The best way to reach this place as a woman is to find your identity in Christ.
@karenmcgee18695 ай бұрын
Amen!
@ka81555 ай бұрын
Amen and Amen
@Janney37915 ай бұрын
Amen 🎉
@LovinFFX25 ай бұрын
Thank youuu!
@Wina-pv8kr5 ай бұрын
❤❤🎉 Amen Jesus is everything ❤❤
@greyahmarie09054 ай бұрын
LEGS CLOSED, EYES OPENED, Standards high!
@greyahmarie09054 ай бұрын
@Kenyagirly ummmm ok. I'm a woman, so I speak for women. THANK YOU
@asha41894 ай бұрын
MORALS GROUNDED!
@nawi3324 ай бұрын
This.
@adannadurant46114 ай бұрын
Facts have value in yourself and be modest
@JustBeingJae014 ай бұрын
Hello!!!!
@Aisha_babii5 ай бұрын
Stay off yo back and let him get to know you
@ebonyg96325 ай бұрын
Exactly 💯💯 💯.
@Blessseddbb5 ай бұрын
💯
@J786855 ай бұрын
Very true 😊❤
@j-tenn2265 ай бұрын
And if he don’t try to get to know you, have the courage to compassionately release him
@dianewilliams95665 ай бұрын
Well said!!
@Dr.Elaine15 ай бұрын
“Men respect who and what respects themselves.” TG
@c.l.93444 ай бұрын
Quoted and noted. 📝
@truettadevil4 ай бұрын
That's actually not true. But, the lesson should still be for a women to respect themselves first and foremost. That will attract men who respect themselves.
@Dr.Elaine14 ай бұрын
@@truettadevil That is the lesson.
@truettadevil4 ай бұрын
@@Dr.Elaine1 men should respect everyone, whether they respect themselves or not. That should be the lesson taught to boys and men.
@Dr.Elaine14 ай бұрын
@@truettadevil We agree. Unfortunately, men (and women) don’t always do what they should.
@MrsTruthTeller4 ай бұрын
Decenter men. That's how you do it, ladies! Men seem to love me the most when I am booked and busy and barely available. When I'm flirty one day, and gone the next. But don't do this by playing a game. No, do it naturally by making everything else in your life a higher priority than men. The man who wants you for real will earn his way into being your highest priority. And he will earn it through consistency, persistency, reliability, emotional stability, integrity, etc. And you can very slowly make him a higher priority after he shows you that he's willing to do that for you. Men like boundaries, standards, and expectations and you don't always have to say what they are for him to know that they are there. Your actions can tell him everything he needs to know about you and what you will and will not tolerate.
@vzaddy6944 ай бұрын
Your comment should be on top !! You covered alot of ground in your post and every woman needs to see this. God bless🙏🏾👍🙏🏾💖.
@dannieannie4 ай бұрын
Love this!
@moniquefletcher21864 ай бұрын
I do this by accident but it works
@kimberlypride47813 ай бұрын
Thank you 💯💯💯
@latushasmith10163 ай бұрын
❤💯💯
@Bella_M265 ай бұрын
Gems: A grown man will fall in love with a woman who is an accountability partner, not a doormat/nagger/enabler. A man will fall in love with a woman who loves herself, knows who she is, has boundaries, has standards, and is firm on what she will do/not do and give/not give. Women: Be a strong loving woman. You must stand your ground (in love)! Give, love, sacrifice, support, do not reinforce toxic behavior, do not allow yourself to be mistreated or taken for granted, only compromise on things that do no effect your soul/ eternity, & always speak up for your needs. Be consistent! You cannot finesse a real man! No husband benefits to a boyfriend!!
@ChiChick3125 ай бұрын
THis is great! Thank you!
@Bella_M265 ай бұрын
@@ChiChick312 you’re welcome ❤️
@CrystalClear94 ай бұрын
Very well said!
@tiffanyhall6342Ай бұрын
Nothing makes a man fall in love..but him falling in love..
@JonathanDavidJuanАй бұрын
@@tiffanyhall6342 hello dear How are you doing today
@JonathanDavidJuanАй бұрын
Good evening
@Blessseddbb5 ай бұрын
Well, I’m praying for the man that God has for me .. days get lonely, but I will not settle ❤
@sharrellfaith5 ай бұрын
Amen sista. ❤ hold on to God.
