Time is a healer and a game changer especially if they ended it on an impulse. You dont just forget someone you were in a relationship with. Initially they feel they have the upper hand because they made the final desicion and then they start to wonder what you're doing and why you arent contacting them. They forget the bad as the good stacks up higher. They feel alone. Even if a 3rd party gets involved no one can replace you. We are all very special people and every ex has regrets. Trust me 😉

I’m an alcoholic I’ve been in group meetings trying to kick this addiction. Alcohol ruined my marriage and I’m working on myself

Day 4 of no contact. Today is awful 💔

You teaching makes me a more confident person, thank you

Best bet, send her down the road like a used car with high mileage and let the next owner deal with all of her problems!👍🏻

Thank you for this.. I needed this

Not all ex’s regret leaving. Moreover, even for those who have regretted, they can also heal and move on, and yet never come back.

Thanks for your videos, Brad, they're really helping me in this moment. I am still shocked by my wife saying she was giving up three weeks ago. We have two small kids, 6 and 3, and 12 years together. The alleged reason is that I am too serious, passive, somewhat depressive, etc. I recognize and I was trying to fix that before she broke. I am shocked and very disappointed on how cold and hard she's been on that. Not a single tear so far. This hits me so hard that I can't even think of what could help me towards a "better version" of myself right now.

Can you do a video about messing up (after the breakup), realising your mistakes and how to fix it if she doesn't want to see me, talk to me and hates me? And is trying to move on?

It's been 8 months no contact. We were together for 7 and a half years. She broke up with me by leaving a note on the kitchen table. I don't think she's coming back.

Great video

im improving myself by being the best version of myself not needing no one anymore and being okay without love and not being a puppy of no one and prioritize myself and making them respect me

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

I needed this thank you!!

Bruh. The point of her being an ex is that it's no longer about her. It all goes to the New Queen now. And the decision is final.

Thanks a lot coach

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which I have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

Hi Brad, you make a lot of content about how to get back together with your ex. But for cases that we were cheated on, how do we know if we should accept them back? Hope to hear from you soon. Thank you.

My ex came back after 4 months. 3 weeks after hanging out, he's not interested anymore. His behavior didn't change & it triggered my bad behaviors. If he's not working on himself but I am, is it better to move on?

My ex-girlfriend just defriended me suddenly tonight on Facebook. We haven’t even talked in over a month. I wasn’t bothering her. But she’s been watching my stories on there and on my Snapchat. And she still has our pictures up. I don’t get it. I miss her and have wanted her back.

Hi Brad ,thanks for the videos. Can i ask if there is still hope if he said it's over but couple of minutes later when he ends the voice message he said he needs a break, he needs time? It is confusing because I am trying to hold on even the tiniest piece of hope. Also I kept asked to be blocked because I knew I was going to be emotional but he didn't.Even when I go crazy with texts he doesn't block me. I am in day 2 of no contact now :)

Hi Brad, I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago because he wanted to “have a break and feel independence” but I refused to have my life on pause for him. He was really sad and moved out and now we’re on this break/breakup. We’re still friends and we text but I’ve been trying to be cold. He’s also the kind of person who can be very sensitive and determined - so I don’t want to upset him too much to the point of no return. We have a lot mutual friends (6 years together!) and we still go to the same coworking space on weekdays. How can I leverage this situation to my advantage if I want him to crawl back to me? Thank you

I want my ex back and I hear what you’re saying, but how do I get her back, show her I’m improving, or literally anything when I’m blocked everywhere and I’m across the country

My ex told me three weeks ago that I’m a good guy but she doesn’t feel we can recover from disrespecting each other. Fast forward three weeks later and she’s saying she wants to start back talking and miss goofing around with me. Is this a sign of breadcrumbing?

If we are blocked everywhere, how will he get to know our improved version and have no common friends

Why my ex say sorry and thank you to me often.

Well, Brad for me, my ex left me about 8 days ago now and said they think they misunderstood having someone close for love. I don't fit the normal criteria of people they would date, and I honestly don't know if they will ever date me again.

So change for them to be happy but they don't have to change nothing

Salute 🫡 you ❤❤

I’m working on myself by working on my anxiety, not drinking, and doing therapy. If we just broke up a week ago, & I’ve texted and called so much, but I stopped yesterday, could this still work?

What does it mean, if her profile says she single on Facebook or other media, but she goes out and drink, gain weight, stressed, but she hides here and there with someone, but is nice to you and is always mad, even when bumping to each other at places .. also yall have kids together .. I feel like this isn't mentioned here with couples with kids, then broken up. Whats the answer ????????

Thank you for sharing this stuff it was very helpful. I’m going thru a huge break up with a guy that I was so in love with but yes time and time again no matter times he tried to keep telling me how much he loved me and then drawling me back in, he always does the same thing over and over. I know I’ve just got to let me go. So annoying. It’s life so whatever. He’s a psycho anyways. I’ve cut contact with him but he keeps writing me from other profiles and Your right in this video but he scares me he’s bipolar and I am too so I just don’t think it’s gonna even work. Lol 😂 anyways I liked this video!

