That’s Alain style of discourse 😀

And like the best comedy, it is funny because there is uncomfortable truths. :p

def!

I totally agree, he's great! - His book "The Consolations of Philosophy" is simply one of the best all-round tools available for help with understanding / enjoying life I love his writing style, it's always kind, always funny, always easy to understand, and always full of warm Humane truths 💖 💖 💖

I love every second of it, he's so clever with his word play but his message has been the same since he's started compiling these lectures. It's always refreshing to come back too.

That awesome quote sums up this whole presentation very well :D

and also the transformation of humans into u.f.o. beings

I came to this conclusion in my third relationship :D

Did he say that? It might really have a true core but it sounds so wrong..

@@kristinar.6600 Begin by asking yourself: Why does it? And begin from there.

Really ? I didn't quite understand that. Why would you like to be with a person with whom you aren't compatible with ? For instance if there are two human beings and one of them are more compatible with us, wouldn't we choose them over the less compatible person ?

@@blockbyblock4078 It doesn't mean "choose the less compatible person to start with." It means you build compatibility over time. Some people may seem especially easy to love at first, but over a long enough timeline you get a much better idea than if you assume everything up front. If a person assumes they can determine compatibility quickly (think, someone who marries someone after only knowing them for a few weeks) they run the risk of hitting pitfalls. So, to answer your question, compatibility isn't something a person can typically tell overnight. That doesn't mean you are wrong, either -- starting out strong is a fine thing -- but it isn't the only thing. Over time, it's good to achieve a healthy relationship, whether it started out easy or nor. Does that make sense?

@@AMcGrath82 Yeah, it definitely makes sense. Thank you for taking the time to reply. You really articulated it well.

gotta love rare, respectful internet interactions like this... :')

@@blockbyblock4078 I hope your good nature serves you well. I certainly appreciated your response!

I couldn’t agree more!

Amazing ❤️

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Michelle Rivera i watched like literally 50+ times... haha

@@rhiannonflorence1667 Hey, so I didn’t really understand what was the answer to the art school lady’s question. According to Jane Austen she should prefer/marry a rich one, but what did Mr. Alain meant by his last words? He recommended to still marry a financially not that stable person right?

Not sure what your age is, I'm 48. I definitely love the analogy on looking at your partner as a 2 or 3 year old. That really puts things into perspective! LOL

@@bag2963 He just confirmed that there would be a lot of probably poor guys that'd try to woo her. But he did advise on trying to mind for financial stability

Are you INFJ?

KZfaq be like: Spank me Daddy!

I'm bummed it's 5 years for me 😂

@@thevalueadder Im bummed its 7 years for me 😂

It takes skill to love KZfaq 😂

What, what!

Not really. Some people just want to use others as opportunistically as possible while others will give and take more creatively. And don't ever waste your time and energy on a sly passive aggressive person. Their underhanded behaviour is sickening.

@@tracesprite6078 your right, btw how you say sly aggressive passive person, it gives me chills if I think about it, I mostly found out too late that people can be like that

@@Gotchalaboom Yes, however re-reading what I wrote ... it is very harsh. Lots of people don't have the self-awareness to realise how they come across to others. Then other people are wonderful and try to be their very best selves most of the time. And there are lots of people in between. Ideally we can be polite and encouraging to everyone but also be realistic that not everyone values honesty. For some people honesty and responsibility are very important values. For others, they are irrelevant ideas.

This is incredibly useful. Thanks!

I wish he would do more of these.

That’s exactly right. His talks are a collection of his 3-5 minute long videos. I’ve realized that. Which means that you and I both have sat ans watched that many videos from him and have learned so much. My psychology has shifted and my understanding and handling of love and relationship have dramatically improved.

Given that each School Of Life video goes for about 5 minutes and this one goes for over 1 hour then it probably is all the 5 minute videos in to a single 1 hour video.

Exactly!! All areas covered 👌🏽

great remark!

Ľuboš Rybanský My experience too. If you're prepared for the worst at all times, you can't help but be glad about how everything doesn't turn out that bad most of the time.

I would describe myself more like a realist. I feel like pessimism would prevent me from doing anything meaningful or productive in life... Just my perspective :P Sorry for bad english.

That's a good perspective. I'm a happy realist.

A realist is a pessimist to an optimist

I recommend "la la land" if you haven't seen it already

Gonna go watch it now! Thank you for the recommendation!

YES, the whole before series is amazing.

what time of the video does he mention that movie?

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"Forgiveness and acceptance of insanity is important in friendships and familial relationships as well" Actually, you nailed this one!

+ Olivia Hesson -- Smart girl! I wish you well 🙏

Olivia, now hope you have discoverd ur soulmate.Wish u live happily ever after...

How refreshing to encounter an intelligent youth -in youtube, nonetheless! You are so much more mature (& I'd say rather eloquent) than most 40-somethings.

