I don’t need closure. Him choosing everyday to keep me out of his life is closure.

The sad news is, we don't get the closure we need, when we want it the most.

I thought she was gonna be with me forever, I thought I knew the real her and I do but there’s a side of her that’s new and I don’t recognize anymore. Outside factors have dug her in a hole and her past is still leaving her hurt without her realizing it sometimes. I will never fully understand her past but I always tried to be there for her but when I was changing for the better and needed her most she left me all alone. I don’t fully understand how someone can flip a switch and change in the matter of days and hours but I know God is redirecting me to a place of self love and value. I have nothing but love for this girl and I hope she heals and grows to be the great woman she is and maybe just maybe we may cross paths again. I love you with all of my heart Mack and I hope someday we can tell ours kids our story and how great God is but for now, I have to let you go….

1.5yrs later and that closure still hurts I miss her 💔

It's been over 2 months it was the first relationship where I felt like I truly loved the other person and felt it back. But she ended it seemingly out of the blue so I never got "real" closure. I will be honest it was horrible for those first few weeks but it's gotten better and will for everyone. But every once and a while I get those random memories or see an old picture I didn't delete or she post something that sets me back. But I will get through it and so will everyone else going through a hard time like this

This is another case of the logic/emotion gap. I logically have closure because I have self love and value myself. I know that somebody out there is better suited to me. But emotionally...the sting is still there, some days more than others. It's only been three months. Closure can definitely be differentiated into the logical and the emotional, and some people struggle with one more than the other, one to varying degrees at different times, etc.

"they didn't love you, otherwise they would be here"

This really intrigues me how we went from everything to nothing. No communication. I hope you will achieve all your goals and stay happy.

I suppose I’m just writing this to scream into the void. My boyfriend of one year left me and it’s hit me hard. He didn’t say it in person, he did it over text. Just a week prior to that text he was talking about marriage and kids and a future. And then he left. He said that he was just too busy with college and no longer has time for the relationship, whereas I know he dropped his hardest classes and spent most of his time in his dorm playing video games. I thought I was going to marry that man, I had given him so much of my time and effort and now I realise that it was never being reciprocated. When we did things together, he was always texting his friends. When we went on a vacation together, he ignored me for hours and played video games even though I was in the same room as him and took time off to go on the trip. When I broke down crying and told him I was struggling with my depression worse than I had in over a year, he told me that he didn’t think he could be there for me. While I was blinded by his sweet words, I didn’t see how shallow he really was though the relationship. I didn’t see that he never was truly there for me even though I was there for him at a drop of a hat. Now I’m trying to move on. It’s only been a few days. I find myself crying a lot, but I don’t know what for really, because I always feel angry and betrayed by him. I’m trying to find who I was before the relationship, but I’m floundering because of all these built up frustrations and emotions. I’m not really proud of myself. I went head over heels for the first person to show a hint of interest in me (didn’t help that I had a crush on him while we were in middle and high school together). But I didn’t take the time to see if that person was really there for me. I’m heeling, I really am. For now, I think if I focus on myself, I’ll learn that I’m the only one who can love me how I need.

Thank you. We can find closure in the way a person mistreated us - this is all the closure we need. We don’t need to speak to them because no amount of speaking will change anything or make a person feel better when it’s clear they didn’t want to be with us.

Closure is often times the thing we give to ourselves, FOR ourselves. ✨

I cried so much after hearing this. My bf broke up with me on Christmas Day (sucks ik) and he was saying that he wasn't really ready for a relationship and he said he was really in a dark place and just wants to be left alone, he wasnt talking to his family either. I, as a friend and person, supported him even told him that im still there for him even as a friend. I still love him even now. I miss him so much my chest literally hurts as I can feel the pain squeezing me from within. I miss him. I did love him even if he didn't choose me everyday. I was trying to find closure which he couldnt give me because he was that selfish he didnt want to talk about it. I was praying every day to God for him to help me understand my pain, and then I stumbled upon this video. Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. Next time I come back to the thought that i wasnt enough and "its because of me thats why he broke up with me' I'll go back to this video. You are literally godsend to me. T___T

She felt like she was the one, the time spent felt amazing, but her path was different and ended it with no real closure, leaving me broken, confused and full of self blame. I loved her with all my heart and it felt the same, but I had no idea she unhappy as she never communicated anything, thought we were grooving and moving forward. Now I'm down 25lbs in a month, looking forward to a new career and just bettering myself, but still want her with me. I wish her the happiness I couldn't give her and if our paths cross again, hope we can become stronger. If not, I will become stronger and find my happiness. I love you. Hope you're safe and doing well.