@briabliss5 ай бұрын
I was just thinking this to myself. I’ve been through so much that I REFUSE to settle.
@karenmcgee18695 ай бұрын
Amen! Me too.
@algobrehane73695 ай бұрын
You're not alone xo
@highlovevibration5 ай бұрын
Same! I'm safer and saner waiting.
@Rossi.K4 ай бұрын
Mannn it’s really rare for a man to appreciate this type of woman in this generation.. You’ll get placed in the “mothering” category even if you are just holding them accountable.. Then they chase after the “fun girls” and appreciate the good woman after they’ve been tossed to the side by them. Grown men who can appreciate accountable women are very, very rare.
@NomsLoots3 ай бұрын
Grown men vs grown boys. That’s the distinction.
@creativeconner802 ай бұрын
Rare like Strawberry Kit Kat
@kirawong46295 ай бұрын
Oral everyday? Shes working overtime😂😂😂 ain’t no way Tony said a man who needs it everyday and multiple times a day is sick, he needs therapy😂😂
@MichelleBurks-sc2rp14 күн бұрын
😂😂😂
@nonyabidness183814 күн бұрын
I heard Its actually unbiblical to do it at all.
@nonyabidness183814 күн бұрын
I Just watched this for the 2nd time and it hit harder. I feel so confused by all the man signals and lack there of that I decided to stop trying and pray to The Most High that if its his will to have me found then so be it. I cried myself to sleep last night with Otis Redding on repeat and its not healthy so Im letting it alone.
@johannanoguez23205 ай бұрын
Long story short, do not be unequally yoked.
@kurstina93493 ай бұрын
And that's the bottom line!
@elizabethjackson31764 ай бұрын
You have a lot of men that are good men, you just have to take the time to find them, like my grandma use to say “If you wanna find gold, you don’t go digging in the trash!
@joekie715 ай бұрын
Hi, T. Just to add to the conversation. Was almost 25 years married. Divorced because of infidelity. My x was hyper sexual, not even getting older changed it. He was always so proud of himself looking in the mirror, fully "e. ct". I thought it was normal because I was taught, you don't talk out of the bedroom. It took an affair, epileptic seizure to get to the issue. Triggered by the stress obviously. When the neurologist asked me if he was hyper, I was shocked. On his brain scan, he showed me damage areas of his brain. He was in motorcycle accident when he was sixteen, that did the damage to temporal lobes. All made sense and everything fell into place. He then told me, it will never stop and if I'm willing to keep my eye on him 24/7. The trauma and lies up until then, I couldn't. We divorced and we still can be "friends" for children. God helped me overcome it all, by grace and grace alone. Point of this story is, please ask if your guy or woman was in a accident or head injury. It can alter things forever and never ever overlook it!!! 🙏
@LDolar5 ай бұрын
Wow thanks for Sharing this is powerful! Sorry about your Divorce and I pray your Strength 🙏🙏
@joiagenae5 ай бұрын
Wow!!
@ehmrahq15483 ай бұрын
If a man doesn't want to discipline of his lust, then he shouldn't be married.
@lilienne_4 ай бұрын
So true! If a man starts to play mental gymnastics with me, I will leave instantly. Grown women don't have time for that.
@alifeofjoy294 ай бұрын
"Men respect who and what respects themselves." - Tony G.
@lindae70135 ай бұрын
So many of our young women need to hear this talk.
@daniellemiller51235 ай бұрын
I have been guilty of all of these things and am praying for God to restore me. Thank you for your inspiring message for direction to us women and healing🙏
@slk86744 ай бұрын
Your Heavenly Father is writing a beautiful story for you!!
@sherry22504 ай бұрын
Ladies, stop giving a man the contents of your cup if he only drains and never fills it back up. What you have to offer whether tangible or intangible is ALWAYS earned...never freely given!!!
@MomTheEbayer1013 ай бұрын
This message is so true. No… I’m not a man, but I’m so blessed to be married to a grown man!!! Everything that this guy described as a real man, my husband possess. I tell him every day that I’m so grateful to God for putting such a wonderful human being in my life!!
