Mine is that I don’t need every friendship I make to be at the “best friend” level. Some people can be in my life as the “going-out” friend, or the “gym-friend”, etc. I use to struggle so much with making friends because I always cut people out the moment I notice that they aren’t giving me the same energy. Now I know it’s ok, not everyone wants to be best friends with me nor do some people crave the same type of vulnerable friendship that I want.

I changed my mind on the belief “the point of life is to be happy” I used to believe that wholeheartedly and that we had to reduce the things that made us sad and experience as much happiness as possible. But through grief and overcoming challenges I’ve come to realize that life is about feeling and growing and experiencing. Yes it’s great to be happy, but it’s not “happiness or else you’ve failed.” A lot of experience has taught me that the negative emotions are great teachers. Both the highs and lows are valid.

I used to be so bad at interviews but I realised it’s not all about getting them to hire you. It is also about seeing if you’re a good culture fit and if YOU like the company too!

I used to think there was a “correct” way of living life- and I’d nitpick my romantic partners or friends that they *should* be doing this or that, if they didn’t have the same goals/lifestyle as me but now I realize there’s no universal right way to live life

Ooh “did the conversation make me feel lighter or heavier?” is amazing. I’ve changed my mind that almost nothing is black or white, it’s all mostly grey. I was raised by a narcissist who saw the world and one thing or the other and it honestly poisoned so many relationships and experiences for me, especially the way I saw myself, but now as an adult I realize I’m happier letting things be an accepting as they are, even if they don’t make sense to me, I have to see it as somewhere in the middle and not so rigid like I was taught to.

Change can be painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong. My biggest change is that I stopped comparing myself to others. It took about three decades lol, but now I can appreciate another person's position in life without it affecting my own.

Love this!! I’m interested to see things you HAVEN’T changed your mind about. Like, in what ways are you still the same from childhood, young adulthood, etc.

Hi Jenn ❤️ I’m 21 and every time you talk about your 20s, I feel like I’m going through the same turbulence you once did. It inspires me so much to see a glimpse of the calm, fulfilled person I’ll become in the future 🥰 Thank you for your videos, they’re always so reassuring and uplifting ✨

This video is so lovely. It’s like having a therapist for free. Good job Jenn after all these years. I’ve been watching since 2013 if not before.

For me, it would be “it’s okay to change your mind”. Sometimes we think that we really have an idea of exactly what we want to do annnnd it turns out that after you do it or just before, you realise that you changed your mind. It used to be a major thing for me to accept and I felt “defeated” because of it. It’s okay to change. Specially your mind. Love your videos! Xx

You’ve grown so much! I couldn’t agree more with surrounding yourself with like-minded people who value the same things you do. Looking forward to seeing you grow even more :)

Mine is: "In the end, you are on your own." I used to be very dependent on the people around me (ex. family, friends, partner. etc.). I was especially extremely dependent on the partner that I was with. If I had a fight with my boyfriend, my mood would be shitty for the entire day. If the relationship with my boyfriend was not so strong anymore, I would think that I was just not worthy of love BECAUSE that particular person didn't love me anymore. My worth was centered based on the relationship status with other people. But now (after experiencing a few painful breakups), I've come to realize that if I don't learn how to stand on my own, I willl always fall because no matter how strong the relationships are, it is only temporary. If you think about it, the VERY last person you get to be with until your last breath is yourself. So...why not work on the permanent and the longest relationship you will ever get to have - the relationship with yourself?

I’ve changed my mind about Jesus… I was basically an atheist when I was younger. But my life has turned into a beautiful journey ever since my conversion to Catholicism. I have found true peace and happiness. Happy to see your growth, I have been enjoying your videos for over 6 years!

