Signs of healing: that you are watching a video about signs of healing 😍

My number one sign of healing has been that I'm no longer looking to other people to take care of me.

April 2024... anyone else finding this man is a blessing to healing?

The 2nd best thing to having him as a therapist are these videos ….this man is so gifted and blesses so many troubled hearts.

This is the first time I've heard a therapist describe signs of healing. Very good to hear.

Who knew we'd grow up and find out one day that we have to grow up all over again ? Thank you so much for your contribution.

Thank you, friend. I am almost a year into this new knowledge. At 53, I had lived a life of anxiety and depression. I perceived rejection and internalized inadequacy, in nearly every social situation. My beloved and beleaguered husband held onto me despite my many attempts to push him away. My adult children knew that I was emotionally damaged and they gave me so much grace. But I had no peace. My mind was my enemy. My thoughts were a skipping record. I finally sought help and was given six ketamine treatments. During those treatments, I was able to have multiple breakthroughs that were life changing. The first was that regardless of how strongly I respond to a situation, it isn't necessarily about me. Then I realized that one second is a very long time. See, I had been in a car accident and I watched my dogs fly through the air into the back of the van. I recall processing the thoughts that I been in an accident. All of this before the air bags knocked me out. So I understood that one second is a long time. Therefore, I can take the time to respond to a situation. Then I realized that my fears affected my perception of God, and that I was actually in a good place with Him! Finally, I understood that there is an OPTIMAL me, buried inside, that is anxious to get out, beyond the damage, and to succeed and be healed. So this year, I have healed immensely. I can sleep most of the time now. I don't carry the world on my shoulders. I can be open about my anxiety. My pain has lessened a bit. My relationships with my husband and kids is so enriched and they are seeing my progress. I am able to talk myself out of anxiety attacks. All of my life, I thought that this hypervigilant, intense, rapid fire personality was who I was. But once I recognized that nearly all of it was on the list of symptoms for abandonment trauma, I knew that to continue on is to allow those awful people to steal my life even when they were dead. My inner rebel led me to adopt healthier patterns. I am grateful for this season. It was very difficult, but I am thinking clearer and cleaning house of the debris of thee past. So thank you for providing enlightening videos for those of us who are paralyzed in a time and place where horror entered our lives, and out us in a cage. I am sleeping better. I am honest about my anxiety with people. I am kinder to myself, knowing that I haven't always been. I've stopped fawning (normal people recoil). I am setting boundaries. I am not enduring emotionally abusive relationships because of blood relation. I am addressing my procrastination. I am becoming safe to talk to for those who I hurt, specifically my husband and kids. I am no longer taking everything personally. I've lost a lot of weight effortlessly. Today, I registered for school to learn a new skill. Life is good. It's never too late. Take care.

Disassociation is equally as much due to overwhelm and not knowing what to do because anxiety blocks access to problem-solving executive function.

My sign of healing is my immune is much better...my stress was so huge I stayed seriously ill constantly

I am so proud of myself for pulling through a mental breakdown 3 years ago. During my healing I removed all toxic individuals, focused on what gives and brings me a peaceful mind. This year my body has rewarded me with new energy to do light exercise and gardening. Literally a miracle. Last year my body ached so much I could hardly walk. I could identify healing when I became aware that I was treating myself more kindly and lovingly. Slow and steady wins the race. Be patient in your healing.❤

Signs of healing, for me: - becoming more assertive, saying 'no' because I feel like it, without justifying it, however much I feel like explaining myself. - less 'solving the conversation' in my head as a result of the above. When your response is balanced and correct (for YOU, and however 'unreasonable' someone else might alledgedly find it), you'll not find yourself going over stuff nearly as much as when you either give in too easily or resist too much. - better able to recognize feelings, especially the 'forbidden' ones, such as anger. - putting anger (or love, for that matter) where it belongs, so as to not take it home and project it onto the world around me (getting angry at traffic, the news, whatever) - experiencing color with a sense of awe instead of the desaturated mass even the most colorful landscape can become when my head's off. - a natural impulse to order the world around me, such as cleaning the house and thinking about how to make it my own, instead of just a husk I have to live in with stuff I happen to own. - receiving positive vibes from others. Yeah, I very much see myself reflected in others. When I'm doing well, suddenly the world is smiling at me. - got more, but..

