How to Get Motivated and Stay Motivated

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Knowing how to get motivated is really important.
How to stay motivated is even more important.
There are tons of videos teaching tips and tricks and rah rah motivation, but in this video I’m going to teach you how your brain works so you understand the principle behind how to get motivated and how to stay motivated. You’re going to learn how dopamine, the neurotransmitter of reward and motivation, works in your brain, and four simple things you can do to get motivated and stay that way.
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I’m Emma McAdam. I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and I have worked in various settings of change and growth since 2004. My experience includes juvenile corrections, adventure therapy programs, wilderness therapy programs, an eating disorder treatment center, a residential treatment center, and I currently work in an outpatient therapy clinic.
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@brigittegroenendijk2124 3 жыл бұрын

If you feel overwhelmed by a to do list, reverse it! Some days my to do list is daunting and I just ditch it completely, start a small task and write it down when I’m done. Even small things like taking my vitamins. Instead of crossing off something, you can see what you have accomplished! Mrs Hinch calls it the Tadaa list :)

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

Ooh I like that!

@bw753 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing! I'm starting my Tadaa list today :)

@natashamudford4011 3 жыл бұрын

That's brilliant, and I'm glad you shared it on this very worthy channel! The name "Tadaa" makes all the difference. I had thought of doing such a list before, but having this name for it envisions a trumpet blast and a hand flourish, in a magician's hat, white gloves and tuxedo. I'm not a big fan of magic, but I'm a big fan of this idea! Thanks again!

@brigittegroenendijk2124 3 жыл бұрын

@@natashamudford4011 haha yes! I feel like saying tadaa everytime I’ve done something. You described it perfectly. It’s all about the feeling you create :)

@brigittegroenendijk2124 3 жыл бұрын

@@bw753 how did it go? :)

@laurabeaudry3905 3 жыл бұрын

I am also a therapist. This video is beyond AMAZING. Your ability to clearly explain mental health concepts so anyone can understand and act to improve their lives is a gift. Thank you for sharing you knowledge and gift with this community! 😊

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Laura 😀

@xokochamciexo 2 жыл бұрын

you are so right Emma you are truly wonderful

@lisatai8482 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@CBReptiles1 2 жыл бұрын

She’s the best out there! On KZfaq and in real life ;)

@joannesimmons3700 2 жыл бұрын

Well said, my sentiments exactly! She is the best!

@AshTries24 3 жыл бұрын

Guilty of “waiting to become motivated” to begin my tasks, which is repeating my anxiety cycles. Didn’t realize this. Today, I pushed myself to do my tasks then I became motivated to do more. It WORKED. I had a really productive day.

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

So Awesome!!

@NathalieLazo 3 жыл бұрын

So awesome! What a great win that was for you!! The more you do that, you are now self-motivated! Remember to celebrate small wins during your journey! You're awesome! :)

@emmawakeham2273 Ай бұрын

Amazing, thank you so much xxxx

@rkndmr7324 3 жыл бұрын

When u said „good work u are trying to get better“ I cried. This video is exactly what I needed

@apex_blue 3 жыл бұрын

@@dasdwdw when I saw this comment I didn’t expect it to hit that hard when when she said that I actually cried

@louisewolfe8442 2 жыл бұрын

Omgoodness! Knew that criticism was a motivation killer!! Love the little positive step in - toward another! Build on progress not perfection!!

@majesticwonder Жыл бұрын

Same

@dumpsterfire6351 Жыл бұрын

Don’t cry - Smile

@MzShonuff123 3 жыл бұрын

“I’ll just watch KZfaq videos until I feel motivated!” I feel attacked and seen at the same time 😂😂

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

i do the same thing sometimes!

@mariamalhotra8228 3 жыл бұрын

😄

@ReggieLouise Жыл бұрын

Also guilty, and lying in bed while doing it!

@jennydawson1281 Жыл бұрын

Me right now ! In bed watching and also looking at weight loss videos!