I used to be ashamed of my "small" boobs during my teenagehood. Then I met some of my best friends in university and they happened to have MASSIVE ones that brought SO MANY problems: back pain, bad posture, painful bras, and disgusting catcallers. I loved hearing from you that you love your boobs now. I think that calling them small or big is so subjective depending on who sorrounds you and your culture... Thank you Jenn for this type of video-reflexions, you always get to share with us how important it is to reflect, grow and adapt. Much love from Berlin :)

The “I don’t care if you like me” part is so real! Everything you express on that topic is exactly how I feel too haha. Love it, Jen!

Jen! I feel you on changing your mind. I’m turning 30 this year and feel at peace, more secure, and happier. Real flex is living life others don’t understand without feeling the need to explain yourself. Completely okay with being misunderstood and letting go of peoples expectations. Such a freeing feeling! Love you! 💕

I have changed my mind about finishing what I started. A lot of times, we feel like we need to stick with something or someone because it's been a long journey and we're too deep in it to stop now. I do believe in resilience and persevering if times get tough, but only if your heart is truly still in it. However, if you're outgrowing something and it's legit not serving you anymore like it once did or it's holding you back somehow, it's okay to move on. You're allowed to move into different roles, have different interest, have different social circles, and you're not doing yourself a disservice by exploring new avenues of life.

You articulate so well of what I've felt through my 30's. I turn 40 this year, and all those points that you've mentioned are things that I've become realized to be comfortable with myself but never really written down or organized to make them notable/remember for myself. It's so good to remember those mind shifts to celebrate how getting old (mindfully) helps and embrace all the things that life brings even more! Thank you for your video as always!

Something I changed my mind about is wanting to be overly helpful. Yes, I love to help others and do everything in my power to help them, but I was putting the wants and expectations of others before my own and my own self being. I found myself constantly overextending myself for others, without them even reciprocating an ounce back for me. Of course, I don’t want to be helpful to receive anything in return, but I was doing myself a disservice by being too available for people’s wants and needs. I realized I was helpful, but not for myself. I was actually very damaging towards myself. I am on a path of healing and in order to be helpful for others, I must first help myself 🤎. Xoxo

honestly, ive been watching jenn (and so many other asian youtubers) growing up and it's really nice to kinda get a "sneak peak" on life. all the major asian youtubers are like ~7 years older than me, so it's always nice to see how they're going through their lives and how it could possibly apply to me in like 7 years. it's almost like having a older sibling go through things first and you learn from them. XD thanks for always sharing your experiences with us.

Jenn this is so so so touching to hear how you have matured and progressed these past few years. and so happy to hear your lessons with us - love your comments on how you care less about what people look like and how your strive for perfection/criticism is toned down. These are things I’m working with in my 20s and am trying to grapple with :)

After years of therapy fighting anxiety, depression and an ED I'm still struggling to let go that image of perfection that I've always wanted to achieve, but I think I'm finally getting there, accepting myself and my body the way it is, and redescovering that is ok to be myself... that is safe to be myself, and that I deserve love despite my imperfections. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us, it makes us feel that we are not alone in ours 💕✨

Currently in my 20s and alot of the things you've changed your mind about made me feel a little affirmed that I was on the right track of personal progress. Thank you for sharing it was truly helpful Jenn. Adore ya!

Thank you Jenn! I learned way more about myself than I could have ever expected when I clicked this video. These really struck. ❤️

Being almost 24 in two weeks, I’ve finally found my passion . The biggest thing for me is focusing on what others thought of me or making everyone happy instead of myself , but now I finally feel free because I’m living my life with what I desire . These 20 somethings have taught me so much about myself and I’m going to enjoy the rest of the ride. ❤️ thank you so much for this video ✨

i love this! as a 22 year old, it's really helpful to hear what you've learned since your early 20s. thanks Jenn!