@cuniqueness4 ай бұрын
Fall in love with self & everything will be added🙏🏽
@charquella2 ай бұрын
THIS
@j-tenn2265 ай бұрын
I knew from when I was very young that sex wasn’t supposed to be had without time, commitment, compatibility, and love. That wasn’t ingrained in me by anyone, it was almost innate knowledge. How come some adults don’t understand that concept?
@relisbetrel5 ай бұрын
Maybe you're called to be a teacher on this ❤🙏
@wandak18895 ай бұрын
It’s called Group Think. You are strong will discipline
@susanhampton96715 ай бұрын
Everyone does not think the same as you. With peer pressure, societal pressure, and biological programming, some people jump in the deep end without enough of a vetting process. Some women have sex with males to try to fill the love they did not get from their dads. Some young women don't know that sex does not equal love. Sometimes it is easy to get carried away from making out. People are waiting to get married later in life. Especially with a hook-up culture, and people choosing casual relationships over real solid relationships, it has ruined our society. A lot of men have no idea what courting is or women for that matter. People say, "I love you" without knowing the person. How many layers do you need to experience and see before you truly are in love? How many hours with him have you experienced with him face to face. That is why always watch a man's words and actions. Do they match? How many quality conversations are being had with both parties curious about each other.
@Kashmir-lt4cx5 ай бұрын
@j-tenn yeah right! I been called weird, told to grow up, told idk what an adult relationship is etc. One told me that I think I'm top good to be touched on the leg, like wt?! Heck, once I was even called cursed cause I didn't wanna sleep with a vile swine!
@SVAsianPhilippinesGo68585 ай бұрын
They get swayed with their hormones (biology and baby making hormones) and society. I did. Took me until 34 in 2018 to realize what you realized. So now I am waiting till marriage for sex, but it's been a long, lonely and hard road because I've been meeting nothing but toads! As soon as they realize I'm not into the easy sex thing, their out. Either that or the first few challenges of a relationship, their also out! So yeah... harder to get a man to love.. Maybe I've been barking up the wrong tree because I like white men, but I do know that a lot of white men DO like Asians so I really don't know what it is!
@candyjuiceable4 ай бұрын
It’s sad how it’s always about men , this is a big reason why women who focus on pleasing their man always lose themself in it . We forget ourselves and put ourselves last😢. A grown man will want to be kept and a grown boy don’t know about compromise. Both parties should learn one another !
@queenkeesh86605 ай бұрын
A man that play games and don’t wanna be held accountable I don’t deal with when I did before it was miserable and I had to leave
@lifewthcece4 ай бұрын
i felt this because some men feel we come off hard to deal with but we been through maybe similar red flags
@jacquelinewashington235 ай бұрын
Beautiful young man! We need more BLACK men like you. May God continue to bless you and your famliy's journey.
@nikkyshamz26965 ай бұрын
In order words, respect yourself. I've seen it with my own eye. Men dont know how to respect what they didn't earn, carry yourself with grace, dignity and self respect. Know youre loved and already chosen by God.
@Misunderstood1_5 ай бұрын
I just read an article that stated due to the rising cost of living most people will enter relationships and marriages with individuals who they do not love but view as business opportunities to split costs.
@burnttoast10764 ай бұрын
For most of history marriage has been a business opportunity. It’s the business of raising children.
@VCD5123 ай бұрын
It took me a very long time to get to a place of true love for self. I really like being with ME. If I tell a man that I’m not dating and are happily single, there is something wrong with me. If a man says “what is wrong with you” after I tell him that, I am not interested. You should be happy that I am single by choice and not out screwing around. Some have accused me of sleeping around, just based on. The way I dress. I have been abstinent for almost 5 yrs and cool with it. I would love to share my life with someone but right now my focus is on me and what truly makes me happy. The right one will show himself one day soon….i am just thankful to God that I am blessed with a real spirit of discernment. Great topic!
@DN-wy3ud4 ай бұрын
Wouldn't feel the need to nag if men took personal responsibility. Basically, if a man isn't doing what he's supposed to/said he would do, its time to go✌🏾
@truettadevil4 ай бұрын
Yeah, Tony pushes patriarchy in this regard. Wives only nag husbands who aren't doing what they should be doing on their own.
