Can you do a video about adhd comorebitatee thing all anxiety depression ocd rds and other.

I have a question: How can you see in my head so clearly in this video? I was diagnosed with ADHD in early elementary school and I was wondering what is it that I'm experiencing and I couldn't explain those symptoms. And suddenly here you are explaining the same exact thing I have while i didn't have any answer to it. It cleared a lot for me, thank you!

What's the success rate of this program?

One of the easy things to copy and fake ADHD When your ADHD u would be worrying about the food u just want shopping .

For me its usually best to have some music on repeat in the background.

and it's the same number you know is wrong but you keep losing count anyways.

I actually had an appointment with a counselor recently to discuss ADHD treatment. I completely forgot and missed the meeting but, you know, baby’s steps.

@@evanshearin6490 my sister's psychiatrist has ADHD (as does my sister) and they regularly have times when she forgets their appointment or to send in a prescription etc.

When I worked as a cashier before being diagnosed, I was confused why I had to split 1 dollar bills into groups of fives to actually count it. If I went over the number literally vanished from my head

Damn! Never heard that before... so true!

Same, the joys of time blindness.

For me I have tasks in mind that take only a small amount of time and can be left unfinished without being mad. A game that is quick to boot up and doesnt require a set amount of time like pokemon does this for me. I can pick that up for 10 minutes and then put it down. Chores as well, just cleaning the hobs or something, something short. I can leave one half of the hobs unclean, although hoovering is dangerous because as soon as the hoover comes out the entire house will be clean, regardless of obligations.

YES

I do this all the time!

this is what he means by executive function, your brain struggles with filling the time with tasks..prioritizing based on time.

I had a different reaction. I laughed. But just because it's so absurdly true and relatable. You just learn to fill in the blanks as well as you possibly can and that way it looks from the outside like you were paying attention. And you just "cheat" your way through things in various ways until it no longer works and you crash and wonder what in the world is wrong with you. He DOES know what he's talking about. I used to beat myself up because I used to think I could put in more ram than I had lol. But eventually I just accepted that I'd reached my limit and started looking for the extra armour and weapons. Started using calendars and notifications, like he said. Started trying to hack my attention at various times of the day when I knew I usually had better energy and focus. And things got a little easier, but still not quite good enough to not get overwhelmed. I'm still trying to learn to separate what's working for me and what's not. What is clear, though, is that I'm still struggling to function in society.

This was me too. Head of my class right up to the last couple of years of high school and failing at everything in adulthood. I'm finally getting things together at 50 as I understand how my brain works and I put things in place that work for me.

TRUE. Graduated HS early with a 4.2 weighted GPA. Got into college and the last year I was like I cant adult AT ALL. Still graduated with a 3.8 GPA 2 BFAs and a minor in philosophy. I can hyperfocus on learning just straight getting info dumped on but I cant organize to save my life

im undiagnosed this broke a reality to me felt like my whole personality as a human is just adaption, i was allways the kid that said he isnt smart he just uses logic because i could never follow a teacher longer then 5 minutes without spacing out. gotta go to the doc soon.

Bruh it was the "teacher calls on you and you learn how to gather info and answer quickly" part for me. I've gotten to the point where I can still keep up with the workload, but building a conceptual understanding on the spot makes it especially difficult because I can't trust myself to just learn concepts just by their equations. I'm in uni for an ME major atm, passed my dynamics class because I test extremely well- now I'm accidentally the professor's pet and he keeps calling on me, even though my way to compensate for my poor attention has become solving the problem on my own conceptually to keep myself engaged. I can never answer his questions, and it pulls me out of my train of thought. Even worse, professors use slides a *lot*. Working a problem on a board makes it easy for me to follow conceptually while also listening to what's being said. When it's a slide, I have to rely on the slide info because I won't have time or attention to follow both without losing one half of it.

This.

I started putting in "celebrate [thing]" in my calander, right after a hard task. Did I call my dentist? Let me celebrate that with a nice lunch! Did I get my teeth cleaned? Let's go see a movie! Did I get a job? Fancy coffee for me! It's not a huge thing but it helps. Been 3 years and now I do a little dance before getting to treat to really get my brain to feel good about what I did. It makes life more fun and thakes the edge off of the hard stuff. I can totally recommend this! We all deserve to celebrate our accomplishments :3

Not even finished watching this but same!

Saaaaame

same.

I graduated from university with high distinction a few months ago and I literally did not care lol. Everyone's like "you must feel so proud and accomplished!" And I'm just like "...no? Should I be?"

So, fucking, true. Going out on the boat with the family and dogs? Meh... I wanna stay home in my cold room reading.

@@Lapeocon yeah, Everything is just a relief its over, Not something to remember fondly. It's such a weird headspace to be in.

@@Lapeocon straight up. I almost dropped out because I simply don't care. And people have a hard time getting that when I told them I don't care I really have no feeling either way.

It's the understimulation he's talking about. Family gathering, just ''Hanging out'' going around without goals or doing an activity is hell for me.

Tried downloading more RAM but I'm afraid we've been bamboozled.

I did this in college and now that I'm in the end, I'm getting diagnosed with ADHD because of my trouble with writing my Thesis

@@AlexandreLopsz wooow, thats exactly me but i'm 31 now because i procrastinated the hell out of my whole university life. Fortunatley my professor is very understanding and has agreed to meet every week to create artificial pressure in short time intervalls. Hoping for the best now.

@@AlexandreLopsz Samezies!

same, school was fine, now i hit the wall in uni

Same. I sent this video to my mom so that she can understand my brain function a little more.

wow. didn’t realize some neurotypical people genuinely don’t understand that kind of thing. lol i never stopped to think of it as abnormal

I got diagnosed age 8, but the psychologist didn't deem int necessary to tell my parents *anything* about ADHD, so they assumed it was "gone" when I entered puberty, cuz teens are complicated and emotional, right? also given that I have both, ADHD and ASD from my mom(she's undiagnosed, but I'm like an exact copy of her in quirks, struggles and overall behavior) it's not surprising that my parents didn't think I was that much out of the ordinary.

It was the exact same for me. For me it even got to the point where I didn’t want to stay home when I was sick because I wasn’t allowed to play games or have my phone and I would be so incredibly unfathomably bored because all I could do was lay in bed or watch TV.

Same here

The absolute most annoying thing anyone's ever told me was "Just don't get distracted". What's next? "don't get hit by a car" when I've just been hit on a zebra crossing

The shame and blame that we're "not living up to our potential", "we're wasting time", "we're not applying ourselves", "if you just paid more attention", is so defeating!

Yeah my mom always used it as an insult against me that I'm "very sensitive" so I did everything not to be sensitive anymore. The only thing it accomplished is that I have to relearn to actually "feel how I feel" again.

I was diagnosed at 44 years old. I believe one of the best things to come out of social media platforms like TikTok is the opening of the conversations about mental health. We can finally be seen, and even though acceptance is so new there's still a lot of "Oh, everybody says they have that" clapback, at least we know we aren't alone.

I am a 58 year old women who works as a scientist and going through the process of being diagnosed with ADHD but I know I have it, it was a shock.

yeah I can relate to this, ADHD runs in my family like my dad/brother and a bunch of my cousins got officially diagnosed but I was good enough at taking tests in school they just never looked into it for me. And now I'm 27 and realizing I'm almost positive I have it too and it makes getting my work done for my actual job really hard.

I had the same situation but I'm a man. it was really frustrating as everyone thought I was lying for pills.

Expectation? Or is it the personality? Girls tend to be agreeable (meaning they are relatively obedient) and extraverted, which usually leaves good impression on parents and teachers. So ADHD symptoms tend to get compensated with good impression, causing it to be underdiagnosed. Boys on the other hand is disagreeable, introverted, and may show certain extent to disruptive behavior, which parents and teachers usually not overlook, leading to over-diagnosis.

@@ifluxion what you're describing is the result of social conditioning. Girls are expected to be agreeable, obedient, etc from a young age and are punished for not doing so. This has very little to do with personality and more to do with societal expectations of women. Boys are not raised to be this way (hence "boys will be boys") which is why women learn to mask their symptoms from a very young age and are severely underdiagnosed as a result.