It's just so great listening to Jenn and reading down all of the comments! Warms my heart so much that, we as a community are trying to grow and hold such important conversations together. 🥺♥️

It feels so fresh to hear that yes you change your mind about things and yes it's still you. Sometimes it feels like we can't change how we think but this really shows we can. Thank you again Jenn🥰

Thank you for the lovely video Jenn. It’s always so good to watch these “let’s just sit down and chat” kind of videos from you. You are so well spoken. You are able to articulate your thoughts so well & I love that quality of yours. One thing that I’ve changed my mind about is regarding romantic relationships. I’ve been single for almost 4 years now (after my ex cheated on me, had trust issues), and during that time, I was always in a lack-mentality, desperate for that one true “love”. And now, as I’ve grown older (I turn 28 this December), people around me have started to put even more pressure on me making me feel like I’ve already wasted the best years of my life & telling me how I now have to settle asap before my youth & beauty fades away or I won’t find anyone to spend the rest of my life with. But even through all this, I’m still hopeful for love & excited about life (specially my 30s) because of you & the wonderful life and family you have built (including your friends & your outlook on life). They all inspire me & I hope someday to reach the same level of contentment (that idgaf attitude lol) with the things I have. Now I think if love comes my way, I’ll gladly accept it, but I won’t ever be miserable without it. I’m on this self-love and healing journey where I focus on myself and strive to be better than the me from yesterday and I thank you for being my role model (like a big sister) every step of the way. Much love ❤️

jenn, your videos always bring me comfort and a sense of belonging, this video made me hopeful that i’ll be able to (one day in the near future) stop caring what people think about me etc.

I'm still working on the "I don't care what you think about me" part but I just have to say that you are so right with the "you become the persons you surround yourself with". And I kind of have to feeling that I became much more reflected and have grown so so much mentally thanks to you and your videos. So heres a really big thank you for that❤

I absolutely love hearing you speak your mind and providing so many words of wisdom! This is the main thing that keeps me coming back to your videos (not how aesthetic they are or how you dress or look - which are all wonderful too btw)! I don't know if you've ever considered it but I think you would be an awesome host of your own podcast ;)

I've been following and watching your videos for a long time now, and it's quite mind blowing to compare your 2018-2019 videos to the recent ones, even before having Lennon. It's like I'm watching two very different girls! I remember being a little excited waiting for your new adventures every single week, going on trips, festivals and parties, and now that I've also changed through these past years, I'm excited to listen about your wisdom, your stories and your advices for life. You've come a long way, and makes me appreciate the long way I've come as well!

I've been a fan for years (new account) and you're a few stages above me with motherhood and all. The best part about videos like these is that I can learn so much and your videos allow me to have journaling prompts to discuss and reflect with myself. I appreciate that so much and I'm so happy to hear this wisdom. In addition to sharing your favorite reads, I'd love to hear more about your growth as a person. Please do more! I love your series of things you learned in your 20's, and it really feels like growing up with you, but not really since I don't have children yet. Sending big hugs.

I love this. You always have a way of explaining that helps me appreciate the world around me. Many blessings to you and your family Jenn

I really enjoyed this video! Such a refreshing perspective. Something I’ve changed my mind about is seeing my sensitivity as a weakness. That was something ingrained in me pretty early in my life. But I’ve come to realize that embracing my sensitivity allows me to have deeper connections with the people I love.

I have loved seeing the evolution of your channel, Jenn. I've been here since your clothesencounters days and to see you now transition to a "self-help" channel has been radically gratifying for me. I'm very impressed by this video and would strongly recommend you to read the book, "Think Again", by Adam Grant. That book taught me that if we are not continuously rethinking our beliefs, we are not challenging them, and hence, have no moral reasoning for why we believe such things. I am currently rethinking my political beliefs by trying to take myself out of my Gen Z vacuum. Since I am 20, I find myself surrounded by lots of people who move towards the loudest voice, but not necessarily the smartest voice. All this is to say, I now enjoy open discourse with people of opposite belief systems. Thank you Jenn, I love you so much!

Ugh, love you so much. I used to think that being emotional was a weakness, but now I see it as a strength. My emotions guide me in everything I do and as I listen to them and learn about them I’ve grown so much more confident in my intentionality and worth.

