Check out the other side of the coin! Things Swedes do that are Rude. We talk about Swedengate among other things. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ipePjJWUq5u7Yqc.html

Thank you so much for having me! It was the best afternoon well spent in some time!

In most countries they hated having to social distance 2 meters apart from each other. In Sweden we wondered why we had to be that close....

My two favorite Swedish channels collaborate. LOVE it. Thanks, guys!

This video may possibly save Swedish/American friendships because of the "culture clash".

“Don’t sabotage things to make friends though” laughed so hard on this one 😂

In Sweden you could lay dead in your appartment for years and all your neighbours would do is roll their eyes and writing angry notes about the stench.😅

This might be the most entertaining podcast episode to me ever, but it also makes me think deeply about my heritage and the personality traits of my relatives and how--but also as important, why--they got passed down to me. Cultural customs get passed down in such interesting ways and can make us unique in our own culture/country we were born in. Thank you for the fun, funny, and interesting conversation!

America is so opposite 😂 Many of us speak loudly and it is considered rude at times to not make small talk or not interact with others, even strangers. Also, it is not typical to show our houses to others because it usually doesn't correspond with what we're doing or it is seen as bragging. It's so interesting to me to learn about the different cultures, as I'm traveling to Sweden to see family next month!

What I'm learning as an American is that I will be best off with Swedes at 3am when everyone is drunk :D

Love this collab between two of my favorite Swedish KZfaqrs! I know that an annoying thing we Americans do is talk about our heritage, but I'm 1/4 Swedish heritage... and hearing so many things that annoy Swedes that also annoy me makes me realize where I get it from! Interrupting, invading my personal space (in a queue for sure), wanting to show people my whole apartment when they first come visit, being exactly on time. When I visited Sweden and Norway, I laughed because in each place, people couldn't believe I enjoyed the other place. And to me, I was thinking how lovely both places were and how amazing the people, too! Friendly when you get to know them, but not all up in your business or doing small-talk with you before that. Just how I like it haha!!

French native here: I agree on everything. All that Swedes find annoying is annoying to me as well, especially loud people... So I guess there's a bit of Sweden within me... 🇸🇪🇸🇪

Since I'm following both of you, I really love that combo! ❤ Thank you 😀

Watching this while waiting to be right on time to a dinner. Have never thought about it as a Swedish thing before but it’s very true.

I’m Dominican raised in NYC and I’m the weirdo because I’m an introvert. All these things are normal for me but weird or rude for Dominicans. Dominicans will let complete strangers in their house and offer food. I would never even open the door!😅 I think I was Swedish in another life.😂

Thanks for sharing this information. It is very informative and insightful! 🎉

My LTR who is also my roomate, is from Sweden. He does like his privacy, so in the morning, after I make his coffee, I usually TEXT him instead of talking, even though we can see each other from the next room

I swear, everytime I watch a video/read article about Swedes' habits/traits, I always think "hey, the same here!" 🙈 Maybe I should start to identify as Swedish personality 🤔

I'm a very introverted American, and all these things are exactly how I am already, to a surreal degree. If I were to visit Sweden, all I'd have to do is just be myself!

we definintely do house tours to new people in Australia too! A way of welcoming your guests and not shutting them off into one room maybe!

Cool collaboration! ❤

I think I am secretly Swedish 😁 Love this! Currently learning Svenska because we are gonna live for atleast a year (maybe forever) in Sverige next year! Glad to stumble upon both of your accounts!

I've always thought we do house tour becous we want our guest to easily find their way around the house without having to ask, making them feel more comfortable while we at the same time having the opportunity to indirectly tell them which rooms they are allowed in and not. The bedroom part I think is either because it can tell so much about a person or because we dont want anyone to enter it without us out of curiosity later maybe? 😂

Thank you for this episode

I don’t hear about the inviting people into your house thing so much here in England. It feels like a big thing to me to invite someone to my house and if I do then I want them to feel comfortable/familiar and welcome. So the little house tour with the compliments sounds perfect for that

Hi! As a Swede, I feel so un-Swedish when it comes to greeting and talk to people. Comes from my mother's side. I can think it's a miracle that we even get to know other people sometimes. I have to have my space but talking and getting to know new people is fun. I can get very tired after being social, because it takes a lot of my psyche. but we Swedes are so boring. But I think it has to do with the fact that more in the past people lived further away from each other and took care of their own and you wouldn't disturb others. Then when bigger cities grew up, our old ways followed. But when we have found really good friends, we keep them. The friends I have, we are so different in personality. we have great fun and we don't have to do a lot of things to have a good time. Enough to chat and watch a movie, eat some food or play games. We dare to be different and that makes it so much fun, even if you get crazy sometimes, but that's the kind of thing we usually laugh about afterwards. Can hardly stop laughing sometimes. I myself was born & raised in a small municipality. So it's completely different from being in the big cities. I myself studied high school in Gothenburg and have family near there. Not saying that it applies to everyone, but many Stockholmers are more oscocial than those in the countryside and, as I said, a little too good on the edge. more nose in the weather as we Swedes say. Not saying this applies to everyone who lives in major cities. There are several I know who have the ground on their feet, but some I wonder if it has even see a cow. 😊😊😀