Same, that was exactly what I did throughout my entire life as a young man, I'm just thankful I managed to fix my ADHD in my 20s, just having the initiative to study psychology in my free time and discovering an healthy routine and diet.

Same. I'm deconstructing the wall but damn, it's hard.

100% same. My grandparents and family friends would always coo about how smart I was as a kid but I struggled so hard in school because I couldn't make myself focus if it was stimulating for me. It would physically hurt to try, I would cry while doing homework 90% of the time. I am also 100% the college kid who didn't do any of the reading but my teachers never knew because I could somehow always answer and discuss the text anyway. I didn't even know how I did it half the time! My partner now is even baffled. He says I'm the smartest person he's ever met but I struggle so much with simple everyday things. He's so loving though and is so patient with me. He's been a huge help in building systems to make it easier.

Worse is that we were raised with so much knowledge of ADHD as a stigma but no tools to deal with ADHD besides drugs. :(

@@hotarubinariko wow you just explained my experience so perfectly I'm actually little creeped out... I've never been diagnosed with ADHD tho i just thought of it as having bad discipline

@@hotarubinariko It’s great that you’ve found such a supportive partner in your husband. (And I mean this in the sense of “partner” as “someone who you work with”, not “spouse or equivalent”.) I hope things get easier.

It feels like thinking so fast your main train of thought stops for a fraction of a second to think something else then continue or derail. To me it feels kind of like this: " I have to go to the gro-OHLOOKAPENNY-cery shop to pick up some eggs and milk then rush home to start make~du~du~dududuuu~ing-OOHILOVETHISSONG !!! When did i hear this song the last time hmmm "

The part that hit me is where she stopped filling the flowers, just to write down that she needs pills only to walk away forgetting about the cereal and flowers and thinking about the Latin origins of medical words instead. Just to, seconds later, remember she forgot to do like 3 things. Accurate af.

I think so fast that it's rarely a full sentence, a thought is more like the vibe and meaning of the sentence without having words. So when I have a thought that actually consists of words, it does feel like hearing a voice sometimes.

I have conversations from different people's perspective happen out loud A LOT. I can stop it at any time and they are my own thoughts and scenarios. I never heard voices and I hope I never will.

@@ytilaeR_ My parents always say: If I give you 3 tasks to do, you forget 2 of them. My mom also says: If your head wasn't stuck on your body, you would even forget to bring your head. Which I find funny.

I doubt you eventually finished it, lmao. I have several projects that just need 3% to be done, but heaven knows I'm not touching any of them again. Reason why you need someone that isn't like you and typically has OCD, or at least likes to finish things. They will micro-manage your projects completion.

Lmaoo totally can relate 😂😂😂

FINISH ITTTTTT I want an update

Yes! My colleague and good friend is a bit OCD, and she is literally my second brain. I honestly think I would be unemployed without her. 🥲

For me the hyperfocus problem is not so much me not being able to control when I use it, but that I completely lose track of everything else. I simply forget anything else exists, I forget that food is a thing, that bathroom breaks are a thing, that time exists... I simply do the thing until I can't anymore, because I feel faint and dizzy from hunger, or because I need to use the bathroom NOW. And I completely forgot about the meetings and tasks I had. Meds make it easier for me to break out of that, I haven't really had a hyperfocus since I take them, I have a much easier time both paying attention, and breaking out of a focus with meds.

I really really want to see a video about this topic so thank you for suggesting it 😊

Same!!

Absolutely this. It's hard to rank symptoms, but emotional dysregulation has got to be one of the worst for me. Everything is so much harder to manage when your entire day is ruined because you burned the eggs at breakfast.

My brother has severe ADHD and he has real issues with judging other peoples' emotions, which more or less prevents him from being empathetic. He also does not know when to stop during an argument because he can't tell at what point he starts to permanently scarr someone emotionally, so arguments with him tend to be longer and louder than with other people.

@@ahsookee I sympathize w both you & your brother on that. Sometimes when we ADHD folks are really passionate (or even just hyperfocused) on something, we can go into overdrive in our search to be heard & understood- especially if we've spent a lot of time being or feeling misunderstood. That doesn't make his points turning to rants or tirades ok tho. Perhaps, if you feel up for it, you could talk to him about it when y'all are calm & getting along- personally, I benefit from the positive, negative, positive (& maybe a solution) sandwich, maybe it will help him. Ex: "Hey, bro, I admire your passion & enjoy the things you talk about. Sometimes it does feel like you start to talk at me (or others) & your drive to be heard can be hurtful. I know that's not your goal, so maybe we could work out a discreet signal I could give you when you're starting down that path? And later I can tell you what I noticed to help you learn others' discomfort signals for yourself.

This

The guilt to do anything else is so powerful. I cant do physically anything unless i do the task that im supposed to do, but procrastination holds me back. So its an endless cycle of laying on the bed and staring at the ceiling

@@floranse5205 literally laying in bed staring at the ceiling avoiding cleaning when I read this 😲

@@kikumon90 doing some task you enjoy beforehand helped me. Like cleaning or pruning my plants. Its still sorta a cleaning task, but you ease yourself into it and then you realise you're actually doing the cleaning.

Man i have this with pretty much anything i do. Its most annoying when i plan on cooking something but then my mind sort of paralyzes me bc the task seems too terrifying and i cant do anything at all. So i often end up barely eating anything that day...

OMG yes, cause cause the order changes again and again as you move them so then you kinda have to re-do half of it? 🙈

@@KxNOxUTA Yes, also I just move from task to task if I don't have enough room to finish another. I sorta try to make room in the middle and throw everything I can't order in the middle of the room. Then I go around the room ordering and cleaning.

Yep. With cleaning, hour 3 is like the end of my "pre-game". The last 30 minutes is where 80% of the cleaning itself gets done because that's when I realize I'm running out of time. (And I only "realize" because my spouse tells me we're going to be late for something....again.)

Amen

A strategy that works for me when cleaning is to not try to focus at all on what I'm cleaning. I just try to sort of get myself started, and then whatever "cleanable" thing I come across, I engage with *immediately* even if it interrupts something else I was doing. It's chaotic, but eventually sort of converges into a clean apartment as long as every individual step doesn't increase the messiness significantly. It's like, I can start vacuuming, notice a piece of trash on the floor, go put it away, sort a few dishes in the sink, wipe the tables, then go back to the vacuum for a bit, notice that some surfaces are dusty and start dusting them, et cetera. It's very low friction and if anyone looked at me doing it they'd probably be very confused, but for my brain it's just the easiest way to get things done.

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏

YES very sure of Mr.medmushies. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, BPD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

Honestly, I feel the opposite. I dislike it when people gatekeep disorders, saying "you must be this negatively affected by it to have it." Not everyone's life is devastated by things like ADHD. Claiming so might just stop a lot of mildly afflicted folks from receiving diagnosis or help.

I don't have OCD, but for over a good decade everyone was saying, "this thing is my OCD" about everything. I can't imagine what an individual with legit OCD must have felt, and were likely dismissed a lot due to the attitude towards what OCD is. Now that I finally have my ADHD diagnosed, I am self-conscious about people believing me/taking me seriously.

@@ShazyShaze There has to be a threshold for a diagnosis of any disease or problem, Is the issue impairing your function in the world built for the average person in a way that lowers your chances of having some kind of stability and success? Then there is a need to intervene professionally to fix the issue.

@@ShazyShaze "Gatekeeping" has got to be one of the most misused terms these days. Defining an illness is NOT gatekeeping it.

@@yohaizilber Why does there have to be that threshold, though? What if someone has a really mild form of ADHD that doesn't devastate their life?

Oh, a few months ago I built a 3D printer. Box showed up at my house at 6pm, started building it and got extremely involved in it... Until 6am, when I finished building it. 12 freaking hours! The worst thing? The university exam I had at 10am, that I inevitably failed

Ouch! That sounds all too familiar. Good luck with everything 👍

Ha. 9 - almost 10 -- years here. It's rough but I feel more in control.

@@SideBit it’s been about 10 years since I was last medicated. It’s been a struggle, but now it’s easier to manage when I found out what works

I get this with video games pretty badly. Something I do to break hyper focus when I need to is I set an alarm to go off on my phone to act as a reminder to do something else.

