Why Your Narcissistic Husband Doesn't Want Sex
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Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.
Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:
Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.
Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.
Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.
Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
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@angelbianchi4786 11 ай бұрын
I don't think there's a greater pain than feeling lonely in a marriage.
@petiadavis5122 11 ай бұрын
From an experience, yes, you are absolutely correct.
@virgiebentley4550 11 ай бұрын
So true! My husband had not touched me for 16 years! I was so lonely but stayed married to him because of the kids.... He died 6 years ago. I recently met a great man & we are in love.... I thank God for him. I'm happy now.
@seameology 11 ай бұрын
Oh man, you just reminded me. It's been decades. That psin is pretty raw.
@ceegee5335 11 ай бұрын
There is no pain greater, None.......You are not alone but you are lonely. 😭😭
@dukeduke2790 10 ай бұрын
Kidney stones
@HH-1111 Жыл бұрын
They do it to destroy a woman's self esteem. Especially if she is beautiful to make her feel unwanted and unattractive. Story of my life. Out of everything he does this is the most painful part. Praying to God to show me a way out. 20 years of wasted time. This is too embarrassing for a woman to talk about so we suffer in silence....their shame becomes ours.
@acapellaz1 Жыл бұрын
Yes 🙌🏾 for women it feels embarrassing to talk about or like you’re emasculating the man and making him less than a man.
@ciaralee9760 Жыл бұрын
Omg I thought this might be what was going on
@Werderina Жыл бұрын
This is what they do. They should feel embarrassed! Send you much love, you will get out of this. ❤
@kristiwolfe6904 Жыл бұрын
I finally ran my 20 year narcissist off! It's great not being a victim. Kick em to the curb sweethearts!
@Jonathan-rr1we Жыл бұрын
So true
@ashleylove1100 6 ай бұрын
I believe the best way to help a narcissist man is to act like it does not bother you and start moving out and leaving.
@mzgodly8272 6 ай бұрын
I did that
@mellyg_ljc 6 ай бұрын
perfectly said. Hard to do.
@whathandleUtalkabt 5 ай бұрын
Max 2 years. Moved 100 miles away. Been 23 years. No contact good so far.
@veedee3815 5 ай бұрын
❤
@caleblpz 5 ай бұрын
As a man I second this.
@DeeMM98 7 ай бұрын
Been there the last 10 years of a 47 year marrage. I'm living alone now and loving it. I walked to his room and asked him to hold me and he said he didn't want to make his dog uncomfortable. I walked back to my room and packed my stuff and moved out the next morning.
@qrpcoaching8198 7 ай бұрын
bravo!!!!!!!!!!!!
@angelpolinek3153 4 ай бұрын
That is horrible. I just cried out in disgust. I'm so happy you left. Now just never go back.
@jacksonsoxfan 4 ай бұрын
My ex husband wouldn’t pick me up from the hospital after I was released from kidney surgery because he was busy changing lightbulbs. Ugh! He was the worst, but sounds like there are other men like him out there!
@RhodaNakkazi-fu6te 4 ай бұрын
Am trapped in a narcissistic marriage where all signs are showing that my husband is toxic to me and to my kids too....I hate him so much coz he has hurt me with his words and actions and am the most miserable woman there is in life and I regret having met him
@RhodaNakkazi-fu6te 4 ай бұрын
I don't even know how to leave him and where to begin...I feel like some one had to streach out a hand for me to get helped out...every time I try to work on my self to look better,he makes me miserable the more..and eventually I loose weight.
@skyelizkhalil3950 11 ай бұрын
Number 1 the main reason The more the woman wants affection the more he will ignore and reject her. He enjoys seeing her upset. Nothing will change the behaviour.
@tourdedogue4952 10 ай бұрын
This always happened on our 'date-nights', to the point I didn't want to go anymore.
@Greenleaves-pf2xn 9 ай бұрын
Exactly the more you express your needs which is what a basic relationship is about the more they will use it against you. They know exactly what to not give you.
@deanadaniel2634 8 ай бұрын
They enjoy the pain and suffering of denying.
@xohatariq3253 8 ай бұрын
They just want to be needed by their woman... they just want the reassurance that their woman wants him... when he gets to believe this, he starts ignoring her. Bcoz his need has been fullfilled and he wants to see her woman starving for his touch... their logic is may be, zyada pyar kr lun ga tou yeh sar charh jae gi😢
@lydiawhitting5406 8 ай бұрын
Same applies to a man dealing with a narc woman. Destroys their esteem.
@summersalix Жыл бұрын
I'm surprised p0rn and addiction to self pleasure wasn't mentioned. This is a huge issue for many in narc relationships, with hiding p0rn, paying for it behind a spouses back, breaking promises, waking up and finding him self pleasuring several times thru the night, etc. They are often addicted to sex w themselves and so ruined by p0rn that they can't get turned on by their spouse
@vicbaker8367 Жыл бұрын
👍. Very True
@nrosa4051 Жыл бұрын
True
@nanettie Жыл бұрын
Absolutely.
@cathyhinder8573 Жыл бұрын
I agree & it's very commonly the exact reason.
@girlinterrupted9145 Жыл бұрын
This is why some use women like they are the “whore” in the porn they used.
@ChingToNotWongWhite 4 ай бұрын
They withhold sex to use sex as a game against you. They don’t care about intimacy. They would rather reject you because that makes them feel powerful.
@katrinavigness1064 7 ай бұрын
Oh, my goodness! I wish I had known this 38 years ago! I always found it embarrassing that I had to beg! I never once in our marriage ever said no to my husband, but I could not tell you how many times he turned me down. It is the most humiliating feeling in the world for a woman to be throwing myself at him and even crying!
@arlenecollins9095 6 ай бұрын
yes yes yes yes
@merrillcrist5702 6 ай бұрын
I know how you felt. I would tell him I was not going to beg but them found myself accepting other behaviors just to have some intimacy with him. In retrospect, so crazy.
@katrinavigness1064 6 ай бұрын
@merrillcrist5702 yes, and it's still painful after all these years, it's the invisible scars that hurt the most 😢
@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 6 ай бұрын
Yes. Yes it is. Humiliating was a good word. 👍 I feel shame. Like what is WRONG with me???
@naturaloptions1407 6 ай бұрын
Yep I know
@ippmoeproject8502 Жыл бұрын
My husband is a covert narc who withholds sex and affection. I think he does it to hurt me. He’s done a fantastic job of making me feel unattractive.
@yvettemoore1082 Жыл бұрын
I've been there and I know how that feels...to tell you to keep up your hopes for a change to happen would be complete b.s and you're being fed enough of that at this stage.....its not easy to navigate your situation, but there is really only one answer and your watching of this channel shows you know probably already know that.....the only thing I regret is the time I wasted on them, because he won't change and you'll be older and more upset....🥰
@ippmoeproject8502 Жыл бұрын
@@yvettemoore1082 Yes I realize I need to leave but my situation is pretty bleak. We’ve been married for 33 years and have 3 kids together. My health is not good right now so until I get well I don’t think I have much choice other than to stay and tough it out for now. At least I know what I’m dealing with and I can choose to not engage in the manufactured drama. Thank you so much for your insight, it’s very much appreciated.
@ec1222 Жыл бұрын
@@ippmoeproject8502 you know, this is also a solution for some, you know your situation and at least if your heart and thoughts are reserved away from him, you can't be so deeply harmed. Just repeat truth to yourself, even verbally/out loud, regularly, because you still live in the cloud of deceit/twisted lies, but yeah I think you are looking at the situation pragmatically and I wanted to validated that.
@ippmoeproject8502 Жыл бұрын
@@ec1222 Thank you for the help. I’m happy you responded and your evaluation has given me hope that at least I’m handling this situation the best way possible. I will eventually leave, hopefully sooner than later.
@helenchitra8249 Жыл бұрын
8 years married and no sex
@daydreegirl Жыл бұрын
I think we need to tell both men and women that leaving because of lack of intimacy is valid. If there is no intimacy and therapy is not on the table--leave, run, don't look back.
@arundathirose7563 11 ай бұрын
Depends in this context do you mean just sex or over all like affection and being cold about and refusing to talk about because one could be just they are not in the mood any longer and the other something else is going on(an emotional abusive person perhaps) marriage is a covenant after all.
@USCG.Brennan 11 ай бұрын
@@arundathirose7563 A covenant, yes, but if a spouse is avoiding sex deliberately because of control or "punishment" etc, and not because of illness (mental, emotional or physical) they've already broken that covenant by what is legally called "alienation of affection". Therefore they have ALREADY broken that covenant. Any person who chooses to stay in that kind of relationship can feel "trapped" until they've finally had enough and leave. Then the one who leaves is labeled the "bad guy" because nobody knows the actual reason why. Sad, but happens alot...the person who leaves is always "at fault" in everyone else's eyes. ;-(
@vanessamccarthy7807 11 ай бұрын
@@USCG.Brennanbut what if they are physically ill or going through a deep depression? My son's dad had both after undergoing intensive and prolonged chemotherapy. He's not narcissistic just a man struggling to stay alive.
@USCG.Brennan 11 ай бұрын
@@vanessamccarthy7807 Your son's dad, meaning your significant other or husband or ex-husband? Either way, medical reasons are totally legit and understandable.