This video is really interesting I think. For me as a German it is somehow strange to hear about the housetour. I mean do you really show your BEDROOM to strangers? We would not do that in Germany. The other rooms are somehow "more ok". In general I seem to have a lot in commin with swedes because I also love my space and don´t want others to enter it without a permission of some kind. Although I was born and raised in Germany I really don´t like other people standing so close to me. Would love to try out standing in a que in Sweden and see if somebody notices, that I am not from there =D. It would be an interesting experiment to see how far they are really away.

Literally no kidding. Yesterday i was asking myself when both of you are going to do a collab video And walla its here today What a coincidence Great video by both of you Have a great day guys ❤

I am considered the' 7 Deadly Sins' as far as Lagom is concerned. My Swedish husband did not correctly inform me of the RULES N REGS in Stockholm. So restrictive and oppressive to us Americans...but, it is what it is. The good outweighs the bad so I carry on.

We foreigners (I am from Mexico) are surprised by how different our cultures are. I also need to confess that my grandfather came from Germany and the way I was brought up is not the one that is the regular Mexican one. My countrypeople tend to be far from considered and if things go right for them, they do not care about their neighbours. Being too close to each other kzfaq.info/get/bejne/pK6Pi5CVqs7Oe30.html is a product of how insufficient the transportation means are as well as how overpopulated my country is. Not being punctual always makes my countrypeople notorious. I arrive at least 15 minutes before for an appointment. If one has an ounce of common sense, one NEVER criticizes the country one visits. Mostly one shows that is quite attached to their cultures and ways and is far from tolerant to get to know new, different ones. Unfortunately, in my country noise is unavoidable in our lives in the city, and people are used to screaming rather than speaking. Hence, when we visit Scandinavian countries are always perplexed by how "withdrawn and cold" you are.

Thank you so much for the type of video!🙏🏻 I've been for months in language app trying to communicate with Swedes but no, nope they don't care, they don't answer even if you are a native from their target language 😅 I like personal space too, specially in queues) here in Brazil, people are so close, that is annoying. About house tour, my parents always did for guests and clients, perhaps because he is an architect but my mom also did for her friends. Usually, they don't ask, we do it because we want to... But for Swedes that sounds controversial)) perhaps Swedes just want to get entertained in a tour... Who knows what you can find in someone else houses?! 😅 Now I have to adapt myself to find native Swedes friends 🤣

This video is everything about why I love Sweden as an American. Reverse cultural shock after returning home after some time was so unpleasant 😪

I went to Sweden a while ago and I rented an Airbnb in Gothenburg and we arrived early at the Airbnb because we took an early train 🚂 there and I remember the face of panic of the girl that was supposed to open the door for us 🤭 poor girl she was SOOOOO panic that she was late ⏰ and we were like no, no no! We came early because of the train 🚂 🤭 it was very weird/funny after the fact 🤭

I have recently moved to Sweden and joined SFI , but di way you explain is awesome .. wish i had you as a Teacher :p

so..does working at Ikea and learning swedish give me extra points trying to find a swedish friend? 😂

I must be Swedish.. 😂 i agree to almost every point mentioned 😊

I just love your show I just love you swedes I find you so humble and not loud, all the best for 2023, love Linda Scotland xxx

I love the Swedish ways...they are right up my alley...🥰 I take it as a compliment when Americans confuse Switzerland with Sweden...two different countries, but they think it's one, Sweden. It is never the other way around...

This is almost the same as in the Netherlands. We have a little bit more smalltalk but the loud part, the personal space, making friends, be on time and husesyn is exact the same in the region where I come from.

Amazing video ❤ thank you. Swedish society is so great. Too much respect here in Sweden. Thank you ❤❤❤

Ok so. My bf is Swedish, I’m living in Sweden with him. We were casually preparing ourselves a snack, toast with Präst cheese and he mentions this one time when I was visiting him and how unspeakable or horrifying it was for him that I took the tip of the cheese (it was so thin anyway) and he proceeds to tell me how there is a whole etiquette culture around slicing the cheese correctly and how annoying it is to have a “cheese slope” and such. I can’t tell if he’s serious or not. Is this an actual thing? 😂😂😂

Nice video, thanks.

