Perfect ending to a wonderful video! I can finally attest that this works! I started my first therapy session on the day he moved out. I went through all these phases of self blame to, he played a large role in this break up too. I went from saying, “he left me” to “he lost me”. That ending had purpose because now I understand things about myself I hadn’t known before. The whys behind my patterns of behavior. That ending forced me to see that I have been codependent in relationships, which is why I chose him to begin with. Once removed from the pedestal, I can clearly see how much better I can do. I had settled with an emotionally immature man with severe mommy issues and abandonment issues. I had done a lot of work before him and he triggered another layer of the work that was needed. Although, I still get sad from time to time our of the blue, it soon passes so good riddance to him.

Good idea about stoicism, summed up as possibly “ keep calm and carry on”

This is deeply detailed and covers a lot of important situations. It's a lot in one video. Alexis, you must have been up all night. Much appreciated. I relate to many points you made and feel you have reached out to some deeper and silent questions.

Great content. Learning a lot and using it to live stronger.

Your words mean so much! ❤ you re definitely the best in this topic out there. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Great information, calmly presented. Thanks much. Very important information about are you really better off without the ex? I dismissed this initially.

Keep up the good works

The phrase "Keep Calm and Carry On" doesn't necessarily imply ignoring problems or challenges. Instead, it encourages maintaining composure and continuing with necessary tasks or responsibilities despite difficulties. It's more about resilience and perseverance rather than avoidance or denial of issues.

He won't come back this time. I caught him in a lie with his ex GF.

Can you do a video on what to much damage post break up might mean? Things ended pretty badly with my ex, we had a deep bond that i never felt before but because neither one of communicated our needs and things sort of exploded because of a situation when her manipulative x partner pushed my buttons causing me put pressure on jer to define things. We both said things in anger we didnt mean but shes ghosted me and i dont know where we stand anymore. It would be great to know if too much damage was done so i dont fool myself

The ending……..OMG 😢

How would this apply to a avoidant spouse you are separated from who has all the signs of the midlife crisis.

Is this also valid for a dismissive avoidant?

How about when they friendzone you?