@dinab7852 11 ай бұрын
AMEN 👏
@leslievasquez2645 7 ай бұрын
I went through this for 12 years! I thought my love life/sex life was over at the age of 34. I ended up leaving him for many reasons and I’m now married to an amazing man who definitely makes me feel attractive!
@lexa_power 7 ай бұрын
Sounds like my marriage! I love this for you! Glad you got out of that bad situation!
@between2templesb.y.o.b677 6 ай бұрын
I needed that.
@saraannjohnston3839 6 ай бұрын
Same, we where together for 11 years. I could count on one hand the number of times we had sex. He would not even hold my hand. I left and now am with an amazing man. It's possible. Never give up on yourself.
@saundracohen4032 5 ай бұрын
I am 34 and this is so tough.
@laurahennessy2893 5 ай бұрын
My marriage was over 3 months after I married him. He rejected me emotionally and physically, and I caught him masturbating several times even though he claimed to be impudent. Then I caught him with his shop vac. He was always flirting with strangers right in front of me . Then he started hitting on my friends right in front of me. He is demented
@ceceliasummers6103 4 ай бұрын
20 years , My husband kicked me out of the bedroom, and if it weren’t for our young daughter, he would’ve kicked me out of the house. His money became his money. He refused to pay the mortgage refused to pay for house repairs he refused to pay for anything pertaining to the house . But he kept the Maryland State lottery. Very happy. Finally on February 13, 2024. God finally said enough is enough. people has sent cards and giving me hugs telling me how sorry they are of my loss, but this is the happiest I have been in over 20 years😂
@balanceskateboarding8807 3 ай бұрын
God's eyes don't close
@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 3 ай бұрын
I hope you got the money? Did you say he won the lottery, too? I hope he didn't spend it all and leave you with nothing. I'm no money - grabbing whore by any means. 😆 I've never cared about money at all. But you do need to survive. And you need money to survive. And let's be honest... years of misery ought to pay off in the long run. So I guess I would consider it a happy ending if, after years of misery, you finally got a payoff of some sort.
@hihi-vi7qs 3 ай бұрын
Congratulations enjoy yourself at last!
@scottchapman9931 2 ай бұрын
Women have been doing this to men for Centuries, turn about as fair play.
@victoriaquezada 2 ай бұрын
there is hope 😂
@jadejohns3107 Жыл бұрын
Are you missing the fact that - intimacy - is a nightmare for a narcissist. It’s the one thing they are incapable of - vulnerability.
@agostinodublino1387 11 ай бұрын
you're soooo right!
@janetmalcolm6191 11 ай бұрын
This is true the other way around as well of narcs.
@tourdedogue4952 11 ай бұрын
wow, that sure explains a lot.
@KoRNeRd 11 ай бұрын
You misunderstand. Narcisits are just not vulnerable. This incapability is because it does not exist. You cannot be afraid of something you know to not to exist. That is why they are not humble, as well.
@jadejohns3107 11 ай бұрын
@@KoRNeRd that’s what I said
@patr4641 10 ай бұрын
I have experienced this. When we were finally divorced he said. Who would want you at 56. 76 now. Life has never been better. Shame on him
@dakini80 6 ай бұрын
Well done 👍
@CrystalDatingCoach 5 ай бұрын
Your response. Who would want you!! Or I rather be Alone than with you!
@Kimberlinz 4 ай бұрын
That gives me hope. I am turning 55 in two months. My picture is current. We have had sex maybe 20 times in 28 years. He got mischief charges for peeping and jacking iff on video three separate busts spanning over 8 years. I would have left the first bust but I had a two year old and am living in his country, Canada. My mom would still tell him are you sorry you married her yet? I gray rocked her a few years ago. In two years my son will be 18 and I am leaving my husband for sure, even if no one ever wants me.
@taniajudy1029 3 ай бұрын
@@Kimberlinzsounds like your mom is the person who conditioned/raised you to marry someone like him. My parents were the same (both with borderline personality disorder, which is comorbid with narcissism). I'm glad you cut her off. Cutting off both of my parents was the second best decision I ever made. The best one was leaving my covert narcissist ex-husband after 17 years (and 4 kids). In both cases, I only wish I had done it years (or decades) sooner. I understand why you would want to wait until your kid is 18, but you can't get back the years you stay. The damage they cause you, and your kid seeing it all are way worse than anything leaving will cause you. (I say this from the perspective of someone who left 13 years ago, with 4 young kids, and a debilitating illness that caused me to be bedridden and in a wheelchair.) The worst days without him will be so much better than the best days with him. I promise!
@demondogmom7221 3 ай бұрын
My (ex) husband demanded to know who I was cheating with because the only possible reason I'd have divorced him was for someone else. You know because us poor fragile women need a man that badly. After listening to this 1 time too many I finally "confessed". I told him he was right. I left him for someone else. Someone who really loves me, cares about my opinion and feelings. Someone who makes me a priority. He demanded to know WHO. I told him.."I left you for ME. Everything you withhold, I can give myself. From my world view you bring absolutely nothing into my life. " He quit asking. Hmm..trainable at the end I guess.
@couturecreative 5 ай бұрын
#1 exactly what happened in my first marriage #2 in my second marriage There will not be a third marriage. I am now 65 , love being free, I care for my 92 year old mother full time, I spend good times with my grandchildren and my daughter and my closest friends. All is very good without a husband.
@pegasus5287 4 ай бұрын
I am in a similar situation! Second marriage and not willing to ever try again after this one
@user-kf3yz7so6q 17 күн бұрын
Oh yes… it is, I’ll never have another one… two was enough. First one had a lovely nature but was controlled by alcohol, marriage ended… second marriage, a full blown covert narcissist… been no contact for nine months after a 37 year marriage.
@ellesilverwolf4571 7 ай бұрын
My ex did this to me and it was so painful because I was such a cuddly person and now I feel like a nun - I still haven’t been able to break out and date anyone since breaking up with him - he made me feel so unwanted and unloved it was horrible and even though I get it I am so fearful of becoming entangled with someone who will hurt me again so I just stay away from men now… it’s really sad
@homespace1268 6 ай бұрын
True...cannot trust people enough for that anymore.
@privacy9175 6 ай бұрын
Same here. There's NO way l will ever be with anyone. I know how happy l was once, when l was single. The Happiest ever.. 😊
@baharkallaway3609 4 ай бұрын
I feel you, sister. Same here 💔
@carolynballerina5342 4 ай бұрын
Same. 13+ yrs married. Half of that I was left alone. 5 yrs separated. Still not interested or able to think about another man. My hubby was fully active with other women, one woman he had a relationship with for 9yrs during our marriage! I had no clue...
@kathybray59 3 ай бұрын
Boy I can relate to your comment
@user-vk6lq9ng5z Жыл бұрын
I lived with this for YEARS. It was so damaging to my self esteem by the time I filed for divorce I felt like I had ZERO sex appeal.
@angelarigido7161 11 ай бұрын
I'm where you we now, after being discarded by my narc 7 moths ago. I feel so ugly and undesirable..and all by myself
@NT-qd2rs 11 ай бұрын
I feel you. I was 29 y.o. hottest chick in the district, but still felt absolutely unattractive 😢
@NT-qd2rs 11 ай бұрын
@@angelarigido7161you're not ugly, I bet. There is a way out of this perception, hust recall yourself, this is HIS point of view on HIMSELF, projected on you.
@angelarigido7161 11 ай бұрын
@@NT-qd2rs Thanx for this. I'm 😃 😊 🙂. You're a gorgeous ginger too!..according to your picture
@NT-qd2rs 11 ай бұрын
@@angelarigido7161 yeah, that's my cat 😺😎😁, he's very self-assured!
@Cynthia-uc8gb 10 ай бұрын
Yep, lived with this for 24 years. I was beautiful and young but lost my looks for many years due to losing my self esteem because my spouse had no interest in me. I thought he was gay, and maybe he is, but he's definitely a narcissist and he withheld intimacy to control and manipulate me and make me feel like shit. It worked. I ended up looking older than him and horrible. I was a mess. When we finally got divorced (I left) everyone in our smallish town assumed he left me because I looked so bad. After 14 years of being divorced, and much work on myself I have found myself again. I look younger at 64 than I did at 50. It's possible to heal, but it's hard as hell. It's worth it though.
@MeadeFatLoss 10 ай бұрын
Then try looking better. We can all improve our appearance.
@piaffe25rider 7 ай бұрын
Same with me… I lost whatever looks I had… 67 now and have to “fix” everything…so expensive but worth it in the end.
@khest1821 7 ай бұрын
Amazing information & thank u so much for very well explanations & I lived with this man for 27 years & it apply to me reasons #1& 2 ; thank u a million times for the comments a brave women wrote & it gives me I’m not a lone & by faith I will make it day by day & one day I can write a book about based on true story other many women could learn from my story ; u all a wonderful & brave women ❣️
@jillb7234 7 ай бұрын
Good for you!!!!❤❤
@sjwillis1137 7 ай бұрын
Bless you . I hope you will be okay in Every way.
@adriennegould7160 7 ай бұрын
Now I get it. My husband once asked me why he always has to be the one to approach me for sex. He wanted me to approach him some of the time. So I did, but he would always turn me down. Sex was over after that.