I am Belgian, living in Sweden since 2017 and during Covid we had to be angry with lots of Swedes who did not att all respect the 2m. I think it is something in Stockholm

Regarding the part where you talk about being defensive when someone that isn't from nordic countries judge how your country works or critisice people's behaviour, I absolutely understand 😂. As a Hispanic, I feel the same about Latin America and non Hispanic people. We can tease and joke eachother like siblings but the minute a non Latin person says something about us, we unite as a team. Oh, and I also get very proud when people know and talk about Argentina, we get really happy. love from Buenos Aires 🇦🇷 💙

Fantastisk bra underbar

I can hardly wait to visit Sweden and see where the Swedish part of my family comes from. I am from the American South (specifically Texas) so restraining my public friendliness won’t be easy, but I will do my absolute best to respect Swedish culture. I definitely don’t want to be seen as an “ugly American”.

As an introvert person, I would like to say Swedes are mostly introverted people according to your speech. I could say most of them IxxJ or IxxP according to MBTI types. It is weird because most people are extroverted around the world. However, Swedes seem like quite opposite. But I think, it is also makes them more creative and innovative people.

Just image my struggle as italian who live in the north of Sweden...(especially when friends come to visit me...)

here in Portugal when we are talking we don't like silences and we sometimes talk at same time and don't let others end. I have that problem but it's hard for me to change that 😂😂 I think Latins love talk...

When I finally get to Sweden I'm going to have to work on my punctuality. I grew up running on California time 😅

Wow, I've never felt closer to Swedes than after watching this video! 💙💛 All these things annoy me too! 🙂

In Portugal we also show our house to everyone visit our house. But I think that is more show off... Don't know. I feel that and I never liked that. 😂 But for a Sweden I think is a weird thing show home. I was in Stockholm last weeks and I already visit Copenhagen as well and I can say you are more warm than them. I think it is very interesting our differences that's why I am enjoying learn Swedish with you.

I feel like a lot of these don't really apply to Stockholm. Here I've heard native Swedes being loud on Tbana, using handsfree sets to talk (it's almost like a trend), queues are also very... relaxed here.

When I went to Sweden (Stockholm) for the first time a few months ago, I was invited to dinner at a Tandem partner's home... and they didn't show me their house! I guess I should be offended now xD

Why is husesyn uncommon in Germany? We actually do that, but only close friends or family gets to see the house and we call it "Hausbesichtigung" or "Rundgang" when those people visit us for the first time. Or is that just my family...?

Question about the house tour thing, is this every time someone visits your house, or just the first time someone comes over?

When I'm waiting at the bus stop I want to be as close as possible to the place where the bus will stop... so if I get distracted by sth and the bus arrives ik I'm anyway on the spot and have to make just a few moves to get in...

Hi dear ! As you know It is very difficult to be friends with a Swede, especially girls and women, and they only refuse to be friends with strangers. How I would like to be friends with you. I am a woman and I live in Gothenburg with my husband. I am glad to meet you.

During a music festival in Väsby, people would leave a lot of space between them so in order to get to the front of the stage you would have to walk too close to them and they were clearly annoyed by this, are you supposed to just not go to the front even when there is a lot of space in latin american terms? or is there a polite way to get there?

I really like Sweden as a country an as a people. I ve beed skiing in Are city few year ago! Cheers from Ukraine!

So interesting.

I am german and I totally agree with the distance point. I always hated when people get to close. And the most annoying part is : You would think the people learned from the pandemic. But nope nope, the second it was kind of over they're back kissing your neck while waiting in line. Like...c'mon 🥴

great to know the "secrets" to get to meet other Swedes hehehe. But then how do you ask for help or directions or information on the street? Would you feel too embarrassed to ask? Is it still too much for a Swede? And how do you feel when you are abroad?

I must be Swedish and switched in the hospital as a baby... Before covid I was already trying to keep 2m away from people because why would you need or want to be any closer than that

5:13 - that makes total sense to me...

I don’t understand this at all, polar opposite to my experience further north. They are so so so so loud, always shouting in public. I can hear them over my headphones now on the bus, screaming loud. Also they are constantly invading my personal space. Always standing up my ass, blocking the card reader so I can’t pay for my shopping. During the slack covid restrictions, I couldn’t get anyone to maintain a metre away 😣 Constantly staring as well, definitely don’t mind their own business.

Hallä jag har ingen telefon vad är klockan?

I haven't heard anything that would deviate from the social norm here in Poland.

As an American, I think I would like having my space. But, I also think it would have a cold feel about it. Do you say Good morning, good afternoon or greetings such as that?

I am from Brazil and I am living In Sweden for almost an year and my culture is totally different than the Swedish culture, I mean, I can literally hug a stranger on the street ! This video is going to make the difference in my experience with Swedish people

How to get a Swedish friend, get drunk, we lose all distancing and we open up about anything.

