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A relationship is a small government. My husband died after 49 years of marriage. This man was not afraid to love and be loved. His children adored him because of love, the love he gave. In our government everyone had a place to help our government to succeed. He knew his place and I knew mine. The man was so good to me he made it easy for me to follow his lead, because he lead with love. I respected his headship because he respected mine. We were financially stable. As we started getting older we found out there were lots of ways to show love, if you get my drift. Love outside the bedroom was very important. My point is everyone knew their job and stuck to it. Men don’t wait till you can’t do nothing for yourself now you ready to be married because you don’t want to die alone. Sorry for being wordy, but marriage can be the best thing you ever do for yourself. And young man amen to your parents for setting a good example. 🥰🥰🥰♥️🥴

Been married for 14 years with two beautiful children... I can honestly say I would be DEAD right now without her... What this gentleman is saying is 100% facts.

It is sad that we as a community cannot be happy for each other. If only people can see that this is by design.

The Bible says, “ A man that finds himself a wife find himself a good thing.” God also said,”it’s not good for a man to be alone.”

Today everyone wants to know “what’s in it for me!?” It’s about being selfless. These men don’t see the value in building with someone. In most marriages your wife will likely bare your children, support your goals and help take care of you emotionally and physically. You eventually want children, you want a woman around you, you just don’t want the responsibility of giving any part of you. You learn so much by giving and being selfless. Women already know this, it’s why I’m so many marriages women are the ones exhausted anyway. The reason women are told to let a man pay for the date, and cater to you in the beginning is because if not we are used and abused because we already WANT to give so much. Men will tell their daughters this (let him chase you), but treat their baby mother like trash. Men get mad at women for wanting the “bad boys” but also continue to go after the women who don’t want them either! Then blame all women.

I never understood the “she’ll take half” argument. If you take your time to find the right partner and BE the right partner then you shouldn’t even have to worry about divorce.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing... Congratulations to you and your wife, may your marriage bring many blessings🙏🏾💐🥂

You talk with more sense than the older wannabe high value disfunctional dude’s out there 💎💎💎

Thank you Grandson, been waiting for your Words all my Life. You have soften my Heart.

God bless your marriage.

Congratulations to you and your wife, I am sure your marriage will be an ongoing success. You really hit the nail on the end with this video.

Married men live longer than single men. They also have a better quality of life, provided you make the right choice.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with marriage. Life is actually about marriage and families but in modern times, too many people are spreading messages to deter us from what God has ordained us to be and do. Amen brother! Hats off to you for finding a good thing-A WIFE.

I pray for a long strong marriage for you and your wife. Protect it against the attacks of the enemy. The enemy hates what you're doing because it is right and good and divine.

I’m sick of that word “simp”! 🤢 he who finds a wife finds a good thing ✨

Congratulations on getting married!!!!🥂

Start with yourself and marry the woman you love and mentor other men

Blessings to you and your wife. I hope your marriage stays blessed remember marriage is a mystery. Remember to put god first. 🙏🕊️

This video almost brought me to tears especially when you shared how your grandfather took care of your grandmother. That's what I desire even though my first marriage failed. There's hope! I love seeing younger men with this mindset! Congratulations on your marriage 💑 🎉🎉🎉

Congratulations, Mr. and Mrs. Shumake.

'You work at the Movies'lmao😂👏🏾 Good one..soo true

I'm still going to continue living life as a single black man.

Love how you spoke what you wanted and spoke it into existence and God made it come to pass🥰

The problem is just finding a woman of that caliber which is rare, same thing finding a man of the same altitude

I found myself on the "HV" side of youtube and it's so disheartening to hear some of the ideals and "values" that are being taught. We do need other. We were meant to be partners growing with each other while creating the next generation to succeed us. A symbiotic relationship. That was intentional & we have strayed so far from it. I don't entertain that side of youtube. I don't listen or watch or support those who perpetuate negative views of the opposite sex because why? I strive to be the best person I can be for my partner and I don't internalize disgruntled people's distorted perceptions of how they want to see marriage/relationships. I do what makes me happy and what will contribute to my growth and faith as we all should.

If there were more Black men like you; we could start fixing the problems our community. Thanks for speaking the truth and saying what needs to be said.

They don't see the benefits of marriage because of the type of women they deal with or their friends deal with or social media. We as black people need to be more loving & respectful to each other, we are our own worst enemy. You manifest what you attract!

Congrats bro. Educated Strong Blackkkkkk... Woman. Nothing matches our ENERGY bruh. Congrats on your engagement. I'm right behind you too with getting married. Maybe by September. 2021

I love the story of your grand parents so beautiful 😊

I must comment. Brother Shumake, your wisdom is from God. And, to God be the Glory‼️ You are blessed above measure. 🙏🏾

Congratulations on getting married. ❤️❤️❤️

Congratulations on your Marriage!🙏🏽

Paul said it’s better to be alone unless you can’t control your lustful desires

I was married, I adores my husband did everything I could in the marriage and totally trusted him. He cheated on me and treated me horrible. And I still believed there are good marriage and good men in the world. ( FYI everything my ex husband said he wouldn't do, he did) not to be negative but sometimes you really don't know people, even though you thinks you know them also Congrats!