@Butterfly_lyf Жыл бұрын

Me too😂

@chiragshukla3910 3 жыл бұрын

Summary of the video in six points - how to stay motivated: 1. Action doesn't follow motivation; motivation follows action. Want to do that one thing? Don't wait for motivation. Just go do it! 2. Take a moment to write down your values. Remind yourself what the purpose of your life may be. That can drive you to do things. 3. Track your accomplishments. Create a way to keep track of what you've achieved so you always remember that you're accomplishing tasks. 4. Reward yourself before a task. E.g., thinking how good you'll feel once a task is over is one way of rewarding yourself before a task. 5. Don't reward yourself for bad behaviour. If you're procrastinating and start doing something fun instead of doing what you're supposed to, you're rewarding yourself for bad behaviour. Use boredom as a motivator if you must. 6. Stop beating yourself up. It's bad for you in the short and long term. Bonus: when you've achieved a task, regardless of how small it may be, celebrate it. Give yourself credit. Release the dopamine to let your mind know "this was good! Let's do more."

@moonscapism7911 3 ай бұрын

Thank you❤

@Yosetime 3 жыл бұрын

My business coach does a "Brain Dump" every day first thing when she gets to her office. Dumps everything out on the paper. Absolutely everything, even if it has nothing to do with work. Then she gets a coffee, takes a few minutes, then goes through that list and picks out only the things that are most important as the days' "to do list'. After she gets even some of it done she takes another break, rewards herself somehow, and begins again. She said she feels great all day and rarely feels overwhelmed. Especially if she gets the things she doesn't like doing done first. Then the rest of the day is a bonus. I like it.

@c.j.9141 Ай бұрын

I like it, too! I used to be on top of things, then came KZfaq..... and my home went to hell in a hand basket. SO much to do to get that order back I do long for. I like your bosse's approach, and am gonna give it a shot!

@lylyluvda916 Жыл бұрын

“The more you do, the more you are motivated.” This shook me. I’ve lost a lot of motivation, and this is what I needed to hear. I’m gonna also take some other tips here like marking the stupid little boxes in a tracker, and imagine how I feel once I reach my goals. It sounds so silly, but I do genuinely feel good when I complete the tasks I’ve put off for a bit.

@mcitheaterclass537 2 жыл бұрын

And remember, when you feel like procrastinating, put it off! Seriously though, I've been depressed for 40 years. I think she just showed me why. I'm in shock. 12 therapists and thousands of dollars, when what I really needed may have been this one video.

@manumaman3339 Жыл бұрын

👍👍

@majesticwonder Жыл бұрын

I know rite!!!!

@cakevictim Жыл бұрын

Me too. All my life being told “finishing that task is it’s own reward” meant nothing to me, and now I understand why. This is life- changing.

@minupuningkotin 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Emma, I found you when I was in the lowest point of my life. You have helped me alot. I can't thank you enough for putting out those videos for us. I pray for you and your family's good health,joy,happiness.

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Anxina, God Bless You!

@janicebrown6605 8 ай бұрын

Thank you very helpful

@janicebrown6605 8 ай бұрын

I'm gonna try your plan

@khorshidbanoo1158 3 жыл бұрын

am i the only one who takes notes while watching these videos? so helpful as always:)

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

awesome! if you are willing to learn the skills, your life will get better :)

@luckygardeniasdashboardcon9214 3 жыл бұрын

I am right there with you... Jumped up to get a pen and paper!

@sadiquereyaj2086 3 жыл бұрын

I am always do but it is only helpfull when you apply it in reality. And when you start applying it, other factors of your life start telling that your paper notes are just a hypothesis

@brigittegroenendijk2124 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I have a document on my pc with links to the videos and a short summary. I write what she says and how this works/affects me. So when she gives examples I write what my situation is. This works wonders!

@zoemilinkovic 3 жыл бұрын

I am watching it on repeat.

@stephenrice4208 Жыл бұрын

I’m 62 and I’ve had anxiety, depression, fear, and motivational issues my whole life. All of your information is great and I could listen to you all day long but that’s not getting me off the couch. I’ll finish this video and then I’ll go make the bed and find something else that needs doing. Then I’ll make one of my rewards to watch another of your videos.

