taking a chance on marriage, take a chance on serious talk and counseling and have her prove she's changed before you buy the ring. Of course she might be a faker but odds are better. But for god's sake do NOT shack up and do NOT have children unless you feel secure you're on the same page and working as a team!

Why did u marry …. Didn’t u already get the benefits of a wife before marriage?

You are 100% correct, but the problem is only few have the ability to listen!

Don’t save her she don’t wanna be saved.

i wish the guy read your comment

Yup

True

😂😂

Paying for p....sy ...

Dudes a weenie 🌭 L7

I’m another female saying run

Next there will be an oops pregnancy! He better wrap it up or face the consequences.

This is the correct answer. He is making these choices.

My favorite response, I do things, because I WANT TO, not have to....

Exactly

Except run. Run now. Run fast.

tell her to pay her own dam bills

Was she hot?

Oh bummer. Shame she actually was able to make a push to pay it off, but that habit didnt stick.

Exactly

He’s weak and she’s exploiting that. They do it every single time. Listen to his voice, I’m not trying to be insulting, but that’s what the real issue is. He doesn’t have much of a backbone. Get rid of her if she’s bringing your life down.

Facts, women will cut off liabilities fast if it doesn't serve them. Men are taught from a young age to save a losing option and expect it to be their winning asset. It's the opposite. We have to value ourselves more.

​@@tonytoni1150 it's a human thing, not just a women thing. Men can take advantage of situations and weak people too.

@@tonytoni1150 "THEY do it all the time" And you're welcome 🫡🙃

Shows people don't listen ..😂😂😂he clearly says everytime he discusses it it turns to argument

if she does her role & respect you that's not simping

@@tkdevlop yeah but she is just slacking off on him

Simping?? She be pimping.

liabilities be marriage fela but many work out

@@michaelpalumbo4880 I get what you are saying. My relationship kind of crash but we still in good communication too and I learnt a lot including how to make passive income with crypto now I make not less 3k$ on a daily basis. We might get back to together if he can just work on his drinking problem

@@michaelpalumbo4880 It creates both. If you pick the right partner instead of just the hottest person you can find they will add not only companionship and care for when you're hurt/ill but they will contribute to your life. A good woman will either contribute financially or through caring for children or both. Both of those things will add a lot to your life. But again you have pick with your brain and not what's in your pants.

Exactly

Yep, this one is probably a basic leach.

That's all folks!

Living together is already a character issue. My brother won't marry his girlfriend. He didn't see her tears at dad's service when someone asked if she was married

Exactly also if she moved with him and a job didn't work out but she moved because of his job. It makes sense she would expect for him to take care of the finances because her job prospects were not involved in this decision

Are you talking about my sister in law? 😂

If she does, don't sign the birth certificate without a paternity test.

What's wrong with stay home moms? That shit is a full time job.

@@firefly9838 What I think we’re getting at is that the lady in question wants to be a stay at home mom because she thinks it’s easier than working. Being a stay at home mom is difficult but women like her romanticize it and think it will be easy. Once she finds out it’s not, she will be a lazy mom because she’s always been lazy

@@luibond9418 yeah I guess that's problematic. I just see a lot of people trashing all stay at home moms as lazy on the internet and that shit pisses me off. Because lots of them do it well and take it seriously.

The woman and her private parts is undefeated. 😂

Only if they're desperate. Guys with any amount of self worth will either know they can do better or that they're better off alone and just dump them. But a desperate guy will try to hold on no matter what cos he might think it'll take years to get into another relationship so maybe he can salvage the crappy one he's in.

@@luminous6969 amen

You know a big reason these guys are tolerating this? Many are raised by single moms who didn’t have their crap together and parentified their sons who then in turn feel it’s their jobs to rescue broken women.

@@nataliazakula3400 Captn'-sav-a-hoe

Yep. She won't help him pay any bills, and she'll create more bills for him to pay with her credit card binging.

Yup

Yep ! If I was him I’d get the you know what out before it’s too late .

Wear condoms

Lol exactly what I was going to say

Sounds like, I will never pay your bills.

Right on!

It'll be worse if they get married. And even worse than that if they have to get a divorce. "No financial contracts with financial incompetents",,, and he knows that now because they did live together.

