Why Your Brain Defaults to Scarcity and How to Flip it to Happiness

Why Your Brain Defaults to Scarcity and How to Flip it to Happiness - Anxiety Course 16/30

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6 ай бұрын

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In this video, you will learn about the brain's inherent focus on survival rather than happiness, which leads to a negativity bias. This bias is a form of mental filtering that skews our perception toward negative thinking patterns, often intensifying feelings of depression and anxiety. The video highlights the critical role of mental flexibility in combatting these rigid thinking patterns. It emphasizes how our selective attention shapes our reality; by constantly focusing on the negative, we strengthen brain pathways that reinforce these unhelpful thinking patterns. You'll also discover how media plays a role in feeding this negativity bias, impacting our mental health. The video delves into how rigid thinking can influence various aspects of life, including relationships and decision-making. Most importantly, it offers practical strategies like gratitude journaling and cognitive defusion techniques to break free from this cycle. By engaging with this video, you will embark on a journey towards more balanced and flexible thinking patterns, paving the way for improved mental well-being.
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@True_Media_Global 27 күн бұрын

1. Notice your negative thoughts 2. Take break from your negative thoughts 3. Slow your negative thoughts down 4. Challenge your negative thoughts (analyze)

@chickadeeacres3864 3 күн бұрын

And the best way to practice noticing your thoughts is to meditate or be present.

@Blueskies7775 18 күн бұрын

I got rid of TV 14 years ago… don’t watch it, no Disney, No Netflix, No radio either…. My life has moved to way better levels since then. “Your brain is not designed to keep you happy, it’s designed to keep you alive”.

@CarodeDakar 12 күн бұрын

Yes but you are on KZfaq.

@KatyWantsToGo 8 күн бұрын

@@CarodeDakaryou are just being ignorant, very likely to make yourself feel good about your lifestyle… You do understand the difference between watching what you choose as opposed to watching what’s crammed down your throat. Further, your not going to find esoteric teaching on the tv…

@KatyWantsToGo 8 күн бұрын

It’s been well over 20 years since I disconnected from HOLLYWIERD. YT is my only connection to media and YT has gotten so bad that I’m just about done with it to…

@Truologye 7 күн бұрын

Got rid of tv June 2011.

@Truologye 7 күн бұрын

@@CarodeDakarnot even close and you know it.

@imageisn0thing 18 күн бұрын

I used to work in media. We ran a survey where we asked our television audience what they wanted to see. They responded overwhelmingly with "positive news." So we launched a new show that focused on positive news. We cancelled it less than a year after launching because nobody watched it. People instinctively gravitate towards the negative.

@noanoa332 6 ай бұрын

I stopped watching the news over a decade ago. Best desicion i ever made.

@Gibson-zq7tb 4 ай бұрын

I don’t watch the news and I’m still the most negative person alive.

@MicheleDamato-co7vh 2 ай бұрын

So you get all of your information on Tik-Tok or other places like that.

2 ай бұрын

TikTok is like a drug. Drugs are not good.

@jamesromero3282 2 ай бұрын

❤ same here

@tamatharussell850 2 ай бұрын

Same but I can't like your comment...111

@empoweredempath 6 ай бұрын

I started a journal about 4 years ago, with the intent to write at least 1 positive thing that happened per day. Not exactly gratitude, but similar. When I separated from an abusive (now ex) spouse, I continued the habit. I REALLY wanted to focus on the positive then. I realized, at the end of a very trying year, that I had a book full of beautiful moments. Strangers who said nice things, friends and family who held my hand through the darkest nights I faced. I hope I will always keep this habit, the record the good, the beautiful, no matter how mundane. Also, hi from Utah!

@JulietCrowson 6 ай бұрын

Hi from England, UK. 🙏

@TomWard-sx2ip 6 ай бұрын

😊❤thanks.did.it.for.3.days.and.forgot.to.start.again...

@jmfs3497 6 ай бұрын

I love looking for one nice thing per day. That's a great idea.

@northstar5919 5 ай бұрын

💜

@Es97Coqui 5 ай бұрын

Hi from NY, I’m trying this!!

@jeannezinman8994 6 ай бұрын

Our beloved dog died suddenly, after 12.5 years. Even though we rushed him to the animal hospital, I kept sobbing, thinking of all the things we might have done differently. Through my tears, instead of lamenting, I decided to say “Thank you God for giving me that wonderful dog for 12.5 years. I really loved his _____ (soft ears, funny personality, companionship, etc...) I immediately started to feel better. I still choke up sometimes,, but now I can laugh and share fond memories about him with my family. ❤

@colors8310 6 ай бұрын

Thats beautiful, that you can see it that way now. I am so happy for you,that you had your dog,that was so special to you.🍀💚🐶

@alitloff 5 ай бұрын

Same here. 🥰

@renacleerican7824 5 ай бұрын

Same here. My beloved Dog spent 13 years with me, she was my only family. She died from cancer, I tried everything to heal her, in vain. After death, I was beyond depressed, even tried to end it all; at this time I had a very nice and wise doctoress, she told me this: dont ever think about the bad memories, only focus on the good memories you have of her( so many beautiful moments)! It worked.

