The only routine I have is procrastination and inconsistency

“As though I am a toddler” is my new guideline in treating myself 😂 It’s weird but sometimes I just have to parent myself.

I really need to wake up earlier as an ADHDer.... I LOATHE feeling rushed because although we are fueled by short deadlines I don't want to live my day to day that way. I am a bedtime procrastinator but not only that I typically get home later having a side business and so I don't eat until 9pm which makes me not ready for bed until close to 11pm because of digestion. I've tried to go to bed right after eating but it ends up being very low quality sleep. I don't really WANT to wake up earlier though, I'd rather have a lifestyle that supports my slow start to the morning (later morning).

gardening has changed my life, in the mornings interact with plants for 15-30 mins brings me so much joy and that dopamine helps me kickstart my day. Also unrelated and I know I commented already but I am so grateful I just stumbled upon your channel because I'm in the midst of switching meds, getting back into school, a new teaching job and I feel more empowered. I used to watch how to ADHD a lot but her tone and video style doesn't always resonate with me but you have such a wise presence that is so straightforward. so refreshing.

Hello! I am viewing this video late but I totally agree with you about a morning routine. I do everything I can so I don't have to "think" in the morning. I go as far as I can without annoying my husband LOL. I have my clothes ready, the coffee ready, the breakfast dishes and frying pan-ready. Then the pets: the bowls are clean, on the table with anything I need beside it. Whatever takes me 5 minutes at night, can take me 10-15 in the morning. I also have several alarms on my phone to keep me focused and on the way out the door or I fall into a worm hole LOL.

“Look at the sun” - looking at the miserable gray Berlin sky :-(

I need to find my MoJo. Self-discipline, clean up my living environment, drink less wine, get to bed by 10 PM/not 3 AM! Purge my clutter, and exercise out the door daily! Yikes I have a lot of stuff to change! Thank you for the motivation. I am in my 70's, still in the battle of Life! A good thing in my book!

I agree so much, if you look at your past if it didn't work the way you thought it should you should probably give it a shot this way where you take on the day having your cup full. The most important thing to point out is the morning Routine starts with the evening routine from the day prior. if you can't get your morning routine right, focus on your evening routine, and usually, that helps get a good morning routine going.

I have never found a more relatable person in my life. I’ve been binging your videos for a few days and not to sound dramatic but I think you’ve changed my life ❤ Thanks for what you do. I’m almost 40 and have struggled so hard with my adhd all my life(and now helping my son manage his).

I found the only way for me to have a good morning routine is to prepare in the evening. Dishes done and kitchen clean makes me happy when I get up. I set everything up for feeding all the animals, and making my morning drink. So my p.m. routine lets me be on autopilot when I get up.

I just saw someone put on five of those coiled loops with a tag on it, and each one has a task on it: sunscreen, face washing, pills, food, sunscreen. She can only take one off if she's finished the task. And totally agree--I've been waking up with phone plugged in on the other side of the room, and I don't touch the phone until noon if I can help it. I leave and go write at a cafe without the phone. This has super helped my brain create to do lists and focus more.

I'm 40 and Adhd, and can't even relate to this. 😂 Autopilot? What autopilot? I have alexa reminders and stuff like that, but I have never had aan automatic routine. Every morning is remembering what I need to do today, in probably a different order to what it was yesterday. I'm great in a crisis or when problem solving or in new situations, because I am just dealing with things in the same way I have to deal with *everything*.

I like this routine idea. I put so much stick into getting the perfect routine and them i get hung up on how long it takes. This seems simple and maintainable and it just takes the time it takes.

Oh my gosh, I NEED this channel and content. So many lightbulb moments, now I understand why I struggle and do not enjoy vacations. It literally knocks me off kilter. I need that shirt also. 😂

I’m so thankful for you. I just started following you. I am 46. Therapy search has been exhausting. This has helped and gives a balanced approach and real life tips. Thank you. Following

A small shift for me is to put a notebook next to my phone charger (which is next to a comfy chair) and do that download first thing. Great idea!

So strange for you to think that you're not an influencer when you literally coach people, record podcasts, and have a KZfaq channel with affiliate links. It's okay to stand fully in your power. ❤️

I remember lists of 3 best so right now it's gratitude, hydration & outside. I can do all 3 at once in 5 minutes if squeezed. Optimal activities include yoga, walking, meditation but those 3 quick basics are my foundation for the day to include the self care/ reparenting I need to be functional.

Thank you so much. I have struggled with this my whole life. I am 71 and still very busy and just started keeping a calendar about 4 years ago, but trying to make it better. I am so glad I found you.

I'm a mess in the morning mostly coz I live alone and the moment I wake up it reminds me of how lonely my day is gonna be. So I reach for my phone immediately to deal with that loneliness. But I'm trying. I just decided cut coffee out of my system (not caffeine entirely) so I can sleep better. I know my body is flooded with cholesterol as soon as I wake up so I am trying chamomile tea these days.

My morning routine is really important, because it affects me all day 🙏 so I get up 5 in the morning, do 10-15 min off yoga, then shower, eating breakfast, before I go to work at 6. If I have a day off ore holiday, my routine fall apart🙄🙈

this routine works for sure, i have done it before in the past. my issue is consistency. like if literally anything goes wrong my entire routine gets messed up. i need a way to restabilize if something happens that disrupts me.

I will try this out. Thank you! I know what I want to do but that doesn’t mean I’ll actually do it. But you helped me realize that I Can readjust. So thank you!