You made this at the right time man

Thank you Joey ! I’m trying to process a breakup from a year ago. Together for 7 years and cheated on me. I finally felt okay until his new gf moved nextdoor this week, and seeing his car every day is breaking my heart. Since then i realize I’m not over him. But thats okay.. I know i’ll be fine and I deserve a lot better

i needed this so much. my ex gf broke up with me a month ago and it was very abrupt and it all happened very quick and i had no say in anything. she was the first significant other to tell me they love me and she’s the first person i’ve fallen in love with. i didn’t get a lot of closure and it’s been making it so hard to move on or to do anything because i’m so overwhelmed with feelings of grief and anxiety and depression and i just feel empty inside. thank you joey.

I don’t think I’ve watched one of your videos without crying thinking about her. Thank you man.

We had a messy and complicated break up 5 months ago. It still hurts today and has left me confused. But I'm realizing that my self doubts and questioning isn't going to bring me the closure I need. I did nothing wrong. I loved someone who could never really be loved. And they chose not to be there for me after. It hurts because I thought they'd never be the person to do this to me but this video has really opened my eyes. All our dark moments were actually dark. My mind has tricked me into replaying them minute by minute to analyze everything for what I could've possibly done wrong. They told me in the beginning they were going to leave but, if they had truly cared for me, then they wouldn't have gone down that path to begin with

When someone that you truly love and supposedly loves you ,leaves you regardless of the reason ,the situation and the conditions ,make it about you,focus on you ,be there for you, think about you ,feel the pain for you ... if there is any time to be your main concern it would be this time ,you loved from the heart and it was genuine, ik but you need to slowly understand that the person is gone and it's you in your life for yourself once again and you are worthy and capable so good luck🦋

I've watched hundreds of how to let go videos. This is the BEST. It makes sense now.

I'm about 5 months in and i still feel the pain so often. Thank you for your videos, they did help calm me and look on the bright side. I will be re-playing these videos for myself whenever i feel like i'm sinking again.

So much truth in here. Lots of ❤to all of us dealing with the pain. We’ll get through this and come out smiling

You're an angel, man! Thank you so much for these videos. The pain I'm going through right now is unbearable, but your videos are really comforting! Thank you so much!

The way I sobbed watching this. I needed this. Thank you

Thank you Joey. You have been such help over the last few years. ❤

thank you, truly thank you. we have been broken up for two and a half months and for the most part i moved on, it was a short time but truly changed me. it ended as friends but he turned around and decided to be a child and i need closure, until this video. it gave me what i need to fully move on and be with myself and to whoever comes next

@Joey sincerely and genuinely thank you for aiming to help so many souls on both the emotional and the mental levels to get through so much, it's truly noble and the most beautiful 🦋✨

omg im crying. this is what I needed now. thank you

i just want to thank you for your content you have just helped me through my first actual heartbreak and that means the world to me so keep doing what your doing

Thanks bro I really needed this

OMG when you said you were proud of us at the end

Thank you for this video it genuinely helps understand how one feels like how I’m feeling right now. It’s realistic and to the point have good day.

You always know what's on my mind❤️❤️

Thank you, Joey♡. I really needed this. Not because of a breakup but because of a best friend I love more then a friend leaved.

Wao! Thank You Joey :) I guess this is what everyone should listen to atleast once.

Thank you soo much Joey... Seriously thanks you

Thanks Joey, I had my first break up a few years ago and couldn't explain in words what went through my mind. My ex blocked me on everything and never told me a reason why. If this video was created back then it would have stopped a lot of spiraling but this was a great thing

Powerful. Thank you.