@Golf2foto4 ай бұрын
Answer: When You Have Money. The best advice that I ever received: Focus on yourself, on making money, on building your own life. A woman who has money will ALWAYS find a man. The truth 100%.
@epickp83645 ай бұрын
Key word husband. Men and women need to learn their worth. Know you should be a husband and a wife. The old saying why buy a cow, when you can get the milk free.
@darlenebernard42885 ай бұрын
Awesome advice Tony! Really needed that perspective from a grown man. Most males are grown boys like you said and tell us they are grown men, but actions clearly say otherwise.
@darlenec32315 ай бұрын
“just barkin” instead of affirming - U GO MR GASKINS, talk your talk … tell the truth about those addictions & vices!!
@queenkeesh86605 ай бұрын
She doesn’t reinforce toxic behavior 😊 n if he doesn’t like it leave him
@dinakindred5 ай бұрын
This is the truth 🙌🏾 💯 sex isn't the whole package
@saundrasouledoutsandy49852 ай бұрын
I am a woman of a certain age and my husband is 10 years younger than me and he was with countless women before me. He was with one for 13 years referring to her as his fiancé we were married and engaged within 10 months and we are celebrating three years of marriage. The most important thing is that you elevate a man spiritually you hold him accountable and as everyone else said, close your legs open your heart and gently challenge him to become a better ..more improved version of himself and don’t lower your standards ❤ be patient consistent and lead in the love of The Lord
@motorbreath225 ай бұрын
Im not a man of God. Im a man of the world.. listen to this man. In the ' manosphere' we tell each other, become the man of your dreams, as in become the best version of yourself, it means loving yours by getting fit, getting your diet right, getring yoir money right and working on your hangups. This really applies to everyone. But also keep in mind you are trying to attract the opposite sex. Learn what they value, and go out and provide value. If he doesn't reciprocate, realize thats not the person for you.
@cheekscheeks58405 ай бұрын
Wasted my life on a BOY 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
@nikkyshamz26965 ай бұрын
It's never a waste. It's a lesson. God has more for you. Change your mind change your life.
@cheekscheeks58404 ай бұрын
Absolutely 💯
@shaybvttaa4 ай бұрын
Imagine giving so much of yourself to someone who’s not ready n mature enough to receive n reciprocate…. When years have past by it does feel like a waste but that’s why awareness is important.
@4gma593 ай бұрын
Move on and take the lesson with you. You know more now, so you'll do better. Your past is a lesson, not a life sentence.
@ninabeauty30994 ай бұрын
So basically love yourself and he will love you
@Best-ThingYouNeverHad5 ай бұрын
So true everything life didnt teach me I learned from you! Thanks T.G! Keep letting God use you! You're going to deliver a generation of lost women!
@danielleb12235 ай бұрын
No lies told .
@dorothymatthews66905 ай бұрын
Keep going Brother Tony Gaskins! Salute to you and your wife fir setting a God led marriage and family! Im so proud of you two!
@LovelyVibrations4 ай бұрын
This was so ON POINT!! Most women don’t understand that when they exhibit these qualities Tony covers they actually ATTRACT the right man!! Thank you sir for your guidance !!❤
@smileyglitter8525 ай бұрын
So if the guy drinks, gambles, and watches porn then he's a grown boy...
@NinaR4785 ай бұрын
Precisely. All hedonistic.
@wandak18895 ай бұрын
Correct that’s his social and love life!
@Forwardnow5 ай бұрын
What if he doesn’t drink or gamble but watches porn? Do I throw him out? Context: he is a single dad, ex-wife has mental illness, and he has custody of kids and they only see mom on weekends. Also, I’ve been dating him five months and we have not met friends or family on either side. It’s his doing…I’m open to it but he has not mentioned it. Also, he has a super high seggs drive and can go a long time, like nothing I’ve ever seen. BUT, he tells me he’s a Christian and has a big prayer life, feeds the homeless etc. But how do I really know that? Am I wasting my time?? I’m looking for serious responses bc I’m wondering if I am not paying attention to red flags. Do I exit? Btw, I’m a 49 year old female and he is a 52 year old man. I have s 19 year old son and he has 11 year old and 14 year old girls.