The smallest "Insanity", Threats, Abuse Harassment, etc should be be faced Immediately: Tell them Sharply , "Never Do That Again!" Dont "forgive" them as they only want to feel not so bad and the solution is for them to forgive themselves anyway. Forgiveness is your business only. "Experts" say that forgiveness is therapeutic and a cure for hatred, but Time is the Real Cure. Forgiveness is the most meaningless and confusing word ever. It even confuses God: if you're not really sorry you go down Cinder Road. :)

almost all women have a backup roster. shes was not yours, it was just your turn,

@@vincezetti7216 how do you know that about women?

@@vincezetti7216 poor judgment

Ladies You can disagree and give your own verdict. But that’s what a lot of young men , men from all around are seeing and realising now. Of course it’s offensive for a woman to hear, especially a good woman but that doesn’t mean its not happening. As guys we need to know better and gotta wake up to what’s actually happening.some women out here playing men and bending , twisting everything in society how they like.

@@vincezetti7216 no one was talking about your mommy issues, incel

ikr!

I don't think he's really an academic philosopher, hes more like someone who takes ideas from academia and communicates them to the public but I don't think he's really pushing philosophy forward or doing some kind of cutting edge research. That said, I went to this talk at the opera house and really enjoyed it.

moyga you are quiet right actually . . isn't that what is required? putting tags in the trash and actually doing things? everyone is a philosopher in himself, few live it, very few turn out right.. alain is humble enough to stand on the shoulders of the giants and formulate a practical way to apply all those principles.. he didn't develop anything radically new but he sure understood what can help humans the most in their day to day life.. i feel like science and philosophy are the two pillars on which humans can have growth and happiness.. i'm in commerce, money sounds more attractive to me even though its not real.. :P

Yea, he definitely used thoughts from both the old Greeks, Sean-Paul Sartre and Kierkegaard in this speech / discussion.

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In my opinion stable is fun actually

I personally am of the belief that you can have both with a person, just not at the same time. There is always a way to change the way you do things with a little effort, and if you both are looking for something it isnt gonna be impossible to achieve.

Being truly bored is torture. You need someone with the intelligence to be interesting and with enough goodwill so that your efforts will be rewarded by some effort on their part.

When it comes to love I 100% choose stable. I find there are other areas of life where you can introduce plenty of chaos and excitement (work, projects, hobbies etc.)

What a lot of bullshit. Love education? There are reasons the divorce rate is so high and "love educaton" - what a sick idea - won't change that. Our narcissistic sex obsessed superficial society has to change. In today's "throw away" society couples are not interested in going through rough times together. When the first difficulty arises they split up or divorce. A few decades ago married couples were less egotistical and they were used to mend things and not throw them away without a second thought. Today's couples are not interested in reaching a compromise it seems - it's all about self realization, about me me me. Moreover a lot of people these days confuse sex with love and that's because mass media and Hollywood teaches them so. People are bombarded by the media with sex, there are even advertisement spots on TV for cheating websites trying to seduce people "......Bored in your relationship or marriage? Come and have fun, be seduced....."........while showing couples in erotic situations and asking people to come to their website to find a sex partner to cheat with. Another reason is the youth obsession cultivated by mass media. A lot of men in their 50s get divorced since they are in a midlife crisis and want to check if they are still "hot". These men remarry, "restart" their lives with a much younger woman, have children at the age of a grandpa since they want to prove to themselves and society that they are still fit and "young" and able to get a trophy wife. People used to be able to love and many people still know how to love. But "the Elite in charge" has been reprogramming people in a process that took decades...... Men and women have been "educated" by mass media propaganda, divided, pitted against each other, robbed of all their values, their masculinity, their femininity and are tormented 24/7 with the lie that they as humans are evil and should stop reproducing in order to save the planet. Our society has been deliberately transformed - by constant mass media propaganda - into a very sick, extremely narcissistic, violent, superficial, non empathic society. The aforementioned reeducation and reprogramming of the human mind is the reason why many relationships and marriages don't last anymore!! It is a result which has been deliberately produced by the so called "Elite"........since they want the planet to themselves.........and too much love and reproduction is not helping them........ Humans know how to love instinctively. Love is a feeling, it comes from deep within, from one's heart and soul. Heart and soul cannot be trained in an educational course by a teacher since it has got nothing to do with the mind! Our society needs to get rid of the sick "Elite" so we can go back to living our human lives with love and happiness.

@@VeledaG I think a lot of what you're saying is actually stuff that Alain talks about a lot too. Especially with couples being able to stick it out through rough times- he speaks very frequently about being able to accept your partner's flaws and to value flexibility and growth over someone being "perfect". I think the attitude he's trying to promote is a big part of addressing the problems you identify about our culture

They don't need a "better love", the need a proper education about the reality of what we call "love" and how long it lasts. Better ask a biologist and a sociologist. They will tell you the bitter truth, not an odd philosopher.

A lot of law needs to be changed sorrounding marriage. The incentive to file for divorce by women needs to end last decade

I think women are far more likely to remain steadfastly bought into these Romantic ideals.