I love this and so happy for you! 🥰 I think the freedom comes with time and self-development. My mind started to shift in my 30s, all the little stuff we cared about, really doesn't matter. Your last one reminded me of the book "The courage to be disliked". A good read for sure. It's the most liberating experience ever 🙌🏾 Keep shining ✨️

This is so lovely to hear! I started therapy last year and I have been working on many of the subjects you have touched on! Once of the lessons of last year has been to set boundaries. What I can think as an example is when acquaintance or new/old people in my life have a sudden change in their behaviour towards me and act funky. There is not need for me to actually be there to fix the problem if I have not caused it (at least consciously). You don't like me, that is fine and it has nothing to do with as a person but more with the fact that A). we don't match and B) the projection of the other person towards me. There is not enough time to waste in places where you are not accepted. You don't have to please everybody and fix every problem, sometimes you have to just let go and make space for yourself and people that would fit with you without judgement. Big ups for the graphics in the video! xx

A lot of these statements really clicked for me around my late 20s and turning 30 this year. One of the best things about growing older!

I really appreciate your honesty and how much you've grown Jenn. Thanks for this!

This is such a great video idea. I loved hearing your reflections and how you’ve grown and evolved✨ One thing I’ve changed my mind about is anxiety medication. Ive finally accepted that healing will look different to what you originally envisioned. I may change my mind again, but for now, I’m really glad I’m trying something new to support my mental health.

Love this! And love the premise of changing your mind as a demonstration of growth, not wishy-washiness. Thanks Jenn!

When you shared about overstimulation I completely feel the same way!! I loved this content. Thank you Jenn for sharing another great insightful thoughts about yourself!

The pandemic hit me hard because it happened right when I graduated high school and was supposed to go to college. I had a rough 2020, but was able to learn more about myself and my mental health. I had a great 2021 because I was working full time, home with family, and went back to in person full time college. I love the growth I’ve made but Im now in a place where I feel too comfortable. I don’t need to do as much as used to, but I want to push myself to get back out there outside of my normal group of friends.

It's the kind of video that we always need in our life. Thanks Jenn for make me feel better ❤️

I love these videos, Jenn. It made me think and as person who are little but younger than you and had a baby just few months later, learning so much from your mindset.

Omg yes yes! Honestly ive contemplated getting a boob job too and it honestly made me feel so seen and better about not getting one seeing icons like you and weylie be so unapologetically who yu are. I also have learned to give myself grace and compassion (recovering perfectionist) and I've also learned that when i give myself grace, it allows me to give others grace too. Ive also learned more about about what makes me happy, and choosing to set boundaries.

truly thankful of these videos. as a 23 year old, things are so difficult and I feel so lost but from time to time i come on here and think if jenn can do it so can I.

YEsss Jenn! Im here for the early 30's KZfaqr space. Such growth, confidence, and resilience. Beautiful!

just watching your videos once every few months has really made me see just how much you have BLOSSOMED so gracefully over the last few years and it just radiates out of you. you are so in your skin. it has been amazing to watch you, comforting too and it gives me hope on my journey that i am still growing as well and won't always be the same :) life ain't easy shit but i hope to just learn to give myself the grace more and more each day, it's a journey. sending you so much love Jenn.

I ended up changing my mind about having kids, I used to hate the thought, out of fear I think. Then I fell pregnant and gave birth to my daughter three weeks ago and that fear was just instantly love, definitely something I’m so thankful for.

I love this video concept!! So refreshing ❤️

Tell me why I started to cry at the end! Ive followed you for years and it is SUCH a pleasure to grow alongside with you ❤️ You were great to follow back then, but as Ive changed in lots of the ways you were speaking about it is equally a pleasure to follow you now!

Highlighting changing your mind is so underrated. We want to be right all the time and that leads to such mental and emotional rigidity. Love seeing this.

I couldn't agree more. As I move into my early 30s, things have changed. I literally can careless about expectations, expectations of others, what others think.. etc. I do me and that's what matters, because if you don't do you, who will?