@queenkeesh86605 ай бұрын
Yes he preaches this on a regular
@robinlewisart_19975 ай бұрын
@@Forwardnow He's definitely a red flag and that sexual appetite isn't going anywhere. You have to decide if it's something you want to deal with long term. A lot of these men are full of lust and if you can't satisfy them someone else will. If he's watching porn he is watching a different woman and men doing different things. His expectations of you may change at some point. Some of these men surprisingly pay for sex ... I was shocked. You haven't seen all of his sides... Just give it some time. If you stay with him just take your time.
@Keba20085 ай бұрын
Very informational video, Tony and I thank you for taking the time to put it out here for us.✨❤️✨ Ladies…It may be challenging to stand your ground when you love the man or care about the man but when you love yourself more than you love the man and understand that the man is most likely acting out of immaturity, selfishness, entitlement or any other low vibrational spirit, you will feel your power and tell him “No” without worrying about the consequences that may come from the man. There’s power in saying no and walking away. Don’t let fear keep you from exercising that power…your non-negotiables.
@user-kh5vl3kk7n5 ай бұрын
I love the way you articulated in this video
@tonyasherrod90425 ай бұрын
Tony, Thank you for breaking down what will make a grown man for in love.
@Girl_in_mask4 ай бұрын
So true!! That’s me❤ that’s why I got the ring 💍 The most important is RESPECT…if he doesn’t respect you it’s not love! If you want to be loved…stand in your ground…don’t compromise your own moral and your values I never give a second chance who betrayal me My feelings is gone I’m very strong to sabotage my own feelings that I know he is the wrong person in my life! I choose to hurt my heart! And remember what I deserve!! My values,my worth and my MORALITY! It’s ok to love him But it’s more ok to love yourself moreeee!! Put on the pedestal your own moral! If you want to be loved and honor you as a woman of his life 💍❤
@carolynrose31714 ай бұрын
Love this advice for our young women! And even for me 60+ After 50 years of unconditional love of a man he speaks of. Amen.He covered me his love. We served each other. He speaks truth, this young man! Intimacy is out of the bedroom is what he's saying. Don't ever lose you confidence in yourself. Strong but loving and expecting the best from your man. ❤ 😮
@chloethemessenger5 ай бұрын
I appreciate this Tony. Still working on me, too but you’ve helped me come along way. I find if the man isn’t “grown” even your best laid words (even if sprinkled with fairy dust and cake) will seem like nagging and complaining. No matter how you put it, he’ll find fault in everything you say and that breaks a woman down, regardless of how strong she is. The only man that can appreciate all you’ve said is a man who’s ready to be a man/husband, as you’ve stated so eloquently. God bless you for helping both men and women.
@h.k.hiskingdom49614 ай бұрын
This is a good message highlighting the main point that a man is a spiritual warrior. He moves from pleasure-seeking to purpose-driven with God's plan guiding him. Good job Tony on this one. Possibly you can come out with a daily message to the males, maybe like 1-3 minutes focusing on reversing platitudes to help them move from taking a red pill or other pills to digesting meat, this being seasoned Word from God to cultivate their appetites. Their palette has to change. Blessings!
@GrowWithMe2315 ай бұрын
Appreciate this message!!
@dannieannie4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this Tony🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🙌🙌✨✨
@brittanys19822 ай бұрын
I really love the advice you give. I pray that women will take the advice to get the relationship they desire and need.
@WhitneyVeroncia4 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this. Thank you. 🙏🏽
@Invaluable15 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏🏾
@kenishahammond39355 ай бұрын
You give the best advice on these topics dealing with men and how they think. I’m here for it!
@Bella_M265 ай бұрын
This right here !! Tony never misses 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾📝
@MiracleEstis-vp1qw5 ай бұрын
Amazing video Tony as always! Thank you thank you so much 🙏🏾😁
@Mia-sd5it5 ай бұрын
Love this message, Tony! Thank you ❤
@BlancaRosa795 ай бұрын
Thank you for this one. Much needed for myself and have a better understanding of men and grown boys.