@sleeperno1215 2 ай бұрын

This is a powerful lesson. Thank you.

@Bluezwater Ай бұрын

Beliefs underly thought patterns. Trauma imprinting underlies beliefs. And then there is a slew of health issues that create mental emotional imbalance. For example hormone issues such as hypothyroidism which effect many women. Gut toxicity is another one. Thoughts are like waves riding on top. What lies below or within is vital.

@cassieoz1702 6 ай бұрын

Hospitality industry research suggested that we have an 8:1 negativity bias. If you get good service, you'll tell 5 other people. If you get bad service, you'll tell upto 40 people!

@BeeKaye 15 күн бұрын

For me, gratitude changes everything.

@jeraldbaxter3532 6 ай бұрын

As my great-grandfather used to say, "You see what you look for." There is so much more I could say, but instead, I will just say Thank You for this important video.

@JaneNewAuthor 6 ай бұрын

The reason why I never watch or listen to mainstream media. I'm 70, I could give you an extensive list of all the things that are far better now than when I was growing up. The "Good Old Days" were actually pretty bad.

@TheJustinJ 4 ай бұрын

"Things ain't what they used to be and probably never was." ~ Will Rogers

@user-tr7yg7zo3j Ай бұрын

I wish I could stop!

@user-tr7yg7zo3j Ай бұрын

“I feel fat.”

@robinr5669 Ай бұрын

And this is why I never watch right wing media.

@robertbrowning7556 15 күн бұрын

implemented your suggestions and it works. Moved gratitude to expressing it more to others and not only has my life improved but it has had a very positive effect on those around me. I am 65. You taught this old dog a very nice and very useful lesson. Thank you!

@flowerdoyle3749 6 ай бұрын

This idea is the basis of the Wolf Inside Us story.......The legend is a story of a grandfather or elder using a metaphor of two wolves fighting within him to explain inner conflicts to his grandson, or other young person. When the young person asks which wolf wins, the grandfather answers "whichever one you feed".

@mumtazmullahkhail3357 6 ай бұрын

💯 ❤

@aubreyleonae4108 6 ай бұрын

I've got that sticker on my car. It's so true.

@Jbobbybob 6 ай бұрын

Stories like this highlight something very important about biology, and it’s the reliance on opponent processes to create complex dynamic systems. The idea is that stable and functional complex systems at all scales rely on individual systems that are biased towards a particular aspect of reality. When you get seemingly opposing systems talking to each other and making up for the weakness in the other, new emergent behaviors arise like stable self-organizing systems or processes. The sympathetic and parasympathetic are premier examples related to the nervous system

@Roger_Clarence 6 ай бұрын

To keep us on point, We made a card that’s on our refrigerator which says “Which Wolf are you feeding”? Keep up the GREAT inner work my friends, WE’RE MAKING A BETTER PLANET❤

@brooklynn52dee38 6 ай бұрын

flowerdoyle3749 I will remember your post! Simply stated and yet very powerful! Thank you for sharing!

@timotheusmiller 5 ай бұрын

As a Christian pastor it’s pretty fascinating how everything you’re saying is what I say. Your content is solid, practical, and encouraging.

@RShaun 20 күн бұрын

When I finally read the Bible for myself, it amazed me with how much philosophy and psychology was present. I still live by many of the principles while not being a Christian. I wish more people took the time to see how much “content” the Bible has. Respect to you!

@PleaseDontEatAnimals 20 күн бұрын

I was raised Catholic, but didn't read the Bible in full until college. I saw all the contradictions in it and left religion behind. It's made me a kinder and more logical person. It was discombobulating at first, but now I live by 'do unto others as I would have done onto myself' (which predates the Bible, of course). I've tried to get my very large Catholic family to see how eating animals causes so much suffering, but none of them has been able to stop because they use the excuse that the Bible tells them they have "dominion" over others--even though that is not the original interpretation and its meaning is more like "stewardship." I know of others who were able to go vegan once they left religion behind. So interesting how people choose what to get from that book.