And she keeps smiling when we bring up old nickname when we was dating and keeps saying I a close friend

she had a crush on me at work.i fked up and after 5 months still not together...

One month NC and I'm fading fast. I have moments of sheer terror punctuated by crippling anxiety. I see her every day at work I have to walk by her to get to the bathroom and I am dying to stop and beg but I don't. I really don't think NC is working for me.

My wife doesn't care about any of my improvementa, she still left me. Will space and time help in this kind of situation too? We are married 22 years. She says maybe one day she'll find the love of her life😢

In no contact for 3 weeks, but there is a bill which I need him to settle. Can I send him a message to pay for the outstanding?

Hi Brad I’ve been following you yeah now , so my ex boyfriend broke up with me 6 months now and never leave me alone always text me say want see me so bad then ghost me what should I do I’m kind like so annoying from him !

Me n my ex have been split up for about 12 years now. We have a daughter together so we do keep in contact for her. So this year so far we went Christmas shopping, she unblocked me on Facebook and added me on Snapchat but i found out she has a boyfriend so I deleted her from Snapchat and blocked her on Facebook. The past few weeks shes been showing up to our daughter's school on days she knows I pick her up. What do you think is going on in her mind?

Brad i have loved the same woman for 26 years she destroyed our marriage 18 years ago she wanted to go play leaving me and our 5 year old alone without her and ended up have someone else's children and each time she had a child she brought the newborn to me and laid the baby in my arms and i am so attached to the children and them to me that it feels like they are mine my ex and I never got a divorce and we are very close matter of fact she and i were having an affair the entire time she was with the guy after me and her and I are still close these days her life is a mess and a bit dysfunctional and its like im waiting for her life to fall apart and she comes to me however she cries and gets tender hearted if she thinks im thinking about moving away where im not in her life and her broken heart just kills me but my shattered heart is literally going to kill me im afraid.... will the disappearing and no contact still work after all this time she has never really had me out of her life i think she believes i will always be there no matter what but i need to get her to take action at some point and it may take a lot longer than weeks it may take a year or so for her life to fall apart and her want to come to me although she will be out of her mind if i disappear she will fight to find out where i am and i know i have to be silent so what do i do brother

Thank you Brad I'll be very grateful if you answer❤️.. I've Been in a long distance relationship for 5 months and he broke up with me after a honest conversation about what our relationship miss to be more successful.. I said to him I will try my best to make things better but after 10 day he said he want to breakup again I tried to convince him but it didn't work and he said he is sad and his feelings changed since that conversation and felt like his hard work for the relationship wasn't enough for me and he feel his heart is close and not knowing what to do about it and say he want me stay away from him now and want to be alone to feel him self again because he so tired from this.. I been in no contact about 6 days but he break it 2 days ago to wish me a happy birthday.. What should I do now???

I think they need to change as well

Hello Brad! Mw and my baby daddy broke up end of December and we still havent gotten back together and he didnt even wish me a happy mothers day and we have a child together, he said he didnt Wish me Happy Mothers Day because he has flashbacks negativity in our relationship things I did

I don't feel regret of him leaving me bc I prepared years but just sad to waste my time when was completed break up by cheating, betrayed hidden. Not fair , even I told him when he had another relationship, just told me and I would feel not as stabbing my back which was wierd and immature and lost faithful to him

I'm just trying my best not to contact my wife but I just miss her I was doing the NC the thing is that I'm getting her mail in my apt still? No and then I just Tex my wife just to let her know that she has mail I put her,her favorite energy drink in mail too she took I did Rong doing it but WHY still getting her mail what do I do

I’m still living with my ex. I’m working on my issues with being clingy and trying to talk to her.

Its been 7month now since she broke up with me , we have two kids and i have been working on my self but early this year she gave me a condition that if i wanted her back then i should go perform the marital rights to her family. Honestly i did perform the rights years back but it wasn't complete and early this year i got into some business that needs fund and i told her that i can't manage to do it right now coz am financially handicapped, we should fix the marriage so that even when i go home to complete the rights u will be satisfied of my changes but she decided to complete break up Brad how do i go about that?

Hi brad!! My boyfriend broke up with me last month. It was sudden, before 30 mins of telling me that he won't leave me, he told me let's break up after 30 mins.. I don't know what's going on in his head. Currently he's only blaming me and he's not thinking of the good times we had together, he's only thinking of the issues and not the good times we spent together. It was a relationship of 2.7 years. We were really a great couple. I had some mental health issues and showed my anger on him.. it hurted him deeply. He still cares for me.. he told my friend to not leave me alone.. but he still said he don't want a relationship and told that he won't get in a relationship with anyone... He told me he doesn't deserve love. He's hurt.. we are a long distance couple of 4 months. He always feared long distance. He's a good guy.. we are gonna meet next week. Please guide me on what to do...I used hurtful words and he got hurt and left me... What can I do to bring him back to me...I really love him...I will never ever hurt him . Before one issue I was fine.. but after certain things happened in my life it messed with my mental health... please help me

Will mention my journey here It’s been 2 weeks since she dumped me at my lowest

Mine left and disappeared for 7 months and she hit me up to ask me the stupidest question out of nowhere. We started talking slowly and eventually got back together and she was disrespectful to me and not respecting boundaries. I told her to get the hell out of my place and she said okay with no fight. Packed up all her stuff and left and she went completely silent. I did reach out because I said stuff out of anger because she was caught talking to a man behind my back AGAIN. Haven’t talked to her in a month now. 5 years together. Down the drain.