@kjordan6045 5 ай бұрын
Same... mine would laugh
@dig1272 2 ай бұрын
@@kjordan6045omg!! 🤨😡
@Stoicisbetter 8 ай бұрын
My honeymoon was the start of my husband refusing sex. He verbally abused me the whole time we were on our honeymoon. It was so humiliating. I couldn't come back and talk to my family and friends about it when they just saw me marry the man. He constantly insulted me, until I said I was leaving. Then he told me that I was beautiful and he still wanted me. But when I said I was still going to leave I was back to the insults.
@lorabor8967 6 ай бұрын
Mine ex narc stayed out all night at the casinos in Vegas on our honeymoon. Didn't know which casino he was at, so I spent it alone in our hotel suite. I got out but sadly, 28 years later.
@artibhaumik5614 Жыл бұрын
27 yrs with a narcissist husband....17 yrs of no physical contact. Thank you for making this video. Makes me feel less alone.
@billpetersen298 Жыл бұрын
Can we put all the narcissists, on a big island? (Trump, can be the king) So the rest of us, can find each other.
@marcycat Жыл бұрын
Why stay
@SilverDragon.222 Жыл бұрын
Leave or cheat. Gotta do u, honey. 😎
@barba5537 Жыл бұрын
Yeah I thought I was only one that could allow such nonsense when I'm normally very strong.
@cc1k435 Жыл бұрын
That's part of their agenda, really. Make you feel alone when sadly the situation is common as mud.
@user-wh6wt5pw9o 11 ай бұрын
I was denied sex for 18 years after he had a vasectomy. He was addicted to internet porn, masterbation, and I was suspicious he was going to a strip club because he had a friend who worked there. I have been away from him for 6 years now and you finally gave me answers to why he did that to me. The pain of rejection was unbelievable. Thank you for the help.
@Vmaxfodder 9 ай бұрын
I have a most wonderful woman! But sex is very painful! She's just too small down there . She leave bruises on me every time !
@irismendoza33 7 ай бұрын
This man is shedding light alright. 🥴
@christinelavere2636 7 ай бұрын
My husband didn’t have a vasectomy but he don’t want sex but would watch porn an jerk of daily in the bathroom …. I know all to well the pain I’m so happy you got away
@runito75 7 ай бұрын
sex is not a right, so the use of the word "deny" smells alot of abusive attitude towards sex. But I have noticed a lot of christians think like this. Sex is something you are obligated to give to your partner. Very close to domestic rape.
@bekahdoug5572 7 ай бұрын
@irismendoza33 WHYYYY do they deny the maturation though??!! He's gone through 2 bottles of lotion a huge tub of Vaseline, an ALL the lube in the the house, but SWARES he isn't masturbating!! It's literally the MOST disgusting feeling. I feel invisible, worthless, and disgusting because I'm not the women in his porn. How do I heal?! I'm dying inside.
@ola2u 6 ай бұрын
This video is so true. I wish everyone, who sees the red flags at the beginning of their relationship with a narcissist - stop that relationship immediately. It has nothing to do with love😢
@user-rv2ph8wk4e 5 ай бұрын
I think a man who does this to his wife does not really truly love her at all!
@jerrylong891 Ай бұрын
I hope 95% of the men see this. They deserve better than all these women collaging about leaving there husbands. I bet you 95% of them are the problem. How many times did you withhold sex from your husband before he started toing the same thing to you? Doesn't feel good does it. Believe all women right? Yall are a joke. Claim responsibility for you failed marriages.
@jerrylong891 Ай бұрын
@@user-rv2ph8wk4e Goes the same for women lady.
@Tiffany_grace 7 ай бұрын
Literally the story of my life. Living like this for 13 years of my marriage and worse even in the past 5 years. I always live trying to be hopeful, but in a way feel so exhausted and drained mentally that I don’t even see the light at the end of the tunnel… let alone who I even am as a person anymore.
Жыл бұрын
That’s exactly what happened to me! I was devastated and my self esteem has never been so low. However, I got better a few months after I left the marriage
@heavenlygrandma9992 Жыл бұрын
You're lucky you didn't end up physically ill. I ended up with acute myeloid leukemia from being devalued so much. I was wanting to leave and then got sick and almost died and have been stuck here since. But.... I will no longer be here after a few more days!!
@alleveddet118 Жыл бұрын
OK.. I didn't..
@everev851 Жыл бұрын
@@heavenlygrandma9992 god bless you! Take care
@heavenlygrandma9992 Жыл бұрын
@@everev851 Thank you!
@heavenlygrandma9992 Жыл бұрын
@@sandracaezza7234 They hate it when you outsmart them, don't they? LOL I'm glad you're free. My day of freedom is coming soon. How did you monitor his phone?
@christinelawrence4315 Жыл бұрын
To all the fellow narcissistic abuse survivors ... just want to hug you all and to say that we are beautiful people which did NOT deserve to be abused. We are strong, we will endure and we will overcome!!! Love you all .. the journey is not easy but have faith that God will pull you and I through the storm XXX
@ihartsacto Жыл бұрын
Same to you and well said❤
@bonnitaanderson470 Жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏾❤️
@marieeakin8534 Жыл бұрын
Agree....please do not waste your precious years with these very sick men.
@helenduffy6642 Жыл бұрын
Amen to that. We are survivors. Thanks for sharing. 🙏💜💙
@hopekassandra8661 Жыл бұрын
After surviving a marriage with a narcissist and being single for many years, I messed around and got involved with a narcissist. It's early on and I'm backing away with no response/no contact. Prayers please.🙏🏾💜
@barbarahill2392 6 ай бұрын
I so appreciate the confirmation of what I thought about my first husband's behavior of not wanting sex. It was the control. After 15 years of mental abuse ,5 marriage counselors, and one wonderful psychiatrist ,I filed for divorce. He contested this,but after 2 years in court, I was free! I have been blessed with a wonderful, loving husband to share my life. It has brought so much healing I would urge others to gather the strength and courage to leave the abuse and start a new life!
@ShalomUSA 7 ай бұрын
It's ALL about control. Always.
@pinabasu4200 Жыл бұрын
This video is spot on! Been married to a narcissist for 36 years and it’s been lonely!
@jagodah1130 Жыл бұрын
is better to be alone then lonely ! I am alone and I am almost happy ( nobody can't replace my late husband) ! but I am not lonely!
@chanelcarlson3001 Жыл бұрын
THAT WAS HIS OBJECTIVE DO NOT LET HIM GET TO YOU!!! STAY STRONGER THAN, MAMA!! ❤️👑❤️👑❤️👑
@telikaandfam Жыл бұрын
i left him for 2 years but now im back because he openly wept in front of our kids and made me the enemy he is doing better now but i honestly cant wait for my kids are grown theres just too much damage here
@louannehenriques8206 Жыл бұрын
@@telikaandfam Do be aware that type of reaction is only for his needs, and becomes a cycle of abuse, you must care for your own needs.
@Harmonious-jm3sy Жыл бұрын
It’s lonely for sure. 34 years of this crap with a narcissistic woman. We’ve learned if it’s not about her it’s not important.
@maryannhunwick2774 Жыл бұрын
I do want to mention that narcs also have mommy issues so trophy wife turns into mommy and is not trophy wife anymore. She is cook, cleans up after her little high school chump... all those mommy things. And heaven forbid her children get in the way. He is the only child lol. It is so funny to look at now...I really better stop a that.
@brandiebridgnell581 Жыл бұрын
All of this is true!
@deborahshankovich8442 Жыл бұрын
mine had mommy issues. He needed his mommy not a wife.
@lynnfincham6839 Жыл бұрын
Omg yes! I’ve become that very person. In fact when we split last year he lived with an older man. And this older man cooked and cleaned for him too. So the mother can also be a man. They need that strong figure in their lives 🙈
@bjbobbijo5066 Жыл бұрын
I have also noticed that narcs have mother issues. I don't know about every single narc, but probably most of the male narcs I have ever encountered have mom issues. And from what I have noticed they all have porn issues as well. Creepy.
@killingsley Жыл бұрын
It's called being a wife for your husband who would die to protect & provide for you & the kids. & men are territorial, that's why he gets slightly annoyed about the kids being in the way. He doesn't mean it personally, it's just how we are designed.
@vickitilley9629 7 ай бұрын
One left off the list! The sexual objectification of the women on the N’s terms stops completely when she has a child and becomes a mother!!
@deedebdoo 5 ай бұрын
Yes. Mine is definitely narcissistic abuse and control, but, he can choose this easily because sex is a "low" thing to do with a wife and mother. I'm only hurt because I'm not at his special level of superior morality.
@DH-tp1it 4 ай бұрын
Omg- mine did that as well- such bs! Finally got rid of him! What a waste of my prime years!
@mindywhite1568 6 ай бұрын
I've been married for 39 years. I always felt like he always had a wall up between us. He would avoid me, 😮 out of the bedroom, and blame it on me. I found out he was watching porn. He would be so angry and yell at me. Everything was my fault. I later realized he was a Covert Narcissist. Then, things began to make sense. I realized it wasn't me that was the problem. But, after all these years, it destroyed my self worth. I have health issues and cant afford to live on my own. I feel like im just an empty shell. Stuck in the sand. 😢
@qrpcoaching8198 6 ай бұрын
Think about separating mentally and talk to someone about life outside your life.
@annawodecka4093 Ай бұрын
You know what? I love you and never give up. I hope you will find peace and love in yourself. As I am trying to. And have a wonderful day.
@MichelleMrozkowski Жыл бұрын
My ex husband made me feel hideous. After our separation I realized it wasn’t me. It was him. Thanks for the validation.