@chinmeysway 16 күн бұрын

seems self gratifying congrats on god being so selfless.. like you

@timotheusmiller 15 күн бұрын

I wish I were a lot less selfish, honestly. And I'm not sure why you feel so cavalier about being rude and judgmental toward a total stranger you've never met. I wasn't trying to give myself a compliment. I was just intrigued that what I got out of the gospel aligns so closely to what this lady is saying.

@tmking7483 14 күн бұрын

It's fascinating that a Christian pastor stopped looking in the mirror long enough to read a KZfaq post

@LateBoomer1964 2 ай бұрын

I had a hard time asking what I could be grateful for each day, because I felt like everything I had was from my hard work and not other's. So I changed it up and started keeping a "What went right today?" Journal. That has helped so much, by just changing the phrase just a little it's helped me to see more positive in my life.

@k9rescuer934 Ай бұрын

That’s a great switch…..thank you so much ❤

@sexywarriorwomen Ай бұрын

Cool idea!

@33jwill3 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for not being scared to speak truth about the psychology behind media propaganda!

@_aidid 6 ай бұрын

Yeah! biased media affects all of us. In my country, Bangladesh, the media is so badly managed that even taking a look into the latest news makes me anxious of the prejudices they spread

@Shellz369 6 ай бұрын

Mainstream media propaganda AKA brainwashing. The best solution is to not watch, listen, or pay any attention to it at all. And use social media platforms very minimally and wisely 👍

@angusmorrison9433 6 ай бұрын

Or, the number of people who can’t think or glean information for themselves

@catlifechannel3886 3 ай бұрын

@@_aididthat’s not confined to Bangladesh, either. Western countries are filled with creating fear - and lying. Need to question everything and look into many diff sources.

@joeshmoe9978 2 ай бұрын

Especially far left CNN and far right Fox News.

@dumpsterfire6351 6 ай бұрын

Social Media is driving this. Doing best to ignore all the BS

@MirandaQUEENofFISHROCK 6 ай бұрын

Question everything! ❤

@ivalani 20 күн бұрын

Don’t know how this showed up in my feed, but couldn’t be more timely! What an awesome synopsis of the hole we dug ourselves into with social media! Glad to have found your channel!

@SparklingDiva1111 2 ай бұрын

I stopped watching and listening to the news 8,5 yrs ago. Life becomes so much nicer when you do that! I also block/delete ppl that are full of drama & negativity. You can choose to do this.

@tiller6750 6 ай бұрын

Emma, your videos are so full of great information. Thank you for working to make the world a better place.

@sleeperno1215 2 ай бұрын

She is very good at it.

@itsmekimmielc 6 ай бұрын

One of the best mental health channels. Thank you Emma.

@mohammadmahdighasemi1126 6 ай бұрын

Hey there ! This video will help you more to control your depression !💡👇🏻 kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hKegqqxpp8qpk3U.htmlsi=lMSPg-p5D9sjDwaX

@cardhutt 24 күн бұрын

"if it bleeds, it leads" is a common slogan in media.

@heidi2166 4 ай бұрын

Even as a kid I used to say there should always be another news channel that only allows positive things that anyone can be in, within reason, such as so and so is now cancer-free, or so-and-so found their lost dog, etc. Like a positivity Patrol. Each county can have their own channel or whatever. Just something to watch to see all the good and remind yourself it's there and give you a boost when you're having a bad day. Anxiety be gone it's all your frame of reference. I refuse now to make a hell out of my heaven!!

@kimberlygundling9781 4 ай бұрын

I absolutely love this idea!

@mehonalemehon3796 2 ай бұрын

"I refuse now to make a hell out of my heavens." I really love it. Its going to be my best slogans.

@Picklesdale Ай бұрын

There have been attempts at this, but they were not successful 😢

@vladkagreen1824 Ай бұрын

That is a great idea! We should create channel like this!!

@CynthiaCaresse 22 күн бұрын

There is a channel on KZfaq by Sam Bentley! He does positive worldly news updates each month 💛

@aktashuseyin 6 ай бұрын

before watching , after struggling 4-5 year with anxiety, you were the only one whose techniques worked out for me. Accepting and Being volunteer for low emotions. I think accepting is most realistic approach to our emotions. We are people with low and high emotions. Thanks for your support...

@rubandanmusic 6 ай бұрын

Suppressing feelings doesn't work (something somewhere always gets broken). True healing seems to come when we integrate our feelings and understand the relationship between logic and feeling. Our feelings are fuelled by our perspective. So when we change the perspective the feelings dissipate or grow on their own. We can acknowledge the initial impulse and then pause long enough to consider what we are going to do to address the emotional reality/need.

@dmarc23 6 ай бұрын

I love you commentary in this video. It really is a shame that we are exposed to so many triggers for anxiety and depression. I realised that I instinctively avoid watching the news and even aggressive music, and I try to focus my attention a lot more on my body sensations and feelings as a way of ignoring this negativity bias, and I didn't even know it is a thing that our brain does by instinct!