I gotta recommend Brili for routines, it's really convenient. When I wake up, I just press play and it walks me through my morning routine (meds, bathroom, teeth...) You can also skip any parts you don't have time for or push one part for later (if the bathroom is occupied for example) and it's soooo easy to use it, even on hard days

Thank you for this, I've been wanting to get into a routine for a while but think my ADHD brain felt overwhelmed with where to start! Definitely taking some of these ideas to try, I know I feel better when I get out for air/sun rather than scrolling on my phone, yet rarely do it. I end up doing my first few meetings in PJs cos I've lost time! And ignoring my phone for a while would mean my dogs get out for a morning walk earlier rather than them having to go bathroom in the garden until I get my backside in gear around lunchtime! Sorry, personal brain dump! Lots to think about! Thank you

Thank you. Needed a refresher on what works well in my mornings. Going to make some small shifts and set the phone aside.

omg wait I love you. Your honesty and passion is infectious thank you

I keep rewinding the part where you say "go out and look at the sun" and I know you didn't mean it literally so it keeps making me giggle 😅

My everyday breakfast is bagel with 2 eggs, a meat (what ever is easiest), cheese, with jam, tajin, pepper and sometimes habanero hot sauce. Its filling and keeps me good for hours. My OMG-i-need-to-wake-up-early breakfast is making oatmeal the night before😅 with whey protein powder and add nuts and liquid (like milk) so i can eat it super quick. I like to eat, watch youtube for a bit, have an alarm set on my watch to switch to the next part of my routine. Generally I have a going out morning routine and a stay at home routine. What i need to add to my autopilot routine is exercise beyond stretching. I was doing 45 minute walks during covid, but i find i dont have time in the mornings + its dark outside.

Scrolling an hour on my phone during mornings. Guilty as charged.

Ha, you sure called me out there at the end, when you said you know what we're thinking. I will need to think about an ideal morning routine and what that would look like. Everything is for the cats, then I stumble to my work chair to log in and try to work all day. That is not ideal! 😂

This really helped me today, thank you Caren ❤

I was in that same club and am a work in progress! What I have implemented recently is being part of the 5AM club. It is my magic hour for just me. There is something magical with the calm and quiet in the morning when no one is awake to bother you😂. It usually starts with some kind of short motivation, for me I found that listening to a 3-5min homily then my plan of action for the day (this tends to ground me). I got this inspiration hearing that monks have this routine to be up before the sun as a non negotiable!

Yep. I do not like my routine being changed at all. It throws the whole day off!!!!!

Great stuff Caren. New follower and appreciate your insights 👊

This was really good! exactly the way i need to hear it!! Thank you for making the choices you make so you can show up and record this video!! I can really resonate with everything you share and it gives me hope that i will one day gain control over the things I let control me… 😊

The melatonin is the thing that would give me crazy dreams

This video is so helpful thank you!! It’s a good example of how to build a solid morning routine!! Could you maybe make the same but with a night routine? Like Things to think about the night before in order to have a adhd friendly day😄

I love this. Thank you.

I ve trying using a 6 minutes morning ritual these days. But not being successful at being consistant yet. It s crazy!!! I just tend to forget about it.

I love your videos so much!

Thank you! For this video.

This is the video I was looking for ❤

Bro, I've been living here for 20 years and I still haven't got my daily routine figured out 😂

I love the way you talk…reminds me of myself 😂😂😂

Thanks!

It's a lightbulb moment!! One question for you. It's January 2024. Do you still have the same routine? Or, is there any new tidbits you can add for us to look at?

Love it!

This is overwhelming for me cause I sleep for like 20 hours in a row if I’m not working 😭

I got distracted adding task to my todo list so i'm at the end of the video and have no idea what it said. So... watch n°2 😂 I'm guessing listening to adhd people organisations methods count as body doubling for working on mine.

Do you have any favorite meditations or 'creators' on Insight? Also I think curiosity and testing things are *so* good for us so that we can figure out what should go on our autopilot :)

Bold of you to assume I know where my medication is 🤣

any suggestions for a 3rd shift worker, who takes care of her two little ones during the day?! I get up at 8 /8:30 pm to scarf dinner down & run out the door for work! Get home at 7ish am! on average i get about 3-4.5 hrs broken sleep! any suggestions are appreciated ( side note never had any kind of routine or schedule, want to start one not only for myself but my autistic daughter and little boy!)

I had a good routine but then my life changed and now i don't know how i made one

I would help if your speech was a little less pressured. I get it, BUT I get accelerated just listening to you, and then I can't listen. Just sayin..LOL. You need to watch this video and put yourself in your audience' eyes. I am so distracted by your windmill gyrations, I have to turn away. That said I appreciate the points you have made, especially the comments about the night before. That is very helpful. I also like your suggestion that one should assess what one wants one's ideal morning to be like. Simple, but important! Thank you. Oh and the tracker thing, that's good too.

I didn't know one could take adhd medication and cbd, that's interesting to know

:( if I'm not working or at school, I waste my day :(

Does anyone find they live in what I call a “Reactive state”????

Are you medicated? Habit tracker…. Chances of that happening for adhders is slim

Not everyone has the luxury of starting their working day after 10 am and devoting hours to an ideal routine that feeds our creativity. Some of us have multi-hour commutes and have to be out the door before 6 am. I like much of your content, but this is feels so out of touch and ultra-privileged.