@sandyschneider6792 Жыл бұрын
That statement is exactly what my counselors said to me! They knew my ex for years as did his employers and co-workers. He changed when we first got married and everyone thought I was good for him. Then they watched me and my son lose ourselves until we got out!!
@johndraper3210 Жыл бұрын
*No... it was definitely you*
@truthjunkie63 Жыл бұрын
@@johndraper3210 what a loser.
@biancacaputo7174 Жыл бұрын
My ex was like this, and if any man spoke to me even the bartender when I order a drink, I was cheating on him. So he starved me of sex and the. When we split up he told everyone I was cheating on him . Never knew someone could be so cruel
@truthjunkie63 Жыл бұрын
,@@biancacaputo7174 I'm glad you got out.
@lindaanderson3698 9 ай бұрын
After 9 counselors and 17 wasted years and a horrible divorce, now I get the insight. Better late then never.
@anne-vl7qf 7 ай бұрын
The insight can take years. It did for me. The utter confusion, blaming myself to the point I was asking to be blamed. Sad though, I’m 68 now and by myself. I divorced him 30 years ago. Content knowing I’m sane, kind, caring, loving, loyal and have a few extremely good friends and family.
@anne-vl7qf 7 ай бұрын
❤️❤️❤️❤️
@vickibazter3446 6 ай бұрын
It's treacherous
@hggtg 5 ай бұрын
Me too!
@H.Michele 7 ай бұрын
You hit the mail so hard with every single word on the control issue. That was my 15 year marriage with a narc. And he was also having affairs nonstop.
@user-tr7yg7zo3j 7 ай бұрын
Sometimes a man who was sexually abused as a child will not remember having been threatened not to “tell” and so all sex becomes a threat as he grows older. He may “present” as a sexual addict (porn, prostitutes) but deep down he’s actually terrified of having sex “normally.” He may not be a typical narcissist but he is trying to control something he could not control as a child.
@beb5407 7 ай бұрын
But how do you know this was his experience ? Some men take that information to the grave..
@user-tr7yg7zo3j 7 ай бұрын
@@beb5407 Absolutely! I would think many men don’t ever realize that their past trauma is responsible for their sexual issues. A healing can come from recovery via the twelve step program Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. Just as there are anorexics in Overeaters Anonymous, there are people (not just men) who withhold sex from themselves and their partners. Literally, they are starving themselves sexually. They are still “addicts” because they are sexually dysfunctional. And many have been sexually abused.
@lollylula6399 7 ай бұрын
@@beb5407 it's irrelevant whether or not that was his experience. If he's avoiding you sexually and not willing to address the reasons with you or get help with it then he just doesn't care about the effects on you. He doesn't care about you. You're worthy of a reciprocal relationship, your wants/needs/feelings etc are worthy of being taken into consideration and being respected. He's a grown man he needs to understand the consequences of his actions and none actions. Staying in a relationship where they are doing this is just enabling them to continue to be in denial, behaviour badly, and hurt people.
@thereality3398 6 ай бұрын
@@beb5407it's for a reason . Men who are 8ped are made fun off
@user-so3km8bm4q 6 ай бұрын
Yes, but some people even after all the numerous therapists, talks, and more years of understanding addiction specialists still behave this way if you allow it in your marriage. If they understand why they have the behavior and do not change then it becomes a choice.. and you are left with being in a painful situation for you. It becomes their excuse. On the other hand plenty of people experience sexual abuse and have healthy relationships & sex. why? Don't fall for the I was abused excuse... you will waste many years of your life and come out looking like a fool.
@elainejude4616 Жыл бұрын
My ex husband....you described him to a tee! I haven't even been on a date in 20 years because I'm terrified of the kind of man I would pick. I've had to learn how to respect myself and to treat myself with love and compassion. My heart still hurts when I think of all the damage that was done to a beautiful young lady who just wanted to feel loved.
@RedNicole22 Жыл бұрын
I can relate, I dated for a few years, but never found a good one, and I’m thankful now bc I didn’t know what I was dealing with until my daughter went to therapy about my ex husband, her dad, and her therapist said he was narcissist. It was eye opening and once I started looking into it, it made perfect sense. Now I’m so afraid I would repeat the cyc and wish I were dead. I still have PTSD and we’ve been separated for many years and he remarried within a year of our divorce. He actually named two of his daughters names he and I picked out during our marriage, and I’m pretty sure it was to get back at me. I’m sure his wife has no idea either. It’s crazy what these men will do.
@tracyhull7936 Жыл бұрын
I am sorry Elaine
@luttuts6731 Жыл бұрын
Same story I didn’t realize his diagnose untill 20 years later
@terrykaphingst5106 Жыл бұрын
That is what I keep telling myself. I just want to be loved for who I am.
@christinelawrence4315 Жыл бұрын
Elaine Jude.. I divorced my now ex-husband 12 years ago because of his alcohol addiction, infidelity, abuse .. I was very traumatised to think that the "loving" man I married turned out to be a monster in disguise and could use/abuse/discard me like rubbish. If it's any comfort sister you're not alone in how you feel. I don't believe I've fully recovered on a deep emotional level. I do my best every day to be present in my daily life - work, kids, running a home etc... but there's always a deep loneliness within me and a sense my life was destroyed by this man .. (gave him the best years of my life) I don't believe I can ever truly trust a man ever again! The pain diminishes but always remains with you on some deep level. I believe and trust in God .. He is my only saving grace. Hugs, Christine
@orangeowl2819 Жыл бұрын
My ex husband told me that he quit calling me beautiful after we got married because if I hear it too much it will lose it’s meaning. I always thought that was so stupid! My new guy calls me beautiful everyday several times a day, even after 3 years! It always makes me feel beautiful ❤
@shilohbreigh3591 Жыл бұрын
Yep… NEVER EVER gave me a compliment!!! Three years. If it hadn’t been for the “love bombing stage” I would never have known that he even found me extremely attractive. He would pick up on EVERY DETAIL about me in the beginning and tell me I was beautiful. After the first month or two, he NEVER gave me another compliment again.
@kellykinkel3323 Жыл бұрын
Yes! No compliments, no affection.
@teresajohnson1022 Жыл бұрын
My husband told me he stopped calling me beautiful because he didn't want to glorify the flesh.
@cmasse64 Жыл бұрын
My first husband never complimented me. He said, if I was insecure about my looks then it wasn't his job to make me feel better about myself. That was my problem. When I met my 2nd husband, he told me on our first date that I was beautiful....and said it every single day up until the day he died. He would even tell me first thing in the morning when my hair was all crazy and I had crust in my eyes. I am so grateful that he helped me get my self-esteem back.
@MelissaPicchietti Жыл бұрын
wow, same exact thing - he did not want it to go to my head...but felt the need to criticize me daily
@catehastings128 6 ай бұрын
My ex had all 4. You nailed it. My therapist helped me to see it. I have been free of this sick entanglement for over 9 years. One of the best decisions I have made in honor of myself in mind , body, and spirit
@Bitemynekk 7 ай бұрын
I can relate to a lot of this. Huge hugs to everyone who can relate. Please make sure to heal, and know that you're beautiful ❤
@monie7693 Жыл бұрын
I have a lump in my throat and a stone in my heart. It's so painful to acknowledge that this was done to me for years to simply to hurt me and damage my self esteem.
@mymai5859 Жыл бұрын
I feel you. It's been so demeaning. Despite being divorced 15 yrs it's hard to admit that he had CONTROL by withdrawing affection for so long. It took me years to realise he was a total Narcissist. 😢
@amygalvin1799 Жыл бұрын
Hard to fathom someone hurting someone they allegedly love. Very sick.
@nancysmyth9686 Жыл бұрын
Yes. This has happened to me. My husband now has dementia. Very sad.
@dellavest9269 Жыл бұрын
I was in this relationship for way too long. I would lie next to him at night, crying because I wanted him...while he witheld and laughed at my tears. Forget couoles counseling...they lie so quick and slick, you won't know what hit you. They just learn new terms and techniques for abusing you even more. You win by giving up and walking away.
@bluecollarlit Жыл бұрын
This phenomenon was addressed in The Sopranos. Dr. Melfi is advised that psychoanalysis only helps the sociopath learn new tricks of manipulation.
@Js-wd6dr Жыл бұрын
Wow...what an abusive person he was watching you cry over him...terrible! Very sad actually to see someone 😢 cry...
@thisisme3238 Жыл бұрын
You win by "walking away," NOT " giving up."
@AdonnaPrice Жыл бұрын
Or tells you to call him by a different name and his nipples are real tender..🙄
@ginarenee1625 Жыл бұрын
I brought up this exact issue in our marriage counseling session and the male counselor said that it is human nature. The therapist said that it was a natural thing to go towards some thing, that is pulling away from you and away from something coming toward you. I was not satisfied with the answer then. Not when it’s husband and wife, imho. We are now divorced. It was a nightmare.
@dmariebella6309 6 ай бұрын
I think that last one hit the nail on the head. I remember before we got married he said he prefers the chase and likes leaving me hanging. Where I was like "you either want me, or you don't!" Thanks for this.
@mewrmaid 6 ай бұрын
It is the WORST. I really hope people who went through relationships like these find these videos because it's been soooo comforting for me to deal with the pain and all the questions I was left with. Thank you!
