Yeah

Looking for validation on his stance of not getting married.

Like most of these callers.

Exactly.

Because he is in denial and want to escape reality

Not even the dating... He's not viewing her as an individual that's on the same plane as he is ...

If she hasn’t got the hint by now, she’s delusional. She needs to get the hint after 7 YEARS and run

@@rosetashajnnoelby “same plane” do you mean equals?

​@@truthtelleranonwomen aren't mens equal

She's still got to hear that 😔

He's not going to, but it doesn't mean he can't still date her.

Prenups get such a bad rap. I"m glad John momentarily stuck up for them. The problem with blanket advice here. . .maybe he has obligations beyond himself and her. He didn't indicate it. . .but maybe he has a company and has employees and they can't work for Mrs. New wife if they divorce. Now you have (x) employees lives disrupted (or even ruined). He has obligations to his girls. Bad prenups are thrown out, not reasonable ones. Yeah, if he says "I get everything and you get nothing" that will be thrown out. My wife and I have a prenup and we've forgotten we even have it. Because life is more than just about us and our marriage. It's selfish and impulsve to think otherwise.

@@cstuartdc They get challenged all the time. They do rarely get thrown out by a judge, but it does happen. Sometimes something was written incorrectly or unfairly in the prenup, or sometimes the judge will just willy-nilly throw it out because he/she feels like it. Divorce court really is a mess. Prenups are not trash, but they're not 100% secure either. The real issue is money needs to be taken out of divorce law. Some lawyers will look at people's net worth to see if it is beneficial to drag out legal proceedings to accumulate a bigger paycheck. Especially if one spouse is resentful, the lawyer will tell them to accuse the other of abusing the kids and they'll milk the spouse with a lot of the money dry before they stop. We really need to remove financial incentive for lawyers to ruin people's lives in family court.

@@Aubatron POINT: Prenups are not trash, but they're not 100% secure either. COUNTERPOINT: Well. . .what is? A savings account? Well, the principal is 100% secure under 250K, but it's subject to inflation risk. A prenup is a way to MANAGE risk, not eliminate it. And by crapping on this [potential] partnership, he is passing up what every accountant knows. . .put 2 solo businessman next to each other and they'll earn 100K each.. . but if they form a partnership successfully, they'll make 300K. It's a 1+1=3 thing that goes beyond sharing expenses. Here's the thing. . .lets say my wife decides to boink the entire NY Yankees and we get a divorce. . .becasue of 1+1+3. . .I know I'll be further ahead had we just never partnered up.

The problem is, that's all every woman wants when they divorce their husbands

It’s hard I get it. If you work really hard and your gf doesn’t. Then it’s frustrating to think she gets half your hard work.

@@roisindubh1883 7 years of dating, c'mon...he did say say he did not want to marry her, by his behavior. 🤔

@@roisindubh1883 if both are adults you can make a special contract. But clearly his behavior ist bad - she should leave !

@@andrewbradley3305This is not a money problem but a relationship problem. If you don't trust your gf than why is she your gf?

​@@andrewbradley3305He said she works hard. He is using her and stringing her along. The guy can't even think past himself so he should just marry himself but he is so wrong for using her as a support system and somethingbto be used and also wasting her time. He is dishonest to her.

The majority of women are burdens and problems. In today's market men get better results from never getting married. Blame the government.

Not if she enjoys dating him.

In most cases that is true.

Yes she needs to leave get her own life !!! Seriously he will always treat her like a problem

The sad part is she was too dumb to even notice/pick them clues up and still stuck with him hoping to marry him

He doesn't have to "let her go," she has free will she can leave.

@@michaelpalumbo4880 very likely the girlfriend has never heard him say these things, he's probably been stringing her along. He doesn't even know how to be honest with himself much less be able to communicate to her.

azteca6695 Yes - I wish John had said that - "She deserves to find someone who loves her and will marry her"

Possibly a narcissist. They are selfish people, self-centered, and refer to everything as ‘My’. And more so, they use other people, like he seems to be doing to his ‘girlfriend’

She's no victim he raised and paid for her two kids over the last 7 years. She could have left at anytime. @@curiouscat3384

let her go? He is not raping her and tying her up is he? She is free to dump her

Exactly!!

100% this!

She's a FWB.

Facts he don’t trust her either

Because she is kicking back and taking.

Why do we have car insurance, rent insurance, flight insurance, warranties?