The Bible says a man that finds himself a wife finds himself a good thing come on now!!! Period

This nigga just taking Derrick jaxns spot 😂

Agree so much with what you are saying. I felt it was crazy how they come for the man for being grateful for his wife. My wife really motivate and support me and I am grateful for her.

Congratulations to you and your wife! I can feel the love between y'all through the screen. I wish you all the best ♥️

Congratulations on your marriage, may God bless your union 🙏❤😊

Congratulations! I pray you have a beautiful marriage. Don’t listen to these bitter men who are lonely now and will remain that way.

Congratulations, marriage is a beautiful thing when it's done right and both partners are willing to do the work. Again congratulations.

I think any man that gets mad at another man for giving credit to his wife is jelouse of him. Misery loves company

Preach bro!!! Amen!!!

I'm a Christian man, and believe in marriage. However, I think we all have to understand there is a problem with the current marriage laws. If they get reformed then it would be a more attractive option for men. Jesus said divorce is only an option if it is due to infidelity, I think that makes a whole of since. No fault divorce is destroying our families, and women are divorcing men 80% of the time. We can't ignore the stats folks.

Congratulations 🍾🎊🎉🎈 wish you all the best in your marriage

Congratulations to you and your wife. May God bless your marriage. Keep doing what your doing. We appreciate you.

Congratulations on finding someone who complements you, not completes you! Wishing the two of you much continued love and joy! Always be that three strand couple, you, her, and God. This will be the glue that will hold you together even if times get tough!

Congratulations!!!! I worked in the health field and I had seen many elderly men die alone! It is truly sad how they suffer from having no family by their side, I was even told that the 'bachelor" life was a bunch of baloney! You did the right thing in God's eyes and the MAN that finds a good WIFE receives favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22), "PLAYERS" are under a curse! That's why all they bring is destruction! They have NO peace and don't go unpunished! SO happy that you are not letting these cursed men/women make you feel bad by being BLESSED!! May God continue to BLESS and KEEP you for HIS glory in Jesus name.

Bro you spoke solely from the woman’s perspective and only turned the “risk” of marriage for men into a joke (“men worry because they’re insecure”, “men yall pick the wrong women” or “men don’t even have much and you worried about her taking half”?). Men actually have valid concerns and as long as you minimize men’s concern to just some “it’s your fault” narrative, your followers (women) wont consider the validity in men’s issues.

Marriage isn't for everybody (scripture says that also)...Not every man has what it takes to become a husband, and not every woman has what it takes to become a wife. With that said, the family unit is supposed to be the strongest unit to bring forth the next generation. Yes, money..property..etc are involved. That's why you don't just marry everyone like you would screw everyone. The allure of marriage is leaving because we are in a "hook up" culture where people want satisfaction right now, and are extremely self serving. Also, there are a lot of man haters and woman haters out there. I think it's absolutely sick for someone to talk down on the love they see in someone else's relationship. If you enter a relationship with one foot already headed towards the exit, then you are bringing negativity with you. Marriage is work. You have to put in the effort and make choices. Daily. If you don't want it fine...but stop talking down on it. People won't stop having babies, and marriage has to be better than the fatherless households we have now.

Not me tearing up while watching... this is beautiful... things look bleak currently, but there are ppl out here that still want this... this was encouraging... made me feel not so alone 💓😊

Smh. Unfortunately the brothers that need to hear this message either aren’t listening or are only listening to make disparaging comments. These dudes are too far gone, Shumake. But I’m glad you still make content for the women who need to see a decent black man at least occasionally in order to keep from completely divesting from black men all together. I’ve always dated out, but lately I’ve considered not even entertaining black men any more... I agree that the community needs strong black families and that is the only reason I remain open. But brothers like the few in these comments further prove why some black men are and will remain at the bottom, socioeconomically.

Sending you both ALL the high frequency good vibes in the universe. Go forth 👊🏾👊🏾.

You have some wonderful marriage examples to guide you!!! I wish the both of you a lifetime of fulfillment. Our community needs more marriages....

Congratulations on your marriage. Im hoping that many other men will be inspired by your videos. Healthy marriages is what we need in our communities

Congratulations on getting married. Excellent decision

This is exactly why I’m single and staying single until I meet the right guy who’s ready for marriage. I do not believe in sleeping around no matter what everyone else is doing. I understand my value and how rare I am. I can’t wait to meet a man Who wants to take his time and really get to know each other. Congratulations on your marriage wishing you the very very best. New subbie.

Sadly women preach against marriage too. It’s sad. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Marriage is a sacred union that is powerful to create safety for us all.

Congratulations 🎉 wish you both a happy & plentiful marriage. God bless you for speaking on this topic.

