Wow sorry you had to go through all that, hope you’re doing better now

Amen 🙏🙌

House sounds like a "scrape off" to me.

They should contact the city to get guidance on what to do.

This is one of the calls I would love to get an update on eventually. Good luck to all parties.

It’s understandably important to recognize that this neighbor is stressed, broke and above all mentally ill. This is some ocd level issue as they are living in an unfit home and inflicting health risks on neighbors. Compassion should never get in the way of telling someone it’s time to get off the pot, and if they won’t get off or do the hard stuff you need to get social services involved. They need public housing, not to live in filth.

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That's a great faith! God provides

The actually sounds cool

You guys did it right by each family having a srperate acre.

Quarter secrion must have been subdivided before hand?

I understand I'm 46 with 13,000.00 in my 401k , $ 1,000 emergency fund and $ 6,000 in debt . So I understand. Thank God 🙏 my house is paid for

Most men respect their wife...I hope.

It's like he's publicly overly compensating.

Absolutely illegal to occupy a home with a failing septic here in my state.

Exactly! I don't understand the comments saying that the caller should offer to pay for it. That's 8-10k. That's a lot to cover that shouldn't be his responsibility.

Same thing happened at my house. The plumber said mine and the neighbors plumbing is connected and since we are below the neighbors house it mainly their septic getting pushed into our house and on the street. The city told us we need to fix it or we will get fined. They never went to the neighbors and my dad never asked. The plumber also said she is common in our area. And it costed about 13k

Yes and why the disabled cant get ahead!

No such thing as a "forever Home"....let's just call it a home.

@@brucefredrickson9677 yep. Didn't say it was a forever home, but rather a semi-forever home. Vast difference.

let go the 1st home is hard...

For real.

There are free resources . I think she can call 411 and speak to someone without him knowing

With three kids in South Carolina? Dude would be sending her over half his salary to her. I strongly dislike control freaks, which is what her husband is. I agree, he's hiding something.

I think you are all wrong if he's taking care of everything why does she need money I agree you can have a separate account together but her having access to his accounts I don't think so. Dave recommending marriage counseling is ridiculous it doesn't work. If she wants to contribute she should go back to work then there will be no problems where the money is going. They should be working towards the same financial goals.

​​@@jsjdhwbsbwbbqListen, I'm sure you're just a troll trying to be a fool. Your first comment proves that. You know nothing about marriage! What being ONE means, in sharing lives together, sharing debt and income together, sharing a home and bed together, sharing children and goals together, Sharing finances and a budget together. Agreeing and communicating about how you want to reach your goals, your dreams, your retirement, raising children,etc. Whether you're working outside the home for an income or raising the children & being a homemaker you're both contributing to building responsible, good, caring lives & home together. Your now ONE, doing DIFFERENT BUT EQUAL responsibilities in your marriage. Its ridiculous to hold anything in a marriage over the head of the other! to be controlling and self centered, whether its income, or children or physical power, etc. Your suppose to be caring and giving your best to each other. Your suppose to care about the heart of the love of your life, right?and their input in the marraige, Working is JUST one aspect of a marraige, like having the responsibility of raising children and running a household. Income has nothing to do with anything other then it being one of many responsibilities You Share as ONE. You still have individual interests, hobbies, etc but are SHARING your life as one also includes learning good communication with each other, which includes both of you having a say in how things work in your marriage and home and finances, continuing to learn to communicate better (which doing a budget with finances helps you learn to communicate better) No longer living JUST for themselves But for each other, caring about each other.. He should care that it bothers her that she feels like a child having to ask for $20 like she's a little teenager talking to daddy, but you knew that, you're just being dumb along with everything else you said proves that. Or you know nothing about marriage or what the data shows supporting what a good happy marriage is, as well as the GOOD advise she was given on this show. I doubt you understand what they are talking about. You're either ACTING like a fool to be a troll Or you believe what you said, which makes you the most pathetic Fool Ive encountered on this show since I'm sure you would disagree if the roles were reversed and the husband had no access to any money or any knowledge of how it was ALL being spent. You'd be ok with him NOT knowing whether any was going into retirement for the both of them to retire well?or whether the bills were being paid ontime without being late? Or if the mortgage was paid or 6 months behind, or whether money was being secretly put away, or spent foolishly, etc etc? But him having no access is ok to you right? Its just reversed in that scenario. Then again, if you think that's OK, you're the fool that I knew you were when I first started this, after reading comments you said like "they should work towards the same financial goals" lol what? when he doesn't give her any access to know what the finances are? Fool ..UUGG!