Once he marries her, she's statistically likely to divorce him. Many women plan to leave before ever getting married. I wonder the red flags she's displaying to give him pause.

@@texan903many women plan to leave before they get marriedd? 😂 please post the link to that false claim asap!

@@texan903 I’m wondering if he observed how she handles money overtime. You can tell someone doesn’t handle money well based off what people say to you. People say stuff that gives clues about their finances.

Sluggish🌿

Yep. He thinks he's wealthy at $1.2 million (that includes his business gross and his house). He's a clown. He sounds like the type that gets in trouble with the IRS for a dodgy tax scheme.

​@roadrunner9622 true I thought we were talking about +10mil

@@roadrunner9622 that was my exhusband exactly!!!!!!!! thought he was a huge deal, and NO.

Insufferable

I wouldn’t get married with how unfair the court system is towards men and how most women will take a man’s money through divorce, alimony, and child support, and most women aren’t even feminine anymore so they aren’t worth the risk.

This is why we all need to have our own little pot of cash on the side and have a hobby that will bring us money if need be we have to go back into the job market bc guys get bored when the “rock” is a homebody and they want to go drink and f*ck the next cute little thing it’s disgusting .

@@carolinag8943 what’s disgusting is divorce, alimony, and child support and an unfair court system that’s biased towards men.

That's a lie. Women pay alimony and child support. They just don't make as much noise about paying it as men. A lot of wealthy women have had to deal with this so stop the narrative already. Besides you can't blame someone for filing for a divorce when the marriage is terrible and consistently so.@@jragon9215

It fucking hurts

AT ALL! He can’t communicate with the show hosts which makes me wonder how well he communicates with his lady!

I disagree. This is the kind of guy that WAS great husband material and a woman burned him down to the core (then they cry about where are the good man lol) But I also agree he should stay single; he will have plenty of options out there with no compromises that burn him down again

He needs a therapist and Jesus to heal his childhood trauma(s)

And when feeling jungle fever go to the m a s s a g e parlor 😂

Absolutely. He is a liar and manipulative. He is NOT trustworthy.

Elaborate ?

@@Eric_Bassett His capacity - or lack thereof - to even reflect for a moment that he wants all the upside of being attached to another human being without any of the down. It's an entirely one-sided arrangement - he said himself that his partner wanted to get married, but briskly dismissed it on, repeatedly on grounds of how it would affect "him", "me", or "I". John was right, never once did he mention the two of them as a unit.

@@HSQadri well hes divorced, he probably has trauma from getting screwed over once already. It’s a very real fear for an accomplished man.

@@Eric_Bassetthe said himself that the divorce wasn’t that bad tho?

@@PatsGators497 He was probably lying to himself as well as the audience.

You are so right! There is nothing righteous about sex outside of marriage.

Wisdom on her behalf.

​@@sophiawish9772they could have recommended marriage without the courts involved

no, hes just wise and she is trying to say "get that government contract that entitles me to 50% of your stuff or i wont move with you". she is the coercive one that is threatening leaving unless they get a government contract binding his finances to her...

@Big-Government-Is-The-Problem No. He's selfish. The wealth is not an issue. He can put the money in an LLC/ trust and get a prenup. Listen again. He said that the house is gonna be crowded. He just wants a live in maid/ bed warmer, but doesn't want to give in to her wishes. I know someone like that. Married 3 times and it's always an issue. He has to remind everyone and his wife how much money he has, but is too greedy to buy his wife a pair of shoes.

@@Big-Government-Is-The-Problem Exactly, I will never get married again either. I rather be single that ever deal with a court system or judges or lawyers again

yeah in modern times marriage is just dumb, maybe it was a worthy concept in the 50's or so but not now, its different times.@@westcoast5681 now its just a 50/50 gamble of losing 50% of your money for no gain for the risk. any casino offering odds like that would never get any players "welcome to the clown casino, would you like to take a 50/50 chance of losing 50% of your money for $0 if you win" lol

@@Big-Government-Is-The-Problemwhere in the call did you get this bs from? He literally she wants to get married, if he doesn’t want to he should break up with her. Simple. You just wrote a bunch of nonsense. 😭😂😂😂.

That’s a really high net worth most peoples net worth are in the negative most people live paycheck to paycheck. Most people live like that they hate. Salute to this guy making his dreams come true.