@TrangNguyen-si9kz 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your helpful video!! How to stay motivated: 1. Write down your values! 2. Track your accomplishment! 3. Reward yourself before the task! 4. Stop rewarding bad behavior! 5. Stop negative self-talk! I love u, u guys can do it, make it and conquer it!!

@saintejeannedarc9460 Жыл бұрын

Making supper, esp. a bigger supper used to be a daunting task that I would put off until I was starved, or just pick instead and not eat a decent meal. I had a friend who did a genius thing that helped so much. She would slowly get her utensils and ingredients out. Then she'd start cutting or prepping things. When the cooking part came, it was a lot less to do than starting it all from scratch. I've done it every since.

@chelsaroo91 3 жыл бұрын

You just helped me realize I use fear to motivate myself to do well in school. I was actually raised in a fearful manner where I was exposed to lots of parental threats and emotional abuse to where I basically didn't say anything and hid a lot of my problems and stress. It's like I'm reconstructing that for myself now. Thanks for this, it really helped me take a step in understanding myself today. Now to apply my new understanding: the fun part. 🙂

@drumnbasskim 2 жыл бұрын

Ditto. Resulted in trauma from childhood. As an adult, it's as if I'm re-learning life from scratch from teaching myself healthy values & actions that I would teach my child one day if I want to raise them in a proactive, supportive home.

@zoniazulfiqar2814 2 жыл бұрын

Wow I gotta say you said it in such a interesting manner actually I was and being raised in a fearful manner where its all about society and literally not about us... but now iam learning a new job and making money 💰 🙂♥️

@na3rial 2 жыл бұрын

I am the exact same way! I realized recently that I have NEVER been able to self-motivate without a looming deadline, leading to extreme procrastination and a LOT of anxiety. I'm trying to break out of that and just, being kind to myself

@ravishingtwinkle3811 2 жыл бұрын

@@na3rial isn't that ADHD ? Me too Relearning life

@randommandom4691 Жыл бұрын

Wow, you saying that made me realize that I also used fear to ensure I was successful in what I valued. When I recently began the transition to adult hood and college, I just balled up and allowed my stress to take over. In a way, the fear that was induced throughout child hood motivated me. Now I have to rewire my brain to gain motivation without a negative driving force

@donaldrose7962 2 жыл бұрын

My mother's advice when I was 10 years old in 1963: "if you have to do something, learn to enjoy it." Learning to find joy in everything you do motivates you to move on to the next task. I love calisthenics, exercising 3 hours a day, sometimes only an hour, and when I start sometimes I'm too exhausted to continue. But after a few short exercises, dopamine kicks in and motivates me to do even more. Dopamine also kicks in when I see people who smoke, drink in excess, exhibit road rage, and give myself a pat on the back for not having any self-destructive vices (intrinsic Rewards).

@tristanhall4448 8 күн бұрын

This sounds so simple in theory but just being talked through it really made me realise how much I rely on bursts of motivation and how I reward my procrastination all the time

@pmbluemoon 2 жыл бұрын

You had me at "You watched this instead of a cat video." 🥰👍🤩💯👏 I told myself "SO true!" Thank you!

@wheinemail 2 жыл бұрын

I’m a psychology minor and have never watched a video that was so effective in laying out how motivation works from a truly biological perspective. This is a fantastic video that everybody in the world should be required to watch!

@jadealexander5659 2 жыл бұрын

I had no idea I was causing myself depression. I push myself so hard everyday and I hate when people praise me for it, especially when i think I can do better. In my head I believe I am giving myself room to grow but in reality I’ve been stunting my own growth and causing misery.

@pennymcdonald538 16 күн бұрын

This is the same skill I was taught regarding my depression. You can’t wait until you feel better to do something, you have to do something in order to feel better. It’s helped me so much!

@helenwalden4380 3 жыл бұрын

I've been struggling with chronic procrastination all my life, I suspect I am an undiagnosed Adult ADHD. Your videos are sensational Emma. I've spent years in counselling hoping to be given a model of good mental health. Your simple yet profound words are transformative to me. What a gift to the world. What a legacy you leave. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. :))

@Medietos 11 ай бұрын

I am sorry you had such bad counselling, that they weren't competent or willing to engae to get you helped!. That has been my own experience too, I have lost my life to rubbish and wish I had listened to my disturbed mother who happened to be right about most psychologists etc.Why does no-one do like memma and others online? I think they withhold us knowledge in order to keeo us coming and giving out a lot of money for years. They don't want us to get well as quickly as we could, confirmed also by former therapist Daniel Mackler (Has a YT video on why he stopped being one, it helps at least lifting the fear that it was my fault not egtting help.)Do the 12 steps programs instead?