I feel you :)

All of those statements are relatable, thank you

Yesss! I have a round table of several perspectives of thoughts and things running through my head at warp speed at all times. I have my logical internal voice, my voice that's into whatever looks shiny and pretty at the time and always wants crafts, the one who has anxiety about being late or random accidents happening, intrusive thoughts about random crap, the one that's just a running list of everything I have to do today over and over so I don't forget on a loop until I do one of them then it's the rest over and over, the one that keeps track of all the stuff for my kids and husband, the snarky bully one that criticizes me for everything, the one that looks for any reason to stay home and another that wants excuses to go out and dress up, and then random music lyrics and movie dialogue that ties into whatever I'm doing and some kind of morbid comedian. All. The. Time. It's not like multiple personalities because they're all me but it's like I have facets like a gemstone or something. If I try to explain it people just look at me like I'm terrifying and ask if I feel okay 🤦

Lisa and Austin - I SOOOOO relate to this! I was talking with my husband yesterday about my inner monologue and he was like, "what, you're hearing voices now?" I was taken aback. Doesn't everyone have mental "chatter" like that? I couldn't explain to him that it's not really a separate voice, but it says all sorts of things that may or may not be true or relevant. Doesn't everyone have 10 things running through their mind at the same time?

"How could you get through school without studying?" My question to them is: "How were you able to get through studying when you also have school?".

“High IQ so no ADHD” … if that’s really what they said, that evaluator was absurdly incompetent. I was diagnosed at age 6 in the early 00s and also determined to have 98th percentile intelligence for my age group at the same time. There is no correlation at all between ADHD and “IQ” except that some with ADHD will perform better on IQ assessments with medication or accommodations (extra time, distraction reduced room, etc). Intelligence tests generally are less impacted than knowledge tests by accommodations (or at least that was my understanding of why I could still score exceptionally without treatment)

DUDE NO SAME I got diagnosed with asd at an in school psychiatrist in 2nd grade I didn’t know what that meant so I never thought much about it some things in my schedule changed and I could go to this fun room if I wanted! Fast forward a couple years and a couple lessons on emotions (focusing on asd) 6th grade killed me. I just kept getting frustrated at the adults for not listening to me I kept saying that I cant turn my brain off and I ended up brute forcing my way through the rest of school. 8th grade rolls around I’m diagnosed with mdd and general anxiety disorder. 9th grade and I’m retested finally after so much begging and the physiotherapist is saying I have above average iq and it looks like asd but there’s a handful of inconsistencies. Brute force my way through school dealing with ✨emotional abuse✨ as I have throughout my life. I end up going through a phase of self diagnosing (which is quite cringe and wrong I know) honestly I have to at this point because it seems like I’m the only one willing to care so I’ve done so much research. I’ve kept waffling back and forth on wether or not I have ADHD because look at me I’m tired and I just can’t focus on anything that isn’t stimulating I’ve gone from hyper focus to hyper focus looking and scouring for something that makes me happy again. I just don’t want to live anymore honestly it’s frustrating now that I’m an adult and I don’t know how to do anything useful. Im suffering and Ive hurt others wether they want to admit it or not. I don’t know what else to to

Go to another therapist, they do not deserve your money again. I would go to another one and claim in Google reviews what they did to you

@@javiermendoza5173 This. Don’t go back to incompetent people who undermine your struggles

Definitely go get a second opinion. One indicator that’s good to look at is whether your working memory IQ is as high as your other IQ subscores. You might score in the high 99th percentile on everything else but have a measly 96th percentile on working memory. That’s super super high. But it’s also super low compared to the rest of your brain function and can be an indicator of giftedness+ADHD

YES! I experience the same thing with hyperfocus. When I am in hyperfocus mode people have to say my name a few times to get me to notice them. I have always thought it was just me being really into what I was doing

That aspect of hyperfocus is also a spectrum though. For me, it's just like really strong focus that I can't control. Everything around me still exists, but I don't get distracted. I can tell if someone is talking to me or if people are moving around me, but it just gets tuned out unless I'm addressed directly (preferably by name), in which case I snap out of it but feel very agitated. I know people who describe it as just an intense urge to stick on the same thing but they can be pulled out of it from external factors, and others that simply shut down everything but the task as you described. Andddd ADHD oversharing lol but yeah, definitely a spectrum

i literally dropped out of college two days ago due to the overload of having a completely different, and unusual schedule to me. it was too much for me to jump into all at once, even with medication. i don't attend any form of coaching, but i might look into it because you just described what i am going through to a T.

@@100MagicChickens ADHD group coaching is even better than one on one. All of it is great. Highly, highly recommend you check out some of the options out there.

I cant tell you how many times people have yelled at me when I couldn't hear them cause I was paying attention to something else. It gets really bad when I'm stressed though. I cant hear SHIT. I can only think about what's stressing me out.

I've been brute forcing since I was in the second grade. That's when the insomnia started. Developed a system of staying up one night reading and sleeping the next. Did this all throughout grade school. Read damn near every book in my schools library. I even read the dictionary and read it 2 more times as an adult. But if I try to think of a good word to use I never can but if I'm talking ahead of myself I often say words I can't define but when checked {love google b4 that it wasn't easy to get validation cuz nobody b carrying a dictionary around..well nobody but me...and how did i know that easy because all the kids always pointed out my differences from others very slanderously ( dont even knoe if thats a word but if it isnt i will ™️ it) totally forgot my point or if i haf one...uhmm dont know how to end this so just gonna do it😊

I resonate with this an unbelievable amount. It's like I wrote it. Great observation.

That's exactly the experience I had going through paramedic school!

Same here, but in IT Support instead of medicine. I've got two big motivators: empathy for helping people solve their problems, and solving novel problems. But like you, I don't ask enough questions... I'm too busy looking for all the clues and investigating all the possibilities.

it’s never too late to work on your mental health

i hope your adhd symptoms become more manageable ❤

Hey mate, I hope you're doing well

i wish you the best of luck, keep truckin on

I wish you a nice and pleasant future

Same, though I crashed and burned in college because I had no idea how to study. Being a woman, they tried to diagnose me with everything but the obvious (I didn't even really question them, then).

I have adhd and autism and I was diagnosed early (thank non existent god)and I have found studying to not help a single but I still get good grades and all that but studying is kinda just a waste of time for me.

exactly the same for me, that part felt like he was describing me... I had high school tests where I didn't attend a single class and got max grade, but when adult life came, things got really tough!

I don't know if I feel better or I cry now that I know I'm not alone. I feel exactly the same things you've mentioned and also experienced same stuff.

Same story here but I hit a wall last year in university, then I was diagnosed and this year I’m doing much better

I also find that there's a delicate tipping point between too little stimulation and too much, especially depending on the complexity or difficulty level of the task in question.

I like waves, certain types of music and shows I'm already familiar with, but the white noise produced by white noise machines is pretty painful for me to listen to. I can't focus if that noise is happening. I can barely exist in the room. Ugh. It's awesome when you can find the 'noise' that works for you.

@@spinthepickle1244 definitely. For me, I have an assortment of specific "focus" songs I turn to, usually 30 minute extensions of choice video game music that I've consistently fallen back on with success. Things like playlists are more iffy for me because the change in music forces my brain to acknowledge and maybe be excited or whatever for the next song, but the same familiar song looping over and over melts seamlessly in my mind within like 5 minutes, making it completely non-distracting while filling the mental space to help me focus (plus the association with This Music = Focus Time also helps). Plus, when I need to take 30 seconds to rest my hands or zone out, then the music is still there for me to appreciate more presently without having to interrupt my groove :)

It used to take me hours to complete my homework when I was a kid because I had to sit at the table alone, in silence. I was so bored I couldn't focus. I asked if I could have music. My wonderful mother was doubtful but allowed it. Since then, I got it done without a problem. Used to do essays to TV shows or instrumental music. Lyrics or new songs can distract me too much. Then there's my chem test in high school. My teacher would play classical music during every test which would normally help a lot. Then a song, which one of my favorites Dance Dance Revolution songs was based on, came on. I couldn't answer a single question during the entity of the song.

@@Phreeque lemme guess, Beethoven Virus?