I know right, he's in his 40s so that's not super amazing or anything. I will bet you that she helped in a lot of unseen ways with building that wealth too but he won't acknowledge that

Exactly! i don’t think women are after your money when that’s your net worth. He has a reallly inflated sense of value

For real

Narcissist central

I'm sorry... Everyone is guessing. Maybe she is ok, with all of it. Maybe she doesn't want to move, maybe her life is great...

​@@patriciaalbertson5183she's not okay with it...did we listen to the same call

Oh please 😂 where she gonna find a wealthier guy? Because all the single guys have a 1.2 million dollar net worth?

@@steveabrams4314 1.2 million in net worth is not rich where I am from and most men have at least that by age 50 and I live in a pretty middle class area.

@@steveabrams4314in my city, that is just a house nothing more. 😂. Wouldn’t say wealthy.

Well said!

I agree! This guy needs to get his ass kicked

It’s not about Love. Marriage is the only contract where the woman is incentivized to break it. You were obviously not listening to this guy’s fears. This is the hesitancy of most modern day men, especially when you’re talking marriage and no kids are involved. Why pay for the cow, when the milk for free. Marriage and family court laws need to be more equal, many blue pill people just don’t get it.

​@@dynamicwellness33dude still owes it to her to be honest so she can stop wasting her time with him and so he can go move to Texas and travel like he wants. He's not doing either of them any favors by stringing her along. He already knows what he wants, and it isn't her.

Wasted 7 of her years. That’s crappy.

That’s a great point. Don’t waste peoples time

Let’s be honest, he must of used her for her motherly instincts too. I bet he LOVED having her involved with the kids and helping take care of em, man trusts her with his kids but not his money 😬🤯

Agree he's wrong for stringing her along for 7 years. However she is also wrong for not having the courage to leave earlier. The other problem is that family court laws are broken and make marriage too risky for many people. People idealize marriage too much and are willfully blind to this reality. A societies marriage laws should incentivize long term commitment and family formation. The problem with American family law is that it gives way too much power to the state to intervene in people's lives. If you research the history of marriage in America you'll learn that this is by design

I was married to this man I'm not going to trashing Jackie or Dan but I was alienated from my daughter's and left with absolutely zero money and replaced

I need an update. Did Jackie leave???

emotionally abusive, I picked up on that. The reason he won't marry her isn't because he's afraid of losing his money or his business. It's because it's a power tactic to make sure she knows her place. He enjoys pretending that he's doing her some sort of giant favor.

I figured she was raising his kids for him. It was clear he devalued everything she contributed. Then to find he was working out of his basement. Sheeesh.

YAY. CALLED ON HIS BS! I hope his life changed and he got what was due! Good luck, sir.

😂👏👏

FREE HER

If she really loves him (and he's still the best option for her) then she'll be ok with a marriage without the legal papers or at least a prenup.

⁠@@Excalibur2There is no such thing as a marriage without the legal paper 🤦🏻‍♀️

@@saribrown7156 what do you think Christians did before the government tracked it? 🤦 It used to be marriage before God, not God and government.

Sounds a little like she was more of a convenience for him as long as no risk is involved.

Sure but that’s your experience. This guy already got divorced once and we don’t know his dating history prior to that marriage. Some people have extreme trust issues and abandonment issues. Perhaps you don’t know what that’s like. You can’t judge him when you don’t have the full picture.

I@@Eric_Bassett I can see your point.He is certainly entitled to feel the way that he feels. If he is being up front with her about those feelings so be it. If he has been stringing her along for seven years, then that is what I would take exception with.

😂😂😂😂😂

@@Eric_BassettAnd he doesn’t have a clue of how self-absorbed he is

I agree, he sounds to me like a niggardly, slovenly man

She didn’t do shit 😂 his own business she lived at home

Women dot build. Yall use, consume, and destroy.

@@willfelix4655 Seriously, he knows he didn't choose divorce the first time...

This is the attitude that is the problem. Men working hard then women claiming it for themselves. No wonder he feels the way he does

This comment shows exactly why he doesnt wanna get married again. Woman works for something but has a bf: it was all her; man works for something but has a gf: she mustve helped.

what was the difference?

@@TheMotArt My wife has a more gentle spirit and does not respond with anger when she is hurt.

@@roliver3165makes sense. Noted.