You both say that something is "weird" as if that's the worst thing a person could possibly be! I come from places where people are proud to be weird. I'll have to come to Sweden sometime and laugh, smile and talk to the people, horrifying them, possibly causing a few heart attacks. Sounds fun.

Ok, we do husesyn with our guests….🇩🇪😂

In British culture being on time for a party is a complete “no-no”. It’s seen as uncool and hosts would usually be annoyed to entertain a couple of people arriving at the exact start time. We prefer the majority to just turn up in a big crowd. If a party says it starts at 7pm most people would get there between 7.30/8pm 😂 It’s so funny how cultures differ!

Excuse you! Lol, you all would probably not like going to Disneyland then. I myself also don't like loud public behavior or standing super close in line (it must be my Swedish roots. Lol) but here you better or you get cut in front of. Even driving.

2:52 is that is a dig at Anomaly?

im swedish and can confirm most of it

Jag gillar ju verkligen Sayitinswedish

Who asks nowadays about a time or a way? I have my smartphone and google maps 😅

Can u make video on when to use röd , röda ,rött

English culture and etiquette just seems like a mixture of German and Swedish, which does make sense.

I respect all of that though but the one thing i find weird is when there's something bad going on and you don't call it out I be sitting there like do something for fuck sake🤦🏿‍♂️

so... this is a bit awkward to say... but i thought it was absolutely Hilarious when you came to the part near the end about interrupting and monopolizing the conversation, to hear Joakim pontificate about that after he hardly allowed Daniella a word during this video. i think it was halfway through the video, at 11:00ish, that she finally got two sentences in a row without him interjecting. then when she introduced the interrupting topic, he seemed to finally be biting his tongue for a few seconds,, and then said how we Swedes "wait our turn"! i haven't followed his channel, perhaps it's an artifact of being a youtuber that you feel responsible for keeping everything going? but then even stranger to hear him say that need to keep things rolling is an American trait! or maybe you both think of it as Daniella being the interviewer and Joakim the speaker? the whole thing struck me as Very odd, anyway.

I don't feel the friendship issue AT ALL. I don't live in Sweden, but I never ever book a hotel. I can just sleep at their places, act like it's home. But that's maybe because most of them are in Skåne? And everytime I meet new people and they just seem to close me in to their arms? Everyone is so open and friendly. Your video (and the one on say it in Swedish) are so messing with my head because I don't experience this at all.

In romania we hate eachother so much speaking with strangers mean you will either get stabbed or a mean punch But thats ussualy if you are a driver We do not like bragging even if some ppl do Very religious ppl(not me) every hospital there is another 10 churches

Oh my, four visits to Sweden in five years, and I thought I had put a lid on my irritating American ways. Not so, who knew we shouldn't talk with our hands? :D

Go to clubs, talk, become friendly and forget about them tomorrow.

Jag börjar känna mig helt hemma i Sverige 😁 (Jag bor i Nederländerna).

is this some generational thing or is it that I've got autism (really I've got autism) or whatever? I'm Swedish and. Idm if someone asks me what time it is because it's basically the same thing as asking for a lighter, sometimes you just need to ask. If you mind that someone asks you what time it is then yeah... you're an asshole.. Idk if it's just a me thing.. but when I invite someone over I freaking HATE to show them my apartment, because I always feel like idgaf as long as they don't enter my bedroom.. I even hate doing it when my apartment is spotless I also prefer ppl talking shit about the other Scandinavian countries because then at least that isn't about Sweden. And wow.. I'm good at interrupting ppl and they're good at interrupting me and we don't even mind I also don't like it when ppl asks themself if a person is mentally ill just because they might invade your personal space, at most I tell myself that they're being weird.

One thing swedes find annoying is friendly people 😂😅

As an American, these are things that I personally find annoying too. I think I'd adapt and assimilate pretty well in Sweden ❤️

2:06 - how is that a thing? Lol Edit: how is that a normal thing... în my country if someone hears another talk to himself they assume that someone is mentally ill or sth...

I also don't like loud people...

Sweds talks confidently loud...which i like😁

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🎶Vi kan kjøpe hele Sverige om vi vil! Vi kan kjøpe hele Sverige om vi vil! Vi kan kjøpe hele Sverige. Vi kan kjøpe hele Sverige. Vi kan kjøpe hele Sverige om vi vil! 🎵 Just joking, love you swedish bros 😉

Early gang!

Jag är italiensk men jag gestikulerar inte när jag pratar 😅

I, as an American, find all these reasonable and obvious (except the house tour- I don’t want to know too much about you, I don’t want you to know too much about me). I wish Americans behaved more like what is described here: polite, not intrusive, quiet, respectful- all those qualities they teach you as a young child that are seemingly forgotten as you graduate primary school.

I watched many Swedish ytuber and which has taught me basically that they're similar to a funny German except less loud and also the Swedes don't quite know about their accent and timing being funny to non-natives 😂