Sameee here!! But I dropped out 😮‍💨🥶 and tried again and then dropped out

@@copiouscat Don’t lose hope if it’s something you really want. I’m just about to finally finish the degree. 10 years later.

@@what3269 🥹 aw geez Congrats 🫂 sigh i just feel defeated after all the attempts and transfers and failed classes ya know. But thank you for the kind words. I’ll definitely try again

@@copiouscat Oh, I feel you. I felt that way, for a long time. I'm not advocating just bashing your head into the wall some more either. Only go for the degree if it's something you really want. And even then, take the time to be in the right place to try again. Like, figure out what coping strategies work best for you, if medication helps, that's great. For me, getting the diagnosis helped SO much. Medication, knowing what strategies work for me, and tech advancements (notifications on my phone, timers, calendars, etc), it's the only way I've managed.

@@copiouscat I managed to drop out with only 3 classes to go, avoid school for 7 years, then decided to finish my degree. It went a lot better then, but I still didn't want any more. Now, almost 15 years after getting my BA, I'm working on my MS in an entirely different field and loving it. The difference, though, is that now I KNOW I have ADHD, and now I've figured out what coping mechanisms work for me, and I have meds. It makes everything possible now. I'm still occasionally overwhelmed or miss deadlines, but I'm no longer hovering on the edge of a mental breakdown. It IS doable.

“Not living up to your potential” was the bane of my entire existence. I graduated hs with the lowest gpa in my whole graduating class but was also the only one in my school district to get a perfect score on the sat.

The best explanation of this I have ever seen. That's exactly what it feels like!

I tried to describe this to my psychiatrist, and he decided it was just "lack of motivation". 😠

i do this, i'm 99% sure i don't have ADHD just a bunch of issues that mimic neurodivergences a lot. you put it into words perfectly!!

YES

That describes all my homework, university assignments, and freelance work at the same time. Also shaving and putting away 2 months old mail.

Me listening to airplane noises on KZfaq thinking it is a cure somehow and then realising that's a dream lol since everyone is different, but I can only keep on dreaming

@@nope4309 You'll find your cure too, one day. Keep looking, keep trying. You owe it to yourself to search for your personal cure.

You are SO right about the emotional part-even if you don't know you're ADHD. I wasn't diagnosed until my late 30s, and while the label helped explain WHY I struggled so much, it's been the actual seeking & receiving of treatment that has been helping me reframe my thoughts, regulate my emotions & rebuild my esteem. I'm so grateful to live in a time that this is finally being talked about-w/out shame & am able to use others' stories to help myself & my kiddo, who's also ADHD.

1 month of work done in 11h. Tell me you go to american school without telling me

I feel like not having much else to do makes it easier to get the school work done. I’m currently in college and working and I have such a hard time doing the online work at home but if I take my computer to work with me and do it on my lunch break then it is easy to get a lot done

For me, usually: Time blindness + procrastination -> overanalyzing -> time passes -> overwhelmed -> paralysis

@@Mary1337 That's the EXACT same cycle I get stuck in.

THIS, SO MUCH THIS

Yes, I can't gage time. I don't know how long something will take. I'm either early or late. I feel paralyzed like I can't do anything because I will miss the event or meeting.

And as more time passes I become increasingly less likely to start/achieve that task. starting things is the most difficult thing for me, literally starting anything! So I definitely agree with you here.

This reassures me, that I still might have ADHD, even though I just about don't pass as ADHD according to all the self tests I've done. Things like: "Are you on time?" Yes. Actually more like 5min early. Because I panic about being late and plan everything to death, check the time several times and plan to leave the house 10min before I have to so I'm actually out of the door on time and I usually have a Plan B should I miss the bus anyway... "Do you buy things impulsively?" No. But I grab a lot of things impulsively that I want to buy. I think I usually don't end up buying them because I grew up in a household where one of the biggest sources of conflict was buying things we don't need. So being very hesitant to buy something is now deeply ingrained in my brain. (The list goes on...)

Yes, I was very glad that my psychiatrist put my answers into perspective with already adopted strategies and/or masking. I almost never miss appointments, but that is because I put every little thing in my google calendar and have a widget on my home screen and basically check it a hundred times every day. So he said: ok, you found an actual strategy that works for you, but if you wouldn't do that? If it's not in my calendar it is not happening. The same goes for things like wandering around/fidgeting. I wouldn't do that excessively but only because my anxiety to be perceived as weird and rude is more severe than the urge to this. I really think it should be considered how hard it is to function and if there are already coping strategies in place.

At work I have a schedule to follow all day and alarms to keep me on track. I have a set time to do everything so it's not that bad. Things like my glasses, keys, employee badge, and phone generally have a set place to be when I get home, so few problems there. However, I do occasionally forget one of those important items somewhere in my rush to get to work. The times I've gone to work without my phone or glasses are frankly embarrassing. And finishing my housework and personal errands is nigh impossible.

My psychotherapist told me I'm a hypochondriac for wanting to test for adhd so yeah...most people that work in the field aren't good enough to work with us yet here they are, with their bought diplomas or whatever.

@@skeletoninyourbody9896 Sounds like you need a different psychiatrist. Doctors are less people and more a product you buy(in terms of what they should mean to you) . If you're dissatisfied with the product go get different product. I've not heard of many doctors refusing to do a noninvasive test because of hypochondriac tendencies so... Get a different doctor.

Yes. This is me.

I hit this wall in my 30's. I've been struggling with mental adequacy for 5+ years now. Your comment about only having relief whenever a task is accomplished is a daily struggle for me and a massive reason for my lack of motivation.

I slept through my A school in the Navy but i always had the answers. Finished the class 7th 🤷🏾‍♂️

Ouch

@@deanag8457but what good does that do us. All I ever did was pass tests but the point of school was to get us used to being a mindless drone who values obedience and repetition which is hell for us.

I'm very interested in hearing about your experience, this 'brute force' was something that I have always done. For the whole time that I was studying, I was in this 'brute force' mode where I only felt relieved after I graduated college just a few months ago. I'm 22yo right now and currently working as a programmer, I would like to know more about the 'wall' that I would probably face someday. Is it a state where you can't feel yourself growing anymore? Or is it something like gaining knowledge becomes significantly harder?

@@cosmicHatdog For me it wasn't really a sudden stop but more like getting stuck in mud. At the age of 16 I started to get more and more tired. By the age of 18 I got (wrongly) diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I eventually got my Bachelors degree, but also got carried by the IQ instead of putting in the work. For me working on a project for longer than 2 - 3 weeks is very hard. After 1 week I am already looking for a new challenge. Gaining knowledge or learning something new isn't necessarily significantly harder. But working regularly and "normal" hours (40hr/wk) is impossible for me. Having 2 kids doesn't help ;), but for me they take priority over anything work related.