So interesting. So glad you let her go! Good for you! And it paid off. Something intuitively told you it wasn’t right. Wish more people were honest with themselves & others around them. Less time wasted

You should have break up with her before she started talking about marriage. A year is too long. If she never talk about marriage, you would still date her and hang onto her before meeting your current wife?

which is totally fine and understandable. he has been caring for her for 7 years without issue, why does a government contract need to be involved? she is coercing him to get married or else she will leave, how is he the one in the wrong? why should he risk 50% of his networth when things have been going fine for the last 7 years without a government contract that lets men with guns come and take his money if she decides she wants it? have some objectivity lol

He said he trusts her. It's selfish to use a woman for sex and housework.

how so? its a mutually beneficial relationship... imagine thinking housework and sex is such a hard life while men go and die in the Lumber fields, the Coal mines, on fishing ships, in war etc, or even if its a safe job working 12 hours a day... get a grip dude. he may trust her today but nobody knows who a person will be 1-2-3-4-5 etc years from now, for all we know she could be playing the long con, or she could get dementia and become crazy and want to divorce him, or get hit by a bus tomorrow and her kids get 50%. 50% of first time marriages end in divorce, 70% of second time marriages end in divorce which would be his 2nd marriage. you're here on the dave Ramsey channel yet you think its wise for him to take a 70% gamble on losing 50% of his networth for what gain? nobody is their right mind would risk 50% of their networth for 0$ at the casino.@@georgewagner7787 why should any man or women sign a government contract as a sign of love? it is totally illogical to get the government involved in any relationship.

@@Big-Government-Is-The-Problem Fact

@@georgewagner7787 Funny how they both getting sex but it's him using her lol. Who says she is even doing housework.

She's a single mom. She isn't valued by any man with self respect. She needs to keep the man she's got.

Agreed! She needs to go where she’s valued

@joe, don’t think you herd the full video, he’s a single dad too! They are both bringing kids into the relationship. Plenty of amazing parents out there, that have come out of past relationships that find each other. Life isn’t for suffering in silence 😂 not everyone is petrified of being alone. Alone doesn’t mean lovely to many of us. Sounds like you need Sone inner work love

exactly.. i was expecting him to say 10 mil +

1.2 million isn't wealthy to you?

Exactly

@@blackbutterfly233ify not like he made it be. Is not that much wealth. Especially when you are self employed and selfish like he is. I hope she dumps his sorry behind and he will see how good the dating pool is out there. Such a douche… also that woman, after 5 yrs you see the changes, for sure he was not doing well even before so why stay and beg to get married with such a difficult and double minded person?😑😑😑

@@blackbutterfly233ifyit’s much better than the majority of people but not really that impressive in 2023.

When he said "In business you have to work on yourself as much as the business." That tells me maybe he thinks he is out of her league. She maybe doesn't project the right trophy wife thing he requires now that he is Mr. Big Bucks.

Honey, pack up and LEAVE!

Did she leave? did he propose?

We need to know?!

I hope she left. Show her this. He used her and karma will come back

Yep! You said it.

While he was building the business, she probably took care of the household, raised his kids and hers, got seven years older, and now he's looking for a younger woman. Thats what I'm hearing. What a shame.

It sounds to me like he is a very niggardly, slovenly man

Why? Where is the man she had kids with?

​@@andrew8168where is the woman he had kids with? They both got divorced.

😆 🤣 😂 😹 😆 🤣.

Why does she deserve better when he earned everything he's got. Make no sense. Woman are greedy and always want their cake and eat it too.

yeah I'm sure a single mother could do SOOO much better.

No one cares what you want Bonnie 😂 get a ring from your cats!

How do you know she deserves better? Have you met her? lmao

Wow. So glad you got out of that. You should have love, affection, compliments, attention, and appreciation lavished on you. Not doled out in dried up morsels by some stingy miser.

I married a guy like this too. Never again!

I'm glad you are out. They can totally erode your sense of worth.

Love this ❤️ so true! Rich doesn’t mean generous

Good for you! But I will brag about my brothers who are both a lot wealthier than this narcissist and very liquid unlike this caller. They shared their wealth with their wives, who are also good with money. My younger brother even lets his wife handle all money matters since they are both on the same page. And both are still married to their wives (for decades).