@rdnugent1 Жыл бұрын
Your number one reason is spot on. This is all about control. My husband literally said one time when asked by our pastor (about something else - not sex) why he was withholding something from me, "Because THEN she gets what she wants!!" And there it is.
@lyalyakim9898 Жыл бұрын
This is really sad that narcissists don't want their spouses to be happy...
@pegagonza3784 Жыл бұрын
😮 one time he said I didn’t deserve it, when everything started 7 years ago
@honey-feeney9800 Жыл бұрын
I agree . You’re onto something important. When I would ask for something my ex-husband would make sure I didn’t get it. He was very generous to his buddies, our son , and his family . But, after 20 years when I asked for a diamond that he couldn’t afford to buy me when we decided to get married , he flatly said “no, it’s just a piece of rock.” He married the other woman and guess what!!!!??? He bought her a diamond . it was the significance of the ring that meant something . I felt like he turned on me, like a hatred .
@syzygy4365 Жыл бұрын
@@ViralVibes_01 if that worked none of us would be on here.
@MW-uk5ji Жыл бұрын
@@syzygy4365 my narcissistic ex husband met his match in his new wife. She's a narcissist control freak. I think they just like the challenge of one upping and punishing each other
@allieeverett9017 Жыл бұрын
Married twice to two different types of Narc...it is heartbreaking and I've been single now for 22 years. Best choice I ever made.
@brendak7781 Жыл бұрын
Me too
@Tiamat_Dantor Жыл бұрын
Same here. We got this.
@JJNow-gg9so Жыл бұрын
Me too and had to deal with the deaths of 2 daughter's alone I'm ok now being alone. Bless you.😢
@amywaite4083 Жыл бұрын
I married 2 as well. Ugh
@cherylmcelman6648 Жыл бұрын
Me too, you are not alone. ❤
@hguerin1972 6 ай бұрын
Yep it’s so great to find this topic spoken about. My “common law” husband started shaming me for being sexual, told me it was my fault he didn’t want to have sex, recoiled at my affection…the last time we ACTUALLY got together after a year of nothing he came back into our room and started SCREAMING at me because I had left a mess in the kitchen while I was naked and just shaking. He shamed me completely. I never tried to initiate again. He’d also brag to me that he had a high sex drive and got himself off twice a day. ( yeah right) but it was very hurtful and confusing until I figured out he actually got off on treating me so poorly. The light went off… he won’t have sex because he knows I’d like it! I’m stuck living in his house trying to save every penny I can for my exit plan. Even worse are the days I still have hope that he’ll just come home and be nice to me again… my heart breaks all over again.
@Camy211 6 ай бұрын
I lived exactly the same situation as yours… don’t waste your time, he’s not gonna change. Stay only if there’s financial gain and free your mind from hope and expectations. It is hard, I know but you will reach this clarity. Stay strong 💪
@eliz1866 6 ай бұрын
Your life will be so much better when you leave. Believe in yourself and you deserve someone who is nice and capable of caring. Best wishes for you. Narcissist have a problem, they never grew up. So, it not your fault.
@FadugbaAdesola-ni4xk 5 ай бұрын
You are better off him.
@hain7 5 ай бұрын
😢 the hope😢 I am looking only to God because i need him to direct me. I had my husband higher then i should have.
@AT-pw9dx 4 ай бұрын
@@eliz1866THIS
@bluesnites 6 ай бұрын
When you realize the silence is deafening ~ and being single is better than married and miserable ~ the real work begins.
@sharonjudd7786 Жыл бұрын
Save yourself and go no contact. I was married for 20 years to a narcissist who played all the games mentioned in this heartbreaking vid. Being a Christian woman I thought I had to stay in that sick cycle. It’s been 4 years since I left. God has never left my side. Excellent information for anyone who needs it.
@barbaragraham-siegenthaler Жыл бұрын
This is also my story.
@matildagreene1744 Жыл бұрын
Almost all of my married friends (long time married) have actually lived their husbands life, not theirs. I'm happily living in my kids and pet relationships 😘 You don't have to be married or with a significant other to be happy. I wouldn't trade my life for ANY other.
@RozettaVyper Жыл бұрын
Even God would tell you to divorce. It's humans that tell you to remain in a doom relationship.
@pamelabarone5868 Жыл бұрын
I am so thankful you are out of this. 🙏
@pamelabarone5868 Жыл бұрын
@@matildagreene1744 I enjoy being alone and a mother as well. I do not want the pain after all this. I am happy alone.
@valerienewsome3019 9 ай бұрын
The worst parts for me were not understanding what was going on and questioning why and feeling like I was the only woman going through this.
@UhuruMaat 7 ай бұрын
YES
@sherlitawilson765 7 ай бұрын
It empowered me to know I wasn’t alone…
@pintsizestories196 6 ай бұрын
The internet has allowed us to find out that we are not alone and hear explanations about how a narcissist works. KZfaq has been really helpful for me. Hope you are encouraged as well.
@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 6 ай бұрын
Yes!!! Feeling like there's be something wrong with me! Not just because he doesn't want me... what kind of woman can't even get her Husband to want her? But also because I want and enjoy and crave (and need and dream of) sex and intimacy!!! Again... what kind of GROSS, DIRTY, NYMPHOMANIAC SLUT of a Woman actually wants sex like me? Thank you all so much for letting me know I'm not wrong. Im not crazy. I'm not gross. I'm not "unladylike". And there's nothing "wrong" with me. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@reneeevans8864 5 ай бұрын
Your not alone my husband was different from the beginning his passive way he has never initiated and when he did early on i noticed he wasnt proactive i found my self having to tell him what to do . I had never been with a pornography addict but i knew it was different which he continued to lie about even when caught. i felt so lonely with him 24 yrs of marriage because im disabled now im 57 but im a young 57 he has drained the life from me he also has weird voyeuristic habits with me that keeps me triggered im suicidal he just wants to masturbate watch me while im asleep without my consent its a nightmare
@sage602 6 ай бұрын
After 20 years of dealing with this silent pain I went wild and found a lover for 7 years. Had the best times of my life with him. Had a few other flings too. Yeah I went wild.
@jean6453 5 ай бұрын
Good for you ! Just make sure you are having safe sex. I hope you find a great partenr to share your life with.
@rebeccamartin2399 5 ай бұрын
That is what I am in the process of doing. I havent been made love to in 20 or so years. I feel like I'm dying inside with him. I want to live.
@msgingerjourney 19 күн бұрын
I'm ready to go wild.
@user-mm8gf1wo4n 6 ай бұрын
This is me! I have been turned down from even sitting naked on his lap kissing him. I was almost convinced I was ugly and unattractive in physique. But I'm not. It's all control and so very mean and cruel. I'm trying right now to get out. I may only escape with my life and self respect... And should probably count that as better off than many other women.
@qrpcoaching8198 6 ай бұрын
You will be free from control and you will blossom. I am convinced that you will find real love again. Hold on to that thought.
@meditacionconlorea 6 ай бұрын
Same situation 😢
@kaiwangsalsa Жыл бұрын
It's also called " sexual abuse". They make u want to have sex with them but they physically rejected it. They want control u over and dominate the relationship by ur disappointment and fear. They feel Shame to chasing u so they switching the position from " chasing" to " be chased". Just from my personal experience. Wish I can help somehow by sharing this to everyone.
@thuylu8479 Жыл бұрын
Thankssss❤ this what exactly i keep wondering and wondering during my 5 years marriage. He many times just kissed me then he denied sex, now i know that because he wants to control me and “be chased” with my disappointment and fear and confusion. I am living separately and about to complete divorce papers with him now👍
@stasa-X Жыл бұрын
I was in this marriage for twenty years and he always kissed me in front of people with passion but when returned home he refused to have sex. This situation was so confusing to me and i always wondered why? Fortunately 🤞 i divorced him and i have a ten years relationship with many respect, love and sex.
@lynnhiggins7340 Жыл бұрын
Honestly thought it was just me! After 20 loveless years and being treated like I was nothing...... I found out my husband was having a full loving relationship with another man... I was the facade for his shame. Crushing doesn't even cover it. 💔
@fruitypopwhickle6806 Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ 20 hearts for each year you deserved to be loved upon. I hope you're alright and that you can find a way out.
@almabarron4305 Жыл бұрын
Oh love feel free now God have someone better. Just keep the lesson not the teacher, I all about love ourselves more so nobody can hurt us 😊
@lisaaustin4561 Жыл бұрын
I hope you left him!
@IhaytFukkingsocialmedia Жыл бұрын
how did u not know
@vickivandermerwe3896 Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry 😭💔
@tanyac.c.macbean4707 7 ай бұрын
My ex & I had room mate marriage. After watching this, I've diagnosed him as 100% narcissist. Without a doubt.
@stephanieosuch9401 7 ай бұрын
Don't do that yourself though. People are too complicated for that. Get a professional. I reason line that is not an easy thing to diagnose. Doing something narcissistic and being a narcissist aren't the same. Get some support for what you're going through
@chrissyheymann2351 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for intelligently,truthfully,and empathetically explaining why narcissistic husbands don't have sex. You just validated all wives who have gone thru this! You could teach many other counselors!
@anitalphillips 11 ай бұрын
Just had my 50th anniversary. 70 years old and thanks to this video I just happened upon, I finally understand my marriage and why I never seemed good enough. Thank you.