@@jsjdhwbsbwbbq Everyone is quick to scream abuse. My cousin is married to a woman who once completely emptied their 10k plus Emergency fund on "stuff" just because it was there and she had access to it. We know nothing about her. She could be absolutely horrible with money and she could've derailed him earlier in their relationship that caused him to be this way. If my wife constantly drained our accounts just because she could like my cousin's wife did sure enough our money would absolutely not be in joint accounts.

Exactly!

That's tragic

Why does it matter?

The all-time high was when it was 18%! Just by the house, and when rates come down, if they do, just refinance. That's Dave's advice.

@@brookelondon8029 I think we will avoid rates going much higher. But home prices are still way up. Our house value is up 30% since 2020.

Yes, just bots that post on every video that does not delete them. This channel is hands-off and lets the spammers stay.

Report the comments when you find them.

@@user-hc9vz7oo3w In my experience, reporting spam just hides it from myself. The other commenters still see it.

Don’t count on that! You could be a millionaire sooner than you realize and he’s planning to stay till he “doesn’t make sense anymore “…so far, so good! 😊

@@BeeDee-qs9so Thanks! It's probably closer than I know but who knows. Conservatively we are a quarter of the way there.

@@DiscipleStevenCan’t wait to hear your Debt Free Scream one day! Keep putting one foot in front of the other. You will do this!😊👌👍🎉

Well wasn't that a very useful comment are you new here or have you actually been watching Ramsey Solutions content for many years like most of us? Sincerely asking

Follow the Baby Steps and you'll get there 👍🏻

Marriage is a partnership 😮

A marriage is way more than just a partnership. It’s a covenant. Nowhere do business partners promise that they will take care of each other till death do them part.

Good thing it doesn’t go by your standards. Stop trying to step on people that ARE millionaires. You’re no better than anyone.

A millionaire is a millionaire...a pizza is still a pizza no matter if its sliced or not.

@@motoryzen Yep. Bette is on here always dogging other humans I’ve noticed. She’s sad in her own life, millionaires or not. Her kids probably don’t come around much

The upside to your definition is that if you hit liquid millionaire status, you are by default a net worth millionaire. Nothing wrong with setting your personal bar higher. Good for you!

Asset Millionaires and liquid millionaires are either also net worth millionaires or merely pseudomillionaires.

And that irritates the hell out of me....

But she interrupts him too

They both talk. Matched words. They both interrupt each other a lot

He interrupts the callers a lot too 😂

The funny part is that with the other hosts he listens more patiently. Only his daughter cannot finish a sentence without him interrupting:D

If she had reckless spending habits she wouldn't be in charge of paying the bills.

Or charge him $25.00 an hour for 24 hours a day for everything you do. Child care, housekeeping, cooking, laundry, etc. Sometimes, staying at home is much harder than it seems to others. It is very underappreciated.

She doesn't want to sell, though.

To build another.

Dave claims to own "several hundred million" in properties, so I think he's a huge fan of owning real estate!

What? You make no sense and you know it. Buying real estate for investment has nothing to do with him selling or buying a personal home.. daah!

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@@LordJesusEvangelism3158 anytime friend 😉👍, Happy to make an impact on someone's day!

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Control is abuse. It is something you learn when working with DV victims. People think DV is one thing, it is not. Most DV cases include some form of financial abuse. Cutting a spouse off from finances and isolating them at home, are major control tactics. No one said she has to have access or the ability to spend every dollar. He won't do marriage counseling and odds are he won't "allow" her to work. Even if she were to go out and get a job, he has a history of controlling the finances. He would likely punish her by refusing to cover child care, not allowing her finances to get work clothes, gas money, etc. That is assuming that she would 1) be allowed and 2) be given access to her own paychecks. A lot of times control seeps in slowly over time. We call it the boiling frog. If they were that way at the beginning you would run. Instead they slowly exert control and isolate you and acclimate you to your new "normal" which is what the hosts even stated here. They interview before allowing them on the show and then they edit what is published on the radio show, and here on YT. Just because you do not recognize it as control and abuse, especially with zero experience or education, doesn't make it so.

Subtext: it's always the woman's fault

The place was a dump that is falling apart. The septic is not the only issue, so living there makes no sense. Also, who just gives 10 grand to their neighbor? Especially someone like this who is in a downward spiral. You can't fix other people's lives, especially just by throwing money at them. Dave's answer was correct, offer to help but do so at arm's reach. There is no need to get that financially involved in someone's life that isn't family.

Exactly. And having her sign a paper is not going to mean anything because she's been ignoring her tax bills for the past couple of years. And even if he pays for the lawyer for probate, that doesn't mean she's going to fix up the house. What a mess!

Is this a question? Answer: Go pick some flowers at a park or the side of the road.