I’m 59 and this year I learned that childhood trauma affects your physical health. I thought I’d survived it and it was in the past. How wrong I was. I’ve had 3 major health crises this year as well as ongoing chronic health issues. My health has done a 180 over the past 3 months. I’m eating a high protein nutrient rich diet, low in sugar and unhealthy fat. I’ve been exercising, taking vitamins and nutritional supplements with the help of a dietician. High potency vitamin B complex has really helped my mental health. Better than antidepressants. I just booked my very first therapy appointment, something I’ve thought about doing for years but couldn’t pick up the phone to do it. I’ve learned a valuable lesson in all of this, you are never too old to turn the bus around. You are the driver and the decision is yours. All of my symptoms are melting away. Every day I feel better than the day before. The volume of it all has dialled down. I’m healing and I can actually feel in my body and mind. Is it perfect, no, but much better, yes. I’m sleeping through the night now, something I have never been able to do. The wounds from childhood trauma run deep, the scars from it are ugly. I can look at it now, think about it now without my body reacting to it. I have some work to do, but I have the right kind of help now.

TL;DR Signs of healing include a person's ability to feel and tolerate emotions, develop healthy relationships, and live a routine based on meeting their needs. For survivors of complex trauma, healing indicators may include the reduction of shame, the ability to set and enforce boundaries, and the emergence of authenticity, self-care, and boundary setting. The healing process involves developing self-awareness, recognizing false beliefs, and dealing with setbacks as progress is not always linear.

And I want to add another one, I hear myself start laughing again! That’s a really important sign of healing. Also, having more fun or even just once in awhile smile again❤

Important to know for everyone healing from trauma: As things improve, and cortisol goes down, you may experience a worsening of certain stress related symptoms, such as changes in immune response, fatigue, muscle weekness. In other words: things we often associate with increased stress. It's easy to misread these signals and to be alarmed by them, possibly slowing or stopping the process of healing as a result. it's not so easy to make the correct distinction. The sensations I have today are not that much different than the beginnings of the panic attacks I had a couple of years ago, so they often get me to worry all over again. But my situation today is objectively (and subjectively!!) better than it was back then.

i was in a fight or flight with my fiancee and My Dad. I was sitting with the disrespectful individuals and finally i could not be a part and broke up my relationship with both of them. I had to take my power and love my self and not tolerate disrespect from either one!

I experienced sexual abuse as a child and I never felt aroused by it. I felt terrified and frozen in fear to the point where I blocked out the person's face. At 49, I finally received healing from that terrible, frightening time in my life.

This gentleman has been a psychological drink of water for my parched dessert of neglect. I've listened to countless wonderful videos on healing. This work hits in a way I have never experienced ❤I've been bingeing these videos thank you so much

wow I am growing now to get rid of the controlling bullies

6:04 "They're not as triggered to light or to noise" YES! OMG YES! My whole life, my dad was a raging monster over every little noise and I had many of the same traits. As I went through therapy in my 30s, I noticed that these things irritated me less and less. Wild!

Healing is a blessing & a curse, having a name for what shaped me is all the validation I needed. Trying to explain it to others, however, is exhausting. Most think I'm lying, exaggerating, & that I'm just making excuses for maladaptive behavior. I quite literally don't think or process info in a way that they can relate to. They assume the worst, & then throw it in my face & don't hesitate to tear me down. I don't bother with those kind of people anymore because they're going to believe what they want, & they're opinion is inconsequential to me. I'm authentic & understanding, but I'm not a punching bag. I have endured it for a lifetime, & I'm not responsible for other people's emotions & behavior. Family or not, I don't owe them a damn thing. I'm not obligated to give them my time, attention, & energy when I'm never given the same in return.