@@whatevergoesforme5129 the caller literally has no excuse. Love this! What you wrote, sounds like your brothers actually love & respect their wives

@@yasminogbu8929 Yes, they do. And I am going to brag about my brothers and their marriage since this caller bragged about his so-called net worth that includes his house. My brothers have more money in the bank and properties than this caller even though they work as professionals in their fields of expertise and are not businessmen, esp my younger brother. This caller is not really as wealthy as others think. His net worth is just a house in other states. My brothers are Christians who are married to Christian women who actually follow the bible about respecting their husbands as well. Marriage is not only about compromise but more about sharing the same values and goals in life so the usual marital squabbles are reduced to minor issues (e.g. where to go on vacation, what degrees the kids need to take in uni (thank God, all STEM degrees, etc). And both husband and wife should work as a team which is a breeze when both share common interests, values, and goals in life. That is why my brothers are still married to the women they married when they were younger. And they picked their wives well before marriage based on the more important criteria (not just looks). The problem with a lot of marriages today is the lost of truly Christian values and the ME first on both sides because more often than not the couple do not share the same values and goals in life so both think that their interests are not being considered by the other.

Good observation

Yup totally agree

Yup. "It's not that I don't trust her, I just don't want her to steal my money."

He sounds very niggardly

He’s scarred from the pain of his last divorce. He didn’t lose money, but it was clearly very painful. I bet he feels like if he did have money last time he’d have lost his money along with everything else. He’s not over his baggage.

House work? You are comparing the two?

This!!! All of this!!!

We're not sure if they lived together. They may have run separate houses. I did not hear that they lived together, or I missed that part.

How much free rent did she get in those 7 years?

Her kids don’t deserve a penny of his money! What makes you think she helped him build his wealth?!

Sorry you went through that Kim. Glad you’re out! Hope you were able to heal from that. It’s another level of deception. I don’t understand how some people walk around without a conscience

Yep saw that! Big statement! Love it

😂

As he should. The only one looking out for him is himself. It certainly won't be the preacher, or the judge, or the army of state henchmen used to clean him out.

True

Sure but he holds all the cards ? How many women who married bums complain about their lives ? She doesn’t have the ring but it definitely sounds like she’s in a comfortable place being with this guy lifestyle wise. If she were to leave she’d be starting from scratch and probably isn’t willing to do that. This guy has no debt and money in the bank. There’s no guarantee the grass would be greener on the other side. It’s often not. Especially in economical times such as these.

Exactly. Year two is the mark.

Je doesn't owe her anything. She can leave at any time.

her fault for totally not leaving

Exactly. He’s a narcissistic jackass. And she needs healing and real love in her life. He had a committed partner who probably loves him and helped him to succeed (at the very very least did not hold him back)- what a fool. She probably didn’t know until now that she had a very very uncommitted, ungrateful, and incredibly narcissistic partner who does not appreciate anything she’s contributed for 7 gd years nor bothers to express his love for her (if he even loves her). She needs to heal from something and develop better boundaries so selfish losers cannot take advantage again.

Ask yourself have women created an environment of trust for men to want to marry them. Has society destroyed the thing you want. In the day prior to the pill, men like this was shamed and denied sexual access to women. Think about how society has changed and you can change. Or you can move to another country with the traditional values you seek. You want both modern and tradition. This is why you struggle. Also take some personal responsibility. You have made decisions to overlook good men.

@@houseofhas9355 take your red pill jargon somewhere else. I can't control what other people do. I want marriage and a society that protects women from abuse and gives them options to get out when needed. If that's modern and traditional I'm all for it. All decent men agree with this concept too I might add. It's only the crazy ones who think marriage laws should go back to good ol days where you can hit or rape your wife with no consequences.

3-6 months isn't that long to date someone, I wouldn't have considered marriage to my now-husband in that tight of a time frame. A year is reasonable. At least 6 + months. It's like you're expecting things to go down the drain, so you quit before you get fired, if that makes sense. I really don't mean this in a hostile way, but have you considered the possibility that you are the common denominator here? If these jokers are the only men you've met for the past....20? years, you need to seriously reevaluate how/where you're meeting men. Or get some therapy to work out why you keep getting drawn in by these losers. I mean that very sincerely. Best of luck to you.

@@sitcomchristian6886 thanks. It's mostly online dating, unfortunately. I don't really meet single men at church or the activities I'm involved in and I don't go to bars. The reasons for ending things are due to discovering big deal breaker stuff like finding substance/alcohol abuse, major deception, lack of commitment or desire for marriage/family in their future. I guess I could've compromised and ended up in a bad situation? Plenty of people do and end up divorced. I guess I passed up on that opportunity. I don't see the point in investing more time into someone who doesn't want what you want and is making bad decisions they have zero intention of changing. Glad your marriage is going well.