@tourdedogue4952 11 ай бұрын
Wow, sorry. And, I thought 36 yrs was bad. I would have probably stayed longer but he had an affair! (jezus-did they have sex?!) What a bloody waste of time on my part.
@lb3410 9 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you've had to feel that. I'm coming up on 28 years of marriage and I'm grateful to be learning now and hopeful that even if I never have another relationship I will someday be free from this one. He controls all the money and I can't afford to get a lawyer or even to fill out the paperwork to file by myself, but he has more than enough money to hire a lawyer, and has told me he doesn't care if it costs upwards of 40,000.00 he will fight everything in our divorce, he says child support is theft, I'm terrified he's going to be able to take everything away from me and so I am still here. Sharing a bedroom with our 5-year-old daughter and accepting whatever treatment he dishes out.
@momzies93 8 ай бұрын
@@lb3410you need to seek help!! He is abusing you! Please… find someone or an organization to help you! You have a little girl who needs protection and needs you to stand up for her as well!!
@anne-vl7qf 8 ай бұрын
You’re good enough ❤❤
@gige0156 8 ай бұрын
You’re not only GOOD ENOUGH. YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM. REPEAT THAT. GIRL. YOU ARE TOOOOOOO GOOD FOR HIM.
@denisebradford5241 Жыл бұрын
As my ex-husband once said about our marriage, "I am happy, so there is no problem." The counselor replied, "don't you understand that there is a problem because she's unhappy, and you're in a relationship?" He didn't get it.
@vanessak.2353 Жыл бұрын
He got it, he didn't care.
@nanapipi1901 Жыл бұрын
Thats deep👍
@ashhh2008 Жыл бұрын
This resonates with me. I’ve tried to have a conversation with my husband to express that I am unhappy in the marriage and my reasons and his response was he is happy
@matildagreene1744 Жыл бұрын
Of course he didn't get it.
@kathymills3476 Жыл бұрын
@@vanessak.2353 : 🏆🏆 WINNING COMMENT 🏆🏆
@cheezykrafts8134 7 ай бұрын
I didn't know anyone was going thru this till I found this video today. We broke up 11 years ago and today was the first explanation of what happened for those 7.5 years that has made everything I can remember make sense. For 20 years I've been convinced that the world is lying to me and men don't actually care for sex. I'm going to have to have a lot of thinking time after watching this and I've already ugly cried twice.
@UX_Chats 6 ай бұрын
Was denied of sex for years and finally got divorced. He left me actually thank God! Feeling great! Thank you for this video - such a great encouragement for all gorgeous women out there to stop trying and leave.
@brendamoon2660 Жыл бұрын
Narcissists don't marry for a relationship. They marry to have someone available to bully. They will use everything at their disposal to hurt you. It's like a cat playing with a mouse one little wound at a time
@NightinGal89 Жыл бұрын
Also, social validation. That's the main reason they marry
@RiversRun 9 ай бұрын
After you leave and see the amount of people who hit on you, send you Flowers, take you out, hold your door etc; you realize it ISNT that you're not desirable. They're just sick is all. I always tell people it WASNT YOUR FAULT.
@pennyacme380 3 ай бұрын
27 years of constant games. He died 6 yrs ago and I'm still learning about the abuse of control. He was all about that!
@Baghini007 5 ай бұрын
I was blown away when I found out about this many years ago. I'm a clinician myself and never learned this in school or from professional experiences. I'm still unable to grasp this.
@rocheller750 Жыл бұрын
This is so spot on. Sex with my ex was always so weird and confusing. I got sick and tired of the games and manipulations because of his insecurities. He preferred having sex with a computer screen until I lost interest, and then I was accused of being non-sexual and frigid. I’m so glad I’m out of that crazy relationship.
@barbaragraham-siegenthaler Жыл бұрын
Sounds exactly like it, and then came the weird addictions… really sich, and now I am in the process of getting out. I am so glad and can feel peace again.
@iseeyall Жыл бұрын
I was so glad when I no longer wanted sex or any affection from him - Oh happy day
@pamelabarone5868 Жыл бұрын
That is what happened to me as well. You are not alone.
@helenduffy6642 Жыл бұрын
I was in the same boat as you. Thanks 😢
@matildagreene1744 Жыл бұрын
The sexuality of men is all about fantasy. They don't speak about that reality or are ever honest about it. That's probably a good thing. No women would want one...LOLOL.🤣
@olgapivovarova4123 Жыл бұрын
This is exactly about me! Once I was crying because he refused me and he got angry and said: Look at yourself, who’d want you? It was heartbreaking. I was young and beautiful, and never heard anything like that from anyone before
@yvettievs4063 11 ай бұрын
You poor darling x I hope you're healed ❤️
@olgapivovarova4123 11 ай бұрын
@@yvettievs4063 thank you dear🌹
@cheryllyons3738 11 ай бұрын
Hugs
@cheryllyons3738 11 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to all of you. God I know this pain and sadness.
@olgapivovarova4123 11 ай бұрын
@@cheryllyons3738 thank you for your kind words! God bless you 🙏
@PatBlack-sj7tg 7 ай бұрын
That happened to me from the start..he became very distant avoided me in every way..He finally admitted that he didn’t want sex when it was there all the time..😮 so I was to live with a loveless marriage but he expected me to stay loyal to him..while he was getting forbidden sex elsewhere..I found that out later..😢
@ellesilverwolf4571 7 ай бұрын
Omg I also had my baby’s dad come out as trans after 5 years… two weeks after asking me to marry him … after bearing him a child and abandoning me while I was pregnant - it was mind blowing 😢
@julietcoles6245 6 ай бұрын
Man, I am so sorry you experienced that.
@Seminal_Ideas Жыл бұрын
You've absolutely nailed this. My own father literally destroyed his marriage to a beautiful wife in order to lord it over her. My mother was crushed, and was always second guessing his actions. Denied any affection and constantly criticized. Her deeply religious conditioning meant that divorce was not an option. My siblings and I walked on eggshells. Arguments, put-downs and the silent treatment were the norm. Hell on Earth. F*cking stress that's ruined our marriages, all four of us are now divorced. Thank you so much for your insights.
@TheRoyalWe Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching
@Seeker0fTruth Жыл бұрын
@@sophiyahsunflower7259 amen
@Seminal_Ideas Жыл бұрын
@@sophiyahsunflower7259 well done for finding the inner strength. I hope you discover a deep peace in your precious life.
@deborahwilcox5716 Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry you had to endure such a horrible existence as a child. So sad
@carollancaster2389 Жыл бұрын
My Father did this with my Mother..cheating on her with another woman..and so did my husband.
@your1supporter Жыл бұрын
My husband withheld affection and words of affirmations but he always poured it out openly for others around us, even total strangers. When I finally spoke up about it he called me "crazy." He thoroughly enjoyed hurting me. There were nights I'd cry myself to sleep and to feel helplessly alone and lonely. As a housewife, it's not feasible to just walk away but I've begun to untangle myself from him through my feelings.
@hereim5648 Жыл бұрын
Watch Surviving Narcissism.
@jeanieolahful Жыл бұрын
I did that, and left when my children got older. And I never looked back.
@your1supporter Жыл бұрын
@@jeanieolahful I love that for you! 🤍 My day is coming, when I'll be fully free and independent from him and just like you I'll never look back.
@benedictaanyigba9817 Жыл бұрын
OMG You've been there right? It's a horrible experience
@lesley.l.goodson Жыл бұрын
Sounds so familiar.
@Occams_Razor489 6 ай бұрын
I found this video and now I’m hooked. I’ve not experienced anything like this thank God and when I read the comments from women who did or do I can’t imaging living like this. Throughout life we all hear stories about narcissists and narcissistic abuse but I never ever understood or never could put a measure on the levels and types of the abuse these men cause. For me the personality of these men are definitely on the spectrum of the dark triad. How in the world do these women ever heal after surviving something like this?
@jennyleesoutherngirl 3 ай бұрын
I was married to a narcissist husband who sadly preferred porn over me and wasn’t willing to admit that there was a problem, most likely an addiction. I am an attractive, loving, unselfish woman I cooked I cleaned. I worked 50 hours a week and I never denied my husband, but he had his dirty little secret that he kept from me and over the course of 10 years it destroyed, our intimacy, my self-esteem and our marriage. I divorced the person who was my soulmate and the love of my life trust with completely broken down and the magic and the fire that I had with him was destroyed and it’s really sad. no doubt that years from now he will live to regret losing me.. thank you, I enjoy listening to your topics. I find them helpful and it’s refreshing to hear you talk about these issues. I may be a bit old-fashioned and I expect a man to be a man but a man that would treat a good woman like this, is not a man at all!
@debraanchante3661 Жыл бұрын
Ok after hearing the number one reason that makes sense too.. my ex was sadistic. He liked hurting me. So he knew that withholding sex and all affection really hurt me. He knew that I like to cuddle in bed, so he never would come to bed with me. If he knew I liked something he’d deny me that thing. If we were going on vacation and he asked where I wanted to go, I couldn’t tell him because for sure we wouldn’t go there. What movie do you want to see?? I just eventually learned to say, whatever you want is fine with me. But denying sex was a special kind of cruelty.. I was never so lonely and empty as I was while married to him.