@NooraShab 3 жыл бұрын

We love you Emma, you are a real life-saver! Hope you and your family will have a content year ahead!

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Shabna! I hope you have a wonderful year ahead too!

@timmatheson4926 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this video. I never noticed that my upbringing destroyed any motivation in me by believiing that if I failed it was all my fault, but if I succeeded it was because someone, or something else was the reason for me achieving it. There was never a reward for me accomplishing anything, just guilt and shame. Now I understand that I was never lazy (like they said) I was afraid. As usual, your posts are helping me grow and become the person I desire to be.

@CoolBreeze640 Күн бұрын

My one small action to kick start my motivation today was watching this video. It worked!!

@Jo-nr6vx 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely loved this! I had gotten back into bed, felt like sleeping and feeling low, now I'm up, getting dressed and feeling motivated to enjoy the beautiful day that it is. Thank you 😊

@user-nz5qb7jq6p 2 жыл бұрын

Building Intrinsic Motivation 1. Take down a moment to write down your values 2. Track your accomplishments 3. Reward yourself before the task 4. Stop rewarding bad behavior 5. Stop the negative Self talk + Thank you very much Ms. Emma for this wonderful video. I find it hard to really move on from past lost and it's been quite a while that I've been stuck at the bottom of the pit, but I believe God graced us life to live for His purpose and I'm trying to embrace and stay with this truth. I don't want to pity myself for the mistakes I have done, sometimes life lessons are learned best with hard truths. I tend to be a people pleaser and most of the time I find it hard to face the truth on myself. I don't want to justify anymore my desolations and yeah, little by little, with one step at a time, I'll try and make it happen to live life courageously to be able to fully live it. Thank you so much again for your sense of mission and may God always bless you, your family and your work. May you be able to help and reach out more people from different walks of life that need to build up this good habit.

@linaornborg 2 жыл бұрын

I need to exercise today. I went on KZfaq to watch a bunch of rah rah type videos and somehow came across this and this was just better. Thanks

@romaeterna3106 Жыл бұрын

Hello Emma, I am so glad I found you! Since adolescence I have lived every day as if it were my last. What motivated me was my 6th grade teacher who I overheard telling my parents I won't do much past the 6th grade. I didn't get sad. I got mad. Now I am a very senior citizen who was a dynamic individual12 years ago. In spite of graduate degrees, knowledge of 5 languages, studying art and music, living in Europe, teaching graduates, young adults and children along with many more reinventions of myself, I am finding difficulty revisiting those accomplishments that made me happy. I write you now with anxiety, depression, and the stress that comes with caring for a loved one who is ill. You have provided me with some sensible and convincing strategies to try and find myself again. Thank you very much.

@ilax4244 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I too inherited the care of an older sibling. It is my excuse for not excelling or setting goals for myself. I hope this video will help me take back my joy and self care.

@sue8370 Жыл бұрын

I do this with exercise, small steps first to create a habit. Great information in all your videos, 😊 My reward for yoga exercises is a back that is no longer sore lol

@rachaelgalvez435 3 жыл бұрын

Your friend is not the only student having trouble with motivation these days. I'm going to share this with my teens!

@andrewh3665 5 ай бұрын

Biggest takeaway: actions and thoughts drive motivation, trying to bring up the feeling of motivation in isolation is tough

@Msully420 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, after procrastinating for months watching useless videos, I finally found this. Your a gem 🙏

@smileofthecentury 3 жыл бұрын

What do you want to be doing with your one wild and precious life? I love that poem. God bless you Emma

@RachelBayati 3 жыл бұрын

This video came at the right time. I've been struggling with motivation the last few months and have been feeling pretty stuck. This video makes so much sense. I've been focusing too much on the feeling rather than the doing. Thank you so much for sharing!