@@humblebc I don’t think it’s appropriate to make statements like that along gender lines, if anything I think women know and understand a lot more and come to relationships a lot more prepared to communicate needs and accept their partners flaws than men do. Men in general are far less likely to communicate with other men about problems they are suffering (usually cited as reasons for the higher suicide rates in men) and I suspect womens willingness to discuss mens failings makes it easier for them to recognise the fundamental truth that there are no perfect partners out there 😂 But I have a dataset dominated by women and the men we know and love, so perhaps my view is wrong. But just counterpointing yours because I think it’s lazy to suggest women are more susceptible to romanticism because of Disney, or womens focus on romance and love when men seem disinterested (recall that men get more status from careers and women get more status from being great housewives and mothers, despite all the progress feminism has made - women who are career focused and act as if love does not matter are treated poorly by society and chastised for being unfeminine etc). So yeah. Long way of saying I disagree

Seld love is definitely the first step

#theschooloflife PLEASE READ IT!!

You said "always".

OK.

I think the list refers to emotional intelligence. There is more than one type of intelligence.

Stopped reading after 3rd point SO u call self control "smart" .. Which it is.. But believe me people who suffer from impulsiveness (f. e. Adhd) can be highly intelligent. U simply describe self control.

His voice is really pleasant, isn't it? It's warm and soothing. Wise words spoken make it better still.

Stephen so right

Me too!

i get that feeling too... There are very few times I actually conciously think "i don't want this person to die". I don't want many people in life to die, but that thought only comes to conciousness with very few people. I feel life or existence is better with this individual in it, and feel appreciative to be alive at the same time with them.

YES!!!

Omg ! Yeassssss .. I upvote this comment

ikr

its the G U Y

what guy!?! WHAT GUY!?! Please TELL ME...

what guy!?! WHAT GUY!?! Please TELL ME...

Hes the narrator of almost every (since i didnt listen every one) school of life episode.. search it up youll see

Aghora Nath he does, doesn’t he?

1% of people have "deep seated narcissism": your word "our" means 100%, thus, you are a Clown. 7/10 feel good about themselves and 7/10 you meet will feel good about themselves, thus,you are a Absolute Clown. He is using Common Personal Opinion and Nothing else, thus, that makes you an R sole and All your posts a Heap of Trash.

@@bewildered6866 bit vicious

@@tonig2255 Yeah, but it might have put a look of bilwilderment on the narcissist's face.

That's great to hear, I really want to read the book as well.

It is indeed sad when people give up on romantic love. Familial love is not the love between romantic partners. End of story.

Amen

how is it going now? are you guys still together?

Keep it for yourself. . And let your perspective partners find it out or they may be all of this that he spoke of embodied without ever watching it..

Me too

Love it

This audience thinks hes only being funny..there to stupid not to laugh.. hes not laughing..

agreed. its such a shame

did he die?

+Ryan Edwards Really? I can't see any news as to Bottom passing away...

+TimblnB0ss yeah we never meany him dying but rather than there are few men like him today. he embodies the ways of the gentlemen in former generations.

Just telling honest stuff

y'all still together?

@@lowkeyweeb2929 yep!

are you guys still together?@@meganlathrop2345

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@@snehalp2403 liked it already!

Self love is so important that if his insights could be applied to interior work on ourself it could be valuable for a future relationship with a partner.

Watch the TED Talk "The person you really need to marry" from Tracy McMillan

@lorena KZfaq - can’t find that TED talk under either the title ir name you listed. ☹️

@@jeanneratterman4174 I just googled it. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hpmWfL2mvJ-0j4E.html

It was a funny remark. Though what he said at 52:30 was an *analogy* - not a pun: An idea from one area (a person staying in a relationship) got transferred to another one (a country staying in a political union). A *pun* is a more simple concept that fiddles with word structure. It makes use of the sound or spelling of words to allude to something else, which has an equal or similar sound, and fits the current topic. (E.g.: "The Brexit might be a _EU-ge_ mistake.")

I love animals too! I have two very attentive cats! The unconditional love I give to them seems reciprocated! Yet, the joys and pain I've experienced in romantic relationships, have taught me things about myself I never knew!

Which movies and what is the novel he writes around this lecture?

RUSMIX Alive me

Pervert

Loll me

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Don't try to find a girlfriend. Try to find - and accept - yourself. Everything else will take care of itself.

+QBziZ yes, you'll meet when you less expect

Have you ever had that moment where you're looking so hard for something (like your car keys, that one shirt that makes you look amazing, etc.) that you've only been able to find when you weren't looking for it? For me, that's how I met my wife. I was cycling through bad relationships, and by the time I sworn off anything remotely reminiscent of dating is when I finally found her. For now, be the best "you" that you can be, and let love come naturally to you! Cheers, and best of luck to you! I'll be rooting for you man :)

+ Wong Fred -- befriend girls, show kindness for others, & trust in Serendipity 💙🙏💙

😂 😂 😂

:O I just realized that thanks to your comment! Mindblown!!