@mollyoneil809 Жыл бұрын
Same here. Absolutely heartbreaking
@yorubabradley5707 Жыл бұрын
This explains so much! I finally got the courage to leave my husband of 30 years. Everyone outside of our home thought we were the example of a good marriage. After decades of trying to seduce my him, walking on egg shells, mind reading, advocating for potential I thought I saw, living with his perpetual dark cloud, stone walling & gas lighting I was beyond frustrated, unhappy & depressed - I realized I was in a toxic & abusive relationship made the decision to leave. It was the hardest thing I had to do (& I'm not a stranger to abandonment, abuse, neglect & death of loved ones). The grieving process was brutal - I didn't trust my myself. I didn't even know what I liked or enjoyed. I had to learn to exist with only me & find joy. I discovered how broken I am & it was a struggle to find my confidence because I had been faking it for so long. It is an ongoing journey. I'm in a very healthy relationship & I still fight the urge to run away when I overthink. Being in a healthy relationship triggers so many of the toxic experiences I endured. I'm learning to be present, relax, trust, enjoy & know I'm worthy of something so beautiful that I didn't know existed. ❤
@yorubabradley5707 Жыл бұрын
@Sunflower-ug3eh It has been a painful journey & I've almost succeeded in self sabotaging my happiness & relationship numerous times. It's still a challenge for me & I'm actively doing the work on myself every day (some days are easier than others). So much so - there are times I get sick & tired of myself... lol! I had to realize & remember no one is going to save me or love me through the hurt & pain- despite me praying, getting upset & entering depths of depression I didn't know existed. Once you come to the revelation that you're truly enough & all you have, you'll attract the right one. I promise that you're more than worth it & anything is better than sitting in our trauma & allowing ourselves to quit- we're too resilient & loving to not find joy ♥️
@CMichelleWhite Жыл бұрын
@@Sunflower-ug3eh if you’re in that type of relationship… It is so freeing to get the courage to leave. Once I left, I found a way (KZfaq video, TikTok, etc) to love myself more than I would ever love anyone else. I began traveling and living my bed life! Fast forward I ran into him five years later and he apologize for all the bad ways he treated me. I responded that he only treated me bad a couple of times, and I treated myself bad the remainder of the times by staying with him. I refuse to be a victim anymore.
@jeanmccallum-xs8rk 11 ай бұрын
Good for you.
@victoriajarvis2260 11 ай бұрын
You are an inspiration to me.
@Elsie144k 11 ай бұрын
My story also almost word for word. Still waiting on my happy ending relationship to make what I went through worth it. Nit sure it’s going to happen for me in this lifetime tho. So in the mean time just practice self love and more self love and getting real comfortable with the idea of being joyfully single forever
@DeserieDonae 6 ай бұрын
This was the story of my first husband. Couldn’t “perform” and proceeded to cheat for years. Then my next relationship was all about control, he withheld sex and love. It took years to leave, but I finally did. So painful! 😢 I’m sorry to all the people facing this trauma.
@marytaylor9504 8 ай бұрын
My Decernment came from the Holy Spirit! Let me know to move. Away from Evil!!
@swanfeather6228 15 күн бұрын
AMEN !
@anitaknupp8718 Жыл бұрын
I cried. I put up with this for 30 years. I was a virgin when we married, but knew about 2 weeks in there was something wrong. It wasn't just with holding. He would look at me with such disgust and berate me. There weas one time when I was in a very high risk pregnancy, sex could cause me to lose the baby, and even die. He suddenly wanted sex. Same a few years ago. The night before my open heart surgery. Sex litteraly could have killed me. And here recently. I just didn't know what was going on. Now I do. So I'm gone.
@jeanette1495 Жыл бұрын
Think it through financially with CPA. Leave, without going into poverty.
@victoriaslife Жыл бұрын
Sex can not make anyone die that is bs. I was in the orange unite which is as high risk as you can get and took lamaz class and I know for a fact that having sex will not kill you. I know people with heart trouble who can have slow sex and still survive.
@Pedigree24 Жыл бұрын
😢 so sorry
@junekibsey8541 Жыл бұрын
Okkk
@bebetigre1252 Жыл бұрын
wanted sex when you were at risk is so you refuse and they can blame you as refusing sex.
@catharinerobbins9766 Жыл бұрын
This is so true. I married my college boyfriend in 1979 and lived through 10 years of hell. He was a controlling, manipulative mean human being. I fekt like a servant in my own home and it has taken me years to deal with all the fallout. We both remarried and he died 10 years ago from a stroke. His 2nd wife.had a miserable life as he cheated on her as he did when we were married. She had the last laugh as she got all his money and now is enjoying life if yiu have the chance, run and never marry this man. If you do get married, get out before the major financial entanglements and before you start a family. These men are not only bad husbands, but lousy fathers as well.
@karenwatts6652 6 ай бұрын
Wow....just WOW!!!😮 This answers so many questions and relieves me of so much guilt and self-blame. #1 is too close to the truth. Thank you for putting this out there.
@user-gl9jc2xu3z 2 ай бұрын
The truth never fails to beat up a narcissist’s lies and ego. It has a tendency to deflate them. Having a narcissist as a spouse or companion is a lonely experience and they become extremely jealous when others are happy. They don’t deserve an explaination when they’re dumped.
@bonitajolie9341 Жыл бұрын
Spot on. I lived it for 11 years! I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Been free now for almost a decade, thank the Lord!! I'd rather be alone than to live in that hell ever again!!! Be safe ladies. ❤️
@cassandrachristian4328 Жыл бұрын
Same! I was married for 11 yr and divorced for 11 years now. It really was torture. I'm sorry you went through it too. ❤
@wendyhannan2454 Жыл бұрын
Be selective ladies, there’s so many controlling narcissistic men out there. If you suspect their controlling, and you think you can change them, think again, you can’t !! They never change, and they know exactly what their doing.
@lynnfincham6839 Жыл бұрын
Same 11 years he’s withdrawn from sex . We had frank discussions . We are now splitting up
@benedictaanyigba9817 Жыл бұрын
I did for 12 years . Nobody understands you. People think you're making up stories. Here I am narcissist free. It's the worst experience anyone can go through.
@helenduffy6642 Жыл бұрын
It's wonderful to know that other women have been through the same as me and can now share.
@clairpennels4443 10 ай бұрын
Ladies, RED FLAGS RED FLAGS 🚩 DON’T IGNORE THEM.
@PerliuxXx 6 ай бұрын
Jesus! After reading tons of the comments, I am glad that I just lived with my narcissistic ex-boyfriend for 1 year, until I wore him off and he finally left. I didn't want to leave because it was like "giving up", but I did set boundaries until he left.
@brittanystewart723 8 ай бұрын
I dealt with this behavior for almost 9 years now and I stopped being ready. Now, I’m at fault for why he doesn’t give or share intimacy, because I’m not ready for him. How is that fair? How is it my fault when he hasn’t wanted anything all this time, only to blame me for not being prepared anymore.
@margogreen8619 11 ай бұрын
This is my life, no sex, no affection, nothing for the last 10 years!
@lizbeskalis6735 10 ай бұрын
@margogreen8619 you are the only person who can decide to get out of the situation and have a wonderful life without him so do it!!! I did it and I am happy I did you are worth it 💕💕💕
@tourdedogue4952 10 ай бұрын
Oh, just 10 years...please dear, know it won't change. Don't invest anymore time. Somebody out there will love you.
@t_a_r_r_y_n_ 10 ай бұрын
But he can name call you at a drop of a hat...
@user-2911 10 ай бұрын
Who wants sex from an abuser? Valid question
@valerienewsome3019 9 ай бұрын
What if it goes on for nearly a decade?
@mieshiagant Жыл бұрын
I’m dealing with a narc husband currently. I’m so thankful I am strong willed because I haven’t lost my mind. I’ve been married for 26 months and weave had sex maybe 8 times. It’s about to come to an end because I’m not the one for the BS!! 😅
@badnana1833 Жыл бұрын
A little over 26 months married here also. God has been bringing these types of videos up since about 4 months after that and I dismissed it. First anniversary was like I was a widow and found out he was trying to hook up with a multitude of women online, paying for viewing and way to much more. He did go to a therapist but the only change is he isn't trying to hook up and views for free. These videos kept on popping up so I have done hardcore binge watching and finishing my 2 book. Now that I know what he is, this is intentional and not based off the reason for his short term therapy; there will never be another opportunity for him to manipulate me again. I'll be adjusting my crown like a daughter of the One True King does and kicking evil out
@karensaville913 Жыл бұрын
Good for you ...run I did ...it's a form of abuse...after 6ths of marriage mine was destroying me..just end it
@joymcarthur5429 Жыл бұрын
Seriously, throw his a$$ out and find someone who will appreciate you.
@MamaK1776 Жыл бұрын
Well done! I was researching annulment 3 weeks in, kicked out of marriage counseling at 4 yes bc he was wasting the counselirs time. Stuck it out and fought it til year 12. Been 9n my own 12 years now. I regret the time I wasted, what my kids witnessed, I do not regret standing and fighting. It didn't help the situation, but I kept a bit of my strength
@janeaustentv9226 Жыл бұрын
Get out of this toxic relationship now plz. I hung out for 29 years don’t do this to yourself.