@music7915 2 жыл бұрын

I can’t explain how grateful I am for you. I used to go to therapy but one day she called me and said they are pausing their practices because of Covid and when they resumed they didn’t even contact me or try to work over the phone. I trusted the therapist and I told myself I’d never go to one again. Thank you so much for spreading your knowledge. I’ve been struggling with depression, adhd and ocd for so long and when I get in a rut it’s so hard to get out. This is my longest one by far been almost 1.8 years but your video has helped me see ways in which I can increase motivation and function like I used to thank you!

@smolseal 2 жыл бұрын

As a university student with depression and humongous workload, I just want to say thank you so much for making all these videos. I should have found this video and this channel in general last school year. I was a mess. But, oh well, the past can’t be changed anyways. I hope I do better this upcoming semester. You’ve helped me greatly this past month. Thank you so so much!!

@ilax4244 Жыл бұрын

You recognized your problem and found the help you need. Both of with God's help will be successful. One day at a time.

@hritiksingh1996 3 жыл бұрын

This is just beyond amazing! Thank you for putting it out. I have been using the same principle from the last two years and I have cultivated so much self-trust and self-discipline within me that not following through on my word is no longer an option. It's all about CONSISTENTLY PRACTICING. After a while, our subconscious gets reprogrammed to the point that our disciplined, intentional habits become the new autopilot. Thank you for making this wonderful video! ❤️

@Benni777 3 жыл бұрын

This is super helpful for someone like me who has ADHD and it’s very hard for me to get motivated to do the “right thing” even when I have the right amount to do that certain task. ☺️

@dieselexhausted Жыл бұрын

The fact that I could feel my muscles in my entire face and head shift and an actual positive feeling at the first "good job!" says I definitely found the right video. I've seen it come up but I've been *that* low and overwhelmed - I couldn't bring myself to even watch the video. I'm glad I finally did. Good job me!

@mail2namrata23jlkl 2 жыл бұрын

This video is Godsend. Also, I mean...I have been in a rut. For 4 months. It's been so hard. But now that you have explained the dopamine cycle, I can see what is all wrong in there. Thank you. Thank you so much. Important takeaways- Action -> Reaction -> motivation Reward yourself even small things. Praise yourself. Most depressed people, don't behave well to praises (toxic masculinity and the pressure to stick to it), or keep saying that 'I am a loser'. Instead, praise yourself even if you wrote just a paragraph. Because it's better than a blank page. Thank you. God bless you. 🙏

@hadiahasan2589 3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou so much Being a medical student I constantly kept thinking I'm not working hard enough and not doing enough and pushing away my hobbies for one day when I felt I had accomplished something .This felt so much better to hear that one needs to appreciate even the tiniest things and in actuality nothing is tiny.

@leorolland 3 жыл бұрын

You seem like such a kind person thank you for your motivating videos..

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

thank you :)

@lulumarie7 Жыл бұрын

This is literally the best explanation and advice regarding motivation that I've ever found! I've been struggling and searching for answers for a while now. Everything in this video makes so much sense and is really practical. I already feel motivated! Thank you so much for all that you do and for being genuine and caring. You are truly a gift! 💛

@johnski2645 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes you come across a video that makes so much sense and can literally change your life. I’m so glad I came across this one. It’s amazing!

@JulieSnowstudiojuliesnow3698 2 жыл бұрын

I seriously cannot believe there are ANY dislikes on this video. What you said is absolutely brilliant, and beyond helpful. You explained so perfectly, and made me feel like this is something tangible I can do for myself. God bless you!!

@maryannschumacher1370 Жыл бұрын

Excellent, so true! 👌 When we had to move, my daughter suggested we pack for an hour, take a break for an hour, and repeat. We accomplished SO much knowing a break was within reach. 👍🌞

@ratunkuuu 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. i like "The more you do the more motivated you are" Greetings from Scotland!