Congratulations 🎊 Blessings 🙏🏾

A good healthy marriage got alot of benefits for not just the people involved but people around them. Dying alone aint sweet, cause nobody else gives damn about once you past working unless you built a healthy loving family

Congratulations 🤎is this the young lady u spoke about in your past video one of yall finally woke up 🙃 Congratulations if not Congratulations anyway she has a good one 🥰🤎👌💣

A Brother that's got his head and EMOTIONS together. There is hope.

Another great video full of excellent advice for men who are smart enough to take it. You are doing a great service to the world by making these videos.

Congratulations 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽... God blessed y'all union!!! 🙏🏽Amen!!! I'm glad I came across your page... all FACTS. It's basically damaged individuals that aren't mature enough to let go pain and fear. They constantly recreate more confusion and with that comes chaos. You have to be very strong mentally and spiritually to change your actions to build a new narrative. I hate when someone says, " That's just the way, I am." No it's how you choose to be. We all can change. When you know better, you should do better!!! #OnGod

Yoooooo, congratulations bro!!! I'm so proud of you. I love y'all.

What a beautiful talk. God bless you, your family and your pending marriage.

A MAN talking sense. THANK YOU BROTHER!! Y'all, share, share, share, share!!!!!!! 💋🖤

CONGRATULATIONS again!!! 😁😁😁🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

The men that want to be married are married or at least working towards being ready for a relationship.

This Guy: “ it ain’t nothin’ to drop $500/$600 at the fanciest restaurant” The most I ever dropped was $150 at a restaurant period.😭 Now I’m motivated to be a wife FOR SURE. This is what I know we can push for if a husband ever finds me

Congrats on your marriage. I'm glad you stepped up and decided to marry her. Blessings

I really bless you and your future happiness with your wife. You have much wisdom. You are a high value man because of your heart and thoughts, and the way you think, if you didn't have a penny, you would STILL be a high value man.

The Lord bless your union,may you marriage be a blessing to many as you are a blessing on this platform 💖

Congratulations Newlyweds!! You complement each other from your testimony and many happy years to come.

This was so beautiful!💖 You did a great job showing the honor and blessing of marriage. I'm so excited for you and your new bride to be. May God richly bless your union as he did your grandparents!

I feel that if YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE and are comfortable with as he says being YOU then not being married should be that person’s choice. Don’t try to change someone or guilt them into that I have friends now that try to pull that on me.......this is my life if I as a man decide to not have kids or get married that should be MY OWN CHOICE

Lots of so called high value men dont value what your grandmother brought to the table. They dont see equal value in being a caretaker of the home.

That's a great topic! If marriage not for you, that's your right/decision, why fight to take away others right if they support the institution of marriage. You see it all the time. Men wasting their life away whiles they're young and strong but they end up as grumpy old lonely men.

Congratulations! And very sound thoughts on this topic. Love to see intentional love and Black love is revolutionary in this world. Blessings to you both. 💕

I believe that before asking what someone brings to the table, you should first ask yourself what do you bring to the table

Divorce rate is high, everything is backwards, Kids deserve a stable home

You hit the nail on the head “ y’all mess with women who don’t have nothing”

I'm going to share this video, with my family.thanks for positivity.

Shumake, Thank you so much for being You. It is so good to hear these sentiments from a real man of substance. You are calm in your approach, you are Not toxic. You respect women. Thank you for being You.

Man none of these men can say shit bro they just gonna have to respect every word you say because YOU MAKE SENSE!!!

The Game done started something! I like how you think ❤💛💚

I remember what it was like having a present loving father in my childhood, and it's the best feeling ever. I was the happiest when my family was happy and together. And I wanna be able to create that I my life, in the future. Cause what's the point of living, if you don't have a family to go back home to? If you don't have a support system? If you don't have lovo in your life? I thought family was not important a few years ago, but that's just not true. I wanted to think that way to not realize what I was lacking. I hope all of us could be healthy and intelligent enough to create long lasting marriages and strong lovely families😌

You are a really cool young man. I enjoy your videos.

Funny how men listened to Kevin and approve of him telling women they will die alone. But Kevin is the one that died alone and so will many other man that follow him.

Congratulations Brother. God bless your marriage. Sounds like a winning team. Happy for you both 💞

You preaching right here brother✊🏼

Thank you so much for your content - I find it very encouraging and refreshing. Best wishes to you, wife and family 😊

Marriage can be beneficial for family. Divorce can be detrimental. When you vet, you should always ask(indirectly) do they believe in divorce.

the reason god called her a helpmeet (genesis 2:18) is because she’s supposed to help man meet his expectation (jeremiah 29:11) from god.

Another great content video!!! Congratulations to you and the Mrs.💝🙌🏾

Beautifully stated. Congratulations on your marriage, may the ‘Most High’ bless y’all with a lifetime of happiness...

Congratulations you two All Will Be Well with You You Are A Phenomenal Man and Eye Am Sure She is A Phenomenal Woman Keep Up The Great Work it's Helping Peace Love and Enlightenment Plus Many Blessings to You and your family Ase Reflection