I found Deep Tissue massages during trauma work with increased walking (Feldenkrais) helped my body stop holding it all in: pain 24/7 went to way less overall.

People need to be listened TO.

I want to give this man his flowers today...Mr. Tim Fletcher I appreciate u sir 🙏🏽...I thank God for your free therapy giving me what I already know but it makes clearer sense when u say it out loud and break it down...thank u sir...God bless u and yours....u are helping to save me (from my abuse long term spouse of 18 yearsI been trying to get out the last 5 and I been done! I will not marry him period)...and I just found u today because your anger/abuse series popped up on my feed out of nowhere and im thankful flowers 💐 ⚘️🌹🌺🌻

I took a year off to focus on myself and I feel, after 14 months, I’m almost there. Listening to this video, I know I am. I’m starting to hope, and now am feeling capable. My husband has been very supportive, seeing my growth he is now in therapy as well. It gets rough with both of us in a session together, and yes it gets better then gets bad, then better. I see his growth and I’m so proud of him. It’s TOUGH. It’s WORK. Listening to this helps me pinpoint where my husband is (pretty far back), and I am there for him. It will take time, but I’m so excited for our future.

I'm constantly on a daily basis setting boundaries with my inner critic

❤❤🎉🎉🎉 The first sign of healing is understanding what you're going through,and not to allow it to control you And then you begin to find a way to face it in order to break that circle !!!! Because I realised that many people are going through it unknowingly even when you try to talk about it they rebuke you ! Thank you sir for helping us through this journey!!!!!

I've been on this journey for so many years, and while I'm sure many of us would agree that progress is variable and occurs in phases.. I can honestly say I finally feel like I am starting to build a real sense of self and the beginnings of well-being. This video came to me at exactly the right time. If you're struggling, keep going. It's worth it and there is a future for you to enjoy. You deserve it.

Phew! I was JUST WONDERING why I am so exhausted lately. Well, now I recognize how HARD it is to change 😮 So hard, in fact, that my entire self is struggling with being stretched, stressed and pressed. Thanks be to God who leads us in good--but usually difficult --ways🙌

Without the ACKNOWLEDGEMENT in the first place, nothing can be corrected. You have to admit that the family is Toxic. When family members are reacting normally to abnormal situations within the family, they are often blamed for "not growing up fast enough" they are told to STOP CRYING!! MY GOD, when the whole family is affected by ONE member's BEHAVIOR, to the point where no one can hide their depression anymore..its BEEN time to seek professional help..dont ever be afraid as a family to ask for help. If that particular Family Member has no interest in growing as a Human Being, then that's THEIR problem. But one thing youve got to remember. Abuse is taught in the home. Tolerating abuse as a young Lady growing in an Abusive household, opened the door for me to tolerate Men putting their hands on me in front of my Son. See how this affects the younger generations so soon? They're always watching. The Children are watching, listening and learning..

Your voice immediately makes me feel safe in my body. I don’t know why I just felt that I know that sounds weird but I grew up with a very narcissistic father. Blessings to you, you have such a beautiful presence.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

It is so important that people understand the self inflicted and displaced shame that comes along with sexual abuse. Even though the body may have responded pleasurably to the experience, does not equate with complicity and the understanding between right and wrong. This has brought much confusion and misconception around the victims experience. The shame is born out of a misunderstanding and taking responsibility. This creates trauma in the body, not necessarily the sexual abuse. It is not until we get older that through the lens of society begin to perhaps perceive our role in it as complicit. If I liked it I must’ve wanted it. That is false. We were children and therefore powerless in it. We are not equipped with the knowledge and ability to protect ourselves. That is not our job. Fawning is often how we survive it and the body responds naturally. Thank you again for elucidating on that. Often times therapists leave out that critical piece to the puzzle and it is that knowledge that can mean the difference between someone healing from that shame or not. 🙏❤️

I'm wiping my eyes.. tears of hope embraced me.. Thank you Tim!