I used to think that i wish i never met you, but thats not true. It was words from a broken heart. We ended terribly, but genuinely, thank you Alexis. Ive learned a lot about how to love, how I like to be loved. The things I value in a relationship, what I’m looking for in a partner. Its been a wild 4 years and I’m proud of how far you’ve grown as an individual. I wish the best for you and I hope you find peace in your life.

Thank you, this video is really helpful and affirming. Recently broke up from a nearly 5 year long distance relationship.

Thank you so so so much,Joey Disinterest is closure and I've learned it the hard way man Thank you so much ❤️

Your voice is a therapy 🤍

I finally got my closure… she said needed space… and went M.I.A on me.. I sent her a “I miss you” text.. and finally got her attention.. she said she had already told me she didn’t want to talk to me.. which wasn’t the case.. and that she can’t have me sending her text because she’s already with someone else.. so that’s my closure.. it wasn’t me.. she was already distracted with some else.. 1.5yrs of connection and communication.. gonna be a tough time for me. Wish me luck.

It's almost been a month since he broke up with me. I can still remember the intensity of the pain i felt everyday after it happened. things are much better now but i just can't seem to forget him. Maybe because i was so broken when I first met him and he made me realise I'm worthy of being loved. I need to accept the fact that he left me when I needed him the most in my life and i did my best in putting efforts and it was him who gave up on us not me and that is enough closure i need to move on...

Thank you for the video. I’m trying so hard!

I needed this but honestly your videos always come at the right time

Thank you for the most amazing 11 months of my life i will miss her.

You just saved my life! Literally♡😢😢

Thank you brother

Thanks buddy... This was helpful. ❤

Start loving YOU living for YOU

In the end when you said ‘if no one said it to you lately im proud of you’ I cried

Thank you, i was starting to feel lost in life

Thank you.

Hey Joey you have helped me a lot man like you have made me open my eyes and move on and I would like to say thank you it still hurts and it will keep hurting for a while but you have helped me know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and thank you

It's okay if we don't get a closure but as human beings we shouldn't get insulted or broken down by these cheap people. Even I'm going through a lot rn, and I can't see really clearly what am I doing? But I still believe we can get the love we dream too. I want to let go this self demon. Amen!!!💜

This is so calming.

Nice sharing 🤗

Well again on the exact time i need it ,it been a year now nd i really needed this tysm 🥺❤nd ys again lovedd it

i keep asking myself why did he leave. was i not enough? was i too much. was i too difficult to love? not only did i lose my boyfriend, but my best friend too.

appreciate you making these. it really does help

My ex promised me a closure convo when I’d got back from vacation but he never texted me. We separated badly so I longed for that conversation. Now I have to move on without closure. But this video helped a lot. The lack of love really is closure. The lack of care is closure.

you're like therapist to me thank you for the video

Thank you for this I needed this

thanks man

Thank you for that Video, it made me think a different way about my breakup a few years ago. I'm single eversince. I still think about it some times and it makes me wonder everytime... but just that you pointed it out, the way he mistreated me should be closure for me and I will make it my closure now.

Thank you! I needed this.

He played hot and cold with me for weeks, then told me I was manipulative and abusive because of my mental health and disorders, and then he yelled at me for like 40 minutes to shift the blame on me before disappearing from my life. It was a freshman relationship. He was my best friend. What the hell.

I needed to find your Chanel so so much. Thankyou ❤️

Honestly thank you so much joey... you helped me through so much 💕

Thanks

Thank you....❤️

Closure is also when they look at you and tell you “I’m not in love with you”.

thanks bro

We broke up 4 days ago and he instantly became ice-cold and distant and said he needed to block me. It's very hard for me right now not knowing why and how he can be like this. He told me that every other conversation would be like a knife to his heart.

Thank you Joey, I needed this. It was so sudden for me. She was so sweet and lovey dovey to me the night before, the next morning I woke up to an argument and a break up. No answers, nothing. I’m still trying to make sense of it all.