@153grover 6 ай бұрын

This is easier said than done when you have autism, ADHD, anxiety, and clinical depression. When one of those mental health issues is taking control, the other mental health issues get upset. It's hard to have all work together, especially not knowing I had these issues for 57 years.

@sirensheartsong4079 6 ай бұрын

Right there with you :)❤

@paulinaastete7238 6 ай бұрын

Me too! And now after being ousted from my 2nd relationship in my life, it’s time to care for me. I’m an artist, I’m capable, lovable and open to everything change in my life. I’m 59 and am finally finding my way on my own without heart wrenching fear or self disgust. I never knew I had a childhood disorder-dysautonomia. I have been misdiagnosed often. Too many psychotropic drugs and not enough self love practice. As a child of immigrants, my young life was not a child’s fun life. I was carrying the pain and embarrassment of my parents. I was given adult duties as a child. My parents were amazingly resilient people which made them extremely successful. Now that i have cared for each of them until they passed, my dad last February- i finally feel I am coming into my own life. Finally. Though i lived in Bali 12 years and it was amazing-I still could not relax into my life even there. Learning that goodness abounds and most people are lovely spirits. I’m working on self-love, self-trust, and giving it all up to God. I’m grateful i can breathe to stay alive and be in love with me, my life and the process. Thank You for your help. KZfaq is my main go to for spiritual connection when I can’t access people one on one. ❤

@thehouseofhorsepowerautobo4506 5 ай бұрын

Agreed!

@heidi2166 4 ай бұрын

I have the first two always, the third sometimes but the fourth never. However I've also had no meds EVER and I am middle-aged. I won't give my power away just because it's hidden or masked behind something else... some people just have no literal idea how strong inside they really are.

@dawnreneegmail 2 ай бұрын

@153grover, sirenstrong4079 & thehouseofhorsepowerautobo4506 at 70 just owned I am neurodivergent, perhaps mixed ADHD and on the scale, somewhere! Hey peeps, nice to meet cha, check out newly minted ADHD for the Smart Ass Woman (bet it works for guys too though there is some gender differences in ADHD) by Tracy O. Really helpful finding my way as better late than never!

@Jennifer-bw7ku 6 ай бұрын

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 6 ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@elizabethwilliams6651 6 ай бұрын

Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@steceymorgan814 6 ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 6 ай бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@elizabethwilliams6651 6 ай бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

@lemarch57 25 күн бұрын

This reminds of something I recently heard about our noses actually obstructing part of our view, but we automatically adjust our vision to ignore the nose. Been noticing my nose a lot more since.

@DMills-un1tl 22 күн бұрын

A lot of comments here about choice of thought, but the reality is that our brain gets a bigger hit off of fight or flight adrenaline than it does off of feel good stuff. This can become an addiction for us and we seek to feed it through the negative and what frightens us. It’s completely biological.

@polishedbyamy 6 ай бұрын

I just want to say how grateful I am to have found your channel. I’ve learned so much about my anxiety struggles through these informative videos and have felt less alone. Thank you for all that you do!!

@153grover 6 ай бұрын

In life people are always told to be better or do better than yesterday or today. Even though you're doing the best you can do, a person always feels like they are not good enough.

@karsamr9196 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for your channel. Many people can't afford therapy. It's so helpful..... But sometimes i wish I could be someone else with a different struggle.

@ashleybecker8417 6 ай бұрын

This is so good! I wish this was headlines in our mass news and publications. We need to draw awareness on our negativity bias. Thank you so much for this. I feel better about my thoughts.

@KISTOVI 6 ай бұрын

I was for 50 years, positive. Doing MY Best to train and reverse, and forgive, and sometimes ignore. But I had enough.. I almost injoy being in the bad mood literally.

@trandom2083 3 күн бұрын

It was probably wired in childhood trauma? So feels foreign or uncomfortable to change. Can become addicted to cortisol in a way but still can change with persistence! Or different technique

@Sbmhdk 6 ай бұрын

This might work for some people, by itself, but I think a disclaimer is needed. I have found that this tool only has a positive and lasting effect for people in serious pain when it is used AFTER using the tool of validation. People in emotional pain like deep depression, or grief or trauma, or deal with chronic or acute physical pain, or someone in spiritual pain like with addiction, need validation first before using this tool. Just saying, for anyone in that boat, use with caution. Please find validation first and then move into this practice.