I am getting pushback from my family. I'm not letting my family push me around. They hate it. That is my sign I'm healing. People who only wanted my submission are leaving. I'm not panicking. This new change is growth.

I feel like i just found a treasure, Thank you.

So happy to have listened to this, Tim. I see now that I have come a very long way. I’d like to add that, in my opinion and experience, inner peace is earned through the process of healing. I protect my peace like it’s an innocent child. I don’t allow anything or anyone in who could compromise it.

He is so articulate,he is changing my life

Im tired of worrying I want to be able to enjoy something as simple as watching tv

Cried tears of joy at one point I’ve realized how much I do love myself and I was taught to hate myself I was taught to not dream I am learning to forgive my mother and let go of the past

This is so affirming ❤ I am at the setting boundaries/breaking codependency stage and it is difficult but I can feel the sparks. I clicked this video to remind myself of all the work I’ve done thus far - which you describe perfectly and encourage myself for the work left to do. Thank you ❤

I was helpless then. I AM NOT helpless now. Simple, but so helpful.

thank you so much for your video. as a 23 year old woman suffering from CPTSD it helped me a lot. i've got hope for myself :)

You know he's good by his shirt😉. He doesnt have to 'dress to impress' and to "look" a certain way. He can just wear whatever he wants, because he knows what he's talking about. And he lets his words talk for themselves.

Thank you immensely Tim. I needed to have a realistic “map” through which I could discern my path towards (and status of) my full recovery. I endured extreme abuse from multiple abusers, so it took me my entire life to heal. Over the last 8 years, I was finally able to express my anger, rage, and pain that I had dissociated from throughout my life due to my survival, because it was so profoundly deep and overwhelming for me to address. I finally can say I survived, and I am truly healing. I will probably listen to this video again and again for my own encouragement.

I wish I had found this video a year ago🙏 I'm doing better than I thought

I’m so glad I randomly came across this , because I feel like I’m getting acknowledgment, and the physical things like sensitivity to light and clenching all my facial and neck muscles to trying to tell others family members what was happening and being shut down because they think you making it up

Holy Smokes. You’re describing me totally. Thank goodness I’m relating to this video. Greatful. Thank you! ❤️

I cannot afford therapy and your series has been remarkable. I have complex PTSD from sexual child abuse and religious abuse. My wonderful church and pastor has also helped me along my journey. Thank you!

Another sign you are brave and no longer prisoner to ur fears

Especially when gaslighting is involved

This video is actually a miracle of work !

Thank you so much for this, particularly for giving examples for people with trauma from CSA. I've got PTSD and C-PTSD, and I felt myself getting better and started 2024 with great energy and hope. Then several of my deepest traumata were triggered by an health service official, and since then (3 weeks ago) I have been experiencing flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, tension and pain and huge emotional dysregulation. I've been blaming myself more or less non-stop for it. This video really helped me focus on the things that I have already achieved on my way to healing and accept that this is just a temporary setback that doesn't invalidate where I was before. So... thanks 🙏

❤ thank you for suggesting signs of healing occurring because we already know what the trauma looks and feels like

My number one signs of healing is that i can feel emotions. All emotions. I feel extremely blessed

Did 6 months in rehab and therapy, found Jesus, got a new job, then an even better job. Making real progress. I admitted I did things that put my life I. Chaos in the past and I have made many mistakes, I admit that. The moment I was on an upward trajectory I cut off all of my old friends, that was easy. But I didn’t think my mother and brother would do everything in their power to tear down all the work God had done and it worked. I began taking responsibility for my actions and took accountability for everything. Even things that were clearly not my fault. Granted, I stopped going to meetings and therapy and I let my anger get the best of me when my family began trying to tear down the healing journey and did a full 180. I’m exhausted. And now everyone just says things like “I knew you never changed” and “everything is your fault” I am genuinely broken from all of this, this time.