Hi Jenn, over the years I have really filtered who I allow in my life, especially after having my son, this including family members. I didn't want negative influences around my son, and realized that I too enjoyed surrounding myself with people who were positive, motivated and always trying to evolve. I learned that being around people who were negative would change my mood and bring me down, I think partly because I feed off of people's energy. I'm thankful that I now have my little circle of friends and family who are positive and who truly care about me and my little family. It's always refreshing to watch your videos, thank you for sharing your journey and your growth with us.

Your channel feels like I’m talking to an older sister. Always so comforting and guiding in the most gentle way. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ♥️

Your video ideas are always so interesting and insightful, I love learning more about you and how your mind works and is ever developing and optimizing to your life circumstances. I’m glad to hear you’ve come to so many great realizations. The first video I watched of yours you were just finding a therapist and I’ll be completely honest, I wasn’t really vibing, the vibes were kind of negative but thankfully when I saw more of you I completely came to love your channel. And we all have moments and hardships that sound negative when we put them into words, so. Point being, love this video and all your others 😁

This has to be one of my favorite videos from you. As someone who grew up watching your videos for almost ten years and now in her early 20s… I resonated so much like the hedonistic lifestyle, striving for excellence, caring about interactions, and etc… and it can be fun but it hits hard sometimes. It can be emotionally draining when I am criticizing myself constantly striving for something better continuously but in an unhealthy way. It was so interesting to see your growth and thought process, thank you for being candid 💕

i enjoyed this video :) and yes! when you look at every older person as just an aged child, it makes everyone a lot more relatable

As someone who was in their early 20s when the pandemic started, I resonate with all of these points so much now that I’m heading into my mid 20s! Life was the biggest rollercoaster in undergrad and I’m so grateful to have had the opportunity to slow down and recenter myself. Thanks for your openness and honesty Jenn! I love these reflection videos, pls keep making them!!

Thank you Jenn! Loved this video :D I’ve changed my mind about not needing rests! I definitely need them and now can allow myself to take them!!

i love how real you are and your explanations are on point!

i am so happy for your growth Jenn, and thank you again for sharing this with us. i feel calmer and more hopeful. hope you have a super day! xx

Thank you for this video. As a 23 year old, I leaned a lot from your story. I’ve been kinda depressed for the past few years and really afraid that my life would be this hard forever. But, seeing you having overcome things one by one over years and being proud of what you are now relieved my anxiety so much. You’re my role model. Thanks for sharing.

Always so insightful thanks Jen ! ☺️

Wow! That last statement about criticizing yourself less hit home... I never fully realized how much I do that, I kinda knew but didn't piece it together. Amazing, you are truly an inspiration

I love that you simply share your opinion instead of turning it around and making it advice. You are sharing what works for you and it’s so much more genuine and authentic than when influencers continuously give advice. Great vid!

Your content is something I’d never change my mind on!💖💗💖

What a great video. I always love seeing the changes in your thought and personality here and there in glimpse of your vlogs and other videos so having a whole video around it is so nice!

love watching this growth arc 🥺 also the communications major / conversations is so specific but i hella relate! what's helped me w that is just realizing that conversational styles just vary so much across brains & cultures & i don't even value having some sort of norm that gets enforced for everyone so why do i do it to myself 🤔 anyways really appreciated this video

omg this felt like a therapy session that i needed to hear. pls i want part 2!!! i looove these introspective videos cus these seem like such personal views of mine but you explain them so well and i feel like im not alone in these situations??? ilysm jenn unnie

I absolutely love how much you've grown and matured, Jenn. You've become so wonderfully grounded and seeing you transition into your 30s so beautifully is inspiring. So glad to have followed and looked up to you since your Clothes Encounters days!

Love love love this kind of content. So relevant and down to earth.