@JessE-mr4yu5 ай бұрын
Love this. Thank you for sharing. Your channel has been helpful to my growth. Sending peace and blessings to you and all the beautiful souls out there 🙏💙🕊
@dublingirl16915 ай бұрын
🙌🏻🙏🏻 Looking forward to this lesson …😁
@christineporter99145 ай бұрын
Always a Big Thank you Bro Tony for this timely message so on point 💯❤️🎯
@destineehill4464 ай бұрын
This message is beautiful!! Thank you! ♥️✨
@nenajohnson36764 ай бұрын
Thank you for your advice ! 🕊️
@touchpoint4christministries4445 ай бұрын
Tony stay dropping them Jewels💎💪🏾🙏🏾
@portiagillespie8564 ай бұрын
Preach Tony Preach……..True that!!!!!💯💯
@essiedowdell87003 ай бұрын
Thank you Tony words of wisdom❤
@TP-zr3rtАй бұрын
Well said, thank you Tony!
@MWisdomWisdom5 ай бұрын
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THiS 😊🤞🏽. BEEN STAYiNG OFF OF MY BACK FOR ALMOST 6 YEARS 🙌🏾. A LOT OF WOMEN NEED TO LiSTEN TO YOU.
@fredajohnson5064 ай бұрын
Amen this definitely the truth
@NIKI333SUCESS2 ай бұрын
Beautiful coaching. Your teaching finds a room within me. Thank you! ❤
@sd411134 ай бұрын
My! This is the most concise and accurate description of what love really is.
@yoyo-jt6yp5 ай бұрын
This is great. I loved the wisdom
@patricefoley43314 ай бұрын
Thank you I’m glad you confirmed what I am doing is correct. Loving myself and setting boundaries in a loving way.
@queenkeesh86605 ай бұрын
Great advice everything I thought was not right now I’m wiser n will apply new knowledge
@user-gs2mf8wl1y5 ай бұрын
On point Pastor Tony!!! 👍🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽😁💯
@cryjohn72574 ай бұрын
I am really appreciating your wisdom. Thank you.
@britanyalexander79635 ай бұрын
Thank you. We're proud of you for speaking the truth. We appreciate you a lot!
@cocokarma772 ай бұрын
I like the way he takes the time to explain
@prattrealestategroupMP2 ай бұрын
Thank you for this.
@nadinapowell58203 ай бұрын
So glad I was able to see you live! You’ve been pouring into us women for so long! May God continue to bless you
@vzaddy6944 ай бұрын
This was extremely insightful and real. Appreciate the message. It was definitely the video I didnt know I needed to see. Everything mentioned is relevant to my situation. It was quite helpful in my quest to gain clarity and direction to move forward in my life for the the better God has for me. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@paulasmith32524 ай бұрын
This is by far the best input that I've heard from a relationship coach on the differences of "Grown Boys vs. Grown Men. " Thank you, Mr. Gaskins for taking the time to share your thoughts on this topic. Much appreciated 🙏🏻🙏🏿🙏🏻🙏🏿
@UltimateLoveGoddessMagic4 ай бұрын
This was so enlightening and empowering. Your voice is so peaceful and sure. Thank you so much for sharing. 🙏🏽💛💐
@cinconizar77254 ай бұрын
You hit the nail on the head Tony🔥🔥🔥
@Pheonix11115 ай бұрын
I love this video. It is worth re-watching numerous times!
@MissKatieLane954 ай бұрын
Wow everything you said was exactly on point! It was amazing to listen to you speak and I learned a lot and left with a smile so thanks so much for being a kind man ❤❤❤love from Poland 🇵🇱
@happyandpositivethinking3 ай бұрын
Wow, beautiful messages. More couples and women need to hear these messages! Selfdiscipline is key.
@EtheReal3laine5 ай бұрын
I Appreciate You for Always genuinely teaching us 🖤✨
@Trinity3-wz3ir2 ай бұрын
Blessings for speaking the truth ❤
@Listentomusicist4 ай бұрын
Powerful teaching!
@conniechrisdeveauxnjlicens95745 ай бұрын
This was good! And a confirmation for me❤️🥰 Thank you!!
@kivigray04233 ай бұрын
I love this message. ❤️
@Berkeleykid947033 ай бұрын
Beautiful message
@jelenatanjic21284 ай бұрын
This is by far the best explanation I've heard. Thank you 😊