I just buried those questions under a solid rock coz before I used to keep on getting back to him then I figured he was just taking pleasure out of my vulnerability while I was dating other lady (ig I was other lady) but I figured he was narcissist( diagnosed by my therapist) he used to gaslight, manipulate me and condition to the level that I was justifying his emotionally abusive behaviour even during intimate time . Although it did left a lot of scars that I’m working on and Hey , Joe you have been a great help ❤️ I can never imagine blocking him But I did (and didn’t unblocked him and it’s been 2 months )and I won’t never let anyone change my mind for love and guys . It’s just I haven’t been lucky yet (and I don’t even care if I never found one coz I got my own reasons to love and serve)

sucks when they promise

You taught me to love, filled the void in my heart just to throw me away. How could you be so cruel and treat me like I was expendable?

It really hurts so badly without closure, I’d definitely feel so much better with one. but I guess no matter what I got to pick myself up and move forward.

Love These videos. Thank you :)

Recently when I was writing... something came to the surface which really made me realise things differently, so the thought was that less contact and less frequencies of contact isn't inconsistent, its still consistent, as the other person knows where they stand with you.

I feel so empty its scary i feel like i am 10thousand feet under water I hope my heart get better on day. To anyone who is still hearting remember as long as you are alive you will be fine I promise❤

I end up loving a person for who I think they can be if they do what I think they should.

🖤🖤🖤

It's worse when they ghost you, but you still have to see them and talk to them. Anyways, imo if you really need that closure go talk to them if you still can. You won't get much of it. But in the worse case, you are going to finally have a reason to hate them. Most ppl tell you to just suck it up and move on, but not everyone can do that or should do that. Also that idea feeds into making you egotistical as a way to cope. Just do whatever you think is right for you, and don't let random ppl tell you what to do or how you should feel.

I didn't grow up with the concept of 'closure', so there wasn't a problem of looking for or seeking closure.

Joey bro I know odds are you will never see this but damn man your legit saving me with these videos

She didn't even give me a simple good bye before she left, the lack of proper closure made it extra hard to move on. Sorry to everyone dealing with this, regardless of who you are, you don't deserve to have these things haunt your lives. Just know that it gets better with time, be patient and kind with yourself, it might take months or even years, but eventually you will be better ❤

The person who I thought was the love of my life left me 2 days ago and I've found myself as a stand still. They let me believe that everything was still okay then sprung upon me that for the past few weeks they had stopped loving me and would just be better off as friends. They're making a mutual friend keep tabs on me but this indirect kindness is making it so much harder. Kind of makes you wish they just did something dickish to make me hate them.

Thank you Joey, it’s hard very hard because she made all my stress go away. I lost my car because her friend decided to drink. I took it as a cue that she was “the one”. Then one day she proceed to hang out with a guy who she had controversial history. After that she acted completely differently then I looked like a fool and did some dumb things. Now I feel at complete fault when I know I was just hurt trying to understand why. I’ll never get serious answers to anything but maybe that’s for the better.

“We had a person change entirely” 😭😭😭

This is to the woman I dated: I thought she would be the right one. She was already there when I was a teenager and she appeared 15 years later as an adult, with a child from another man. We loved us, we had amazing memories, she left again.... inthe arms of another guy.... Deception and hurt I am, as after my 10 year relationship with my previous ex , I didn't believed in love anymore... and now I'm completely disappointed... Hope she is happy now.

Just broke up with my 8 years gf, which i thought i would get married to, ready to die and do anything for her, lost the closest friend ive ever had, lost the only person i have ever loved, she moved on after at this point and it hurts, a lot. Nor did i get any closure on why we really broke up. I went and send her a mail, which might be a mistake, because it really feels unbearable at that point. Im at the point where i dont know what to do or what to feel, and i would be okay if i lose her as my gf, but i just want her as a friend. To whoever is going through something familiar, stay hopeful. We know how painful it can get, much love to you internet friends

Thank you higher power for my last partner leaving me!

I packed my stuff, left a note, left the house and we've been No Contact for 80 days. I have no reason to reach out and I don't think she'll risk it herself.

My beautiful relationship of 5 yrs ended in such an ugly way few days back i never would have guessed. I didnt get the closure i needed either and every morning i wake up it feels unreal. Why waste a person's time love everything for 5 yrs if u know ur gonna end up choosing your family in the end. People are cruel beings Joey

WHY TF IAM CRYING 😭

today kidney has healed my heart . thank you

I honestly think I got cat fished for like a year and I know the person will never admit it, found so much “coincidences” but nothing I can do feels unsettling