@@cosmicHatdog for me, the wall I hit _was_ college. I did fine in high school with the extra-ram-brute-forcing; a lot of my high school strategy was "forget to do all your homework but ace all the tests/projects", and since I was a big reader outside of school I just kind of osmosed a lot of general knowledge from reading constantly. But when I got to college, suddenly I _didn't_ already know most of what I needed to know to pass my classes, and because I'd coasted all the way through my education up til then, I had _zero_ studying skills developed. I was utterly incapable of handling a full-time course load and kept having to drop down to 3 classes, 1 of which I would inevitably fail or just barely pass because it fell to the bottom of my priority list. I couldn't manage my deadlines, couldn't prioritize my work properly, and worst of all, I couldn't bank on my high school strategies anymore because acing tests wouldn't make up for points lost on homework. It took me 6 years to earn a 2-year degree and I changed my major about 3 separate times before I finally settled on math. (The one thing I was actually interested enough in to feel like doing the homework was a fun challenge instead of a boring chore. It probably helped that math doesn't require reading, you're supposed to get it all out of the lecture since math textbooks just universally suck at explaining things.) A few years later, after failing miserably to hold a stable job for any appreciable amount of time, I ended up with an ADHD diagnosis and an Adderall prescription, went back to college and managed to complete a 2-semester accounting certificate program _in the allotted 2 semesters,_ and got myself a stable job in accounting. The difference was night and day. I was able to schedule out my course-work, plan around deadlines, focus on my readings, take effective notes, etc etc. It was _wild_ how much easier it was for me this time around. But even then I still had this problem where I'd get about 6 weeks into a semester and my brain would go "Okay, we're done now! Time to move on to something new!" But there were....10 weeks left in the course.... This remains the biggest struggle I have with any kind of formal schooling, my brain just checks out after a few weeks and then I have to drag it through the rest of the semester kicking and screaming. At work, there's a noticeable difference in how well I can function on meds vs off meds (I've had to work without them for long stretches of time periodically due to insurance nonsense or healthcare red-tape). Without them, it's much harder for me to get work done without getting distracted constantly, my productivity takes a huge hit, and a lot of tasks end up being forgotten or pushed off til "later" (which means I forgot about it and then remembered several days later that it still hadn't been done yet). I also use so much more mental energy to get through the work day that I am just, absolutely friend when I get home and I can't do anything more involved than staring vacantly at the TV until bedtime. I have enough coping strategies now to be relatively functional at work without meds, with a lot of reliance on to-do lists and having a routine, but I can tell that there's absolutely no way pre-diagnosis me would've been able to function effectively at the jobs I've had since then. So for me, to answer this question about what The Wall is like: > "Is it a state where you can't feel yourself growing anymore? Or is it something like gaining knowledge becomes significantly harder?" It's nothing like that at all. Calling it a wall can be a bit misleading actually, because it's more like a breaking point. To use the RAM analogy, it's like you suddenly have so many files dumped on you at the same time that _no_ amount of additional RAM can allow you to keep them all open at once and the system just crashes. Or like, you've been marching along carrying a heavy backpack that kept getting more and more weight added to it but you just kept building up stronger and stronger muscles to handle carrying it, and then suddenly someone asks you to move this anvil and you collapse under the weight of it. Nobody around you can understand why it's so hard for you to move the anvil because _they_ all managed it just fine when it got dumped on them, and that's when you find out that they've all been using a dolly this entire time while you were continuing to carry all the weight on your back. If you managed to graduate without hitting your wall, then you might never hit it. Most likely you'd hit it if you went back for post-graduate schooling, or you might hit it if you get promoted or end up taking on a heavier workload than you're currently managing. If it happens at work, it'll probably feel like you're constantly overwhelmed, always behind on your work, can't catch up or stay caught-up for longer than a couple days at a time, and you'll start to feel burnt out very quickly.

@@TheGuindo What are your "dollies" so to speak?

@@TheGuindo What you describe is exactly what happened to me in college. 10 years took me to complete a 4-year degree. I was unable of paying attention in class during school and highschool, my mind constantly shifting from one thought to another, but I always got great grades because almost everything was perfectly explained in the books that I could always read later. That way of getting through your studies suddenly doesn't work anymore when you're in college, so I was in trouble. I'm not diagnosed with ADHD yet but reading things like this makes me think I should really get tested by a professional. Up until now I just thought I had to work harder, but you know, 10 years to get a degree makes me think there's has to be something more

100%, me cramming for tests and not retaining the knowledge bc ‘I got through the test’ wish I knew about adhd in school instead of at 25 after it’s all done lol

@@marshadirocca2550 Reminds me a lot of especially my university exams. People will ask me which questions I was asked or what I answered, but I can't even remember it almost already 10 minutes after the exam. As well as I quickly forget most of the topics I studied for.

I understand your experience.. Being diagnosed late in life was the best thing that happened to me because I understand so much of my past experiences now.

I'm exactly you. wtf. I remember how I could zone out and when I got called on or need to write something down like a due date, I could "play back" the audio I heard in the classroom to maybe hear the last 10 words or so of the teacher. Ofc if the class was too loud and I wouldn't have heard them anyway, the "play back" feature didn't work.

THIS!! omg I never thought I've ever know someone that feels this too

I’m so upset for you! You know yourself better than anyone. It doesn’t have to be physically hyper, especially in women. The internalized thought patterns are as hyper as the physicality of a boy acting out

I broke my brain, too. This got me emotional, too. I understand.

i completely understand you. Even still, I attribute these things to "laziness". It's not easy.

Same with the first time I found out I have adhd. Cried for a week and meds really helped a lot.

Every time I read these experiences it's like looking in the mirror. We're not alone in this.

@@Orioncopes Was it a liberating cry of finally having an explanation or was it of sadness that you have adhd?

This! My productivity levels in coffee shops is at its highest. Never really known why, but the visual stimulus makes sense. I thought it was a social thing, feeling part of a crowd.

Different, not broken 🤘🏼❤️

This sorta resonates with me because I'm a psychology student and have just recently realised I have a high chance of having ADHD by casually solving a screening test with my friends after a lecture. I'm looking into getting a professional opinion/diagnosis soon, hopefully.

As a college student that possibly has ADHD(tho definitely some problem with focus and memory. my therapist and I think it's ADHD, but I'm trying to get a psychiatrist so i can get some formal diagnosis), i have been trying to find the sweet spot of "enough people are around me that I'll feel bad if someone sees me doing something not productive" but without the "oo what's that? what are those people talking about? the lighting in here is kinda weird. I'm suddenly very aware of this chair I'm sitting in and i don't like it." And then it's been an hour and i haven't read a single line of my textbook. I'm gonna try Starbucks again today bc, while i don't like coffee(i get chai lattes, they're fine), boba places are way too bright and loud, and hopefully using brown noise will help lol

​@@cartoondeathnoises8756 Omg I had the same thought. I thought I was a pressuring myself to be productive because I'm hogging a seat at a public space. I can't work in the office unless I play some music in my earbuds to mute my surroundings. Otherwise, I would either read the same paragraph over and over again cause I keep overhearing other people's conversations, or give my 2 cents in a conversation that I wasn't invited to (got a warning for this). My office is doing hotdesking and I have to pick my seat carefully because I dislike it when the lights shine into my eyes, when the sun is too bright and my screen becomes too dark during the day, when it's too windy when it rains because I can feel the wind on my skin and it's distracting, when there is a coworker that joins online meetings from their seats, and a few more that I can't remember. I'm supposed to be working now, but I just spent 30 minutes typing a youtube comment. I usually play kpop since I don't understand the language and there are so many things that are happening at once.

I feel so called out by that part. I made it through nursing school, but working night shift in a quiet environment with low stimulation, and I started losing my mind. I wasn't diagnosed yet, so I didn't know to ask for accommodation and my attempts to adapt got me in trouble. 😵‍💫

I am also bruteforcing now but have a lot of these symptoms without being diagnosed yet

Should I get a real diagnosis? Am not sure what the benefits of it are?

I mean, I never studied once in highschool and had to drop out of college because I couldn't do assignments. I'm not sure people who brute force through school and get degrees are on my level of disorder. Maybe I have something else 🥲

@@kech267 the main benefits I see to getting diagnosed are 1) getting treatment/medication and 2) being allowed accommodations at work/school. Had I gotten diagnosed before I got fired from my last job, I could have either gotten some accommodations or sued them for discrimination. And much to my surprise, medication turned the volume of the noise in my head way down.

mabe you could do little reframing - even if some things come eazy to you motyvation does not comes to you as eazly as others - at least for now- so be proud of every inch of efort youve put in something even tho it costed you much more than others ... but also i dont recommend suferring in a jobs you hate:/

I have a very similar issue. I was able to hold jobs down because of low self worth related to trauma, and after working that all out, now I can’t hold down a job because they keep making me depressed. And my therapist just seems disappointed in me when I say I quit something again. Like, help me instead??? The hospitality industry is toxic af and I don’t know what to do about work cause that’s all I know. I’ve worked as a graphic designer for a while but I still struggle with that even though I enjoyed it, and I admit I’m scared to put myself and my work out there as I’m afraid I won’t be reliable enough to properly commit.

This.

Fucking this, literally what i always have feel. I was quite literally going insane in school, totally bruteforce it. Now im in college, i've managed not to fail any subjects just by ram power, I don't study for shit (or 1 day before my tests and exams) and I always forget the dates of the tests. I just now have a booking with a psychiatrist (in 2 months) and I hope it will be good.

Try construction work Something like plumbing or electricity. With me it helped me a lot. Everyday on different jobs motivates me idk try it if you don't know what you want. You can make good money 2

Omg I'm going through the exact same thing... I'm self diagnosing so hard 😭 I fear meeting with a psychiatrist and telling him all my miss interpreted behaviors.