@kate952 6 ай бұрын

Thank you 😢

@Sbmhdk 6 ай бұрын

@@kate952 🫶

@carriefingsolomon Ай бұрын

It has been absolutely crucial for me to fully acknowledge, validate and embrace what is actually here and happening and bothering me first before using tools to shift to another mindset. There is something very important and healing about that. What’s that quote? When I accept myself then I can change?

@soofnic2087 8 күн бұрын

Can you please link to the Validation tool? Thanks in advance

@illegaltendenciesstudios6302 6 күн бұрын

Thank you

@munkeefinkelbeen5395 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this series, and all that you do on this channel. You're such an amazing help to my journey toward better mental health

@randalmasri7648 6 ай бұрын

You gave the perfect description of what I'm going through and I'm trying to rewire my brain from this bias thank you so much your vids are so encouraging!

@dimpleraj3356 6 ай бұрын

Hello Emma, I hope you read this. Can you cover the topic "why do we get defensive so quickly and how to course correct". Your videos have helped me and I'm sure many others who are on the path of healing themseleves to live healthier more fulfilling life. Thank you for your generous and deep work. ❤

@heidi2166 4 ай бұрын

That was probably shame-trained in childhood would be my guess, someone focusing more on blame than lessons to be learned. But I believe it's natural to a point in all of us. It's just some of us have learned how to act and not react by stepping back from the situation and looking at over first as you would if you were a third party Observer. hard to do I'm still working on it but like so many other things she discusses it's definitely possible. Eventually it'll become a habit

@ummumami 3 ай бұрын

I need the other 29 parts of this therapy injected into my veins immediately

@laurabeaudry3905 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Emma! I am a therapist. I love you ability to make psychotherapy concepts available to all. Your ability to distill science into understandable and ACTIONABLE steps. Your videos are commonly assigned as homework😉 Thank you again.

@rthib1960 20 күн бұрын

I really appreciate your enthusiastic presentation. I personally think that things ARE worse than they have ever been, but that does not negate the truth of what you are saying regarding the negativity bias and how the media exploits it.

@glofacekilluh 6 ай бұрын

You are a fantastic human!

@MirandaQUEENofFISHROCK 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for being passionate! Be the change !❤

@chrisl6169 4 ай бұрын

This podcast is hysterical… so true!! I tell friends not to buy into the sensationalized news but they still insist on watching it. That they “have to know what’s happening in the world” I don’t watch!!

@nahkalahdeyoung6889 6 ай бұрын

Yes Emma I loved this one. ❤️ it's seems like your a bit more excited in this video in some of your recent. It's like the same fun energy as your beginning one's. So AWESOME! THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR HELP.

@AprendiendoaTrascender 6 ай бұрын

Beautiful! and perfect explanation. Love the simplicity of it and you are a great communicator🙏 “there is beauty everywhere, but not all eyes can see it” Rumi. You are using a different language, but it is amazing how we can explore it also from the perspective of becoming more aware, of being more conscious of our thinking patterns😅 “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” thank you for your effort ♥️🌺☀️

@Sofia-bd3ej 6 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this today. As I am always anxious even when there is no reason to be anxious.

@angelawhite2022 6 ай бұрын

Love this video! Been practicing this positive thinking for nearly a year and it has changed my life in so many ways ❤ spread the word! 🤗

@nicetomeetyoubeth 6 ай бұрын

I’ve avoided watching these videos, but I kept seeing you in my feed, so today I clicked. Negativity bias gives a name to how I’ve operated my whole life, having carefully tiptoed around a volatile alcoholic growing up. Avoiding risk was my whole focus, and happy moments were minimized to anomalies to lessen the let down when things returned to not happy. I can see it, and it’s still here playing out. There is fear around letting it go too. Part of me believes happy is only on TV. Heavy stuff to be working through, but dammit this kind of thinking is going away if it’s the last thing I do. Thank you 💚

@Chic.Geek75 6 ай бұрын

It compelled me to comment because I came from Instagram site and I was angry for no reason and hop in here and just what I needed it! Thank you so much, I feel better

@chrish7308 6 ай бұрын

A few months ago I was training for a new position and I got really negative, which made me focus more on the negative aspects and it made learning the new role overwhelming and difficult. Once I decided to stop being so negative, learning the role got way easier; really I just didn't want to get out of my comfort zone with my old position. Now I actually like the new position way better than the old one.

@brothermayihavesomeloops7048 2 ай бұрын

I appreciate you leaving the end of that awareness video in where it expresses the intention of the psa to look out for cyclists!

@ringostar4904 6 ай бұрын

Thank you Emma for a great vid clip. I'm sure people around the world watching this will change to live more fulfilling and happier lives.

@annaburton5774 6 ай бұрын

So good! Thanks you Emma for helping us all!🙏🏼💕

@ronway7280 6 ай бұрын

I just want you to know that you really do help.