I’m with you on this (story behind that). If you know in 3-6 months there are dealbreakers, cut your losses and move on. You know what you want and don’t want so why settle? I don’t have an answer for how to find good men but I know that finding damaged/losers isn’t going to create a satisfying marriage.

Really? Most women don't care about a guy. They just want his money. What a joke comment.

@@kerryp7014who hurt you?

He sounds like my friend who was never happy where she was.

Yes! This!

Facts!

Often reflected in the discussion.

Lol I doubt she cooks or cleans, that's wishful thinking. Modern women don't do that anymore

He’s a smart man! Never take over a women’s kids who are not biologically yours. That’s the golden rule.

@@reesercliffthat’s a generalization and not true

If she dumb enough to do that rather than doing her own thing she properly deserve that

@@intercine4986 lions eat the young of a lioness that aren't theirs

Yaass!! The truth!! In any relationship it is ideal to discuss and document how to move forward if something goes wrong while yhings are going well...People tend to think and act more emotionally than practically during breakups...

It's simple: don't get married if you have trust issues and refuse to share.

Be single then. Nothing in life is guaranteed but you can't live your whole life on the basis "guilty until proven innocent".

99 percent will take everything you got if it does not work out in the end. Listen to your heart and Mind!!!

@@MikeThePike316 I don't refuse share as long as it's benefiting me once that no longer the case I want my sht back

Divorce is the future. He's absolutely smart to be wrestling with this.😊

If after 4 years she still hasnt gotten a clue, she deserves to be dragged behind...

Agree. He's better off single and can find a new GF down in Tenn or TX

​@@K4R3N There are already chics calling into the studio begging for his digits.

@@JustinCase780 if I was single lady I'd be calling in with zero marriage expectations. Let's just have a good time! 😉

You should get married whether or not he becomes successful because you are already making the sacrifices that only a *fully* committed partner should make. If you don’t fully believe in him you shouldn’t make those sacrifices, but you could stick around without doing so if you choose. If you do believe in him, then get married and make them. Being unmarried and making sacrifices only gives him the option of one day deciding (if he becomes successful) whether you will benefit from the sacrifices *you made* or not. Don’t put yourself in that position. And it’s been 8 years. You’re already in deep.

You've sacrificed your bill money to help invest in your boyfriend's dream, which wasn't a very smart thing to do. Your bills should be your first priority to pay than anything else, instead the money going towards somebody's else's dream. What are you going to do when the utilities are shut off, and the rent or mortgage is delinquent, and have to vacate? You don't want to be out on the street.

@@slimdude2011 we’ve lived together for several years so I’m just saying I’ve covered most of our mutual expenses not just his. Just in the past few months the tables have kinda turned and he’s bringing in a bit more than me so now he’s covering our house, utilities, and car insurance and now I’m just paying for groceries, phones, expenses for the kids (school clothes etc) and entertainment like hulu, netflix etc. His business still isn’t successful but it’s bringing in just enough for us to get by month to month when combined with my income. He could be making significantly more money if he just got a regular job but we both believe in the business and have been making sacrifices to get it up and running.

@@GoJojo-lv6zi ya I know we need to get married. We already own property together and financially our lives are very intertwined. We both want to get married but we’ve been so busy trying to pull ourselves out of the mud and get property that it’s just gotten pushed to the back burner. We already bought our rings and everything. We’ve honestly just been procrastinating because we’re so focused on other things.

@@mamadoom9724 I don’t buy that, sorry. You haven’t been procrastinating on getting married for 7 years. You can just go get a marriage certificate & have a ceremony later. The deeds you’re signing and everything else carry just as much weight and you had time for those. I don’t buy it. It’s silly to not make it official after so long and a life that is already deeply intertwined. It’s silly and those aren’t good reasons.

Some states don't have common law marriage, my state, NC doesn't.

Only 8 states recognize common law marriage. Google it and hold this L.

Wow she is dumb enough to do that so properly exactly where she belongs

And if he had gotten married and she decided to leave he would have wasted probably twice as long, as it would take time to build up everything she'd take plus alimony and child support.

I don't think Common Law marriage exists anymore unless grandfathered in before a certain year.