Why is all of you saying exactly what I'm thinking and feeling this is getting creepy yall lol

Here’s the thing: adhd struggles are things everyone struggles with once in a while. It’s ok to have these occasional struggles, it doesn’t mean you have ADHD. However, those who really do have ADHD struggle with these things on a constant and daily basis, to the point it affects their daily life and ability to function “normally”. Speaking as someone who was diagnosed with both ADHD and ASD only after becoming an adult because I was able to cope and mask so well growing up but once adulthood hit, it became so much more apparent that I was struggling… sometimes seeking a therapist or psychologist to discuss these things or seek an evaluation can be good even just to put your mind at ease.

Your confirmation bias does not necessarily create a false diagnoses. I hear this so much from women - that they think they need to self-diagnose to be sure they know exactly what is "wrong" before seeking treatment so they don't "embarras" themselves. First, you don't have to go to a professional with a potential list of conditions to justify being evaluated. All you have to say is "I'm struggling and I need help" and let them evaluate from there. Go to more than one if you want to be sure. A lot of conditions have overlapping symptoms. Sometimes focus and energy issues can stem from hormonal and nutrition issues and sometimes cognitive conditions. My best advice is to STOP watching TikTok, KZfaq, etc to self diagnose (there's so much bad, inaccurate and misleading content on social media). FUN FACT: it's very common that many people with ADHD have one or two other diagnosed conditions as well, and those conditions can have overlapping symptoms, and not every professional is well trained in identifying and treating ADHD, especially for women. So, stop spinning and finding reasons to be scared of something that hasn't even happened yet, and go talk to a few professionals about struggling in general. You don't need to justify a visit with anything more than that!

Yep, this leads to so much self doubt

Were you prescribed anything?

Thanks... Reading this made me kinda happy. I was the same "gifted" till high school and a part of uni and then I was "irresponsible" and lazy, and "had so much potential, only if I tried harder"... Now I'm 26 and just got diagnosed with last month. I hope things work out for me as well.

@@shivam_k09 I bet you will do great!

Вы меня вдохновили своим комментарием. Мне 34 года и я только учусь жить с ADHD.

I had a similar experience. People always told me I was smart but I always felt like I was winging it through school (reality was, I was using the last minute stress to cram as much knowledge as possible before tests). It wasn't till I was 26 did I actually get diagnosed with adhd after about 7 years of different mood disorder diagnosis. Now, 4 years later and with a lot of learning about the condition, I'm able to live a more normal life and not treat myself poorly when I struggle. Not to mention I've went from 3 different medication to 1 so a bit healthier too.

I Hope you’re adjusting well to this newfound knowledge, a month on

Hang in there. Am 32 and just recently suspected I had ADHD after being in a what's wrong with me mode for months. I had started therapy for anxiety and depression and because I just wasn't working on my thesis. Cane across a bunch of ADHD content and it was all so relatable. I did a bunch of online tests because I didn't want to come across as wanting a diagnosis to use as an excuse (did the same for anxiety and depression before telling my family I need professional help). My psychologist did a preliminary screening today. And this is making me cry too because this feels like it's about me.

Good for you but I have a question,, did you have or feel agrphobia or something like you don’t want to go outside your house especially at afternoon ?

@@Unknown-wl7vl this is not for me, but not wanting to go out in the afternoon might just be natural instinct. It's when it's the hottest. Literally nothing is out in the summer afternoons, be it people or animals. And in most cultures people sleep at that time.

​@@simransimran9339I am in the same situation you were in and I'm considering asking my psychologist if she thinks I should get tested, but I at the same time it feels like I'm being dramatic 😕

Oh my god it's been the same thing for me, even the burnouts years later

I'm 38 too, with the same suspicion and same burn out. I'm interested to see where you go from here.

Wow, I was the shy kid too. Not because I was actually shy, but because that distinction served as an excuse to my inattentiveness.

Studies are beginning to come out that women often go undiagnosed as children. So now we're seeing women getting their diagnosis in their late 30s-40s.

I'm 32, male, just got diagnosed. Was a straight A student in high school but procrastinated and brute forced every assignment at the last minute. Also was a major night owl when I discovered video games, so I was getting like 3 or 4 hrs sleep most nights... I masked my inattention in class as tiredness, often falling asleep then answering questions correctly when I got woken up. Only made it through college by finding study buddies who held me accountable to meet up, and now adult engineering jobs have been a massive rollercoaster since I never learned the time management and prioritization skills earlier in life / my brain fights me constantly when I try to learn now. This episode hit home so hard.

And omg just reading through all of the comments on this video is the most validated I’ve ever felt in my entire existence. It does sometimes feel really fuckn hard to make the bed! How amazing it must feel to actually feel accomplished when I achieve tasks - instead of just ever so slight relief, and then anxiety about the next thing.

same same same same,,,

So what is the solution for the RAM problem?

@Samuel Kerl God, I wish I knew. For me, the answer to increasing the amount I could save was medication. However, I am still trying to put a ridiculous amount of RAM into a computer that is running windows 98.

@@artishking I'm running vista, it's pretty creative but doesn't work when u need it to.

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Same for me! I was just diagnosed at 33, and it has been an eye opening journey, to understand why I am how I am

Yes this was 100% totally me! Most of the teachers thought I was super smart and good at school work but either lazy or needed to apply myself more. The better teachers noted I was often distracted and distracting others lol and very talkative 😅 but a lot of them, especially by 3rd grade teacher, they thought it was disappointing to see how my grades had gone down a little due to lack of attention and needing to focus more and that I was quite capable. As if I had no excuse for my behaviour. And I also needed to listen better in class and follow instructions. But for other teachers especially where I was interested in the topic would just say that I was easily distracted but super bright, really quick at learning and will go far, but I need to focus a little better. Lol. Btw are a guy or girl? I have read that the smart part is the reason why somepeople are missed out on being diagnosed as a kid. But I've also read that it was primarily focused on hyperactivity part of ADHD and mostly boys were recognised with ADHD more than girls in the classroom because girls were able to hide it better, because people weren't as aware of the inattention part of the disorder, so that's why there's more women now being diagnosed later on in life. I'm 36 and have only just been diagnosed. I was very much the same as going through school pretty easily, had no issues until got to my school certificate and then the high school certificate and I couldn't just work my way through questions, I had to actually remember the stuff, and have paid attention. I was so great at science and maths in year 7 and 8. Changed schools, maths became harder, much harder lol. And I couldn't pay attention or quite get it as much anymore. I studied so much for the maths test in year 10 for the school certificate and only just came back with 70 out of 100. Buuuut the other topics that I was more interested in, I studied less for and got a bit higher. Luckily the next year maths wasn't compulsory so I was like well that's out the window, and chose subjects I was better at, ie enjoyed more. Still managed to get into uni really lucky through an art program via an interview lol. And now I work in IT. Lol. Completely different to that! XD Anyhow yeah I think it was both the fact that girls were less diagnosed or looked at back when I was a kid, and also because no one noticed how much I really struggled... And even if I did try to explain stuff to people as to why I wasn't quite getting something, I was seen as lazy or quite capable and not applying myself. Fun. Lol. I am lucky though in that my parents eased off their expectations of me by the time I went to Uni. I think because of the maths thing and I showed how much I did "apply" myself and it still didn't stick lol. That they were happy for me to find what I was good at and go from there. But still struggled through Uni and entering the work place because of ADHD and so on

@@CaioKaos congrats on that journey! I'm trying to encourage a few friends to go get see a Psych for diagnosis. They think they may have ADHD and are not sure, so I said best to go and find out to be sure, especially if they find they struggle with certain things that ADHD people struggle with and it affects them.

I don't recall ever studying....prided myself on the fact that I didn't....I still got 3.8GPA in high school. I remember sleeping a lot in class.