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching! I'm pretty sure that most americans have this idealist view of scotland as being a magical place of wonderful accents and beautiful scenery. and Unicorns. :) is it true? As a McAdam I feel like I need to visit someday soon

@ratunkuuu 3 жыл бұрын

Like all stereotyoes, partly true indeed, aldo the 50 ways of raining;) But on a sunny day, absolutely heavenly beautifuf mounyains lakes and tbe sea, all together, As soon as freedom to travel is back, ylu are welcome, and all who read the comme ts, too!

@dianemacknight751 3 жыл бұрын

Omg this video is AMAZING!!!!! Ive been stuck for years procrastinating from doing important tasks and waiting till I get the motivation. I've watched loads of videos on KZfaq on motivation but this is by far the best one I've seen! I Love the way you simplify everything and give loads of examples, thank you very much x

@amberklein1560 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I just set up an "Awesome" List on my iPhone for things I've already completed. "Hey, Siri, add showered to my Awesome List." Instantly, I felt motivated. Thank you!

@Rebecca-sx5vg Жыл бұрын

Thank you for explaining that an object in motion stays in motion! Because of the pandemic and my ex partner, I just stopped doing… everything… and now don’t understand the lack of motivation until you explained it. I have to get moving again and I’ll naturally find my energy again! Thanks for the wisdom:)

@marslennon1 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you once more, too bad i couldn't even spend 65 a month for any therapy, but these tips are very powerful. Namasté!

@Mockduck2020 3 жыл бұрын

Believe me, her tips are so much more efficient than most therapy! At least from my vast experiences. And you can check her tips out anytime you want.

@Dbiss 2 жыл бұрын

@@Mockduck2020 agreed!

@battlehymnoftheempath3610 3 жыл бұрын

I am going to watch this video everyday to get myself more motivated. I consider myself the most demotivated person I know now and that has got to change.

@Nerdie_ 11 ай бұрын

I have recently lost my father and motivation just went down hill from there but I found this video today and already just from the video I feel motivated to try and fix my life and most importantly build myself up to be the motivated person I used to be. Thank you so much for this video.

@johnnywishbone932 2 жыл бұрын

I found this channel after praying for help. You are a God send gift to my life. Thank you God. Thank you Emma ✝️❤️!

@debbiesivertson817 3 жыл бұрын

I keep watching this video over and over, and taking notes!!! ❤️ With the virus, most of my normal community activities have gone away, and I am an empty nester (husband still works). I need to create more of a new daily routine, (also to help with anxiety and low level depression) and this is WONDERFUL!!! So many amazing recommendations well organized and packed into 16 minutes! Thank you ❤️!

@nicoleonfeels 3 жыл бұрын

Have a vision, have a plan, and make steps everyday 💪🏽

@asma-pc1og 3 жыл бұрын

Summarizing it like that can be a little problematic too though. As someone who has struggled with motivation, that type of optimism and decisiveness always put me off. Like I didn't even want to think about the concept of motivation, or the relationship between reward and motivation. For people who don't want to think about it, thinking about having a vision, or formulating a plan can be overwhelming. That level of optimism to a pessimist is scary 😅 Like the tl:dr vibe about it just doesn't force us to research and be educated about it

@LightyMiner 3 жыл бұрын

@@asma-pc1og It's good knowing people out there actually think in line with what is realistic.

@natashamudford4011 3 жыл бұрын

@@asma-pc1og What is tl:dr?

@LightyMiner 3 жыл бұрын

@@natashamudford4011 Too long, didn't read.

@raids67 3 жыл бұрын

I can't express how grateful I am to have found this channel...

@samrobin233 3 жыл бұрын

Honestly I've seen so many videos on motivation but this is the only one where I felt like I got something useful. Thanks so much !

@amparocribas7792 2 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to let you know that just the fact of listening to you gets me into a hope state. I feel as if someone actually cares about my struggles. ❤ thank you for choosing your career 🎉May God keep blessing you!

@congratz9396 3 жыл бұрын

This might be the most impactful video on my life that i have ever seen. Thank you so much! So much! 😭❤️

@pc2753 3 жыл бұрын

You consistently give the most helpful advice I ever get, from anyone, including paid therapists, for free.