@lindaroach1 11 күн бұрын

LOVE this so much. I used to speak on this. This is why I don’t watch the news. The brain goes,”Oh you want this (good or bad by our focus on it) here’s more.” I believe this also involves the RAS system reticulator activating system. It’s the that part of the brain that works to keep us safe. When I’m aware of me going down a negative track I stop and try to a refocus on anything that is positive, beautiful etc. the awareness and focus is huge. Thanks again!!

@viviendaquino8364 21 күн бұрын

I find that the news promotes fear and helplessness. Also, there is NO good reason to show graphic images. They serve no purpose but they fuel fear, anger and anxiety. You are spot on about issues like the climate crisis- if the media put energy and time into educating and empowering, it would leave us feeling more hopeful and energized to create change. We really have to be more discerning about what we choose tobwatch and listen to. . This video has reminded me to create a gratitude journal again. Here's a start- I'm grateful for your work! Thank you. 🙂

@mumtazmullahkhail3357 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your helpful videos particularly this one ❤❤ It changed my mood and feeling. Grateful

@paultorbert6929 4 ай бұрын

THANK YOU, Emma and Algorithmic Feed suggestions !!!! I guess I need to express gratitude for “the algorithm”, since I don’t actively search for Help in my anxiety/depression. I’m a musician struggling with Ménière’s Disease and isolation. Too much to go into here. Emma, Thank You for posting helpful videos like this !!!! I know it doesn’t replace actual Therapy, but it can be the “starting block/springboard” that me, and others like me, can use as an initiative step toward a more complete Therapeutic program.

@FictionCautious Ай бұрын

Things ARE getting worse, it's not just a feeling. But you are absolutely right. Our attention tends to be captured by negative events. The enemy of humanity knows it and uses it every day against us. Allow thoughts to flow like a river.

@hockinghillsalive3624 6 ай бұрын

I am so grateful that you make these videos, and for you channel. I feel safe and happy for the most part, but still enjoy learning these topics. I'm grateful to have found this space. Thank you.

@itsmekari 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this! It was so helpful! I saved it to refer back to & to share it with others. 💖

@couloir1 6 ай бұрын

One of your best videos!! Thank you.

@saravone3292 2 ай бұрын

Emma, Your lessons are so great. I found you when I was at my lowest and you helped me in a major way, and still years later, I still listen to you.

@antoniosandoval4014 6 ай бұрын

THIS VIDEO IS EXCELLENT!!! LOVED THE FIRST EXERCISE!!! YOU ARE THE BEST, hands down. God bless you, Dr. Emma.

@cmvamerica9011 3 ай бұрын

Negativity bias is definitely worse than it’s ever been.

@ummumami 3 ай бұрын

lol....its awful

@cfcm_design 2 ай бұрын

i think it’s the official policy of every political party on Earth rn

@Beeatrix Ай бұрын

Literally negative bias 😂😂

@tonyjono2148 6 ай бұрын

Many thanks, I will watch this again🙂

@Mymodernfamilyasheville 6 ай бұрын

This is one of the best videos on the internet for learning how to create safety.

@alexarobinson2850 6 ай бұрын

“Goodness abounds everywhere too” ❤

@dutchhustler 6 ай бұрын

Love how you explain this wish you could do more video's, sometimes thoughts are so scary that you start to believe that you are in danger, when there is no reason to think that way. But because you feel anxious it creates more negative thoughts and it becomes a cycle . Wish you could share more skills to break those negative patterns and have more realistic logical thoughts ❤

@bgoodfella7413 6 ай бұрын

That moonwalking bear was creepy asf

@mayaphansalker1534 23 күн бұрын

😂 totally!

@vanmamawannabe6360 19 күн бұрын

There was an edit just before it came onscreen. Also, he was moving right to left ( the opposite of where we naturally look) and he was only onscreen for a couple of clicks.

@Honeybeememez 16 күн бұрын

😂 … your brain trying to keep you alive. 👻🐻

@silverpromidi 6 ай бұрын

I love this video Emma, thank you *hugs* I always give gratitude for each day I am here in the morning and in the evening in my journal.

@alanandconnielast 6 ай бұрын

This Lady is my chosen Doctor.. Shes great! Thanks

@Varykino1917 6 ай бұрын

Really great video! You are so right! That is why prayer, meditation, and stepping away from media is such a great idea. However, that said, the world is worse than ever before. But the kids are great - it's the adults who are awful! 😉

@munkeefinkelbeen5395 6 ай бұрын

It's kind of a balancing act, isn't it? Knowing that the world is at a critical juncture, but trying not to fixate on it, but also do our part to remedy the situation and remember that it's not all bad 😅

@Pdrum2 4 ай бұрын

@@munkeefinkelbeen5395 Yeah, it is really about your fixation on things, it seems more easy now days to focus on the negative. You have to take effort.