And you're 100% sure that it wasn't the first wife who created those trust issues?

@@MrClassicmetal Or maybe it is just him.

​@@MrClassicmetalif you listen wuth your ears, you'd hear himckarufy that it wasnt his furst wife but his parents relationship that brought on the trust issues

@@smn5672 It is still him.

Wise words 👏

The exact opposite is true. It’s always the same person and most of the time people are angry because they wanted the person to change.

Women marry, hoping they can change the man. Men marry, hoping the women won't change.

So True

My thoughts exactly

Spoken like a true post wall hag. Men are onto the family law system and femininsm. An we want nothing t do with it anymore!

He could have abandonment issues, Trust issues, or past trauma tho ?

​@@Eric_BassettShouldn't be dating if he has issues like that.

@@shimmeringchimps3842 lol yea him and millions of other men and women. But realistically, people with issues will always be the majority of the dating market. Most people.. are in some way broken or in the process of being broken when it comes to love and romance.

You obviously don’t understand how the family courts work and how marriage contract is the only contract a woman is incentivized to Brake. Especially when there are no kids involved, how does this guy’s life get any better with her by marrying her? The risk in this situation is only shared on one side of the equation.

Particularly Deloney 😂

That's why I won't get married again..long live girlfriends with separate houses and their own income and own kids.

Lolz which is why i dont listen to peoples advice on relationships especially people who had divorce in thier past

@@unfairsanic5089 actually you should listen to them and learn from their mistakes! There's more lessons in the bad stories (what to watch out for) than the good stories.

@@K4R3N A girlfriend with her own kids? No thanks.

@@MrClassicmetal my logic is she won't want anymore! I'm not doing the baby stuff again, already a 3-time dad. Done with that diapers and strollers and sleepless nights BS.

100%. Me, my self and i.

So it's emotionally unsound to not concern yourself with preserving the assets you built. No one is entitled to the property you earned. It is not a sign if immaturity or selfishness, but a sign of intelligence, self preservation, and proper mental health to concern yourself the issue of putting yourself in a seriously compromising position. The marriage contact is the dumbest contract a man can sign.

@@michaelpalumbo4880especially when there are no kids involved.

​@@solarexcrement-he6qbshe wants a stake, and he doesn't trust her. They should break up.

Women do the exact same. It's his, he worked for it, why should he risk it?

The court system demolishes the men, but that's not the point. This guy shouldn't be in a relationship if he's not willing to commit. I wouldn't blame him if he doesn't want to run that risk again -- it can be traumatizing -- but he's been dragging this woman along for 7 years.

He’s probably never seen a coworker go through a situation

@@Jack-pd4ps no I doubt he has. Being a Marine I’ve seen countless going through it.

@@ryukirito2616 Rah! I’ve seen it happen in the Marines and in the civilian world too. Men who get dragged out in court usually don’t keep it to themselves. They tell people about it and it affects everyone.

Most men want to leave their wife destitute like they weren’t in the marriage. Go back in history and you’ll see men are the reason divorce tips in the woman’s favor now. As both marriage and divorce were always beneficial to men. Now only marriage is and divorce to the women, with few exceptions.

Right? It sounded like Eeyore calling. I sure hope my bf doesn't sound like that when he talks about me! 😂

It was actually her house. She owned it. And she let his daughters live there. She was overly empathetic though, and ended up used, but at least it's over and she can concentrate on her own life and kids now.

But being single is lonely. Everybody wants someone by their side. It’s human nature that you can try to deny but we all want it. We all want a partner who loves us.

@@mamadoom9724 you can be alone but not lonely

You can be in a relationship without being married... he doesn't have to "let her go" either. She is free to leave. He is simply protecting himself from an extremely bias divorce court system.

@@TheFlyingZulu Yup. She get's messy when her main goal is half his shit.

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Lol, you missed the part where their partners left already after the man couldn't work, Women are encouraged to leave broke men. Just like men should be encouraged to leave fat women.

He supported her and her children for the past 7 years, so that's one hell of a way to say he doesn't want a partner.

@@michaelpalumbo4880 Support is necessary, but it's also not enough. A husband can support his wife and kids with total safety and financial security, but if he's absent, withdrawn, or unfaithful, then he's not all in. She'd be right to dump him. And if he's not all in (which he's not, to his admission), then he should do the honorable thing and let her go.

The woman is responsible too for jumping into bed with a divorcee