Good comment

Exactly! They are both idiots. So he’s saying he couldn’t support his woman staying home raising the kids on 1 salary. I have rarely made money in my life. Was in college and then got married few days after graduating and been home since I got pregnant rather quick after marriage. My husband does not view my capacity of earning money as the necessity of being a good wife. His money is my money because we are married and committed to each other. He would never ask me to work because we both have our roles to play in this marriage. All of this comes down to a degenerate society. Making it seem like he’s some good guy is asinine. They honestly deserve each other😂

@@alqoshgirl That's a reckless way of living, sponging off another adult and what happens if you split up? You're destitute.

Smart thing you did. Glad for you that you saw through her nonsense.

It's not foolish to live together unmarried. It's foolish to do it without a plan. He is trying to make a plan and she's just blowing it off.

​@@edd06001 , living together without a plan is called shacking up. * Living together with a plan that both people agree to and bind themselves to is called marriage. * But what about all those marriages that end in disaster? * It's unfortunate today that many marriages lack this level of planning and commitment. Those are basically just a shack up relationship that was formalized on paper by the State, but it isn't the traditional understanding of marriage: two people, united in body, mind, and soul, pledging their worldly goods to one another, through good times and bad, whether sick or healthy, until death parts them.

@@sidwhiting665 the world today is not as black and white as you make it out to be. Although marriage is a sacred vow, many successful marriages started out with people living together prior to marriage. For many, its an important part of assessing long-term compatibility. Its easy to just hang out and go on dates and come and go as you please. Living with someone 24/7 is a whole nother level that people don't just magically adapt to. I have witnessed a lot of people live together prior to marriage myself included, and I have seen it go both ways.

@@edd06001 To each there own. 🤷🏾‍♀️ But plans can always fall through. And with marriage your just in the air with no parachute.

@@edd06001Actually, people that live together are statistically more likely to end up divorced.

run from her she wants to drain you out

@@angel-ij4xv she is my wife. and she actually got out of 7k of debt by herself. We got 5k of hers left and 3k of mine. Appreciate the concern lol, but we are good.

@@Shortballa11 I'm talking about the guy in the video

@@angel-ij4xv gotcha, yea the biggest red flag i heard was she didnt wanna work. Scary spot to be in

Keeping some gold is usually a wise decision. You would be better off keeping away from equities for a bit or, even better, seeking advice from an expert given the current market conditions and everything that is at risk with the current economy.

@Phil Stones that's impressive! I could really use the expertise of this advsors , my portfoIio has been down bad....who’s the person guiding you.

@Phil Stones Thank you for this tip. it was easy to find your coach. Did my due diligence on her before scheduling a phone call with her. She seems proficient considering her résumé.

I do not like it. Guilt is damaging too and unnecessary. Choose strength and boundaries.

It is a dumb phrase. False & dangerous dichotomy

What’s simp?

@@Samuels691 it stands for "simpleton"

He doesn't want to hear that though 😢

💯 about time and because Papa Dave is not there 😮‍💨

@@tubenachos If they were married it would be all his fault.

This is a different kind of call. Not like the usual at all.

@@Sable1837 that's right.

Dave’s entire program is based on the free spirit (spender) and a saver. He says that’s how every couple is. You can overcome when you work together and communicate your needs to your partner.

Of course

Responsibility is rarely equal. It should be balanced and agreed upon. Anyone 'keeping score' has serious issues.

How dare you! -Greta

She means your money is ours and my money is mine.

@@Michael-0000 so True

Sounds like a "traditional" relationship some men on the internet wants. You know the ones complaining about independent women.

I once asked my husband what attracted him to me. His answer was not very romantic but it was honest. He said I was the first woman he dated that was living on her own and financially independent.

Part right. He advises against getting married if she is not on board with finances. If she was, then he would tell him to get married or to move out, but stop pretending to be married. That's is the full version of what he has said many times. Now you know the truth.

@@pep590This! It’s more nuanced than get married. It’s stop pretending that you are and make sure your values match up before you do.

@@newp848 I mean you can talk about those things without living together. You don’t have to live together to find those things out.

your comment is spot on

Sooooooo true! Never trust a woman. I'm an old woman and the stories I've heard.....) ALWAYS wear a condom.

Yessir

He is to blame. He let her move in

​@Mike Hunt I mean this guy is to blame. The woman is clearly doing what she wants and the guy keeps bending backwards to make it work. He needs to speak his mind or leave.

Never give anybody advice. You’re an ______.

Um no. The problem is women are allowed to vote

So True

​@@fauxbro1983 😂

I vote conservative.