@ThinkingHut317 6 ай бұрын

The whole world is spreading negative news. Watching too much can easily lead to worry and anxiety。

@powmia6596 2 ай бұрын

I just like to thank you for all the free shorts on KZfaq. I got to see and listen to you. Help me very much through some high anxiety. And anxiety avoid cycle. I had a panic attack at work so I was avoiding working but I've worked through my feelings and emotions and I've been getting through the work day. Okay so thank you!

@dumpsterfire6351 6 ай бұрын

Great Video Thanks 🙏

@joec68500 6 ай бұрын

Love these videos. I'm learning so much.

@voices_vary 19 күн бұрын

I gave up cable TV "news" five years ago. I survived and thrived. I read selectively--and only news, not emotional opinion.

@sonalpatil3469 6 ай бұрын

Very helpful. Can you make video on Let go? Please.

@Wally-qg3ri 6 ай бұрын

Such an excellent video! If we are not aware of this, it is such an important topic to be aware of. If we are aware of this, it is a concept that we need to be reminded of. I really work on this but with my busy it is easy to forget. Thank you for the reminder!

@Mabsknows Ай бұрын

I feel like you are literally saving my life 😭. I watch this series every morning before work and it makes such a huge difference! Thank you 🙏🏾

@sandbest4395 6 ай бұрын

OMG 😮 the first sentence is a revelation! My brain isn’t made to make me happy . 1:48 it’s easy to miss something you’re not looking for. Thank you!

@elisenieuwe4649 6 ай бұрын

Those Utah examples are hilarious. It's so true. That's why I've blocked a couple news sites in my PC and phone. That way I can't partly unconsciously go to them and see the shit :p

@yonitalang4904 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for teaching us things that are never taught in school! You are such an angel! Love from Indonesia ❤

@sqlstacy 9 күн бұрын

This is an excellent post. I have found in my experience and through my meditation that short circuiting these impulses requires mindfulness, especially early. I stop the cascade by focusing on the flower and not the spider. It gets easier over time with practice. I would also note that staying away from negative people helps in this regard. Not everyone is working in themselves 😊

@im4ever369 6 ай бұрын

I've been a "Law of Attraction" believer for years. This is just another way of explaining it. Thank you!. PS I haven't watched TV for years either. Life is Good!

@77dris 6 ай бұрын

I stopped watching mainstream media years ago and it's the best thing I've done in a while. Also, "Climate Change Hysteria" is pure bollocks I found out after doing a lot of my own research on the subject (scouring actual government climate websites, listening to actual climate researchers and historians). Long story short, climate related deaths are DOWN by 95% over the past 100 years and are at their lowest in history. Polar Bear populations have increased by 300% over the past few decades, tropical storms are about the same, most of the hottest recorded temps in US history occurred in the 1920s and 1930s, water levels have barely increased (Climate Change/Global Warming people said the Statue Of Liberty was supposed to under water over 20 years ago... LOL... water level is essentially the same as when the Statue was placed there). The Great Barrier Reef is the largest it's been in a long, long time, and the media STILL tried to put a negative spin on it. Tropical storms are about the same as they were a century ago. Famine and poverty is at its lowest in the known history of humankind.... We are told these things. The only bad thing is I have friends who watch the news religiously daily and will tell me all about it. I also in my journal will write down any compliments I may get because we do tend to focus on only the negative. And men only get compliments about once every decade unlike women that get them daily.

@TheJustinJ 4 ай бұрын

The earths atmosphere used to contain 1,000pm (50Mya) ~ back when great white sharks evolved. It had 4,400-8,000ppm for the Cambrian explosion. When more diverse life forms showed up than any other point in history. The lowest ppm ever in earth history was just below 180ppm at the lowest the entire Earth was an ice ball, and the glaciers met at the equator. This ice age cycle happened 3x until (somehow? Volcanic activity?) the CO2 content reached >270ppm and was able to pull out of that ice age cycle... When 90% of all land dwelling species on the planet went extinct. 90%! People worry about one species (Polar Bear) when 90% are at stake if carbon content drops 150ppm. But almost nothing happens if it rises 150ppm. In fact, studies show doubling to 800ppm increased plant biomass by 30% and food production by almost 25% with no additional input. 😮 this is a free way how to solve word hunger...

@faith8788 6 ай бұрын

I've been watching anxiety depression Etc videos for a few years now and just found your channel and your videos are the best!! Thank you❤

@Gaston-cj4tm 24 күн бұрын

I’ve been increasingly aware of my life long focus on negative thoughts and watched many TED talks and videos to help me get better at this life thing. This video is by far the most helpful. Thank you !