Listening to this is very comforting and healing. My husband died 2 years ago and my grown son abandoned me and deserted me the day my husband died. I was in shock and disbelief. In the months ahead i fell apart. I gave up. I didnt want to live anymore. I got help on my own and was diagnosed with severe PTSD. I had deep depression and non stop grief and crying 24/7. I had to.let people go that didnt have my best interest at heart. Im stronger and more wiser now Im so grateful. Ive learned my major triggers. With gods grace and mercy i survived what i thought would kill me. Thank you for your video's. You really get it. God bless you ❤ .

Thank you for this episode. I grew up in a dysfunctional house. And have been working in therapy and self development for over 20 years. My dad recently passed and all the emotional flooding rushed back having to deal with family members. I was devastated because prior I had done so much healing. So much healing to the point I was able to care for my father (the one who caused all my trauma) he was an alcoholic. But once he passed the intensity was real. I thought I regressed. But after listening to your episode I realize I’m still on my path of healing. I have come a long way. And of course, this life circumstance would bring up things. Thank you Tim! ❤

Thank you ❤ I see the healing within myself more now. I will cry and just let it happen. compassion + curiosity is key when you go backwards. I'm still not sleeping and sleep hygiene is a challenge. breathing, winding down, and relaxing and the structure in the evening is key..

Also one no longer remains a “bug in the rug” so to speak but now you are able to notice your reactions and behaviours from a drone perspective rather than a bug and noticing and being aware of my reactions and behaviour, I now can control my reactions and discern a more effective way to respond to the same trigger 🙏

I am now standing up for myself way too much, to the point I feel guilty, maybe I have been to harsh, but then I think to myself: "it's ok, you are just setting boundaries, you're just defending yourself" ... It's a new feeling I need still to get used to, but passed the shame and the doubts, it feels great! Stay strong people out there ❤

I just found you. I can't thank you enough.

Omg I just came across this. I know I’ve overcome 53 yrs of CPTSD and PTSD! It’s been a spiritual journey too. I’m writing a book and developing a podcast on my crazy first life and the magical few years I’ve had becoming my true self. Everyone left me, but hey, they didn’t help in the first place. Thanks for talking about the healing. It is possible, my nervous system is still off, but my brain is holding healthy new beliefs. ❤and I’m experiencing a better self than “normal “ people.

I can’t wait to watch your other videos because I have just realised that it is normal to be so severely burnt out so my focus is to work on learning to stop and learn how to relax. I don’t remember the last time I have actually relaxed. I have just subscribed to your channel and I want to share my gratitude. I have such a long way to go however the hope I have begun to feel deep inside is why (and I am sure others can relate) I have kept going. I am also sending everyone who is healing from CPTSD, Complex Trauma, Childhood and adulthood trauma healing energy and support ❤❤❤❤

My trauma started when I started to realize I may be gay in the early 70s and I had no one to talk to about it. I didn't tell a soul for the next 5 years. I was frozen with fesr and shame. With two narcissistic parents, I went through a silent hell I'm 60 now and it still affects me. I'd be interested in a healing program but it would have to gay affirming. I went to see a therapist on my own at 18 and he told me he could only help me if I wanted to turn straight. Yea, that was a huge help.

Grazie mille per il lavoro che stai facendo......🙏 grazie da Milano Italia

This is amazing thanks so much . I'm in recovery and I feel a sense of hope for peace and happiness for the first time in my life. . My healing journey has been enlightened and I'm now recognising I'm healing. I've still got a way to go. But I'm heading in the right direction. Blessings, You've really validated my healing journey ❤. I'm soo happy that I stumbled across this video. I now know my worth and what I have to achieve for a loving relationship not only to myself but for anyone else who is in my life 🙏 . No more toxic relationships, no more trying to rescue people, no more seeking validation or little crumbs of love or affection. I am worth more and I deserve more ❤ that's huge for me. Blessings to all those that are in recovery 🙏

Love the shirt! This video is profound, deeply resonating, and healing for me. Thank you 🙏🏾🦜🌿

Thank you so much. I'm further along than I thought❤❤

I literally have been looking for a video with this exact content in the last couple of days! Thank you 😊

So much insight and wisdom that hit the nail and resonated. Thank you so much.