@WithPassionUK 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent, I’ve been stuck in bed/ sofa for 3 days and watching this video has just inspired me to finish the dishwasher task. Thank you 🙏

@marypolcari7321 2 жыл бұрын

I love this!!! I thought I had lost it.The motivation. I'll move towards this as much as I can. Thank you for the hope!!! This is so amazing!!!!!

@zoemilinkovic 3 жыл бұрын

This is so well explained. I am listening to it on repeat while kids are "in school" at home. Thank you so much for all you do! Your videos are priceless!

@danielraypickrel4316 3 жыл бұрын

I often use listening to you as a doing something, then find myself rewarding with doing something else. When I agree with you I feel smart.

@juliaw.1854 3 жыл бұрын

This may apply perfectly to people with relatively stable feelings of self worth and confidence, however, anyone who has been abused and traumatized around achievement may understand that taking a productive action unlikely results in a reward/dopamine reaction, but instead triggers feelings of deep shame or sadness; maybe anger towards one's abusers, but that's on the good days. I can't remember the last time any of my actions resulted in a feeling of reward - most of the time I have to draw from sheer willpower and get through an extremely ugly process of inhibition, feelings of worthlessness and grief - and I know it's that way for many others, too. I don't mean to devalue the content of these videos, I know they're incredibly helpful to many people and I have learned a lot from them as well. Sometimes I just think that they oversimplify reality; or maybe rely too closely on the theoretical formula, disregarding that there are obstacles created - especially through early or chronic abuse or other forms of trauma - that can't always be bypassed or even worked through easily. It makes me feel lonely, frustrated and defective at times, watching these videos, trying to apply what they teach me and then realizing that it just doesn't work the same way for me.

@Voguemama 3 жыл бұрын

This is so true. I did yoga for the first time three weeks ago. My reward is how great it makes me feel after doing it for 30 min. Now I’m looking forward to doing it every single night.

@Sheernee 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Emma I'm glad I found you I'm living on an island so it's hard for me to access this info. I'm going through a lot of stuff so thanks alot

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@Cosme_Vidro 3 жыл бұрын

After watching this video I finished a course that I was procrastinating for 6 days. You're the best!!!

@sandybowers5085 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your videos with us!!!! They are a total Godsend!!! I finally found a good therapist to help me heal from my trauma but your help in between has been priceless 🙏🏼❤️

@battlehymnoftheempath3610 3 жыл бұрын

Your an amazing speaker on these topics. You can feel the sympathetic tone in your voice.

@mitalidesai5814 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent video! No one has told this truth before. This is so simple yet many of us don’t get it and then we get stuck in the loop of being unmotivated, unorganized and lazy. Thank you so much 🙏

@jonspencer12 4 ай бұрын

I think every time I watch Emma’s videos I just smile. She is just so great and helpful.

@-Godlovesme- 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! I am dealing with a lot of cognitive dissonance right now and this is so helpful as I'm trying to get motivated to do more self care. So God bless you!

@moniquejackson7741 3 жыл бұрын

I love this! The dopamine reward makes so much sense in terms of motivating us. I follow Law of Attraction coaches who recommend changing how you feel as much as possible, and now it makes sense that if there is not a true feeling of accomplishment or reward, you end up feeling even more anxious about manifesting. That's why "rah rah" forms of motivation are not as effective because you need to actually bask in how good something feels and not just distract yourself. I really appreciate how you brought out that you can't feel motivated all the time, but you can develop habits that can motivate you more easily and more frequently. Thanks so much!

@TherapyinaNutshell 3 жыл бұрын

yeah! thanks for the comment!

@nikkiroberg1 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I have really struggled to move forward for a while now and didn’t totally understand what was happening. I had always been pretty motivated and good with routine but the bottom dropped out a while back and I didn’t know why I couldn’t get back up and running. Your video helped me quickly understand what is going on internally and how to adjust. I am so excited to get going now! Thank you!!!