Very insightful

Same, I find talking out loud, describing what I’m doing right now really helps me!

glad to know im not the only one that does this. i always thought itd make me seem insane if someone noticed me doing it as often as i do

@@IV31677 we might not be "normal", but how boring the world would be if everyone was lol

i found out it works too , talking to myself , giving myself steps to do each time to not zone out or just do nothing , sometimes just saying what i am doing works too

Same. Self-conversing is one way for me to focus in the midst of sea of stimulation. I even do that in public, because why not 🤷

Same, that noise actually just gave me a headache. The sound was to long on the same frequnce for my likeing and I hated every second of it. It did gaveme relief, after it was done and it was quite.

Cars going by, lawnmowers, other loud distracting things. It's almost like there is always something being loud nearby.

@@dampintellect which can kill any productive moment I've had. It's just the worse 😕

@@jackbordar2727 oh same. I kept skipping ahead until i saw the time signature lol

Im wondering if that is because of the wind too?

if you can- go to a psychology/psychiatry place that specializes in adhd with specific examples. I legit was also brute forcing my way through life till i went somewhere like that, and got diagnosed

Wait until you no longer have the forced structure... I did great in college because I had short classes that I was able to hyperfocus on, now I do not have the structure and for years it just keeps getting worse. I've been trying to get in to a doctor to get a diagnosis and some help finding my structure again

Ok so, I found university MUCH easier than school. Weird right? No, because the environment happened to be optimal for me to hyperfocus. The environment at school left me disassociating all the time. It had nothing to do with the difficulty level of what I was doing. I got low-mid grades at school, and near top marks at uni. It wasn't easy, but easier. I still had to work my ass off. The point is that environment makes a huge different to functioning, and just because they perceive it as 'just fine' now, doesn't mean it will be that way in a workplace environment.

@LaurArt_UK lol complete opposite for me - multi-step chem material specifically killed me. i kept completely blanking on what i was doing legit in the middle of writing steps, prompting re-starting from scratch ever 5 min.

@@ADHD-Dogs-Art-And-More The freaking lack of structure... I did great in school. Started to struggle in uni since it became more dependent on me figuring out my schedules, but it was still manageable like, half the time. Now I'm trying to do PhD studies and *everything* is in my hands now, no one is giving me any kind of structure to lean on, and I am *plummeting* I hate this ;__;

It’s like playing a setup in a game that used to be meta, but left the meta literally thousands of years ago because of the Neolithic Revolution update

It’s like playing a setup in a game that used to be meta, but left the meta literally thousands of years ago because of the Neolithic Revolution update

he said the opposite of "most people"

@@eetein9704 Yes, but it's also misinformation that is, in my case. Believed by the Doctor in question. Not the content creator themselves. If they held this view, I would be understandably upset with *him* though.

@@trixxyvkitsune4347 even if they did say “most people” that doesn’t mean “all people” and you could be one of those that it doesn’t apply to.

I never grew out of it, it’s just easier to deal with.

In my country even those with normal iq don't get diagnosed and we have over a billion in population, i learnt ADHD exist only when i was 19 years

I was there as well. Through lists and calendars I was able to make an external hard drive of sorts that let me focus on just the very next thing instead of the entire list at once, knowing my phone would remind me when it is time to do that important thing that I mustn't forget. It can get better.

(The segment starts at 19:50, for anyone wanting to jump to it directly)

I am the same, until college I was able to expand my ram and even passed the CPA exam but years later, I hit a wall. I could not process any new updates on accounting rules that I need for work. I realized I did not learn as much in college, I just went through it using logic and stuff. Now I've decided to change careers but still stuck to where..

Without any intention to be hostile, but he had kids with an IQ in the ballpark of 140 in mind (130 is roughly a PR of 99%, 140 is 99.5% or higher, obv depending where you live). This isn't being "intelligent", the top 1% of wealthy americans for example have a net worth of 11.1million+ or make about 800k+ a year (as a comparisson to being "well off"). If you pair an exceptional cognitive ability with the disability of being able to channel it or better said sometimes without the ability to control it and you add some extra bs to that it is an actual recepie for disaster. Just on a sidenote regarding drugs: addiction in ADD/ADHD is extremely common going as far that it can be an important cornerstone for diagnosis. Smoking is extremely overrepresented in that group and the chances of quitting are extremely small (well, nicotine stimulates dopamine release so I guess that's an obv one, but so does cocaine as well...)

I lost my job because of this misunderstanding. I feel you🥰

I think it's even useful because if someone self diagnoses, even if they don't seek out professional treatment or medication, they still might benefit from one or two simple life adjustments or tips that are harmless to know and could genuinely help them even if they're not 100% right about the self diagnosis. I think by and large people who look into this stuff are people who need help, and everyone needs different levels of it, and if the worst consequence is that someone was helped who wasn't technically a 100% match to some DSM 5 criteria but their life is still better? That's a net good.

@@leality_is_here Yeah, I have been clinically diagnosed with ADHD, and really, the only parts of my treatment that doesn't really apply to the general population was medication. My cognitive behavioral therapy, more specifically, the skills that I learned from CBT are skills that anybody could use to improve their own life, granted my CBT was less ADHD focuesed. I only hope that the methdos they use to "treat" themselves outside of professional help is not harmful, because theres a lot of bad information out there.

Agreed. I also think that people fixating on whether someone actually has a disorder is far more harmful than the people supposedly "faking it."

@@ShazyShaze yeah, I agree. While I get why there's a concern of people potentially developing unhealthy habits for them if they don't actually have ADHD, I think relying on an adage of having to prove you have it sends a worse message of like: you're not allowed to need help. Like Dr. K was saying, you're going to miss the kids or adults who just figure out how to deal. Because being told you shouldn't need help eventually makes you feel like unless you're (x) thing, you don't *deserve* help. And any person should have a right to ask for help, even if they don't need as much of it as someone else does. A broken arm matters and so does three broken fingers. We shouldn't get to determine how much more important or worthy one person's suffering is over another.

@@coopj70 The medication is the issue, though, because the self-diagnosis *and* access to the internet can lead people to attempt (and even succeed) to obtain medication that isn't appropriate for them (but they've decided it is, because they've bypassed an actual trained an dcertified professional), and exposes them to the side effects, while providing no benefit.

oh damn this is something but i am not quiwt sure what it is

Same thing with me

That's called being rude.

@@okieoiogh8235 Captain obvious over here with a hot take. Of course it can be rude. But that doesn't mean it's intentional. It's why I take steps to not let my ADHD interfere in these types of interactions.

@@CarlHancock I feel like prioritizing communication when someone is directly in your face is more of an upbringing thing and not ADHD.

100% I currently have been listening to the Hamilton soundtrack often at work when I need to focus on one task for a bit.

I really like songs with a lot of electric guitar, but listening to songs I know too well like classic rock or lyrics in general often distract me from boring tasks, or the actual melody is basic and boring. I ended up finding Instrumental Progressive Metal which generally has no lyrics, and a high tempo, high energy composition that helps me really get into the work mindset. I'll bounce between that and lo-fi depending on my energy levels but might be worth trying instrumental genre's if after a while your current one stops working

I use music to keep myself stimulated enough to work properly or do my chores, and the type of music depends on my mood. Sometimes it's too much with everything going on, but it's so helpful!!

I tune out after a few seconds, then have to scramble to figure out what they were just talking about. This is seconds after asking them a question that I need an answer to, too.

😂😂 that sounds like me 🤯🤯

That’s me, too! I didn’t even realize I was walking off mid conversation until someone confronted me about how rude I was. Luckily, a dear friend explained to them that I’m just like that and I wasn’t trying to be an asshole. I have no idea how many other times I did that 😅

Thank you for this comment!! You don't know how much it reasonates with my current experience

I feel you so much man! Im 17 and about to graduate.Throughout my time is school, guilt played a huge part in my day to day life. I felt like a loser cause I couldnt get my self to do anything school related as soon as I was home and the only reason Im still good in school is because of my intellect. Its awful being good, but never being able to reach your full potential cause youre "lazy". I wouldnt be me without ADHD, but it takes a heavy toll on me sometimes

Heyo, just described what I went through 9 years ago, well done figuring this out sooner rather than later (perceptive, right?). Two cents, glad you count your blessings as you didn't go through your 20's figuring this out in your 30's (or even later). It's hard to say ADHD when you're not 'bouncing off the walls' like you typically hear people describe it. So it is tough, in my opinion, to find help and be diagnosed early on with ADD. To be honest, the silver lining in being diagnosed after my teen years would be knowing the difference between my emotions vs emotions on medication (sometimes made me feel a little isolated). Over all, much happier because I feel more like myself and a sense that I have a fighting chance with new tools. Personally, meds are not magic drugs that make you do your work for you or make you want to study harder, they only HELP you focus on what you want to focus on. I could just as easily focus on games or KZfaq comments rather than studying (case in point). I am in my fourth year of getting my phD, dyslexia included, so what I want to say is - fight on, really glad you posted this for others to read!