@VictoryAviation 6 ай бұрын

The anxiety of approaching women to talk to them 🥵 I swear it feels like it never goes away even if I tell myself a hundred times that the outcome literally doesn’t matter and I’m not gonna get eaten by a lion 😂 It’s crippling. I can go up and easily talk to anyone… except someone I’m attracted to. If you have advice on this, I would love to hear it. I’ve heard all kinds of takes on how to fix this throughout the years, but your advice may be a little different or perhaps it clicks more. I would love to get this part of my life sorted.

@andromeda1903 6 ай бұрын

i'm a woman - same. if i'm not attracted to the guy i can be talktative and even accidentally flirty. but if there's attraction, i just make a fool out of myself lol

@andrewrees8749 6 ай бұрын

It's nature's way of telling us ,

@VictoryAviation 6 ай бұрын

@@andrewrees8749 ….telling us….

@way_truth_life_of_love 6 ай бұрын

Approach them as a friend, or better yet: re-evaluate why you are attracted to them- just because they are great-looking? Better to be with someone who is approachable and sweet and kind and loving. They will make you feel more at ease and be a better partner for life! Notice the pretty things about them, and all their other qualities!

@VictoryAviation 6 ай бұрын

@way_truth_life_of_love I’m talking about a non-controlled, autonomic, sympathetic driven response. This isn’t an ethical or moral value based response. Plus, by your reasoning, someone cannot be attractive AND approachable/sweet/kind/loving. We all know that’s not the case whatsoever. I have certainly dated several people throughout the years that I have found extremely attractive and other positive character based attributes. Otherwise I wouldn’t date them. I’m trying to say that some of us have an automatic and very strong fear based reaction to approaching women that we find attractive. And it is so strong that it has ruined a lot of opportunities to interact with women that could have potentially resulted in a relationship. It causes a lot of frustration, and worse.

@user-qo3jh9mn1t 3 ай бұрын

I came across your channel yesterday. Today I can see what a positive event that was. Glad I recognized it. Thank you. I've decided to watch one of your videos each morning.

@jackpullen3820 6 ай бұрын

This is probably one of the best videos on anxiety I've seen this year!

@DaveB038 Ай бұрын

Wow, I just love you and your content! My wife has debilitating panic attacks and your information has been by far the most practical I have seen or heard from anyone. This video in particular has so much wisdom and applicability in terms of meditation, gratitude and being careful of the news and all the negativity swirling around us if we allow it. Thank you again. You give me hope for my family and those in my family embracing so much fear. Thank you!

@brandywaters9764 6 ай бұрын

I so appreciate you. Thank you for your time, insight, and clear sincerity.

@robd754 14 күн бұрын

thank you. been trying to explain this to everyone for a while.. this is much more clear than my rants

@southerncross4956 Күн бұрын

I was 78 and looked, felt, worked like I was 50. Then 6 weeks ago I had a massive heart attack and now have two stents after a week in hospital. Nothing in my life is the same even how things taste and smell. I could have easily had PTS and it tried to move in too. However I was determined that I was not going to be a tired weak little old man (I was just that when I got home) I have a wife, a big rescued dog, two cats, a house and a lawn to mow. It has been six weeks now and I told my wife I am not going to be that heart attack guy any more. I am an old man but with age comes wisdom, understanding and knowledge more so if you ask the Holy Spirit for those things. You are wise beyond your age and are looking to make peoples lives better, God see you in this, ask Him for more then pay attention He will contact you. What you think and say about yourself has authority and power, you will become YOUR thoughts and YOUR words about yourself.

@PraveshKumar-zo8hy 3 ай бұрын

Aftrr completed 16 videos out of 30 i experence that i am the happiest person on the earth and before i was the most anxious person on the earht.. Thank u❤ Emma

@raminaghajanzadeh8998 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, what you teach us here is a new kind of wisdom, introspection and awareness of our own biases. Great job. Keep going.

@wip99 2 ай бұрын

I am soo thankful to you for this series emma. After going through the comments i realise i am not alone. I wish i found your channel and this playlist much earlier. I have been struggling from anxiety and fear since the last three years. I used to be a very happy soul and i still am very active and good when i am not anxious but sometimes i hit a low soo bad that it feels like i cant get over it ever. I thought i will have to battle with anxiety all my life but watching your videos gives me hope to rewire my brain and change my current lifestyle to come out of this spiral. Thanks a ton!!❤

@MegaSnail1 12 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for your spot on presentation. I've been encouraging folks to do hope scrolling like I do. You are part of my seeking happiness. All the best to you.