@redgree1645 Жыл бұрын

I feel so fortunate I found you, you’re the best ever for me.❤ everything about you is amazing, I wake up to you virtually every morning. Thank you so much!👍❤️

@mrs.mercie9879 2 жыл бұрын

I have learned this in the past, but it never “stuck” for me. You explained it in a way that I truly GOT it! Many people in my life naturally understand this concept, but I seemed to struggle with it. After watching this video & taking notes - I think I can apply this! Thank you for breaking it down so perfectly. This truly could be life changing. 💛

@Bitachon 3 жыл бұрын

*Motivation comes after action*

@MsWheelera 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent video. Thank you for these reminders. I love your energy, calm voice and how simple yet concise you make your videos.

@s30092 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video, absolutely what I needed. Can't believe how underrated it is.

@user-mz5by9xw7v 6 ай бұрын

Thank you!!!!! I’ve been struggling for such a long time, truly just wanting to give up!! But you gave me the secret to finding and staying motivated!!! Also I love your voice; the way you communicate … your tone, smile, examples … are very soothing, calming, motivating without the judgments!! I feel “I can do this!!” Again thank you!!!

@animeshkumar1684 3 жыл бұрын

Omg! This is perfect timing ... really needed this🙏

@nastia4438 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, I didn't know I needed this video. I never thought I had an issue with motivation, but now I know that I have been rewarding the wrong actions. So interesting... Thank you for this insightful video!

@user-ck6dg1cv9l Жыл бұрын

WTf im searching for motivation videos for 10 years this is the completest one you're genius cant believe it thank you like everyone should see this video in their life i think this is one of the most important videos in human history in real thank you i don't know how to appreciate it this can save lives people like you should get immortal❤

@scraphappyjen4561 2 жыл бұрын

This is the best video on Motivation I have seen. None of the hype and all of the actionable reasoning that is really required to move someone from a place of inaction to forward and perpetuating momentum. Thank you so much for this great resource. I really appreciate the effort and thought you put into your videos.

@lisaa6539 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this! It makes so much sense and I'm grateful I can rewatch to remind myself. Your videos are very helpful. Thanks you!

@nissreenalmazouni8765 Жыл бұрын

This video may have been THE MOST organized, clearest in explanation and kindest approach to motivation I have ever watched. I need to unpack the details slowly and work on incorporating the reward system into my mornings. Thank you thank you for educating us! You arr saving lives!

@zacharystuart7162 2 жыл бұрын

Your videos are amazing and you are my new favorite person. Now I will always remember you as the person who has walked me out of the dark and into the light. You must be an amazing person to want to help others for free and I truly appreciate you.

@kathymalcolm6381 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been struggling w motivation. This was so helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I really enjoy all of your videos. Bless you.

@shyhouseplant3890 2 жыл бұрын

Damn I really needed to hear this today. Immediately subscribed. Thank you for taking the time to explain this in full. I think this is the first time I’ve watched a motivational KZfaq video and actually felt better for watching it. You’re a great speaker (and motivator) Cheers ❤️

@heatherderganc5984 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this Emma❣️ I realize that a lot of my anxiety comes from procrastination. I will remember ARM. Action! Reward Motivation. Action is key!

@KaceyFCavanagh Жыл бұрын

This is probably my third time watching this video over the past year. Thank you so much🙏🏼

@mariarooney6262 2 жыл бұрын

Each video I watch of yours is so exciting for me knowing there are some answers for each situation. Your personality, knowledge, understanding, wisdom and empathy come only from God. Thank you for using the gifts and talents He has given you. You are blessed because He is in your life. ❤️

@nounoumcfly 2 жыл бұрын

OMG 🤯 thank you so much. I am very happy to learn this! I was asking my therapist about how to improve my motivation and self esteem but never got a clear answer. You gave me the exact well explained answer I was looking for! Thanks a lot ❤️❤️❤️

@Tonjesk8r 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for changing my view on so many things! I was wondering and I have one new years wish. Can you please do one video that we can use when we have panick attacks? You have such soothing voice and I really trust what you are telling us 🥺❤️ Please. I wish you and your family a happy new year!🎉

@andresduquer3502 2 жыл бұрын

God bless you, Emma McAdam. You're light when life gets dark.

@hopeworld9515 3 жыл бұрын

She talks so kindly and gently and explains things so well. It made me feel calmed down and more positive instead of dreading the load of work i have and this day that has just started lol Ah.. so this is the difference between a good therapist and just some kind person trying to help.