This was me too. I managed somehow to finish university but I had so many moments like with my final project wherever was staying up all night to get it done after having had paralysis for weeks. I’m in my early 30s and starting to think marine I have adhd because I’m noticing more of the difficulties I’m dealing with and why it’s probably happening. I figured since I got a degree and did “fine” that I was just lazy with no work ethic.

something fun to known is that add doesnt actually exist its just adhd. ADD was used before for people like myself who have adhd but arent hyperactive but later studies shows that people with adhd have diffrent periods where they experience diffrent types of adhd. Or i might just be that u were tired or something like it while getting diagnosed but the basic stay. Just a fun thought because i was also diagnosed with add and I just recently found it the term doesnt exist anymore

I’d say I was very similar. Especially with the tests, but even with the assignments in uni. I could hyper focus on each one and then move on the the next. But I can’t function in the “real” world haha 😂

I got stuck with tutoring job, because it's the very system that I got used to: focusing on the exam 🤦

So true - Never realized that

Exactly! I got to college and flunked most of my classes because I could not write essays for the life of me. I got so anxious whenever I tried to sit down and write one that I would end up crying. But I excelled in classes that weren't essay based (like, thankfully, my psychology courses).

Technology has been great for my adhd, if I need to get anything done like you I play podcasts etc. And have it as my background stim while I work.

Doodling during class helped alot with paying attention sometimes. As weird as that sounds.

The Samsung Note series was the best tool I got to merge that. Doodle and work on the same device, erase the doodles when they get in the way.

Thanks for the tip. I’ll try to remember I can do that next time I try to get something done😅

thats awesome, happy birthday!

Can you tell us how you did it please?

Yep. I would not do it, for a long time, but when I finally start, if I have to stop it's probably not getting finished later. And either way it'll be not very good because it's so boring my brain is a mess and I couldn't get myself to go back to it to proofread.

I have NEVER been able to understand how people can break up tasks. And it got worse after my TBI 10 years ago. When I start breaking up tasks, I get distracted with the task of...breaking up tasks. I could have been finished with whatever it was by that time

For those asking how I learned how to break stuff down into chunks: I've been listening to a podcast called the Perfectionism Project for years. The host has a technique she calls "power planning" that has worked super well for me. She's better at explaining it and has tonssss of episodes, so if you're interested, go check out the podcast 😊

Same!

Yesss I felt that way in my classes, too; hanging around a bustling room to tune out while working has always been really nice for me. xD! Other times I use music to get this effect; loud or repetitive music to just help me tune out and start floating, focusing on whatever I wanted to do.

We had multiple on-campus cafés that I used to love going to to do homework/study. Not only was the auditory stimulation just perfect but also everyone _else_ was studying, so it gave me that external social pressure for me to study too.

@@taylorbritt499 Body doubling I think is what that phenomenon is called - when you have someone else with you also doing a thing helps you stay on task, too? I think? idk if they had to be doing the same thing, or just have someone there in general.

Yeah, when he mentioned how in adulthood people with ADHD start to fall apart it made me cry. All my life I've been great at school without even trying, once I started university everything just crumbled around me and all my systems stopped working.

Yeup. Just realized i have adhd. Went my whole life just thinking I was dumb

Me reading your comment while watching this

I cannot watch a whole video without reading a few comments…even when i know its distracting me, i still do it😂

turns out adults like amphetamines too

You’re just rephrasing a relatively new but already common sentiment.

@@sumbigdumkunt okay

@@bouclechocolat it’s like rolling into a video about water and saying “if I may mention, I tend to believe that water is wet”

hah, gotta love "extreme male brain" woo popping up yet again, that definitely wasn't dumb and harmful to fair diagnostic criteria the first time around.

I'm wondering where I can learn these skills myself. Was that a part of therapy or was it a class or workshop? Or did you maybe just learn on your own?

Part of therapy and there was a book which was a specific Executive Skills Training workbook. Can’t remember the title though

I'm in med school and my extra ram truly is running out 😭 I'm check it out!

@@taki1255 Hang in there! It really does get better (after intern year especially). Just avoid toxic residency programs like the plague.

@@JamesDecker7 Thank you 🙏🏾❤️

omg :O same here, but still strugle to go to a psychiatris :x so still stuck at just functioning, bu not living

I managed to get through two bachelor's degrees without really studying, no idea how but I started to hit the wall on my second degree.

It was also 11th grade for me (or the Dutch equivalent). Luckily for me, repeating a year isn’t as looked down upon here (since we have a levels system in high school), so I just repeated the year, barely made it to my last year, and aced my exams and graduated with pretty good grades without really studying lol. I started treating classes as though they were optional my last year yet apparently that worked better for me🤷‍♀️

Doing chores and cleaning the room really seems like a great option of regulation.

I haven't been diagnosed yet but I feel I fit the inattentive type the most. As a guy got looked over in school because I wasn't causing problems but got the whole you are obsessed with history class, why can't you put that energy into math and science? But yeah I can sit there for hours and paint DnD minis or work on model railroad stuff for hours on end when I should be cutting my overgrown yard and dealing with the mountain of stinking dishes in my sink. Then I get pissed when I can't cook b/c of my messy kitchen and clean for 8 hours getting half the dishes done but my laundry is done and my car is spotless.

i went to a psychologist because i thought i had adhd and she told me i didnt bc otherwise i would've been running around the room😐

“Special interests” lol. I have closets full of equipment for so many hobbies that I dove into fully funded mastered and then completely forgot they existed……

I feel like this is relatable. Meditating helps me with this. Someone described it as "letting the dust settle" Blessings

Oh my goblins I have octopus arm brain, thank you! 😂 Getting all of me on one thing now is tough. 20 mins to 2 hours is my cap and depends on the wind velocity and if the wolf cried to the blue corn moon. Then after the Rona I just broke mentally like nothing before. I've gladly gotten better but still have a long way to go.

I've always been fascinated with octopuses, and I guess now I know why. It's not just their intelligence, but it's exactly how our ADHD brains work. It's such a perfect analogy. Now, to make it a tattoo.

If you denying the diagnosis then what made for go for diagnosis in the first place

@@cbazxy2697 reassurance? Idk man I get them because I’m in about the same place as them with school and getting As and Bs with little to no studying when I was still in school, it’s just that I never got a diagnosis. (Even tho my bf has been telling me for years he’s 90% sure I probably have adhd or sth along that line) Maybe they sought out a diagnosis because they wanted to reassure themselves that being lazy and procrastinating is their fault and not because there’s something “wrong” with them.

I got myself one of those small filofax things that's small enough to keep on me all the time that I can keep a running list in. Kind if like a basic bullet journal method. Really helps to just brain dump everything on paper so that I can see it all at once and keep in one place so I won't get overwhelmed. If it's on my phone it might as well not exist 😅 maybe try out different ways to see what works? Won't fix the whole problem but every little bit helps

I feel that so hard... And then I'll proceed to forget what I wrote or still not know what to prioritize...

Man, I almost teared up reading this cuz I've dealt with this my whole working life (I had enough coping skills to get through school). I was a teacher for 4 yrs and seeing how everyone else could task manage so smoothly made me feel like absolute shit cuz I couldn't keep up. I just started therapy this month and finally was told, "You definitely fit the criteria for ADHD, so no wonder you were struggling".

I have run out of space on my 2 monitors for sticky notes so I have additional ones on my desk and windows desktop and I ask coworkers questions in Microsoft teams so that I can Google the answer in teams later if I feel like I've already asked the question. This is not limited to the adhd experience

@@brittanyarrington3971 That's great that you got a diagnosis! I got diagnosed with inattentive ADHD earlier this year - meds have helped, but I still need to do a lot of work on my side