@motiff3352 5 ай бұрын
I’m not equally yoked. Every single reason 4 through 1 was directly on point. Thank you for the knowledge. I faced a hard truth that is also confirmation. Amen 🙏🏿
@TheWell22 6 ай бұрын
Exact description of what my 6yr marriage was like,you hit the nail on the head with church,medicines,a real awakened video. I ended my marriage,got free&did2courses to educate myself on DV,incuding emotional control,i certainly got my 'Freedom Eyes' then you see abuse and control everywhere in this world. Know your worth,keep loving you and modelling that to others,set clear boundaries,become aware of red flags by educating yourselves about abuse and personality traits like narcissism. I met my husband in a church, it begins with charming kindness,love bombing,generosity,romance,constant texts&calls,generous gifts,hotels,shopping sprees,all a grand delusion. They are terrible with money&lacking transparency &no accountability, break agreements,lie often. I feel blessed to have escaped but takes years to properly heal. Great video, people need to learn this stuff,understanding releases us from the prison of our own mind where we interpretted Their behaviours as being about us&how unattractive we are,self doubt,suspicion,self consciousness,self loathing,self rejection... ooh the vile personality of those partners. Get away and never look back,go NO contact,its the only way.
@OUTHERETRYNASURVIVE Жыл бұрын
This was also my experience & it was HORRIBLE. The touch deprivation alone was crazy making. He tore me all the way down with this.
@sashatrinidad3498 Жыл бұрын
Omg the no touching was the worst 5 years no hugging or touching ever, my grandma died when I was 5 months pregnant and not even a hug, he was watching Tom and Jerry laughing not 3hrs after her passing.
@authenticme7351 Жыл бұрын
Me too😢
@ScreamingDolphins Жыл бұрын
Me too
@Luckywab Жыл бұрын
Hugs 🤗
@Gojifan6710 Жыл бұрын
Me too! He kissed me like the first 2 months into our relationship, then he wouldn’t kiss me or touch me after that.
@lusheslamoan151 Жыл бұрын
Only 10 minutes in and I felt like crying. My life was this. Healing is what I’ve been doing.
@matildagreene1744 Жыл бұрын
D I V O R C E
@cindymcdonnell2119 Жыл бұрын
Same ! Just left 2 weeks ago after 27 years , I was to embarrassed to speak up .
@pamelabarone5868 Жыл бұрын
Keep healing put yourself first and go no contact.
@EvilTink1_ Жыл бұрын
I’m literally bawling
@bri3383 8 ай бұрын
I was 10 years together with a narcisst. He was in the beginning very interested in sexuality and as soon as we have been a couple it changed to deny from his side. I tried a very long time to change it, but it was not possible. A long time I thought it was me, not good enough, not beautiful enough...Then he also started to nag me: I was thinner and had fewer dents when we met. At the same time, he liked it when other men were interested in me and he could demonstrate that I was his girl. No matter what I tried to do to bring in the sexuality, he refused. When I gave up and got toys, he devalued my desire for sexuality and even made fun of me. When I finally broke up with him, he emailed me saying that it's normal for sexuality to diminish in long-term relationships. He emphasized that sexuality was no longer an option for him. He doesn't need it and I won't find another great guy like him, but at the same time he started a sexual relationship with another woman. I'm glad it's finally over.
@KRedReads 6 ай бұрын
My last bf did this. I'm 100% sure he is on the spectrum. So a lot of his issues looked identical to narcissism. The reasons may have been different, but the effect was the same. And he definitely did it as a control and punishment thing as well. He didn't even like giving me hugs. It was awful. And it didn't start out that way. It was because I told him I didn't want to live with him. So he spent the next 3 months punishing me by being cold and completely unaffectionate. I've never in my entire life had to beg for affection in a relationship and l will never do it again. It was so awful and damaging.
@donnamann5150 5 ай бұрын
I have been through the same situation and I do not not believe that the issues presented by autism are identical. I know that experts suggest that autism and narcissism can be confused, but I have no doubt that two states can just as readily co-exist in someone who is on the spectrum as someone who is not. Ask yourself this very simple question - is there any reason why a person on the spectrum cannot also be a narcissist? Having a spectrum disorder creates its own difficulties, but it does not excuse the abusive patterns that we are discussing here. Mental health and brain wiring are one thing. Having an abusive approach to relationships has is to do with the person's values. Unless we can say that a person on the spectrum has not beliefs or values that exist beyond their disorder? Think about it.
@debracappiccille6485 11 ай бұрын
Finally, someone who explains with 100% accuracy what my life has been like for 45 years.
@molebohengkolisang3405 8 ай бұрын
😢😢😢
@animallover4101 7 ай бұрын
Same
@kab9603 6 ай бұрын
I got out after 15 yrs. Left with some clothes. Got it all back and more. Somehow it all worked out.
@umis941 6 ай бұрын
😢😢
@orchider143 5 ай бұрын
I can guess when you stop asking and leave him alone all of a sudden he wants to. you are so hurt by the constant rejection you cannot and you get blamed for the lack of intimacy.
@krystaldavis9434 Жыл бұрын
Wow! Married 14 years to the ex husband Narc. Started giving me excuses and blowing me off perhaps about year 2. The begging and confusion of why my husband never wanted to have sex with me. I’m so glad I stopped blaming me and feeling so unwanted and ugly. figured out it was all him and his control, lies, cheating, emotional and verbal abuse sprinkled with a dash of Satan! I’m free… and feeling real cute again 🤩
@kristiwolfe6904 Жыл бұрын
That's great news.
@lindawise5546 Жыл бұрын
Love your last line, real cute again. You go!
@kimberlys.7097 Жыл бұрын
You are cute. Get ‘em gurl
@julieroberts1329 Жыл бұрын
Hell Yeah satan! That's what I call him.
@Regina-zb2ry Жыл бұрын
I named mine SATAN. They are so cruel. I felt so unattractive, stupid, forgetful, not sexy, and fat. Yes when we out of he left me men would always ask if I was with him? He never appreciated that other men found me to still be attractive. Because he was not attracted to me I wasn’t 24 year old Chaterbaite girl.
@car11muff 2 ай бұрын
This is the information I have needed to hear for several years now… THANK YOU. I am still very confused and have many unanswered questions.
@arwenrosalie3031 7 ай бұрын
I am now pregnant and there is a time frame during pregnancy where hormones are through the roof. This always happens each pregnancy, it’s like he notices when this is happening and he shuts off sexually. Last most of the pregnancy. When I am post partum and cannot have relations then he comes like a teenager trying to start. Narcissistic men love breaking boundaries! He knows I shouldn’t after having a baby… he had all those months to be intimate but he waits until I physically cannot have sex! Also during menstrual cycles narcissistic men love to “coerce” you to give it uo while on your cycle, or ask for other things they KNOW you are uncomfortable with.
@brandijohnson7178 2 ай бұрын
Mine always rejected me during my cycle and shamed me for being gross 😔
@IndigoRoses7 Жыл бұрын
Also, be aware of when you're texting your partner and they suddenly go take a nap, "go to bed early" or "passed out on the couch and didn't mean to" ..these are all codes for cheating, talking to other supply, or watching 🌽 The first time I really felt in my gut that my narc ex was cheating on me, he told me he had a headache and was going to bed and he'd talk to me tomorrow..it was 6pm. Thankfully, we weren't married. It was still an agonizing, scary breakup. I know it's a scary thought to leave when you're contemplating it. But your life will get better the second you are no longer in the grips of their abuse. Every day is better than the last. I urge every person here stuck in a marriage with a narcissist to find a way out. Life's too short to not be treated the way you deserve - being alone is better
@life-rethought Жыл бұрын
yes life is too short to waste on the abuse. much respect for your words.
@bornagain2890 Жыл бұрын
Oh my dear young lady I am so glad you are not married to him!!!
@julienatoli8561 Жыл бұрын
...and when you have God in your life, you really & truly are never alone. The holy Spirit is very, very real and when He lives in your heart, you are absolutely never ever alone. You get really good at not second -guessing yourself. You get really good at listening to & obeying that still small voice on the inside. Freedom is peaceful, & the peaceful are powerful. God bless you.✝️🙏🕊️❣️
@transitionsnc Жыл бұрын
You make some excellent points about the seemingly plausible excuses.
@yendong2004 Жыл бұрын
Wow I've had all of those texts and trusted too much.
@mowiesissy7618 Жыл бұрын
My husband refused me on our honeymoon! Two years into the marriage I had breast cancer and he told me that he “cannot do this”! It broke me. 💕
@judith5177 Жыл бұрын
I know how you feel. We didn’t have sex on our wedding night as he was too tired!
@mrz.queent9174 Жыл бұрын
You won! You don’t want this type of men in your life hun ❤ sending you hugs
@pattibates9407 Жыл бұрын
That’s cruel I’m so sorry 🙏
@trannessa Жыл бұрын
I hope you are in a better space and place, can't imagine and comprehend how lonely and devastating that was. Just know there is so much support out there to help you in healing your heart and spirit and reclaiming yourself from a person like that.
@kimberlylovesYah Жыл бұрын
@@judith5177my ex husband did that me too! I cried myself to sleep
@antheasauls692 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for clarity. It was the hardest thing when I was married to a religious narcissist. I lost my self worth through this. True, he pursue when you stop...gosh in the beginning it was great. Tough road of pain and I could not change like you said. I appreciate you dear. Jesus saved me from this life of hell.
@sharonradcliffe861 3 ай бұрын
BEAUTIFUL MAN KEVINTHAT IS HELPING ALL OF US IN THIS POSTION. THANK YOU FOR YOUR.COURAGE.
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