Thanks for this. I was doing so well until the last month or so and was looking for how to grow a bit more. Wanting to "escape and crappy people, crappy circumstances" really helped. Figured I just need to focus on self care and my choices. Thanks. Very helpful.

Superb outline of the healing process..thank you Tim for your care❤🙏

Thank you, Tim. My heard is full and greatfull. Thenk you very much.

Thank you for offering such valuable insight and wisdom to the hurting.

YOU are the absolute best! Thank you soooo very much! Thank you Tim!

I have gotten more from your videos than i have anywhere else before. Thank you so much for your content. I really like the series. Very helpful!

Hanging on every golden word in this video. Thank you so much for posting this.❤

I am so glad to find your videos! They are the best videos I’ve ever seen for complex trama. Thank you so much,…it really helps🙏❣️

Hi Tim, I am glad to see you back! I enjoyed watching your videos & learning from them years ago & I continue to journey to health & wholeness. Thank you for who you are & how you help others be guided along the road w/ such encouragement!

Thanks so much for posting this. I see myself in some of these...I AM doing better.

Your videos have popped up on my feed for so long now but I’m ready to start listening to your videos because I know I need to hear it. This video is a wonderful start and thank you Tim ❤️

Much gratitude for this amazing information. Just what I needed to hear today.

Thank you Tim for helping me to fill in missing peices from my childhood. E.g When I was neglected emotionally by my mom because she was too busy or had a hard time coping with life. The other was when my Dad accidentally washed my tender genitals too roughly when I cried, he made me so wrong for crying he wanted to give me a REAL reason to cry. I realized this was another form of sexual and emotional abuse I minimized. Tim. Thank you for saying I believed I was weak. I wasn’t weak. I had a natural response to physical pain. I also appreciated hearing how far I’ve come in my recovery instead of always looking at how much further I have to go.

Thank you for all of the excellent content you provide on this channel.

I find it fascinating that virtually all my trauma is related, either directly or tangentially, related to the decisions of our government and military leadership.. Army brat and spent my life in the Army under multiple political party's... all the same in one way or another.

Love at first play!!! Thanks so much, Tim. You are wonderful, your knowledge is amazingly beautiful.

Very well-elaborated for the audience. I can see I am healing, indeed. Thank you for posting. Keep the good work! ❤

Thank you. I'm new in my healing this way.

Hey Tim...This Kind Of Healing Is No Joke.

New people that I meet think that I am way out there. I can see the improvements in myself. That helps me when I remember this. My temper tantrums are much less And the anger only lasts a very short time compared to where I was not that long ago 😊 Thank You for reminding me of this 😊❤😊

Thank you for giving me understanding in a way I am comfortable with understanding the shame and complex trauma encourages me

Tim-Thank you for being You and everything you do. The material you put out is very important. You helped me understand and connect some dots this morning. This part of the journey needs just as much light shed on it. God bless you. I hope you have a great day!💜

This is the most comprehensive channel I've found so far!

This has been incredibly useful and has given me hope. I can see I am very slowly healing. Thank you so much for giving your time and compassion.

Thank you so much. The hope I feel is a blessing I never thought I would truly feel. I am, finally, healing. ❤

I’m a very thankful to haven found this channel.

Sir thank you. From all of us who you are helping we appreciate you deeply

The best video ive heard! So insightful

Loving your content. This has been really invaluable in my own journey. Thank you for all of your work and for sharing. ❤