I loved the video Jenn ♡ One thing I changed my mind about is accepting other's opinions. I am a person with really strong opinions and it was hard for me to accept when people didn't think like me (it still is) but I realized no matter how hard i try it's not my place to change anyone. I can try to educate on certaint topics, bring awareness but i won't change anyone, so it's better to just respect and go my own way

Thank you for sharing these lessons and thoughts! I always love a video where you share things you’ve learned about. ❤️❤️

I love you and your mind so much Jenn! There's always something new to learn from you. Thank you for your lovely insights! I appreciate you so much x

I need you talking in my ear allll day. everything you say definitely resonates with me and makes me feel so much better about myself!

Love you Jenn always saying the right things, I needed to hear this

You are marvellous Jenn🥰 A beautiful human being! Always learning something from you❤️

Loving watching Jenn sincerely talks about her young self and now. Always encouraging girls just graduated from college reassure her life💖

LOVE LOVE LOVE ur chatty reflective videos!! I always find myself relating to u so much and I’m only 21 - good to know there’s stability in the future after having a p chaotic start to my 20s :,)

I think this is one of the best reflective videos you have made so far and I have been following you since forever 😊 I am a first time mom, 7 weeks postpartum and one of things I learned to let go rather quickly was perfection. Perfection plagued my life up until now. If it wasn’t perfect than it’s not good. This has instilled so much fear in me and affected so many aspects of my life. But once I entered parenthood, that was the first thing that went out of the window. I now prioritize and do what is needed the most and let go of the rest. Phew! Didn’t realize it was such a burden I was carrying all my life.

This is so beautiful. And having been following you for a while, it's so wonderful to see how you have grown as a person. It encourages me to think that maybe I have also grown a lot in the past few years.

i rlly needed this

I love this! Thanks for sharing! :) I can totally relate to a lot of these. I don't know if you do yoga but let me know if you want to practice together! I also teach yoga now in west hollywood! It has really allowed me to be present and connect my mind body and soul! :) xoxo

Jen your videos gives me comfort

This was probably favourite video of yours. Your starting position is so relatable and that change is inspirational

Been watching you from the start and I get so emotional with these videos So much love to you and always happy to see you grow with us 🤍🥺

After watching this clip, I just found out why I am like be unsatisfied with myself and even not satifyied with the outside world. It's just the fact that I criticize myself so much as im kindda on the way to pushing myself to the best. So when the things didn't meet my expection, then I just strated to blame myself or somethimes the surroundings. It's actually the voice of self-doubt!! So the real cure is like to genuinely accept who I am and to know more about myslef and just try to be friend with this "me" intested of trying to shaping an impossible doll "me" in my mind. Thx Jenn! Your video made me think a lot!

Hi Jenn. I don't know if you will be able to read this but I have been following you for awhile now and all I can say is I grew up with you. We are of the same age and the things we learned and matured from is the same too. We might not have the same experiences but the things that I changed my mind about is mostly the same as you. I felt that I have become more confident over the years. Watching your videos definitely helped me push myself forward. Words aren't enough to say but thank you so much for sharing your life and journey with us. Keep inspiring others!

this video comforted me so much in a very unexpected way, love this

I have to say that I grow with you and with this channel. thank you for all the insight, you truly like a big sister to me.

thank you for sharing this! i've been a subscriber since you and sarah's thrifting days and have loved watching you change and grow throughout the years ❤

Jenn, you’re literally my guiding light in my twenties. Thank god for you ✨💖

jenn i love this topic 'things i changed my mind about' because it reinforces to people that change and growth is okay!!

these realizatiions were SO helpful to what I'm going through right now!!! specifically the overstimulation part. thank you so so much Jenn

Your observation that "Everything doesn't have to be excellent" really resonates with me. I'm learning that if I continue to build this fantasy of "I'll only be happy if xxx happens" or "I'll only be happy if I end up with xxx kind of person" then I only guarantee I'll be miserable forever. Finding peace with what life has happened to give me has made life so much better. Thank you for sharing these insights with us Jenn :)