I dont want to get her back.

How does this change if they monkey branched? Such a fast transition.. "I love you" and new sex 3 weeks after the breakup.

Should I unfollow him on social media after breakup during no contact?

I just got out of a 2 year relationship and I’m confused as to why my girl broke up with me over our personal issues that we needed to change in our relationship. I couldn’t change for her during our relationship, for example, not taking things so seriously and getting upset at most things. Which yes there’s things in our relationship we bother needed to work on. But still doesn’t give the reason to break up with me even though I caught her flirting with other guys and I need a break after that for her to earn my trust back, but she did not hook up what so ever. More of a girl trait of waiting attention from me but-couldn’t give that to her as we were going through personal life stuff and had little arguments. she turned it into our personal things that we need to work on and broke up over that reason instead of the reason she cheated on me. I’m just confused about this,

what do you do if they believe that we only grow and improve ourselves if we arent together? like how can I beat that? I improve my life and confirm what they thought or i dont change and im still the same person that they left?

It's like another full month of not seeing her and throughout the time I was exercising quite alot lately and like I feel different and I learning my learners and driving license and by fixing my mouth and teeth it's a total game changer although at times I will still think about her but not that much❤❤❤❤

no I don't want to to him

What if you have kids together, how does no contact work?

What about when kids are involved?

I've watched a ton of these types of videos since my breakup. One common thread I don't understand is, how can they see all the improvements and changes in you if you are maintaining no contact?

Hello, I am from Thailand. I'm an LGBT couple. We've been together for almost 2 years. He was the one who started flirting with me first. My love ended 1 month ago. He told me that he no longer loved me. We never fought, but I still have contact with him to this day. We’re still friends and we text but he looked cold, like he didn't want to talk to me. I still miss him now. Can i ask if there is still hope.

My wife left me after 22 years and 3 kids together. We had every kind of times but I never was violent, abusive etc. She said she just wanted a normal middle class life she saw everywhere and it was impossible with me. I was cool and calm. friendly, never asked her back. I bought a house, got a proper job and nice income. 3 years later we get along friendly, I help her a lot, I am very kind etc but she never asked me back. She is still single but there is no hope to reconcile.

Can you do a video about a guy who did drugs and had a real special girl who put up with it for 10 years and he kept relapsing and they split up?

Why do I want to chase someone who will leave you again

It’s been 2 almost 3 months and I’m not even close to happy

Hi sir..our relationship was of 2 years nd she cane to know that its bot going to work further after 1 year itself due to caste issues nd family prblms but even then she tried nd we completed 2 years but 1.5 month ago her father came to know about our relationship which made it difficult he stopped talking with her nd she said that we need a break for 1 year after this we had many many more arguments fights which made her hurt at great extent... Nd now she is saying she don't know if we will continue after 1 year... Mayve she is moving on know but after the break up she suffered very much she cried alone.. but now i really wanna her back ASAP but she is making distance from me ... She says its better we will be friends what should i do sir ?? Plzz help

But my ex knows that I only post stories when I’m not happy😂 So i guess for me it’s better that I don’t put a lot of stories on insta

How to escape friendzone from girl I like she also likes me to some extent?

It's been 2 years and she told me she wants to move on

If your value initially attracted your ex, then why would you feel the need you need to improve your value to get them back? This doesn’t make sense. You were good enough then. They just couldn’t see the value in you.

Brad my ex keeps saying she's lost feelings and all and don't see me in that way and has bpd and shes gone to a lads other house and dating them after a week we broke up

We never fought. Never in two years! The only thing that she told me is that the age difference became an issue, even though it didn't ever change and I am more healthy than she is! So, how do I "change" an age difference?! Pizdets

When all else fails, hook up with her best friend🤣

He's an ex for good reason

Been strict zero dark :30 no contact last 5mos. Worked on self totally leveling up. And she wont ever see anything ive changed, im not on social media, not sure how your plan works there Brad. My worth/value i know is high. Shes just a pos covert narky human. Pretty sure she with her new guy same day she dumped me hasnt permitted her any "space" or any way to connect again. Your advice isnt very good Brad. Lots holes in the assumptions and methods.

So you recommend to post thing in instegram or Facebook of things u do in your life? Its not better not to do it The mystery is a better option?

Hi brad i just don't know why he is doing all these thinks now days before 2 days he wants to break up with me and I convinced him not to break up and he agreed and suddenly now today he just broke up with me why it's been 5 years and he is changing his behaviour towards me please tell what should I do now how can I make him love me again like before please reply 🙏🙏